REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 64. 1000 Days - Part 2

Episode Date: August 28, 2020

A goal without a proper plan is just a wish. Most people think if they wait long enough, their dreams will manifest. Successful people understand the importance of a proper plan, the value of executing, and why self-reflection is necessary. In today's show, Andy shares with you the ultimate process to help you get closer to your goals in your next 1000 days.

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Got more cars than diddy. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What's up, guys? It's Andy Crisella, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, a few weeks ago, I gave you a podcast that seemed to resonate especially well with most of you. It was called 1000 Days. Today, I'm going to give you another podcast that I believe will resonate especially well with you. Okay. And this is maybe a sequel to the 1000 days. I'm not sure

what we're going to call it yet. Usually sequels are terrible. I plan on this not being terrible. So, um, guys, here's the deal. All right. Like I said, in the 1000 days podcast, we have people, especially right now in society, pointing fingers, looking around, blaming every single person except themselves for what problem they happen to have going on in their lives. The accountability in humanity and in society is what I believe to be at an all-time low, okay? People like to bitch. They like to cry. They like to scream. They like to scream at the top of their lungs to anybody who will listen about all their problems and whose fucking fault they are.

But the truth of the matter is, and you know what's coming, is it's your fault. All right. And here's the proof. Let's look back at your 1000 days, the past 1000 days. And what do we do? We didn't execute on all those days. We didn't do what we needed to do. We didn't get up when we didn't feel like getting up. We didn't go to the gym when we didn't feel like going to the gym. We didn't eat the foods we know we needed to eat and skip the things that we didn't need to eat. Why are you surprised? Why is the world surprised that we aren't where we want to be? And I think the answer is because we don't know how, okay?

That's what I want to talk about today. I want to talk about how so we don't repeat the last 1,000 days over this next 1,000 days. Right now, we live in this world of chaos, all right? Lots of stress, lots of anxiety, lots of pain, lots of confusion, lots of negativity consistently fed into our brains every single day. And while everybody else is in a panic, this is an opportunity for you to get everything together so that these next 1000 days get you to where you want to go. And if it doesn't get you all the way there, it definitely gets you on the right track. Okay. So what I want to do today is I want to break down three key parts to making your next 1000

days look the exact opposite as your last 1000 days. Okay. So it's very simple. It's three steps and you're going to want to write these down. The first step is this. You've got to make a decision. Almost everybody in the world overlooks this step, okay? But it's important. Where is it that you want to be? What do you want your life to look like? What do you want your body to look like? What do you want your significant other to be

like? What do you want your income to look like? What about your career? What kind of car do you want your significant other to be like? What do you want your income to look like? What about your career? What kind of car do you want to drive? Where do you want to go on vacation and with who? What kind of clothes do you want to wear? What kind of fucking haircut is going to look cool on you? All these things matter. You might be giggling right now, but they matter.

Because the reason most people never get where they want to go and never commit to doing what it is They need to do is because they don't take the time to make an accurate And firm decision on where they want to be They never plan And the first step to getting where you want to go is guess what? You got to make a fucking plan. And it sounds cheesy. It sounds motivational guru, you know, cheese sandwich. But the truth is, how the fuck are we supposed to get where we want to go?

If we don't know where we're going, you don't just get in your car with no directions, no map, no idea and hope to end up where it is you want to go. That's not how life works. We all know this, but that's how most people treat life. They show up, they move around, they talk about how busy they are with no plan. And then they're surprised at the result. Guys, you know, this doesn't make sense. I know you could feel this right now. You're shaking your head. You're saying, yeah, it fucking makes sense. All right. When people don't know what to do, guess what they do? Nothing. Then they're mad that they end up in a place they didn't intend to go. It's all very logical. There's no magic to this. It's

connect the dots one to the two to the three to the four. Okay. And you don't need to spend the next year figuring this out and go on some fucking bullshit vision quest to figure it out. Pick a day, dedicate one day, sit down, write down your goals in detail. Okay. Think about where it is you want to be. Ask yourself the questions I just asked you. Get to a point where you can see this vision very clearly in your brain about where you're going. That's the first step. Nobody does it. Okay. We just built this crazy headquarters. You guys have seen it. If you're following me on Instagram, it didn't just come out of the fucking sky. We didn't draw it on a napkin. That may have been how it started, but it took planning. It took a concrete plan and it took a year of work to

actually have it come together. People walk in and they look at it and say, holy shit, man, this is crazy well it's not crazy to me i've already seen it i saw it in my head i planned it years ago in my mind i took notes okay this isn't a fucking accident and nothing in your life is either if you start to make an actual plan there will be no surprises about where you're going. And guess what? You won't be shocked when you end up there either because you will have seen this in your brain years ahead of everybody else seeing it, okay?

There is no magic to this. There's no luck to this. This is inputs and outputs. It's math. It's cause and effect. It's one plus one equals motherfucking two. What you do will produce a result. So do the things that are going to produce the result that you want.

Okay. But to get to the point of having the result that you want, you have to know what that result is. And that's the first step. All right. Make a mother fucking plan. Step two, we got to execute on that plan. Now everybody thinks this is the hardest step. It's not. The first step is, and you've already done that. A win plus a win plus a few more wins is a fucking winning streak, guys. Okay. Episode 16 in this feed, it's called the power list, how to win life on a daily basis. It's about taking your goals,

breaking them down into actual actionable steps that will contribute to your wins on a big scale. And guess what? You're not going to be perfect every single day, but that is your goal. Your goal is to keep the streak going. Okay. And even if you get an L every once in a while, guess what the streak is now? It's zero. And you start again and you go from one to two to three to four and beyond. Okay. This is a game. This is a test. This is a test of your mental fortitude to be able to execute consistently. When you give up, you become like everybody else instantly. Okay. But the powerful thing about this thing that we call the power list here, which you need to go back and listen to is that if you keep track of this, you can go back and see physically why it is that things aren't materializing at the

rate you expect them to. You know, let me give you a little hint on that too. Nothing ever, ever, ever, ever is going to go as fast as you want. It's always going to take more time and it's always going to take a lot more work. Okay. But when you can go back and look at your actual percentage of days, you won versus days you lost, it gives you an idea of why it is things are where they are. It also gives you perspective to make changes. If you need to, I'm going to get to that in a minute. All right. But how many days out of a thousand do you need to win to get where it is that you decided you want to go? Most of them, guys. Most of them.

But here's the thing. Once you figure out where you're going and once you figure out how to create these streaks by using the powerless tool, you're still going to go through times where you don't feel like you're making progress. You're going to go through times where things aren't moving at the rate you want them to move. Times where you don't want to do anything. Times where you feel stuck. Times where you forget what it is and why it is that you're doing this.

That's the point of a power list. It's going to show you day by day by day where you went off track and show you the actual statistics of wins versus losses, allowing you to make better decisions. And if you don't make better decisions, you're going to know who's fucking fault it is that you aren't where you want to be. Okay. You're going to look back and you're going to say, okay, over the last 100 days, I, I missed the mark on 10. That's 10% of my days, 10% away from where I should be. You're going to understand in very specific data,

how much you do the right way and how much you do the wrong way. Okay. But you have to understand during this time of execution, when you're going through these tough times, when you're going through these times where you don't feel like you're making progress or you don't feel like you're moving at the rate that you want it to go. Okay. Which is going to be a lot. You're going to have to go back to the plan. What's the plan? What's the vision in your head? Are you visualizing it in your head or did you just write it down? Because I'm going to tell you right now, I visualize where I'm going to be in a thousand days every single day. Okay. I make

it part of my routine. If you followed me for a long time, you know, I do this right before I go to bed. I take 10, 15 minutes to visualize what my life is going to look like at the end of that 1000 days. And I would suggest that you do the same. Okay. Because what this is going to do is it's going to help drive home the idea of what it is you're trying to get to and remind you of why it is you're trying to get there. Okay, so take time to reflect and adjust every single day because where you decide you want to be and where you actually are going to end up is going to evolve over time,

which brings me to the third step, reflect and adjust. Now I struggle with this step, especially the reflection part. Okay. When we get stuck, when we get mad and constantly say, man, it's not happening. Why isn't, why isn't this working? Why am I doing all this fucking work? And I'm not where I need to be. We have to go back and look at what we actually did so that we can say, well, I've done everything I was supposed to over the last 100 days. This is just taking a little longer than what I anticipated. And that's okay because you may not be at the end,

but once you reflect, you may realize that you're way further along the path than you thought you were. And that's a good feeling, okay? You're not at the end, but you're on the way there. You're on the right path. This is a good place to be. And having this reassurance that you're on that right path is very comforting.

It's motivating. It helps us stay to the plan. And most people, regardless of what you see online, when they get alone, they have trouble giving themselves credit for things. I do especially. Most of us get too caught up in celebrating what we did temporarily. And it takes us off track for where we need to go in the long run. We have to stay mentally focused on that goal and not let these little mini celebrations

get in the way and push us off track. We have to stay mentally focused on the end goal. Okay. We have to see the mental picture of where it is we are and then compare it to where it is we're going every single day. And we have to look at that in detail all the time. For me, that little mental picture that I play in my head every single night before I go to bed, guess what? That's been pretty spot on. Okay. Everything that is my life that you see, I created in my head years ago. And it wasn't by accident. It wasn't luck. I didn't get here by, you know, good fortune. It's because I take everything seriously. Okay. And we have to take what we do every single day. Seriously, why wouldn't you? Why would you not take your day on a regular basis and analyze it to see if it was closer

or further away from where it is you want to go? All right. So reflection, that's the first part. But what's the second part? That's adjustment. Okay. That's the part that's tough for most people. You have to be able to understand, are you getting closer or further

away from that mental vision that you play in your head? Are you moving towards the goal the way you thought you would, or is your plan not working? And you have to be able to logically and accurately delineate between a faulty plan, or is it you not being able to stick to the plan or not giving it enough time to materialize? All right. I like to talk about this in terms of baking a cake. Let's just assume that you have the best cake recipe in the world. Let's just say you got it from Martha Stewart and she gives you all the exact ingredients to make the best award-winning cake recipe that she has access to. And you not knowing shit about baking cakes, you go buy the exact ingredients and you mix them up in the bowl and you pour them in

the pan. And it calls for 400 degrees at 40 minutes. But you, because you're smart, even though you don't know shit about baking a cake, you say, well, I want to cake in 20 minutes instead of 40 minutes. So instead you turn the heat up to 800 degrees. And what happens in 20 minutes? You've got a burnt cake. It comes out burnt like a crisp. This is what people have trouble understanding. And the point I'm trying to make to you is this time is a part of the equation. You can't outspend it. You can't outwork it. You can't eliminate it. You have to work with it. It's part of the process. A thousand days is not that long. It's going to go by much faster than you think. And you have to understand that that time is passing no matter what. So do you want the time

to be working for you or do you want the time to be working against you? Because that's what we're really talking about here. We're talking about how to make time work for us. Okay. This is why you have to let the plan pull you through the hard times. All right. If you execute just on the days, you feel like it, you're going to have about a 10% win rate. That's the truth. Most of the days that I win, I don't fucking feel like it. I'm tired. I'd rather be doing other things. I'm stressed. I have a million things going on in my brain, but guess what? My plan still gets executed against. And so what happens when you go through, let's say a hard time, like most people are going through right now where life is in a state of chaos. A lot of people are highly anxious. They're

frustrated. They're angry. Okay. And let's just think about how many of those people are actually executing in spite of how they actually feel? I would say not very many. Okay. But what if you learn how to harness the power of this plan that you made in step one and execute on this plan that you made in step two, and then learn how to execute it on the days you don't feel like doing it. What's going to happen to you? You may go through times of frustration. You may go through times of pain. You may go through times where you don't feel like doing shit.

But guess what happens when you keep executing? You finally pull out of those ruts and you look up and you look around and guess what? You're in a better place than you were, even though you still felt like shit like everybody else. Okay. This is the power of discipline. This is the power of a plan. This is the power of eliminating emotions when it comes to execution every single day, day in and day out, no matter what, no matter if we feel like shit or we feel like a trillion dollars. That's the beautiful thing about discipline.

It doesn't matter how you feel. You might be able to go two months, three months, maybe even six months of a shitty time like right now, okay, where no one wants to do anything. But if you've been disciplined, you're going to look back when the sky is clear and say, holy fuck, dude, that's some of the best time of my life. This is real power. You have to understand these three steps that you need to do if you want to gain a leg up on what everybody else is going on. If you don't want your life to be dictated by the world, by the chaos, by the emotions, by the ups and downs, you have to understand these three steps. Plan.

Like I said, most of you never plan properly. Most of you have never taken that time. Most of you are okay taking what the world gives you. And if that's you, you're going to keep getting what you've been getting. That's just the way it works. So you have to stop and say, this is where I'm going to go over the next 1000 days. Step two, execute. A lot of people are afraid of this, but it's not that hard. We have to break it down into bite-sized days. Every single day you win is a step closer. Every single day you lose is a step further. So when you can get through this winning 95% of your days, you're going to be pretty fucking close, at least on the right path to where you want to go. Okay. Reflection, giving yourself credit for the progress you're making, assessing, are you actually executing or am I executing on the wrong plan? And then

making the adjustments when the plan isn't the right one. I've been in business for 22 years, guys. You know how many bad fucking plans I made? A fuck ton, a ton of bad plans. But you know what happened whenever I realized the plans were bad? I adjusted them. I made adjustments. I changed things that we were doing. As soon as I recognized that it wasn't going to lead to the end result, I made adjustments. Now, I was careful and I'm always careful to try and establish the truth. Am I just frustrated? Am I just having a bad day? Is this just extremely hard or are we actually making bad moves? Am I making bad moves? That's getting us off track. Guess what? Sometimes you're just going to be frustrated. You're going to say, fuck dude, I'm being impatient. And that's normal. I actually

think that's a great thing. It's great thing to be impatient because it keeps you intense. It keeps you focused. It keeps you on your game because you want to win. And it says that you fucking care. And that's always a great thing, but it can be destructive when we can't recognize it. And sometimes you're going to look and say, yeah, you know, we've been working really hard, but I think I've been doing the wrong thing. I've been eating a few too many calories. I don't think I've been training long enough. I think I've been doing this or that. And it could be a million different things, but we have to understand the difference between being frustrated and a legitimate adjustment that needs to be made to our plan. And that's what, that's what we have to understand. So in closing guys, I want you to understand this,

this time, our life, the time that we're here on this planet, it's going to go by regardless. This time is just like all the previous 1,000-day stints you've had in your whole life, which you've probably had a few if you're listening to this podcast. You know, there's not too many 8-year-old kids listening to this. All right, you've had a number of 1,000-day stints in your life. So you have to understand that that time

is going to go no matter what. It's not necessarily about how the time is going to treat us. It's more about how we are going to treat that time. A lot of people have a victim mentality when it comes to time. Time doesn't treat you good or bad. You could say it does, but it doesn't. Time just passes. It's what you put into the time that actually shapes your life. You put good shit into the time. You're going to get good shit back. You put bad shit into the time. Guess what? You're going to get bad shit back. That's the fact of the matter. So a thousand days from now, you can do one of two things. You could say, you know what? I did exactly what I set out to do over the last 1000 days. My life's a million fucking percent better. I made more progress than I ever wanted to make. Or you could be the guy who's like, you know what? I really fucked off

that last 1000 days. I didn't do my work. I didn't do what I needed to do. I didn't execute. And those are the only true things that you're going to have. That's reality. Most people will do the third thing though. What's that? It's my mom's fault. It's my dad's fault. It's my job's fault. It's my boss's fault. It's my kid's fault. It's Donald Trump's fault. It's fucking everybody's fault except my own. We all know how this works out. Just look at the world right now. That's what we look at most of the time. Most of the people blame every single thing about their lives on everybody else. Everything they're dissatisfied with is someone else's fault. Imagine living like that. Imagine how powerless that existence is. And that's the entire fucking problem that we have going on in the world right

now. You can either be an example for how to be part of the problem, which everybody seems to be, or you could be part of the solution to the problem. The great thing about being the solution to the problem is that by taking care of yourself, you show others and inspire others how to take care of themselves too, which is exactly what we need right now.