REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 79. Surviving The Success Zombie Apocalypse

Episode Date: October 21, 2020

Are you someone who mindlessly consumes self-help knowledge with little to no action? Do you get comfortable after winning, or does it make you strive for more wins? On today's episode, Andy talks about how you have to get past the success zombie stage so you can fulfill your own true potential.

I told my teacher, dumb bitch, I'm going to get millions. Watch this. In a project living. Damn. Spoke it till existence. Voila. Mode changed to 50. What up?

Got more cars than diddy. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What's up, guys? It's Andy Purcella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, I've got a, I don't know how long it's going to be because I got a lot of shit I want to cover with it, but whether it's

short or long, I promise you this, it's going to make you better. That's what we do here. Okay. Before I get into talking about what this show and what's on my heart, what's on my mind today, I want to remind you guys of the fee. The fee is very simple. If this show makes you better, which this one will, if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, if it makes you have a different perspective that you might not have had, share this show, okay? A lot goes into making this show. These guys here in the room, the team here, they work really hard to put this show together. And we don't run ads and we don't monetize the show the way that we could. And, you know, we really just do this because we want people to be better. And we want to set an example for what it looks like to be better and

to help people, you know, understand how to win. And that's really what I want to talk about today. You know, we have access to tools that teach us how to win, right? When I was growing up, a lot of you guys don't realize, and I'm not that much older than, you know, most of the younger guys getting after it now, but I'm not, I'm not, you know, a young buck anymore. I wouldn't say, you know, um, but I want you guys to understand it wasn't that long ago where there wasn't social media and there wasn't access to the information that is available today. You know, when I was young and when I was dreaming and when I was having big goals and big visions and big aspirations for myself,

there really wasn't a lot of places to look to figure out how to do those things. Right. I could kind of see, uh, in, in some people's books, you know, I could read about how they did it, but it wasn't like I was able to observe them or, or even really know anybody who was successful in real life. I knew a few people. Okay. And I was lucky, man. I was lucky enough to know a few people. Most people don't know anyone. Most people never even see someone who is successful on a large scale financially. So I consider myself lucky, and I don't use that term very often, to have been able to witness that a couple different ways growing up. I also witnessed a lot of people lose the success that they built, which we're going to talk about that

today as well. But guys, this is the truth, man. Right now we've got podcasts, we've got books, we've got seminars, we have masterminds, we have information just all over the place about how to win. And there's all kinds of different ways to get where you want to go. And there's people out there sharing the skills of how to build literal empires that you could get that information for fucking free. Okay. It wasn't always that way. And I think because people don't have that perspective, they don't necessarily appreciate what we have access to right now. And that creates a scenario that I talk about a lot called the success zombie. All right. This is the person who will read all the books and go to all the seminars and buy all the courses and get into

all the groups. And then they'll look around after doing this for years and years and years and get mad that they're not where they want to be, okay? And the reason you're not where you want to be is because you're a fucking success zombie, all right? You hear all the shit, you take in all the information, you think there's some secret out there that you're going to find that is going to get you ahead of the line, right? That we all have to fucking work through. And until you find that secret, until you find whatever that hack is, you're not going to fucking do it. And I'm going to tell you right now, you motherfuckers ain't going to do it regardless. Okay. So if you're one of these people who is following the latest information and, you know, looking for the hack and let me save you some fucking time. There is no hack.

The hack is put your fucking head down, take one step and take another step and take another step until you find yourself in a place that's better than where you are now. This is what success looks like. A lot of you guys have bought into the hype of all these, you know,

quote unquote successful people, which by the way, you don't know how many of these people are actually successful. It's easier than ever to fake everything on the internet. Where are these people's companies? Where, what's their house look like? What's their business look like? What's their reputation? Does anybody know them? What, what have they done? Where do they come from? Are they real? These are things that you should ask before finding someone that you're going to try to model. Because now more than ever, we have people who have figured out that if they look a certain way and they talk a certain way and they have a certain level of, you know, quote unquote flash in their game, somehow they're fucking credible.

And most of these people haven't done shit. That's just the truth. All right. So figure out who to listen to by doing a little homework on them. Who the fuck are they? Where's their company? Can you go to their company? Can you see it? Is it real? Okay. This is common sense. Just because someone's standing in front of a fucking Lamborghini doesn't mean shit. All right. Just because someone's sitting on a private jet, giving you information that doesn't mean shit. All right. So let's make sure the information is good. First of all, second of all, let's do our part. You have access to this shit. Most of it's free. What's your part? Your part is to put it in action. And it doesn't matter

how many times you go to a seminar or take a course or show up at an event or this or that or this, your chances of success do not increase even 1% until you start to do your part. Your part is to take these lessons and put them into play in your real life. Now, I've done my best over the last five, six years to give you guys the real truth. If you go back through my podcast, the MFCEO project, I am 100% confident that every fucking tool that you will ever need to be successful is in that, which is why I switched formats to real AF. But I still see this as an issue and it's getting bigger and bigger and bigger.

The more people figure out that they can fucking fake shit and get people to cash flow them and pretend to be successful. All right. So the first thing is don't be a success zombie. Success zombies are never going to make it up there. The ladder of success to the winners of where you're trying to go. They're never going to do it. And be wary of surrounding yourself with these people, surrounding yourself with these people who analyze every single bit of data, but do no action,

who will sit there and criticize someone who's trying to teach them, but then not take the action at all. Like it's like a Monday morning quarterback, right? You never played a fucking game of football in your life, but you think that fucking Aaron Rogers should have thrown that pass instead of ducked it down. Okay. This is what you guys do.

And you spend your whole time Monday morning quarterbacking some fucking business person's plays and you're doing shit. And you think that's going to get you somewhere? Let's have a fucking reality check guys. It's not. Okay. So stop buying in to this fucking way of being. It's popular right now to be a quote unquote entrepreneur on the internet. All right. Everybody has it in their fucking bio. Everybody's talking about all the shit they're going to do, but how many of them actually do it? Very few. Okay, and what I want you to come to from this particular podcast Is how to not be one of those people that never does it and to be one of the rare people that do it Okay, so that's the first step. That's the first thing I want to talk about because i'm seeing

a resurgence or even like a I don't know an acceleration Of the amounts of success zombies there are and I want to make sure you don't fall into that trap so Let's talk about the people and let's assume because I believe that you are these people Otherwise, you wouldn't be listening to me You are the people who are going to go out and win You are the people who are going to go out and win. You are the people who are going to do what it takes. You are the people who are going

to use the tools that I give you, like the powerless program, the 75 hard program, all these different things that I've given you, how to visualize, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. All these concepts, you're going to put them into play, right? Okay. Now, you people who are doing this, who are taking theories and things that are proven from someone who's actually built things and you're putting them into your life, you guys are going to win, okay? And you're going to win if you consistently show up, all right? If you can persevere, if you can cultivate the grit, the tenacity, the fortitude, which by the way, I give you the tool to do that too called 75 hard.

All right. If you could cultivate your ability to follow through on a plan, that plan and those tools will get you where you want to go. Okay. So if you're willing to grit it out long enough, if you're willing to deal with enough hardships, enough negativity, enough obstacles, enough bullshit, okay, there's nothing that's going to stop you from getting where you want to go. It's going to be you, all right? But why is it, why is it that lasting success is so

rare? Why is it that we know people, you guys know them who seem to have all their shit together and have all their cool things in life, right? They got a great house. They got a great career. They got a cool car. They traveled to the nicest places. Their kids go to the nicest schools.

They have all their shit put together, so to speak, right? But then we come back in two or three years and they're either in the same spot or they've gone backwards. And when you ask them about, hey, Tom, dude, what the fuck's going on? How you doing? Oh, bro. You know, the economy got me or this, the divorce got me or this got me, right? There's always a fucking reason that got them right. And it was hard for them. And that's what they attach themselves to.

But then you have the other group amongst the winners, because here's the thing about winning. And if you're going to take something from this show, I would take this. Winning does one of two things to people. One, it either makes them comfortable and that comfortable makes them lazy and then they lose their shit. Two, they win. They understand the process of winning. They've studied how they got there. They humble themselves and realize that it's not them that got them there. It's actually them following a set of rules and processes and discipline of following those processes that got them there. And then they continue to win bigger and bigger and bigger because they got a taste. And what

happened when they got a taste? They got hungry. They got hungrier than they were. Okay. This is, this is the thing. So to get successful and get where you want to be, guys, we kind of have to go through a couple of different phases. One, we've got to get past being a fucking success zombie. You've got to get past being the observer of information. Fucking everybody's an observer of information right now. That doesn't make everybody an expert. Okay. An expert, someone who takes the information and go lives it in real life and kicks ass with it. That's where you want to be. So we have to work through that first part. Don't be like everybody else. Don't be like all the people who want to be ambitious to win and kick ass and succeed. And then don't do shit, but like, you know, pretend to be about it when they're not really.

All right. So we've got to move through that first. Now we figured out how to get past that and we figured out that we're going to win. All right. Now ask yourself, what kind of winner do you want to be? Do you want to be the kind of winner who gets a little bit of success, who gets a six figure job, who gets a decent house, who has a decent car and seems to have their shit together amongst their little peer group, but then one big knock or one big unexpected event or one big thing that, you know, quote unquote, gets them, takes them back to where they were before? Or do you want to be the guy who gets to that point

and then becomes unstoppable because they've gotten hungrier, they've gotten more disciplined, they've gotten more dedicated to the mission of being successful because they realize that it's not about greed. It's actually about inspiration. And this is the key. This is where most people cannot connect the dots is that this success to our highest level success to our personal standard of what we can possibly become is not something that you

should strive for. It's something that you should feel obligated to achieve. And I'm going to tell you why, because all your little friends and your neighbors and your cousins and your students and your kids and everybody who looks at you, everybody who sees you, everybody who sees what it is you're doing in life is going to take something from you. What are they going to take? Are they going to take, oh fuck, I'm going to be like everybody else. Or are they going to take, dude, that guy did it. I can do it too. That girl did it. I can do it too. Because I don't think there's anything more noble in life than showing the people around us that we don't have fucking limits. I don't think there's anything more noble in life than

showing the people around us how to win. I don't think there's anything more noble in life than being the example for what it looks like to fulfill your own true potential. It's just really fucking hard. Okay. So when you're sitting out there and you're thinking about where you are and do you really have what it takes and you're wondering if you'll ever be successful, ask yourself these questions. Where do you fall on this path? Are you still in the success zombie phase or are you taking the lessons in you acting? Are you winning a little bit? Is your winning making you more comfortable or is it making you lazier? Is it making you hungrier?

Is it making you better? Is it making you want more? Is it making you more disciplined or less? Is it making you more aggressive or less? Is it making you nicer or not as nice? How's it affecting your life? See, we spend a lot of time wondering where we are in the big picture. We spend a lot of time wondering where we are amongst everybody else. But the truth is,

it doesn't really fucking matter. What matters is, is what you do day in, day out, what you put in your ears and what you apply into action. The rest of this shit takes care of itself. So when you look around at all these people who are posting success memes and talking about all the shit they're going to do and all these things they're going to achieve, and they don't seem to ever change. They don't seem to work. You see them, you know, the next day they're getting fucking shit faced out with their friends. Just realize that ain't the people you want to be. Okay. Those people never win. The people who win are the people who show up every single day. They take these lessons that we should be so grateful for that they're available for free,

and they put them into actual work, all right? And they don't let a new car or a new house or a new experience or the ability to go to a restaurant, not worry about paying the bill. They don't let these things get in the way of what success really is, which is the pursuit of your own true potential. We all have different potentials. Some people's maximum potential is to be a janitor. And that's amazing. Just be the best fucking janitor you can be. All right. But how many of you are truly in pursuit of your own true potential? Or are you just trying to show up your fucking friends from high school? Because the answer to that question will dictate where you're going to end up on the spectrum. So something to think about, guys. Don't be a success zombie and don't

be the guy who gets a little taste and then loses it and gets embarrassed in front of all his friends because he thinks he's a big baller for a fucking year. Okay. Lasting success. There's levels to this shit, right? There's people who will win. There's people who will win temporary. There's people who will always win. You want to figure out how to be the person who's going to always win. And the way to do that is by understanding that you haven't done shit yet. And here's the thing. You can keep searching and keep searching and keep searching. And you can look for every fucking life hack that you think is out there. But I'm going to tell you right now, as someone who's been doing this business thing for my whole fucking adult life, there is no fucking hack. The hack is one foot in front of another. Take the good information

that you get, put it into play day after day after day after motherfucking day. And it doesn't matter if you're tired. It doesn't matter if you're hurt. It doesn't matter if you're sick. It doesn't matter if you don't feel like it. In fact, the days you don't feel like it would be the days that you should execute even further so that you can learn to be resilient and have fortitude and have grit because those are the qualities that ultimately determine success. And guys, here's the thing. I don't give a fuck if you want to be a multi-billionaire or if you're happy being an average Joe, but just understand if you pick average Joe, average is just as close to the bottom as it is at the top. And you're the one that has to live with it.