REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 476. Q&AF: Getting Comfortable With Conflict, Pushing Through Discouragement & Lessons In Giving

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what's the best way to deal with conflict in your life, how not to get discouraged when you don't get your desired results right in the early stages ...of your dreams, and what lessons you can teach someone by not giving them what they're asking.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and del delusions of modern society. And welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q&AF. This is where you get to submit the questions and we will give you the answers. You could submit your questions one of two ways. The first way is... Guys, as always, email those questions in to askandy at andyfrasella.com. The second way is if you didn't know, because a lot of you guys are behind in episodes, like months and even years behind, we are on YouTube now.
Starting point is 00:00:50 So we have full-length episodes on YouTube. Most of our audience is still audio-heavy, so we're building that up over there. But it's pretty cool. I think people are liking it, getting some good comments. I think it's fun. I don't know. We'll see how it goes. But anyway, if you drop your comments, uh, underneath the episode, the Q and a F episodes, we will pull some from there as well. The questions is what I meant.
Starting point is 00:01:14 Uh, other times you tune in on the show. If this is your first time listening, we have multiple formats of the show. Uh, today you get Q and a F like I just said, uh, other times you're going to get CTI. That stands for Cruise the Internet. That's our social news slash comedy slash talk about the crazy shit that's going on in the world format of the show. And that's actually my favorite show to do. It's not your favorite to listen to, though, apparently. A lot of you guys like the Q&AFs. So you're going to have to deal with my opinions as well, fuckers.
Starting point is 00:01:45 Sometimes you tune in and you get Real Talk. Real talk is five to 20 minutes of just some real talk. I think that needs to be shared. And then other times you're gonna get full length. Full length is like we had on our last episode where we have a buddy of mine come in. Uh, they're usually interesting, successful, have a unique worldview, a story to tell. We have a conversation just like you see on most of the other podcasts. One thing you'll notice that we do differently is that we don't run ads on the show. I don't take money from advertisers that want to pay me to take their shit because I don't do that. I represent and talk about the things that I think I like. And I don't want to flood your podcast with
Starting point is 00:02:25 40 minutes of fucking bullshit ads for some money. I already do pretty well. You guys do a great job of supporting us and I appreciate that. So in that trade, all I ask is that if we do a good job, if we put out some good info, if it makes you laugh, it makes you think, if it answers your questions, you know, the Q and AF shows like today, they have an extreme amount of value in them. If we help you get better, please share the show. That's how we work. So when we say pay the fee, that's what we mean. Just share the show.
Starting point is 00:02:51 With that being said, it's been a minute. Yeah. Yeah. Has been a minute. See people, we pre-recorded all last week's shows. And then yesterday we had our full length with Jason. But we haven't done any Q and AF f in a while or cti i'm looking forward to getting back on cti dude yeah me too that's my favorite show to do really it's
Starting point is 00:03:10 my favorite show to do because it's like it's almost like therapy you know in front of the whole fucking world you're gonna talk about this crazy shit but uh you know q and a f's good too yeah i mean they go they there's a symbiotic relationship between the two episodes absolutely people have a hard time connecting yeah yeah like some people i think most people you know people are getting it now yeah but but they're not understanding you know like guys the reason that we must talk about what's going on in the world is because that affects the business environment this is an entrepreneurship personal development business show it always has been since the MFCEO project
Starting point is 00:03:45 back in 2015. And for those of you guys that don't know, we are relaunching that podcast very soon as its unique standalone podcast. So I'll have more news on that soon, but it's always been personal development. It's always been how to win, how to get better. But guys that, you know, the thing with CTI is if we don't know what the fuck is going on in the world and we don't take action to protect our freedoms, you know, the the our ability to make money and have success and build things in real life is affected so they do go together uh very very uh synergistically it's just you know sometimes you have to explain to people yeah for sure man yeah but no i mean i don't feel like we really missed a beat last week but uh there was there was definitely oh you guys didn't miss me no i'm
Starting point is 00:04:24 saying like the content was pumping out. Oh, yeah, yeah. You know, we made it look pretty good, but you were a hiatus. Yeah, man. I was down in Mexico. I went to Cabo, stayed at the Pedregal Resort,
Starting point is 00:04:38 which was amazing. I have nothing but amazing things to say about that. You definitely, you know, shouldn't go there because I don't want to be crowded next time I go. um but it was awesome the people were awesome uh the weather was great it was about 70 degrees every day but good sun uh so much sun that i'm like shedding a whole entire skin um because i got burnt so bad the first day deceptive it was like nice and cool but the sun was like powerful yeah that mexican yeah it was impressive yeah it was uh i understand had a lot of girth i did it yeah it was girthy it was a
Starting point is 00:05:12 girthy sun girthy sun yep one thing one thing that was interesting out of me too bro you said what no one thing i thought that was cool though because mean, we talked quite a bit during the trip. And it was like, you know, one of the things that I thought was cool was you mentioned how it didn't matter where you went on the resort. But it was like every member of the staff. Bro was amazing. Knew your name. Yeah, it was amazing. It was.
Starting point is 00:05:39 So, you know, I take a lot of pride in how we do business. You know what I'm saying? Like, we're not. Nobody's what I'm saying? Like we're not, we're not, nobody's perfect. Nobody can run a perfect company, but here in my, you know, first form S2, uh, the other companies, everything that we got going on here, we try really fucking hard. Right. And we try to do a very good job for our customers. We try to go over the top. We're very, very much focused on that experience aspect of of brand building because the truth of it is it's like i'm not that skilled so i i know that if we make a if we do good by the customer
Starting point is 00:06:13 we create amazing experiences you know people will will help us and they'll shop with us and support us and uh so i'm very detail oriented you know know, when I go around, I go to a restaurant or I go to, you know, anything, any place of business, wherever, I'm always an observer. I'm like paying attention to how they're doing things. And, you know, this resort, the Pedregal is by all means a very, very, very nice resort. Top notch. And I've been to other top notch resorts. Like I've, you know, i've been doing this for a minute
Starting point is 00:06:45 you know and uh i was just the amount the level of service that that place had and the level of attention to detail was something that even somebody who's very very very used to paying attention to those things was impressed by i was it was very impressive that's what that's what got me yeah it was very impressive yeah yeah when you brought that up i knew it had to be something fucking pretty special yeah it was um it was uh like anywhere you went on the resort they knew your name and it didn't matter who it was it didn't matter if it was the guy sweeping up the sidewalks and it was your waiter if it was the if it was the you know the bus or any of the other jobs on this resort it didn't matter they knew who the you were and it wasn't just because it was me yeah because
Starting point is 00:07:33 like it wasn't just for me like it was for every single guest on the resort and it was it was uh it whoever's running that like however they do it they're doing a good job. Yeah. Let me ask you this. Do you find yourself now, like at 24 years in, do you find yourself constantly like looking at these other industries, restaurants, wherever you go and like finding these comparisons like of what we could be doing better? Like how often do you, I guess, reflect on that? Well, because I haven't, like, I mean, like all the time. And it's cool because what you asked, um, I actually do look at the restaurant industry for a lot, the, the hospitality industry,
Starting point is 00:08:10 right? Hotels, restaurants, people. Yeah. Because like, dude, that's where you're going to see, uh, very strong examples of going above and beyond for people. And that's something that, uh, you know, I always try to pay special attention when I do, cause I don't travel a lot. I, I like to do my own thing, man. I like to go to my house. I like to come here. I really don't fuck around with anybody. I kind of do my own thing. And it's not, you know, because I don't enjoy being around people. It's just, that's how I, that's my natural
Starting point is 00:08:38 way of enjoying life is just, I like to be left the fuck alone. And, um, I like to be around people too, but they gotta be the right kind of people, right? It's difficult. Yeah, like I'm not one for bullshit conversation. I'm not one for small talk. I wanna talk about real shit. I wanna talk about shit that matters. And if I'm around those kinds of people, bro,
Starting point is 00:08:59 it's fucking amazing. But unfortunately, you know, half the people out there aren't that way. And so, you know, I'm not saying I'm a hermit, but I don't travel that much, but when I do travel, um, I pay real close attention. And when I go to a restaurant, I pay real close attention. And it's not because I'm trying to critique them. I'm actually viewing it from a perspective of what can I learn? What can I do to get better? And, you know, I think a lot of people, they go to these places and they look for holes and gotcha. Yeah. Right there. And like, dude, look,
Starting point is 00:09:29 man, you know, when you run a high level, high attention detail operation, whether it be a company or, uh, you know, like our companies or resorts or restaurants or whatever category, when you, when you take pride and people know that you take pride and you're expected to hold a very high standard, there's going to be people that want to fucking poke and look for the negative, right? And I think that's okay because I think it helps you get better, right? I'm actually very grateful when people point a problem out to me so that I can correct that problem um but i think we as consumers as entrepreneurs would do ourselves a much better service by actually going to these places instead
Starting point is 00:10:14 of like looking for the things wrong looking for the things they're doing right and understanding like dude okay like there's going to be little things and you can learn from the things they do wrong too but like because we're we live in this society that is so focused on where people fuck up and and like i got you right like everybody wants to get like motherfucker like cool like if you're a true if you're a true operator you're going to look at those situations as an opportunity to get better that won't affect real operators yeah no yeah like you're like okay you got me like let me fix that over here real quick you know and that's how you should be addressing it you know but i think because we live in this society that's like that and you know i while
Starting point is 00:10:53 i do think cancel culture is dying out i don't think people are thinking it's very cool i think people are realizing that it's not something to be a part of or contribute to no matter what side you're on um i think we have a propensity to look at the bad things when we go to places and that keeps us from learning from where we can get better so what i try to do like the whole time i was down there dude i was watching these guys trying to figure out okay like well how could we translate this to our business where we could create a better experience for our people? You know, and, and, um, you know, I got some, I got a bunch of notes. I got like a whole bunch of notes. Uh, but like, it's very rare. And I don't mean, I mean, as a matter of fact, I'm not saying this to brag or anything, but I have very particular high standards.
Starting point is 00:11:40 And I think my company speak for themselves. Do we have hiccups sometimes? Sure. Do we have problems sometimes? Sure. But generally we're doing things at a very high level. And when I can go to a place and be super fucking impressed, that gets me excited because I'm like, okay, there's another level to get to here. And that doesn't happen. The more detail oriented that you become the more the more seasoned you become and the more you operate that way the more rare those experiences are like
Starting point is 00:12:12 it's very difficult to wow me it's very difficult to blow me away right like because that's what i'm always trying to figure out how to do better but these guys did it man and it was it was cool yeah and uh it was the p every from every single person dude there was not like there was not a single person that wasn't on point it was impressive yeah how many how many like quickly how many staff how many people do you think would you say was employed there like we talked a ton like a thousand maybe no not that many it's only a hundred room resort. Oh, a small, okay.
Starting point is 00:12:46 Yeah, it's a little place. Yeah. But I mean, fuck. It seemed like there was at least three people for every guest running the play. Yeah. You know what I mean? It was cool, dude. And people were like, oh, I hope you got the, like, I got all these DMs.
Starting point is 00:13:02 Like, hey, motherfuckers, I can't detach when you dm me the whole fucking vacation you know i'm saying oh i hope you got to detach while i'm typing i stopped posting halfway through the trip because like like that's all it was oh i hope you got some r and i how about just like the motherfucking picture bro and let me have a minute because like i try to be responsive and respectful to people but like i'm just being real like like people aren't aware like if i post a picture like like it doesn't mean i'm going through some sort of fucking life crisis bro i actually just like photography right and i used to be pretty good at it back in the day you know what i'm saying they're like oh you're posting these beautiful pictures it seems like something deep's going motherfucker i'm taking pictures you know your journey yeah like dude what like what the fuck
Starting point is 00:13:50 like why is everything gotta mean something like everybody's gotta attach this meaning to some shit like is it surprise you that i'm that i have an artistic eye right like have you paid attention to the content that my companies have put out for the last fucking two decades? Like, we do things pretty decent. Yeah. I have to, you know, I don't know what to tell you, man. Like, I'm multidimensional. I can take some pictures.
Starting point is 00:14:13 I can appreciate art. Yeah. You know, I even speak a little bit of different languages sometimes. Like, you know, I'm not this fucking redneck from Missouri that y'all motherfuckers think I am. Like, I actually got a little bit of culture. That's really what it is. I know it is. It's fucking racism. Yeah, I actually got a little bit of culture. That's really what it is. I know it is.
Starting point is 00:14:25 It's fucking racism. Yeah, they got, yeah. It's racism. That's what it is. Against Missouri. Yeah. And all of our cousins. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:14:33 Fuck, dude. Like, you know, it's just, dude, it's just weird. Yeah. Like, motherfucker, I'm just trying to share some cool pictures with y'all, and you got to make it about some life journey. You asking about ayahuasca. Yeah. Like, I'm just like, I don't know, man. I'm just taking some pictures. Yeah. But it was cool. pictures with y'all and you gotta make it about some life you ask about ayahuasca yeah like i'm just like i don't know man i'm just taking some pictures yeah but it was cool like it you know
Starting point is 00:14:50 it was good time uh i put on fucking eight pounds when i was there yeah but i think that's mainly because i drank i didn't get like drunk or anything like i just drank a few beers every day but but my body's so not used to it that I think I was just retaining water. Cause I was down like after one day of 75 hard, like four, four of the eight pounds. Yeah. So yeah, I want to say, well, that's the other thing too. So it was day two. Uh, this is probably day three when you guys are listening, but 75 hard is going good.
Starting point is 00:15:18 And, uh, we're right back into it, man. So it feels good. Dude, I'm excited about this round of 75 hard because um i was i was really doing well and the last one when i got knocked off at day 51 i think it was i was kicking ass bro and it was very very very difficult for me to get as sick as i got and like you know i don't think people realize that i was sick for over a month like it wasn't like i was sick for a couple days i actually had an infection that took an entire month for me to get out of my body so it was like it wasn't like a little deal and that fucked me up mentally dude i'm just being real like it fucking hammered me because like i finally felt like all right i'm gonna get past
Starting point is 00:15:59 the shoulder injury i'm gonna get back to where i I'm going to be better than I was whenever I got hurt and I could like fucking see it. And then that I got hammered with that thing. Yeah. So like, you know, it was frustrating. So I'm excited to get back to it.
Starting point is 00:16:14 Um, I'm going to give it everything I fucking got for the next 75 days and probably do phase one right afterwards. Uh, but I, I really think after this 75 days, as long as I don't get fucking sick or some shit like that again or something unforeseen happened i mean because like there was nothing i could do
Starting point is 00:16:30 bro it wasn't like i could like tough that out right i mean i had fucking my doctors at my house for three fucking days straight i'm out sick as fuck and um that's probably why you know i probably pushed a little too hard because I, you know, was so determined on getting through it. But the reality is, is like, I'm going to give it everything I fucking got. If you guys want to join me, you can, uh, check out episode 208 and it'll give you the whole rundown on 75 hard and live hard program and how it works. Um, you know, we're only on day three.
Starting point is 00:17:03 So like you should fucking jump in if it's something that you want to make this change you know a lot of people have gone already gone through the cycle of new year's not really working out for them and then falling off and kind of like they're in that limbo stage and you know like guys you give it 75 days full effort you're gonna look feel and be a completely different person by the beginning of fucking may right you know what i'm saying so and guess what may is coming regardless yeah that's right so like dude i invite you guys to join with me if you don't want to that's cool too but i'm going to be giving it everything i got so despite all the dms like did you really get a time to decompress and all of that no it was cool bro
Starting point is 00:17:38 like it was nice to see some new scenery you know um it was weird you know i think it's you know that wasn't a lot it wasn't a long enough time for me to disconnect i haven't been on a vacation since uh uh emily and i's honeymoon so it was a 10 and a half years since the last vacation that i've been on that wasn't for work or speaking or something like that right i traveled but it's always been for some version of work right um but this was the first time i like wasn't getting paid to go somewhere right and it was cool dude uh you know as far as disconnecting i think i really i really truly think social media makes it hard to disconnect i think next time i go on a trip i don't think i'm gonna utilize social at all or post anything during the time because like, you know, you do have a lot of friends and your DMS and shit that you talk to regularly.
Starting point is 00:18:29 And, you know, I found myself a couple of times getting sucked in for a couple hours when I'd really honestly rather not be doing that. Um, and it's no fault of theirs. It's just the nature of how we do things now. Um, but I got some time to hang out and like relax and, you know, chill. And I think next time it's going to be longer and it's going to be less connection back to reality. Um, and I do feel like, I don't know, I, I feel different now that I'm back. Um, more normal, less anxiety, less, less stress a little bit, not a lot bit but a little bit and like um like before i left dude like i was at a point and you know this like i wasn't even driving like i wasn't doing the things that i enjoy to do like and i don't have that many hobbies like
Starting point is 00:19:15 one of my hobbies and i'm not saying this to fucking brag but it's i like high performance fucking cars and um driving is something that i enjoy it's not something i do for status um and like today i drove one of my cars which i hadn't driven a car i haven't driven one of my cars since probably november or december because the weather's been shitty and all that among other things uh yeah yeah i may or may not have a valid driver's license right now but we're gonna get that taken care of uh i didn't do anything wrong yeah right right right didn't get it renewed in time so now i actually have to go take the test again we talked about making that a youtube video but i don't know if they'd allow us to do that still got time
Starting point is 00:19:59 yeah it'd be funny hopefully i pass i mean that's the the big question, but yeah. Yeah. But no, it was good, man. It was good. It's, uh, I learned a couple of things, you know, I, I learned that I have to do a better job of consciously trying to disconnect. I think my opinion of social media is getting worse and worse and worse, not better. My desire to want to post and interact on social is becoming less and less. Um, but I also think that I also think that goes along with like I'm getting to a point in my life where I
Starting point is 00:20:28 don't and this is gonna sound weird but you should all relate to it like I don't feel like I need to sell anybody on my life anymore like I feel like my results speak for themselves I don't have much to prove to anybody else you guys kind of know what I'm about you listen to to the show, you see the show, we communicate on the show. There's more context on the show. I enjoy doing the show. You guys enjoy viewing it.
Starting point is 00:20:51 But the overall drama of social, the amount of time that it's like, I mentioned this a couple of weeks ago, it's just something that I'm going to probably participate lesson. You know what I mean? There's a whole lot of life out there bro and it's real shit like it's real there's like that was that was one thing that was that was evident because i was off social for most of the trip you really notice how good people are in real life
Starting point is 00:21:20 when you disconnect from social you know it's easy for us to look at social and be like fuck everybody's a piece of shit everybody's angry yeah but dude it's not that way it's it's a small minority of people on the far left and the far right arguing and then there's you know the cloud chasers who look to create drama and controversy so they can get attention because they have nothing else to offer you know know, and shit like that. So you live in this constant environment of like bullshit. And I think it's very clear when you disconnect for even a little bit, even if it's just like a day or two that, and you go out in the real world, you're like, fuck, this is this, this what we see on these screens represents very little reality to what
Starting point is 00:22:02 actually goes on in real life. I would argue none. I mean, very, very little. Oh. Like most of the shit that people argue about on social media, like you can't even find in the real world. You don't see it. You know what I'm saying?
Starting point is 00:22:14 The people arguing, you don't see them. Yeah. I very rarely see them. Dude, and people don't talk to each other like that in real life. Like you don't, like the world is much better in reality than it is on social media. And I think people have, so many people have been so head down utilizing the benefits of social for business that you get sucked into it and it becomes like your whole life. Like I see this a lot with like some influencers, right? Like influencers want to like get the views so fucking bad.
Starting point is 00:22:42 And at first it's because they want to make a living right but then what happens is is it like sucks them in to where like this is their whole entire world bro and they're sitting there on their fucking couch or they're at their desk or wherever they're you know their bed or whatever and the whole fucking life is passing them by you know what i'm saying and i think more and more people and i talked about this for the last three years i think more and more people, and I talked about this for the last three years, I think more and more people are going to start disengaging with these types of social. And I think more and more people are going to value brick and mortar real life business more. I think you're going to see, I already know brick and mortar growth for businesses doing it right is going very well right now. Um, and I think you're going to see a lot of companies transition back, uh,
Starting point is 00:23:30 from an online, like only type presence to, you know, doing business kind of like what you would call the old way. I think you're going to see clothing companies go back to cataloging. I think you're going to see people not wanting to spend their time on social. And so companies are going to have to find creative ways, which are the old ways of getting their attention, right?
Starting point is 00:23:52 And so I think we're going to see a little of both. We're going to see some people dive more into it. But I think a lot of people at this point in time, we're really into, I don't know, 13, 14 years of where most people were familiar with social you know what i'm saying and the early people that were there i mean they've been on it for a decade going hard and i think a lot of people are becoming disenfranchised and disengaged with the whole concept of like living on this fucking screen yeah and so i think what you're going to see in business and and i think it's going to come down to the companies that can adapt to real world scenarios again.
Starting point is 00:24:29 I also think there's an opportunity for advertising platforms in the real world as well to do really well again. People are rejecting the idea of the metaverse. They're not, like I told you they would. They don't want to sit at home and live in a virtual world with some fucking goggles on. They're not going along with the 2030 agenda of you will own nothing and like it uh we're not eating fucking crickets like none of this shit's gonna happen dude and because people are gonna reject the fuck out of them um and that's why you're seeing you know a war being escalated because i believe that in their hopes of the ruins of the war that they're working working to create they think they're going to take over uh which ain't gonna happen
Starting point is 00:25:09 then either so like no these motherfuckers are gonna go down swinging and they're gonna burn the fucking world up on the way out and you know i'm here for it yeah well had you listened whenever people said hey don't wear the fucking mask and not complied we wouldn't be here right now you know all those people that stood up this is for for CTI, but like, I'm just being real. All those people that stood up and say, Hey, this is bullshit. They lost their businesses, lost their contracts, lost their fucking following, got canceled, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Um, and got harassed for three fucking years, et cetera. Those people were right. And you motherfuckers that didn't believe him were wrong.
Starting point is 00:25:46 And these people are now telling you they're going to destroy the fucking world to escape accountability for the crimes that they perpetrated on you. And now you don't believe us again. You see what I'm saying? Yeah. Like, dude, and so like that makes me think
Starting point is 00:25:59 that it's going to happen either way. And I believe that the only chance for freedom that exists in our globe ever again i don't know that i don't know how this war thing is going to pan out if someone's going to come in and save the day but it sure doesn't fucking feel like it's going to happen you know and it sure does feel like this war is going to be escalated to mass fucking levels like i said you know a few years ago um and it sure does feel like you know what i think their plan is is that at the end of that whatever is left they're going to claim and form the one world government that they've
Starting point is 00:26:30 been trying to get through all this other ways and the very very elite are going to try to have all control over every human being on earth um and everybody else is not going to have and that's their plan and so the only chance that i see for freedom to fucking actually you know truly re-establish itself is at that key point when after that when shit is fucked up if everybody's ready to just you know like at the most vulnerable time take it back and make it free again but like i'm i'm it's frustrating dude i don't know what's going to happen. Um, it's going to be interesting. Yeah. So anyway. Yeah. Well, uh, let's talk about how we can get better to prepare for that. Yeah. Well, I mean, that's the main point guys is like personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. The better you are, the less of a customer you are for them, for all their shit. And you know, all these business trends
Starting point is 00:27:22 that we're talking about, you know, these, these it's it it's interesting how all of these things are counter to what most of the quote-unquote experts are out there saying but then when you look at what the experts are trying to tell people is actually happening uh none of that data backs up that opinion you know like all the stocks of these tech companies is falling but But the amount of people on social and the amount of people who are engaging in social, it's becoming uncool. The trend is it's almost starting to become uncool to spend all your time on social media. And so you start to look at that and then you compare that with real world data of brick and mortar companies that are operating properly, writing a good experience, doing very well right now. I know because I own a few. Okay.
Starting point is 00:28:09 And I know a bunch of people that own them as well. And you kind of put all that shit together, bro. And I, you know, I feel like people want to go back to like being normal human beings and they are tired of the shit. Yep. So we'll see. Yeah, we shall because it's coming quick. Yeah. So we'll see. Yeah, we, we shall cause it's coming quick. Yeah. So we'll see.
Starting point is 00:28:27 I think there's a, I think, I think what's actually happening here is that there's a balance. There's a balance being created, right? Like, like people, because this technology is so new,
Starting point is 00:28:41 people have pushed so far over to one side and now people are starting to push back and i think what we're going to find is that there's going to be a healthy balance where people are comfortable with a certain amount of technology in their life um there is some regulation yeah and there's going to be some privacy regulations it's good because like that's going to have to happen to save these things like people are not going to continue the way they'll be allowed yeah they're not going to like more and more people every day are starting to realize that these tools are used to spy on us on our whole fucking lives these you know the things that snowden was trying to tell us about how they're watching us through our
Starting point is 00:29:16 computers and they can access us even when the power cord isn't connected and look in our cameras that's all fucking true shit and people more people are starting to realize it and that's accelerating the rejection of this technology and i think a couple things are going to have to happen for technology to like to find that balance but i think privacy is a huge part of it like there's going to have to be regulation like these motherfuckers should not have the the right to listen to our conversations or to fucking hack into our computers and i'm not talking about the media companies i'm talking about the government or any company anybody like we should all have an individual sense of privacy and that should be protected by the
Starting point is 00:29:55 strongest letter of the law because dude right now like when you become aware one of the reasons people have so much anxiety is because they know that like you're you can't escape it right and like how many of us voted to live like this how many of us want to live our lives like this i don't see anybody fucking saying oh yeah i wanted to live in a surveillance state govern me harder daddy that's what i'm saying and we now they inched us into this under the under the guise of oh well it's a private company you signed the terms and conditions well that's because there's been no regulation whatsoever and i think a good amount i i'm i'm very much anti-fucking big government but i think some fucking regulations on our own privacy and our
Starting point is 00:30:35 ability to have free speech on the technology that actually where all the conversations are happening is a reasonable fucking thing for anybody to agree that we all need. So anyway, let's do the questions. Cause we're 30 minutes in a bullshit. Guys, let's get into this. Get to the fucking question. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:30:52 Let's get to this man. And the question of one, Andy, I found myself to be someone who avoids conflict all the time. I hate arguing, uh, going through any type of conflict at all. Really.
Starting point is 00:31:03 Um, and when faced with a problem, I'd much rather just solve it on my own. And I've always looked at conflict as just this terrible thing to avoid. Question is, can I, should I change this? And then what are the tips that you have to overcome this? Well, look, like I said previously, before the question started, you know, anytime we open social media, we're inundated with conflict of every kind. All right?
Starting point is 00:31:30 We get shown the worst of the worst and the worst in society. And then the other part of the internet is a bunch of people trying to call people out and get clout for fucking tearing other people down. So we're looking at conflict 24 hours a day so you have to realize in the real world conflict is a very minimal situation it doesn't happen every day it doesn't and it doesn't happen over and over but when we get on social what happens is we get so fucking inundated with it we just kind of like freeze up and what you have to realize is that conflict is an opportunity for growth it's an opportunity to improve it's an opportunity to get better on both parties when there is a conflict as
Starting point is 00:32:15 long as a conflict is addressed with a productive perspective I think conflict can be a very good thing and a healthy thing, especially inside an organization. Uh, you know, the best ideas don't come from things going great. The best ideas come from when things are fucked up and you find this crazy solution that is a great idea. So like, I don't think that you should, I think you need to change your perspective on how you look at conflict and you should start looking at it instead of taking it personal or if people don't like you, you should look at it as, okay, I'm taking the emotion out of it. I actually did an Enneagram on this a couple of days ago, guys, about taking the emotion out of your decision making. I take the emotion out of it and I look at the reality, okay? Is this true? Yes or no? Okay, yes, it's true. And that doesn't feel very good. What can I do to fix it?
Starting point is 00:33:10 How can I be better? Right. And, and, and then I take whatever I learned from the conflict and I go be better. And that's what I've always done. Um, sometimes the person on the other side of the conflict is gonna, is you guys are gonna be able to work it out. Sometimes, you know, people aren't in a place where they want to work things out. I've found that most of the time when you're honest with people and you treat them with respect, there's an amicable compromise that can come that where both people respect each other, feel heard, feel valued and walk away better from conflict. You know, some of my best friends in the world are people I didn't even like in the beginning when I met them. Right. So like we have to understand that conflict can have a lot of healthy outcomes, but it's up to you to, to make them healthy, you know, cause you won't always see eye to eye with other people.
Starting point is 00:34:00 You're not always going to be able to get a handshake and a hug when it's over with most of the time. Yeah. But sometimes, no. I wouldn't want to. Well, that's you. You're not a people pleaser in that way, bro. You're a man who stands on his own values.
Starting point is 00:34:14 And when right's right and wrong is wrong. And that's something that you're comfortable doing. But there's a lot of people out there that have a really hard time when people have... Like this person here. This person, you got to understand what they're talking about is like paralyzing fear of someone not liking them or agreeing with them or seeing things with their perspective which is a very hard way to go through life because that's not reality david and so you know and and dude i'm one of those people like i'm a person where i you know as much as like you guys think oh it's fuck you know, and, and, and dude, I'm one of those people. Like I'm a person where I, you know,
Starting point is 00:34:45 as much as like you guys think, oh, it's fuck, you know, fuck everybody that I had to develop that part of me, but that's what I had to develop my natural inclination when I was a young person, before I developed the boundaries and understanding of when to fuck off with someone or when to listen. Right. My natural inclination was to always have my feelings hurt when people fucking didn't see eye to eye with me. I took it very personal. And that comes from me not being secure with who I am. And so I can empathize with someone who struggles with this because when I was younger, in my
Starting point is 00:35:19 teenage years especially, I really struggled with this. And I think a lot of people struggle with this, but I think the key to getting through it and growing is to understand that conflict, you have to, dude, you do the best you can. When you make mistakes, be humble enough to say, okay, I can fix that. Regardless if you make it right with the other person or not, because sometimes people won't allow you to make it right. All right. So you got to take the lessons that you learn, you make them right, You improve as a person and you grow. And along the way, there's, you know, especially in business, you're going to have situations where you do everything right. And the person is still going to hate you for some, whatever fucking
Starting point is 00:35:58 reason, bro. And sometimes those people come around years later and they say, well, dude, I was wrong or whatever. So the only thing that we can really worry about is like ourselves, what we learned from the conflict, how we can actually get better. And I think it's a good idea to try and make it right with people when you have these conflicts, depending on what kind of conflict it is. Cause there is a time where, you know, someone is clearly to fuck out a line and you got to hold a fucking standard. And if you don't hold a standard at that point, people will walk all over you. So there's, that's a huge reality as well. A lot of people get walked all over because they're so afraid of conflict that they won't set up any kind of boundary whatsoever. So like you have to be, you have to be the judge of this scenario.
Starting point is 00:36:40 Like you've got to tell yourself the truth. This is why being a realist is so important. Like, cause sometimes, especially the bigger you get in business, people are going to criticize you for shit that ain't even fucking true. Okay. And like, dude, when you're someone who's trying, and by the way, this all conflicts, this all conflicts into like this big mess, because the reason that you got big in the first place is because you give a fuck about people. Okay. So you care a lot that's why you're successful then you get to a point where you get so big that people start trying to poke holes in your shit just because you're shining in a way that they may not like all right
Starting point is 00:37:14 so you've got to figure out like is this person actually have a legitimate gripe is this something i could do better is this my fault or are they out of line? Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And so like, dude, there's truth to all of that. And you, I think the best thing that someone can do is really train themselves to see the reality of the situation and remove themselves from their own perspective in it and remove and try to put yourself over in this perspective as well right like walking a mile in someone else's shoes is a pretty good idea when you have a conflict with them yeah you see what i'm saying a lot of people forget that shit because they're so mad they're so angry but being
Starting point is 00:37:54 able to look at it so like what i try to do dude in these situations like if i find myself in a situation you know which happens quite often when you're running a fucking bunch of shit you know and you know you're going to have a conflict waiting on you yeah like it's it's it's normal shit and like but like dude i used to be like this person where i would like paralyze me right and so like i've grown a lot in that regard where now i'm like okay well what is it what's going on okay is that true no it's not true okay well this person's just doesn't understand try to talk to them if they're like fuck you well there's nothing i can do about that right all i can do is do my best my real best not fucking bullshit best yeah there's a difference
Starting point is 00:38:34 but what i try to do in a little hack that i think is valuable for all of you guys is to like look at the situation as if you're observing two other people so So like if you can like see the conflict that you're currently in and you can like observe it as if it's two different people that you're not, it's not you and it's not them, but it's these two other people
Starting point is 00:38:52 and you kind of observe this thing, it gives you a good perspective of what the truth actually is. Yeah. Right? So that's a hack I've used and I also use that hack by the way when i got to make hard decisions like when i have to make difficult decisions dude i don't i don't
Starting point is 00:39:12 think of it like it's me i think of it like i work for this guy named andy who's over there who has all these goals all these obligations all these dreams and i have to make a decision that's in this in the best interest of over here okay uh whether it's hard or not hard i have to do with the fucking right thing and so like when i try when i have to make hard decisions or have conversations that aren't that aren't fun to have i try to remember like okay i work for this other dude over here yeah i gotta do a fucking job that That's powerful shit right there. So there's some free game for you guys. Yeah, no shit.
Starting point is 00:39:48 It's very helpful. Yeah. Andy, question number two. Andy, I am a musician, a rapper specifically. I put a lot of effort and energy into making the best quality music and content I can with the resources I currently have. Even still, in the past, when I would drop content, I would be discouraged by the results or lack thereof. By listening to you, I've learned to understand
Starting point is 00:40:12 that the journey to success is a long road and consistency and persistence is key. But I'm curious, what would you say to yourself to keep showing up every single day when you went through a similar period in your early days of business? This is something I know a lot of creative struggle with so i would like to know your input um what do you tell yourself to keep you going through the days it's not what i tell myself it's what i ask myself what's my life going to be like if i quit that's why i ask myself
Starting point is 00:40:39 what's my life going to look like if i quit to To this day. To this day, that's how I ask myself. I ask myself the same thing today. Okay. Like, dude, real talk. You think I want to come back in on fucking Monday morning after being in Mexico for a fucking week? No. Well, I'm just saying. Like, you're walking.
Starting point is 00:40:57 I'm walking. I already know what I'm walking into, which is a whole. Because, like, look, dude, my job is to solve the fucking problems. All right? Because you're not there. By the way, job is to solve the fucking problems. All right? Because you're not there. By the way, I don't solve the little problems. Those all get solved by our amazing people here. Right?
Starting point is 00:41:11 Right. So by the time it comes to me, guess what kind of problem it is? It's a fucking stressful problem. It's a train derailment. Right? Yeah, that's right. Too soon? Yeah, it didn't exist.
Starting point is 00:41:21 You know? Our fucking president would rather go over to ukraine that's the other episode sorry guys that's unacceptable by the way it is it is but i got a lot to say about that motherfucking that's bullshit oh yeah but uh but look dude you know i know what i'm walking into and i know it's gonna i know i'm getting the fucking hammer broke because that's what my job is, is to get the fucking hammer. And so I was nervous and I had a little anxiety. I'm like, oh fuck, this is weird.
Starting point is 00:41:52 But the truth is, I'm like, fuck dude, I could stay home. Right, I could have not went. I could have said, hey, I'm not going in. Like I don't have to fucking come here you know what i mean yeah and i fucking was sitting there and i'm like well if i don't go today that means i'm less likely to go next week when we have another meeting that means the week after that i'm gonna blow that off i'd rather not start this we got a lot to do i got a lot of responsibility what's gonna happen if i let this go right guess what i did got the fuck up
Starting point is 00:42:27 got in the shower and got my fucking ass here and i gave the meeting you know yeah you know so like i try to tie in if i were you and and and this is what has always worked for me you know i don't evaluate the risk of doing i i evaluate the risk of not doing. And so, you know, when you're struggling and when you're young and you're not getting the attention, like, dude, it's hard. It's hard. Like, especially like for young people now, because the internet's been around for a minute, like, and this is, this is just true shit. I don't care what anybody says. People can fucking argue this all day, but like, it was much easier to gain a following in the earlier days of the internet right it would now you have everybody sort of it's the game has been discovered and like it's still early and i think
Starting point is 00:43:18 it will evolve like i said in the last question but i mean it's there's so many fucking people doing the shit on the internet at a functional level that it's hard to stand out back in the beginning you you you could just you could be there was more diversity in content too now now i see everybody doing the exact same like bro like i see all these motherfuckers doing these videos now where they're sitting in front of a microphone like they're on a fucking podcast when there's not even have a fucking podcast they just have microphones yeah bro like look dude that there's not a hack to this yeah you know what i'm saying like this is years and years and years of anything just like whatever it is
Starting point is 00:43:57 they're good at you understand what i'm saying yeah so like we have to understand that like content creation and getting a following and all that shit is it's much harder now than it was then. And so it's easier for people who are like in this person's situation to feel fucking demoralized because it takes, you know, time to do this. And you see all these other people who are probably not even as good as you are at what you do, getting far more credit and appraise. And I think the thing to remember here is that this is a game of longevity. This is a game of continuing to push, continuing to grow. The journey that you're on is going to produce the ultimate version of you, which is what you're after anyway. Because the skills that you have right now are only going to get
Starting point is 00:44:45 better they're only going to be honed more they're only going to develop more the more you keep trying and like dude here's the truth too as many people that are fucking doing this most people still won't even make content because they're fucking afraid of what the boogeyman might have to say about them right so like dude the fact that you're in the fucking game, even after all this time and you feel like demoralized, you're still incredibly ahead of everybody else, bro. That's a big fucking deal. And so, you know, I see this all the time and I see, you know, what's one, one, one cool way to think about it too, is like, dude, TikTok is a great way to build a following. Like I don't do TikTok't do TikTok personally because I kind of let everybody else just share out my shit.
Starting point is 00:45:29 And I'm not interested in doing another social media platform. But the amount of growth that you can see on TikTok because the fucking algorithm is pretty open, you could build a massive following pretty quick there. However, you know, you have to deal with the fucking, with it being a Chinese spyware, which is what the fuck it is. And like, there's other negatives to it too. And that's another reason why I don't fucking do it.
Starting point is 00:45:53 But like, you know, comparing yourself to people who've been doing shit for a long time is always demoralizing, bro. Like I can remember back when I was, you know, in 2000, I can remember that, dude, this is a real story. I remember back in 2010, 2009, 2010, I had this idea that I went and spoke to this big company about. It was a big, big company at the time. I showed my idea.
Starting point is 00:46:21 I said, this is how the industry lays. This is what you guys could do to change it. And we'd like to be a little part of it. We didn't have the money or the capacity or the resources to do this. So I brought this idea to this company. And they fucking laughed us out the room, bro. They laughed us out the room. You know what he said?
Starting point is 00:46:40 He said, well, if you think that's such a good idea, you should go do it yourself. Guess what the fuck I did? Now I'm here. See what I'm saying? But that shit hurt. And that shit fucking made me sad. And it made me feel like a fucking loser. And so like a lot of the things that you're going through right now, feeling demoralized
Starting point is 00:46:55 and feeling like you're disrespected, those things will actually carry you to success. It's part of the game. Fuck yeah, bro. You think I don't have a massive chip on my shoulder, even though I proved those motherfuckers wrong? You don't think I fucking love the fact that if i went and talked to the person who said that i say hey bro remember when you said this and this and this and he'd be like fuck yeah i know that was fuck you well you went out and did it you know like i think about that like you know it sounds fucked up but it's truth like and and dude all these disrespectful
Starting point is 00:47:21 things and all these slights and all these things, those things will come together if you allow them to, uh, as a really great source of fuel for you to continue to push down the, down the road, which I think is necessary. You know, I think negative energy is the most powerful energy that you could fucking, if you can absorb it, if you can control it and convert it into something positive, it's the most powerful energy it's way more powerful than positive energy it'll drive you to work much harder and dude you can talk about metaphysical quantum physical spiritual beliefs etc etc etc but at the end of the day bro you got to put motherfucking rubber to the road which means you got to fucking work
Starting point is 00:47:59 okay in the real world out here in real life you gotta fucking work not here here right and it's a massive it's a massive it's a massive compliment to to this person that they are even moving that direction in my opinion yeah you know i think there's so much to be said for the people who just fucking try dude like so many people like think of all the great inventions think of all the great businesses think of all the great solutions think of all the greatness period that is left on the fucking table because people are fucking afraid of what's going to happen to them on social media or they're afraid to be called a name they're afraid to be made fun of or they're afraid to
Starting point is 00:48:49 be canceled this is one of the biggest fucking dangers of cancel culture this is why you shouldn't participate in it even when it's fucking you know not your your side or the other side like it's not a good thing in society yeah um. It should be reserved. Cancel culture should be reserved for the harshest things. You know, part of the reason the harshest things are being allowed to happen now, like such as the sexualization of children, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Pedophilia being normalized, which is really happening globally. The reason that's allowed to happen is because there's a space being made for it because when people cancel fucking joe blow for doing whatever joe blow does they it's it's it's the same thing as like
Starting point is 00:49:34 when everything is a certain way then nothing is a certain way so like if everything is cancelable then when you try to cancel fucking valenciaga for what they did it doesn't fucking work it's a boy who cries wolf yeah and so like as society one of the changes i think we need to make is we need to be even more selective about where the fuck we take that power um but because of that power and because it's misused and because it's become a societal norm and it is a weapon it's a fucking social weapon it's meant to divide. This was not, this cancel culture was propagated and inserted into our society intentionally. Okay.
Starting point is 00:50:15 And the reason is so that we all fucking argue. And so we're all afraid and we're afraid to speak up. We're afraid to say shit. Right. But, but here's a, here's a side effect of it that no one really talks about. It's like young people like this, um, like that's what I'm saying this person deserves a lot of credit but it's it's people who have greatness inside of them they're afraid to get off the fucking bench because of the abnormal situation of cancel culture in society see what i'm saying yeah like we're missing out on a lot of fucking greatness because culminated with the idea that it's supposed to be quick and
Starting point is 00:50:41 easy to do well yeah that's a whole another discussion yeah man but like you know people i'm you know i'm a huge anti-cancel culture type person and uh you know i think we as a society need to do a better job of like giving people grace when they make a mistake or when something you know uh when they fuck up or whatever right and being able to delineate if it's just a one or a two-time mistake or something or if they're an evil person i think cancel culture should be completely fucking redirected and utilized for evil things you know we have fucking communism happening in this country that's a big fucking problem don't see no cancel culture there that's what i'm saying bro. That's because they're the motherfuckers that inserted the cancel culture. Well,
Starting point is 00:51:27 and they censored the ones that, yeah, that's another episode guys. Well, people need to know it. You know, anyway, the point is,
Starting point is 00:51:36 well, the point is just keep going, dude. And like, and you know, ask yourself, what's my life really going to be like if I don't do this? Because here's the story I tell myself, my life's going to be like, i don't do this because here's the story i tell
Starting point is 00:51:45 myself what my life's going to be like and at this point it's no longer true because i have so many skills like people pay me to teach their some skill sets right so like i got job security for ever all right uh but what i tell myself is like when i was telling myself about getting out of bed and coming up and you know facing, facing my responsibilities is, um, bro, if you don't, you're going to be digging ditches. Because when I started, when I started this company, if it didn't work, that's what I would have been doing. And so I imagine myself having to get up at fucking four o'clock in the morning, put on my work shit and go fucking work like, like real work.
Starting point is 00:52:24 Not fucking this bullshit work that we all know you know what i'm saying and even though it's not a true story anymore i still tell myself because that's what the fuck works for me you know what i'm saying so you got to find something that is probably true you know like for you it might be you'd be working at mcdonald's cooking french fries and shit no disrespect to those people that work at McDonald's, but McDonald's probably for most people, isn't a career job. You know what I'm saying? Or a choice. Yeah. So like we gotta, we gotta tell ourselves the right story. It gets fucking moving. And the story I told myself is if I don't keep going, bro, I'm going to dig ditches. And what I'm describing now in
Starting point is 00:53:03 terms of, uh, what we're talking about is what I call zero options mentality, because it's easy to have zero options mentality when you actually have zero options. Right. Like when you're in the beginning, you're where this person is and shit, like you don't have an option. Like, fuck, dude, it's easy to believe it. Right.
Starting point is 00:53:19 It's easy to believe. Like it was easy to believe in my first year of business that if I fucking fail, I'd be digging ditches. Yeah. As easy to fucking believe. Guess what? It was what it was true yeah right you really would have been yeah that's right so today you know here i am 24 years later right i've done pretty well in business by all accords and all standards all right i got a long way to go i got a lot to do but i'm been doing okay i have to kind of lie to myself you know i'm saying i have to say bro if you don't
Starting point is 00:53:48 fucking get your fucking ass out of bed bro and now it's not just you're going to be digging ditches but all the motherfuckers that depend on you they're going to be digging ditches too which i think that's even scarier fuck yeah it is yeah that's what people don't get dude that's a whole different type of pressure bro it is and it never stops and it's real it's if you're not a piece of shit it's real right right you know guys the third and final question andy uh question number three um let's close it out andy in a recent cti episode you spoke about giving especially when you don't have much to give and the power that it creates in the universe when you do it i've also heard you mention not helping people when they just ask for it
Starting point is 00:54:25 because hard times is what forges toughness and teaches lessons. Can you expand more on these views on when or what circumstances should align to truly give or help someone? Man, that's such a good question. I don't even know how to answer that, to be honest, because I think it's a nuanced question. I think there's a time and place for both.
Starting point is 00:54:49 I think that you have to learn to see the truth of the situation. Is this a situation where this person genuinely needs help? And are they someone who deserves help? Do they live a good life? Are they good person? Um, cause everybody needs a hand sometimes that's reality, bro. I've, I've had a little help. Everybody's had a little help along the way. Okay. In different ways. I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about in just different ways, all kinds of ways. Um, sometimes it's important to be that helpful people. So I think it's important to evaluate each situation on a case-by-case scenario. And when it's an honest thing, I think you should do the good thing.
Starting point is 00:55:34 I think there's other scenarios where you may have a... And most of the time in these scenarios, I think it's, you know, you have a somewhat of a relationship with someone, meaning you know them and you know a little bit about them and they get themselves in a fucking pickle. to understand is this pickle there is this going to hurt them or damage them or is this something that they need to be hurt and damaged by so that they don't do a bigger mistake later and so some thought needs to go into these things on an individual basis and i think it's you know it definitely is a conflicting viewpoint a little bit yeah but i think it's because there's nuance and i think there's no blanket answer there's not just a catch-all no i don't think so i mean i i think that makes sense yeah i can think of i think i can think of scenarios many different ways where um bad advice would would not be the truth right um i think that's a great fucking question i wish you guys would ask more questions like that that's a good fucking question this actually makes me fucking think you know what i'm saying yeah i have to really fucking
Starting point is 00:56:47 think about that because i think the way i do it is like i'm describing like i'm just trying to reflect back in my head like how how i do it and i think it's you know the times i haven't helped people because i thought they needed to learn the lesson that also came from a place of love. It didn't come from a place of like, I'm going to teach you this. No, no. And that's it. Like I'm trying to operate with the best intention for the scenario. And sometimes dude, and I've learned this, like I've, I've made this mistake before where I've helped people and it kept them from
Starting point is 00:57:23 learning a lesson that was important for them to learn and then they ended up making that same mistake only way bigger later down the road and like it fucking buried them or you got the end of the karmic stick well yeah bro or yeah right and that's a whole nother thing it's like dude you know like uh malik fucking taught me this is a powerful thing that malik taught me was that sometimes you can't step in front of karma because when you step in front of the karma, you're the one that gets delivered the fucking blow. It's got to go somewhere.
Starting point is 00:57:50 Right. And so like, and I believe there's some to that too. You know, and that's why I say you have to look at the context. Right? Like, dude, it's hard. It's a hard, it's a hard, but dude, you know, doing the right thing isn't easy. You have to put some fucking thought into it. For sure. you know i think the intent matters a lot i think when you
Starting point is 00:58:09 when you can help someone and choose not to um you have to understand that it's probably not going to seen as be seen from their point of view as loving right like this is part of like probably a lot of parents relate to this shit right um but down the road you know hopefully they understand sometimes you know they don't yeah and i think it's important that you make the right decision so that you can live with a clear conscience about how you handle these situations because even if you try like bro i try really fucking hard to do what's right um by every single person that comes across my face. And even trying as hard as I can, there's still going to be people that don't value that or don't see it that way.
Starting point is 00:58:54 Or appreciate it. Yeah. And that's the reality of life. And so I think we all have to understand that not everybody's in the same place or the same vibe or the same fucking plane that you're on at this time. And so that's why I think it's important for you to do the thing that you're going to feel best about to understand. And dude, and not, not the weak thing either. Cause the weak thing is, is to never, is to always help everybody. But what ends up happening is you end up handicapping a lot of fucking people by being that way. And that's a very, like, that's something that took me until I was probably 38 39 maybe 40
Starting point is 00:59:25 years old to truly understand because i didn't grow up like like in a situation where i help a lot of people right but when i when i started to do well in business that changed and like you start you start doing so well that you can solve people's problems and it's very little rub on your end like it doesn't it doesn't hurt to you're not missing the fucking money yeah there's massive pain point over here yeah but yes so like it's like this very weird thing to like reconcile it doesn't fucking hurt you it's easy for you right and it solves this person's bad problem immediately yes and so but the problem is is like dude people will sniff that the fuck out and then they become the people who take advantage of you very quickly i'll try to get more of those situations yeah bro and so like dude you gotta
Starting point is 01:00:16 you gotta know where those boundaries are and it's a it's a it's a tough place and it's not that's why most that's this real talk this is why most wealthy successful people that you know do not allow people access to them this is why they're very well insulated yes this is why famous people act the way they act this is why they're cold it's not because they think less of you well some of them probably do because they're assholes but you know it's it you know a lot of these people are just trying not to get fucking their heartstrings pulled and taken advantage of because it happens so regularly. Right.
Starting point is 01:00:50 And this is like, you know what they try to tell these dudes in the NFL, they try to tell them this shit, you know, to protect themselves, insulate themselves and they don't fucking listen. And what ends up happening is they end up on a 30 for 30 episode because they gave all their money away to their homies because they were trying to help them when their homies stopped giving a fuck how much money
Starting point is 01:01:08 could they took because dude to those dudes you got a money tree in your backyard you could just go in the back and pull shit off of yep and like they don't they don't think about all the time that this dude you know whether it be business or athletics you know from the time they were young putting in all those hours they didn't get paid for, years and years and years and years of work, you know, people just don't care. Yeah. And they stop caring real quick when you give them money. More importantly, they stop caring when you stop.
Starting point is 01:01:33 Oh, well, that's the other thing. It's like, you know, people will, you can't get out of that cycle once it starts, you know? Yeah. It's definitely a weird thing. I had an uncle tell me he's like well if you could if you could do it without me then i'm not going to do it for you like if i wasn't here you could still solve that problem you're going to solve that problem well i think that's a good that's a good way like a nice little rule of thumb i guess yeah yeah that's definitely great i think that's pretty solid advice bro yeah oh yeah and that that's probably the best advice that we gave on the whole show right there
Starting point is 01:02:08 i'm just saying yeah you know it's that's just a tough scenario it is man the more success you have and the more success people uh recognize that you have the harder that gets yeah that's real man but as hard as it is it's still better than the problems that you have, the harder that gets. Yeah. That's real, man. But as hard as it is, it's still better than the problems that you have when you don't have shit. When you ain't got shit. That's real, bro. That's real shit, man.
Starting point is 01:02:32 Well, guys, Andy, that was three. Yeah. Open the feet. Yep. Don't be a hoe. Share the show. Thanks for watching!

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