REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 468. Q&AF: Tom Brady Retirement, Having Resentment Towards Others & Tasting Success

Episode Date: February 6, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what his thoughts are about Tom Brady retiring, the best way to stop having resentment and negative energy toward others, and how to taste success when you're working towards your ultimate goals. 

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You fucking Syed took some sleeping pills or something. Or you farted and fucking knocking him the fuck out. What's going on, brother? Nothing. I'm just wondering what's going on over there. No, I was finishing up on this. Now we rearranged the room. Yeah, I'm getting used to that too.

Now, DJ is usually sitting over here. now dj is usually sitting over here and madat is usually sitting over here but what we figured out because we're idiots um and it takes us a minute to figure things out is that you guys would enjoy me talking to you as opposed to me talking like this and you know as much as you my side profile is like it belongs on a fucking coin right um yeah it does and it will be one day probably even if i have to make it myself And, you know, as much as you, my side profile is like, it belongs on a fucking coin, right? Yeah. It does. And it will be one day, probably.

Even if I have to make it myself. But now you get to see my face full frontal, right? It's a full frontal face. It is definitely. It's definitely a different view for sure. Yeah, it's weird. Anyway, we're idiots. We're figuring it out.

I'm so used to doing everything because, dude, most of our shit shit is on audio and it's been on audio for almost a decade i don't think in terms of video and you know that much so we'll figure it out we'll get it together got some good ideas you're gonna like them um what do you got yeah well i mean as always i got some good ones what's going on with you but dude i just pulled up some stuff did you see uh the buzz aldrin just got married at 93 years old really yeah how old is his wife 63 really yeah that's from robin the cradle shit that's some interesting stuff but i was right i mean leading to a whole different conversation it's a quick picture for you i want to see you pull it up real quick what's the acceptable age limit i don't that's that's i would dude i don't know well i mean clearly bro look at this dude like like this dude is like he sees a 21 year old he hit the jackpot bro oh yeah he's happy as fuck she doesn't look bad for 63 hey you know what he looks 93 more

yeah he does okay he's good he's tired telling that lie about being on the moon at least the whole another conversation which we can come to in a minute where's my tinfoil yeah but i mean i what i want a tinfoil fucking mohawk battle helmet like a spartan tinfoil battle helmet okay a tinfoil hat does not do me justice it fucking doesn't okay so i want a tinfoil fucking bat in fact you know what we could do bro we could go get that battle helmet out of my office and we could wrap it in tinfoil i'll wear it on the show or we could just make one out of tinfoil that might be more authentic that's more like kkk okay and i don't know if that's appropriate today i found it i found it i got it okay

yeah why not appropriate today i'm just saying it's you know or any day but i'm just saying you had to bring up the kkk shit on black history day number one yeah what the fuck my dot yeah you didn't even catch it i caught it i'm out here looking out for you bro and this motherfucker yeah thank you yeah standing up for me that's right that's a virtue signal for that i gotta make a hashtag you gotta fend it for me i appreciate it that's awesome that's what i need that's not bad that's what i need to wear that's the king of all tinfoil conspiracies that's 120 that's not bad or i have four installments of 30 i have a massive fucking head so i don't know if my head will fit

in there but if it does that is cool as shit i wear it all the time i wear it to work out in oh wait there's a couple of different there's okay we gotta pick which one you want there's a warlord a duke or a baron okay which that's the warlord that's fucking cool let's see the duke i don't know if oh maybe i should just swipe through let's see that's the nah that's interesting that looks like a come on dude that looks like some fucking drag show shit that one is awesome that looks like a thimble with some fucking horns on the side of it that looks like something you see yeah that's some bdsm shit yeah bro this is a drag show helmet um don't buy me that one i won't fucking wear that was pretty bad i would wear that i'd wear that in public

i'd wear that to all the antifa fucking shit bro like think of you think of a fucking tinfoil man showed up at an antifa rally they would they would have a hard time figuring out if you were on their side you know i just show they all just start noodles they all start bowing down to you the fucking tinfoil lord oh shit yeah so moon landing is it real i mean bro come on man right are we being real it was legit question you really are we really gonna go there we never talked about go yeah we never talked about come on man bro listen let want to go? Yeah, we never talked about it. Come on, man. Bro,

listen, let's use our fucking critical thinking skills here. Okay. Okay. Without getting into the direct evidence of what it shows or doesn't show, and there is plenty of evidence that shows that it's not real. Why the fuck haven't we been back? Yeah,

that's interesting. What's their excuse for why we haven't been back too expensive no the technology has been lost there yeah right we had the technology but now we lost it and we can't do it only we're fucking 50 years later yeah the fuck out of here bro yeah this is some bullshit dude if we had been, other countries would have been there as well. Period. Okay. They, that was a fucking psyop to demoralize the fucking Russians during the cold war and

the, and basically get them to bankrupt their military spending so that they would try to go to the moon. That's what the fuck it was. And you know, you guys could, Oh, I'll never believe anything. And he says, because he believes this, Well, fucking go prove me wrong, bro. So you're saying that the initial moon landing was a psyop to bring down the country's morale, essentially, right? And let them waste their military resources to try to accomplish this. Okay.

So interesting thing. NASA has announced this is December december 11th of 2022 they're going back oh really yeah yeah so i mean well it's about time to bankrupt some fucking russians isn't it i mean that i mean fuck man we need that 10-4 hat asap yeah that's interesting i mean here's another one for you i mean is this q and a f or is this cti definitely q and a f i just saw you know that you know that like a lot of the people that listen to q and a f hate cti do they hate it i don't i don't i don't fucking care if they do what about that one nah that's some real like that says missouri that's yeah yeah it does it's got a fucking it's got a fucking mullet hair that's like some sort of gorilla hair dreadlock and uh

some antlers yeah but what are the antlers from yeah i don't know that's that's that's some shit that like you could see somebody actually wearing back in the day especially if you fucked with them in missouri it's a horse's tail and deer antlers yeah oh that's what it looks like that's fucking missouri if i've ever seen one yeah yeah so where's yours well that's a different side of missouri that i have yet to see so i'll let you know when we get there oh shit man well i mean it is q a it is and i do got some good ones for you okay so let's knock these out you know what's funny dude i'm getting all this feedback from these people listening to lewis house the lewis house show and they're like fuck dude that was really cool man it's like you actually have a heart i'm like bro what the fuck do you guys think

yeah maybe are you just some like cold no i don't know what the fuck they think but it's just funny yeah it's like it's like oh it was really cool to see your sense this bro i'm always that way you guys don't get it you think i'm angry you don't understand i care yeah like that's my that's your misunderstanding not mine yeah that's passionate yeah dude that's all it ever is you have to give a at this point i mean like bro when i look at who are whoers who are equipped exactly how I was in the beginning of my success journey, meaning they're fucking green and they don't have any kind of skills and they don't really know much. When I look at those people, bro, and those people who are willing to try and work, I

see myself. Okay. And so my passion, like when I start getting after people and telling them the truth with authority, that comes from a place of me knowing what the fuck you are capable of. That's not me angry. That's me saying you are fucking selling yourself short and you are fucking your whole life up and you should get your fucking ass in gear so you could actually build something because you're perfectly capable. That's where that comes from it comes from me understanding completely that most people are selling themselves short on their entire capabilities from top to bottom in every single area of life and that's where it comes from and people know it can be done bro not only can it be done that's what we're here to do

yeah that's what we're here to do you're not here to sit your fat ass on the fucking couch watch fucking netflix bro and order fucking dine and dash whatever fuck you guys use these i don't even know because i don't go to the door dash i think i don't know none of that shit i don't i don't i don't know any of it i'm just saying that's not how you're supposed to live you're not supposed to live scrolling through this fucking phone for 17 fucking hours a day we're reading everybody else's life getting involved in drama on everybody else's shit bro you know why i don't get involved in shit because i'm too busy doing shit

you know like dude if you guys would just step the fuck up and actually do some shit you would realize how much less anxiety you'd have because you couldn't care about all the other shit you care about. There's no room for it. Yeah. Anyway, some people are going to get it. Some people aren't,

you know, if you are one of these people who feels alone because it is a very lonely journey, uh, RTA syndicate is an organization that I run with. Am I let one of the best entrepreneur minds that I've ever fucking heard of? He's definitely the best speaker going on right now by a lot. We run this group. It's filled with real entrepreneurs, people who are not only driven to succeed, not only driven to build great shit, but they are committed to

helping you get on the same path. And these are real people. These aren't like just people on the internet flexing their fake ass Huracan shit. These are actual people running businesses. We only open up enrollment a couple times a year. It's open right now. If you guys are interested in RTA Syndicate, go to rtasyndicate.com, fill out the application, and we'll let you know because it's a super

valuable group and people are winning in there. If you don't want to join it, don't join it go be alone i don't it's fine can i ask you a question on the rta uh syndicate real quick no real shit who is rta not for like be 100 who is it not for it's not it's not for people that want to get rich quick it's not for people who think they're going to start a business on day one and be fucking millionaires in 12 fucking days it's not it's not for people who are drama. It's not for people who are trying to sell shit. It's not for

people who are going to try to milk the group. It's for people who want to be surrounded by quality, real entrepreneurs, not internet entrepreneurs, real entrepreneurs that run real shit that all share information about how to build something real. Okay. E-commerce is just a tool that we use. Okay. We build brands, we build companies, we make the world better. We instill positive cultures into our society by instilling them through our business. One of the biggest focuses of Arte Syndicate is how to create the proper culture inside your business and how important it is, because one of the major initiatives of Arte Syndicate is that we make the world fucking better through entrepreneurship.

This is about ethical entrepreneurship and creating a system inside your company that not only makes you wealthy, but makes your employees wealthy. And then also contributes a tremendous amount of good to your local community right in front of your face. And we have all kinds of people who are committed to that, who work towards that, who help each other do that. And entrepreneurship's lonely as fuck. And it's very hard to get around a group like this. A lot of you guys ask the questions every day. How do I meet people that are on the path? This is how. Okay.

So we open it up a couple of times a year. If you want to apply, apply. Not everybody gets in and it is what it is. So I would apply. And it doesn't matter if you're starting out in the beginning or if you're running a hundred plus million dollar company, we have people from all different parts of the, of the journey inside this group intentionally because when you're starting out you need the hundred million dollar guys to fucking talk to you and you need the ten million dollar guys to talk to you and girls and

that's how it works everybody works together to bring everybody up so rising tide raises all ships it's a powerful group it speaks for itself the results speak for itself and if you want to apply, it's open now. And I think it's open until February 7th. Yeah. So that's the deal. Sweet. Well, I got some good ones for you. Good. Let's fucking talk about it. Knock these out. All right. Andy, question number one. Andy, what's your take on Tom Brady retiring? You just announced that today. Did he stay too long or not long enough? And how does that translate into just real world success?

I don't think it's my position as someone who hasn't become as great as he has at his skill set. He's the greatest of all time at what he does. And I don't think someone who, like me, who is pretty good at what they do and not the greatest of all time has any right to decide or criticize what he decides to do. And I think most people should feel that way. I think most people on the internet fucking have an opinion about everything and they don't know what the fuck they're talking about. If this man wants to play another year, you play another year. He's the greatest fucking football player to ever fucking play. If he does it go party bro

you did a great job we all appreciate you be with your family do whatever you want i respect the dude's greatness i think the dude's greatness in my lifetime in sports you know because greatness is a quality that you admire across spectrum right like we don't admire greatness just in, and this is something about our taste syndicate. That's really cool. It's like, we bring people in that have achieved in all areas and all across the spectrum. Um, and we bring in the real people who built the stories that you've heard about to teach the fucking shit inside. So, uh, but the point is I respect greatness, whether it be, you're a great whether it be you're a great athlete, whether you're a great musician, whether you're a great entrepreneur, whether you're just a

great philanthropist or an organizer or just a great fucking set of parents, right? Like I, greatness is applicable to all different areas. And so like when I see someone like Tom brady who is legitimately the greatest at what he did of all time i don't feel like i'm in a place to judge whatever decision that makes and i appreciate his story it's inspired me uh you know coming out of college he was nobody i remember watching the game i was watching the game live when drew bledsoe got hurt and he got put in the game and that started his career i was watching you know uh i was watching the game live when Drew Bledsoe got hurt and he got put in the game and that started his career. I was watching, you know, I was watching his, I've watched his whole career.

You know, he's a, he's a year or two older than me. I've watched him the whole time. I hated the Patriots with a passion, but I always loved Tom Brady. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And I just, I love that kind of greatness. I love that commitment to greatness. And, you know, I think the cool thing about Tom Brady's story is that while he was a good athlete,

he wasn't a super gifted athlete. He is the product of the things that we talk about on this show, which is perseverance and putting in the work when no one's watching and making sure that you do all the extra things and becoming a student of what it is that you do so that you can become great. And I think the coolest thing about Tom Brady is, is that he wasn't born that way. He became that he worked and it's a true inspirational story because there are guys that play sports that are so fucking athletically gifted that they just dominate. Right.

Um, but he's just not one of them and that's no disrespect to him i think it's more respectful that i'm talking about how he built it so you know it's sad to see him retire i you know i think he could still play i think this year really fucked him up because you know there's a lot of other shit yeah you know the fucking media was blowing him up and people were fucking with him and he had personal shit going on and his team really didn't play that hard let's be real i watched a bunch of their games they didn't play for him the way that they have and if i were him i'd probably be fucking done too why the fuck would you want to be around that shit yeah i just gotta be real yeah like he ain't gonna say that because he's a classy dude but i'm much less classy right do you what do you recommend because i mean you talk about it right

like like you know people that get in business and they they think they're going to make these big exits and they go you know live that retired life and two weeks later they're fucking miserable what do you what i mean those people never get to the big exit though bro that's the thing like those people never get to the big exit or the fucking so like when when all these people look man success is about it is literally about winning the day and getting better every single day. It is not about an outcome. A lot of people will say, oh, it's about an outcome. It is. We can talk about that. We can say, okay, I want to build a company that's worth a hundred billion dollars. All right. We can say some shit like that. But the way to get to that is not to sit

here and talk about a hundred billion dollars it's to get better every single day and make sure you're stacking those wins and so the people that that that think like okay man i'm gonna you know you're 20 years old right now and i'm gonna start a company and by the way i thought this way too just so we're clear so i'm not dogging on anybody it's a it's a product of where you are in the journey. I'm 20 years old. I'm going to work until I'm 40 and then I'm going to spend the rest of my life on a fucking beach. But what you don't understand at 20 years old is that you're going to get to a point where you can do those things and still do your company. And you're going to get to a point where you understand that your

company is not just about you and about you retiring and kicking your feet up like you're on a Corona commercial. That's not what this is about. And as your perspective changes over the course of time, it becomes less about you and more about the mission of your company and providing for the dreams of the people that helped you get to the point where you could go to the beach. Okay. So it's when we start here in the beginning and we say, I've tried to get to, that's okay. You might want to get there. And I'm not going to dog you for that. But the truth of the matter is the people who truly never go through that transition, they never get to the point where they have the big exit because it's always about them. It's always about what they can take. It's always about how much money they're making.

And the reality is people don't want to fucking work for that. If people don't want to work for that, how can you expect a whole conglomerate and massive amount of people to work together towards a focused goal? You can't. Okay. So most of those people who think that way, bro, they don't really ever get to that point in their life. The people who actually get to that point in their life are the people who understand that this is a day by day by day thing. It's groundhog day, every motherfucking day, bro. There's nothing,

there's nothing glorious about it. There's nothing that does that fun about it. Now you will have some fun along the way because you're going to be working with people that you like, right? That's the reality. But you know, I've talked to many people who have exited their businesses, uh, and a lot of my friends, man, and their businesses. Uh, and a lot of my friends, man, and they, yeah, they got a lot of money, but the problem was they lost their purpose and they have a hard time readjusting. So my advice is, you know, besides all the shit I just said, if you are, if you do get to a position where you're available to exit, I've been offered to exit fucking, I mean, dude, it's, I don't even know, a couple hundred times I've had people come to us and try

to buy our shit. What am I going to do? What am I going to do? I'm just going to sell the company, sell all my friends away, fucking be irrelevant, go home and do what? The same shit I do at home now? You see what I'm saying? So you have to have, if you are going to exit and you do get to that point where you want to exit, it's important to think about what you're actually gaining by getting the extra money. Because if your life isn't changing that much and it's not even really improving that much, really all you're doing by exiting is fucking making your life less, not more. Right? Yeah. Okay. Cause like, dude, that kind of money wouldn't really change my life at this point in time. I have everything I want. I can do anything I want i can do anything i want i do anything i want i do it

exactly how i want so if i were to do that what am i what am i gaining i'm not really gaining anything i'm actually losing okay and i think it's important for people to understand especially if you're a driven person like i'm a very driven person if i don't have a project i'll self-destruct okay so it's important for you guys out there to realize that this is a reality when you get to the point where people want to start purchasing your company or you know uh there's a potential exit you have to really consider like what is this about for you and be honest with yourself because if you make the wrong decision and you sell out all your purpose, it doesn't matter how much money you're going to have. You're going to be fucking miserable.

I've seen that happen over and over, bro. Oh, man. You know, you want to have a clear path to find, and this goes for athletes too. There's a lot of pro athletes to fucking listen to the show. You guys all want to have a clear path defined post career, right? Like I, I, I,

I haven't done that for myself. I don't know what my path is, but if I ever do define a clear path past that point, you know, then I could consider maybe exiting. But the point of it is, is that we're, you know,

it's not just a, Hey, let me sell my shit and live on the beach. Like, bro, that shit would be boring after three days, you know? Yeah, that's real. And that's not a reason to like, it's not a strong enough reason to pull you through the amount of bullshit that getting to that point actually fucking takes. Yeah. What it actually requires yeah

so like when you talk to people like when i talk to young people and they're like man i just want to retire by time i'm 35 i know for sure that that person is likely to quit because it's not enough real motivation to pull you through the bullshit it's just not would you say likely to quit or just hasn't reached that level of business maturity yet to understand i got lucky that i didn't quit yeah okay i got lucky that i didn't quit i i fought like that yeah and i got lucky i tried to quit remember i tried to go fucking sell clean carpets there was other things i was looking at the thing that saved me is the thing i tell you guys all the time, which is I had zero options. I had fucking no option. I had to fucking do it. Okay. So you having limited

resources, you having no other options is actually something that contributes to the progress of your overall growth if you see it the proper way. Because there was tons of times where I wanted to fucking quit or I wanted to give up or I wanted to pivot, but I just couldn't because I was tied into this and I didn't have any other things I could do. So I got real lucky that none of those other things I looked at took me off the path when they were very close to taking me off the path. Okay. And had I went through with the carpet cleaning story, right? For those of you that don't know 10 years into the business i was still making only 695 a month we were frustrated chris and i started looking at closing the business we talked about it i actually was going to go open a sears carpet cleaning

franchise and i was about one inch away from becoming andy the carpet cleaning guy right we actually went to the hotel room of the executive who came to st louis to have me sign the papers i went there after i had already signed them and i went and i said hey um say hey can i see those papers that we signed and he's like yeah sure he took them i ripped him up and that's how i got out of the deal i ripped him up right in front of his face he got super pissed bro he fucking motherfucked me but here i am and i'm not there yeah so that's how close you see what i'm saying so i know that people like to think like that they end up quitting it's that perspective switch that gets you re-engaged in the business and gets you moving the right path what is the purpose who are you obligated to take care of what is the mission that you're trying to accomplish? And when you

think of it in terms of that, you don't run into these situations where you want to just quit. Andy, question number two. Andy, I absolutely love your show and I've used your knowledge to genuinely build a better life for myself and my family. I listened to the episode where you talked about taking the negative energy from others and using it as fuel to prove them wrong. After some reflection, I realized that I am one of those people who give the negative energy. I don't necessarily talk shit about people directly, but I found that I do harbor resentment or envy even, and I want to be done with it. I'm now aware of this,

but how do I fix it? It's process. Okay. And here's the good news. First of all, congratulations on recognizing that you're a fucking hater. No, I'm being real.

I'm being real dude, because that fucking intention that you have for other people will keep you from ever building anything relevant for yourself. The universe, God, however you want to see it, I see it as God and the universe being the same. I think it's all the same thing.

They reward intent. It rewards intent. So when you look at someone else and you fucking hate on them, even in your mind and heart, okay, what you're telling the external universe is that you do not value what they are doing. And in return, what you will get back is not that. Okay. So if you see Steve winning and Steve is really someone you really don't give a fuck about, maybe, you know, he fucked your chick back

in the day. I don't fucking know. You just don't like him. And Steve's winning. And you look at Steve and you're like, fuck that guy. The universe only hears. Andy doesn't like what Steve is doing, so I'm not going to deliver what Steve is doing. So you have to be very careful to weed this shit out of you. And it's not just what you say verbally. It's what you think and it's what you feel. So first off, congratulations on recognizing it.

I think most of us start off at that point and we evolve from there. I know I did as well. Now, the second part, how do you fucking fix it? Well, you catch yourself. See, awareness isn't a valuable tool. When you are aware that this is something that you have the propensity to do and you get jealous, that's a normal human feeling that you have the propensity to do and you get jealous, that's a normal human feeling. That is the point where you stop and you say, fuck, you know what? I'm actually happy for Steve. And you correct the thought, okay? And you push it out. How can you be happy for someone who did you wrong? That's irrelevant. You have to be willing to forgive. You have to be willing to look at what they're producing, acknowledge it for its greatness, and then be happy that they're doing it because then more of that shit comes to you. This is how it actually works. But most people can't get over

the first part, which is their own jealousy, their own ego, and their own insecurity about what someone else is doing versus what they're doing. And so when we talk about how to fix it, it's very simple. You're aware now. Now you're already aware. That's the first step to fixing it. The second step is to tune your voice. Just like whenever we talk about 75 hard, live hard, having a bitch voice and a boss voice. That hater shit comes from the bitch voice. Okay. So your fucking, your goal is that when you hear that bitch voice, tell it, shut the fuck up and replace it with the boss voice. Okay. And most people are not aware of their internal dialogue, believe it or not. Most people walk around, we call them non-playable characters. Okay. They're NPCs. These are people

who do not have an internal dialogue. They're going through life. You know, they're npcs these are people who do not have an internal dialogue they're going through life you know they're going the wrong way down the fucking aisle in the grocery store to drive like shit they don't give a fuck because they don't they aren't aware of anything okay that's most people you have to understand that you now have graduated from np to an aware person, especially in success. Okay. That's a huge fucking deal that most people never do. So be proud of yourself for recognizing that it's a problem and now get to work on correcting it as it goes. And what will happen over time is that you will be cut. This will become such an internal habit for you that eventually you won't even have to have this internal dialogue. Like for me now, I don't have to have it. Like those thoughts of

jealousy of other people's success, they don't even happen to me anymore. Now I just look at it and I'm like, that's fucking cool, man. And that's how I feel. It's very organic. And that's just a process and it takes time. It could take you, you know, it could take you a year. It could take you 10 years. It's part of maturing. All right. So, but it's a very practical thing because the energy that you put out is the energy that you receive, whether you verbalize it or not. So it's important that you're aware of it. I think it's a huge deal, bro. I think you should be very proud of yourself for admitting to yourself that, hey man, this is, I'm putting out the wrong shit because most people never do that most people nowadays it's popular for people just to clout chase by hating on motherfuckers and then they can't figure

out why nothing really ever happens and why their life looks like yes they can't figure out why they can't monetize or why they can't do this why they can't do that well the reason why is because you're putting out the wrong fucking energy bozo yeah okay you got to fix it so i want to clarify the best way is you're saying to just separate the person whoever you have that that that you know feeling towards and just focus on the fucking what actually was accomplished yeah but people will say this about competitors right like i fucking hate these competitors they're always doing this and this and this and this. Okay. You can be competitive and still wish the best for the other person. And this is the trick to that.

You start to see it as what's possible for you. So when I see someone that outdid me, which is very fucking infrequent. Okay. Just being real. But when I see someone who's doing better than me for real real talk when i see someone who out did a better job at something than me which happens every day bro like i'm not the best in the world at what i do i learn every fucking day okay so but when i see someone that's doing better than me or that has done better than me and they're a competitor i say okay fuck yeah bro that's awesome because dude, if they can do that, I can do that too. And that's the way to look at your competitors, right?

And then keep in mind about the energy thing that you put out. You got to be genuine about it. Yeah. It's got to be real. And that's a process to create. It just takes time. But the first step of just realizing that you're a fucking hater, that's the step that most people won't fucking do ever. They won't ever do it. They'll justify why they hate. They'll be like, yeah, you know what? You're right. I am a hater, but fuck that guy anyway, and blah, blah, blah.

While they're sitting on a fucking bar stool on fucking Wednesday afternoon at two o'clock, crying about how they don't have no money and their fucking wife hates them and their fucking life sucks. It's your intent, bro. It's the fucking truth. And it will change your life. But people don't think it is. They don't have no money and their fucking wife hates them and their fucking life sucks it's your intent bro it's the fucking truth and it will change your life but people don't think it is they don't believe in it you know you have all these rich motherfuckers all over the fucking earth telling you this shit's real like you have you have entire communities of people talking about how intent law of attraction some of the most successful people in fact most of the most successful people in the world talk about this shit,

but then people still think it's bullshit. I, you know, I could talk about it all day, bro. Raffles me. Yeah. I mean, but if I see all 10 people of the people that I respect most talking about the same shit, guess what? I'm going to fucking do it. Yep. Yeah, that's real shit, man.

It's super real, bro. I think if you're putting a percentage on it, I think it's 60%, maybe 55% your actions and 45% that. That's how much of it I think it is. It might even be 50-50. That's a lot. Yeah, I don't know. I think it takes both, though.

Because every single person that I look up to in business or that I respect in business, they believe that it's very evenly distributed. You got to have the work, and then you got to have the metaphysical, quantum physical aspect of power of intent, law of attraction, visualization, however it is that you call it. Prayer, right? Andy, our third and final question i like this this is a good one here andy i'm 20 years old no no no no joke yeah this is a good joke no but i like i mean this kid's trying to do it man all right uh andy i'm 20 years old and i work in

construction my dream is to build a construction empire of my own one day and hopefully have you as a client. To keep myself motivated and working towards this goal, I've been going to a really fancy restaurant once a month and ordering whatever I want without thinking about it. To me, it's my way to taste success because it's something I know I can regularly enjoy one day when I've built a successful business. I feel great when I do this, but I'd be lying if I say I wasn't scared of the bill every now and then. Is this a healthy way to approach tasting success or are there better ways to accomplish this without spending the money? Well, first of all, I hope you achieve all of

that. I think there's going to be a massive need for blue collar uh construction work because there's so few people doing it so if you're a young person and you're considering a construction career there's more opportunity in my opinion right now it's almost like we're starting over there like all the old dogs are retiring there's nobody in the middle and if you're a young person that wants to get into the the actual construction trade and build a company that's i don't think there's ever been an opportunity a better opportunity for that um so that's first thing second thing in regards to uh tasting success look this is another reality that people don't want to acknowledge or they hear the wrong way a lot of people will hear what i'm about to say is fake it till you make it which is not the i'm saying you have to stretch bro you have to

stretch yourself and you have to experience things i talked about this recently on an episode i can't remember which one where we had a situation where people most people set small limits and small goals because they've never experienced anything outside of that. How can you imagine a bigger life than what you have if you've never experienced or touched or tasted anything more than that in your whole entire life? How do you know it's possible? So it's very important to stretch and i'm not

talking about stretching every way i'm not talking about financially get a bigger house and a car you can't afford and go that's how people ruin themselves okay bankruptcy yes yeah but people also you know they say they think if they can do that that they'll that people will eventually come to them and like want to work with them and And the reality is, is dude, anybody you want to work with recognize what the fuck you're doing. Okay. So they know that shit is bullshit, but I think stretching in that way is a healthy way. I think, I think stretching in ways like that, where it's a, it's a reward. And also you're acknowledging like, Hey, I'm expanding what my limitations are once in a while. I think that's super important. I think it's super important. I think it's super important for

people who are on the entrepreneurial path to take advantage of the opportunities that they have to taste a bigger life, especially from other entrepreneurs. This is one of the powers of Arte as well. You have a lot of people on all the spectrum, right? You have the day one people who are just getting it going, and then you have people who are worth hundreds of millions of dollars and above. And in this group, you get to experience and touch and see and taste what real success actually looks like, not this internet bullshit. And that's a powerful thing.

However you do it, don't be irresponsible with Okay. And that's a, that's a powerful thing. However you do it, uh, don't be responsible with it. You know what I'm saying? Don't go way beyond your means where you're risking your company or your dreams or risking going broke. But I think it's important for people to do that. Some of the ways I used to do this whenever I didn't have much. And honestly, there's a funny story because I went out to I went out to our local exotic car dealership here. And I would go in there and I would walk around like Brian, no business being in there. I couldn't buy one fucking vehicle in there. Nothing. Okay. And there was a guy there who's not

there anymore, who reminded me of that. And then later on down the road, I became their best customer. And so yeah, but that's a story for another day. So I would go in, I would walk around, I would be respectful. I wasn't sitting on cars or fucking taking pictures for my gram or like some of you motherfuckers do that now. It's ridiculous. I would just look around and i would drive by big homes that i want to live at in fact i've told the story a number of times about how the fuck i ended up at the house i'm in now okay the house i'm in now was me tasting it along the way like bro when they were building that house okay the original house that was there was a log cabin that got struck by lightning.

Then they built a replica of a historic mansion called Oak Alley. Okay. On the property where Ulysses S. Grant's cabin was. Okay. And his original horse stables and the tree in the front yard where there's a photograph of him sitting next to all these things. They're all, all the property's original. I didn't even know that until i moved in there so while they're building this house i'm sitting outside watching them build it because you in the winter time you could see the house it's up on the top of this hill it's it's massive and uh i'd pull in the construction workers would come down and they shoot me off and And dude, during all those times that I was suffering and all those times I was broke and not be able to afford shit and never thought I had a future. Like when I visualized a house that I was going to live in, I actually visualized that specific

house, that house, the one I live in now, the one I fucking take shits in and fucking eat my dinner. And the one I walk around naked in, I fucking take shits in and fucking eat my dinner and the one I walk around naked in I fucking live in the house that I visualized 20 fucking years ago as I was going through the process of entrepreneurship I live in it exact house not only that the house before that the house I lived in before that you've seen it it was also very nice and uh you know how And you know what I used to do? I used to drive up and down that street as they were building that street when I was fucking broke. Okay. So this shit is real. It's real shit. It really happens. And you have to figure out ways

to window shop. That's what I call it. So I call it window shopping. I would drive through neighborhoods. I would go to car dealers. I would do exactly what this person did. So I call it window shopping. I would drive through neighborhoods. I would go to car dealers. I would do exactly what this person did, where I would go to a nice dinner. I used to do that exact same thing, even though I couldn't afford it. Another thing I would do is I would look on DuPont Registry. DuPont Registry is a car home property site of luxury items. I look through there. There's another one called james edition yeah you gotta be hooked i look through that one's awesome yeah it's international so but i still do that i probably spend still guys like real talk probably at least an hour or two a day window shopping when i window shop right now today for probably an hour or two a day that's

how i unwind at home when i go home and i get done here i go home i fucking go in my uh my lounge in my cigar bar okay my cigar bar right and uh and i fucking you know may or may not partake in some festivities and then i uh scroll through the internet and look at shit that i want to fucking grow up and have one day like right now i look at fucking ranches that are a hundred thousand fucking acres or i look like at castles in fucking italy and i look at like airplanes that are you know i look at boats i look at this i look at that i look at all this shit it's not even that i want all that shit but i know that if i'm a if i'm looking and i'm tasting it but the rest of my life will progress to the point where that would be a real option it is a real option for me at this point it's almost like like before you even see that your brain doesn't even know it it just doesn't know that shit exists bro it's

how the fuck can you know what exists if you've never been around it yeah like dude like so important man yeah it's huge dude think of all the people that grow up uh in the suburbs or in the urban areas that never see like luxury ever. They never see a successful person. They've never seen someone drive up in a Rolls Royce. They've never seen someone, they don't know anybody that's built a real company. This is all just bullshit to them. It's magic bullshit that doesn't exist in reality. And the only way to expose yourself to these things is to intentionally expose yourself to these things. And that's a big, huge part of going from where you are to where you want to be. I actually think

this is a great way to do it. It's a way that I used to do it as well. And it was roughly about once a month. You know what I mean? Once a month, I'd scrounge up a few hundred bucks. I'd go out and fucking do something cool. And that shit kept me going kept me it kept me on the path it made me real and then you know that got more frequently you know what i'm saying and then it got that's how i got to be 350 you know don't do that yeah but go ahead what do you say to people who say that isn't healthy like well let's look at my life and let's look at theirs we'll have a little fucking dick measuring contest to do people can be so weird about the materialistic shit those people are also broke let's look at my life and let's look at theirs. We'll have a little fucking dick measuring contest. Dude, people can be so weird about the materialistic shit, man. Yeah, those people are also broke.

Yeah. It's true. I mean, I'm sorry to deliver the fucking unflavorable truth. Like, that's the fucking truth. These people are fucking broke. The people who tell you this shit are broke. The people who tell you this shit have not built anything. The people who tell you this shit are broke. The people who tell you this shit have not built anything. The people who tell you this shit are fucking experts

at advice and fucking terrible, you know, actual builders of reality. And there's a lot of those people too, especially on Instagram. That's why it's important to get the fuck off of it and get out in the real game and fucking play it. So, you know, to those people who say that that i'm wrong in that you know i don't really give a what they say

stay broke it's real man you know i don't know what to say to that yeah no i mean i mean i look at like this i mean like bro at this point in my life dj like why the would i give a when any like anybody disagrees with what i say bro whatever the i'm doing works pretty well. Now, am I perfect? Fuck no, bro. That's how I know you don't have to be perfect. Okay, I'm a fucking idiot.

I fuck up everything. All right, I made a million fucking mistakes. But you know what I do when I make a mistake? I acknowledge it and I say, Andy, you're a fucking idiot for doing that and fix it. And then I move on doing better. And that's how it works. You know what I'm saying?

This isn't me preaching from my pulpit or my ivory tower saying, oh, I'm the best. What I'm telling you is, is that you don't have to be the best. Okay. You've just got to understand certain principles and tasting success, expanding boundaries, stretching your mental capacity is a huge part of it. And anybody who disagrees and says, oh, that's irresponsible. Well, have fun balancing your $400 a week fucking paycheck for the rest of your life, bro. Because that's all you're ever going to get. You're going to get a fucking very, very bare minimum life. It's just not a good way to be.

If you've never experienced anything, if you've never brought anything into your mental reality, into your quantum reality, you can't produce it in real life. So, you know, if people disagree they disagree they're it's free country sort of you know that's the next episode yeah talk about that on cti no man and i'm not trying to be disrespectful either dude like but it's the truth if you think about the people who tell you to simmer down get realistic get, get a real job. When are you going to get serious?

When are you going to quit dreaming? When are you going to do this? It's never from someone who's done the shit that you want to do. It's never that way ever, ever, ever. It's never fucking that way. It's always the same kind of people. It's the people who you've known for a long time, who you think are your friends, who now they're looking out for you in your best interest. And really the reality is they just don't want to see you go down this path and then have to acknowledge that they had the same opportunity and you took advantage of it and they didn't. And that's what the fucking truth is. That's the truth. That's the fucking truth. There's no, these people are not comfortable with who they are and misery loves company. It's

a real shit. It's a real thing. I did a whole episode on this book, crabs in a bucket. I don't know what episode that is, but look that up and let me know. I'll say it. But dude, most people want to pull you back in because they think they're doing you a fucking favor. Episode 59, go listen to it. Explain this whole concept. These people think they're doing you a favor by protecting you from what could happen, which is actually their fear of what could happen to them. Okay. They're not thinking, if I don't do this, I'm going to stay the same like a successful person thinks. Like a successful person does not think, man, if I do this, I might fall on my face. That's not how they think. They think, fuck, if I don't do this, I'm definitely going to fall on my face eventually. That's how they

think. So when you run into those people and we're going to run into those people, because that's the majority of people, you have to be disciplined enough and you have to be logical enough and clear thinking enough to understand that when you get upset about their opinions about what you're trying to do, that would be the same as you going to, um, you know, uh, a doctor's office with a problem with your fucking car. And then the doctor coming out and telling you some shit about your car and you being pissed off about it. Like they don't know, they don't know. There's no, there's no connecting of the fucking dots in their brains about what they're talking about. And because we live in this society where everybody has to have an opinion on fucking everything at all times, a lot of people are quick to voice their opinion about your life

when they literally know nothing about life. They haven't built anything. They haven't done anything. They're not even fucking taking care of their own shit, but they'll be happy to tell you what the fuck you're doing wrong. That's a major problem in society. And if you don't have the discipline and the logical mind and the critical thinking to understand, my homie Steve here doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about. If you can't at least understand that, you're going to get sucked

back into them. It's just reality. Not only does your homie Steve fucking not know what he's talking about, your homie Steve is trying to hold you the fuck back from the life that you actually want. So that actually makes him not your homie Steve, which means you should fucking leave him behind and just go on your fucking journey. Like I explained in the previous podcast a couple of days ago, I think it aired on Monday. You're going to go through phases on this. Okay. You're going to have to leave your little comfort of the nest and all your siblings and all your friends and all the people who live like you, who aren't willing to expand. And you're going to have to go on this journey. And in the middle of this journey, you're going to feel alone. And you're going to say, fuck, they were right.

It's lonely at the top. When you're making a hundred grand a year, you're not at the fucking top, bro. You're not at the top. You're not even at the fucking base of the mountain. You're a base camp motherfucker. And when we go from to that first area where we find, okay, now, now we're at 250 grand and we're starting to hang out with a bunch of people to make 250 grand. Oh, all these people actually are interested in the same shit as me. Wow. This is much more rewarding. These people are hating on me. They're hating on me a little bit. But as you go further down the pipe and you get into the higher and higher and higher

levels of success, what you're going to realize is that those relationships are far more beneficial and far more valuable to you than what your previous relationships would have been from the old days back in the old neighborhood. Okay? So you have to move through the process. It's part of it. You're going to feel alone. You're going to feel fucking angry. You're going to feel frustrated. You're going to feel like nobody understands you. That is the life you're choosing. That is the life you're choosing. Okay. It's just part of it. So remember, if you get far enough down the road, you'll get to a point where other people are on the same alignment as you, and they will help you push forward.

Those motherfuckers are your fucking homies. The people who actually help you, the people who actually push you forward, the people who actually give a fuck what it is that you're doing or not doing. Not the people who say, oh man, meet me at fucking happy hour on wednesday bro tony's has two dollar fucking beers it's sweet you know for your whole life till you're 75 years old fuck that bro that ain't a life and those ain't your homies guys yeah you have a small follow-up yeah about the visual visualization stuff that you were talking about a few days ago on your instagram story you showed some pictures from 2010 where you were visualizing

about your cars and your garage the question that i had that video i made the video that was super popular that is the reason that is the reason why i'm asking this question because i feel like if i'm thinking like this partly a lot of people would be thinking like that. When you are at that stage, in your words, you were struggling financially and you're constantly thinking about paying your bills and quote unquote, you're in a mindset of lack and you're still trying to visualize that abundant life and you're still worrying about paying your bills, how do you balance that? By doing the work every single day to get better. So like, dude, this is why I'm so big on the power list and why I'm so big on 75 hard and live hard lifestyle. Because if you did everything that

you could do today and you did everything that you could do, let's say tomorrow, and you did that for enough days in a row, you're going to have the inner peace to understand, look, I'm doing what I can do. I couldn't be doing any more. All right. And that frees you up from the anxiety of having what you, your financial situation now to allow you to see ahead because now you're allowed to give yourself the credit that says, okay, I'm doing everything that I can. This is a great fucking question, bro, because a lot of people get hung up on this internal feeling that you're talking about and they make, it makes them feel like it's impossible. So the way to fucking move past that feeling of lack that you're talking about is to make sure

that you're executing, uh, on a win the day basis at a very high level for enough time that where, you know, and you can say to yourself honestly with no bullshit no lies no justification hey i couldn't be fucking doing anymore you know this is why this is very important yeah very important because we try to fall on either extremes either we are like constantly stressed the hell out of our mind about our bills yeah or either we are like two in the daydreaming world we are thinking too much and we know in our heart like you said you can't say to your heart that it's really possible well this is why the work comes before to believe that's right you see what i'm saying that's right so you have to be doing the work to free your inner dialogue to actually believe that you are moving this way so like

if you're not doing the work right and you're sitting around and you're being a lazy fuck like a lot of people do right a lot of people read the book the secret and they're like oh fuck all i gotta do is visualize this shit and it fucking is gonna happen cool i don't have to do shit and they take it the wrong way and what you have to realize is that you cannot just visualize being a lazy person because visualization only works when you have belief that That's why you said 50-50. Yes. So it's important what I'm saying here. Visualization, you're dreaming, only works when you have belief.

And the only way that you can have belief is that if you've been doing the work and you can tell yourself in an honest way, yes, I'm struggling now, but I'm doing every single fucking thing that I can to get better. And that allows you to have the true, actual belief that fucking thing that I can to get better. And that allows you to have the true actual belief that things are going to improve and get better. And that this is a real possibility for you. And that's where the magic is. That's an important, super important question that you just brought up, bro. Super important. Because I personally struggle with this a lot. Yeah. A lot of things that I think think about especially after coming into this area and this atmosphere of abundance i thought that was never possible yeah but then

you inch forward inch forward inch forward and like you said have this belief yeah incrementally build up well i saw you cruise around that expensive tesla bro you're doing all right well i'm driving an electric car i know your opinion on those that's okay hey you look good in it i'm just saying i make it work yeah that's right so like bro i'm just saying you know you gotta you gotta give yourself credit for the work that you are doing you're building right now yeah you know what i'm saying and people the reason people disconnect this point is because they think like i said that they can just imagine shit and that it's going to come true and that that's not how the fuck it works. You have to actually believe the visualization.

You have to see it. You have to smell it. You have to taste it like this person was doing and you have to make it real. And the only way that you can get yourself to a point of belief is that if you've been executing long enough to understand that I'm doing everything I can on a day by day basis. Okay. This is why I was so fucking frustrated when I got sick with 75 hard this last time, because bro, I had put so much, so much intent into every step of every task of

every fucking day up until day 52, when I got fucked up. Okay. I gave it everything I had more than I could more than I've given to any other time I went through 75 hard. And the results were showing it. I got more transformation physically in 51 days than I got in 75 days any of the other times because I was just that much more intentful about what I was doing. Okay? And so that gives you the confidence when you execute day by day, by day,

by day, by day, to get to a point where you can believe what's possible. That's, that's a huge magical thing. And I'm glad you asked the question, man, because, uh, because that's a, that's a big hangup for people. People will try to visualize, but in the same, in the same breath in their mind, right? Their mind voice, they're saying, well, that'll never happen for you. And the reason you say it's never going to happen for you is one of two reasons. One, you've never been around it.

You've never tasted it. You've never touched it. You've never felt it. Two, probably three reasons. Two, you've been surrounded by a bunch of mediocre motherfuckers your whole life who've been telling you shit that ain't true about you. Or three, you haven't been executing all you can do.

And so you know deep down inside that if you're not executing at the highest fucking level, uh, that you can't produce these results. And you know, that intuitively we all do, we all know that you really just can't visualize shit and magically appear, but because some motherfuckers wrote a book and only told half the story, right. Um, which was a valuable book because it opened up people's eyes to the whole law of attraction visual visualization but it only if you watch the video or you read the book which is where a lot of people stop you know you have to understand that the secret is like a coloring book for law of attraction like it's very very very very fucking primitive and it's designed to get you to understand that there's an entire world out there

and if you dig deeper and dig deeper you to understand that there's an entire world out there. And if you dig deeper and dig deeper and deeper, you'll understand that there's actual quantum physical evidence to show that this is actual truth. This actually works. This is scientifically proven to be true. Now, that's a journey you need to go on on yourself. But the point of it is, is that when we really understand the whole story, it's not just visualization. It's visualization coupled with your execution. And when you're executing for a long enough time, the visualization becomes easy to believe. And that's where you got to get to. See what I'm saying? Absolutely. That's why it's important to fucking track your progress. Like the win the day method,

the power list that I give, the reason it's so important, and this is why I like to do it in an actual physical book, okay, is because you can then flip through, you can flip through the pages and actually see, I won this day. I won that day. I won this day. I won six out of seven days this week. I won seven out of seven this week. I won five out of seven this week. I won seven out of seven this week. And you can actually see the this week. I won seven out of seven this week. And you can actually see the progress you're making. And that gives you belief, which allows you to believe what it is you're trying to do. It's a huge deal. And if I'm not wrong, you use the same notebook and you just replace the pages?

Yeah, I do. Yeah. We have a journal that we sell, but I don't actually use that journal. It's wonderful. A lot of people sell the fuck out of it, but I actually am a little superstitious. So like I actually use the same notebook I've always used, which is like a little, it's like this little leather planner thing that has a zipper on it. And it's kind of dorky looking, but. It works.

Yeah, I use it because like it's worked so well. So I don't want to like abandon it. Absolutely. Like an old friend. You know? Well guys, Andy, that was three. Yeah. That was more than three. That was a little aliens and moon.

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