REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 700. Q&AF: D Students Run Businesses, Discipline Motivation & First Big Purchase

Episode Date: May 6, 2024

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on why students with D grades tend to excel further than A, B, and C students, why discipline is a much greater factor for success than motivation, and how to pinpoint when it's a good time to make your first big purchase.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest thing about the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. We're going to start the week off right. All right? Now, you can submit your questions to be answered on this episode a couple different ways. The first way is, guys, email those questions in to askandy at andyfrasella.com. Thanks, DJ.

All the children. Yes. You can also go on youtube on the q and a f videos and drop your question in the comments and we'll pick some from there as well now as we go through the week we're going to have shows within the show we're going to have cti tomorrow that stands for cruise the internet this is where we put topics of the day up on the screen we talk about what's happening we speculate on what we think is true and what we think is not true. And then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. All right. Other

times we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have occasionally 75 hard verses Hard Versus. 75 Hard Versus is where someone who has completed the 75 Hard Program comes on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, how they used 75 Hard to get their shit in order. And they talk about how you can do the same. Now, 75 Hard, if you're unfamiliar, is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program that you can get for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 on the audio feed.

We just started YouTube about a year ago, so it's not on YouTube, all right? Now, there is a book available called The Book on Mental Toughness. It's available at andyfrusella.com. It's a on YouTube. All right. Now, there is a book available called The Book on Mental Toughness. It's available at andyfrusella.com. It's a great book. We're sold out. If you want to get that book, I'd advise go on there and pre-order it. And we'll ship it to you when it comes in. We typically go through the shipments immediately when they come in.

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Right. All right, man. Hey. What's up? Dude dude we're almost at 500 000 on the tube man it's not bad for a year it's not too bad at all man it's been a grind it's been a grind well i i mean if they weren't censoring the fuck out of us it would probably uh probably be way further than that yeah oh shit yeah fucking so fucks um a pool update a lot of people have been asking about the pool oh yeah yeah a lot a lot a lot of people well so when it rains it pours that's the that's the saying uh yeah so i got it leveled uh or attempted to get it leveled today they had to take 14 inches on one side yep so it wasn't even close it wasn't close it wasn't close at all no it wasn't close 14 inches um and you know i called the the 8-1-1 you know the dig right yeah i'm trying to be a responsible homeowner um and they came out marking my shit up that's good

and we were in a good area right the pool The pool's a perfect spot. So we thought. Yeah, the guy, and it's not his fault. I blame myself. But I got those, I got that in-ground sprinkler system. Yeah? It just destroyed one of the lines. It was right there. Like, right as soon as he went in.

All right. So. So, we have to have an intervention. All right? I'm going to tell you something. You're not going to like it. Okay. But that pool was a fucking mistake.

You just need to take that pool and put it in the trash. It won't fit. I'm going to have to get a dumpster to fucking put it away. You need to take that pool and set it on fire. Okay. All right? And then you need to take grass seed and put it in the spot that Dan dug up. Yeah. And forget all about it.

Yeah, just forget it. Yeah, because this started out as a $300 deal. And I'm going to tell you, and anybody listening will tell you, that a pool is never a $300 deal. Yeah, fuck, man. All right? It's kind of like a boat. You rent boats. You don't buy boats. All right? It's kind of like a boat. You rent boats. You don't buy boats.

All right? You just rent them. Because they are just a hole that you throw money in. You can rent pools? A swim... You can come to my pool. I got the coolest fucking pool in the world. It is a pretty cool pool.

Yeah. I would put up my pool against anybody's pool on the fucking planet. More than 300 bucks. And you're welcome to come fucking swimming at any time. All right. Yeah. All right. so take the pool burn it plant the grass back and just fucking forget about it just forget about it it's one of those things see the problem is too man my daughter ryan bro she she's like on my ass yeah about this pool she is she is on my ass yeah she's mad black woman mad little black woman, bro.

That's right. She's a fucking three foot. Don't fuck with that. Three foot tall fucking piece of terror is what she is. Bro, she's fucking hilarious. Bro, she's on my ass right now. So it's like, I mean, it's just like, I can't just like, the pool can't just simply disappear.

She's too smart for that. Here's what you do. She's too smart. Let me tell you. I'm going to give you the white trash special. Okay. All all right you know that little beer tub that i got my ducks in in my in my entry for you okay don't talk to me about white trash i know all about it bro i'm the only motherfucker that lives in a state that has ducks in this fucking entry for you in a beer tub all right but in that beer tub yeah they make those beer tubs

round right all right and when you're white trash you fill that with water and swim in it that's your pool bro that's what we swam in yeah we just have fire hydrants we had that too yeah but i'm telling you she ain't gonna know the difference she's gonna think that's the biggest pool ever she's gonna love it you don't have to do shit. And then afterwards, you could have a huge party and put a whole bunch of beer in there. With ice and shit. That's a good idea. Like double.

Yeah, it's great. I'm telling you, man. It's kind of like the leaves. Remember I told you about the leaves? You didn't tell me about the leaves, man. I did get better on the leaves. Yeah. We'll see.

Yep. We'll see how it goes. In the trash. Save you lots of headache. We'll see, man. Yep. Yeah, we'll see yep we'll see how it goes in the trash save you lots of headache we'll see man yep yeah we'll see uh but yeah so that's the pool update man i know a lot of people been asking but uh i'll go with you yeah to get the metal pool where do you i don't even know where the fuck you get those from you get them at tractor supply i've never been oh man tractor supply sweet i never i've never even been there What do they have

They got like all the farm stuff Like anything you need for farms For farms For any Like rural area stuff Anything you need It's like a one stop shop Like a grocery store

Yeah it's like Walmart For farms It's fucking sweet They got like food and shit In there too They got everything They got animals You could

That's where the ducks came from No shit Yeah I wanna go Yeah It's awesome I'd be I'd be... I just want to go to just look.

Yeah, it smells good, too. It smells like a farm. Like hay. I don't feel like farms smell good. Pig farms don't smell good, but the rest of the farms smell good. What do they smell like? Like hay. Oh.

And like horses and stuff. Hay. Hay. All right. That's enough of that. Let's make some people better today. Yeah, let's do that. Let's stick to what we're good at here.

Not pools. Yeah. Guys, Andy, question number one. Let's get it. Andy, what's your take on the saying that A students are led by B students, managed by C students, hired by D students? I feel like there's a big common denominator among business owners being these D students that they talk about.

So what's your thought process on that? Have you ever heard that saying? Yeah, definitely. Is there any validity to it? I don't know. You know, like here's, if there is, this is what it is, okay? I know guys who are very successful in school and they're very successful business guys. Okay.

And we have to be careful. Just like we talk about generalizing people. We have to talk about generalizing types of people when it comes to business. So I know people who are very successful that did very well in school. I know people who are very successful. I'm one of them who was terrible in school. Here's where I think the validity is in that statement is that typically people who are C students or D students, it's not that they're not intelligent. It's that they pave their own way in life. They make their own rules. They're not good at following

directions. And because they're not good at following directions, they often find other pathways that people don't see that are so used to just going down the line, one, two, three, following the framework, right? And if we examine what the education system really is, and we take a step back, it is not education. It is indoctrination, okay okay it doesn't make you intelligent to have a degree from any school it does not education is not equal intelligence right okay so i mean educated people will tell you that it equals intelligence but it clearly doesn't it just doesn't and they like to say that because they invested all this money, all this time, and they like to have a moral superior order over everybody else. But it's just not true.

I know people that have PhDs that are fucking idiots. Okay? Here's the thing. and you go out into business, there is going to be a way to do things that is usually outside the norm if you want to be successful. It's how you innovate processes, not just products, but how you innovate processes and how you innovate the delivery of a product and how you innovate the marketing of a product. And that requires you to see outside the framework of what everybody else is doing. And that's where I think the advantage is for those kind of students. Because a lot of DNC students are dumb fucks.

But there's a lot of very intelligent DNC students, like I was, who test very high on tests. But I can't stand to sit here and learn from some dumbass who's driving away in a beater. When I was 14 years old, I recognized that. Right. So I never did good in school. Cause I'm like, bro, why am I listening to this guy when he hasn't really done anything, but talk about the thing. Right. And when we look at the education process, you know, it's really a test and an indoctrination into following directions so that you understand how to operate in the real world. And most people need that.

Most people have to be told 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7. There's nothing wrong with that. But when you think like that, I think it does put you at a disadvantage to be able to innovate processes, innovate products, innovate marketing, innovate the competitive advantage that you're going to need to create. Um, so that's my take on it. I don't think one way is better than the other, but if maybe, maybe there is a little bit of truth to it. Uh, there's definitely some truth to it for me. Okay. So go out and build something real, go out and build something equitable, go out and build a real company, Go out and fucking use the tools that you can learn from some of these coaches that are just part of the puzzle, right?

Like you can learn how to get fit. You can learn how to create a funnel. You can learn how to run ads. You can learn how to do these things and then use those things to create an equitable business so that later on in life you have a nest egg that you can borrow against or liquidate or exit and have something for your retirement, dude. So vet your people, vet your teachers. If you're in college and you're listening to some guy who's never done shit, bro, be very careful what you take to heart and what you don't. You know what i'm saying like people

have to be living what it is they're trying to teach you how to do if you really want to use their advice to go be successful so uh to answer the question dude you know there might be some truth to it but i i know people who are successful across all ranges there's just some people that are just good and super intelligent and they're able to pass the test but they're also able to see outside the box right you see what i'm saying so if you're a c or d student out here that's not something to celebrate and say fuck yeah i'm gonna start a business yeah no what i'm saying is is like you got to be careful what you say because a lot of these college kids and high school kids that listen to this shit, they, they will hear that. And then they will just quit trying. Like, dude, even if you think that it's pointless to do what it is

that you do in a standardized school environment, it is very important that you try hard because that trying hard and that practice and that discipline will translate over into something else. So don't just say hey fuck it this is pointless say hey i'm here i've got to complete this is what i have to do i'm going to do my best because that will condition you to having the habits that you need outside of that environment even though that environment is not producing the result that you want does that make sense that makes perfect sense it makes perfect sense so let me follow up with this so what are because i mean you know obviously with the system, it is more of a what

to think, not how to think, right? Which is what's really necessary in the real world. Yeah. Now, this thinking outside the box, you talk about the innovation side of things. What would you say are some other common denominators amongst entrepreneurs? Like things that you've met, I mean, you've met a shit ton of them right like i mean what are what are some things that you know all of you guys you would say you had in common outside of the thinking outside of the box well i think first off and foremost all successful entrepreneurs are unwilling 100 unwilling to accept the status quo for their life

all right they are not going to be like everybody else, no matter what it takes, no matter what it takes. It doesn't matter. That's the first thing. The second thing is that they all have big dreams. They don't just think small. They don't think realistic. Like when your teachers and your friends say, Oh, have realistic thoughts, have realistic goals. Yeah. If you want to be a small little peasant, that's a good thing. But the, all the people that you look up to that you want to embody and you want to fucking be like those people are dreaming so big that most people can't comprehend it. And because they dream big, the actions they take are naturally bigger, which even if they don't reach the actual dream that

they have, they will be so much further along than everybody else that it's a success anyway. So those are two things. I think relentless grit and fortitude and endurance, mental toughness is 100% a requirement to get past the level of quote unquote mediocre and average. So most of the people that you are successful dedicate an extreme amount of time to intentionally put themselves in uncomfortable positions like the 75 hard and live hard program so that they can build that resilience, that grit, that fortitude, that mental toughness to get through the path. Because the path only gets harder. It never never gets easier and that's a myth that people

have people think oh once i get here it'll be easier no the higher you go you're competing against better competitors and it gets much fucking harder is it harder for michael jordan to play high school basketball or fucking pro basketball right you see what i'm saying it gets harder so you have to build the skill set and you have to build that mental toughness to go down the path effectively. I think they have that in common. I think most of these people are highly dedicated to self-education, meaning they're reading books, they're listening to podcasts, they're taking notes. But then what makes them different from everybody else that does those things is that they actually

take those lessons and apply them in real life. So the application of the lessons that all of you guys consume, but most of you don't apply, they do apply religiously. So I think those are some common things. Most of those guys are fit. Most people who are successful are somewhat fit. And I know there's exceptions to that. You know, when you look at like, you know, Trump or fucking Elon, you know, they're not super fit guys. But they're also so far past the point of like that initial grind phase that it's not really that important anymore to them. You know what I'm saying? And I think they're the anomaly. Most entrepreneurs that are successful in this day and age are taking very good care of their bodies and their minds on a consistent basis.

Why is that? Yeah, because it's your tool. This is the fucking tool, bro. Your tool is you. So if you're going to battle with this being your tool, don't you want this tool to be the best possible thing? Your mind, your body, your spirit. These are tools, bro. So they sharpen that I think another thing that a lot of these guys have in common

is that they don't keep losers around him for any amount of time bro they don't allow drama in their life they don't allow gossip in their life they don't allow people who drama and gossip in their life they don't allow distractions their circle is small they associate with other people who think like them who have goals like them who want to win like them. And they cut everybody else out. They're very hard to get to. So those are some things that I would say are in common.

There's a lot more, too, but those are off the top of my head. Yeah, for sure, man. I love it. I love it. Well, guys, Andy, question number two. Andy, I'm 16 years old, and my question is about motivation and success. What have you found to be the best form of motivation for achieving success? I see other people winning, but I sometimes look at my environment and I can't connect the dots on how to make that a reality in my life.

How the fuck can you look at your situation that you're currently living and not be fucking motivated? If you can't look around at your current life and say fuck This sucks and be motivated for more bro. You can't do it. You should just quit go do something else because your existing Situation in life should be enough motivation to get you started now Motivation when you, is cool, right? It feels good. But the reality is, motivation is not the key to the castle, bro. Discipline is the key to the castle. Because there's going to be lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of times,

in fact, the majority of the time, that you are not going to wake up in the morning and say, fuck, dude, I really feel like going out and getting my balls kicked in all day. That's not going to happen. So you have to say, hey, I'm going to do this regardless of how I feel. I'm going to execute even if I'm having a bad day, even if my dog died, even if I had to do this, even if this shit's going wrong, my shit is getting done day in and day out. And that is the fucking secret sauce about winning. It's not motivation, but motivation feels good. And motivation is valuable, especially when you're in the beginning.

So if you can't look around and say, fuck, dude, my life is fucked up. I want way more than this. I want better than this. And be motivated to go down the path. Bro, you don't have it. You don't have it. That's it. You do not fucking have it.

You should just accept your reality like all your friends, all your family. Go sit on the fucking bench and watch the game where everybody else is going to go out and kick ass because you don't have it if your current situation doesn't motivate you that's the fucking facts of the matter. Why do so many people look for external motivation. What do you what do you think the disconnect is. well there's a fucking you know in society bro there's an there is a disproportionate amount of value placed on motivation compared to discipline people think that it's motivation they think oh dude let's go do this right and they don't understand that it doesn't matter if you feel like doing it what matters is that you it. And that's the biggest key that most people can't connect because dude, we hear this term motivational speaker. Okay. So this is why I don't like speaking really dude, even though I'm great at it. You know, you go to this event, you pay fucking 500 bucks. The motherfucker tells you some shit. You walk out of there,

you're hyped and you go home and you don't do anything. Okay. So events are great, but you should go to events where they're going to teach you one, twos, threes, fours. These are the steps to do it. Because if you don't have that intrinsic motivation to do it, to at least get started, you can't start. So that's assumed that you have that, right? And then you have to work on your discipline. You have to work on your ability to execute when you don't feel like doing it, and that's why the Live Hard program is so important. You know, I don't know a single person who wakes up every single day and says, fuck, dude, I can't wait. I can't wait to go, you know, get my ass kicked,

because that's the reality of entrepreneurship. It sounds absurd, right? I can't wait to go work. It's just life. Dude, it's life, bro. Yeah. It's life. It's hard. It's fucking grind It's grueling and because we have all these entrepreneur bozos on the fucking internet who never built a goddamn thing Talking about you know how easy it is and how cool it is and how it's awesome You're getting all these kids sucked into this game of entrepreneurship when in reality, only 8% of people are entrepreneurs and only 1% of that 8% is actually

successful at it. It is a very hard career. It is the hardest career you could ever choose in your fucking life. So if you think it's going to be easy fun and you're going to have freedom and all this shit, you're drinking the Kool-Aid that ain't true. You're in for a rude awakening. The shit I tell you and the shit anybody else who's built something real will tell you is that you have to fucking go hard every single day, no matter what, no matter what you feel like, no matter what's going wrong, and your shit has to get done. And that's it. That's how you get there. So I don't really, you know, motivation for me, dude, is not a thing anymore. I don't even think about it.

I don't wake up and think, man, I don't feel anymore. I don't even think about it. I don't, I don't wake up and think, man, I don't feel like doing that or whatever, because it's irrelevant. And once you lived a disciplined lifestyle for long enough, motivation does become irrelevant. And it's almost comical when people bring it up, like, bro, that's very amateur way of thinking. And I don't fault you for thinking that way because that's how everybody thinks but what we have to do is we have to shift your mindset from from i gotta feel like doing it to it doesn't matter if i feel like doing it i'm gonna get it done anyway and that's what winners do that's how people build amazing shit that's how they become great and that's how you it's gonna be no different for you yeah so you're saying this is so so using motivation or feeling the need to need motivation, that'll get you going a decent amount.

But at some point, you got to cross that line over to this other animal mindset of it doesn't matter how I feel. What's your life going to look like if you don't do it? What's your life going to look like if you don't fucking go out and build what the fuck you want to build? That you have this little vision in your heart and in your mind of what your life should be like. And what are you going to feel like if you don't go do that? What are you going to feel like in a year, five years, 10 years, 20 years when you die? What are you going to be saying? Because I can promise you, bro, that dream ain't going away. That dream was placed in your heart and in your mind by God. It is your purpose.

And you are obligated to go build it. And for you to go build that, it's going to require executing when you don't fucking feel like it. So you better just go out and figure this out right now. It's discipline. It's not motivation. Look around at your life. If you can't go from looking around at your life, then just expect your life to get worse and worse and worse and worse and worse.

And in 20 years, you're going to be saying, fuck, I should have fucking went. I should have went and did that. And 20 more years past that, if you don't do it, then you're going to be saying, fuck, I wasted 40 years. I wasted my life. Fuck. That's what's going to be, that's going to happen to you. Go ask someone who's 60 years be, that's going to happen to you. Go ask someone who's 60 years old. If they regret not following their dreams. I promise you, if you get them to be honest,

they're going to say, yeah. Yeah. Fuck man. That's real shit, man. I know it's real shit, bro.

That's where most of these people fucking fuck their lives up. Yeah. They think like you got to feel like, bro, I walk in here every fucking day, probably out of the seven days a Like bro I walk in here Every fucking day probably Out of the seven days a week that I come in here There's probably two of the days That I feel like it

And I have the greatest fucking company in the world bro I work with the baddest ass people I don't work with a bunch of Karen corporate fucks I work with badass motherfuckers That give a shit And it's still hard Because our goals are so big Okay so It doesn't matter if I fucking motherfuckers that give a shit and it's still hard because our goals are so big okay so

it doesn't matter if i fucking and i'm tired or if i don't feel like it bro i have to do it and so like dude you guys have to quit valuing this thing that all these nerds on the internet call motivation and start realizing what actually matters and And what matters is, is do you have the capacity to execute at a high standard when you don't feel like it, especially when you don't feel like it. Because when you don't feel like it is when everybody else quits. And that's when you widen the gap

between yourself and everybody else. So let's say those four days where I don't feel like it, I'm competing against Joe down the street. And when he comes in on his four days that he doesn't feel like it, I'm competing against Joe down the street. And when he comes in on his four days that he doesn't feel like it, he does half-ass shit. But on my four days, I'm executing at the highest level because I've developed that skill set of discipline to do so. Over time, I'm going to widen that gap further and further and further and further and further and further and further away from that dude. And this is how the game works. It is legitimately a mathematical equation. How many days did you win? How many days did they win? That's it. It's math, bro. It's not magic. It's not mystical. It's not

success fairy nonsense. It's not luck. It is fucking math. How many motherfucking days can you win at a high standard, especially when you don't feel like it? Because that's when everybody else quits. No, I fucking love it, man. I love it, guys. Andy, our third and final question. Question number three, Andy. Andy, I have been grinding for the last five years and I'm about to purchase my first really nice car. I've been working my ass off. My family's good, kicking ass at work. My question is, how do I know if it's the right thing? Is it just an emotional purchase? I've been putting off going to the dealer for three days now. I can't really pinpoint why.

Did you deal with this when you bought your first nice car? And if so, how did you overcome it? Well, first of all, I didn't buy my nice car until I was 11 years in business, not five. All right. I don't know where the fuck you are, but I was doing very well. I was making seven figures when I bought my first nice car. Okay. So there's that.

Okay. So let's reevaluate where you're actually at. Are you making over a million dollars a year in income? Because if not, I wouldn't buy shit And I would take all that money And I would dedicate it to building your cash flow Building your company Building your career

Because every single fucking dollar that you don't do that with Is more time that it's going to take for you to get there Okay, so where are you really at? Do you want to buy this car because you think it's going to make you look successful? Or do you want to buy this car because you're a car aficionado and you're passionate and it's something that you love? That's what I am. Okay. I don't buy, I don't even show you guys my fucking shit. Okay. I love cars. I love driving. It is important hobby to me. It just so happens to be expensive. So, but the truth of the matter is, is when I bought my first car, I was making over a million

bucks a year. I was 11 years in business and you guys see all this bullshit on the internet and you think you need to have this shit. And I know this is the answer that you probably don't want to hear, but this is definitely one perspective. Now, another perspective, which is also true, is that you need to touch and feel and experience success along the way to keep you going, to keep you understanding that this is how my life is going to turn out. And it needs, you need to touch it. You need to experience it. Now, you don't necessarily have to buy a car for that. You can rent a car, you could go on a trip, you can go see the houses, whatever you want to do. But there is truth to experiencing that. But this fake it till you make it mentality that the internet creates is completely false. These kids that go out there and buy these cars and they're

fronting this shit, it's only a matter of time before they don't have them anymore i mean dude i've been doing the internet game since 2012 you know how many people i've seen come and go with a fucking you know a couple cars and then they're bragging and they're talking all this shit in the next year they don't have shit they're talking about you know what they're doing you know what they say you know what i decided that you know these cars are just too materialistic for me and I'm kind of over it. You know, I just want to be, uh, be a little more humble and other things are more important to me. Just like I talked about on last Q and AF, where I talk about people who take their dreams and they take what they have currently. And then they try to say, Oh, this is what I actually wanted. Right? So usually what these guys do is they go out

they buy these cars they front on the internet they stop making money they lose their cars and then they come up with a fucking story about how they never wanted them in the first place which is completely fucking bullshit much happier now you don't want to be the motherfucker that gets the cars and then has them disappear you don't want to be that guy bro so i would evaluate what's more important to you is it more important to feel cool and look cool or is it more important to build an actual business i would argue that it's way more important to build an actual business now you might be making 10 million dollars a year and i don't know that no and if you if you are you know there you got a little more freedom

to indulge in things like that no um you know there are there are guys out here who will say you know you should never buy a car that's worth more than fucking 20 grand or whatever right well you know i disagree with that you know that's what it is like why the fuck do we do all this shit right why the fuck have i worked 25 years oh it's so i can fucking roll around and badass shit that i enjoy but have you paid your dues yet that's's the only question. That's a question that only you can answer. Yeah. So I would evaluate where you are and be honest with yourself about where you are. Um, be honest with yourself about your income. And if you've got to

stretch and finance that shit out just to like, dude, don't do that. Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position, especially in the early days. And I know you're five years in, you think you're not in the early days. You're still in the fucking early days, bro. So that's my answer to that. Yeah. Let's just talk about rewarding yourself in general, right? Like what, what have you found to be the best way? Like how do you reward yourself for, for the hard work you put in?

You know, when you, when you've been planting for, for so long and you start seeing those, those, those sprouts come up a little bit, right? That reward the reward is seeing the progress the reward is looking at your business and saying oh man i did fourteen thousand dollars today oh man i did thirty two thousand dollars today oh man we did eighty thousand oh we did two hundred thousand oh we did five million today you see what i'm saying yeah that's the fucking reward bro because that business is equitable meaning you can borrow against it you could sell it you could exit it and it's worth exponentially more than what you're going to take home and payroll so that is the winning for the actual winners the actual operators who love business

the reward is the winning all the other shit doesn't mean anything bro As much as I love cars I don't give a fuck As much as I love my house and my properties I don't give a fuck I like winning, winning is fun I like seeing things go from my ideas To paper

To in person, in life And sprout and create and win that battle That's the reward, bro. And you guys get caught up in this. And by the way, I like material shit, but you guys do get too caught up in this materialistic shit. And you don't understand that the game is not about how much material shit you can acquire. It's about how much progress you can make. So instead of building your value and what you can acquire, what you can buy, or what you, your perceived lifestyle is, you should build your value and what you can acquire what you can buy or what you

your perceived lifestyle is you should build your value on what your real success is and what your real progress is otherwise you're going to end up like one of these fucking clowns who has this shit for a minute and then doesn't have it and then like you know what you're all afraid of is getting laughed at then everybody laughs at you everybody laughs yeah so don't be that guy all right well some uh some extra sauce extra sauce we're giving some extra sauce for Monday morning some juicy juice guys I had a question before

what's up Andy and DJ I got a question for you all that I've been noticing in my work environment I'm 24 years old not a hoe I work as a junior senior high school math teacher and I'm also the dean of students of the junior senior high school math teacher, and I'm also the dean of students of the junior, senior high school. Damn.

Yeah, that's fucking crazy. That's a young man. That's super young. You know, one of my best teachers I had was young when I had him. Was he super young? Yeah, his name was – I talked about him on a show before, Kevin Walsh. All my teachers were old. Yeah, he's Luke Walsh's dad, you know, the basketball player.

Oh, no shit. Yeah. So Kevin taught us. He had this class called Current Issues, which is the inspiration for what we do now, right? And, bro, we, man, I'm sorry, Kevin. I love that dude. He's such a good dude. But we were such little fucks.

Like, I'm surprised he didn't beat our asses. But, dude, hey, I took what you taught. We're doing something with it, bro. Number one show right now. Hey, there we go. Appreciate it, brother. There we go. dude but we were such little fucks like i'm surprised he didn't beat our asses but dude hey i took what you taught we're doing something with it bro number one show right there we go appreciate it brother we go but yeah dude uh that's a that's a young man that's young man um now since i'm on the administrative team at the school school culture is super important to me one of the things that i've started to notice with my boss the school principal and the veteran teachers is that most of them will take the initiative to get something done, which is great. However, 90 percent of the time they will not relay or communicate that information with the parties involved, causing mass confusion between staff members and even myself.

My question is, when you take the initiative on something that will involve multiple people or multiple parties, what is the most effective way you have found to communicate that with them? I'm all about taking the initiative on things that I know. And I know that's one of your core values and beliefs within your own businesses. But from what I am seeing is that pieces on the chessboard are moving without any explanation as to why they are moving. I understand I'm very young to be in the leadership position like this. I have a lot to learn, but am I looking at this from the wrong perspective or is there a true issue here? Interested to hear your thoughts.

Well, first of all, man, you know, let me say this. Leadership is a lifelong learning process. So you're going to be getting better even when you're 44, okay? I feel like I learn new things every single day, and I've been leading big teams for a long time. And this is probably the first time that you've led a big team. And so communication is a huge deal, huge deal. To set the standard for communication, at least in the beginning, you almost have to have a micromanagement role. You have to basically say, this is what I need.

This is what I want you to do. And back in the early days when I was setting this up, I'd actually write this shit out on a piece of paper and make them sign it. So I would say, okay, here's what you want here's the process all right so i used to do this thing i don't do it anymore where if i sent out a group text to everybody they had to reply back um that they they confirmed it they received it and they understood it and that was so that later on if they didn't do it i could say well hey you replied back to this you said this right so like that would be the process that was in the paper i would say all right here's how we're going to dictate directions here's how we're going to do things here's the process for this if i text you

this is what the response should be if you understand it if you don't understand it text me on the side ask me the question we'll figure it out um So really, dude, in my opinion, I think this is a matter of getting, you know, all the gray beards and the old dogs to really understand how you're going to run things, which is just going to require some clear communication and some assertiveness on your point, which can be intimidating when everybody else is much older than you. You know, when I was in my thirties or I'm in my twenties, I had a lot of people that worked that were older than me. And that was a unique situation because for some reason, people think that if they're older than you, they're automatically more skilled or talented than you. And that's just not the case. So that's what I would do.

I would take a piece of paper. I would say this is how I want it to flow. And I would sit down with all of your people and i would say okay i'm trying like you know you're you're let's say the the lady who's 60 years old who's been there for 30 years right sit down with her and say hey mary look i'm trying to get everybody coordinated so that we aren't just moving chess pieces all over the board and we've got a cohesive movement that we're trying to create for these kids so that everybody can get what we need them to get. And right now, here's what's happening.

Certain people are doing it this way. Certain people are doing it this way. And it makes everything not work. Your job's not working. My job's not working. So I've come up with this little solution on how to get everybody on the same page. And this is what it's going to look like. And you line it out on a piece of paper.

And you're going to say it. Then you're going to show it to her. And you're going to say it, then you're going to show it to her and you're going to say, now, do you have any feedback for that or anything you think? And this is in a private setting, right? Because if you start this in a public setting, it'll start all the chirping.

It'll be like, I think this, I think that. Can't run shit by committee, okay? If you run a team and you're fucking running it by committee, you're going to fucking lose. You will end up with such vanilla bullshit. This is why most companies end up getting bad. In the beginning, they're run by a founder. They're run by a close-knit group of team. Then they get bigger and they get all these corporate fucks involved in their company. And then they sit around a table

and they eliminate everything cool to be safe. And it ends up with a vanilla product, vanilla marketing, vanilla fucking processes, and then you end up losing. So sit down with Mary, go through the list, ask her for her feedback, say, hey, this is, what do you think? Where can we improve? And I would go to the people that you trust the most first. All right, go to the people who you know are going to have good ideas and tell you the truth first, because they're likely going to point out the holes in your processes quick that way when you go to the lesser trusted employees or the lesser bought-in employees uh the teachers they will they will those holes will be covered so they'll be less uh static there you know what i'm saying and then you sit down with her and you say okay uh so this

is what i expect i'm gonna have you sign this, and I'm going to have everybody sign it. That way we're all on the same page. And your great teachers, your great employees are going to say, fuck, thank God. I'm so tired of this shit being all over the place. Most employees, in this case teachers, they love clear-cut communication. There is nothing worse than wondering what the fuck is going on, okay? Everybody here has been an employee at some time. Do you guys not hate that?

Cause I fucking hated it. I want to know what the fuck is going on and I want to know exactly what to do. And not only do I want to know exactly what to do, I want to know exactly what to do so that I'm valued so that I can move up in my career. All right. So you, as a young man, you need to realize that most people crave clear, concise leadership. And by you sitting down and doing this, you're going to build that framework for your team. And yeah, you're going to have some kickback.

And yeah, you're going to have some mistakes. But you address those individually as they happen. OK, so like let's say you you sign these contracts and everybody fucking goes out and starts to do it. And then you got one guy who's a problem. You don't take the whole team and be like, you guys't fucking doing this i used to do that when i was younger and it was the wrong move you hit because then it makes an issue for everybody so you go over to steve over here who's stuck in the old ways you say steve you signed this contract bro this is what i expect this is what we're gonna do and if you can't do that I'm gonna have to let you

go you're you know you're gonna have to go somewhere else yeah and you know he'll either get in line or he won't and if he does it that's okay just find somebody that will and by the way when you bring new people into a culture that already exists in the system that already exists there's no pushback because that's just the way that it always was so after a while this just becomes the way and you don't have to do this formality of actually setting the framework does that make sense yeah i love it i love it guys andy that was four don't be a whore yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove Counted millions in a cold Bad bitch, booted swole

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