REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 462. Q&AF: Aggressive Patience, Improve Your Social Skills & Avoid Getting Laid Off

Episode Date: January 26, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to develop aggressive patience when working toward your goals, some practical ways to get out of your introverted shell, and the best way for people to avoid getting laid off during these economic hard times.

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share it's straight up value exchange i get it sometimes i suck sometimes i'm great when i'm great share the show when i suck sorry man everybody sucks sometimes better luck next time yeah it is what it is all right what's up man what's going on dude dude i just saw this video and i did not know this but apparently in the state of texas they have a mutual combat law did you know that yeah where you could declare mutual combat and the police can't interfere yeah yeah i had no fucking idea i didn't know that they had in texas but i'm familiar with the law do you think like if you were pregnant president today would you put in state that like federally yeah i think it should be everywhere yeah i i first of all i think there i think the law is far overreaching from where it should be i think there's i listen yeah

we've gotten way overly litigious to where the point uh where you have no recourse against people harassing you or fucking with you or causing you grief or stepping your fucking toes like we were civilly and criminally we had a much better society when people were afraid of fucking with people okay when people were afraid of stepping on someone's toes or disrespecting them or causing them harm when people had fear of repercussions we had a better society because everybody respected themselves and respect each other and themselves okay and they respect to people's families they respect the boundaries and we have the situation now with social media where we have all these people out there that think that there's people that

people don't exist that will fuck you up from fucking with you know what i'm saying and so people have gotten real comfortable just doing whatever the fuck they want when in reality bro there's a whole lot of people out there that will ruin your fucking life without you ever even knowing it. Just for fucking with them. Yeah, they've had to adapt. Whereas back then they were just fucking. Yeah, but dude, like, you know, when you could settle a fucking dispute by going out in the street and getting in a fist fight. Yeah.

And then having a beer after, the world was a much better place. And they have rules. It's not like just like, all right, fucking mutual combat. Like both have to be, it's mutual, right? Like they both both have to decide it can't escalate to like you know aggravated assault or a simple assault yeah go for it well i mean dude i i don't understand you know this is the whole problem in society is that you have you have the weak people of society who are unafraid to fuck with people who are stronger and more capable of taking care of their own business yeah that are held back by the law that's right and by the way those weak people aren't afraid

of the law because the law right now in this country favors them and doesn't prosecute them if you're politically on one side of the aisle you don't get prosecuted for shit right you know antifa gets to go down and fucking atlanta this past weekend burn all kinds of shit and i'm glad they arrested him this time but here's the thing these people been getting away with this shit for fucking years and that's the problem in society right now yeah no that's real shit would you take it as far as because you know like back in the gentleman you know what it is dude is the police need to stand the fuck down when it comes to good citizens holding the line of the law. Protecting their own communities.

Yeah, 100%. Would you take it as far as, like, you know, back in the days, two gentlemen, they could have the, I don't know. Yeah, like a duel. Would you take it as far as that? I mean, I don't know. I mean, like, bro, I don't think that most things have to go to that. The reason that we've gotten so gun happy is because we don't have an outlet with the fist fighting. Yeah.

Okay. Like when I was growing up, dude, and you had a problem with like, dude, when I, listen, dude, there's a massive difference between people that are my age and people are 30 and 25 years old. Massive fucking difference. Yeah. I grew up knowing that if I did fucked up shit, if I fuck with somebody's girl or I fuck with them or I disrespected them, bro, I'm fighting. We're fighting. You don't have to defend that. Yeah. I knew there was consequences. Now, whether or not I won that fight, you know, that was up in the air. Right. But like, bro, you knew that if you did certain things, you're going to get fucking

punched in the motherfucking mouth. And I grew up knowing that it's very clear the people in this world that had grown up not having that okay because they're the mouthiest they're the most disrespectful they're these fucking pussy ass clout chasers on the internet that try to fuck with everybody because that's the only way that they can offer any kind of fucking relevancy at all that's that's why these people exist because they've never been fucking destroyed in a fistfight. They don't know what it's like to get punched in the fucking face. Yeah.

Dude, it's the destruction of society. It's the destruction of natural order. Natural order will return, because if we're looking at society in the way that the laws are enforced and they're being selectively enforced, eventually, if things don't change, the law will erode to a point where natural order will restore itself now if the if the law goes back to applying the law evenly across the board to all citizens evenly the way it should be the order will be restored and we won't need to do that but it's going to go one of two ways yeah because this

idea that certain people can do anything they want depending on what group they belong to and certain other people can't do shit right like all these people burning down the fucking uh country for three fucking years they're they're fucking victims yeah and if if american citizens say fuck this i'm done with this shit and go down there and fucking stop them, they're domestic terrorists. Right, or take a tour of the Capitol. I'm just saying, bro. It's a fucking double standard.

It's bullshit. And the only thing holding back, and they know this too, the only thing holding natural order back from becoming reality again in society is this double standard application of the law right now. Like if the law completely eroded all the fucking problems, society correct themselves very quickly. I'm actually hoping for that. That's a fact. I'm hoping for that. So long time will tell.

Well, I'm just saying, bro, you know, it is what it is. But I think, you know, you learn a lot as a man in that environment. You know, those are necessary lessons. Yes. Yeah. Bro. Yes. That's the only way we know as men, once you're in the real world, where the fuck you stand.

That's it. It's what you can defend yourself. That's it. Yeah, man. That's real shit. And dude, you have a whole generation of people now, 15 years worth of people who don't understand that and they're not afraid of it. And then when they do fuck with someone and someone fucks with them back, they play victim.

Right. Right. It's just pussy shit, bro. Yeah. Fuck me. Got a lot to work on, man. Listen, man. I just watched four days of yellowstone so

i'm feeling a certain way about it i'm just saying dude it was a better place yeah it's a better place when there was consequences for your fucking words and actions immediately yeah i mean yeah people respected each other bro yeah that we don't have that shit right not wasting tax money on the police the police need to be allowed to do their fucking jobs okay if the police were just allowed because police understand this shit if they were just allowed to do their jobs because they're not that's what people don't understand they're not allowed to do their fucking jobs it's not that it's not that there's bad police or the police are pussies and this and that. And like some of these people say that the fucking leadership of the police prevents them from doing their job effectively.

Then you have the court system who will not prosecute criminals, but they'll gladly prosecute certain people that stand in a certain political dimension for anything that they do. We have an unjust, unfair, unethical fucking bias, legal system and law law structure. And it's fucking this country up and it's fucking up the culture and it's fucking up the respect among citizens. And if they,

we did have mutual combat where people could fucking fight it the fuck out and use, you know, someone just got their ass beat and you walk the fuck away. Shit would be better. right well the good thing is st louis has had mutual combat for the last three years straight so i mean yeah well it's not terrible it's the last 20 years let's be real i mean dude look when you fuck with someone you got to be prepared to be fucked with back you know what i mean that's it yeah that's it and nowadays you know you just got to get creative about how you fuck with people so let's get into these man we got

this q a hey guys let's uh let's get better here man uh any question number one andy when you have a huge goal in front of you okay and you've made the list of what needs to get done. You do it. You did it. What do you recommend doing during the time from the point of execution of the plan to the plan actually coming into fruition? What do you do with that lag time in between? Well, I mean, dude, this is the concept of aggressive patience that I talk about. I just wrote about this two days ago in, in Andy Graham, By the way, if you guys aren't subscribed to Enneagram, you should. A lot of you guys misunderstand the purpose of this. That's my post. You say, oh, why don't you post in your feed? I do. I post Enneagrams every single

day and I have for the last three years. I'm more consistent than anybody on the internet. I post I haven't missed a single day. So those are my posts so if you want my posts go to go subscribe to the andigram it's the first it's generally the first post that i post in the morning every single day all you gotta do is click on that link and subscribe it'll go right to your email dude and i don't spam your shit with a bunch of bullshit emails okay so uh anyhow you have to you have to understand and i give away a lot of fucking really good lessons in there that'll help you, especially in business. You have to understand, dude, aggressive patience is a concept where, where you, you work every single day as hard as you can towards your goal.

But you also understand at the same time that it's going to take time. All right. And this is a concept that people get very confused about because you hear people, other people out there say patience, you got to be patient, you got to be patient. And people misinterpret that and think that like, that means that they can just chill and their goals will eventually happen. And that's just not the way it works. It's aggressive patience. It's executing day in, it's executing day out. It's executing for weeks, months, years, understanding that that's the amount of time that it takes.

So you have to do this intense work. It's this urgent work every single day, but also have the patience to understand that no matter how hard you work today, it's still going to take time to materialize. And so this is a major concept of success that people misunderstand because so many people don't communicate it clearly, right? You have a lot of people out there that just say patience, patience, patience is the key. Patience is a virtue. Patience is only a virtue if you

understand the aggressive part that you have to execute day and by day, by day, week by week, by week, year by year, by year. That's what actually makes it happen. So the answer to this question is you need to be urgently executing during that time between the beginning and the result that you're trying to produce understanding that this is still going to take time yeah it's not waiting around like you're saying what do I do oh you just twiddle your fucking oh man there's that's you're just by the nature of that question you're I can tell you're misunderstanding how this works and this is frustrating for me because I see a lot of really good intent people

who have the right idea and they want to succeed and they're willing to work for it. But because people tell them patience, patience, patience, they think like, okay, well, I did this. Now I have all this free time. And because of that, because they don't execute during the time that they think is free time they don't ever get there and i don't mean free time at night i mean just over the court like you know for months at a time oh i made these calls i got this thing it's i'm waiting on this i'm doing this no bro whatever you need to fill that gap with productive action okay i talk about this uh very very very in detail um in episode 16 on the Real AFV, which is called

Win the Day. Win the Day episode will tell you my powerless method for basically running your goal setting system and how to execute it properly. And it includes aggressive patience. So go listen to episode 16 and give you a better understanding of what we're talking about. And I would use that system. That's the system I've used and it works very, very well. Yeah. Let me ask you this. Do you, have you found, cause 24 years in business, have you found that that lag time between the input and the output over time has that shortened? Are you able to, are you able, because of all your tools in your belt, are you able to speed that up? And when you get versus when you started is that lag time much bigger yeah dude for sure well see well that's a

that's a that's a complicated question okay because first of all when i started there was no internet all right so like that's it was it was a long time ago right um not there was internet but it wasn't the internet that you guys see today or have access to. I was just talking to one of my buddies last night about how valuable this internet and social media is to people who are just starting out in business now. Because when I started, bro, there was no access. There was no access to people like me. There was no access to people who are doing shit or have done shit. You had to observe from afar, right? Like I looked at guys like Tony Robbins, right?

And I could read his book, but I couldn't like tune in and listen to him talk. I couldn't watch his show. I couldn't watch him on the internet. I couldn't really see that much. All I could do is read his show. I couldn't I couldn't watch him on the internet I couldn't I couldn't really see that much all I could do is read his book and And by the way, I wouldn't be here without that man I'm very thankful for the work that he did but you guys who are just getting started you don't really understand how how lucky you are to have the access that you have and You know, it's funny because I was talking to this friend who is also a business coach, a very successful, successful business coach.

And we were laughing because motherfuckers will bitch about spending two or three, four hundred dollars a month to get access directly to people like me who have fucking built ridiculously massive shit or people like this dude who's worth a billion dollars. All right. They'll bitch about 300 bucks, but they had no problem spending 120 grand on a education from a from a school who's taught by a bunch of fuckers who haven't done right you know what i'm saying like it makes no fucking sense you guys have access to multi and by the way most of the coaching programs out there are garbage all right but there are a handful of them that are extremely valuable because they are led and taught by people who have actually built things in real life. Okay? So you have to understand the value exchange there and the access that you have. So the point I brought up this conversation is because we were

talking on the phone and I said, bro, if I had access to me now, like, okay, me in the beginning, if I had access to me now, I could have cut down the 24 years by at least 50% and probably by two thirds. Okay. Meaning I could have got where I'm at now in a third of the time because I know all the shit now. Right. Right. Like I can look back and say, okay, don't do that. Do that. Don't do this.

Do this. And I could fucking direct the traffic like perfectly because i've been down the path and dude like they say hindsight is 2020 right so that's what you get when you work with someone who's done real shit now you know i never got that i had to pay my dues the long way but the fact that we have the the access that we do now and the information that we do now, you know, these people don't understand how fucking lucky they are to have it because it never fucking existed before. And they've come in and they've run their whole lives on an iPad and iPhone and this. And they, they like, they're like, oh, okay, cool. Like fuck dude, $400. Yeah. You're learning from someone

like you, you can't get them to understand it right you know what i'm saying so like at the longer that you go on okay the longer that you go down the path that you're on right now you're going to have you're going to start to meet people you're going to meet people with with different skill sets and different relationships and connections. And like all that networking that you try to do intentionally now will organically be in place because you've been doing it for a long time. And motherfuckers know you're real. Okay.

So like, yes, now I can do things. And I mean, bro, a fraction of the time of what I would have been able to do in the beginning because of that, because I have financial resources now, because I have the experience and the knowledge and all the mistakes I made through the process, all those tools and skills that I got from those mistakes I have in my tool belt. So like that's something to look forward to. And that's why you should appreciate the struggles that you have. And that's why you should appreciate the struggles that you have. And that's why you should appreciate overcoming those struggles because when you overcome them

in the beginning and you make mistakes in the beginning, or even if you make mistakes in the middle or wherever, it's still a cheaper mistake than what it would have cost you five years from now. And that's how you should look at these things. So, you know, when you, when you look at the journey, right. And you're just in the beginning and you're looking So, you know, when you, when you look at the journey, right. And you're just in the beginning and you're looking at, you know, 10, 20, 30 years down the road, you have to understand that that 20 year version of you is going to be a fucking monster that can accomplish shit in the snap of a finger where, you know, the, you couldn't get that done the first two years when you were just starting out. Right. Right. Where, where it went at 20 year, you can make a phone call and that shit can happen.

And so that's what you have to look forward to by persevering and not quitting. It does get much easier. Um, certain things don't get easier. Like for example, you know, my goals now are exponentially bigger. They're work, they're global size global size goals in terms of turning my company from a medium-sized company that we are now to a global brand. And that's a fucking massive goal, and that is every single fucking bit as hard as it was getting the thing started off the ground. But see, not everybody continues to expand their vision or their goal or what they're trying to do. I do. And the reason I do isn't for my fucking ego or anything other than I have a bunch of people over here who have all worked very hard for a long time to get us to here. And I've become very successful. And there's a bunch of people in

this building who have become very successful. And i want them uh the other people who have worked and paid their dues to build their best careers they can so like i look at it as paying them back for the work that that they have invested in you see what i'm saying absolutely so uh plus like what else am i gonna do you know what i'm saying like i i fucking i have everything you know what I'm saying? Like I, I fucking, I have everything. You know what I mean? Stop being about two years ago. Yeah, no, dude, it really did. People don't understand that though. You know what I'm saying? Like, bro, I don't even get paid from first form. People don't fucking get that. Right. Like I make all my money doing other things. And like, you know, I invest all my money back into first form, the money I pay myself.

That's why we're able to fucking grow this other we're opening this new building and then that next one over there and all these things it's because bro i i care about the people in this building and i want to build something really special i think we've built something incredible now yeah but it's nothing compared to what we want to build and uh you know it did stop being about me a long time ago you know guys You know? Guys, that was question number one. Andy, question number two. Andy, what are some things I can start doing immediately to help me get out of my introverted shell? Wow, this is a great question.

I had a really hard time with this. And I still have a hard time with this. In fact, we were talking about this right before we started the show. We were talking about how uncomfortable it is for me to have cameras around to shoot content uh and how big of a douchebag i feel in fact i said i think i feel like a super douche right so like bro it's just not who the fuck i am like i'm a head down dude uh i don't really care for that all that um, you know, it's not comfortable for me and, and, and it's not, is it, it may appear that's the opposite, but the reason that appears that way is because I practiced it. All right. So I used to have a very hard time with people as well. Uh,

two things that really fucking helped me with this. Okay. One was that I worked in a retail environment. If you can work in a retail environment, you're going to get a number of reps every single day interacting with random strangers, and that will help build your skill and interaction with people. That's going to help you in a million different ways in life, a million different scenarios. It's going to help you professionally. It's going to help your dating life. It's going to help your personal friendships. It's going to help you fucking in every possible situation. The better you can get with people, the better your life will be and the more success and fulfillment you'll have. The only way to get better when you're not a natural gifted extrovert,

which most people aren't, is to practice. So you want to put yourself in situations where you practice that. This would include things like working retail. That's something that I did for a long time. When I first started on day one, when we first started Supplement Superstores, our first real company, bro, I was scared to death. I can still remember my first customer coming in. and I can remember my first customer was a friend of mine named Nick Vespa. My second customer, I didn't know from shit and I was scared shitless.

Oh shit, isn't it? Okay, we're good. And like he walks in and I'm like, holy shit, you know, like what do I do now? Like I didn't fucking, bro, I didn't have anybody to coach me. I didn't fucking have anybody telling me anything. Like I hadn't thought that far ahead, bro i'm being completely honest so this dude comes in i

remember specifically dude this dude walks in the store and we didn't have shit like we didn't have fucking anything and he goes he looks at me and he goes he goes so you guys like going out of business yeah and i'm like dude i didn't know what he meant yeah i didn't know what he meant it took me like six or seven years to understand to get what he was saying what he what he meant was we didn't we had so little inventory it looked like we were going out of business okay now you got to remember we built our shelves out of wood two by fours and fucking particle board like that was our store it was a fucking we built them okay this dude walks in and he says he looks around and he looks at me he goes so you guys like

going out of business just like that dude this was the second day we were in or the third day we were in business it was the third day it took us three days to have our first real customer comes in and he says that and i'm like oh man we just opened you know like i fucking was so stupid dude i had no idea what he meant like i had no idea that like i dude i was i was like the fuck no we just opened like i didn't even i was just so stupid i didn't know i was really proud of what we had you know what what I'm saying? Like, I'm like, oh, this is great. We got a store. And bro, that's, that's, there's a lesson in that. And the lesson in that is like, dude, you may not have a spectacular start. You may not have this amazing start. And people might think it's a fucking joke. Everybody laughed at me. Everybody

laughed at us. Everybody, bro, everybody. And if it wasn't always to our face, it'd be behind our backs. Everybody thought we were fucking insane. So let him fucking think it because one day you'll end up in a good spot because of it. But he comes in and he walks in and he's like, he's like, hey, dude, so you got anything to build muscle? And I'm like, I fucking don't do, I don't know shit about supplements either. All I knew how it was like to lift weights. Like I, I didn't know anything. I just knew I saw this other guy do it. And I thought, well, if that guy can do it, I can do it. And so that's how we started it.

And so, uh, this dude walks over and I'm like, and I remember like putting this product out and it said on the front of it, it said, uh, gain seven pounds in seven days. All right. It was, it was a product called cell tech by a company called MuscleTech, which they're still around. A big company. They've been around for a long time. But it used to say on the front of it, I don't know what it says now, and I don't even know if they make the product now. But it used to say, put on seven pounds in seven days, a creatine product with some sugar in it and stuff.

So anyway, I remember seeing it. I'm like, yeah, actually, we do have some stuff to put on some muscle. See this right here, seven pounds, seven days right here. And he's like, what is that? And I'm like, well, cell tech. I swear to God, that's how we started there. So like you fuckers think that like, we're like, I'm some kind of genius or fucking god that's where we started okay so he's like what is it and i'm like you know what i don't know i dude i swear because i didn't know and so and this is another lesson don't fucking don't say you know when you don't know just tell them you don't know and you'll find the answer and that's what i did so i turned the

fucking bottle around i started reading it i read the bottle word for word to this motherfucker. I said, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Seven pounds, seven days. He's like, well, have you used it? I'm like, nah, man. But I, you know, sounds pretty good. And I would buy it. Yeah.

So he didn't buy it. He didn't. I didn't. You know, he didn't buy it. He said, I'll come back later. He never came back. But, you know, like, that's how you learn. You know, that's how you learn. After he left, I fucking started, I realized, oh shit, I don't want that to happen again. So you know what I did?

I went around and read every motherfucking product in the store. I went around and fucking learned what the shit was. When I didn't understand what something was, I called the company up and I started asking them. And I said, what's this? What's that? How's this work? Right. Because I didn't want to feel like that again. So, you know, you have to be willing to do that to get started. And that's where I started. So I don't even know where the fuck I was going with the retail options.

What's the second thing? Oh, yeah. The second thing. See my face. You guys, if you don't know, I've been sick as fuck for a week. So my brain is a little bit foggy on things. The second thing was I made up this little game that I practiced. Okay.

So first thing is try to get yourself in a retail environment. That will help a lot. And it's worth doing. The other thing is I made up this game. And this is a game that I played for a long, long time. And what I would do, there's a grocery store chain here in St. Louis called Deerberg's famous, famous family, great family, uh, does a lot for the community. Very, very, uh, very great company that they run here. And there's another family owned company here, Schnucks. They do the same

thing. They're both great families. Um, this this was a deerberg's and it was by my house and and i would go to deerberg's and i would make myself talk to three strangers okay so i make myself have three conversations with random people in the grocery store and then i could go home like highs and buys or no like legit conversation no it wasn't like, hey, how you doing? It had to be some sort of interaction. Like if I saw a dude looking at green beans, I'd start talking about green beans. I'd be like, hey, have you tried those before? And he'd be like, you know, nah, man.

And, you know, we would start talking, right? Those kinds of things. Or, you know, I'd have to, you know, sometimes if I saw someone and I liked their shoes, I would say, bro, those shoes are fucking cool. You know, and we would start talking about shoes. I would try to find something to talk about. And what that did was it lowered my fear of approaching people.

And it gave me the confidence to have conversations with random strangers. And that's a massive skill set. Just like I said, the one in retail where it's going to help all areas of your life. So will this, especially those of you who can only approach people online now and can't have like conversations in real life. You, this is another thing people don't have perspective on because a lot of people, a lot of you young guys have grown up so digitally connected. You lack very, very, you lack your personal skills fucking sucks and fundamental say this better than that like so this is an important

thing especially for you younger people who have grown up with a lot of technology for you to practice because you may think these skills don't matter but I can assure you they still matter because you're not going to get in that circle of you know the 10 figure per the the 10 9 8 figure people that you're trying to get connected to without having personal skills and being cool as fuck like if you you show up and you meet someone in person because dude relationships are still in person bro no yeah when so when you show up and you meet someone in person and you're awkward as fuck and you don't know how to interact bro that's going to cost you the relationship because people are going to be like what the this dude weird what the wrong they're not going to care what you build they're not going to care there's there's so many people out there who have

money and have success and have things that you have to offer something else to get into the circles that you're trying to get into. Okay. And that needs, that requires personal skillset that requires your ability to connect and make friends with and be cool with people. All right. So it's an important thing. I did that, that, that deer Brooks thing. I did that for fucking years where I would go in there and I would practice.

I would practice. I would practice because guys, the truth is I I and I try to say this you know but people don't fucking believe it everything I am is a result of me getting my face smashed in and learning that's it that's why I tell you there's only two things that you need to truly succeed only Only two. Okay. You have to be willing to fall on your face and you have to be smart enough to learn the lesson, whatever that lesson is, because every time you fall on your face, there's a lesson. So whatever that lesson is, you have to be able to learn it and then not do the same thing twice or definitely

not three times. Okay. You might do some of these things twice just because you don't know, but definitely not three times. All right. And the other thing is you just have to be willing to keep going. You have to be willing to not quit. So if you're willing to learn from your mistakes, if you have the capacity to learn from mistakes and you are willing to endure and not quit, you will eventually find yourself in the place that you want to be. That's really the only two things that you actually have to have. Yeah. Yeah. But practice those people skills, man. Do that little game and get yourself in a retail environment. Those two things will help you a ton. Guys, Andy, our third and final question. Andy, question number three. Andy, with so many companies doing massive layoffs currently,

what do you recommend to entrepreneurs or just employees in general that are working within a company? What do you recommend they should do to avoid getting cut? Be as valuable as you possibly can. Okay. That means being undeniably valuable for the company. All right. First of all, there's two things to consider here. One, are you with a company that is continuing to grow and can you grow to your full potential, whatever you believe that might be inside that company? If you cannot, you should no longer spend time at that company. You should move to somewhere that you can. Okay. Because there's nothing worse than spending three, four, five years in a company and then being capped because they're not growing. And that's very

common. So you have to really pay attention to what's going on in the company to recognize that. So that's the first thing. So is your job worth saving? You see what I'm saying? So let's ask that because a lot of them aren't all right now the good news is is that while there's all these companies doing layoffs there's also all these new companies and younger companies hiring and growing okay because what's happened here in the business environment is culturally there's a whole lot of companies that have violated consumers trust all right over the last three years they've pushed a fucking super hardcore woke agenda in their fucking culture um they've pushed super politically correct work environment that nobody likes they made their culture suck okay um they've pushed

vaccines on people they've made people do shit that violates their own personal fucking freedoms and rights. And they've pushed shit like Disney pushes way too much fucking woke shit. Now their stock sucks. This is happening. These tech companies, people are recognizing, like I said, that nobody wants to live on metagogues, bro, in a fucking house on communist government assistance for the rest of their life. So people are rejecting all this shit that these companies went all in on. And that's why you're seeing so many layoffs with

some of these bigger companies. All right. But that is not the other companies. Remember, there's two sides to this coin. The other side of this coin, which I've been telling for years, are the pro-American, pro-freedom brands that people are starving to support. People want to support small business more than they ever have. They want to support the local entrepreneur more than they ever have. They want to support the mid-sized companies that don't buy into the woke agenda and the pushing of shit. They believe in freedom and they believe in this country and they believe in doing the right things and they believe in not violating people's personal freedoms and they believe in unity, not division and all this shit. People starting to support those companies are starving to support them. Okay. And I said this

for years, for, for years, I've been telling you that was the trend. That trend is happening. All of my companies are trending way the fuck up. My retail company is setting fucking records, bro. We have a fucking 24-year-old retail company and everybody's like, oh, retail's dead. Retail's dead. No, it's not dead. Your fucking model sucks and you suck at running it. Okay. That's the truth. The customers are there. If you provide what they're looking for and what they're looking for is not to walk into an environment where they get fucking wokeness shoved up their motherfucking ass. They don't like that. Nobody likes that. Okay. And by the way, why would you pander to the people who don't have the money to spend on your business?

Right. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, these are not the producers of the world. So you want to make your business appeal to the people that are customers. And the way you do that is by being pro-freedom, pro-unity, pro-America. People are starving for that shit. Yeah.

So seek those companies out. Get in one of those companies, and those companies are growing like crazy. You won't have all this, oh, I can't say this. I can't say that. Can't do this, or HR, or blah, blah, blah. You won't have that shit. It's actually fun. It's fun to work here.

People like working here. You see what I'm saying? So those companies are growing. Now that's just an audit to assess where you're at. Is this a good time for you to leave this environment where these companies are getting their asses beat? Are these companies going to recover are you going to have a place there or are you just delaying the inevitable okay assess that then is now a good time for you to jump over to somewhere that's growing because of the things i just mentioned this is real business trend hold on and these motherfuckers gonna argue with me you don't know what the fuck you're talking about because i'm gonna show i can show you the real fucking data i'm operating these companies you

don't fucking get it so you could theorize all you want in the fucking comments i'm gonna show i can show you the real data i'm operating these companies you don't get it so you could theorize all you want in the comments i'm telling you the facts it would be a good idea to consider getting in with one of these companies if you have skills and you're in fear of losing them over here i will take as many of you high-skilled as they come my way because we're growing growing. Okay. Now, to answer the original question, which what can I do to not get laid off? You got to be valuable, bro. You got to be willing to do more than the other people. You got to be willing to drive the company. You've got to be willing to drive revenue.

Whatever that means, you've got to be able to contribute to the mission. You've got to make yourself undeniable inside the company. There is a great book written about this by probably the smartest business guy out there that nobody really talks about. His name is Seth Godin. He's a fucking legend. He wrote a book called Lynchpin. Lynchpin is an amazing book about how to be valuable inside of a company, how to be undeniably valuable inside of a company.

Go read that book. That book will give you far more insight than I could give you on this show. But the bottom line of it is you have to become that person. You have to become that motherfucker that they can't live without. Because if you could become that, that makes you immune to the layoffs. Because when the layoffs happen, they don't cut the good people, bro. They cut the people they can get away with. So like, they're not saying like, oh, you know, it sucks that we have to cut all these good people. That's not the conversation.

The conversation is okay. Who's the dead weight? Who are the people that aren't contributing? Who are the people that we can get away with not having here? And you don't want to be on that list and you never want to be on that fucking list. And every company has that list. Oh yeah. Let me, let me, I wanted to ask you when you brought that up, would you say that a company that is doing layoffs is almost indicative of a company that's not growing? Is that the same thing? Or is there like a, you know? Well, of course. Why would you lay off a bunch of people if things were fucking wonderful?

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like, is this a good judge as an employee? Like, if your company is already doing layoffs, that's probably not the right place to be at anyway. Right? And you automatically start looking for these other places you know not necessarily man that's what i was at there's also no there's exceptions there's exceptions to everything you know there could be situations where you're restructuring there could be situations where you're adjusting you're making a pivot as a company there's all kinds of things right okay

that could that could allow a company to to take one step back to take three step forward. Okay. So it doesn't necessarily mean that the company is going to fail long-term, but it certainly means that shit ain't going well right now. You know what I'm saying? Right. So that's how you should read that. And you have to understand that if they're making cuts and you survive, you're probably going to have a lot more asked of you at that company for the same amount of money or even less money. So that's another thing to consider too. And you know what? Sometimes in the economy, that's the fucking reality of business. And so if that situation comes to you where they say, well, hey, you could stay, but you got to

take less money. Instead of getting all pissed off, you should stop for a second and say, okay, well, what's the market like? What are the where can i go now there are options right now the ones i just laid out but people ain't talking about them right okay all right if you get with a company that has there's lots of companies right now they're fucking crushing dude and all the ones that are crushing are the non-woke companies they're they're crushing they're crushing i've tried. I've tried to lay this out for you guys for a year. If you've been a longtime listener, I've tried to show you and tell you. I was telling you in 2019 and 2020

that that would be the trend now. And here it is. It's happening. It's happening right now. So if you have high skills and you want to work for a badass company, maybe think about one of the companies that I have because we're kicking ass. Guys.

Andy. And we're always looking for motherfuckers. Yeah. So guys, Andy, that was three. Yeah. Go pay the fee.

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