REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 455. Q&AF: Personal Issues In Personal Development, Entering New Career Out Of College & Transferring #75HARD Benefits Into Your Career

Episode Date: January 11, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to keep personal issues from interfering with the momentum you've created in your personal development, how to stand out against the older, experienced professionals when entering a new career out of college, and the best way to transfer the benefits you've gained from #75HARD into your career.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where we do Q and A. You can submit your questions to... Guys, email those questions in to askandy at andyfusella.com. And I know most of you guys listen on audio platforms, but if you go on YouTube and you watch the video, which more and more people are doing, that's pretty cool. You could drop your questions in the comments on the Q and AF episodes

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That's all. So what's up, man? What's going on, brother? Oh, not much, man. Yeah. Not much. I mean, a lot. Yeah.

But, you know, nothing new. Just getting through the week. Yeah. That's real. Somebody asked the. Just getting through the week. Yeah. That's real. Somebody asked the other day about that right there in your hand. What? The Fiji? Yeah.

What about it? Why you drink the Fiji over the four bottles of the real AF water? Well, I mean, let's be real, bro. I mean, that's peasant water. And this is royal water. Camera pans and I'm like, yeah. I don't run ads on the show. This is not an ad.

It's not an ad. No, real talk, though. What I do here is I go up to Chris's office. Okay. So my business partner, you know, every Saturday or Sunday, he carries like three of these cases up to his office, right? Yeah. And then basically over the course of the week, I drink them all.

The three cases. Yeah. And then he has to go back up and put them in. Shout out to Chris. Yeah. Thanks, Chris. That's really where I get them. I don't stock these.

These aren't my fridge. I have these in my fridge and i have no problem drinking these uh but what i like about this is i if i drink one of these during the show i can know i know that i've knocked out a whole one uh exactly the amount of water that i've gotten in during the show yeah so like it's really just about that no that's real yeah so just help tracking the water yeah for sure and it's kind of like my routine, you know? So like, uh, you know, I definitely should probably stock the cooler for Chris once in a while,

but, uh, you know, that's, that's the story on the Fiji, man. I, I,

uh, Chris is such a good dude, man. He's the best dude. I call it my like, uh, Tuesdays with Chris. I'll go up there and just chill with him for like 15,

20 minutes. And like, I always leave like learning something that like, I've never even would have thought of. Bro, he's smart as fuck. He's really fucking smart, man. How did you, how did you guys become friends though? Actually, we didn't like each other at first.

No shit. Yeah. So we both played high school football. We were in the same class in high school, uh, over at Vianney and we both played football and, uh, we were both pretty good and we both played the same positions so you know that's always tough yeah right so like he we played the same positions on both sides of the ball so like we're always competing so it was like you know when you're young that's like fuck this guy yeah right and then as school went through and we got to be buddies and shit you know it i mean i

spent all my time with the dude and so we just came friends through through that and uh we got done with school we're like man you know this college shit fucking kind of sucks i want to we want to be ballers you know and uh that's how the business got going so it was um that's kind of the story i mean there's a lot to that story i could tell now do you think that that your relationship with him is like do you think that's an outlier like do you think many business friendship relationships like that can work or do work or do you think like you and chris are really just like fucking i think what makes chris and i's partnership work the way it does which is pretty smooth i would say less than one percent fucking friction rate especially at this point in the game is the fact that i am really good and enjoy doing the things that he hates

doing and he is really good and enjoys doing the things that, that I hate doing. And I think that's the key. Yeah. And I think that's important for you guys out there who are, you know, looking at starting a business or getting going, you know, you hear a story like Chris and I's and it makes, you know, everybody wants to like get rich and successful with their friends. Right. And that's a noble thing like dude i want all my friends to be successful i want all of you to be successful all of you guys and um you know when it comes to picking partners in the beginning of a business i think it's important to recu you you need you need you can't have two or three people that want the same role right you know like on a football team bro there's a starting quarterback right there's only

fucking one so if everybody wants to be quarterback you're going to constantly have this shit all right and i think the important thing when it comes to choosing a partner is that they have to actually bring something to the table that you do not have. Meaning could be skills, could be like what I just said, where he is good at one thing. I'm good at another thing. Now, in the beginning, we didn't know because we're, none of us, we, neither one of us are good at anything. Yeah. In the beginning, it was just like most people, Hey, I want to start a business with my friend that's the that's like i didn't know that shit when we started it and that's just how it developed i i figured out what i was good at and enjoyed and he figured out what he was good at and enjoyed and it was the things that we both of us just so happened to do yes and that's how it works so like

we did get a little bit lucky in that regard. Um, and then we also had a lot of conversations where, you know, Hey, we need someone to be this role. We need someone to be this role. And we agreed to it and like, you know, understood that it was, there's no ego involved. It's we have to have these things. And, um, I think most people, you know, they just want to have their friend with them and they don't understand how to pick a true partner. Like a true partner should bring something that you don't

have. They should bring a skillset that you don't have, or they should bring a resource that you don't have, which could be money, right? Having a, a financial partner in a business is a very smart and normal thing to do if you don't have the money right so um yeah man and like over the course of high school bro like those jobs that i talk about painting stripes on parking lots and shit we did those together so like we both you know we kind of we knew how to work together it's almost like out of the competition there was this a bond genuine friend oh yeah bro no he's like a brother to me i mean him and sal and we're to me like we're all three brothers you know what i'm saying like that's that's what people fail to understand you know what i'm saying it's real

so you know there's a lesson in that for you guys starting a business you know instead of three you'll get four today and a little extra sauce yeah there you go you go. Pick a partner that can bring something to the table, not just because they're your friend. Because it sounds great with your friend, but usually what happens that I've seen with young partnerships is that everybody wants to glorify the fucking face or the CEO role. And bro, you don't want that role, bro, if you don't have to take it. It fucking sucks like you get

all the blame you get all the fucking focus you get all the spotlight for every single mistake like anytime anything gets fucked up it's on you and you know it's a lot flying every week they're fucking chiefs games and shit i'm just saying i'm just saying like people like how come chris isn't more visible do you really think he wants to be right? Like, right. Come on, man. Right. But you know, that's part of my job and that's, that's not his job.

His job is his job. So he does his job. I do my job. Yeah. And, um, you know, that's, that's how it works. So I love it. Yeah. Well, question number two.

No. Yeah. I think that's a good point for a lot of the younger listeners too, dude. Like the guys who are, and when I say young, I mean like young in the game. Young in business. You know, you're just starting a new business. Like people always want to pick a partner that they love because they want to be successful. And I think that's a good thing.

I think it's a good thing to have a partner that you already like bonded with. Like I got a question the other day in my dm and the dude was like uh actually he texted me i had this guy this this this guy uh text me i don't know how he got my number he's like hey man uh oh actually i do he made he he did something for us a long time ago uh which was really fucking cool and i remember we then, now that I'm thinking about it. So he texts me and he's like, hey man, you know,

he's like, what do you do when it like, you're working with your, with your family, because he works with his brother. And he's like, what do you do when you work with your brother? And like, things get like very volatile.

And I wanted to tell him the answer, but I just didn't want to, I don't do, you're not going to text me at home and we're not doing this. So, but the answer is, bro,

if you're listening and here's how you work with them, you do the best you can. You try, you try to listen, respect and learn and fucking work together. And then about once every three years,

you beat the fuck out of each other. Okay. And then you remember that you shouldn't do that because you're both so fucking sore. Yeah. And then for the every three years, you beat the fuck out of each other. Okay. And then you remember that you shouldn't do that because you're both so fucking sore. Yeah. And then for the next three years, you remember how much that hurt. So you work and you respect and you learn. And then another three years, you beat the shit out of each other. And that's what, that's how you fucking do it with your brother.

That's so true. Like that's how it goes. So, you know. How do you know that Andy? how do you know that yeah fuck man yeah fucking dj's first fucking assignment was to break up a fistfight between me and sal dude like and the crazy thing is like you hear you hear the stories and it's like oh yeah like he was working with me for like three fucking months bro like three months and you hear these talks man because like just like it's about you know they said like every three years or so i'm like nah bro you thought we

were fucking full of shit i thought you guys were complete i'm like all right yeah i mean they're brothers oh you thought we were old dudes talking shit from the glory days yeah that's what the fuck you thought because i because i would ask him like when was the last one nobody could really do like oh it's been i'm like right. Yeah. And I fucking sure shit enough. It's like fucking two grizzly bears in the wild fucking going at it. I'm like, holy shit. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. It was a rough DJ. DJ stayed over there. Not know what to do. Cause we're brothers. Yeah. I'm like, well, fuck. Like, okay. That guy just fucking hired me to like, but that's his brother.

Like, I mean, it's a fucking tough spot, bro. Anyway, that's how you, that's how you work with family. We won't even look at the calendar. Yeah. I was sore after that one, bro. Well, he had family pictures. Yeah. Oh, I remember.

I remember, dude. He was upset. Love you, Sal. Yeah. All right. I was upset, too, bro, because we were in the midst of training real hard yeah that fucked me up i got injured yeah and i couldn't fucking train for like six weeks yeah yeah it's brothers though yeah boys will be boys so let's get into these man i got some good questions for you all right got some good ones let you. All right. That's some good ones. Let's do it. Uh, any question number one, Andy, I have been absolutely killing it on my powerless,

crushing my task. Fuck. Yeah. Uh, about a week and a half ago, I had some personal problems come up and I started to slip while I'm still dealing with these problems. I feel like it has become an excuse and I'm trying to force myself back into action. My question is, how do you keep personal issues from interfering with your momentum and how can I catch myself when these issues come up? Okay. First off, it's great that you're doing that and it's great that you recognize that you're off track because that awareness, I think we talked about a couple of shows ago, that awareness is very, very hard for a lot of people to develop. So it's really good that you have the awareness that you slipped off track.

And that's the power of the tool, right? Like you're used to seeing the wins. And now all of a sudden you got six losses in a row. You're like, fuck, you can see the slippage, right? So that's the first thing. I commend you on that because that's a big deal that most people never really fucking get. But really, dude, the way to look at these kind of things and how I look at them are that when I'm going through a hard personal time, and I have

hard times too, guys. My life is really, like people think, oh, because I'm at a certain point in life that shit must be easy. It's not fucking easy. It's, it's just as hard as it is for you in a different way. Right? Like what you're, you guys are out here trying to build something and you're trying to get it going and maybe you're not like totally killing it yet. Bro, you have to understand I'm in that same phase because now i'm trying to

do something that's like really most people would say was impossible the scale is bigger yeah it's just a bigger scale so it's i'm fighting that same fight that you're fighting so understand it's hard and so when these things happen and things get hard and then personal things happen on top of it, I actually look at my tasks getting done as part of the way to work through the personal problem. Okay. and you're angry, what can center you? What brings you back? What brings you back to a place of feeling less anxious, less frustrated, less angry is actually finding some sort of order in your day. And if you can turn to the powerless tasks as a way, a sort of therapy to work through the personal problems, or at least allow you to manage them i find that the personal problems the solutions to them sort of uh reveal themselves through the process if that makes sense so i think for me uh and i i think this is common amongst most of the

people i talk to who are very successful they use their their tasks that they would know their normal routine or their their you know for me it's called the power list uh for you guys it likely is too and if you don't know what the power list is you can go back to listen to episode 16 in the real af feed here that one's not on youtube but it is on all the audio platforms in the feed so if you go back to episode 16, and you listen to it, it'll explain this method that we're talking about. And this method is so important because what it does is it brings order and visual reference to how much momentum

you actually have towards the life you're trying to build. And if things are chaotic, right, like in you know, sometimes when you get emotional, you start to like overthink and you start to like start thinking that things are chaotic, right? Like, and you know, sometimes when you get emotional, you start to like overthink and you start to like, start thinking that things are worse than they actually are. And then I'm so frustrated and I'm, you know, I'm fucking it. The sky is falling on me because we all do this. We all have this, this ability to spiral out of control when things happen, referring back to your power list. And this is also why I like an actual journal and not having it on digital. Because if you could go back to your power list, you could flip through the pages and be like, all right, look, I'm winning here. I'm

winning here. I've been winning. I've been winning. Okay. I got six days in a row that I lost on. All right. Well, I'm going to start that streak back up right now. And that helps you bring some peace to the whole idea of your world spinning out of control. Right. I've got this and I've got this in order. Okay. Right. And so that can kind of start the, the, the, the, the like overcoming process of what it is that you're dealing with. And so I look at it as an opportunity to calm the seas and keep executing. And it seems to work very well for me. I know it works well for me.

So I think it's all how you look at it. Let me ask you this because you touched on the awareness part. Do you really think it's the lack of awareness that most people have? Or do you think it is the awareness but just lack of action or will to do anything about it? Right? Like, I mean, people know their lives are fucked up. No, I think most people are highly unaware of how much they could actually accomplish. I think they know, like, okay, like, look, dude, when I was big, I was 350 pounds, right? I knew I wasn't, I knew when i went and ate pizza or drank fucking

bottle of whiskey and shit right i knew i always felt guilty afterwards why'd i feel guilty because you know because i knew it was fucking wrong right okay so so i knew that was wrong but what i was unaware of is how great i actually could be if I moved away from that shit. You see what I'm saying? Yep, absolutely. And so when I say unawareness, I don't mean like ignorance. They know something's wrong, but they're not aware enough to know how great things could be if they were to work through it, right?

And in this case, when we're talking about unawareness, this person wouldn't, if you hadn't trained yourself through the tool of the power list, you wouldn't have been aware that you're actually slipping as much as you are. With the powerless tool, you can go back, you flip through and you could be like, fuck, I got six losses in a row. That's bad. That brings awareness right to your brain of exact where that six days for someone who doesn't have that level of awareness could be six fucking years.

Oh yeah. You see what I'm saying? Yeah. So like, dude, it's a, it's a very, very valuable tool. I give it away for free. All right. And the reason I give my shit away for free guys, because it actually fucking helps you. So go listen to episode 16, make yourself a

powerless journal. I sell one on the site. It's super high quality. It's fucking amazing. Lots of people buy it, but you don't have to buy it. Okay. I actually, you could use a fucking regular notebook. You go get a fucking Walgreens or wherever it is you shop. You know what I'm saying? Like it's, I did it myself and i actually i personally still use my original notebook i refill the pages it's because it means something to me yeah yeah okay so if you want the journal the journals on the website extremely popular we sell a shit ton of them and people love them people buy them over and over and over again so but don't let that be your fucking excuse no yeah you don't need it You could use a fucking napkin. All right.

Love it, man. So. I love it. Andy, question number two. Andy, I just graduated college. I'm 21 years old and I'm about to enter my new career as a financial advisor. This career requires the ultimate trust between my clients and I. What advice do you have for me to get the older generation to take a shot on me versus a person who's been in the game for 20 plus years? Well, you're going to have to start with the appropriate clientele. You know what I'm saying? Like, look, dude, that's a hard thing to get started in. Very, very high turnover in financial advisement when you're young um this

is probably a good question for ed my leg because that's the business that he's in i don't know what he would actually say to this but my advice would be um to not bullshit about what it is you think you know or don't know as you know you have regulations that you can't violate you know and lying about the shit that you fucking knows probably one of them. Yeah. Um, especially when it becomes to financial advice. But I think the main thing for you to do is to learn as much as you can, uh, be around the guys in the office and the girls in the office who are really producing, learn as

much as you can become as smart as you can and forget about your fucking age. Forget about your fucking age. No, no one comes in and says hey I'm 21 years old I'm sure they're gonna know you're fucking young bro but if you're smart and you know the shit and you could explain to them why they need it the age is gonna be irrelevant a lot of people use their age as an excuse whether they're too old or they're too young and the truth of the matter is there's never a right age for fucking anything do you know what actually makes it work your depth of knowledge your ability to help them and if you can display those things uh and then also probably

because you probably look young say hey here's my partner my am i at work who's you know 30 years in this she watched she makes sure that i do everything right right like you and you start ways to go around yeah because dude people will take shots on you because they're like man this young dude sharp this young dude sharp you know what i'm saying so like you have you have to think of it like this because of your age and because of the industry you're in you have to be fucking twice as good as everybody else. And so figure out what you got to do to learn the people in the office, learn from the people in the office, what skills you need, practice those skills, work on those skills, know this shit better than anybody. And then forget about your age and worry about fucking actually helping the customers. Because here's the thing, dude,

that's a big word of mouth referral business. So you can't go in there thinking, oh, I'm here to sell them some financial products. You need to be going in there thinking, how am I genuinely going to help this family? They're in their future, okay? And if you do that genuinely and you actually help them, those people will tell other people. And then you'll start to build a book of business.

Where people really fuck this up is that they go in, they try to bullshit, okay? They don't try to help, they try to sell, and then they never build a residual book of business. So, you know, a referred book of business, right? And that's how I would do it. I would work it one case at a time, one family at a time, one person at a time. And funny enough, one of the biggest lessons I talk

about in my meetings here in my companies is, hey, this is one person at a time. There is no other way. And so if you can learn that game and you can learn how to execute on one person at a time and you can really genuinely solve their problems with a high level of competency and intelligence, your age really isn't going to be a factor. Yeah. Well, what's your, so, I mean, cause I don't know if you were alluding to this when you first started, but like, I mean, cause I'm, I'm just like thinking here, if he's 21, do you, would you recommend him maybe to target other 21 year olds, uh, in, in the, in the space that are trying to build wealth?

Or, I mean, like, I mean, what's your take on these young guys that are young and young in business trying to graft these big sharks? You want to you know, you want those people who have millions in the. Abel, come on. Like you're that's a that's a look financial planning. And I'm not a financial planner. So but some of my friends are. Ed is that's what he did.

That's what his business was the whole time. Here's the thing. The idea that you, a 21-year-old kid, does no fucking shit is going to come in and fucking tell me what the fuck I'm going to do with my money. When you ain't never had no fucking money, ever, it's fucking laughable. So you have to understand that the financial planning business is a long-term play. You are going to work with this family that you just sold as a 21-year-old man until you are 50, 60 years old, and they're going to grow with you. Their finances are going to grow with you. And that's how you need to be thinking about it. This idea that you're going to, um, you listen, there ain't a 21 year old motherfucker out there to fucking sell me not a single one. Yeah. Okay. And every single,

every single person I know over 40 years old that you think is going to come in and fucking just make you rich in one take is going to laugh in your fucking face. Okay? Because I want someone managing my money who's fucking 60 years old, who's seen fucking everything, and is still sharp enough to understand what the fuck is going on now. Right? Yeah. And who has the connections at the right investments to get me where I need to be. Nancy Pelosi shit.

Okay. Yeah. Let's just be real. There's there's levels. All right. So you're at the beginning level and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you think that you're going to go land sharks and shit, you're not going to be doing that very long.

So you need to concentrate. I'm going to build my book of business. So you need to concentrate. I'm going to build my book of business. I'm going to grow with my families. I'm going to help them. I'm going to help them be financially successful. I'm going to look after them. I'm going to look after their best interests. And if you do that and you keep doing that and you keep doing that in 10, 15 years, bro, you're not going to have to worry about fucking money ever again yeah love it now those of you that might be financial planners you might have another way of doing it but i'm going to tell you what what i just told you will fucking work and it'll work on a fucking mass scale so forget

about the sharks and the fucking whales and all the shit you think this ain't fucking uh uh what's that what's that movie uh where they're all stockbrokers ocean's 11. no not wall street yeah boiler room this ain't fucking boiler room you don't know it nope well you should that's right you're laughing my jokes full circle all right there's a fucking scene in boiler room where they're all fucking talking about how they're going to sell all this shit and like they're all assholes it's very famous scene i think it's ben affleck but the point is this ain't that yeah this is fucking actually giving a shit like if you want to be actually fucking financially well to fuck off you will give a fuck about your fucking families.

And that concept is relevant to any business, by the way. Like you can apply that whole concept to any, anything, to any business. You just got to pay your dues. Bro, listen, here's where people fuck it up. They fuck it up whenever they start thinking how rich they're going to get. It ain't about you, dude. If you take care of them, you will get where you want to go. And people think that like, they're going to just snap their fingers or they're going to have one, they're going to have one customer or one deal

that like makes their, that's not the game. The game is not grand slams, bro. The game is fucking bunts and stealing bases. That's the fucking game of business. The game is bunts and stealing bases and doing it for fucking, when everybody goes home at nine innings, you're there the next day still doing the shit. That's what the game is. The game is about fucking that. And everybody thinks it's about home runs and big giant deals and all this shit. The reality is the richest, most wealthy dudes that I know personally, they understand what I just said. It's fucking bunts and stealing bases. It's bunts and stealing bases and is doing it for a long time. And if you can grasp that concept, nobody likes to hear that

because it fucking, they hear it a long time. But during that time, time bro life is happening you're you're you're you know you're dating you're going to college you're you're having good time there's shit like this is it's not just like you're sitting there and you know you have to enjoy this period of your life dude like the period of life that i had where i had nothing was the fucking most fun period i've ever had it was the most exciting too. And for those of you guys try to like, you know, hack your way around what is actually the,

the time that you're going to learn the most, you're going to develop the most skills. You're going to develop the most character. You're going to have a great fucking time. And you know, you just want to go to the fucking party at the end of the, at the end of the road, bro. And if you go to the party at the end of the road, bro. And if you go to the party at the end of the road out the gate, you show up, you don't

have any skills, you don't have any lessons, you don't have any stories, you don't have any life, you don't have shit. You're just some dude with some fucking money, bro. And there's nothing cool about that. It's cool for like a fucking day. What's really cool is the journey that you're on and the people that you do it with so instead of trying to hit the home run over and over and over again and falling on your fucking face play the long game right you know singles bunts stealing bases that's the

fucking game guys andy our third and final question any question, question number three. Andy, I just completed 75 hard today, and I will complete the Live Hard program this year. I know and I can feel the momentum that I've built from 75 hard. My mindset is totally different from where it was in the beginning. My question is, do you have any recommendations on how to transfer that into my career? If I'm not happy with the results I'm getting and it just seems like every place I go, I'm the only one who wants more than just nine to five. I am a mechanic, by the way. But how can I transfer that momentum into the career space?

Any recommendations on that? Well, yeah, it's completely transferable because it changes who you are at the core. It makes you a highly disciplined, highly productive version. So if you take the attention to detail that you have during 75 hard and the perseverance that you have to show and the grit that you have to have and you apply that to your career, okay, now you're moving your career needle, okay? All of this is designed to do that. In fact, most people will tell you that

when they complete 75 hard, one of the, like a lot of the things they talk about is how much better their career is, how much better their relationship is and all these things, because the actual skills that you learn during that time that get, that you, they get finally tuned and they're at the highest level they've been for you ever. By way you still have a lot higher to go you'll get there you just gotta keep going but the point is is that they will organically flow into all areas of your life so what you're what you're probably you're probably overthinking a little bit here homie uh you're thinking you know you're just finished it which is fucking awesome congratulations but you're thinking like how can i aggressively get better?

Right. And that's fucking great to think that way. But I think you're going to notice that that's going to happen just because you are you now and you're not the you that you were 75 days ago. Does that make sense? Absolutely. So, and by the way, this is another person. This guy here could benefit from episode 16, win the day, because that episode

will give you the exact play-by-play steps to progress your career forward that are not abstract. You will see them in front of your face day by day by day by day. And you will learn confidence from this because you will see you checking off these critical tasks that move your life and career forward every single day so it's not only a great way to get done but it also like 75 hard is a great way to build confidence in yourself 100 yeah i think when you say too it's also important to remember like bro that 75 days compared to however long you've been living as that previous person, you're going to take it a couple of more rounds.

You know, it's like, this is a program. Well, that's why live hard is live hard, dude. It's not, you know, like, you know, one of the, one of the best, worst things that happened when it comes to 75 hard is that it got branded as a challenge. Right. And people only talk about the 75 days and so that's where you get a lot of the critiques right you get a lot of the critiques of like oh uh it's not sustainable all bro you you're not understanding the program because you're you think it's a

challenge it's a program it's a program it's a year-long program to the day okay once you understand that and you understand that program is a way of life that you're designed to repeat over and over again and each time you do yours this is why i said your discipline for this person still has higher to go all of the skills that you created this first 75 days, which right now you're, you're like, you know, you're like a new baby, bro. Seeing the fucking light for the first time. Right. Yeah. Like you're at, you're like, Holy shit, dude, it's a whole new world. But now you have to recognize that you can actually take that up another level and another level and another level and another level. And that process actually never stops. It never stops.

And you'll get to a certain level where the things that used to hinder you or pull you off course, alcohol, overeating, toxic people, just bad habits, shit that you used to not be able to say no to are are now things that you actually despise because and that's where you're going to take this yeah you know if you bring that awareness as well yeah because because dude you're this is where this is where you know people get upset with me when i talk about how to how they don't celebrate uh you know how celebrating with like a cake or whatever after 75 hard, you know, like says they didn't do the program. I say that, you know, a little too intensely. Okay. The truth is the first time you do 75 hard, if you did it, even if you did it right,

there's still a chance you might go back to those things. But what you'll learn over time is you'll learn that you don't want those things that made you that person at all. You'll start to fucking hate those things. And so, you know, while I said on the other show the other day, you know, might've been a little bit of an exaggeration. Okay. I make hard statements because there's so many people that fucking don't get it. You know, Oh, I'm in my garage with the windows open. Is that outdoor cardio? Like, bro, shut the fuck up. Right. You know what I'm in my garage with the windows open is that outdoor cardio like bro shut the fuck up right you know what i'm saying like holy shit like some of you guys ask questions that are so fucking dumb that it drives me insane which forces me to say hardline shit because i get so

fucking tired of it oh those audio books bro it says book right what do you what about book do you not understand book b o o k book you know what i'm saying like fuck like i try to be cool and i try to fucking like i try to be understanding and i try to talk to everybody this is why i quit participating in the conversations regarding 75 hard because they got so fucking ridiculous that i can't it's like bro i can't be any more clear these things are all there for a fucking reason you see what i'm saying and dude it's just so so what ends up happening is like, just like now I start getting fucking irritated. Right. And I'm like, you know, when the celebration thing, what, the point I'm trying to make

here is that I'm much further down the road. And for me, I'm to the point where I don't fucking celebrate that shit because I don't want to fucking be anything like what I was. Okay. I don't want to go back to that. In fact, I look at the habits that I used to have and I'm like, that's what a fucking peasant would do. That's what a fucking clown would do. I'm not, I'm certainly not going to celebrate all my hard work by being a fucking clown again. Right. You know what I'm saying?

Like that's where my mentality is. But like when you, you know, when you're first going through the program, you know, that're first going through the program you know that's something that you have to learn and sometimes i forget that because i've done it for so such a long time now does that make sense it's been a while since it was the first yeah bro so like you know no that's real here's the other thing about 75 hard dude you know some of you guys are dicks about it like you really are like stop being dicks like be cool like any community that i'm represented, whether it be first form community or, uh, you know, fucking 75 hard or fucking RTA or whatever, bro. I don't like it when you guys are mean to each other.

We got enough of that shit in the fucking world. Like being a fucking asshole ain't part of anything I want to be a part of so fucking treat each other respect be cool help each other pick each other up the shit we talk about on the show all the time okay because like dude i see i see i see people being fucking assholes to each other when there's just no need for it there's no reason yeah that's true and if we want that shit to fucking stop guess who has to stop it now i'm not saying when someone's a fuck that we don't bury the motherfucker i ain't saying that when someone's out of line and they're being a fucking asshole then we can all get together instead of tearing each other down we could bury that motherfucker

i ain't against that but when it comes to like bickering over this or that or this or that bro you can disagree all you want but be respectful dude yeah that's real you know it's real man well guys andy that was that was four that was four share the show if you want some more Now my jewelry box froze Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove Counted millions in the cold Bad bitch, booted swole Got her on bankroll, can't fold Just a note, headshot, case closed