REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 803. Q&AF: Dealing With A Bad Manager, Delegating Tasks & Being Honest With Your Child Athlete

Episode Date: October 28, 2024

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to deal with a bad manager when the owner isn't involved much with the team, the best way to combat your prideful ego with delegating tasks to the other individuals on your team, and how to honestly asses your child athlete to provide them the best path to success.

What is up guys? It's Andy Fercelli and this is the show for the Realist. Say goodbye to the lies, the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking Reality. Guys, today we have Q&AF. That's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. Now, if you're unfamiliar with the show,

Q&AF is about anything. It's about personal development, business, life, entrepreneurship, how to kick ass. You can ask about what's going on in the world too, but typically it's about how to get better. We'd like to start the week off with that. Now, if you want your questions answered on the show, you could do so a couple different ways. The first way is, guys, you can email these questions in to askandy at andyforsseller.com or you go on YouTube in the comments section. You could drop your question in the comments. We'll choose some

from there as well. Now, tomorrow we're're gonna have cruise the internet. That's a current event show. Okay, we call it CTI We put topics up on the screen we speculate on what's true What's not true and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world All right other times we're gonna have real talk real talk It's just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses That's where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 hard program to reclaim their life. If you're unfamiliar

with the 75 hard program, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program in history. And it's free. You can get it for free the entire thing at episode 208 on the audio feed only. There's also a book available called the book on mental toughness you can get it andyforsella.com. It is a lot more in-depth it includes the entire Live Hard program plus a whole bunch of other stuff a bunch of chapters about mental toughness, why it's important, how to use it, some case studies on some famous people who have used mental toughness to become the famous people that you recognize. Alright, so you can get that

at andyforsella.com. Now you're probably wondering why it is we do personal development and what's going on in the world and it's because this we have to be aware what's going on and then we have to know the techniques on how to get better and become the change in society so we do both of those things here we talk about what's going on in the world we talk about what we need to do there and then we talk about through q a f and personal development how we need to individually get better because the truth of the matter is Nothing changes unless we change we are society alright personal excellence on an individual level is The ultimate rebellion that all of you are looking for alright, so That's why we do what we do and we do it a little different than everybody else. We don't run ads on the show

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No man, yeah. There's nothing wrong with them. People like them. That's fine. But yeah, sweater. Sweater. Weather. Yeah, it is.

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Man, listen. I got some good ones for you. All right, good. I got three specific ones that are good for you and you guys listening. So let's make people better. Sounds good. Guys, Andy, question number one.

Andy, I started with a new company two years ago to date. I quickly became top sales as the youngest guy on the team. Before I started the team was between 35 and 50 year olds. Me at 25 came in started walking circles around them. I think they all got upset at the new young guy and all eventually moved on. Two years in, I'm senior sales and I'm wanting to put myself in a position to be a sales manager. The current manager can't follow through. Doesn't really manage the team, bad mouths after all of our meetings and is just a bad manager. The owner is pretty hands off in my territory, so doesn't see the issues firsthand. My question for you is what's the best, most ethical way to go about this? Prior to this,

I had seven years of retail management, so running a sales team isn't anything new to me. I know the value I could provide would amount to a successful team all around rather than just the star players You're an owner. I'm sure you've had employees come to you on this. Thanks for your advice Why I was there a question there fucking is a question. I guess what's What's the most ethical way to go about this? How do you do this? Oh, what a manager that's in a bad position, but a owner owner that's hands-off How do you how do you battle that? Well, I mean, look, dude,

you don't have to have permission to lead anything. That's the biggest thing that people don't understand. You don't have to have a title or a permission or acknowledgement to lead, all right? Leading is something that leaders do on their own, regardless of what title they have. In fact, someading is something that leaders do on their own, regardless of what title they have. In fact, some of the most effective leaders in the world are what you would call peer leaders, meaning they don't have the title of leadership, but they take over the lead of the

team. And you know what happens whenever that person who is a peer leader becomes the leader of their team. Now they have leverage. Now they can go to their manager and say, Hey, all my guys are with me, bro. We're doing this. We're doing this. We're doing this. You're not doing your part. We need this. We need this. We need this to do our jobs and you're not providing that. So what do we need to do to get that? Okay. And that's one way you can go about it. Another way you can go about it is become undeniably great at selling whatever it is you're selling with your team. And then when you're kicking ass and everybody else is looking like shit, which you seem

very confident that you can do, which I question your confidence to be completely honest, anybody who's 25 years old, it sounds that confident, usually has an ego issue just being honest. So if you are who you say you are and you can do what you say you can do here's what I'd recommend. I'd recommend putting up numbers that that company's never fucking seen before ever in the history of their company not even close and then I'd recommend going to the owner himself and saying hey you see what I'm doing here I could do this for your entire company if you let me How about that? That's an ethical way What do you mean ethical you mean like going around the manager if that guy's fucking not doing his job?

Who's he holding back? Oh, he's holding back you he's holding back all your teammates all the people you're working with so Really the ethical thing is to go to bat for those guys, do what I'm saying and then get this motherfucker out of the way straight up with your performance or get them to start rowing the boat. So there's a lot of ways you can go about this. But the number one thing that has to happen for you to go about this is you have to win and put up numbers that no one can fucking deny, which everybody talks about all the time. All the numbers they can put up and all the shit they can sell and how great they were at their last job and how awesome they're going to be at this job. If we just give them this and this and this and this, well, if you're that good why the fuck are you not doing it okay so

let's be real the owners met 50 fucking 25 year old kids that have come to him and said I could do this and this and this and this and this and I'm gonna tell you what the minute you walk out the door he says yeah that I've heard that before but the response would be different if you went out and you put the fucking numbers up and then went to them Okay, and this is what people do if you're an entrepreneur I'm gonna give you the most valuable fucking advice you'll ever get about providing for yourself an income It's not hey if if you pay me more, I'll do this. That's not how the fuck it works

Okay, it's I'm doing this. I'm kicking ass. I'm dominating I'm putting up numbers that you've never fucking seen before I'm worth this That's the way it works A lot of you motherfuckers try to get paid off of what you're gonna do when in reality you only get paid off what you're already Doing or what you've done. All right So and that's entitlement that comes from an entitled culture of the younger generation Who believes that they're worth way more than they are they say? Oh pay me what I'm worth Well, you're not selling anything. You're not doing anything. Well, if you paid me I go do it. That's not how the fuck it works

That's how it works. Nobody pays a fucking, you know, a fucking baseball player You know a hundred million fucking dollars for what they're gonna do, they get the hundred million dollar contract after they've proven themselves, okay? And they may have proven themselves in the minor leagues, they may have proven themselves in college, they may have proven themselves for that first two-year contract where they made league minimum and now they're getting a hundred, two hundred million dollar deal, okay? But there's a prove yourself phase that has to be recognized that a lot of you young motherfuckers don't get. Okay, if you're not putting up numbers

and you're not putting up records and you're not setting the standard, you don't have a standing to go in and ask for anything. So don't get it twisted. Don't listen to your fucking loser friends and your uncle who never did anything and all this shit when they badmouthed their places If well, if they paid me I do this more Well, that's why you're not getting paid because you're a fucking idiot. You don't understand how it works works like this Put up or shut the fuck up. That's it. You're either putting it up You're setting records you're kicking ass and you're gonna get paid more or you're coasting your bitching

You're whining and you're gonna be fucking, you know working at fucking Taco Bell when you're 50 years old Yeah, I want to I want to there's two things I really want to dive in on this, you know that first part where you're you know people expect You know, they'll get the title first and then they become this leader. You got a lead before you get the title Can we try diving this a little bit more? Well, I mean dude a lot of people believe that. They believe that, you know, someone has to come along and anoint them the leader.

That's not how it works. And then they start leading. Yes, that's not how it works. You lead and then you get the title of leader, okay? You go first, you help your team, you show your team how to win, you earn their respect, you perform personally, and you get them all to follow you down

that path of performance, now we can talk about something. Now, you know what, I'll say you're a leader, and I'm gonna give you some sort of title to recognize that. But waiting around for the title to be adorned onto your fucking Quilted business card or fuck you think business is about Is not a way to become successful, bro A lot of people just have it backwards and you don't have to wait for that title to start leading you shouldn't you should start Trying to become a leader right now

You know and a lot of people don't like that because like they feel like they're the kid in class with the fucking apple up at The front well, you know what that kid in class with his Apple up at the front that gets all the good grades I'm a fucker makes all the money Okay, so do you want to get paid or do you want to feel a little bit weird about standing up to all your friends? I mean like hey bitches, we got a fucking go and win I'd rather do that and get paid. I don't really care if they don't like it. I don't care if they think I'm a suck-ass I don't care suck an ass and saying this all this, you kiss an ass, brown nose, that's loser ass shit. We're trying to fucking win. Okay? That's what we're here for. And winning for us looks like doing

our job at the highest possible level, proving that we can do it. And then the money comes later. It's no different when you're an entrepreneur. You provide the product, you provide the service, you do it in an excellent way, over the top, and then people give you their money. That's what the fuck it works. It doesn't ever work as you get the money first. Hey, I got an idea. Come spend money with my company,

and if you spend enough money, I'll give you a good experience. Right. No. That's what employees fucking say. That's what they think. Yes, it makes no sense. No. Hey, Steve makes no sense. No.

Hey Steve, if you pay me three times as much, I'll do three times as much. Well there's no proof that you can do three times as much. You're not even good at the shit you do yet. You see what I'm saying? Like it's just backwards logic, bro. Yeah it is. It is, I also wanna touch on this piece too

because you kinda, you mentioned it, but let's dive into it because I feel like this this can relate listen Here's what you should do if you're an entrepreneur You should become the best you fucking can you should put up undeniable results You should monitor everything that you do and keep track of every win that you have So that you can go in and make a case for yourself to move up in the company Because no one's gonna come to you and say, you know, hey, man I think you should be president in the company because no one's going to come to you and say, you know, Hey, man, I think you should be president of the company. You're going to have to inch your

way and inch your way and inch your way up by showing what the fuck you've done. Okay. And I know everybody thinks they do a lot, but if you start tracking it on paper, you'll find out exactly what the fuck you do and exactly how many wins you have. And a lot of people overestimate their wins, which makes them overestimate their value. And when they don't get recognized with the value in return they get bitter they get angry and they End up giving up on the ability to go out and create something for themselves when the whole reason they're in the position They're in is because they're overestimating their value based upon You know what they think and they don't have the perspective to think anything. You see what I'm saying? Right. Whereas I got 10 on paper, man. Well, Joe got fucking 50.

So like who are you comparing it to? Listen, if people simply took their wins and tracked them down and made a list of them, they'd find out much more quickly what they're actually worth. Because most people don't do shit. Most people spend most of their day trying to fucking play business or pretend

to be busy or pretend to be working or sort of slithering into the corner so nobody notices them. And then they get pissed when they get passed over and the career opportunities go to other people. Okay. It is what it is. Winners win, losers fucking lose. Winners are going to come in, they're going to get everybody to win with them losers are gonna come in they're gonna pull everybody back You want to be on the winning side because the winning side is the guy who wins in life and the losers don't get shit And that's it. That's a reality that these fucking kids have lost They don't understand and all another thing they don't understand is how fucking hard it actually is a lot of people think I'm just gonna show You know what they say I show up on time

I've never been late Well, no shit, you're not supposed to be I do my job you're supposed to do your job It's not those aren't the people that progress it takes way more than that it takes you producing Undeniable real results and then making a case for yourself producing undeniable real results and then making a case for yourself saying, Hey, look what I've done. And by the way, when you do that, you'll be confident in your own skills because you can actually see them one through 20 right here. Okay. And if they don't want to fucking help you,

and they don't want to progress you, and they don't want you to do better in their company, guess what you can do? You can go somewhere that will. Yeah. I want to touch on this because I feel like a lot of people like especially the young guys can relate to this situation But I want to spend some time on talking about what not to do in this situation, right? You're a builder of culture. You understand culture more than anybody. I feel like this person I'm not saying you know, he's gonna go do this, but I feel like it's an easy thing to feel, you know I just start shit talking this manager I'm gonna do my best and make him look bad and talk shit stupid

All right, let's talk about those people never win those people never win Just so you know If you're the type of person that thinks you're gonna get ahead by pulling other people down it will never ever ever work It never works. It never works. We talked about this with Ed Mylet when he was on my show like two three years ago there's a ladder to success and the people above you have been through more shit than you and they can very easily recognize that you're full of shit. Okay. You're not going to fool. You might fool some people on the bottom rungs. You might get a little bit higher and fool some more people, but eventually someone's going to see what the fuck you're about. And when they see that you're about tearing everybody

around you down to get ahead, they're not going to allow you on their team because they understand what that's going to create. It's going to create a massive cancer that they're going to have to clean up later. So all you fuckers that think you're real smart and you're smarter than your boss and you're something they've seen you a thousand times. They fucking seen you. You're not the first motherfucker to think that they've seen you You see what I'm saying? I know this great idea. Let me shit top my manager. This has never been done before

They've seen you there's been a hundred of you before and that comes from their ego thinking that they're the smartest motherfucker on the planet You know, they think oh well, you know They've never seen anybody like me cuz I'm so good at my job And I'm thinking they think in a name of thinking there you think you're smarter than your fucking boss Who's been doing whatever the fuck he's been doing for 25 30 years? You're an idiot He's seen you he's seen a hundred like you You're not going to fool him. The only way to get up the ladder is by doing it the right way

it's by being great at what you do getting the other people around you to be great at what they do and then You will be rewarded. I fucking love it, man. I love it. Guys, Andy, question number two. Hey, Andy, thanks for taking this question. I own a landscaping business and I'm about to finish up my second year. It's two full-time guys, myself and then we have occasional part-time guys that help. Our motto has always been stay small long enough and we will be big enough soon enough. I do believe it's best to keep the cash high and overhead low. I also find myself struggling as I work in the field all the time.

It's hard to be able to work on the business side of things and grow. Is it normal to get completely fed up with the day-to-day tasks because you get to a point where you almost feel like you're above it? I keep getting this inner voice in my head telling me that I'm above the bitch work because I'm the one that's obtaining all the business

in the first place. Maybe I'm just expecting more out of the other guys since they don't do any sales How can I combat this prideful ego or is it time to take the step and delegate tasks other guys while I'll solely Focus on sales and growing. Do you know why your guys don't want to work for you? You know why they don't want to work because you think what they do is bitch work. Oh Boy, oh buddy. You just fucking said it in your question. Oh buddy. You think people are going to come and fucking work for you if you think what they do is not important and it's bitch work and whatever you do is more important? You ever been around someone

like that? No. Did you like them? Did you want to work for them? Did you want to run through a fucking brick wall for them? Or have you ever worked for someone that'll get on the fucking line with you and pack some motherfucking boxes or sweep the floor or help you to be fucking great at what you do? Now, did you want to work for that guy? Do you want to run through a wall for that guy? Okay, you're not the guy yet. You haven't figured it out. Okay, so this isn't about delegating. This is about an attitude adjustment that you need to make as a fucking leader and that's this without them you ain't shit So you might as well help them feel real good about what they do and help them be great at it so they can progress And when they progress that will help you progress. It's very fucking simple

Okay, the fact that you even wrote Above the bitch work shows me that your ego is so fucking out of control that you don't even understand your own fucking business All right. I'm a McDonald's making the fries is bitch work. Well, what if the fries are bad? What if the fries are soggy? What if the fries fucking get over fried? What if they're what if they got oil all over them? What if they're not salted?

What? How's that going to affect your business? Is that bitch work now? See what I'm saying? Oh, man. So this is an attitude adjustment from someone who's clearly not ready to fucking lead that needs to make a fucking adjustment say hey I am NOT going to ask my people to do anything that I cannot do at a

very fucking high level and every chance I get I'm gonna help them do that motherfucker I take trash out here real talk there every single day I go to one of our fucking trash bins and I fucking empty it You know why because I want to remind myself what the fuck it actually takes to remind to run this place My job as the fucking founder Okay is not to think of myself as better than everyone my job Is to fucking make everybody else better That's the job and if I went around and said what they do is bitch work

Do you think they'd want to get better at what they do? How do you think a grown man feels when you think what he does for a living, when you're paying him to do it, that you think that's bitch work? How do you think he feels? You think he feels confident when he goes home? You think he feels better about himself? You think he feels excited to come to work knowing that his owner thinks that what he does is bitch work? You think he wants to get better at it? You need an attitude adjustment, bro. You need to get the fuck out of business. That's my fucking answer.

Oh, man. Let me ask you this because, I mean, even just to that point though, right? When you started on the retail side, how long were you in the stores for? Six years, and then four more after that. I mean, so 10 fucking years. And you know what's funny? It's what I missed the most I fucking loved it I

loved doing what we did in the stores I loved helping people I love being and everybody's in a hurry to get away from there wherever they are and they don't understand how great they fucking have it yeah be sitting making big decisions that are that that require you to consider the well-being of hundreds of other people and their families is an immense amount of pressure that no one could possibly comprehend and the only person that can do it without feeling that is a fucking sociopath that gives zero fucks about those people and you know what if you're that way those people will always know it and they won't come for you so

The only way they won't go to war for you The only way that you could actually build an amazing culture is by truly being about it you have to Everybody fucking hears what I say about this and then they think they can like skirt the corner or like make it diluted No, why do you think I'm here seven days a fucking week? Because I give a fuck I give a fuck about what we're doing. I give a fuck about our people I give a fuck about our customers and I care about at the level at which things are done here And so does all the other leadership dude you listen. Here's the reality. This is just the truth. Okay Most people that are in business that

think they're entrepreneurs shouldn't even be in business because entrepreneurship has become so glorified and so fucking celebrated and it's been made into this thing that it isn't. It's been made into this easy job, right? I'm going to be an entrepreneur so I don't have to answer to anybody. I want to be an entrepreneur so I can have freedom. Okay? You answer to your customers. You answer to your employees. want to be an entrepreneur so I can have freedom. Okay? You answer to your customers. You answer to your employees. When you become the entrepreneur, you answer to way more people than when you're an employee. All right? So the truth of the matter is, you know, if you got the attitude that people around you are doing bitch work, there's no

secret why your business is fucked up, bro. Yeah, man. I love it. Grow the fuck up. Realize this, there's ethical entrepreneurship and there's unethical entrepreneurship. Ethical entrepreneurship is knowing that every single person that is around you deserves your best as a fucking founder, owner, CEO, leader. Okay? Because if you don't come in and do your fucking best, it hurts them and it hurts their fucking families. That's ethical entrepreneurship. Unethical entrepreneurship, which always fails, is people who come in and they say,

I'm not gonna do the bitch work. Yeah. I love it, man. I'll tell you what, dude, I fucking hate that. That pisses me off. I mean, I think, I mean- You don't fucking get it, bro. Yeah. Hey, but that's the thing, I fucking hate that that pisses me off. I mean, I think I mean, I'll fucking get it, bro Yeah, maybe that's the thing. I mean the the lack of perspective is the thing though, man You know, it's a hell of a power. It's a hell of a power man

You know how bad that hurts people to fucking that they look man You got to build people you go to my Instagram profile. It says very simply builder of people and companies Okay, it says people first for a reason You got to build people you think people want to come to work for you because they know that you think what they do is bullshit bro That's fucking bullshit. Wow, man It's wild. I hope listen. I hope he hope he takes it and fucking makes that adjustment well he either will or he won't if he doesn't he'll fucking lose

yeah man I love it guys Andy question number three all right little bit more more personal development on this for a young gun okay good morning I really need your guidance my son goes to a st. Louis area high school. He's a junior and he's been playing football for eight years. His freshman year he played on the junior varsity team. His sophomore year he played on the junior varsity and varsity teams and was told he couldn't start varsity because he was a sophomore and the upperclassmen started, which is fair. This year he hasn't played at all and they have been putting a sophomore in his place at center. I found out through a little sleuthing that the sophomore's father went to the same school,

knows the coaches, has a lot of money. Let me give you a little bit more background on my son so you don't think the other kid is just better and I'm just a big whiner. My son is 16. He did 75 hard, the 75 heart program over the summer He went to all the summer practices camps worked out at the school with the team went to work at Home Depot And after work, he ran up to edge fitness and worked out and then ran home He also went to some college camps and hopes of scholarships started his own Twitter account for Scouts He's lost 50 pounds reading books whatever whatever had to happen he did it. At the beginning of the school year he planned on being a team leader. Now he doesn't care and wants to quit all of his sports including football, wrestling, and throwing. My son's

father's alive but absent. I was taught to never question coaches and I don't know what to do. Please help. Thanks. Thank you for your time, a loyal listener. I feel like there's a hell of a opportunity here. Well, what do you think? I mean, this is a make or break opportunity for that kid, depending on what he decides to do. Well, I mean, if he quits here, he's gonna quit everything hard in life. Okay, so that's the first thing you gotta understand.

And you should probably communicate that to him. And if not, let him listen to this if you quit now you're gonna fucking be a loser your entire life that's it we don't get what we always want and to get what we always want we have to be so much better than it's unquestionable and I can tell you for a fact not knowing the circumstances that is not the case because if you were unquestionably that much better than that southmore in front of you I mean dominant You would be playing

Okay, so let's this is called real af. This isn't called feel good af You're not good enough Okay, because you got to be so good that you got to be able to outpace the people with the relationships And the connections and the politics and the money because you know what? When you go out in the real world, you're gonna face that same shit You think that doesn't exist in the real world You think it doesn't exist that people have connections or have you know some sort of backdoor deal or that's all real shit, bro And you're getting your first taste of it here as a young man, which is actually a blessing in disguise. So

My advice would that would be this if you quit you're gonna quit everything hard in your life And that's a big fucking problem for you because I could promise you and this is coming from someone who played sports at a high level It gets a lot harder a lot harder. All right, so take that for what it's worth If you were my son, I wouldn't let you quit a lot harder. All right, so take that for what it's worth. If you were my son, I wouldn't let you quit, okay? My dad, I tried to quit when I was fucking in high school because I didn't like the shit that my coach did. You know what my dad said?

You ain't fucking quitting. That's it. Drove you to the practices of self. So, you know, and I was lucky enough to have a dad that pushed me like that. And you know, my dad would probably, nowadays, if his parenting was broadcast all over the internet, he'd probably be in jail. But the truth of the matter is, I'm very thankful for it. And I think there's a lot of bad parenting

strategies out there because of the feel good, do gooders, you know, and the participation trophy culture, which doesn't sound like that's the case here. But we have a lot of parents that just don't push their kids in anything. And then they act surprised when they don't do well in life. To do well in life, you have to be good. And you're learning a lesson here. You can't be as good. You have to be better. And you have to be so much better that it doesn't matter if that fucking kid's dad was building a whole entire new school out of his own pocket. You got to be better than that kid and play where everybody in the crowd knows that if he plays that kid, was building a whole entire new school out of his own pocket, you got to be better than that kid and play where everybody in the crowd knows that if he plays that kid, it's only

because of that. And you're not that good because if they did, they will play you. All right. Get back to fucking work, bro. You know, it sounds like you got a really good momentum. It sounds like you're doing 75 hard. You lost 50 pounds. You made a lot of progress, dude.

I know you're frustrated because of this going on and that's that's aggravating. I don't get everything I want in fact right before this fucking podcast I had to tell these guys that I wasn't getting something that we plan on getting did I not? Okay, so I'm fucking grown man. That shit still happens and I have all the connections Okay, it's gonna happen to you, too. So how are you gonna respond? Are you gonna respond by saying? Poor little me he gets the advantage because his dad's big shot You'll be saying that same shit at your job and fucking ten years. You'd be saying oh he got the promotion because You know, he sucked the owners. We we you know, I'm saying like you'll make up some bullshit and dude

That's what and then your life your life You'll be 50 years old and you'll be a loser and that'll be that and I don't think that's what you want, bro You're 15 16 years old. You're putting in all this work. Don't fucking quit get better Those are the two things that you need to do and if you don't get better than that kid because dude Sometimes you can't be better than people. So like if I was playing basketball against fucking LeBron James, it doesn't matter how much work I do or how much I put into it

because he's still gonna be better. LeBron James. Yeah, so we gotta be, and this is a good lesson for people, we gotta be real about our strengths and weaknesses so that we can produce the result that we're looking after. And yes, there's a lot of truth to you can do anything you want, but there's also limits to that too. Okay. In the real world. Yes. And, and, but they're not as bad as you think there are limits based upon like physical ability, right? Like in sports, like

bro, if you run a fucking 5 to 40 you probably playing fun college football you know unless you're 400 fucking pounds you know I'm saying if you can't dunk a basketball you know you probably ain't playing in the NBA right you know there's limits and the good thing is is that in the business world and in the life world there's far less limits than in the sports world So you're dealing with a very harsh Reality possibly now it could be possible too that you're just a young man And you haven't developed enough and you're just kind of getting your athletics going on because you're making all this progress And you could come back next year and be fucking dominant

I promise you this if that kid knows he's gonna start over you next year, and you're fucking hungry He ain't gonna work as hard as you're willing to work. He's chilling. Yeah, so what if you come in next year, the season's over already, what if you come in next year and you fucking crush? That would be my advice, okay? And dude, you're wanting to play college ball, you're wanting to go past that, that's not too late, your dreams are not crushed, you're frustrated.

And if we give up when we're frustrated, bro, we can't win. Okay. A lot of winning has to do with us not quitting when everybody else quits. That's really it. It's a game of longevity. It's a game of dedication and commitment and perseverance and grit and fortitude, which dude, you've already realized doing 75 hard. Okay. So stop feeling sorry for yourself get your fucking ass in the weight room get yourself eating the right food take it real fucking serious and come out next fall and smash fucking skulls bro that's what you should do okay and take this as a real-life lesson brother okay you it's not always gonna be fair it's not fucking fit It's hardly ever fair, but you know how you overcome unfairness by being so much better than nobody can question it

That's how you overcome it and and for all of us for most of us who come from the real world We have to be that good to succeed bro Because it just ain't fair people with connections people with money people with politics people those people are gonna get the opportunities Before people like us that come from regular world Okay, so how do we overcome that we overcome that by being fucking great? So you got to go be great and you got to put in more work than I know you think you did a lot But you got to put in more than that and this goes back to the question I said just before this what people think it takes and what it actually takes is it's completely two different things and while you've made good progress man we got more to go

so let's get to what fucking works stop feeling sorry for ourselves I fucking love it man I love it guys Andy that's a Monday man yeah all right guys look let's go out let's kick some ass we'll see you guys tomorrow.