REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 522. #75HARD vs Nicholas Salvatore

Episode Date: May 27, 2023

In today's episode, Andy is joined in the studio by Nicholas Salvatore. They discuss the spark that caused Nicholas to take control of his life, how #75HARD has impacted and improved all areas of his life, and what the program can do for you if you follow it without compromise.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest sake of by the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have a special episode now I know i normally come on here and say oh we've got episodes within the episode but we also have episodes within the episode within the episode okay and today some of you might have guessed because you clicked on the link we have a 75 hard versus episode for those of you that don't know I am the creator of the live hard program 75 hard is the first phase of that program if you haven't heard of it I don't know where you've been because it's probably the

most popular mental toughness program that's ever existed in the history of humanity and it's everywhere so what we do on these episodes is we interview people who have had success who have valuable things to offer when it comes to the program. And that's what we do. So normally when you tune in, you'll have a number of different episodes or episodes within the episode. Okay. We have Q and AF. That's where you can submit the questions and we do the answers. We have CTI. That's where we cruise the internet and we talk about what's going on in the world. We talk about what the problems are. We speculate and we talk about how we could be a solution to those problems.

Then we have real talk. Real talk is five to 20 minutes of me just giving you guys some real talk. And then we have full length. And full length is where, you know, we have guests come in the show and we sit down and we have a conversation. We do have this thing on the show we call the fee.

The fee is if you get value out of the show, which I guarantee you're going to get value out of this episode, please share the show. That's all we ask. We don't run ads for the show. We don't run ads on the show. You won't hear me reading a bunch of things given to me by someone who's paying me money to say them. I don't do that.

I keep it authentic and real with you guys. That's why it's called Real AF. So the show brings you value. Please pay the fee. Now, we've got a special guest here, a guy I've been friends with for quite a few years. We actually became friends through 75 Hard, Mr. Nick Salvatore. What's happening, bro? Not much, man.

Thank you for having me. Yeah, it's great to have you here. Now, Nick isn't just a guy who's done 75 Hard. He helps run and is the main guy that runs the Facebook group, the official Facebook book. Okay, that's what we're going to call it today. Run the Facebook book of 75 Hard and has really helped navigate the entire, helped bring clarity to the entire program for lots and lots of people. So I wanted to get you on today, bro, to talk about your personal journey, how you found 75 Hard, what it wanted to get you on today, bro, to talk about your personal journey,

what 70, how you found 75R, what it means to you, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And then also we'll get into the group. And then also, you know, some of the things where people get off track or confused about. And address those at scale. So, but it's good to have you here, bro.

Yeah, dude, this is, you know, I came in and kind of came in on a whirlwind. Um, haven't gotten a chance to, to take the, uh, the nickel tour yet. Yeah. I'm looking forward to it. Um, amazing as it stands. Um, and, uh, and look, man, it's, it's, it's an honor, you know, you and I have been connected for a good while now.

And, um, and so for me, uh, just want to try to help some people and, and, and, and, you know, this is such a great cause. Um, and it's such a great tool, um, for people in every aspect of their life that, um, you know, I think the ability to be able to help some of those people today through this, um, not only as they listen to it when it comes out, but in the future when they find it, um, you know, hopefully we can kind of rubber stamp this thing and use it as a little bit of a, a 0.2 tool, um, for, for future people as well. Yeah, for sure, bro. I mean, you now, if I remember right, you jumped in right at the beginning, I think when I was doing it on the very, at the very beginning. Nope. Uh, so I started, I started, um started probably about six months after you started.

So where you're probably thinking about that is, so for me, I basically, my journey towards kind of where I am now, and as we move forward, started end of 2018, early 2019, before you started talking about the program. you started talking about the program. You started talking about the program where I think the original podcast was February of 19. And so I was already kind of on this personal betterment, like personal development path on the mental side. But dude, I was a tub of shit.

I was like 375 pounds. You're a big dude. How tall are you? Six five. Yeah. And former athlete. You've been an athlete your whole life. You're a big dude. How tall are you? Six, five. Yeah. So, and, and, and former athlete, you're, you're, you've been an athlete your whole life. Yep. All my life. And, and, and look, you know, it was just, it was, it was, you know, oh, you know, you're a big guy, but you carry it well and yada, yada, yada.

So, um, but yeah, I, I kind of reached a point at the end of 2018, 2019 where I, uh, I caught a reflection of myself washing one of my cars in the mirror or in the window of the driver's side. And dude, I was fat. I was descended. I didn't have a shirt on. And I was like- That can't be me. Yeah. It was like I've never in my life been clinically like diagnosed with depression or anything like that. But I mean, I felt that way. And I was at a point in my life where I was like, there's got to be more than this. And, um, that started that personal betterment journey. But again, that was a couple of months before 75, 75 started, uh, quite frankly, like a lot of other people, um, look at it like, man,

that's, that's heavy. That's a lot. And so what I got to is like, when you talked about it, because I consumed your content for years prior on MFCEO, my work as a managing director for our global investment bank, I was listening for entrepreneur skills. I was listening for all of those things. And so when I heard you talk about, I knew I needed to do it. And so for me, um, I was kind of in that process of migration process of getting towards it. So I eventually started it, um, you know, early that summer. Um, and then the way you and I originally connected formally was when my before after

pictures was like 70 or 61 pounds. The first go around, uh, got down into the low three hundreds. Um, that hashtag kind of went viral that you were real active on. You reached out, you're like, bro, that's awesome. And then we just picked it up. And obviously we have a lot of commonalities beyond that. Yeah. We started talking cars, cars, watches yeah houses i mean good shit like stuff from the mfceo project right that

that you know you go out and crush it that you love but um but yeah that's cool man so let's talk about this dude so you're you're at this place of all- dissatisfaction. Fair to say. And you hear about the program and you're like, all right, I know I need this. I need to go. Talk about the program the first time you went through it. Because you've been through a few different times. Yeah. So and like, let's, you know, like, we're trying to remember as someone who never did it before. Yeah. Well, let's start here. And that is there was no app when I did it.

We'll start with that. My living in Texas at the time, I had a big roll of pink butcher paper that we used to wrap briskets in. And I tore off a big piece of it and I hung it up in my kitchen and I got my ass out of Sharpie and I wrote down W O one W O two W B P. Right. And for those of you, right. Workout one workout to water photo, right. Food, et cetera. And just cross them off each day. And it was, and it literally got to the point where I was putting piece of butcher paper on top of butcher paper. But for me, um, you know, mine, mine initially, um, everything was outside, um, got a, an 80 pound weighted vest. And what I did was, is that I started my workouts and, um, initially I started with nothing. Um, and as I lost weight, I added that back on with a vest. And so eventually I got to the end of it there where, um, I was having the cops called in my neighborhood because I look like a madman walking around with what they thought,

right, dude, I had cops coming up to me and they're like, you know, people would call in shit cause I'd be walking roads and, and and they'd be like who the who the fuck is this psycho that's walking right you know in texas 95 degrees right yeah so um we started there but it's funny dude because it's funny that you say that because i remember that back in those days it's fun it like it actually showed it's a testament to the cultural power of the program yep because that was common when we, when everybody first started doing 75 hard, I heard that story all the time. That shit doesn't happen the same way anymore. I think people are starting to figure out, Oh no, that guy's just out there

doing something. Dude. It was, it was, it was what, but getting to your original question, the thing that I loved about it, um, I loved working out. I loved finding the worst weather possible to work out into. We didn't have snow of course there, but you know, uh, tropical storms down there, hurricanes. Um, you know, because the thing that got me, that got me going was knowing that I was out there doing something when nobody else was willing to put in the time and the effort. Yeah, bro. And so, um, so I did that. Um, look, man, it's fucking hard. It's hard. Um,

it sucks. Um, it's designed to suck. It's supposed to suck all the, all the different phases of the process that you talk about in terms of when you feel like you're on top of the mountain, when you first start versus getting your shit kicked in like three weeks in, then you hit that cruise control point. Then you're in that no man's land where your body's destroyed like day 50 or 60. And then you kind of get that finish line interview. And then I think the biggest thing for the people that do it the first time, and I see it over and over again, is this feeling of loss that happens the final couple of days where people don't realize that, that they, they realize they're getting better. They realize the commitment that they've made to themselves. And they realize that they are, they're, they're receiving the, the, and they actually legitimately feel for

themselves for the first time, the grit and the determination, the self-worth and the fortitude and the conviction that they're doing tough shit and they don't want to regress and so they get this feeling of loss and people talk about it on the group all the time like how do you deal with it i'm like you keep going yeah because that's the point the very next day because i went straight into phase one went 105 straight days but here's the thing. If on day 76, you wake up and you do all the same shit, not because Andy for sale is pissed off on you on a fucking app, but you do it for your fucking self for the very first time ever that immediately is gone. Yeah.

Those concerns. And all of a sudden in that moment, you step in to what you now actually are. It's, it's the anticipation of the loss of the structure and the guide framework. Right. And we don't really ever know how disciplined we are until we don't have that framework. And so people say this to me all the time. They're like, well, dude, I just want to stay on the program all the time. But that's not the point. The point is over the course of a year, you're going to do 75 days, which is going to recondition you to think and feel and see yourself differently. And then over the course of the rest of the year, you're going to have three 30 day runs that help tune you up to that. They help make you a little better. A lot of people

are confused about the break between phase one and phase two, right? They're like, why is there a break? Why can't we just do them together? Because you don't know if it's working until you're not on the program and you're supposed to test yourself with that. Um, but dude, I love that man. Uh, you know, the first time I did the program, the, the first three weeks, the one thing I remember the most is how bad my fucking feet hurt. Like, holy shit. Yeah. It was, you know, I was, I will say this, um, praise God, uh, that, you know, being

the height and the weight that I was, that I never, ever, ever have been, I've ever had to deal with hip or knee or ankle issues. I'm very thankful for that, but your feet get destroyed, dude. Yeah. And, and especially, I mean, as you get more active, it becomes easy. Like, like now when I do the program, my feet don't hurt, but you get used to it. But I mean, dude, I had like, you know, long time ago now, but shin splints that were so horrible you could barely walk and somebody was like how do you get past it i'm like here's the thing right um you're just gonna have to keep going yeah that's the only because all of a sudden

one day you're working and they're not there anymore yeah um you're gonna destroy a pair of shoes each round yeah um you know you're gonna you know you're you're gonna you're gonna become a fucking professional at laundry um you know you're all of those things man know, you're gonna, you know, you're, you're gonna, you're gonna become a fucking professional at laundry. Um, you know, you're all of those things, man. And, and you're going to get, you're going to get so structured and regimented. And there's so many people that look at this. How am I going to add in all of these things? Look, you know, all of a sudden you start doing that stuff and it makes you stop doing

some of the other bullshit that you're doing. You'll realize you you'll actually, I can make the argument that you actually gain time in your life by doing this just from a structure standpoint to get shit done. But I think that's a commonality. I hear that from almost everybody that's doing the program correctly. They're like, bro, I didn't realize how much time I had. It's like, yeah, because you're wasting on dumb shit. Yeah, you're fucking off half the time. Yeah. Yeah. So let's talk about the mental progress. I mean, obviously you lost, what did you say, 61 pounds? Well, the first round. Yeah. 61 pounds the first time. That's tremendous. I mean, I'm sure you felt great, but let's talk more about the mental

because a lot of people get this confused. They think it's a weight loss thing. They don't really still understand it. Yeah. Let's talk about that. Yeah. How was that for you? So, um, let me see here. Uh, try not to go too long winded on it, but, um, you know, growing up, right. Growing up in the Northeast in New York, Italian family. Um, I was somebody that earlier in my life lived for the, um, affirmations of those around me in my relationships, in my familial life. Um, those things, you know, every Sunday night was family dinner. Um, and I very rarely spent time to myself because quite frankly, in hindsight, I didn't like who I was and I didn't like the company.

For me, I was at that point at the end of 2018, my work was good, but it wasn't great. My relationship was dog shit. And perfectly candidly, I wasn't pulling my own weight. I was in a position where I put everyone and everything else in front of me, right? Porn from an empty cup. That's what I was doing. And so for me, the process of all of a sudden what this program yields and then truly believing those things for yourself, the way that that twists the optics about what's important to you, what you tolerate,

what works for you, what doesn't, what you need from other people, what you don't, what you now have within yourself versus thinking somebody else is supposed to fulfill that, that totally changes. And the way I look at 75 is very simple. 75 is not going to fix 20, 30 years of fucking up in 75 days. Here's what it will do. It will basically give you two to three years of on and off progress in 75 days. And what it will do is it will basically give you two to three years of on and off progress in 75 days. And what it will do is it will give you the tool that you need when your shit gets sideways to get it right back. But for me, what it resulted in.

That's a good point because one of the biggest things that happens to people, I just hold that thought. I want to point this out. One of the reasons that people struggle over the course of their life is because they don't know how to get back on track when they get off track. And if you can shrink the amount of time that you're off track, when you do fall off track and you do the math, that saves you years. If you really think about it, because you're old enough to know because we're roughly the same age i'm a little bit older as we discussed well uh we know that those times when we've been off the path they last for years they don't last for months they don't last for weeks

they last for years and one of the most important things that i think a person can learn to do is to self-assess when they are off track as quickly as possible and know what to do to get back on track. And I think that's an important point that doesn't get enough light in terms of how the program works for people. Yeah, dude, it's, it's course correcting, right? It's quickly, it's quickly, it's, it's, it's, it's, you know, it goes back to win the day. It goes back to all those things like, look, you know, um, life isn't perfect. There's fucking storms. I mean, there's a reason that there is an outside workout component to this program, irrespective of the

weather to, to, to face that it's literally what that's designed for. But look, life is not going to be perfect. The program that dictates that you be so for 75 days and then 30 days and three segments. But to that end, whether you journal, whether you use butcher paper, whatever that is, if you go back through and you've got 29 W's and two L's in a fucking month, you kicked ass that way. Yeah, that's a fucking win, bro. Right? That's not even a win.

That's a fucking dominant win. That's right. The problem is that we're in this society, right, where somebody does something. You and I talked about this a while back. Somebody does something. I think it was Schwarzenegger that was talking about body change and composition or anything else.

How long you have to do it for before you see change. That's right. What he said was, and you and I talked about this. This is what Arnold said. And this is a very powerful quote that stuck with me my whole life. And I read it when i was about 25 years old he said takes your body roughly five to six weeks to adjust to the new activities that you're putting it through and most people quit before then and after that point in time the except the results

accelerate tremendously and i found that to be factually true yeah it doesn't matter what it is it doesn't matter if it's physically it could be mentally in this case it's just like believing your own shit yeah most people quit before the shit ever happens bro and so how many of you guys out there listening right now have legitimately and i mean legitimately given it you're all past a six week point in your entire life right like a lot of people there's do 75 hard they're like well fuck yeah i got that's where the magic happens but you don't know that when you've never done it yeah no look people people that have people the reason 75 hard works very very if you like dumb this down to the most elemental basic level the reality is is that very very very very few people have ever been with 100 discipline for 10 and a half straight weeks.

Yeah. They never, ever, ever have. Well, most people never done it for one week. Correct. Right.

Cause when you talked about, you know, you, you, you, you have, you know, a long story history of diet culture got fucked.

Okay. And it got fucked with the idea. Okay. I'm going to say this and it's, this is not a dig. Okay. But around the, around the late 90s, people started believing that they had to have cheat days and cheat meals and shit, okay?

And diet culture got really fucked up with that because what it did was it trained people to only go long enough to produce the result, but not ever go long enough to actually ingrain the habit into you of eating healthy. And that's why you have so many people that get in shape, go out of shape, get in shape, go out of shape. And people will say, I'm like, dude, we hear it all the time, right? 75 days without a cheat day or a cheat meal. Like, bro, yeah, that's what it fucking takes to ingrain that lifestyle into you. That's what takes the the idea and if you really break it down and think about a cheat meal and or a cheat day because for me it was always a day it was never of course a meal was like you had super discipline right like i didn't dude look up until

i did the program i couldn't go six days without a cheat day for sure you know and and i'm being real about that um you have to understand the behavior thought process behind that if you know and and i'm being real about that um you have to understand the behavior thought process behind that if you know people say oh i need it no you know you don't fucking need it that's that's a fucking physiological untruth all right you go six days and your work there's a couple things here in play six days where you're working your ass off and and in the whole time you're doing the six days you're focused on the seventh day because you could do whatever you want. Correct. All right.

So if you're working for that seventh day, instead of just to continue to get better, you're never actually breaking the psychological pattern of, of overfeeding or overeating or, or using food addiction, deal with things or any of these things. No, because all you're doing is, is toughing out or gritting out six days until that break. And that's not how we should be looking at it. We should be looking at it as we're trying to correct, correct the thought process behind our, our need for these foods that are not good for us, that don't serve us, that really make us feel like shit after we eat them. Um, and all these things. So there's a psychological thought process that you have to understand for, for, for you to really comprehend

why you shouldn't do a cheat day for 75 days. And then what it is is it's just like, if I were to ask you, let's say you were addicted to heroin. And I said, Nick, all right, bro, here's the deal. Give me six good days without heroin. I'll give you some on the seven. Sure. And here's the thing. How do I ever break you of that addiction? Right. Can't. And here's the other thing is that like, and look, going back to a diet standpoint, I want to get onto the mental, but here's the thing. I don't know about the people listening. I know for you for sure, because we've talked about it. I promise you, even if this was a good idea, I promise you what I can do in one day on that cheat day, I can undo the prior set. Absolutely.

Promise you that. But look, I think that that's the reason that this whole thing works. And going back to your original question about the mental, where it culminated for me was being in a space and being in a position where I could genuinely sit down because, wait, here's the thing. When I did stuff, real talk, back before all of this, I had lost 80 pounds, gained it back, lost 60 pounds, gained it back, lost it, right? All of those things. And what always confused me about myself was the fact that people always talk about oh man you got to do it until you see the

results and then that's going to make you double down and go harder for me i was fucked because i was the opposite way i worked until somebody said man you're looking good and then i stopped yeah and i'm like what the fuck is that all about and so so what I did is, um, what I, what I did when I did 75, going back to the mentality part, I literally turned off the world. I basically developed a way to monitor my own progress incognito mode, um, out to the world, which is kind of where some of that stuff started. But I didn't tell family. Um, I didn't tell, I didn't tell anybody, but I stopped showing up to everything. I stopped showing up to the Sunday dinners. I stopped trying to try to be in an Italian family where all of a sudden you don't

come over anymore on Sunday night, the fuck's going on. And all of a sudden you did it. And then all of a sudden you show back up three months later, four months later, three and a half months later, and they haven't seen you. And then they do. They're like, initially it's like, what are you doing? You shouldn't do that. There's no need for it, but they don't know what you're doing. And then they seem like, what the fuck? Yeah. And then you lead by example. I, I, to date, I think, I think she's been surpassed now, but my 70 year old mother did the program fucking killed it. Yeah. Um, all of those things that are out there, but where it culminated crazily enough to me at a point was like October, November of 19.

I was sitting down with some people that really mattered. Their opinions mattered to me. Um, and they were talking to me. This is their first time seeing me since I had done everything. And they're like, like, you know, what'd you do? All these things. And I talked to him and the craziest moment in that whole thing. One of the most profound moments in my life was looking at my father, who, whose opinion I put above reproach in everything. And I looked right at him

respectfully and he knew this, but I said, I don't give a fuck what you think about me. And that moment, and here's the thing, right? In that moment, you would say, oh, that's disrespectful, whatever. You just looked at me with this shit eating grin. Yeah. Realizing that's what it was about. And so that is getting to that point mentally and then realizing you have that tool in your bag to double down. You know, like for example, for the last 30 days, I haven't been able to do shit. I've got this herniated issue in my L five and my lower back. That's basically caused complete weakness in my left leg. Feels like my fucking left leg's asleep half the time. Couldn't do cardio, all this stuff. So it's like fucking spinal decompression,

foam rolling, stretching. But now guess what? About ready to get back to it. Know exactly what I need to. And you know, more importantly than knowing what you need to do, you know, you have the capacity to actually do it. Correct. And that's the point. The point is most people have never stuck things out long enough to actually believe

in their own abilities to do things. I just did a post about this today. You might've saw it on my Instagram, on my story. I made a post regarding talking about like these people that you admire, they don't have things that you don't have. They don't have superpowers. Some of them might make you believe that they have superpowers, but they don't. The only difference between you and them is they've done enough work to uncover their own belief in themselves and their ability to do the work to where they could do it with no problem, where you still doubt that you can actually do it. And if you would just push yourself even a little bit for 75 days, it would change your

whole perspective around what you're actually able to do. Because dude, you and I are both naturally big ass fat dudes. OK, like we're athletes, but like we're not doing shit. We get fat. Sure. OK. I never, ever, ever, ever. And this is the truth.

The first time I did 75 hard, dude, I didn't I didn't know if I could fucking do it. Yeah. But I put it out in public on the podcast didn't know if I could fucking do it yeah but I put it out on a public on the podcast I said I'm fucking doing it and and dude one thing about me is like if I say I'm going to do something public I will fucking eat bowls of glass to get it done yep um just like I'm going to whoop everybody's ass in this transformation challenge we got going on right now just let you guys know you better fucking bring it because I'm bringing it all right but real talk like if I say something I'm going to at least do my best to back it up, even if I fail, because I don't like being embarrassed in that way. Right. And what it does, man, is it gives you the belief that you have this power within you,

man. And like that then translates to literally every other area. It translates to your relationship. It translates to your business. It translates to, you know, how you look at yourself. And that's a powerful thing because most of us, before we discover this ability about ourselves, we look at other people and we think, fuck dude, why, why don't I have that? Why don't I have this? Why is that person so much better at me than this? And then after completing the program, it made sense to me. Like it was just, they're doing things I'm not doing. So it brings in focus actual reality of the situation and the actual reality of life. Whether you want to admit this to yourself right now or not, it will eventually be known to be true to you because it is a fundamental truth of the world. It is inputs

and fucking outputs. It's action and reaction. It is two plus two equals motherfucking four. And that is it. And so if you're in a place right now where you doubt yourself and you say, man, I don't know if I could do this, or I don't know if I could do that. The whole reason that you doubt yourself is because you never actually really fucking tried. That's the truth. Dude, you know. Yeah. You know.

You know. You, you, you know, if you're, if you're listening to this, whether it's on audio, whether it's on YouTube, because I know, you know, I've heard you say like the YouTube crowd, it doesn't seem like the audio crowd is turning to YouTube, but it seems like the YouTube is a brand new crowd. So there's a lot of people look kind of foreshadowing kind of our group conversation in a bit. Um, dude, probably a third of the 31,000 people in that group have no idea who the fuck you are. And, and so, and, but, but to that end, right. Being in a position where if you're listening to this, if you found this right for. You knew you were going to be successful because you put your name and you attached yourself to something out there and you knew you weren't going to fail. And so the point is the way

you succeed on this program, because this program is going to confirm who you are. You're either going to either way, either way, because here's the problem, right? A couple of things. Here's a couple of truths that happen with this. Number one, the people that do this program decide that they're doing it. No matter what. Burn the boats, zero options mentality, they're doing it. Anybody I'm going to try, you're fucked. You're dead. You're going to fail. It's not going to happen. And bro, not only that, those people then compound their own self-doubt because they don't commit properly from the beginning. And then on top of that, the people that don't succeed, you're going to get the confirmation either way, whether you can do it or you can't.

Because then here's the problem, right? And you've talked about this before, not often, but the dark part of this program is, is that if you do it half-assed and you don't succeed, then it's just confirming all of the bullshit that you already feel about yourself and you're fucked. So to that end, you have to commit zero options. Okay. Number one. And then here's the other thing. And people don't talk about this at all. And this is as hard as this is, right?

It's the easiest the very first time. Yeah. And the reason why is, is because when you have that commitment to yourself, for whatever reason, I tell people it could be to yourself. It could be for whatever reason, but that there's going to be a part of that first time where you're convincing yourself that you can do it. Yeah. You got something to prove that first time. And the second time, you know, you've done it. The second time it's, it's the, it's the cheat day idea of I worked out for six days. I deserve it. And then the second time it's, you're bringing up a very interesting i've done this before i know i can do it so i don't and people

talk about it all the time of the fucking bitch voice correct so that's something that nobody talks about um we haven't even talked about it on this show your your bitch voice evolved correct okay the first 75 days your bitch voice is fuck i'm sore man i don't want to eat the same thing again man i wish i could do this but you get to the end and you're like fuck i'm proud of myself dude and you start to realize and discover the things that we just talk about that you discover um but the bitch voice you think you conquered it right and like for those of you that don't know what the bitch voice and the boss voice is the bitch voice is the voice that when you get home from a long day of work and you know that you should get out and do your cardio

or go hit the weights or whatever it is you're doing, and you sit down on the couch and it says, Andy, bro, you worked really hard today, man. You know, you're a pretty wealthy guy. You don't have to do this, man. Let's just act tomorrow. We'll fucking get after it. You know what?

Tonight you should actually get a pizza, man. And tomorrow we'll start fresh after it. You know what? Tonight, you should actually get a pizza, man. And tomorrow, we'll start fresh. We got a fresh slate. That's your fucking bitch voice. And that voice sabotages your entire existence as a human on this planet unless you learn to suppress it. But the tricky thing about a bitch voice that really fucks people up is that when they think they've smashed it, it creeps in in different ways. And the way that it creeps in in the second point, like the second time you go through 75 hard or live hard, right? Cause some people only do 75 and other people do live hard.

I do live hard. Most people do live hard, but the, the way it creeps in the second time, because after you've established that you've done it, you're like, oh shit, I've done this, bro. Like this doesn't really like, look, man, you know, you can do it. Like, you know, you can do it. Like it doesn't really, you know, this one outdoor workout, nobody will know. Nobody will know that you, you know, it's raining. It's 37 degrees. Nobody will know, you know, or like dude here in where we get, you know, I was out there doing it minus 27 this year. You know, nobody will fucking know, you know, or like dude here and where we get, you know, I was out there doing it minus 27 this year. You know, nobody will fucking know, bro. Like I'll just walk outside and stand in the snow and take a fucking picture and it'd be all good. Nobody will know. And that's

how the bitch voice really gets you. And so the awareness that's created around our internal dialogue, I believe is the fucking most powerful part of the program. Because if you can learn to navigate these, these two voices, which we all have, um, one, you know, it's like the little, like in the cartoons, man, like the little devils on one side, little angels on the other side, the devil's telling you all the bad shit. The angel's telling you all the good shit. Well, you have to learn which one you're going to listen to because we all have them. And just having the awareness of how those voices show up is extremely powerful one of the things i like that you said was that it's easiest the first time because you're

almost ignorant to the other ways that this thing can sneak in and so you know it's it's always cool to talk to people who have done it multiple times because they understand what we're talking about now they're like fuck dude and then every time do it, you actually get better and better and better. You get better and better. Um, in the challenges that, that bitch voice, it evolves as you evolve and it's going to find different ways, different weak spots, different, different, different versions of it. Um, but it evolves and, and, and look, you know, it is a, it is a perishable trait. It's a perishable skill that what this program yields, it's up to you to stay on top of it. You talk about, hey, you're out in the warehouse.

Why do you pick up that sticker off the floor? I do it because if I walk past that fucking sticker, then that is the first domino towards other dominoes of then not doing that thing. I'm giving power to my bitch voice. Right. I'm taking a unit out of my discipline by walking past that thing. And when you start to visualize and understand that your discipline, like if you play video games, it'd be like if you're playing John Madden football, right?

And it has discipline, speed 99, strength 99, agility 99. Well, discipline is in there for us too, right? And most of our discipline score as normal human beings is pretty fucking low because the standard of living with discipline is non-existence. It's not celebrated, bro. Like, look in the world. Like, we're having 400 400 pound people being promoted as healthy right uh or beautiful and do beauty is not even up for discussion we're talking about just

health but the point is it's shoved it's dude being a fit disciplined human 20 years ago was like the status symbol of everything and then for the last 20 years we started to celebrate degeneracy and all these different things through our culture. And so when you start out on this program and you're building the discipline that other people don't have, they're going to automatically think it's weird. They're going to see it as like, what are you doing? Why are you doing that? And because of that, people don't desire it. They don't value it. Right. They don't think about it. Right. Right. They don't think about it. Like this is an attribute or a skill that I must develop. Most people, and this is how I looked at it.

Like, dude, I don't, you know, we all have these friends, right. That walk around, they're lean, they're in good shape. They're buff. They're fucking yoked all the time. And you're like, what the fuck, bro? But then if you like actually look at how they live, every single time they live very consistently in one way or the other that produces that result, okay? Like a lot of you guys say, well, I got this one friend. He drinks all the time. Yeah, he might drink all the time, but does he train?

Does he eat within his calorie range? Does he do this and this and this? And so we don't like, we don't think of it as when I'm talking about discipline, we don't think of it as a, something that we can acquire or build. So look at it, look at it this way, right? Um, 75 hard is a program of consistency, right? You need motivation to start and then you need consistency to bring you through, right? Um, but here's the thing guys, right? Is that if you need consistency to bring you through. Right. But here's the thing, guys.

Right. Is that if you choose not to do it, if you choose to just live whatever life you're living that is making you sit here and think, I know I need to start. That's also consistency. It's shitty consistency. That's right. It's eating the things you're not supposed to eat, consuming the things you're not supposed to consume, not putting in the effort consistently, not showing up for your family, not showing up for your kids, not showing up for your work, not showing it.

There's consistency either way. Yeah. So you're going to get the result. You're consistent. The wrong things. Correct. Yeah. That's that's everybody's fucking problem.

It drives me crazy that when you see these success people and they're like, you know what the key to becoming successful is consistency. most motherfuckers don't have a problem consistency they're consistently bad yep that's the problem correct and so dude let's switch gears just a little bit how how has this change affected you in other areas of your life well because you were a successful guy but when I met you before before just kind of like me like you were a successful guy when I met you before, before just kind of like me, like you were very successful guy before you did the program. Right. So what, how has that, this affected you in that regard? It's, it's just, it's just taken everything and

it's just leveled it up considerably. Um, you know, there's, there's, um, there's levels to everything in life, including whether it's success, whether it's health, whether it's mental positioning, whether it's career, whether it's relationship, whatever that is. I was doing good. I was doing well. But now that's transitioned to great or exceptional. You position yourself, your role and your responsibility is to be the best within this company. That is what your role dictates. Mine is yielding those same results in my organization that I'm a part of. I mentioned the shit relationship that I was in at the end of 2018. The relationship that I've now been in for a little over three years, the partner. You want to talk about relationships in terms of who you attract and what you attract into your life. When you invest that, it totally changes

itself. The relationship with some of those same people that I told you about, whose opinions carried a tremendous amount of weight and gravity to me, how those have evolved. That's been really interesting in terms of all of a sudden, you go, one of the things that happens a lot in the program, my spouse or significant other doesn't support me. What do I do? What do about what do i do well listen okay if your significant other has a problem with you becoming the best version of yourself that you can be then congratulations because you just identified a major fucking problem in your relationship and i've seen your life i've seen more relationships relationships flourish because of this down the road once it's understood what it brings. And I've also seen them destroyed and fall apart.

Yeah. But that's not necessarily a bad thing. Not at all. Because every single one of those people, every single one of those people to a person, and I've seen it with thousands of people that I watch and I converse with and I interact with. Those people, although it sucks initially, every single one of them to a person after that happens will say, I knew it was going to happen. It needed to happen. It was the band-aid rip-off. And they were afraid to eat it. Exactly.

They were afraid to rip. I was going to say that. Rip the band-aid off. It does it for you. And it also does that with your friends. It also shows you what friends actually care about you and want the best for you and which don't. Yep.

Like, and people like, I, I, sometimes, you know, when people criticize the program, which by the way, none of them ever fucking done it. Correct. Um, they always say, Oh, you know, it, it makes you, it makes you separated from your friend, bro. The motherfuckers weren't your friends. They weren't your friends. Like if people don't support you getting healthy, improving your career, improving your relationships,

moving down the path of progress in life, those people, whether it's your fucking husband or your fucking wife or your best fucking friend of 30 fucking years, they are not your fucking friend. And that's a hard, that's a very hard pill for someone to swallow when you have that time invested in that relationship. Yeah, I found myself real talk. I found myself three, four years ago, basically hitting the restart button on almost all of those relationships. Bro, same for me. Same for me.

And so for me, it is that transitionary phase in life. We talk about it from an entrepreneurial standpoint in terms of, you know, on that climb, uh, from a career standpoint, um, the whole, it's not lonely at the top, but you're in a progression of going from kind of one room to the next one. And so now the people in the middle, correct. So now, you know, the, the, the, the, the journey that I'm on'm on, the people that I roll with and that roll with me, whether it's in my professional life, whether it's in my personal life, whether it's my friends, whether it's my career, that is now all aligned. some people um it might initially feel like a step back to take 20 000 steps forward but every single one of those people will view that and say it was a necessary needed thing it was like i'll here's what it's like how much better is your life now compared to them dude it's in terms of your career and but more importantly the relationships dude like i like because that's what most people

bitch about right they're like all my, they fucking drink beer and they just, because, because now it's, look, it's now it's people that, you know, I see the world the way that I see it. And I'm not talking about politics. I'm not talking about any of those things I'm saying, you know, in a healthy way, what, what matters, right? What's important in, in like creating boundaries, creating space, saying no to things, saying doing those things and that they're being respect there. Because guess what?

That's something that you earn through doing this. You earn it not only from other people because what they see at the conclusion, but you feel it yourself. Yeah. And then you stand for that and you're not going to accept the bullshit. Yeah. Because your tolerance meter is below zero if possible because you hear about fucking sally or or john or whoever talking about oh my day's hard it's like you have no fucking idea what hard is yeah and i'm doing it every single day and

you're not i don't want to hear about your fucking excuses yeah and so you you move into that framework yeah you move into that mentality all of a sudden the mfco doesn't sound too crazy anymore does it no it look it's your excuses it's it's what look it's and and listen you can disagree with it if you want to doesn't mean it's not true yeah you can fucking have a problem with it all it's like it's like men or women or what like like look you can you like i'll give you i'll give you one that you always feelings don't equate to truth yeah i'll give you one that you use all the time and that is we can go up to the top of this fucking building and jump off of it yeah and you can tell me that

gravity doesn't exist yeah we're gonna fucking find out real quick yeah and that's the reality of life though bro like they're one of the things that you, not to get off the subject, but this is related. One of the things that, that culturally where we are, especially as Americans and other places, it may be a little bit different, but we've gotten to this point where we believe that love is unconditional positive feelings towards something. And that's not the truth. Love is actually wanting the best for someone and telling them the information that is going to help them get to that point where they can be their best. That's real love, dude. Those hard conversations that you have to have, especially by the way, with yourself, that's fucking self-love. Self-love is not

sitting in a fucking bubble bath eating fucking doritos 400 fucking pounds flossing out the fucking goo between your fucking jelly rolls that's not fucking self-love bro self-love is not proclaiming to the world how beautiful you are when you haven't put any effort into yourself other than stuffing your face with big macs for the last fucking 10 years like Like, bro, the whole idea of what truth is has been convoluted and lost and been replaced with how people perceive the truth or feel about the truth. And the reality that we continue to live in, which is not going to change, is that we live in a reality with hard truths about life. One of the hard truths about

life is that you are going to get out of it exactly what the fuck you put into it. And there's nothing that you can do. There's nobody to write a letter to. There's nobody to complain to. There's nobody to fucking change it. It's that way. And we, as humans who want the best for ourselves, we have to come to terms with the reality that there is a reality. And that's something that we've lost in culture and society. And one of the things I'm most proud of about the program is that this program helps people who were fundamentally have a hard time seeing what reality actually is and the things, the way things really work, it brings it in focus for them. You know, they start to understand like, okay, well, what I put in my body actually does produce a result. The activity I do, that produces a result. What I put in my brain, that produces a result. Holy shit.

You mean that if I just do these things, my life can look completely different? And dude, how powerful is that to someone who spent their whole life being powerless? Yeah. It's, it's, um, look, it'll, it's something that'll change your life. And, and, and I think, um, you know, speaking of relationships, um, yeah, you, you, uh, you, you actually met your significant other through the program. Yeah. Yeah. So my fiance, we got engaged in December. And yeah, she- Congrats. Yeah, she- I was drinking water when you said that.

Thank you. She slid in the DMs. Yeah, yeah. Is the way it started. Because you were nice as felt. Yeah, exactly. No, actually, no. It's that silver fox sheet you got going on, bro.

Thank you. I appreciate that um so no what what ended up happening with that is is um she was um she was actually probably about three weeks before me on the program okay and uh full full clarity i wasn't nice and svelte i was still a tub of i was still a tub of shit uh at that point but um we were both on the same path yeah uh towards towards personal betterment yeah and um and yeah, her and I connected through there and we were probably friends for two, three, four months and then it just gradually transitioned from there. But yeah, no, I- It's interesting how mutual respect will foster a healthy relationship.

Dude, and like I said, the relationship component of that, the communication, the understanding, the respect, the candor, the integrity, all of those things. For people, look, people, there's no rocket science here. People know in their heart whether they have that or don't in things like that in their relationship. And the dichotomy between the prior relationship that I had been in versus something like that. I mean, dude, it's, it's night and day. Yeah. It's night and day. But, but the thing is, is that you're worthy of it at that point. Yeah.

And, and, and the other person is also worthy of it and that you see that quality and those values and things in that individual. And look, not every relationship automatically just works or things like that. But when you find those, how you view life, how you view the world, how you interact from a familial standpoint, what matters to you, what's important, what you prioritize, how that parlays into your career and your family dynamic, how you support each other, having that with somebody else that views life in the world the same way, right? Uh, the propeller versus the anchor. You got to have it, dude. It's, it changes everything got. It's a dude. It's not even a, it's not, listen, it's not even an optional piece of equipment, bro. Like if you're going to have a fucking boat, you got to have a fucking propeller and not

an anchor. You ain't going anywhere. Well, and I can tell you this too. You want to talk about like from a career standpoint, um, you know, what you, you just recently had some big, big, big moves in your career yeah man yeah look yeah we yeah i mean not to get too much into it but yeah i kind of you know positioned myself now within the the corporate hierarchy of our investment bank to really kind of handle all of you know what we consider major transactions for north america yeah for us i mean we're the i mean listen he's

not gonna brag but i i can tell you like it's a big deal and it's a big deal by my standard. It's a big deal. Yeah. It's a big deal. And I appreciate that. It's it's, but, but my point is, is that, that how I couldn't do what I do in my career without, um, I could do it without a relationship, but if I'm in a relationship, I couldn't do what I do in my career without that person showing up the way they do for me in that relationship. And I would argue you would probably say the exact same thing about yours. And so it's impossible to level up without it because, because in my prior relationship, I had an anchor. Yeah. I did not have a propeller and listen, full clarity and, and, and, and transparency here,

right? Was that person a piece of shit? Yeah. She was a piece of shit, but you know what? You know what? I was also a piece of shit and I wasn't worthy of anything better than that either. And I got out of it what I did and now I'm getting out of it what I deserve to in that regard.

And so it, it, it levels up. I think what we're getting at here is it doesn't matter if it's your relationship. It doesn't matter if it's your career. It doesn't matter if it's your family. It doesn't matter if it's your corporate world work. It doesn't matter what it is. This, this tool, this program, um, will level you up in every single part of your life. It does not touch one singular part of it. Yeah. That's why everybody gets so pissed off when people call it a fitness program.

Yeah. It's not a fitness program. It's not a fucking challenge. You know what's funny? Yes. It's only the motherfuckers that haven't done it that talk about it that way. Correct. That say, oh, this is not an optimal fitness program.

No shit, bro. I say that every time I fucking did the show. There's easier ways to fucking lose weight correct it's not called 75 easy as fuck like it's hard like it's supposed to be hard well like and it gets to the point where i'll give you i'll give you a perfect example right one of the things that i'll deal with in the broader groups yeah somebody will come in and they'll be like they'll say, you know, how much time should be between your workouts? And the book recommends two and a half to three hours. And somebody is like, OK, is it two and a half hours or is it three hours?

Is it before the end of the last exercise? Is it at the start of that time? And I'm like, listen, let me let me I'm like, Andy isn't here. Yeah. So let me fucking help you. OK, let me tell you the reason for the time between the exercises. Let me tell you why there's no hard, fast rule. Let me tell you all of these things.

All right. Otherwise I'm going to fucking get rid of you. Yeah. But it's, it's very simple. Okay. Here's the point here for everybody that is eternally listening to this moving forward. Here's the fucking purpose. The purpose is this.

Listen up. Okay. How long does it take after your first workout before your second workout to say i don't want to fucking do this i've cooled down i've my shoes are off i don't want to fucking do this and when you're at the point where you're like i don't want to go fucking do another one you're ready for your second one. There you go. It's designed to be disruptive.

Correct. Like, dude, I cannot stand you motherfuckers that try to make it easier. Like, bro. And by the way, 75, whatever the fuck you say after that doesn't exist. That's not a real thing. And you'll get you sued, too, by the way, just so you're aware. Yes. 75 hard is a thing.

Okay. When you start, and this, this dude this drives me crazy but i also understand it have empathy for it because i used to think this way right so like well it drives me insane dude and and i do feel for you because you have to fucking run the facebook group yes but i also have empathy for the people to think this way but like okay and what i'm getting at like, when you look at things in your life and we automatically try to adjust them to make them more palatable for us or easier for us or more convenient for us to do, we are training ourselves to always look for the route of least resistance. And when we look for the route of least resistance, guess what we get?

We get the least reward. This is the reality of reality we were talking about a few minutes ago. And so if you guys could just understand the purpose of the program and understand it's to change your perspective and your mindset and make you mentally tough and give you skills that you don't currently possess, that you believe are traits that other people possess when they're actually skills that you can build. Grit, fortitude, perseverance, mental toughness, self-esteem, confidence, and a bunch of other shit.

These things all work to create mental toughness. This is a mental toughness program. And so if you're building and you're committed to creating mental toughness within yourself, you have to recognize that the pattern of making everything more convenient for yourself is actually what has gotten you to the place to need the program in the first place. This is the thing that drives me insane. You can't be, some of these people cannot see the forest through the trees here, bro. Like you wanting to do, uh,

you know, fucking two indoor workouts, or you wanting to have a cheat meal every two weeks or trying to modify this fucking program out. That is yourself falling back into your old patterns that have created this life of dissatisfaction that you are pissed off about that made you want to do the program in the first place. So I tell people, I say, look, you see what I'm saying? No, no, no. I do like, bro, like let's be aware of ourselves. Like let's work to be a little more aware. The reason we are dissatisfied, the reason we're fucking fat, the reason that we're,

we cannot finish things, the reason we don't have discipline, grit, mental toughness, fortitude, perseverance, all these things that I'm talking about. The reason we don't have them is because we're constantly trying to adjust our environment to be easier. And guess what? Those are the same people that most 95% of them will not even quote unquote do the 75 days. They're the same people that do it for a week or two and then write a fucking article and say, no, it doesn't work. That's just like the diet conversation earlier.

You don't get it. But then to that end, people that are behaving that, that do see it all the way through. Those are the exact same people that say, those are the exact same people as I don't understand. I didn't see the benefit of it. Well, you just exposed yourself as a person that didn't do it the right way it's just like fucking stolen valor in the military or anything else like it's extremely obvious who's done it and who fucking hasn't dude it's it's and what's funny is the people who have done it can see the shit plainly correct like you're not fooling anybody you can fucking see it

like you can fucking see it. You can hear it in the language they use. You can hear it in the stories they tell because dude, if you've actually done the program, the right way is so perspective shifting and life changing that it, like when you hear someone say that you, you're like, yeah,

you didn't fucking do it, bro. It's, it's, it's obvious. And, and, and look,

it, that'd be like, that'd be like like like me and you fucking saying hey uh we're gonna get in a swimming pool right like we're with this other dude here who's gonna get in a swimming pool too okay and we get out of the fucking pool and we're soaking fucking wet yep and we're looking at each other be like yeah he fucking got the pool i definitely got the pool this motherfucker standing next to us and he's like i got the pool too motherfucker we could see that you didn't get the pool and this motherfucker standing next to us. And he's like, I got in the pool too. Motherfucker. We could see that you didn't get the pool.

I think what we're delving into is pretty much the entire fucking world right now as we see it as well. But yeah, I think, look in, in terms of the group, I want to, I want to make something very clear for the people that are there for the people that haven't there or for the people that want to go there.

Where is the group? So the group is the group it's, it's on Facebook. It is the group so the group is um the group it's it's on facebook it is the uh the i believe it is called the official 75 hard uh group it's got your photo and the banner it's got the blue check mark there it is the only group uh uh you know 75 hard you guys got it verified huh yeah it's verified there we go 75 hard is a trademarked verified thing if you see anything else out there that exists it's going to get removed it's going to get taken down including the 75 soft 75 medium or 75 pussy juice like fuck dude all of it will be removed but but but here's the this is something

that i do want to get across in this conversation that is every, I know it sounds very hellfire and brimstone in terms of the way that the group is run, but the reality is, is this every single person that is out there is welcome to join that group. The thing that has to be understood and conveyed and, um, and responded to by the people that join is they need to understand that they might go there. They might never have heard of you before. They might not understand the intent. You are going to ask questions. We're going to provide clarity, whether it's me, whether it's other people there, we're going to do all of that stuff. And if you say to yourself, Hey, I didn't know, I didn't understand. Thank you for telling me that I'm going to course, correct. I'm going to pivot. I'm going to get back on it. Great. You're welcome

here. That's what you're supposed to do. However, if you fucking flap your gums with some stupid shit and then I give you the answer or somebody else in the group gives you the answer, oh, well, I don't understand that. doesn't that doesn't that doesn't work for me because i then fine you can fucking leave go do whatever the hell you want to keep doing you're not gonna call it this yeah and you don't need to do it here yeah because because at the end of the day we're not gonna allow people to dilute the program by arguing over what the fuck they don't even know what they're arguing over correct like bro you're you listen your life is a shit fucking fire look at look at your life bro it's a fucking dumpster fire

and you're coming in here trying to tell a whole group of people who have committed and finished this very tough thing this would be like showing up at a fucking iron man at the finish line and being like you know uh i did iron man too bro but I rode the bike the whole time. And by the way, you guys that did the fucking running, you're stupid. And you guys did the swimming, you're stupid too. I don't fucking get it. But I did an Ironman. Get the fuck out of here, bro. The point is that...

I mean, it's getting better, bro. Look, I don't want to make it sound like we're bitching. It's been a long four years. It's been a long four years. It's been a long four years. And look, I love all of you, but I promise you, I have got enough shit going on during the day that when I pop in periodically, there's just no tolerance for the bullshit because I literally don't have the bandwidth for it. And so, look, it's a one strike process and, and, and that's it.

And so the standard has to be held, dude. It is. And, and, and, and at the end of the day, um, you, you've asked me to do something for you. Um, something that I believe in something that I champion something that I've lived by, um, and by example of, and I'm not doing the group yourself or anybody else a disservice towards something that if you look at everything else we've talked about, has the ability to impact and transform every single component of your life, right? You're not going to step in and bastardize that and change it.

And it's not going to, it's not going to happen. You look, you, you, you are not allowed to be pissed off about the results that you didn't get from the work you didn't fucking put in. Yeah. It's that simple. Yeah. And that either works for you or it doesn't. Well, dude,

what's funny about that too, is like, you know, we send these legal letters out to these people who do these other versions of the program. They're like, it's fucking different though. First of all,

bro, we all know what you're doing. You're trying to jock the nuts of the most popular fucking program that's ever existed in humanity fucking internet world ever okay secondly um that's called likelihood of confusion in legal terms okay and what that means is that people are likely to confuse a trademarked program with whatever the fuck you're trying to do, which will get you sued. Just so we're clear. Cause these people act like victims when they get these letters, they're like,

Oh, Andy's such a dick. No dude, that's my shit. And you're fucking with it and you're diluting the entire fucking reason for it. So stop fucking doing it. Go do Weight Watchers.

I don't give a fuck. Yup. Now I look, I'm, I'm not an attorney. I'm an investment banker. I'm not an attorney. Happened to be engaged to one and soon to be married to one. But no, look, the program is designed and

the intention behind it is crystal clear. Don't overthink it, right? A workout's a workout. 45 minutes to the best of your ability. One of them's outdoors. A gallon of water is, for the record, this is a good one because we're here, 128 fluid ounces. I don't know. Europe, it's different. Hold on. No, don't know.

You're not putting fucking lemon in it. Is that Kool-Aid? Does Kool-Aid count? No. Does Tang count? No. Look. Does Crystal Light count?

Does lemon count? Does cherries in my water count? What about tequila? Does that count? It's clear. Yeah. Blanco, it is think but but i think i'm gonna make a shirt a 75 hard shirt that says no it doesn't fucking count send that to me i'll change it to my profile photo but i think look but but this gets to a broader point right which is the people that come into the program that don't know you and don't know the intent,

they view it as, look, let's call a fact a fact here. Most people start this because they're the tub of shit. They start it for the physical purposes. They get the mental out of it after the fact. So here's the thing. When they start it for physical purposes, because they see the before and after photos, I can't fucking screenshot my brain one or the other, right? I'm an EKG and to show you the difference. So I can show you a before and after photos. I can't fucking screenshot my brain one or the other, right? I'm an EKG and to show you the difference. So I can show you a before and after photo and they see that and that's what they want. So then they talk to their dietician or they talk to their trainer at the gym or they talk to somebody else and they say, yeah, add this to this because this is better for you health-wise.

But that's the problem. And that's what you don't understand is there are easier ways to lose weight there are more efficient days guys if you're just trying to lose weight do fucking weight washers have your certain amount of points have a rest day but you know what's not going to change their mind that's right and you know what's not going to change your ability to fucking live within your own standard and have control of your own life wherever the fuck you go and whatever happens to you because here's the thing because you have no adherence everything else that i talked about your career your relationship your life your family your parenting ability your anything else any decorum in anywhere else in your life you you know, doing Weight Watchers a certain way isn't going to touch that.

Now, what it could do is it could maybe help your self-confidence. For sure. And that could help other things. But what we're talking about here, right, is something that is designed to impact collectively the rest of your life that you will always have the ability to go back to as a tool. Shouldn't the, I mean, look, dude, here's what, I did the same thing you did, where I gained weight, I lost weight, I gained weight, I lost weight, I gained weight, I lost weight. A way that I would encourage you to think about 75 hard and the proper way to think about it when you're starting

to do it is not like, oh, I want to get in shape. It's I want to develop the power to never get out of shape ever again. I want to develop the power to walk into a restaurant and order the things that I know are best for me off the menu without temptation of having to have the appetizers and the pizza and all the shit. It's how do I develop the control over my existence in all areas that other people seem to have that I don't have. This is what the program is supposed to do. And if you address it and think about it the right way from the beginning where, fuck, what is it worth for me to be ultimately confident? What would I pay for that? What is it worth for me to have control over my actions instead of having this beer that's sitting in front of me

at the bar to have control over me where I can't resist it? Now it's to the point where if I'm drinking a beer, it's because I chose to drink the beer. If I'm eating a pizza, it's because I fucking chose to eat the pizza, not because I couldn't resist the pizza. How much is that worth? What is that worth in your life?

Because that power is actually the key to unlocking every single area of your life because it takes you from someone who is blowing in the wind to the rhythm of circumstance, whatever the circumstance must be that day or that time, to someone who operates with an intent, regardless of which direction the wind is blowing. And that's ultimate power. That's what we're,

that's what we're after. So it's not just the weight loss. It's back to what we said about the second time when you do 75 hard, because you've already done it. You're like, fuck, I'm capable of doing that. And what else am I capable of doing? What else can I do? And so like, dude, this whole process of developing mental toughness is still, even as popular as the program has been, it's still highly misunderstood. It's still highly misunderstood. Your mental toughness, which incorporates the skills,

and they're skills because you can acquire them, of discipline, grit, fortitude, the ability to persevere, the creation of self-confidence, the creation of self-esteem. These things are the most powerful thing in your entire life. They are the most important skill set you could possibly have. There is not a more important skill set that you could possess or develop in yourself because those skill sets lead to the decisions that create your life. And when you make those decisions the proper way, because you have the skill of making the right decision, not the decision that's feels good right now. Now your life looks completely different in a drastically short amount of time. So like when you look at 75 hard, if you're listening to this the first time and you're like, fuck, I want to do this.

Don't look at it as like, yes, you will get in shape. Yes. You're going to look good. It's going to be fucking amazing. You're going to love it. That is not that, that is so little of what you gain out of it. And I think that's the reason it's gone so mega viral, bro. Like that's the reason it doesn't slow down. It continues to accelerate. Yeah. It's because people are doing it and actually discovering that power in themselves. Yeah.

I think it was, you know, um, it's, it's amazing if you go back to, you know, the original 75 hard podcast recording, which by the way, is a prerequisite that you listen to before you join this group, because you're going to be asked to answer a series of questions based on what's said there. I don't like all the cursing. I don't like all, well, then you ain't definitely ain't tough enough to do the fucking program. Yeah. Like I said, I tell people all the time, I'm like, you know, why do I have to listen to

them? Like, listen, the original podcast, I think it was, you know, it was a re-air, but it was like 42, 43 minutes, something like that. I tell people all the time, listen, if but it was like 42, 43 minutes, something like that. I tell people all the time, listen, if you can't give me fucking 42 minutes, then you sure as shit ain't giving me 75 days. And so, so to that end, um, you know, it's, it's, it's going to be something that look, the, the, the thing that I can kind of put a period on the sentence with on this is, is if you're listening to this, right.

Um, I keep saying it and it's such a simplistic statement, but you know, you know, if you need to, you know, where you are at, you know, if the things that we're talking about, you're lacking, you know, that if you're reaching to alcohol, if you're reaching to drugs, if you're reaching to, you know, um, dude, but let's talk about other shit other than like, you're reaching to, you know, um, dude, but let's talk about other shit other than like, you know, uh, you know, people that like, you know, fucking drink or stuff like that. How about people that go out and buy shit that they can't fucking afford to give them temporary good feelings about them for a fucking hour.

Yeah. Right. Like you go buy a fucking watch, you go buy a fucking car and great. Guess what? It's fucking gone. And then God forbid you can't fucking support yourself financially. And now you're in a hole there. And now that's fucking dog shit too.

There's so many things out there. But the fact of the matter is, is that if you're listening to this and if you look at this and you're like, man, I need that because that's where, when, when I heard it talked about, you know, things were going well, but they could be better. And the reality is, is that I'm nowhere near where I'm going to end up in life. And I know you talk about that all the time too. When somebody says to you, dude, congratulations on all your success, just getting started. Right. And so to that end, to that end, um, this is a journey. And I think that's for, by the way, for people that are athletes, people that have

historically been great at something. One of the difficulties for those people is they've always looked at the scoreboard. They've always looked at the clock. They've always looked at whatever that is. That doesn't exist here. This is truly you versus you. And there is no finish line. And it's because you have initially see 75 days as a finish line, but then all of a sudden you crossed into day 76 and you're like, shit, there is no finish line. And then it's ongoing. So this is a constant process, an evolution of betterment, uh, in every area of your life. And like I said, you know, if you need it, if you do then do it right.

And I'm not going to go into the whole, Oh, if I can do it, you can do it kind of thing. Look, you're talking to two dudes right here. You're talking to two dudes. Like this is the camera. You're talking to two dudes right here that collectively were well over 700 plus pounds collectively. Yeah. 750 pounds between, between dude, look, and that's just weight. Yeah. We're not even talking about the rest of it right and so if you need it there's a community there to support you we'll help you we'll support you right we're going to keep you accountable to your shit and so if you don't like being told the way it's going to be then you're either going to fucking learn and you're going to develop that muscle in your head

we're going to be fucking gone yeah and that's the truth as well yeah well bro i really appreciate you making the trip up and coming on the show thank you and sharing your perspective on everything uh thanks for taking care of everybody in the 75 heart group um where what's the best way for people to get in touch with you um so we're gonna follow you yeah um so instagram is NP Salvatore. Um, that's, that's the main one I use. Um, I, I don't post as far as like, you know, photos and shit often a lot more active in my stories and stuff like that. Um, I think a lot of people have transitioned that way on their social, at least with Instagram, of course, the group there as well. Um, you know, you'll see me in

there, Nicholas Salvatore. You won't miss it. It's just a very handsome profile picture of a man in a tuxedo. It's hard to miss. But you'll see me in there maybe once a day popping in, trying to help. I'll try to support people. Last night when I was on the flight up from the Miami area, I'll just jump in and I had nothing else to do but do a Q and a with some people for two and a half hours. What are they doing? Where are they at? What are they,

you know, what's going on here? What's going on there? Clarifying a fucking cold plunge versus the shower. Yeah. Shit like that. But, um,

but both of those areas. Well, bro, thank you so much for everything you do for the community. Thanks for, uh, taking control. I appreciate your friendship,

bro. And, congrats on the engagement. Thank you. And, uh, I'm looking forward to many, many more years of friendship. Absolutely. your friendship, bro. And congrats on the engagement. Thank you. And I'm looking forward to many, many more years of friendship. Absolutely. Thank you, brother. All right.

All right, guys, that's the show. If you're interested in 75 Hard Live Hard and you're curious about where to get more information, go to episode 208 in the Real AF feed. It will explain 75 Hard and the Live Hard program in its entirety. That's very clear. It's very concise. You will understand it. And if you don't understand it,

it's because you don't want to understand it. So episode two Oh eight in this feed on audio only, not on YouTube and a show to show. We're from sleeping on the floor. Now my jury box froze. Fuck a bowl. Fuck a stove. Counted millions in the cold.

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