REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 76. How To Master The Moment

Episode Date: October 9, 2020

You do not have to be miserable all the time to be excellent. The highest achievers in the world are able to put aside all distractions and be present in the moment. On today's episode, Andy shares the skill you must master in order to be more effective and get an edge over the competition.

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Got more cars than diddy. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What's up, guys? It's Andy, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, just got a little message for you. Honestly, didn't even decide to record this message until just this morning. So you're going to get a little live Friday fire.

Today is Friday, October 9th. All right. And what I'm going to do is I'm going to get into a topic that I've talked about on a couple other podcasts. If you've listened to some of the podcasts I've done with some of my buddies, but I've talked about on a couple other podcasts. If you've listened to some of the podcasts I've done with some of my buddies, but I've never talked about on this show. And I think it's super important and I want to cover it. I've talked about it inside of some of the long episodes, but never really a dedicated an episode to this topic. But I think it's so powerful and so

important that, you know, I wanted to dedicate just a short little talk that'll maybe help you guys get your mind around something because this topic that I'm about to get into really takes some practice to learn how to do. It's something that I have had a massive hole in my game for the last 22 years of my professional career. So I wanted to hit you guys with this topic. Now, where I got this topic from was I was watching the documentary about, I don't know, maybe a month ago on Michael Jordan, The Last Dance. It's got Tim Grover in it, who you guys all know is one of my great friends and a good, good, good man that I believe in wholeheartedly. And, you know, of course it's got Michael Jordan. It's got, you know, Dennis Rodman. It's got all

the guys that, that Jorp Pippen, it's got all the guys from that era. Right. And we talk and they're all kind of talking about Michael Jordan and their last season. And that's why they call it the last dance. And it's cool because they go from like, you know, back when Michael was in high school to when he was in college to the seasons before the last season. And they really cover his whole career in detail. And it's very entertaining to watch, but I am always trying to be a student just like you guys, you guys wouldn't try to be, you guys are students by default. If you're even listening to this, because if you weren't listening to this, you wouldn't, you wouldn't care about success.

So I'm just like you guys. I'm always looking for the guy who knows some things that I don't know. And watching that documentary really exposed a huge hole in my personal game. And I want to share this with you guys because since watching it, I've been conscious of it and man, it's made a huge difference in such a short time. Okay. Now, if you haven't watched the documentary, you need to go watch it, right? If you have watched the documentary, you're going to know, and I'm going to reference a certain scene in this documentary. There was a certain point and everybody knows how awesome Michael Jordan is, right? Whether you're a basketball, I'm not really

even a basketball fan. I'm a sports fan. I like football. I like baseball. I like hockey, but basketball is probably my least favorite sport just because I never played it. All right. And I'm terrible at it. If I, if you just trust me. All right. Uh, but I love studying high achievers and it's hard to argue that Michael Jordan wasn't the best at what he does. I mean, he's in the conversation. I think he's, uh, you know, head and shoulders, the best player that ever played and probably the best athlete and the best mentality in sports that we've ever had. And so when everybody thinks of Michael Jordan, we always hear the famous things like, you know, he was intense. He was mean. Sometimes he was angry. He was a tough player uh you know he he wasn't always nice and practical

we always hear this shit okay but watching him interact on that documentary gave me a different perspective and that perspective it came to me in an instant. There was a scene in the documentary where Michael was, they were before one of his big games. I believe it was a playoff game. And it was literally right before they're getting ready to play. And he's in the locker room in one of the side rooms of the locker area with one of the security guys and they're flipping quarters. All right. And this is literally like right during his, the middle of when he should be preparing and he should be like, you know, we think he should be preparing. He should be focused, you know, getting intense, ready to go to battle, but he's not, he's flipping quarters and he's laughing

with his security guy and they're playing a little game and they're having a fucking blast. And what I saw in that moment was so profound for me. I just want to share it with you guys. He was present. Okay. He was present in the moment. And that's really what makes great people great. That's what makes great athletes, great athletes. That's what makes great entrepreneurs, great entrepreneurs. That's what makes great anything great. Okay. They're able to take, and I never saw this this way until just recently, but it all clicked for me. They're able to take whatever it is right in front of them, whether it be a conversation, whether it be a game of quarters,

whether it be practicing, whether it be lifting weights, whether it be planning strategy in a meeting, it doesn't matter what you're doing or what he was doing. He was all in on that. So when they were practicing chest passes, he was 100% into chest passes. When they were practicing layups, he was 100% there for layups. He wasn't thinking about his girlfriend or his problems off the court or his argument that he had with ownership or any of these other distractions. And we could come up with, I don't know, a trillion distractions for our own lives. I mean, how many times do you find yourself in a situation where you're lifting weights and

you're trying to get better, or you're sitting in front of your computer and you're trying to create something or you're writing emails and you're thinking about all this other shit. You're thinking about this argument you had an hour ago. You're thinking about this, uh, car, uh, accident. You got in on the way to work. That was a little fender bender, or you're thinking about all these little distractions. You're thinking about, you know, how your friends, once you go out tonight, shit like this, okay? And you're mindlessly going through the motions of whatever task you have in front of you. And then because you're mindlessly going through those motions and just getting it done as opposed to putting the proper intent behind it, it really slows down your progress.

Because if you think about it, wouldn't you be a lot better if you were focused when you were doing the things you're supposed to be doing? Wouldn't you be a lot better to execute on emails or on whatever content you're trying to create or whatever meeting you're trying to have or whatever product you're trying to create or whatever conversation you're trying to have? If you weren't worried about a million different things, I know I would be more effective and I know I have been. This is something that has helped me tremendously in the short time I've noticed it and become aware of it. And I want to give you guys the gift of this awareness, okay? Be aware when you're there to execute and you find yourself drifting off into other

things. Okay. That's not what great people do. What great people do is they pour their focus into what they're doing at the time and they address that. Then when something else happens and it's time to do this, they address this. Okay. And then when something else happens and it's now it's time for that, they address that.

All right. They go through their day completely designed to be present in whatever it is they're handling at the moment, which allows them to A, be more successful and effective with it. And B, be happy. This is the biggest thing about it. Be happy. You're able to execute better and be happier doing it You're able to have fun doing it because you're not allowing yourself to be distracted by all the other shit

And guys, this is a skill, but it's not a skill that takes years to develop It's skill that takes weeks to develop if you just become present with it So I wanted to share that with you I wanted to share with you the idea that maybe you aren't as present as you should be. Maybe you're letting yourself get caught up in all these other things that life has. And guys, how many distractions are there right now? There's probably more distractions in society right now than there ever has been. That's arguable. So can we focus during that

time and be present in the conversations we have, in the work that we do, in the fun that we have, so that we can actually be effective, draw more of the good juice out of life, and leave some of the stress and some of the anxiety and some of the pain on the table for someone else to take. All right. We don't have to be miserable to be excellent. We don't have to be angry to be excellent. Okay. We can take those negative feelings and turn them into productive action a hundred percent of the time. But when you're producing that action and you're putting it into whatever it is you're into, worry about that. How good are your chest passes? How good are your layups? Okay. Because I'm going to tell you right now, everybody thinks in basketball, you know, 360 reverse slam dunks win the game and three pointers win the game.

That ain't true. Defensive fucking layups win the game. It's the same in life. Fundamentals win the game. How present are you in the fundamentals? How present are you in the conversations? How present are you when you're writing that email? How present are you in that meeting? Because I'm going to tell you right now, what happens is when you aren't present, okay, you haven't done your best work. You know you haven't done your best work. You know, you haven't done

your best work. And that little friend of ours called anxiety starts to reel. It's, you know, reel up like a little tornado inside of us because why? Because we know we aren't focused and we know we aren't present and we know we just missed on something that should have been an easy layup. All right. So if you want to be more effective and you want to be more happy, learn to be present and trust that being present will not only make you more effective and more successful, but it'll also make you happier. And guys, don't forget, we don't advertise this show. I don't pack it full of ads. This is for your value. So if you got value, if you love the show, if it made you laugh, if it made you think,

if it changed your perspective, if you think your like-minded friends would enjoy it, please share the show. Okay? That's how we grow. Grow the show organically. If we do good, the show grows. If we don't do good, I'm fine with the show not growing. All right?

If you didn't like the show, don't share it. I'm cool with that. But if it did give you perspective and it did help you, please share the show. That's my message for you guys this Friday. I hope you guys go out, kick ass, let this thing sink in. Think about this. Think about all the things that you miss because you're worried about other shit and harness that into focus, guys.

It sounds kind of hard, but it's really not. I've been able to fix this in myself very short time just by being aware. So I wanted to give you guys that gift today. I hope you have a great day. I love you guys. And I'll see you guys soon.