REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 71. Stop The Slide

Episode Date: September 23, 2020

It's time to be brutally honest with yourself. Are you using these strange times as an opportunity to get better or as an excuse? Mental health problems and suicide rates have skyrocketed as a result of this pandemic. On today's episode, Andy talks about actionable steps you can take to ensure progress during this COVID-19 shutdown.

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Got more cars than did. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What's up, guys? It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest sake of out of the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, a little short real talk for you. Not sure how long it's going to take, but I want to let you know where this episode came from.

This morning, now during this COVID lockdown, I just want to let you know, there's been very few places that I've gone, all right? You know, the places I go to eat, I haven't gone to the social gatherings that have been going on. I really haven't gone to. And the reason for that has been because I am not going to go along with all the things that people want you to go along with. So I've chosen to kind of remove myself from normal activity until recently. Recently, I started to have like almost like a little bit of, I don't know if it's like depression

or anxiety or what it is, but something like this weird uneasiness from not seeing people in real life. And I don't think I'm alone with that. I've talked to a lot of people who have kind of shared that sentiment, you know, where they're, they're, it's not like depression. They're not mad. It's just a weird, this weird feeling like what the fuck. And, you know, today I woke up and I decided that instead of training at our headquarters facility here, which I've been training at and been fortunate enough to have during this time, I was going to go to my regular gym. And so I went to my regular gym and I saw a lot of my old friends, a lot of my friends who have been friends for 10 years, 15 years, man, people I've seen day in and day out for, for a decade. And I was talking and it was interesting because, um, you know, a lot of the people had used this time to get better. And, uh, a lot of the people had it and, you know,

they were frustrated and they felt, you know, like it was something where they were starting and going and things just didn't seem to get in a rhythm for them. And, you know, a lot of people were struggling. And so I had some interesting conversations on both, on both sides of the spectrum. And as you guys know, if you follow me, I committed, you know, on March 9th to doing 75 hard. And then basically I've just kind of been doing it the entire time. I said publicly that I was going to use this time for the best of my ability to improve the best that I can.

And I've been doing my best to uphold that. You know, I've taken a few days off. I think I've been off three days total this entire time. And I'm in what I think is the best shape of my life. Um, I still got a lot of work to do. I've still not, you know, excited, uh, about where I'm at, but I'm excited that I didn't go backwards during this time. And I wanted to basically share with you guys a couple of things. First off, you have to understand this, this has been hard on all of us. Okay. Um, everybody here, you know, even though it may seem like I have my shit together, right. I'm still struggling. Like this has not been easy

for me. It's been the hardest I've had to dig deep, uh, to stay onto a program ever in my life. And I mean, there has been a number of times where I wanted to quit, a number of times where I'm like, fuck it, a number of times where I was so angry with what's going on that it almost kept me from doing what I needed to do. And I want you to know, and I want you to hear it from me directly that this thing, what's going on is not normal. This is not how we're supposed to live. It's not how society's supposed to be. We need human connection. We need opportunities to, you know, interact in all these things. And even though I'm a, I would say a pretty extreme introvert, we all still require that, you know? So if you're feeling like that,

understand that this has been hard for me too. And it's been hard for everybody I've talked to, everybody around the office, you know, all the people that you see smiling and, you know, do these people, you know, a lot of these people are struggling to show those smiles. You know what I mean? We're struggling to show that we're happy and I want you to not feel alone. Okay. And so, uh, but that's not the main message. That's just the, the, the main thing I want you to understand is that like, everybody's having a hard time right now, whether, you know, no matter what's going on, it's just a fucking weird time for everybody.

But what I really wanted to do is I wanted to take a minute and talk to you guys, especially you guys who haven't been doing what you know you should be doing during this time. Now, if you follow me for a while, you know that I have no problem telling you the truth. Okay. And some people don't like that. Some people don't like a direct truth. All right. But I want you to understand where that comes from. That comes from me talking to myself that way. So I talk to myself that way. And that's how I coach other people. So if you come to me and you say, Hey, I fucking want to lose weight, you know, or you're fat and you ask me if you're fat, I'm going to tell you you're fucking fat. Just like I tell me I'm fat.

Just like I tell me when I'm lazy. Just like I look in the mirror and say, Andy, you fucked off today. You didn't do what you were supposed to do. Okay. And that's where we start. So if you found yourself off track, the first thing you have to realize is that you got to tell yourself the truth. All right. And the truth is this, you didn't do what you know you should have done. You didn't do it. That's why you're not where you want to be. Okay. If you're soft, if you've,

if you've been soft, if you've been lazy, if you've been, uh, you know, not following through on what it is that you know you should be doing, tell yourself the truth. Don't surround yourself with people who are going to make you feel good for not doing what you know is good for you. Okay. We have to learn that we have to address the truth and the issues before they can be solved. And society has created this like soft cocoon around people where it's not okay to tell the truth to each other anymore. It's not okay to say, hey, Joe, you're a little fat, bro. It's time to take care of it. And Joe's down 40 fucking pounds. Okay. This is the point. We have to be able to tell each other the truth and then be able to take the truth.

All right, the truth is the truth. Now we can sit there and pacify ourselves and say, oh yeah, but you know, it's COVID or yeah, but it's this or yeah, but it's that. There's always going to be something guys. There's always going to be something. Okay, so we have to always going to be something. Okay? So we have to take ownership of the truth. Are you doing it or are you not doing it? Did you do it or did you not do it? And for a lot of you, you didn't do it. And guess what? That's okay. That's okay.

Not everybody gets a hit every time they come to the plate. A lot of people fucking struggle. They go up and down and up and down and up and down. And the reason I wanted to talk about this is because I talked to a couple of people that have basically told me they're like, fuck dude, I've let so much go by. I feel like I'm starting over. I don't even want to fucking start. And they're demoralized. Dude, you guys cannot allow that to happen All right, a lot of you have worked very hard to even be where you are And you've let it slide and you're letting it slide day by day by day by day Saying oh, you know what after the election's over after this is over after that's over i'll get serious And this is no different than what you did last year only last year you were saying after new year's

Okay after halloween after thanksgiving after that different than what you did last year. Only last year you were saying after New Year's, okay? After Halloween, after Thanksgiving, after that wedding I have to go to, after this vacation, after this, after this, after this, after this. Guys, that's why you are where you are, okay? And that's the truth. So you're not doing it. And it doesn't really matter why you didn't do it. You just did it. And so bottom line, the truth with yourself. Okay. That's the place to start. And then the second step is real simple. The second step is after you've owned it and you've said, Hey, you know what? I didn't do what I was supposed to do. I was fucking soft. I was kind of a bitch. I have used this as an excuse. After you've owned that and you've taken that sting,

the next step is to put that first foot down, okay, and take that first step. The first day, you're going to have to force. You're going to have to force yourself through that diet. You're going to have to force yourself through that diet. You're going to have to force yourself through that workout. You're going to have to force yourself through that first day and then probably through that second day and then probably through that third day again and then the fourth day and the fifth day and the sixth day and the seventh day and the eighth day. And before you know it, it won't be force anymore. You'll just be doing it.

And when you get to that point, you've got the momentum. Okay. So we have to A, tell the truth. B, start moving the right direction by force. It's not going to be easy. It's going to be really fucking hard. You're going to be thinking about that fucking pizza and that beer and that sitting on the couch and all these habits that you've ingrained during this time. Okay. Whatever they

might be, you're going to be thinking about that because it's not going to be feel natural to you to do new stuff. But you know what happens once you gain this momentum. Once you gain the momentum, it gets easier. Once you gain the momentum, you start to feel good about yourself again. Once you gain the momentum, you're not struggling through every fucking minute of the day to make sure that these things get done. Okay. And you can substitute your fitness for anything. A lot of, a lot of you guys, this might apply to your business or it might apply to other areas of your life. But the point is, is that we have been conditioned to be soft with ourselves and to tell ourselves, you know, soft lies. And where does that get us? It gets us to an unhappy place. It gets us to a place where we're afraid to look in the mirror. I know what the fuck that's like,

guys. I know what it's like to go to a store and not have any fucking clothes that fit I know what it's like to go to a pool and be afraid to take off my fucking shirt I know what it's like to be embarrassed because I got to wear the same clothes every single day because it's the only outfit That fucking fits me. I've lived that life bro. I fucking know what that's about Okay, and I know how it makes you feel. And nothing bothers me more than when I see people I care about, which is you guys who are allowing you to go back to that place. So this message is for you guys.

All right. If you're one of these people who has slid off during this pandemic, who has, you know, let's just call it what it is. You've gotten fatter. You've gotten worse off. You've gotten lazier. You've gotten softer. All right. That's the truth. Now, what are we going to do? We're going to force ourselves to fix it because dude, I'm going to tell you, I've made the wrong decision here and I'm trying to save some of you guys, man. I've been the guy who's just said, fuck it and just ripped off and let it go. And then before I know I'm fucking 50 pounds up, 60 pounds up a hundred pounds up. All right. Now it may not be

that like that for you, but that's how it is for me, man. I walked by a pizza. I gained fucking 10 pounds. And, and dude, the only thing that's kept me going this whole time is, is being totally fearful of going back to where the fuck I was. And I haven't, but I've had to do it by force literally the whole time, almost this whole year. All right. And so my, my little, this is, this is, I don't know, like a plea almost to you guys. Like guys, fuck what you've done so far this year. I don't fucking care. And you shouldn't fucking care either. Call it what it is. Address the truth. Wake up today, tomorrow and handle fucking business because the last thing we want is to be three or four more months worse off than where we are now.

And then to have things kind of go back to normal, which I think they probably will. But why do you want to have to fight off four more months of fucking bullshit when you could just address the issue right now? All right. This is hard. This is not easy. Stop surrounding yourself with the people who make it easy for you. Stop surrounding yourself with the people who tell you the things that you want to hear that make you feel better in the moment. Stop surrounding yourself with people that make you think it's okay. Stop surrounding yourself with people that enable you to go down these bad habits.

Stop. All right. It's not making you happy and you know it's not making you happy. Stop sliding. You guys have unlimited potential. Okay. And just because a bunch of fucking politicians on both sides want to fuck with the country because of their own selfish reasons. That's my opinion, not to bring the politics into this, but if you listen to the show, you know what the fuck I think. We can't control that. Can you control it individually? No, I can't control it individually. We can control it together, but until everybody gets on the same page, it doesn't matter.

But I'm going to tell you what you can control. You can't control what you put in your mouth. You can't control what you read. You can't control the work that you do. You can't control the workouts that you do. You can't control what you drink. You can't control the work that you do. You can't control the workouts that you do. You can't control what you drink You can't control a whole bunch of shit that'll make your life Personally better during this time and guess what? We've got three and a half months to go in this fucking year That's plenty of time to turn your life around. So my message for you is really simple one Tell your tell yourself the truth Are you doing it? are you not doing it? I don't care

why, and you shouldn't fucking care why either. It doesn't matter. All right? Two, what are you going to do about it? It's time to handle business. It's time to stop sliding. It's time to stop letting the world situation affect your personal life to the maximum degree. You should be thinking right now, I do not want to come out of this fatter, slower, weaker, dumber in a worse place than I was when I went into it, which a lot of people are gonna. And you might too, if you don't stop the slide. So my message for you guys is this, man. I love you guys. I want the best for you guys. And I recognize that a lot of people are sliding right now. And I hope that you listen to this and I hope it'll make something click with you.

And I hope it'll get you to fucking address what's going on so that in four more months, you're not looking back and saying, fuck, I wish I would have listened to that message then because the time is going to go by either way. The time is going to pass. What you do during the time is going to affect where you are in the future. Everybody knows that. Are you going to continue to slide? Are you going to put your foot down and stop it right now and make sure that you're one of the people who says, you know what? That was tough, but I made it through good and I made progress and I improved and I didn't get worse. At the very least, you want to be able to say, I didn't get fucking worse. All right. That's where we're at right now. Okay. It's a choice. It may not feel like a choice. It may not seem like a choice, but you know, deep down,

it's a fucking choice. All right. I want you guys to win. I want you guys to win big. My message might not be for everybody. My message might be too hard for people. I get it. That's society right now. But at the end of the day, until we address the fucking truth, nothing changes on the back end. That's what you have to remember. So learn to deal with the truth. That's why this show is called Real AF. That's why I say it's for the realists. It's not for the pretenders. It's not for the fucking fakers. It's not for the people who lie to themselves. It's for people who can tell themselves the truth. And once you can tell yourself the truth, no matter how hard it stings you,

you're in a better place than you were before because now you can address it. All right. Now you have to make the decision. I can't do the work for you, but I can tell you this. I will be there with you day in, day out, sweating, working, grinding, fucking putting myself through this shit to show you guys that it can be done because it can be done and you can do it. All right. So that's that. Now, if you like the message, if you like the show, if you got something out of it, we appreciate the shares. We appreciate the subscriptions. And I just want you guys to know that we appreciate you guys. We love you guys. And we want you guys to fucking win.