REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 474. Q&AF: Keeping The End Goal Vision, Different Types Of Motivations & Comparing Yourself To Your Friends

Episode Date: February 16, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to keep the vision of your end goal in mind while going through the process, if there's any wrong kind of motivation when it comes to pursuing your goals, and how to get away from constantly comparing yourself to your friends.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. This is where you get to submit the questions and I give you the answers. Now, these questions, they can be about anything. For those of you that listen for our conspiracy theories, you don't realize that I'm actually a pretty successful entrepreneur. I've done a couple of things.

And what I like to do with this format of the show, the Q and AF, is that I like for you to submit questions about how to win, entrepreneurship uh how to get better and then also whatever else you want to ask i'll answer that too but mainly personal development how to win questions is where my wheelhouse is so um you could submit those questions a couple different ways first off uh and the best way to submit them is to email them. Guys, email those questions in to askandy at andyfussella.com. That's Handsome DJ over there. Yes, it is. Yeah.

The other way. I don't want to make you feel bad over here. That's Handsome and Dot. I just stuck my tongue out. Yeah, I saw a little I'll kill you look coming from him right to you. I got so jealous. Yeah, bro. I saw it.

All right. So the other way to submit those questions is, uh, if you didn't know these episodes are a full length posted on YouTube now, uh, that's something we haven't done in the last, you know, eight years we've been doing podcasts. We just started this, uh, about six weeks ago. So the full episode of Q and AF, if you just drop your question in the comment section, we'll pick some from there as well. Make sure you subscribe to that too, because we've got a lot of unique YouTube content coming up. You know, some of the stuff that you guys asked to see a lot of, which is, you know,

behind the scenes type stuff, lifestyle type stuff, that's going to be going on there. And then some specific entrepreneur stuff is going to be going on there too. And that is not where the new MFCEO is going to be posted. That'll be a whole different thing. We'll talk about that later. If you're new to the show, we have multiple different formats. Today, you're going to hear Q and AF. Other times you hear CTI, that's cruise the internet. Now cruise the internet is we put shit on the screen and we cruise the internet. We talk about how fucked up the world is. We make jokes, we laugh at it. We talk about what the problem is and how we can try to solve it. Other times we do real talk. Real talk is

five minutes to 20 minutes of me just giving you some real talk. And then other times we have full length and full length is where, you know, a guest comes in and we have a conversation. And so we do it a little different. You're not going to hear me read ads. You're not going to hear me talk about, you know, this fucking foot cream I'm using that I'm getting paid to use. I don't fucking use. Okay. I don't do that shit. Um, we've run a top rank podcast for almost a decade. I haven't taken ever a dollar for advertising. And the reason I don't is because I don't want to talk about some shit that I'm getting paid to use that I probably don't even actually use. Uh, and I'd rather just you guys trust that I'm being authentic and giving you my authentic opinions on things. So in exchange for that, we ask that if you like the show, if you get value out of the show,

if you learn something, if it helped you, please share the show. The only way our show grows is if you share it. So if we give value, share the show. If we do a bad job, don't share the show. I think that's a fair deal. All right. I think that's good for the housekeeping. What's going on, man? Yeah. What's going on, brother? How's everything? It's good. Yeah. It's good for the housekeeping. What's going on, man? Yeah, what's going on, brother? How's everything? It's good. Yeah? It's good. Somebody, they sent in this question.

I can't remember if it was off the email or the YouTube, but they had asked. They were like, you had told that story back in the day when you didn't know the products that you guys were putting in your store and you had to read it off the label. I already know where the fuck you're going. And somebody had asked, well, fuck, if he didn't know that,

how did you know what to stock the store with? I knew he was going to go there. Yeah. Can we get some insight to that? I don't know if I should tell that or not. I don't know if I should tell that. So basically what I did, you showed illegal.

I don't know if it was illegal. I don't know. We're illegal i don't know we're gonna find out uh so the way that i found out like dude you guys gotta understand i didn't know anything like this is the reason listen the reason i'm so intense with you guys and passionate about your guys's success is because i understand how fucking stupid I was when I started my business and I can see what it's gotten to. And trust me, I'm as surprised as fucking anybody. Okay. And you will be too when I tell you this story, but this is the reason like you guys misunderstand. You think I'm angry. No, I'm fucking angry because you're not believing in

yourself enough to actually understand what you're truly capable of. That's what gets me fired up. And because I know how fucking weak and stupid and, and basically unequipped I was. And I understand what just a simple couple of simple things will lead to. And so that's where I come from. You guys fucking read it all wrong, but that's a whole nother topic. What did I do? Well, do you, do you guys remember those little yellow Kodak cameras that you had to wind up? Yeah. So what I did was I went in the fucking supplement store here in St. Louis and I took pictures of their shelves and then I took pictures of their fucking pricing list and I fucking just ordered the exact same thing so i went in the store i fucking walked through the store like a fucking clown i just took pictures

of every shelf just like this click click click click click trying to do it like discreetly you say you're from the health department no bro no no i knew the guy working i knew the guy working so the but like we were talking and he like went in the back i went you know like thinking i was doing some real fucking cia spy shit okay and uh and you know i'm thinking like fuck like i'm walking out of the building and i'm like fuck dude did i do that too fast are they gonna be blurry like am i gonna be able to see what i got like because you don't know until you develop yeah so then i went got them developed and i fucking looked through them like okay and i matched them up on the price list and i'm like all right and i fucking ordered them bro and

that's how we started our business so you created business espionage yes i don't know if i created it but i definitely executed it here's the thing man like i didn't know how the fuck else do you know like dude you got to understand there's gotta understand there's no google there's no google there's no fucking internet there's no social media how do you know how do you learn that's the only way i could think of to get it done yeah you know i'm saying i feel like that's a hold up that a lot of people have we were just talking about this on the shine ryan episode but it's like there's so much information and tools and everything to our disposal but there's there's still this massive uh just massive like

an inability to just fucking go you know like just go like you don't need the perfect plan you don't need all the fucking tools just go bro i don't know any other way man yeah like i actually think a big part of me becoming uh you know financially successful in life was that i was too fucking stupid to know any better i i really do think that like i i think people look and they think you must be super fucking smart the only reason i sound somewhat smart sometimes and the only reason i'm able to predict things ahead of time is because i spent the last 24 fucking years running a business, anticipating what I think is going to happen. And I supply those skills over here.

But when I started out on day one, it had those skills. So all you people interpret and, you know, intelligence as experience. And, uh, if you did what I did for 24 years,

you'd have the ability to see around a corner as well. Yeah. You know? So I love it. Yeah, man. And, and like, i did for 24 years you'd have the ability to see around a corner as well yeah you know so i love it yeah man and and like dude that's you know that's the secret for all of you guys like all of you guys have to understand that the things that you admire in most other people are just the result of the experience that they persevered through it's not something that they were born with it's something that they earned through they're willing to go before they had the skills to even go yeah and and you know that's people if there's any secret that's it you want those skills you gotta go do that i think because

we live in this day of age where you know information is so accessible and so deep you know like you can literally go, uh, read all the, like, it's so hard to explain to someone what it was like before the internet, but didn't live in it. Like, it's so hard to make them understand. Like when I try to talk to my, my employees, right. And I'm telling them like, look, dude, we got social media. We got this incredible tool. We got this and this and this and this and this they don't realize that like the social media when i started was i had to walk down the fucking street and knock on fucking doors bro yeah you know like that's real shit that i did for years and years and years and the level it kind of like explains why there's so much in action with so much overload of

information, right? Like, cause you don't have to be really that resourceful. So you never learned the skill of like, okay, well, fuck, I don't have this. I don't have that. I don't have this. How am I going to do it anyway? And because you have this and you have this and you have this. So resiliency is never really picked

up. And I can see this in the younger generations because they have a hard time the minute something goes wrong. The minute something gets fucked up, the minute something goes wrong, the minute their girlfriend breaks up with them, the minute something bad happens, they didn't expect, like, bro, they're fucking wrecked. And it's like, dude, look, man, it takes more than that. You have to push through those things and you have to fucking understand

that solving a problem, regardless of what's going on in your life, regardless of how hard it is, regardless of what, you have to separate these things and understand that you have to still solve the problem. And I think because we have an overload of information and an overload of like

really just like everybody else's shit all the time we have we have access to you know the most detailed information about any subject that can ever like at the click of a fucking button how resourceful can you really learn to be like no you see i'm saying like if you don't have to look very far to fucking survive how good can you be at surviving yeah yeah does that make sense yeah like people think they're good at being resourceful because they can type in and and find an answer on fucking google right yeah but they don't understand like what happens if what happens if the fucking internet went away today exactly how many how many of you guys listening real talk could run a business with no internet how many could do it i could do it because i fucking did it i did it for a long time

all right now will we be able to do how we do it no but i could pivot it real quick fucking did it. I did it for a long time. All right. Now, will we be able to do how we do it? No, but I could pivot it real quick and do it. I know exactly what I would do. I thought about it a lot, actually. That's how you should really think about your skillset. What if the power went out? What if the internet went out? What if you couldn't rely on all these tools? What if you didn't have access to Google? How would you solve the problem? And start thinking like that. And that'll help you develop some real skillset when it comes to being resourceful as an entrepreneur business person. Absolutely, man. And it ties in right with our first question, because it's almost like you got, in order to be resilient, I feel like you kind of have to have that overall

point, purpose, goal. You have to keep that in mind, right? Like why you're doing this shit. And that kind of goes into this first question. So let's get into this. Andy, question number one. Andy, I am currently a student studying for the MCAT, a standardized test to get into medical school. Even though I'm not in the entrepreneur space, the lessons you teach are still applicable. My question is, how do you keep the vision of your end goal fresh in your mind when you have such a long way to go? I've been using aggressive patience and I'm executing on my critical task, but I still have a lot of improvement to make before my big test day. Sometimes I just lose sight of why I'm working so hard when I'm studying in the weekend and the bitch voice starts to creep in. Do you have any advice to keep that overall goal and vision fresh when you have such a long way to go?

Yeah, I could totally relate to that. And so in 2006, I had lived away from home for seven years, started my business. We expanded to St. Louis.is now when i came to st louis i was only making 695 a month i couldn't afford to like live anywhere else so i moved back in with my dad when i moved back in with my dad it was very humbling right i've lived outside now i feel like a fucking loser right now i love my dad i love hanging out with my dad but it's still not that cool when you're 26 27 years old moving back in with your fucking parents after you've been away

right um i met this girl uh who was a friend who was a chiropractor and she was uh pretty much the complete polar opposite of me okay meaning like i was very much X's and O's. This is data math. I'm very data driven, very fact driven, very much so. Like I can look at a Microsoft Excel spreadsheet and it makes sense perfectly to me.

She was the opposite of that. She was very spiritual, very free spirity, very hippie ish. I fucking hated hippies. Okay. I fucking looked at him like you fuckers need to shower. That's what the fuck I thought about hippies.

Now I realize like I was kind of harsh. Some of my coolest friends are those kinds of people. Right. Fucking cool. Still takes fucking showers. Yeah. You should still shower. But she introduced me to the law of attraction. Okay. She should still shower. Uh, but she started, she introduced me

to the law of attraction. Okay. She gave me this book called the secret. And for most of you guys, you guys have either heard of the secret or you've read the secret. If you haven't heard of the secret is a very popular book at that time. Uh, it's still very popular. That is basically an introductory book to the law of attraction. And in that book, they talk about the power of visualization and basically what they call the law of attraction, which is where you paint a vision in your head over and over and over again. And eventually the vision becomes a reality. And so like at the time I was very embarrassed. I was very down. I was very frustrated. I'm a grown man. I had to move back in with my fucking dad because I was broke. i was building a business building a company reinvesting all my money but it still didn't feel

good right like it's not like like you know you're 28 years old bro like back then like i know everybody like fucks each other off fucking instagram now but back then you had to like date people and shit like go out like it just wasn't a good thing like it doesn't living at home wasn't a real like it made pretty much made made you a zero on the on the fucking pussy scale okay right you aren't getting none ever all right so so it was not it was very frustrating and so i'm like fuck it dude you know business was going okay but it wasn't great and i'm like fuck it i'll fucking try this hipp hippie you know and uh so i watched the dvd i read the book and i thought to myself i'm like this sounds like this sounds like

hocus pocus man but like i'm losing now or at least i feel like i'm losing you know i'll commit to it and see how it goes so the first vision i started visualizing, now remember, I have zero money. Okay. Living with my dad, 27 years old, your age. Okay. And I'm fucking, I've started to fit and I have zero fucking money. I'm talking like zero money, dude. Like I don't have fucking savings. Like I'm talking a couple hundred bucks, maybe like total to my name. And I started painting this vision in

my head of what it was, what it would be like for me to be successful. And I had three distinct like visions. It was like a movie that I played in my head before I went to bed every night. The first one was I was driving inside of a Lamborghini and I was pulling up to a, uh, to a private jet, like an FBO. Okay. And I, I driving up and it was, it was a right turn and I like turned right. And then, you know, proper Lamborghinis have doors that go up. And so I would open the door and I would see the door open up in my field of vision and through the, through the hole in the, uh, in the door, I could see the airplane and I could see field of vision and through the hole in the door, I could see the airplane.

And I could see all the suede and the Alcantara and I could smell the car and it was a white Lamborghini. And so then I would get out of the car and I walk over to the plane. I could see the rails coming down the steps. They were chrome. I could see the black tread paper on the tre the treads. It was all perfect pristine They had a rug laid out Got in there white leather black carpet. Um

deep dark wood cabinets like I could like this is the vision I I I painted for myself over and over and over again And the reason i've got my eyes closed right now is because i'm trying to like repeat to you what i'm seeing Because I played this in my head so long And then the other one was where I was on stage and people were just cheering for me. I didn't really know why they were cheering, but they were cheering. And I would paint that at the end of that vision. And I would play that vision in my head over and over and over again, like every day. And I did it every day. Like I

didn't, I didn't fucking not commit. I didn't try for a week. I didn't try for a fucking month. I just fucking said, this is part of my routine now. And so then I started like reading more about the law of attraction. Like I got more interested in it and I started getting into like the quantum physics behind it and the metaphysical theories behind it. And I started really reading in depth about some of the experiments they have done regarding how it works. And so I decided to commit to a little more of it. And so then I made a vision board. A vision board is basically a board. And I went down to Barnes and Noble and I bought all the luxury lifestyle magazines and I cut out all the pictures of the shit that I wanted or that represented my life what i thought was success was at the time and i put him on this

board and um that was 2006 bro and uh by 2011 i was flying private i had a fucking white Lamborghini. Now remember, in 2006, I'm broke. I'm broke. Not kind of broke. Fucking starving broke. By 2011, I'm living that life for the most part of what I was seeing in my vision. So once that occurred to me, because dude, when Sal and I went to pick up that first Lamborghini like to me it was like

it was like it wasn't right it was like it was like no it wasn't imposter syndrome it was like it was like something clicked where I start where I went from thinking I'm like this is it like this is this is what the fuck this is about like this is this is what the fuck this is

about like this is what it takes because i thought that like i really thought that like i i really didn't believe that i could be one of those people does that make sense so like i really i was like it was like surreal yeah and i i started it started to click in my head i'm like well fuck i worked hard i visualized this shit and it happened and so the shit started to really click for me at that time whenever I started to like Actually witness some of the things I was visualizing come true My life changed and then I went all in on the visualization and as you guys know, especially if you're an arte syndicate

This is something that we talk about consistently because it's real shit. And I believe personally, and I can't validate this in any way, but I believe it's as much as 40 or 50% of our success puzzle. Because dude, how the fuck can you, if the universe actually does create your life, okay, from your brain, how can it know what to create if you don't intentionally create it it's going to continue to give you more of what you're thinking about at the time right and since what do most people think about no most people think about thursday night happy hour friday night with the boys bullshit what we're going to do this weekend and so they continuously think about that and that's what they continuously get in their life over and over and over.

Right. I started to put all these things together because I'm like observing and I'm seeing what's going on. And so then I went all in on visualization, like after I started seeing it and that changed everything, bro. And so like now it's, I think it's one of the biggest things that anybody, any of you guys could actually learn to do and believe in. Um, I'm to the point now when I visualize things, I don't question, like there's no doubt inside of me that they're going to happen at all. Like, it's just, I understand how it works.

I understand I've got to do my part. I understand I got to tell the universe what I, what the fuck I want. Right. But i also have to do my part and i understand if i do those things that it will it will be there and that's that's something that i accept as 100 true yeah and so you ask how to keep the vision in the top of your head well you should you should keep the vision in your head every single day and that's how i do it you know now here's uh uh like don't step in this hole, like watch out for this shit. Okay. Um, what will happen is you'll start visualizing in your head, you know, where you want your company. And then you'll start thinking about all the shit that's going on in your company and you'll stop. This is a crete. This is, this is the time

for you to create your life. This is not the time for you to agonize over all the shit that you have to do to create it. This is not the time to think about all the reasons you can't. This is not the time to think about the processes of how. This is a time for you to create creatively and get in touch with the universe and tell the universe exactly what the fuck you want. And a lot of people fuck this up because what they do is they start to see this shit and then the how gets gets in their brain and then that ruins the whole creative process so you have to learn to separate the creative process i'm here to create like dude if you were able to literally imagine your life in your brain and just close your eyes and imagine it what the fuck would it

look like that's what the fuck you're doing when you visualize the rest of the time that you're not visualizing when you're awake and you're at work that's the time to create that's the time to like like how how we're going to do this how i'm going to do my part over here is just what do i want yeah you see what i'm saying paint the vision yeah yeah bro and if most people are honest with themselves and like, if you audit yourself right now and you look at your life and then you're honest and you say, okay, well, what do I concentrate on? What do I fixate on? What are my thought processes? And you can become aware enough to be honest with yourself about where it is you spend your time visualizing. Even if you're not intentionally visualizing, you'll realize that your life is a direct reflection of the thoughts that you think. And so if we're honest with

ourselves, that's the fucking truth. Okay. And this is why so many people get caught up in this cycle of mediocrity. It's because all they think about is how hard they have it. If all you think about is how hard the fuck you have it, guess what the universe is going to give you? More hard shit, right? It gives you more of what you think about so it's important for you to understand that you know we need to be aware you need to develop a certain level of awareness like when you start thinking negative thoughts you need to push those out and people think also then on the other hand like you have one oh fuck bro i've been fixated on this negative thought process that's okay that's okay are you aware that you're negative well yeah that's why i'm upset about well

no shit but see here's the thing most people are never aware of the negative thought process which creates a negative life right they're unaware and just because they're unaware it's just like gravity we might not like the cavemen from back in fucking 10 000 years ago these motherfuckers didn't know uh what gravity was but if they step off the fucking edge of a cliff, they fucking knew. Right. So it doesn't just because these people don't understand how it works. It doesn't mean that it's not working for them right now. Just because you guys listening right now aren't utilizing this doesn't mean that it's

not working for you right now. You just have to adjust and understand the game and work with these things in the proper way and they start producing a different result so How do you keep the vision in your mind visualize every day about where you want to be and make it a fucking point? Surround yourself with everything that you're inspired by surround yourself with a vision board Uh that you can see at your desk or see at home Consistently look at yourself

uh When you see this vision board and see yourself living this life in as much detail as you can, like when you're visualizing at night, you should be trying to smell. You should be trying to feel, you should be trying to make it as real as fucking possible. And here's the last thing I'm going to say about it. You have to make sure that you understand that this is a skillset because when you first start doing it, you're not going to be great at it. It's going to be, you're going to be, you're going to be able to do it for like a very short amount of time. And then you're going to get distracted.

This is no different than meditating, learning how to meditate. Okay. It takes practice. So just because the first three or four days or the first week, it's a little bit hard. Keep going because I promise you this is real shit. And if we're going to put the tinfoil hat on, I believe that all the powers that be understand that this is the truth about humans

And I also believe that the reason they propagate all this unhealthy shit and they tell us that we're stupid and they tell us that We're basically all this fucking bullshit that we aren't Uh is to keep us from understanding what we're actually capable of I think they know what humans are capable of I think they intentionally fucking poison our minds, poison our bodies, keep us suppressed so that we never discover what we're actually capable of. And I think the law of attraction being real is one of the biggest things they don't want people to understand. Yeah, man. Dude, I've seen you visualize shit in five minutes later. Yeah. Well, that's a whole nother thing, bro. It wants you, it's a skill. So once you, once you're good at it, once your mind is strong at it, the distance between when you visualize and when it actually becomes reality shrinks.

Yeah, the lag time. Yeah, man. And that's what made me truly, I mean, there's a few of them, but when I've seen you visualize something, we've talked about it, and then five minutes fucking later, it's there. Yeah. I'm like, there's no fucking way yeah you know um real quick too on the second part you said one of the one of the second things that you visualized back in in 06 was was you on the stage clapping how did that come into fruition well i always wanted to be a rapper dude yeah like i always when i grew up i wanted to be a rapper that was what i thought was cool yeah and so like yeah i know you too joe uh that was my dream dude i wanted to rap i wanted to be like that

kind of i don't know i thought it was cool as a kid and for some reason uh you know and what's crazy is is like i thought about that my whole life right like i want like it was never real for me because i didn't fucking know anybody that rapped i didn't know anybody that made music i grew up on a fucking gravel road with no fucking neighbors bro i didn't know people there was no internet right so it never came my way i played sports but that was my like secret that i didn't want to tell nobody right i thought about it all the time and what's funny is it's like and i'm not saying this to brag but i'm saying this is a dose of reality if you took my presence as a personal development speaker and just made it rapper it's the same fucking thing like people pay to come watch me speak i i live the fucking lifestyle that a rap

that i thought a rapper like i'm living a cribs lifestyle bro like that shit all materialized like i just don't rap lights the camera like that shit all materialized like i just don't rap lights the camera yeah i talk about fucking how to get better which is actually even cooler than rapping yeah you know what i'm saying so you know i could be fucking talking about zizzerp and fucking you know talk about what what was that zizzerp you know scissor sipping on some scissor you don't even know that shit i know i knew it no you fucking not come on man yeah cool man well any question you're laughing at my whiteness though it's a little mayonnaise there was there just a little bit i got it from you

fucker any question number two andy is there any wrong kind of motivation? I recently had a close friend pass away, and I'm finding myself doing things that I know will continue to make him proud. It just kind of feels wrong in comparison to doing these things for myself. So doing things that make me better, doing it for somebody else, or doing it for myself. Is there such a thing as wrong motivation? I mean, look, bro, I come from the school of we're trying to get to a point. We're trying to create.

We're trying to build. We're trying to get somewhere. And I also come from a place where it's hard for me. I'm not overly skilled. I don't have good genetics. I have to fight being a fat fuck every single day. So for me like where i come from and how i think is like i don't really give a what i have to draw on to get me motivated like bro it it can be yes i want to you know it could be purpose motivation which is great i think purpose motivation is the best kind of motivation i think when you have a higher purpose i'm doing things because i'm trying to serve others that's the purpose motivation that lasts forever. But I also don't think it's a bad idea to use the energy that people give us.

When we set out to live a life that's higher than the regular mediocre standard, you're going to get a lot of negativity. And if you don't know how to properly pivot the negative energy that you have into productive action, you're going to have a hard time. So, you know, for example, when I was doing an MFCEO project the first time, you know, a lot of people are like, fuck dude, you're so fucking pissed off. Well, no shit, dude. I've had to grind my fucking ass off for this whole entire time. It's not been fun. And I'm just telling you the reality of it. You know, I get all these people who would come in that never built a motherfucking thing or tried to build a motherfucking thing trying to judge me on why the fuck i was motivated or what i was motivated by andy you know you should be

rooting you should be doing this for the people that love you not trying to spite the people that hate you what if it's both what if it's both what if it's i want to shove it down the motherfucking throat of the people that doubt me but i also want to fucking make the people who support me proud? I think the internet's full of people who judge people on bullshit standards with no nuance whatsoever. Does it really fucking matter if someone's improving the lives of others and improving their own life why the fuck they're motivated or why they're doing it? You know what I'm saying? What's the end result? Yeah, we see this with people who post about charitable acts okay like people like to fucking dog on people that post about charitable acts but

i can tell you as someone who is expected to be charitable okay not everybody's expected to be charitable but when you fucking are when people know that you're wealthy and they know that you're in a certain place in life they expect it right right? And by the way, you should be, you should be charitable. But the, but if you don't show it, okay. To the public crowd, they fucking hate you. And they say you're greedy as fuck and you don't do shit. Right. Okay.

But then when you show it, they say, oh, you're only doing it because you're showing it. Yeah. You're arrogant. Okay. So the point is these are fucking people in the peanut gallery that are fucking idiots. Okay, they're not doing shit for anybody. And we shouldn't listen to them. Okay, so you should show it because it inspires other people to do the same.

That's the reality. Okay, but where I'm going with all this. Motivation. Huh? Yeah, like you could take it wherever the fuck you could find it. You know, like, bro, there's no shortage of negative energy if you're trying to live outside the box the standard framework of most people in society it's just the real this is the real deal man like for whatever reason we can we can analyze the reasons for the next fucking seven hours but people don't like people to do things that remind them of what they're not doing.

They don't like that. That's just the general, and they'll find all kinds of reasons. They'll try to tell people that you're not really who the fuck you are. They'll try to tell people you're fucking people. You're this or you're that or you're this. And like, dude, people fucking hate that shit.

Like people hate it. Like when you go, dude, you could walk on water. You cure cancer. You could fucking cure poverty. You could create world peace and motherfuckers still gonna fucking hate you for it. That's just the reality. So you have to do what you know is right and continue moving down the path. And if people are going to throw things at me that are going to help motivate me, I'm going to fucking use them. You know? So I don't think there is a wrong way to be motivated. Now, um, I do believe that like, you know, when you go through life, things will motivate you differently at different phases of life. Right? Like, uh, when I was coming up in the very beginning, I was motivated heavily by material lifestyle. You know know now i'm not motivated really by material lifestyle

like i i think it's okay i think it's cool i enjoy it but it's not like a main motivation for me yeah my main motivation for me is to do what we're our mission which is to help motherfuckers i try to help you guys through the show i try to help you guys with arte with 75 of heart with first form with fucking everything i fucking do i try to make as many people as i can better that's that's what i'm committed to and certain people are going to go with that certain people aren't certain people are going to fucking hate it i can't i can't do anything about it yeah it's just the reality and you're not going to be able to do anything about it either so when you go on your path whatever it is that you're trying to do don't get mad when people throw the fucking heat at you learn how to use it yeah you

know what i'm saying it's free it's free yeah they're giving you free energy dude all you got to do is say fuck well fuck that i'm doing i'm going to make sure that that person has to eat those words well yeah i mean because dude wouldn't you agree that like most people they like that's their chief complaint of inaction it's like well, well, I don't have any motivation. Where do I get the motivation? No, it's always there. You're choosing to not see it or use it. Well, look, man. I mean, motivation is the weakest form of actually getting shit done anyway. That's why we talk about encouraging the building of discipline.

Because the truth of the matter is motivation is fleeting. It's inconsistent. It's not there when you need it. It's there when you don't need it. And it's not something that we can truly count on all the time so it's important to build discipline which is why i give the live hard program away for free it's episode 208 you can listen the whole thing it's fucking free okay and the reason i give it away for free is because it's the foundational blueprint of achievement on any level because most people do go their whole lives dictating their success

based upon how motivated they are, which like I said, motivation is inconsistent. You can't count on it. Yeah. So you're going to get hot here. You're going to be cold here. You're going to get hot here. And it's never hot for long enough to actually create anything substantial. Discipline's the only way to create that. So that's why I give it away for free. That's why I talk about it all the time, because if you do it, you'll start to understand exactly what I'm talking about now. Now, is it good to take the negativity and turn it into positive action i found that to be the

way to deal with it because there's no shortage of it i can find it everywhere you know but you can't find everywhere in the beginning there's a bunch of people spaking you know patting your ass telling you're great clapping for you you know what i'm saying like that doesn't come until the end bro that doesn't come until the end, bro. That doesn't come until the end. And then even at the end, half people still hate you. So like it is what it is. Yeah.

Love it, man. Well, guys, our third and final question. Any question number three? How what what ways should I not compare myself to others? I'm a sophomore in high school, and my friends, they often share their successes and their failures a lot. Even if their failures are not truly failures, like getting a B plus in a hard AP class, I find it hard not to compare myself to them when they seem to be having way more successes than me, how do I get away from constantly

comparing myself to my friends? Well, first off, I don't think there's anything wrong with comparing your performance to other people's performance. I think that's a very healthy thing to do. I think they try to weed it out of society because it makes society less competitive. Okay. I've always compared myself to other people when it comes to my performance, even today. Like when I want to know if I'm doing good, I look at people who I

consider peers and I look at what they're doing and I say, okay, this guy's doing this. This guy's doing that. I'm doing this. Where can I do better? Oh, this guy's doing something better than me. I can improve in that. It doesn't mean I hate him. I'm learning from this. Okay. So I'm inspired by other people's, by my comparing myself to other people inspires me when it talks about performance, but I think where it gets muddy and I think where people get carried away

with it is when they start comparing themselves to like a whole nother person, right? Like in all areas, like- Like they get fixated on it. Yeah, they lose their sense of self. Like bro, your unique self, like who you are, your authentic self is actually the most valuable asset that you'll ever have if you can figure out a way to cultivate it. And the reason I say cultivate it is because most people think being authentic is pretending to be authentic on the internet. Meaning they talk a certain way. Maybe

they say some curse words. Maybe they say some shit like, I don't give no fucks what anybody thinks, shit like that. And they think that's authentic. That is not authenticity, bro. You're playing a role. Your authentic self has to be developed through you actually really reflecting and learning to be comfortable being yourself. Yourself is a tremendous asset because no one else can be that. That's what you guys have to understand. People are so afraid from like sharing what they really think or being who they really are as an individual, because they think that they see this other person over here having success with this version. And they think for them to have success, they have to be this version, right? Like bro in the eighties Coke, uh, decided they needed to be more competitive with Pepsi. Okay. So they came out with new Coke,

which tastes more like Pepsi, which made all the people who loved Coke fucking hate Coke. Okay. So, so you have all these people who love Coke and don't like Pepsi. And then you, you want to be more like Pepsi because Pepsi's doing something. That doesn't make any sense.

And the same thing that happened to Coke will happen to you if that's the way you live your life. Okay? You will never be able to develop a genuine fan base. Or if you do, you will lose them by trying to be like other people. So, you know, I think a lot of people see these people online and they try to emulate behaviors that they see online. And then they think that that's going to get them the likes, clicks and traffic and shares that they're trying to create. And so really what they're doing is they're manipulating the fucking platform, right? Like I'm trying to be what I need to be to get the likes, the comments, and the shares, which is faulty thinking.

If you were just who you were and you did so authentically, people would feel that and those other things would come. This is no different than making money. People think, when I ask people, what's the purpose of business? Their automatic response 99 times out of 100 is to make money. That is not the fucking purpose of a business. That's why your business fucking sucks. The purpose of a business is to solve a fucking problem of a customer and money is the byproduct. And that's how you should think about it with social media or your personal brand or your company's brand. Do a great job at being you and people will resonate and the other shit that you're trying to get will come.

This is a very hard concept for people to understand because everybody's used to seeing. And by the way, you may never get 30 million fucking Instagram followers. I'm sorry. Maybe you don't have what the fuck it takes. That's okay too. Maybe you're meant for something else. Okay. We have all these lanes and these boxes that we try to put everybody in

that defines their success. And right now, like one of the things that frustrates me is a lot of these young people feel like they're failures because they don't have a million or 10 million followers on the fucking internet. Well, bro, not everybody's going to be that. Okay. Like certain people are going to be that certain people aren't, you should be looking for the thing that's going to fucking really align with you. Okay. Let me tell you something too. Those of you guys seeking fame, those of you guys who are like, I want fame. I want people's attention and shit. It ain't all it's cracked up to be motherfuckers. Like you ain't gonna fucking like it. Okay. You're going to have motherfuckers in your fucking business all the

time. They're going to be fucking private. You get no privacy. I couldn't even imagine what it's like for somebody like fucking Tom Brady, bro, or somebody like The Rock, somebody who's actually fucking famous, or like Logan Paul. Bro, the dude's got a seven-man detail fucking 24 hours a day on him. On him. You see what I'm saying? No. Bro, that ain't no fucking real life, man. I'll be real. I love Jake Paul want that i don't want his life you know i'm saying like i don't

want that level of fucking fame that's not what the fuck i want if you notice i do the minimum in terms of social media to fly under the fucking radar i don't try very hard and the reason i don't try very hard is because it ain't that cool for everybody know all your shit no it just ain't so i don't know what what was the question yeah this person wants to get away from comparing themselves yeah so the point is dude look man you're a young kid you're 15 years old you're your friends looking at how they're winning or how they're doing things uh that's a good thing for you. Measure yourself against them, but do not lose yourself and your unique gifts in trying to be like them.

Be you. Now, it's just like, dude, when you see someone on an athletic field, dude's running a 4-5-40, you could probably learn how to be a little faster by watching him do his fucking warm-ups and his routine and his side work and all these things. But you may never run a 440 bro maybe you go from a 50 to a 48 that's a fucking massive difference by the way but you know not everybody can be lebron james dude not everybody's going to be michael jordan not everybody's going to be fucking you know whoever else like we're all i think if people spent more time really truly learning who they

actually are and being comfortable like being that they would find a lot more fulfillment and success in their life and i think this this this social media makes it real hard i was just talking to emily about this yesterday of how how mean kids were to me growing up. And then I said to her, because, dude, I was very heavily bullied for a long time. And I said to her, I'm like, fuck, dude. Imagine being a kid today. Imagine the pressure on these young people today with social media. And it's not just from the people you go to school with.

Bro, I couldn't even imagine it. I couldn't even imagine it. I couldn't even imagine it. In a lot of ways, you know, I'm like, fuck, these kids are, these kids are like soft. But then in other ways, I'm like, fuck, they got to deal with a lot of shit that we have to deal with. Yep. And I do not envy that. Yeah. Because bro, their businesses, their every breakup, every fucking drama, it's all through social media now.

And it's like, dude, I can't imagine what that's like. It's got to be real bad for these kids. I personally think social media is a total negative on society. I think it's a total negative. I think the negatives outweigh the goods. We take away all the business. People say, oh yeah, Andy, you do well with social media and you make business. I don't care. I'd give it all away to not have it. If we turn social media off and it went away forever, I'd be perfectly fine. I don't care if it costs me. I don't care. I'd give it all away to not have it. If everybody fucking, if we turned social media off and it went away forever, I'd be perfectly fine. I don't care if it cost me. I don't care what it cost me. I'd figure out how to operate without it.

That's how bad I think it is. That's also why you're going to see me spend less and less time on Instagram, more and more time just posting my podcast and letting it go. Because like, dude, I'm not going to let it steal anymore in my life. You know, life you know that's why i'm gonna you know you guys to see what i'm doing with the mfco project i'm doing something very special with that um gonna build a community around it you guys are really gonna like uh but outside of those two things like recording the show and then doing that i'm not i'm not i'm not participating anymore yeah it's not it's not uh it's not healthy it's not good um now if they change some things you know like i think some

things could be changed and make it a lot better but it doesn't seem that they want that to be the case yeah well guys and that was three yeah like, I hope this young man understands what the fuck I'm saying. Yeah. Like, bro. Be you. Yeah, be who you are. Dude, it's hard to say that to a 15-year-old, bro. You don't know who the fuck you are.

It's true. You know, I'm 43. I barely know. And it changes every day, bro. I'm growing every day. So, like, you know, when you're 15 years old, man, it's a confusing time. It's a fucking hard time. You know, I think it's okay to be inspired by your friends' successes and work to be

better. Let that drive you, but don't get caught up in the comparison game to where it ruins. Makes you think that there's something wrong with you, bro. I thought there was something wrong with me all through fucking high school. I wasn't popular. I wasn't cool.

I had some good friends. I still, I still fucking talk to most of them. And the ones I don't talk to, I wish I did. You know what I'm saying? But like, it's not like I had a bad experience, but it wasn't like it was great either yeah you know and and uh you know

come to find out i'm pretty good at a couple things when everybody told me i wasn't right you know like what these like what they're telling you right now at 15 years old is like adults are so sure of how these kids lives are going to turn out and they they kind of frame it for them and bro that's so wrong because i'm an example of that i'm an example of a 15 year old kid that everybody said was going to be shit and i went out and did a couple things you know i'm sure i'll fucking i'm sure there's going to be more things that i do i'm sure there's going to be things i fuck up but the point is I wasn't the fucking loser they thought I was. You know what I'm saying? And you guys aren't either. You guys need to remember that. I don't care if you don't have one believer in your fucking family or your

friend circle, bro. It doesn't matter. Cause like I can, I know for sure that there were times in my life where I had no believers, none. So keep that in mind. All right.