REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 460. Q&AF: Repurposing Negative Energy Into Action, Supplying Your Products To Customers & First Impression To Your Idols

Episode Date: January 18, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to repurpose negative energy into productive action toward your goals, whether your service-based business should supply customers with products you've developed, and the best way to get the attention of someone above you on the success ladder.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusionsusions of modern society. And welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we've got Q&AF. That's where you submit the questions and I give you the answers. There's a few different ways to submit those questions. One, you can email those questions in. Two, guys, email those questions in to askandy at andyfrasella.com. Or two, if you're watching this on YouTube, you could drop your questions right down there in the comments on these episodes and we'll pick some from there as well. For those of you guys that didn't know, we are on YouTube now.

We're going to be doing some really cool YouTube exclusive content that is outside the podcast that we've been working on. A couple new little show concepts and things of that nature that will be entertaining as fuck. I guarantee it. So yeah, but all the shows are on their full length. I know most of you guys listen on audio. That's cool. But like, if you want to sit down at night and bring the whole family around and get some fucking popcorn and watch your uncle Andy talk some shit, we're on YouTube. All right. Now also we have, if this is your first time listening, we have multiple formats of the show. We have CTI. That's Cruise the Internet.

That's where we put up some of the current event topics of the day. We talk about them. We talk about what might be true, what maybe isn't true. We make fun of it. We have some laughs. And then we talk about the problem at hand and how we can all solve this problem. Other times, we have Real Talk. Real Talk is five to 20 minutes of me just saying some stuff that I think needs to be heard. And then other times, have full length and full length is just like what you're used to seeing on most

podcasts, a bunch of people sitting around having a conversation. Uh, now for those of you that don't know, uh, I'm a fairly successful entrepreneur. I've done pretty well in my life. I continue to do pretty well. I share these tips on how to do very well on this show consistently. And for that value, I ask a very simple fee and the fee is not monetary. I don't sell you shit. I don't run ads on the show. I don't answer to some corporate fuck that tells me what to say and what not to say. It's very simple. I share with you. If you get benefit from it, I ask that you share the show. That's it. So when I say pay the fee, that just means tell somebody about the show, share the show. So that's basically the format of the show.

You know, we've been able to stay at the top of iTunes and Spotify and all these audio platforms for a number of years based off entirely word of mouth. I'm very proud of that. I appreciate you guys for doing that. And by the way, if the show's no good, don't fucking share it. I think that's a fair deal. I'm cool with way if the show's no good don't fucking share it i think that's a fair deal i'm cool with that but it's always good so hello you got some oh i got some good ones oh do you oh bro okay i keep that shit on deck all right you know what i'm saying yeah what's going on nothing much dude i was asking them before we started rolling but you know that like you know the voice of conscience that we all

have uh-huh right like if you could pay to have that voice be anybody else's voice in the world who would yours be man i got a good one who's it it's me is you yeah that's true like like motherfuckers be paying me they ask me to fucking make these little text alerts and say dude send me some motivational shit every morning write that shit down bro we're gonna do that shit trademark right there yeah you guys subscribe to my text i'll send you a little voice note every morning yeah i mean i got a good one i would pay for you to be my alarm clock i'm just that's no that's what i'm talking about alarm text i think people would dig that shit yeah that's real right like i wake up they they get a little text in the morning it's just me like a 30 second like hey quit fucking around motherfucker you know

saying uh i got a good one bro like my voice and my voice is like pretty mean to me let's be honest i think if you have high standards your voice is pretty aggressive um but if it wasn't me you know you know i heard i'm not gonna madat said this earlier before we started the show he said morgan freeman i agree with that yeah that's a good morgan freeman be a good one yeah um now dj i don't think we should eat that candy yeah that wasn't a good that didn't do it justice but you know this is the point that he do that he fucked up you know right like he's such he's got such a good iconic voice um it's timeless man yeah bro and he's so good like he's so fucking good i guess that's a good thing about ai now now they can just

replicate his voice because he's getting pretty old right um that's scary as fuck by the way well dude he's been owed his whole life no i'm saying that they can do that oh yeah yeah they can do that uh dude i think goggins has a great delivery see i wouldn't want i wouldn't want goggins to be honest with you well that's fine yeah but i'm just saying like i'm talking about i'm just talking about iconic like there's a there's a there's like a i don't know what it is a certain tonality or a certain thing that resonates with me when i hear people speak goggins has that whatever that is i feel like i have that for myself yeah um not to toot my own horn but to toot you know what i'm saying it is what the fuck it is uh you know i think

jaco's got a great delivery i think i think ed's got a great delivery um you know i said um yeah yeah uh james earl jones has a fucking great delivery you know what i'm saying there's a there's a couple other guys out there samuel jackson i like that like i would love to have him i'm gonna have you fucking funny as fuck i'd always be laughing my ass off andy what's so funny i don't know Just talking to myself Stay in bed for one More second I fucking dare you I think it'd be pretty Fucking dope though That'd be dope

Yeah I'm sure I'm sure Elon's working On something like that Yeah I mean dude You know That's

Those are the guys I like Who do you like Yeah I know Samuel L. Jackson 100% Oh Samuel L. Jackson Now that I think about You said Morgan Freeman Before That's what I'm saying that you said morgan freeman yeah that's what

i'm saying now you're still about it first you stole madat's ideas now you're stealing my shit hey man well uh we are almost at uh black history month so i think it's okay it is mlk day that's what i'm saying all right pass yeah well i just i'll actually take this one here while we're at it. Okay, I'm sorry. All right. Yeah, man. That was a little racist. Yeah, well, I mean, if any day you get a pass, I think it's today.

Just saying. Oh, fuck, dude. Yeah, man. Everything else good with you? Yeah, man. Had a good weekend. Fucking, dude, my train's going so good. I got that infection out of my body, bro. And, like, I could just tell my body's changing

fast it's got me really excited like i'm really like bro i almost you know this i almost fucking quit and started over yeah i'm like bro i got because those four or five days in a row like they were just so shit like i i was limping dude i think i said this on the show but it took me like two hours to do a 45 minute walk because like, normally we do like a walk run interval. Okay. Or I put a weight of vest on or a ruck, which I haven't done in a long time. I'll start doing that again. Um, but like, bro, I, I, I, I could fucking limp like, and it was slow. And so, you know, those four or five days, like, they just felt like a fucking waste to me like i just fucked them off but the truth is now like i'm on the other side of it and i'm like fuck dude

i'm really glad i fucking stuck it out yeah bro fucking up that momentum is a big deal right it's like if you can push through it crawling if you have to i mean it's far better than not doing you know i you know there's definitely a day 51 right now. But like, but like, bro, it's, there's limits to it.

Right. Like I was on that limit. Like if I were like, if someone else were asking me to like, should they do it? I would have told him, no, they should stop.

But because it was me and I'm just, you know, I'm, I'm probably a little stupid in that way. Um, but now I'm like, I'm just glad I pushed through dude, because you know, you know, I'm, I'm probably a little stupid in that way. Um, but now I'm like, I'm just glad I pushed through dude, because you know, that was a fucking, that was probably the hardest four day or five day test I've had in any of the phases since I started doing the program, uh, you know,

four years ago. So it was, um, I'm very proud of it. Well, didn't you say to yourself too, like that was kind of the point of this round, like you wanted to see. To get my mental. That's it, bro. Like, dude, my mental was so fucked up because I had went for so long without being able to really train.

And like training is such a big part of my whole, my whole power structure. Like, dude, because it's something that I, it's like my thing. You know what I'm saying? really train and like training such a big part of my whole my whole power structure like dude because it's something that i i it's like my thing you know what i'm saying and i went over a year with not being able to train properly and really like it fucked me up dude and then during that time i got off my antidepressants which i've been on for a long time and i just figured like fuck it if it's already fucking storming what's what's a few more raindrops you know what i'm saying right and i'm like i'm just ripped all this off of me and i went through it and now that i'm like

on the other side of all that and i've pushed through that shit i'm super appreciative and like excited about it and like i feel it's the best i felt mentally since i was injured in september of 2021 um so i mean it was good i you know the weekend was good i didn't do shit other than train and eat and fucking read yeah um i've been reading a lot more lately uh i've been reading you know not just my 10 pages 10 pages is the minimum for me yeah so like like that's something that i do regardless but i've been reading up to 50 60 70 pages a day um pretty consistently for the last couple weeks and it like bro i just feel much better like the the reading part is so underrated bro like it's so underrated in terms of what it does for your brain and how it uh

it's your first fucking time yeah thanks fucking office first fucking podcast bro uh i think the reading thing is so underrated because you know it gives at least for me man like it makes my brain operate in a completely different way it makes my brain operate in a completely different way. It makes my brain operate in a much more productive way. I have much more creativity. I have much less anxiety. It makes me feel like I'm moving forward instead of like, even though I'm just reading, I'm coming up with ideas and like new things and thoughts.

And bro, it just makes me feel fucking that much better. Yeah, we were talking about it the other day. Like I've even tried to find my- Yeah, didn't we talk about this on the show the other day no i think we were just walking i think we talked about it too on the show yeah well the other day we were talking hot on it right now yeah even when i find myself like bored i find myself like instead of getting back on my phone or something like that just picking my book up dude i really think there's a lot to that man you know i i fucking am as guilty as anybody about scrolling, right?

Like I want to see what's going on. And especially with us doing the CTI and the current event stuff, you know, I'm always trying to dig out what the fuck is going on. And, uh, bro, since I've really kicked my reading up, it's just brought my level of anxiety way the fuck down. And it's been, uh, it's been nice, man. Yeah man yeah for sure makes me remember like that i actually have a brain and that it works okay yeah i asked myself like why did that fuck like bro because in school i hated reading yeah i'm trying to like figure out like why i hated reading i don't know if it was because of like how structured it was probably the same reason you hated working out and running because you were made to do it yeah i'm gonna say because

of how structured it was yeah yeah you know i don't like running bro because like people always tease me and they're like bro you should start running it's so fucking amazing yeah but like bro you gotta understand y'all listen to me because i talk a lot of shit right now imagine me in high school talking shit okay like i i i was always running like it was always like forsella fucking take a lap bro it's a punishment yes and like so dude it's just so ingrained in me i know that's not an excuse but the truth is i don't fucking like it it's not conducive to the body type i want it's not something that i really want to conquer at this point in my life and i have no desire to do it so i don't do it uh the most running i do is when we do our little our little intervals and that's enough for me man

you know um well i'm about to shit my pants i'll start running that's true remember that time one time we had to call it back up bro one time me and dj both had to shit our pants so bad we were fucking on cardio we had to call chris to come get us and then we had to redo cardio we had to call chris to come fuck we were over at green park bro we were coming up that long ass hill and bro we were like duck walking up the hill bro like holding our ass together both of us we probably chris saved us that day bro yeah a hundred percent chance i would have shit my pants mvp goes a hundred percent like what this this was like the fucking storm of the century bro bro. It was right there. Just brewing.

Oh, yeah. Like it was coming, dude. There was nothing I could do. We had to call 911. We need emergency extraction. Bro, it had never been that bad. No. But that was the day that I started carrying an extra pack of underwear in my fucking gym bag.

Yeah, that's real. That's real. With wet wipes. We needed it. Oh, there's so many so many bad times from them anyway yeah yeah i got some good ones i know you do let's knock these out man all right uh any question number one i'm glad we didn't shit ourselves i'm glad that we got more than one fucking bathroom here oh my god that was that was the worst part is getting there and then you can't go no bro we used to have a fuck the dumpsters up bro no dude we used to have a one minute rule like a one minute you could only use the bathroom for one

minute at maximum like you you had to go in if you were in there for more than one minute bro i whoever was in they were beating on the door like one minute you had a one minute to take a shit oh man i wouldn't have fired oh you yeah because you know i'm bad yeah i know i know i don't know what you're doing in there but it fucking takes a long time all right man it's a fucking magnesium to your diet bro it's fiber yeah my fiber is getting up there now yeah it still takes a minute though that's my peace time man that's like i gather myself you know what i'm saying there must be a lot together yeah i mean you're in there for a long fucking time man listen you gotta set you gotta set the set the space you got like light candles in there and

shit all right man i bet dj's bathroom at home has like fucking candles in it and shit it does oh i fucking no i mean like romance candles bro like he turns the lights off lights the candles i gotta lock the door of my house you know he does some weird ass shit too bro you know he's in there listening to some classical shit some fucking g oh yeah i guarantee it guarantee it dj's his own man hey man that's one of the things i love about you bro gotta get it done yeah gotta get it done all right any question number one people are tired of us talking shit about shit yeah any question number one i'm currently at my lowest point that i've ever been i'm 27 i found out my wife is cheating on me my mom got cancer last month and i've been hustling a nine to five, barely able to

pay bills. I'm managing a startup business with a little cashflow, a lot going on there. Yeah. Live hard taught me better than to play the victim. Um, but I'm currently experiencing a lot of anger and I don't know how to use that to my advantage besides in my workouts. How can I repurpose my negative energy and the action to become unstoppable? Man, you know, I think the answer to this question is, is universal. Okay. Um, every single person has gone through these situations, maybe not the exact same situation, but we've all been betrayed. We've all had situations where things weren't going our way. Um, we've all been disappointed. We've all had situations where things weren't going our way. Um, we've all

been disappointed. We've all struggled. And a lot of people, you know, are wired many different ways. Okay. And, and some people, you know, they let these things like hammer them down, um, to a low point and they stay there and they never recover, bro. And this becomes the story of their life. You know, Oh, this happened, this happened and this happened. And then like for 70 years, they fucking tell that story and they don't do anything. And, um, the way I've always dealt with it, dude, like always, always, always. And like, you know, there's pluses and minuses to this, but the way I've always dealt it is fuck you. And I've always put, I've always taken like people that don't believe in me, people that fuck me over people that fuck with me, you know,

people who have done bad shit to me. I mean, bro, I could list, I could list a list, a mile long of the fucked up shit that happened to me, especially the first 12 years of business where it looked like I was a complete fucking failure. Like I'm talking about how I was treated by women, um, how I was treated by friends, how I was treated by family. I could go on and on and on. And I don't like digging up dirt dirt but the way that i always dealt with that was like fuck you bro i'm gonna fucking show you okay and real talk and you know this is what it is but i was scrolling instagram the other day and i saw one of my exes that was one of the ones that did some fucked up shit to me and she's in a picture with a dude it's like 70 years old. Right. It made me fucking smile. I'm like, fuck you.

Okay. So it is what the fuck it is. And I took the fuck you and I went out and I fucking did everything that I could to make myself be a person that they look back at in their life at some point in time and say, man, I wish I wouldn't have fucked with that dude. I wish I hadn't a fucking not believe in that dude. I wish I hadn't hurt that dude. I wish I hadn't treated him so poorly. I wish I hadn't have fucked him over. And that's what I've done. I just took all the fucking negative and I use it and pivoted into productive action. I worked that much harder. I worked that much longer. I put a massive chip on my shoulder that's still there.

Now, you may not hear it as much like you did back in the old mfco days but it's still there bro like when people with me or say about like i see the people i see that people say about me and i see the like bro i just take all that i gather it the up i put it right up here on my shoulder and and dude i just say you we'll see yeah and and dude that's never led me wrong. Now, now people will argue and they will say, well, that creates a situation where you're always angry. And that is true. You fucking are angry a lot of the time, but at the end of the day, bro, I get where I wanted to go. I did what I need to do. I'm doing what I need to do. And my life is so much better off because of it. And so what you have to learn as you mature is to separate the feet. It's almost like you're

pretending to be angry. Like, like when I was younger and this shit happened, I was fucking angry. Like I was like, fuck you. But now I'm to a point now where it's like, everything kind of speaks for itself. Right. So like, I, I, I still feel that way and I still act that way, but emotionally it doesn't disturb me as bad. Cause I already know I'm going to win. And so my advice to this person who's going through this hard time, bro, is just to realize like, Hey man, you need to take this energy for what the fuck it is and let it drive you forward. And you're going to have people that tell you, you need to go to therapy. Maybe you do. I don't fucking know. There's value in it for sure. But not at the mass scale. That's like today, you know, everybody's a victim. Everybody has everything wrong with them.

Everybody needs fucking lifetime therapy with no, like, that's not what I'm saying. You, it might be so rough that you need to talk to some people. Totally get it. But after that, make it your mission in life to shove it down these motherfuckers' throats so fucking hard that they fucking choke. Make it so that when they fucking look at you and they see you five years from now down the road and you walk into a fucking restaurant, they won't even look at you. They'll look the other way or they'll look at the ground because they are so fucking embarrassed of what they did or how they treated you or what the fuck they said

to you or how they tried to fuck with you that they are embarrassed about what they did and where you went with it. So we're going to have these hard things happen. We're going to have negative things happen. We're going to have things that are frustrating happen. Nobody is immune to that. How we respond to that ultimately dictates our entire lives and how I respond to this. And other people may disagree, but this is just how the fuck I'm wired is I take that shit and I say, fuck you, motherfucker. I will fucking show you. And I do. And I show them every fucking day. And that's, I make it my mission in life. Well, that's not a very good man. I don't know, man. A lot of people get fucking their lives improved quite a bit from this mentality from, you know, 75 hard millions of fucking people have done 75 hard. How many

people have we transformed through our companies? Millions of fucking people, bro. You know what I'm saying? Like, so stemming from proven them. Yes. Yes. And so you have these people out there that are do-gooders and they fucking want to feel good about everything. Some things you just can't feel good about. Some things you just can't feel good about, bro. Some things you just have to show motherfuckers and remind them who the fuck you are. And I'm not saying go in their face or beat their ass or fucking fuck. I'm saying become so fucking great and so undeniably fucking great at what it is that you do that they end up regretting every single fucking thing that they did. And they will, they will do that. They will do that.

So that's how I would deal with it, man. I would say, Hey, life gave me a spoonful of shit. I'm going to fucking eat it, but I guarantee you, dude, I'm going to let that fuel me into the fucking next level of whatever it is I'm going to be. I would concentrate on your fucking business, bro. I would, I would understand something very real. And here it is. It's just you. It's just you. All these people in your life, your friends, your fucking family, your fucking significant other, you're this or that, you're this. Those people are all going to disappoint you at some point in your life. So you might as well pour into something that will secure your future and secure who the fuck you're going to be and take care of you so that you're not fucking wrecked when these people fuck with you. Because bro, I'm going to be real with you. This ain't the last time that's

going to happen. It's going to happen again. And it's going to happen again after that. And it's going to happen again after that. Bro, I've been fucked over so many fucking times in business i do i i am the fucking nicest most generous fucking human being biggest heart yeah and dude people take advantage of it i i really empathize for that person because bro i've had those situations man you know i had a girl fucking leave me after fucking five years to be with a dude that was fucking at the time he was 45. We were like 20 fucking four. Okay. So like, and it's, and I was told right to my face that, you know, I didn't, I didn't, wasn't taking my life serious. I wasn't fucking good enough. You know, things weren't going the way that I was, that, you know, I was

fucking just starting dude. Right. Right. You know what i'm saying and it was embarrassing as fucking embarrassed me my everybody fucking saw it everybody knew like and here i am okay and you guys think oh well it sounds like you're still bitter about it you're fucking right i am i remember it every fucking day every fucking time i don't want to do shit i think about all those people I think about a long line of motherfuckers that fuck with me and I fucking do everything I can to prove them the fuck wrong for people that like think oh fuck I need motivation I mean like bro that's an infinite amount of motivation there that's what I'm saying yeah like you guys searching for all these fucking feel-good tricks you got them already you got a whole pile of shit in your life that you could be motivated about right now you're just not using it properly you know negative energy and positive energy are energy

it just depends on how you use it i personally think that negative energy is far more powerful than positive energy i think you get far for far you get much further down the road with fuck you than you do with feel good shit. Everybody I know that's successful is like that. I mean, it hasn't been proven otherwise either. Listen, you guys all know who I'm friends with. Take the guys that put out the only positive shit. You want to talk about motherfuckers that got fucking dark sides

that say fuck you behind closed doors they all got it all of them every single one of them all the dudes i talk about all the dudes you see me roll with all my friends all my peers some of them might present themselves very positively some of them might present themselves a little bit more like i do uh but i'm telling you you get them behind closed doors bro they got a long list of motherfuckers to shove shit down their fucking throats. We're trying to fuck them over and see what happens. Every single fucking one of them.

Every single fucking one of them. It's a commonality in high achieving individuals. So, bro, you just got a gift. You got a gift. You got a gift of the next 20 years of fucking energy to fucking bust ass. I'd use it. Andy, question number two. Andy, I run a service business providing lawn care, cutting, trimming, et cetera. And we're doing really well. Most of my online content is helping people with their lawn problems and recommending what products they can use on their yard to help

them solve their problems. But when people ask me where to buy products from, I always refer them to other businesses. Am I missing an opportunity to be supplying these products myself, or am I better to just focus on what I do and refer them to a trusted vendor? Both. The answer is both. Right now, it's probably best that you concentrate on what it is that you do. And then how you should think about this is, I'm going to be of service to this customer no matter what. That means you're going to recommend what you believe to be the best possible product. You're not going to oversell. You're not going to say, hey, you need this and this and this and

this and this. If you see a bald patch in your yard, you're going to say, hey, you need this and this and this and this and this. If you see a bald patch in your yard, you're going to say, hey, Mr. Homeowner, come out here, see this patch here. Here's what I could do to fix this. This is what it would take. And actually educate them, show them. Because when you start to educate people and teach them things that they don't know, and then they validate that through real world experience, right? Like your homeowner sees that and

says, I don't know. And he goes back inside and he gets on the Google and he fucking starts looking the shit up and he's like, Oh, that's true. Now, all of a sudden, dude, that guy's starting to trust you. Okay. It's very important not to oversell in these scenarios. So if you only recommend when they need it and you only work to serve their best interest and you do not oversell, what will happen here, and you look to solve their problems, what will happen over time is you will get a tremendous amount of word of mouth. When you start to get this tremendous amount of word of mouth, it would be a good idea for you to think about expanding your lawn care business from something that you are

trading labor for money and start to trade product for money. Okay. That means you could create a vertical inside this lawn care business where you're creating your own fertilizer, your own seed, your own chemicals, your own everything, whatever you need to do this. Okay. But the principles need to remain the same when you start to do that. Meaning when you offer these things, okay, you should go offer them only when they're needed. You should not oversell them. You shouldn't be, cause this is where people fuck up their businesses.

They start to get a little bit of money. They start to get a little bit of traction and then they start seeing their customers as like, uh, you know, a money tree that they're going to fucking pull money out of. When in reality, if you would just continue the same mentality of solving the customer's problems the best that you know how, they will buy from you because you are that person. All right? So your reputation and your word of mouth is the most important here, the quality of your work. And then what I would do is expand out into these verticals as you go. It's a tremendous way for you to potentially become the biggest lawn care company in the world. You know what I'm saying? Like, this is very similar to how we did what we do. Okay. We started with retail stores.

Then when we got to a point 10 years in, we were able to start, you know, we learned about things. We learned about what the market needed. We started our own company. Then when people would come in, we didn't necessarily just push them onto our own shit. We gave them options. So like whenever you, um, go to these people with your own product, you could be like, yeah, man, this could be, uh, you know, you could use Scott's, you could use this, you could use that, whatever the brands are. We also have our own brand right here. It's really good and show the comparison and then still offer the other products, but offer yours as well. And that way it's not like just, just thing where you're trying to push.

You see what I'm saying? Yeah. And because you already have an insight on the, you know what the other products are good or bad, right? What they're missing. Yeah. Yeah. So this is a great way to build a tremendously large business, um, from just doing the right thing. And I think that, you know, people really fuck

this up, man, because they get a little bit of traction and they, all of a sudden they start trying to oversell. They start trying to over-offer. They start trying to solve problems that don't really exist, right? This would be the equivalent of someone going into Valvoline and getting a $700 oil change. Like there's memes about it. Right. Right. Like you have to go into Valvoline and you have to say no, like in a rude way to get them to stop. Is Valvoline really that bad?

Bro, all those oil change places for the most part. And maybe not Valvoline. Maybe I'm picking on them. But every oil change place that I've been to has been that way. for the most part like and maybe maybe not valvuline maybe i'm picking on him but every oil change place that i've been to yeah has been that way it's been pressure pressure pressure pressure pressure about a bunch of shit that i don't really know that much about knowing i know a lot about how to drive cars i don't know a whole lot of shit about actually building cars or the things that go on like i'm ignorant to some of those things. And so when you go in there and, and by the way, this is a great exercise for you. If you're in

business, go in somewhere that you don't know anything about and watch how they treat you. Okay. Cause you'll learn a lot about your own business because what happens, like if you go to like one of these oil change places, right. And they're saying, Oh, you need this, you need this, you need this, you need this. And you have no fucking idea. Now you start feeling like you're getting sold. And the last thing you ever want to do is go back to that oil change place, right? This is how people will feel about your grass business too, if you don't handle it properly. So it's very, very important that you do the right thing. You offer the proper solutions. You offer options with those solutions. You

educate and educate means tell the truth, teach them something they didn't know, which they will go validate and start to trust. And so you could build this whole machine based on these concepts. So I think that for this guy or girl, whoever asked this question, I think that you, you, you're going to get where you want to go. You're already thinking about it, dude, or you wouldn't ask. So do I think you're missing opportunity by not having your own? Maybe not yet. I think you should grow into having your own by offering the best product for everybody else. And then when you have an opportunity to make a product of your own, you make the best one. You make it better than the other guys. Okay. So now it's actually the right solution. So it's not rocket science,

dude. It's just called doing the right thing. It's ethical business practices. And most people just don't do it. That's why it stands out so much. Well, guys, Andy, our third and final question. Question number three. I like this one here. Andy, I'm 20 years old, and I want to ask you, what's the best way to make the best mind-blowing first impression or introduction when meeting someone way above you on that success ladder? Well, look, man, I don't think it's, I don't think it's about that. I don't think it's about

a one-time introduction. I think if you're trying to network with someone who's far above you, it's important for you. First of all, don't be a fucking like, don't, don't be a fan boy. Okay. Like a psycho, like you're gonna wear my fucking skin. Okay. But also don't be someone who tries to present themselves as someone who's not that way. So like, if you're a fan, okay. Yeah.

There's like a fine middle that you want to ride. Yeah. If you're a fan, acknowledge that you're a fan and then be a normal dude. It'd be cool. Like, here's the thing. All these people that you look up to,

bro, they're all fucking normal motherfuckers. Like they're all looking around being like, fuck dude. why do all these people have such an interest in what i have to say or do like this is pretty cool but like it's kind of weird too so you got to understand like it just like it would be weird for you if everybody that you fucking knew came up to you and was like holy fuck bro it's you right like it's weird right like even if you're used to it like this is why you see celebrities go into hiding and shit i couldn't imagine being someone like the fucking rock right who everybody on the planet fucking understands and knows and likes you know for

the most part so like like you got to understand like dude the fame thing and the recognition thing is really weird for people even if you're used to it's fucking weird. So don't make it weirder. Like just realize that these are normal people just like you that have done some things that you just haven't done yet. That's elevate. And then, you know, and then another thing is,

is like, so that's the first thing. Don't make it fucking weird. All right. Second thing, don't, don't, uh,

do the thing like where it's like, Oh man, I'm not, I'm not trying to kiss your ass. I'm not trying to suck your dick. Like, bro, that's an automatic, like, I will never talk to you. Yeah. For the reasons that we said in the other show. I don't remember what show that was, but maybe you could plug it in here and say what episode that was.

But the point is, don't do that shit either. So you want to ride the middle. Just be a normal fucking human. Be respectful. Say thank you for what you do. I really appreciate it. Help me this way. You know, and then if you want to build a relationship with that person, you know, figure out a way that you can provide value, figure out a way that you can start to contribute to what it is they're working on. For example, I have this guy who found me on Instagram. I don't fucking know him from anybody. And he started taking my podcasts on his own without me fucking saying shit and not asking for anything. He started taking my podcasts and cutting them into reels. Okay. Sending me the link every single day for free, broke down the whole show into reels, okay, just to show that he could do it, right? And now we've had a couple calls with him. I think we're going to do some stuff

with him. But the point is this dude made an opportunity for himself because he took initiative to actually help us do some things. And while we haven't used any of his reels, we have used the format of his reels and other content that help gave us a guy because he's actually pretty fucking good at it so provide value what are you good at what can you do how can you help you know what i'm saying those things go a long way um and then you know spread the good word you know when when when you see a conversation happening about these people because let me tell you something dude just because people don't comment or like on Instagram doesn't mean they're not reading shit. Okay. So like, you know, if you're like, if you see someone dogging out your fucking homie that you fucking look up to get in there and fucking stand up for him, get in there and fucking help them out.

Or if you see someone who did really good with something like dude, support that person. Like those things matter because they're seen like, I you bro gary v reads all the shit that's out there i read all the shit that's out there ed reads all the shit that's out there in fact i know we do because we all talk about it behind closed doors and we have laughs about it but the point is you also recognize those people who jump in those conversations and have your fucking back and support you when you're not when they don't even think you're looking bro bro, that's a great way to get recognized. There's all kinds of ways, bro. You just got to be creative and you got to understand like there's so many people that come to people who are, uh, let's just say a few notches more up the ladder than you are offering

all these solutions that it doesn't, it becomes a, it becomes like, I like what people say to me. I do not value like at all like like like if this same guy when i'm talking about the reels right now if he would have came to me and said hey andy i could do all this shit and it's this much a month i would have been like cool bro and i would have fucking moved the fuck on but because he displayed it because he showed it to me in action yeah and he was willing to do so for 30 days before even having a conversation like bro he didn't even want to have a conversation about it he's like i'm doing this for 30 days and i'm like nah bro you know he did it for like two weeks and we started having a conversation but like the point

is is that's how you get opportunity that's how you create opportunity for yourself now i'm not saying we're gonna do a whole bunch of shit with this i don't know what we're gonna do but the point is it got him an interview it got him a conversation it got him some good dialogue i know this dude's cool as fuck now i trust him i think he's cool got him way more than just talking that's it yeah that's it that's real and so like dude you have to look for opportunities and if you don't have a skill set to display value think about how you can start creating that for someone. What can you do to help someone with what they're doing? What can you do? Like, for example, like the people who share my shit religiously,

I fucking know who they are. Oh, yeah. We talk about them. Oh, yeah. I know who the fuck they are. You know what I'm saying? Like, motherfuckers pay the fee every single fucking day, bro. I know who the fuck they are.

Not all of them, but a lot of them. You know, you have to start looking for ways to differentiate and stand out that aren't just um you know you know i'm steve i fucking love what you do i'd love to work with you steve what do you do man i don't know i'll do anything like that's not that's that's not gonna bro i appreciate that i appreciate that but that's not truly going to get you the opportunities you're looking for. Okay. And then also another thing is to dude, and this is something that young people have a really hard time with.

You have to be willing to do shit for free. Sometimes, sometimes for a long time before you get recognized, uh, by the way, you're sitting next to one of them who figured that the fuck out that dude right there. Okay. you're sitting next to one of them who figured that the fuck out that dude right there okay fucking z sean was fucking doing he runs the priscilla fans page that ain't my page that's fucking his page and he had that page before he fucking came here to work for me all right and he'd make up he'd do the same thing this other guy did he'd make up content he'd do shit and eventually like after a long time i he kept doing it i'm like hey bro

would you like to like do some stuff with us you know like it only makes sense if you enjoy it that much and you're that good at it you should come here be on the team and here he is sitting right next to you he's been on the podcast did you ever think you were going to be on the podcast ever never yeah and that happened just because he was willing to do shit for free. And pay the dues. Yeah. And honestly, bro, like, I don't even know, like, dude, you could speak the truth here. Cause I don't even know if you were like. Yes. That's something I always bring up whenever the story comes up that I was hired and he didn't know anything about me at all. Like, did you have a plan that this is how you're going to get in with me? Like, did you play me, bro? All right. time to go. Yeah. So when I actually, when I started posting, I had no idea about how the job was and how things

worked here. So I legit did not think I was able enough to do the job at all. So now you figured out we're just a bunch of idiots. Yeah. So when I started, I started completely out of interest. There was no idea behind getting a job or anything like that. I completely out of interest. There was no idea behind getting a job or anything like that. I did out of interest and I still do it. I still run that page. Yes, I clearly remember. I clearly remember when you asked me to come work for you, that time you didn't know anything about me. So you asked my name, my age, my gender, where I lived, what did I do for a living and everything about me.

And that's how the process started. So how do you feel about me hiring you only because you're Yeah, pretty racist, but good. I ain't complaining. Bro, real, real talk, dude. I felt obligated to offer you the opportunity after all that time. Like I felt like, okay, well, here's this young dude who's putting in all this time. He's doing it for free. You know, I, I have a need.

I'm going to, I'm going to offer him the opportunity. And that's the shit. That's, that's how you get it, man. Like I didn't even, I never even met this dude.

Like he's just some dude on the, I didn't even know what the fuck you look like or what he's, I didn't know shit about him. I'm just like, here's this person making content. I'm DM the internet. I don't even know what the fuck you look like or what he's, I didn't know shit about him. I'm just like, here's this person making content. I'm DMing him. I didn't know. I didn't even know your name, bro.

You know what I'm saying? So it's about what you do, not what you say. That's right. Yeah. And bro, if you don't have anything to offer, you should start learning about things that you could offer. Like, do you see a week? Like I had a guy recently recognize that I don't do Twitter.

Okay. recently recognized that i don't do twitter okay so he fucking sent me a uh a bunch of shit like now this is sample tweets okay but these are sample tweets that he took out of transcribing my show to show that he could do the tweets straight off my contents my content he would just post it that's another guy like i probably end up working with this dude because guess what i don't have the bandwidth to operate twitter right i barely got the bandwidth to fucking think right you know what i'm saying so uh if you get creative dude you could get close to almost anybody like that's the thing it's like the person that you look up to or the people that you look up to they're the the boundary of you actually working with that person is much lower than what you

realize like because everybody else is just going to talk about it bro yes and not only that there's very few people willing to take initiative there's very few people willing to fucking show that they are willing to work for free to to like display what they can do and those things are valued by people if they're not a piece of shit now i'm sure there's some people out there that will take advantage of that forever. And they will be happy to not pay you or offer you something. But I think that's the minority of people. A lot of people won't take the action because they feel like everybody's like that. But I really, truly believe that there's such a scarcity of help that truly cares about what it is people are trying to do that when you could display some true interest and display some true ability uh or

just even some critical thinking identifying how to get better and these things those things can pay off in in massive amounts guys andy that was three yeah pay the fee yeah don't be a hoe share the show we're from sleeping on the floor Now my jewelry box froze Fuck a bowl Fuck a stove Counted millions in a cold Bad bitch

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