REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 442. Are Your Friends Holding You Back?

Episode Date: December 21, 2022

In today's episode, Andy talks about how your friends can plant seeds of doubt in your mind, why it's your American obligation to inspire the next generation through your actions, and the best way to overcome seeking validation from others to build an amazing life.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest sake of the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking reality guys. Today we have a real talk. I'm going to get right into it like I usually do on real talks. Hey, why the fuck are you listening to your loser friends? Real talk. Why? I know there's so many people out there that reach out to me on a consistent basis that talk about how their friends don't believe in them. They talk about how their friends don't believe in them. They talk about how their friends don't pump them up or gas them up. Talking about how their friends make smirks and make jokes and laugh at their dreams. Hey, those aren't your fucking friends.

And let me tell you about it in my experience. When I first started my business in 1999, we had $12,000. All right. We fucking looked like clowns. Everybody made fun of us. Everybody fucking laughed at us. Everybody thought that we were fucking insane. Everybody thought we were going to fail. Now, not at first. When we first opened our doors, a lot of people clapped and they celebrated.

But as time went on, you know, the first day we sold $7. The second day we sold zero. Third day we sold 23 bucks. Took us eight months to have a day over $800. For the first three years, I didn't make zero fucking pennies. Okay. For the next seven years, I made $695 a month for a grand total of $58,000 over the course of my first 10 years in business. And most everybody that I knew told me I was fucking insane. They would make smart ass remarks. When I showed up at a function, it was, hey man, you still got that little vitamin shop. Hey man. Uh, you know, like I know you're chasing your dreams, but like, you know,

we're getting, we're getting older. We're, you know, we're, we're in our later twenties and like, are you, when are you going to like grow up and get a real job and all this shit? I listened to it for fucking ever. Okay. And you don't have the perspective that I have, but I do have a valuable perspective here that I want to but I do have a valuable perspective here that I want to share with you. And this is going to piss some people off and I don't give a fuck. Every single one of those fucking people that told me that shit, every single one with zero exceptions, they went on to accomplish nothing, to build nothing, to become nothing.

They are doing the exact same thing that they were doing 20 fucking years ago today. Exactly the same. They're hanging out with the same friends. They're going to the same bars. They're living the same life and they're fucking struggling. And here you are. And the only difference between me and you is I've got 20 plus years in the game and you're just getting started. So it's confusing to you. You're letting these people who are your homies from back in the day, maybe you went to high school with them, maybe you went to college. I don't fucking know.

But you feel some sort of way and you have some sort of relationship with them. And a lot of this has to do with being young. You believe that everybody's your friend. You believe that everybody has your best interests in young. You believe that everybody's your friend. You believe that everybody has your best interests in mind. You believe that everybody's cool. And the truth of the matter is, that's our own naivete as young adults, okay? These people are not your fucking friends. Your real friends would build you up.

Your real friends will pull you along. Your real friends will push you to do something exceptional with your life, even if they don't understand it at the time. Okay. So let me explain to you what's actually happening right now. What's happening right now is you've not done anything ever yet. And you are expecting people who cannot see what it is that you see in your mind to believe in you when you have not done anything to garner their belief. That's the first thing that's happening. So you're offended that these people don't believe in you when you have never done anything

to make people believe in you. That's the first thing. The second thing that's happening is you are allowing people who are going to go their entire lives, never becoming anything more than what they are. Yes, they might grow up. Yes, they will have a family. Yes, they will do some things, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. They are on a different path than you. Okay. You're on a path for fucking greatness. They are on the path that everybody else is on. And those people who are telling you these things that put these seeds of doubt into your mind are the same people

you will look back on in 20 years and see them at the same fucking places doing the same fucking things just like they were 20 fucking years ago. Okay. And you're letting them talk you out of your life and your dreams. Why, why would you do that? Okay. Now I understand it's hard and I understand it's difficult and I understand that it's fucking lonely, but here's also what I understand that it's fucking worth it because there's not a better thing in the fucking world than going out, doing everything that everybody said you couldn't do, shouldn't do, wouldn't do. And then having those same motherfuckers ask you for a job 20 years fucking later. All right. So take it from me. I'm the future version of you.

It's worth it. Don't listen to them. They don't know what they're talking about. They've never built anything. They've never been around winning. They've never won anything. These people are on a different path and you cannot allow people that are on a different path than you to talk you out of going down the path that you are on because the path that you are on is going to be a path that inspires people to be fucking great. People are going to see you win. They're going to see you struggle. They're going to see you build. They're going to see you overcome. And then they are going to say, holy shit, I can do that too maybe. Maybe if I fucking work hard, maybe if I put in the time,

maybe if I sacrifice, I can also build something of significance. I can also accomplish my dreams, whatever your dreams are. It's not even about money. This is about living your fucking purpose. Your story is needed. Your story is important. Your story is, it's this, it's, it's, it's a necessity of the fabric of this entire fucking country because without the story of your wins, there will be less people that win and there will be more people that become mediocre. And this is an obligation that you have. There's not many of us. There's not many of us out there. There's not many people out there that are willing to go against the grain. There's not many people out there that are willing to take all the criticism. There's not many people out there that are willing to get their ass beat for years and years and years on end to create something that is abnormally special.

Those stories are required for our country to be great. For our country to be great, you have to be great. You have to be the example. Your kids, their fucking friends, their parents, your neighbors, all of these people are going to watch you do this. They're going to see you start. They're going to see you struggle. They're going to see you overcome. And when they see you overcome and finally start to become one of us, the people who actually build things, the people who actually win at things, they are going to be inspired to improve their own lives. They are going to be inspired to raise their standard and they are going to be the next

one that decides to go on this path to greatness. So pay those people no mind and understand that they do not understand what they are even saying to you. And they won't understand it until you are so fucking great. And they are exactly the same. They will not understand it. So stop wasting your time, expecting people to believe in you. Stop wasting your time, seeking validation from people who aren't going on the same path as you and And stop wasting your time doubting yourself because a bunch of dumb motherfuckers are telling you you should.