REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 829. Q&AF: Is It “Too Late” To Start, Taking Constructive Criticism & When Does It Get Easier?
Episode Date: January 20, 2025On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what to do when you feel it’s “too late” to start something new in your professional life, how to develop a habit to receive constructive criti...cism well and not let it affect you, and what’s the real answer to the question “does it get easier?” when working on leveling up in life and business.
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Shut the shop. All right. What's up, dude? What's going on, man? I feel like times moving quick
We're already halfway through the first month of the year, bro. I feel like the opposite
I feel like January is like dragging on dude really. Yeah, it's not so weird
I mean is that the whole times relative thing man? I don't know. I feel like it's speeding past like we're already almost done with this month, it's not so weird. I mean is that the whole times relative thing man. I don't know I feel like it's speeding past like we're already almost done with this month. It's crazy. I
Don't know man. I feel the opposite
Hmm that went down the wrong pipe there. Yeah
Got got in there my vocals. Yeah, you gotta be careful with that. I know yeah, I don't got all that practice you got
Yeah, all right. Oh, I need you. I need you to school me up a little bit. Yeah, how to do it
I mean fuck dude can't be an expert at everything
Listen, are you get with me out there and we can figure something out. I'm sure
Hey, did you guys ever find that that new co-host application?
Did you guys ever get on that? So do you wanted to learn? I'll teach you. Oh
Did you guys ever get on that you said you wanted to learn I'll teach you
um No, I was just thinking I mean because we you know halfway through the first month
January is always an interesting time for a lot of people and so I got some really awesome questions for you
Um, but they're all kind of just focused on
You know
The the more personal side, you know, because people are battling some issues going halfway through it's always right around this time
I guess yeah
Um, I mean this is the time of year where everybody says the same shit, bro.
This is going to be the year I'm going to change my life.
I'm going to do this.
I'm going to do that.
I'm going to do this.
And by the second week in, third week in, which is where we are now, everybody gives
the fuck up.
Okay.
And then they wonder, they spend the rest of the year miserable because they weren't able to get their shit together.
They live a life they don't want.
They look the way they don't want.
They make the money they don't want.
And then they think they just got screwed by the world.
No, bro, you screwed yourself.
Yeah.
That's the reality.
Halfway through the first month,
they're like, all right, we'll just try it next year.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, it's like people who on their diet, you know,
they mess up on Tuesday and they're like,
oh, I'm gonna start again on Monday
right and
Between Tuesday and Monday they stuff themselves because they're like, oh, I'm gonna start Monday
And then Monday comes and they mess up on the next Wednesday
Then they stuff themselves and then they end up a hundred pounds overweight
Ask me how I know that because I lived that for a long time, dude
And if we could just get people to understand that if we fix your ability to adhere to a program
You can do anything you want. That's the ultimate problem here. The ultimate problem is you don't
Know how to do things when you don't feel like doing them and when you can fix that
You can fix everything. Yeah, man
Um, well, let's do it then.
Let's get into some real hard truths
that need to be discussed.
A lot of people going through some different things.
So let's get into these questions, guys.
Andy, question number one.
Andy, I've been working in hospitality for over a decade.
I'm burned out and ready for a change.
I've always been interested in graphic design
and even took some courses online during the pandemic,
but I have no formal experience in the field.
At 38, I feel like it's too late to start over,
especially with financial pressures.
How do I pivot into a completely new career
without starting from scratch or risking my
stability?
Well, look, dude, that's, that's a common thing that a lot of people have to deal with
over a few different times in their life.
Usually, the first thing I would like to say to you is, are you sure that's what you want
to do?
Because a lot of times, you know, things look good and shiny and new over here and we're bored with what it is
that we're doing.
And then we jumped from something that we're pretty good at to something we don't
know anything about. And we set ourselves back years. Okay.
So you don't want to do that.
So you want to make sure that is something that you want to do. Now,
if you're already doing it and you're already taking classes and you're already
practicing a good way to transition from
Where you are that has stability into a new field that does not have stability yet is to do it a little bit at
A time okay
Keep your career where it is and then on your nights and your weekends and your free time
where it is and then on your nights and your weekends and your free time you start doing little jobs and little projects and
little bit work for hire for different people getting experience getting a resume getting good word-of-mouth
Recommendations, okay and by the way getting practice of how to actually service a customer not just
Make the design but how to do so in a way that blows them
away and makes them excited and makes them want to refer you to other people
because let's face it if you can't get referrals from the business that you
have you're probably not very good at what you do and if you can't get those
referrals you're gonna have a hard time getting to a place of stability you know
from where you are now. So, pivot a little
bit at a time, nights, weekends, free time, do these projects, and as the income starts
to grow over here, you could start to reduce your amount over at your career, and then
eventually make the jump over. Another thing that you should do during this time is you
should minimize expenses. If you need to downsize your apartment or your house, you know, or your car, things
that are quote unquote luxuries for you right now. And I realize you probably aren't driving
a Rolls Royce and you know, you're probably like, well, I'm just driving a regular. Well,
you know what, man, maybe you got to get a shit of your car. Maybe you got to get a shit
of your house. How bad do you want this new life?
How bad do you want this new career and the reality of you know?
Most people is they won't take a step back to take three or four ten steps forward, right?
They want to keep that big car payment
They want to keep that apartment or that house that they're comfortable in and they want it all but you can't have it all so
Keep the career you have part
time over here practice get good word-of-mouth get a good resume build a
good portfolio slowly switch over and before you do any of that lower all the
expenses that you have yeah people don't want to sleep sleep on a piss-stained
match yeah bro and that's part of the deal part of the deal is you got to go
through that time you're not gonna be the first person in And that's part of the deal. Part of the deal is you got to go through that time. You're not going to be the first person in history that's going to get where they
want to go without facing the adversity of struggling financially, struggling socially,
struggling with balance. Right? We have this problem in society where everybody wants everything,
but they don't want to pay a price for anything. Okay. And the great things in life, they take steps back to make steps
forward. Okay. That's the reality. So we have to understand, dude,
if you really want what you say you want,
you're going to have to make some sacrifices that are actually investments
because there is a payoff on the backside.
And I think if people reframe that perspective
from, oh, I'm making all these sacrifices to no, I'm making investments because these are all going
to pay off long term. That's a different game. It's easier to get up and go to battle when you know
that what you're struggling with right now is going to have a payoff. And that's the way the
world works, dude. You know, if you own a business, you know, you're going to push a payoff and that's the way the world works dude. You know if you own a business
you know you're going to push for three or four years before you get real progress and then once
you get real progress you're going to have a ride for three or four years and then you know you're
going to have to repivot and you're going to have to readjust and re-acclimate and make a new plan
and then push for another three years. It's phases dude and it And it's phases in your life too. Just not
in business. It's in your life. If you want to change, you're going to have to push and
there's going to be a delayed gratification timeframe where you're showing up, you're
working hard, you're giving everything you have, but nothing's happening. And that time
can be extremely frustrating. And the reason that most people can't win is because they
can't make it
through that time of frustration to get to the other side. There's a reason that there's the
saying it's always darkest before the dawn. Okay, because dude, when you feel like you're going to
quit and you feel like things aren't going to work, if you just keep pushing, that's when the
things tend to work out. Another thing too I want to up, and you hit on this about using the spare time
to develop yourself.
And I've actually seen this in play
with you and how you run your companies.
You tell your employees that all the time.
You're not gonna get better at the nine to five.
That's right.
You know what I'm saying?
Let's go a little bit more deeper into that.
What's the hang up with that?
Why do people not understand because that concept because people think that their free time is their free time
they think that when I'm off work, I don't have to work and
when
Bro honestly, it's such an amateur misunderstanding. It almost fucking pisses me off actually does piss me off
I mean it ruins people
No, dude, a hundred percent. You only have so much time, bro
You got 24 hours in a day just like everybody else when you go to work. You're expected to execute on a job
you're not expected to increase your skill set or get a lot of practice reps or
Take your courses or your breeze your books. That is the shit you do at home
or take your courses or your breeze your books. That is the shit you do at home.
Okay, you do that in your free time,
quote unquote free time.
And you could spend your free time,
you know, partying with your homies and doing all the shit,
but you can't expect your skills to grow
if you're not actually actively trying to grow your skills.
And guess what?
Skills pay the motherfucking bills.
And if you don't have them, you're gonna be broke.
That's reality.
So you have to decide how important is it to you?
Is it important enough for you to skip out on beers with the bros and fucking movie night with you know?
Suzy rotten crotch, you know I'm saying like some chick you don't even want to fucking be with
You know or spend time around is your future worth that? I think it is
You know what I'm saying?
I think you'll think it is too.
When you're making 10 times the income that you're making now and your life's
together and you're, you live in a nice house.
You've got a nice partner that is actually someone that, you know,
is on the level you want. You got some nice cars. You're doing well.
You're going to say, fuck dude, I'm glad I did that.
But because you can't see it right now, you see it as this big sacrifice. Oh man, I gotta go hang out with the bros on guys night, bro. Fuck that. But because you can't see it right now, you see it as this big sacrifice. Oh man,
I gotta go hang out with the bros on guys night, bro. Fuck that. Okay. They're all going
to be broken fucking 10 years and you don't want to be. So your time should be spent improving
skillset like dude, I disappeared for 15 years, disappeared from social scene for 15 fucking years. You know why? Cause I had
to get my skills set up. I didn't know how to run a company. So you know what I had to
do? I had to do everything I could to learn how, right? And that's not just me showing
up every day and throwing fucking spaghetti at the wall and hoping some of it sticks,
bro. That's me going home, reading books, uh, you know, studying other entrepreneurs, calling other people that own businesses, having meetings, reading books, you know studying other entrepreneurs
Calling other people that own businesses having meetings learning things, you know back when I was doing this there wasn't like this big quote-unquote
mentorship online which by the way is
99% useless anyway, because all these motherfuckers haven't done anything
But there wasn't guys like me or at my let who have built big-ass companies
Doing things like our taste syndicate where you could get in there. There wasn't people like
me doing MFCEO project, which launches in two weeks again, right? That shit didn't exist.
There was books and then there was, you know, who you knew and how could you have a meeting
with them? How could you get close to them? And like, dude, I had a bunch of small business
owners that I happened to meet and know, and I would do lunch with them or I would fucking try to,
you know, be around them as much as possible instead of hanging out with a bunch of dudes
who just want to get fucked up at the bar. And by the way, I like that. That was fun. But
it's way more fun now when I can do whatever the fuck I want right right so you have to understand dude that time that you think
You know is
People have this entitled mentality bro. Oh, that's my time. That's my oh yeah, okay it is
Are you working to get better?
Are you are you gonna work to get better so you could provide for your family so you can provide for yourself?
Or are you gonna fucking sit on your fat ass and fucking watch TV?
Right. It is your time and you get to choose what to do with it. So that's real
Yeah, and you get you get what you put in dude. It's just what it is
And people don't think that they have this way of selling them
Selling themselves on a story that like oh well that you know
I'm gonna put in all this work and I'm going to do all these things and I'm
going to do, and it's still not going to work out.
And that's what they sell themselves on so that they can go have the beers or go
fuck off with the guys, you know? And, uh, it's just not true, dude.
That's the thing I want to hit on with this question too. Uh, this,
this person is 38 years old. Can we talk about this concept of starting too late?
Is it too late?
Is there like a definite no, it's not too late, bro
But it's too late if you're gonna be doing the way you've been doing it. Okay, if you're gonna fucking
You know fuck off and do half-ass work and you know
Kind of float and hope that it's gonna work a shit and do what you've done to get to 38 and be unhappy
Yeah, it's too late. Okay. If you're going to change your entire
operating system and get disciplined and execute and take your time serious and win every motherfucking day and build your skill set.
No, it's not too late. But had you been doing this until you were 38, you'd already be a rich motherfucker.
So I know you're not doing it now. So if you approach the new thing,
like you did the old thing, yeah, it's too late. But it's not too late if you decide
to change every way you go about it. I love it, man. Yeah, I love it. Guys, any question
number two, Andy, I recently got some feedback at work that I came across as defensive during a team meeting.
I didn't realize how much criticism bothers me until I started reflecting on it.
I want to learn to accept constructive feedback without taking it personally,
but it's hard to not feel attacked. How can I shift my mindset and see criticism as an opportunity
to grow? Do you want to get better or not?
You want to make more money or not?
You want to have a nice house or not?
You want to have a nice life or not?
If you don't, get your little pussy hurt about every time someone says something to you.
Pout, cry, don't listen, think you're right, think you know everything, and then make it
a big deal every time someone criticizes you. If you actually want those things you should be open to
critiques and you should be willing to take them and say okay that is true I
need to work on this I need to improve here and that will and then be thankful
for it okay it's a totally polar opposite attitude we have people who get
their fucking feelings hurt and cry and moan and make
excuses and say, Oh, well, you know, they're not right. I'm right.
Those people end up broke. Okay.
People who end up not broke are people who take criticisms and take critiques,
even if they're directed at a personal level and say, yeah, dude, all right,
I got that. Okay.
So the more that you can take critique wise and accept and be happy that
you have it, the better you're going to get, the less you can take, the worse you're going
to get. And one of them pays well and one of them does not. So do you want to be rich?
Do you want to make money? Do you want to be successful? Do you want to be a broke little fucking booger? I
Think you know some is it true?
I think that like that the part where you said is it true though?
Like is the criticism true? Yeah, well a lot of time dude
It just depends a lot of times people can't remove their ego out of the way to accept something as truth. Yeah, right
That's the point like people will be like, oh, that's not fucking
true. Yeah. Right. Well, maybe it's not, but is it? Right. Right. Like I don't think you
take everybody's criticism. Like dude, when these morons on the internet say shit about
me, I don't give a fuck. Like bro, I don't want your life. I don't want to look like
you. I don't want to make the money you're making. I don't want your fucking any. I don't
want to drive your car. I don't want to live in your fucking house. So why
the fuck do I give a shit what you have to say about me? Right? But if someone who is
successful says, Hey, you should work on this. I'm going to stop it. I'm going to say, Hmm.
And I'm going to think back and I'm going to audit all those situations moving up to
this point in time and be like, you know, is that true?
And then kind of work through these different scenarios and say, yeah, I did that there.
I did this here.
That is something I could work on.
That is something I could get better at.
And then, and then look at the person and be like, bro, thank you for pointing that
out.
When you become a mature, uh, you know, man or woman and you're seriously driven to be better, you're
going to understand that criticism and coaching is part of the thing that you
need to be thankful for. But as you pointed out,
you got to be careful who you take it from.
And I wouldn't take it from anybody that doesn't have a life that you fucking
want unless it's someone who used to have a life that you want that no longer
has it because they can tell you how to, unless it's someone who used to have a life that you want that no longer has it, because they can tell you
how to avoid losing it.
It almost makes me think too, because on the other hand,
you have people that will not tell you what's wrong,
or not tell you the truth, and tell you everything's okay.
You have people who will tell you shit,
that's not even it, DJ.
You have people that will tell you shit that's not not even it, DJ. You have people that will tell you shit
that's not true, try to fuck you up.
You don't even understand how fucking dirty people are.
Girls are like that.
Girls will fuck you.
You look fine.
Oh yeah.
Girls will do that to each other all the time.
We all know it.
They'll tell them, how's this look?
Oh, that looks great, knowing that it doesn't look good.
Now imagine in business when you're competing with a bunch of people,
you don't think that happens.
So you're going to have a lot of people that are going to tell you things that
aren't true to get in your head and try to fuck you up.
So you got to be real good about who you listen to and who you don't.
And you got to learn how to tune certain things out.
And if they aren't where you want to be,
they don't make the money you want to make.
They don't have the life you want to live.
You shouldn't fucking listen to them. And if they do give you a
critique and you're not sure you should dig in and see, Hey, what did this person do?
What have they built? Where is their headquarters? Where are their employees? How? What have
they done to get to this point where they think they can give me advice? I mean, the
reality is, dude, most people have no idea and they're so comfortable giving advice on
fucking anything. Any of you guys who have ever had kids know how much people want to give
advice on the fucking kids.
And then you look at their kids and their kids are little fucking shit bags,
right? Yeah. Like their kids are running around like wild fucking animals and
they're giving you advice. That's,
that's the same shit that happens in business, bro.
People are $5 away from being broke
But they're giving you financial advice. They've never run a lemonade stand, but they're telling you how to run your company, right?
This is the shit that people do they want to fucking feel good
They they think they know shit that they don't and most people are you know, they're they have an inflated ego
They think they're they're more important than they actually are.
I was gonna ask you that.
It's the same thing with not taking criticism.
It sounds like it's boiling down to just being an ego issue.
Oh yeah. Yeah.
Both sides. Yeah.
Yeah, I mean, bro, your ego can be too big
to where you ignore good criticism.
It can be too beat down to where you take all the criticism
and then you have no direction on where you're going
So you got to find a balance in there
You got to know what you know
you got to know what you don't know you got to know who you should listen to and you got to know who you
Should listen to and these are things that you have to figure out and if you don't figure them out
You're gonna be confused and when you're confused it makes it hard to effectively operate your life and your
Project of income or business or job or
whatever you got going on. Yeah I love it man. Well guys we got we got question
number three got one more for you. This is an interesting question let's check
this one out. Guys Andy question number three. Andy I'm 27 years old and my
question is very simple.
Does it get easier?
I understand that it's life, right?
You get the crap beat out of you a few times, but does it get easier?
And if it does then win and if it does it how do so many people make it look easy?
I appreciate everything you do.
No, it doesn't get easier.
In fact, it gets harder, okay?
And I know that's hard for people to understand,
but when you start in the beginning,
the decisions you make,
while they have perceived large consequences,
what's the worst that could happen?
You fuck up your shit and you're back to zero
where you were last week, okay?
When you actually are at a higher level, you're making decisions that don't just benefit you
or affect you, but you're making decisions that affect everybody.
Right now in my life, if I make a decision in business, there's thousands of people that
have to deal with that decision.
Twenty years ago, when I made that same decision, it was six people.
Right. Okay. So it was six people. Right.
Okay?
So it's totally different.
It does not get quote unquote easier.
It just gets different.
Alright?
You don't have the same struggles that you had when you have some money as when you didn't
have money, but you got different ones.
Alright?
And like people say, oh, more money, more problems.
No, it's more money different problems
Okay, because I don't have to worry about me going out to dinner and paying the bill, right or like sweating that like fuck
Dude, I hope she doesn't order that right like
But nothing to you. So 100% Oh fuck. Yeah, bro. You think I don't remember that
I fucking remember being on dates and sweating my balls off hoping that she didn't order the fucking steak. I'll just take a water
Yeah, bro, like bro. We've all been there. So
So we have to get
To an understanding that it's not going to get easier
You have to get stronger and that is why the live hard program is so successful
It's why 75 heart is so successful. Because it takes
people who are mentally soft and it shows them that if they could control their internal dialogue,
which they can, and they can execute when they don't feel like it, you become in control of
almost all the outcomes in your life. Most people can only execute when they feel good.
If you could be someone who can execute whether you feel good or whether you feel
like shit and you could execute at a high level,
that means that the 30% of the time where they feel good and the
66.666% of the time where they feel like shit and they're not executing,
you have a 66% advantage over the time that you feel like shit and they're not executing, you have a 66%
advantage over the time that you're executing that they don't, which means you're doing
two thirds more work than what they're doing. Okay. It's fucking math. So you have to train
yourself to become someone who is resilient, who has fortitude, who has grit, who could
persevere, who could pay attention
to their boss voice, not their bitch voice, and can execute against the things that they
know are going to move them where they want to go, even when they don't feel like it.
And if you can do that, it will become quote unquote, easier. You will perceive it to be
easier. It will not be easier. You will be stronger. Okay?
But that's the only thing you can do because you can't go write a letter to God and say hey, man
Pretty fucking hard down here. Take it easy. Yeah
Hey, I'd appreciate it made easier for me. That doesn't work
Okay, but what does work is learning how to control the decisions that you make a hundred percent of the time
Which give you control of most of the outcomes in your life?
That is what makes it feel easier. All right
but no, dude, if you continue to operate the same way you're operating and you continue to
You know just hope that it's gonna get easier. It fucking doesn't it does not get easier
I remember having a conversation with a guy who was sort of a mentor to me one time
And I met him for lunch dude, and this guy was at the time. He was a big fucking deal
And I remember sitting we we we had lunch we were sitting at a bar and we were just talking and I
I looked at him and I said hey, dude
You know
Because at that time in business
Every day that the end of day numbers and the performance came in it
I let it affect me in a big way. So like I would get my numbers at
Ten o'clock at night and if they were bad, I couldn't fucking sleep if they were good
I couldn't sleep cuz they were good, right? Like so so every day
I was looking at this performance and it was driving me fucking crazy and I was about ten years in the business here and I
Fucking looked at him and I say bro
When does that stop and he goes dude, it doesn't stop. He's like he laughed. He laughed at me
He goes it never stops and he's right and never does stop and it's't stop. He's like, he laughed. He laughed at me. He goes, it never stops.
And he's right. It never does stop. And it's never stopped. That was, I don't know, 15 years ago,
16 years ago, it's never stopped. I still, I'm still the same way. Um, but I don't have the
emotional ups and downs anymore because I've learned to be confident in my actions. And I know
that I'm executing on a daily, daily basis. So if I'm executing on a daily basis and I've learned to be confident in my actions and I know that I'm executing on a daily basis.
So if I'm executing on a daily basis and I've been doing it long enough to know that that's what
produces the results, then I have confidence in my actions that they're going to bear fruit in the
direction that I want to go. And that takes away the uncertainty, that takes away the fear that takes away the, uh,
you know, the perception of hardness,
and it just becomes what you do every day.
So it's all about controlling your own ability to make decisions,
the decisions that you know you need to make, and then
allowing yourself to build confidence in the fact that your inputs are going to
equal outputs and then putting all the inputs in consistently and then understanding that it really doesn't matter what happened today because, uh,
what I did today isn't going to bear fruit for 30, 60, 90 days down the road.
Does that make sense? So, so now I know that I'm planting the seeds.
I know there's going to be a harvest So I'm not fucking freaking the fuck out
and it doesn't feel as hard.
Does that make sense?
All you can do is what the fuck you can do, bro.
And if you can do the things you know you need to do
and you could do them every day,
eventually you will be in a place where you understand
that those seeds are going to bear fruit.
Okay, you ever heard of the Chinese bamboo tree Chinese bamboo tree
you plant the fucker in the ground, okay and
For five years it stays in the ground
For five years doesn't show any sprouting doesn't show any signs of life now
If the farmer goes out and fucking digs up the seed in three days because it didn't grow
What's gonna happen?
Nothing ever gonna grow right?
So you have to have it has to have water
It has to have care it can't be disturbed and then five years later it grows to a height of 80 feet in like six weeks
Okay, so that is how your career will work. That is how projects work. When you plant the seed, you have to water it. You can't disturb it.
You have to keep doing it, making sure you're taking care of it.
And eventually it goes real fast. That's, that's how your life's going to work.
That's how your business is going to work. It's like, uh,
it's just a masterclass in delayed gratification.
And most people can't push through the delay part to ever get to the gratification
They've never they've never been able to learn how it actually works
So if they don't know how it works
You know when the time feels like it's too long or it's taken too long they quit and they start over dude
And this is why most people you know, they do something for two three four years and then, and then they switch their careers completely. And they're like, Oh, that wasn't for me. I didn't like it. When
dude, real talk, they were probably on the verge of having a major breakthrough. You're
two weeks away from it. Correct. And so dude, you have this two to four year cycle where
people work and then they get frustrated and then they, and then they quit and they change.
All right. And now they're starting over from zero again
So now you've got another two to four years to learn the craft put in the work put in the time
Become discipline become a and then you get there and then they start over again. You do that three times. That's 12 fucking years
You see what I'm saying? They do foot fucking bamboo tree by now three of them, right? You know I'm saying? I have the 80 foot fucking bamboo tree by now. Three of them. Right.
You know what I'm saying?
Like dude, it is a, it is a, the instant gratification that we deal with in society is super damaging,
right?
People get on the internet, especially with young people, they get on the internet, they
could talk to their friends across the world with the click of a button.
They can order food and it's there in 10 minutes.
They could throw shit in a microwave and it's, it's cooked in three minutes.
Everything they want to do movies on demand, fucking call it.
It hasn't always been that way. It's not always been that way in culture and life.
Like you weren't, you know, dude,
I grew up in a time where you couldn't talk to your friends across the world with
the click of a button, bro. I mean, in a time where you couldn't talk to your friends across the world with the click of a fucking button, bro
I mean it wasn't that long ago. Okay
You weren't connected when you left the house, all right, there was a bunch of cultural differences
That you know, there was no grub hub. There was no instant food, bro
I remember when they started listen, dude, I can remember when pizza delivery started
It became that started. Listen, dude, I can remember when pizza delivery started.
It became that started. Yes. Because bro, it wasn't a big thing. And then all of a sudden,
dude, you could get a pizza at your house. Yeah. Like do people that are young have no
idea how much the world's changed in such a short amount of time. And because the world
has changed to all these instant things, people have lost their ability to persevere. They
have lost their ability to bevere. They have lost their
ability to be patient. They've lost their ability to push through. And because the natural
environment that we live in doesn't lend itself to learning patience or learning how to persevere,
we have to put ourselves in intentionally hard situations that force us to experience delayed gratification, which is another thing
Live Hard does and 75 Hard does. It's a fucking necessary boot camp for people to understand
how to develop the qualities that end up making them successful at anything that they do.
Okay. But you can't expect young kids who have never had to exercise patience of
any sort to understand patients. Right. And that's a big problem because to become successful,
it's going to take patience. That's the one thing that hasn't changed. So everything else
has changed. Everything's more convenient. Everything's faster. Everything's instant. But your career and your business didn't change that way.
You've still got to show up way past the time where you're,
you know, excited about it and you've got to execute for the results to happen.
And that's reality, dude. And unfortunately, you know,
most people that are listening to this are between the ages of 18 and
35. And, um,
most of those people haven't had a life that made them, uh,
learn these skills naturally. Okay.
And that's why you have to intentionally do them.
That's why we have the book on mental toughness.
That's why the live hard program exists.
I built it for you guys so that you guys could train yourselves to have these skills and
these qualities that are going to make you successful long term.
Last thing I want to hit on, man, maybe this might be for another episode.
No, but this last piece of the question too, I was just sitting here thinking is like,
why do so many people make it look easy?
That's the other part too, with the social media shit, man, is you got to keep in mind people you're seeing what people want you to see correct and there's really
When you deal with influencers on social media, bro, like you gotta understand when you tell someone man
This is easy. They're more likely to buy it. Okay
When you tell someone hey, listen, dude, there is no fucking easy way. This is gonna take everything you fucking have
Do you think they want to buy that?
I go somewhere else. It's hard to fucking sell that. Yeah, okay, and then on top of it
Social media in general is an egotistical platform. All right now I I
Understand we all have to do it. We all have to put ourselves out there
We all have to toot our own horn because if we don't toot our own horn, nobody's gonna toot it for us
So I understand we've got to step out. We've got to be you know a little bold but
At its heart. It's a narcissistic egotistical platform. It's a look at me. Look at me. Look at me, right?
It is what it is. It's necessary for at me, look at me, look at me, right? It is what it is.
It's necessary for business at this point in time for most people. All right, so I'm
not knocking it. I mean, if you're going to have them look at you, you might as well be
a rock star. I'm just saying. But there's a problem with that, especially when it comes
to entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs are competitive people. Entrepreneurs like to tell other entrepreneurs
how good they are and they like to pretend like the hardest things are actually easy
for them. And the problem with that is, is that you put this out there because you want
to seem like you've got it all figured out and it's so easy for you and you have all
these natural skills and you're better than all the other entrepreneurs out there. But here's the problem, bro. That young kid who's 19, 20, 21, 22, 25, that guy's looking at
you and it's hard as fuck for him. And he's like, fuck, it must be me. It must be me.
This messed up because this is easy. And it's, and so like, dude, I've never, I've never
bought into that. I've always tried to tell people like, look, dude, this is the hardest thing you're going
to ever do.
It's going to take everything you got.
It's going to cost you your old life, a hundred percent, all your old friends, all your old
relationships, but it's going to be worth it over time because everything else that
comes in your life is going to serve the vision and the goal of what you're trying to become.
So it's a good thing. it's just hard to go through.
And because we have so many, even real entrepreneurs,
we have some good, real entrepreneurs
that make it seem like they're better than they are.
And I know these motherfuckers in real life.
Like these guys will call me and they'll be like,
fuck dude, what are you, and they're stressing out, right?
But you go on the internet
and I'm talking about the biggest names out there, dude.
And you go on the internet and they're like,
oh yeah, just do this and that and this, this is easy.
Blah, blah, blah.
Bro, it's not easy.
It's hard as fuck.
And we don't do anybody any favors
by making it seem easy just to appease our ego
so that we can look like we're better than the next guy.
You know what makes us look better than the next guy winning bigger than the next guy
You know what also makes us look better than the next guy
Creating as much success as we possibly can and the way that we create as much success as we possibly can for other people's by
Telling them the truth about how fucking hard it actually is and then preparing them to go down that road
Okay, instead of just saying oh man, what's wrong with you?
You can't make you can't make 50 grand fucking day, you know, like, you know I'm saying like you can't you can't do that. So
It's not a real
It's not a real
I don't know. It's I don't know how to say what I'm trying to say
We have a culturally fucked up society because of the environment
and the technology that we have available to us to where they have a hard
time understanding that things that matter are still very
hard and take a lot of time.
And that's the biggest handicap that we have with young people and so I've always tried and you can go back
and check my receipts I've always tried to tell people man like I'm pretty good
at what I do I'm real good at what I do okay I'm not gonna sit here and fucking
play it down I'm fucking one of the best in the world and what the fuck I do and
it's hard as fuck for me it's hard as fuck for me so I's hard as fuck for me. So I know it's hard for you. Okay. So here's my advice.
Get better, get stronger, build more skills, build discipline. Once you have the ability to
have discipline and you can adhere to any plan that is laid out before you, there's nothing you
can't do. Okay. So that's my advice on that. I love it, man. Yeah, I love it guys. Andy, that's three hell of a way to start a Monday.
Yeah, guys, let's go out there.
Big week this week.
Culture's gonna change.
Wind is coming back.
Let's get out there and kick some ass.
Yeah, went from sleeping on the floor.
Now my jewelry box froze.
Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove.
Count it millions in the cold.
Bad bitch, booted, swole.
Got her on bankroll
Can't fold, dust her, no Headshot, case closed