REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 89. Pixie Dust Leadership Debunked

Episode Date: December 7, 2020

Times are uncertain and the world is starving for new leaders. On today's episode, Andy talks about the two undisputed key factors everyone who wants to be successful needs to understand.

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Got more cars than diddy. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What's up, guys? It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, very short episode. I just got out of a company meeting that we do every Monday morning. And as I was sitting in the meeting,

I was coming up with some things that I wanted to say. And when it came my opportunity to speak at the meeting, I decided to not speak. And I decided to come right in here to the recording booth and record it because it's such an important point that everybody needs to hear it. So here's the thing, all right, as an entrepreneur and as someone who has built businesses, multiple businesses over the last, you know, two and a half decades, all right, I get the same question, whether it be from employees or whether it be from people that are interested in success or whether it be from, you know, really people online. It doesn't matter this outside of the question of how do I handle haters, which dude, if you can't handle fucking haters, you don't got it anyway. All right. You're never going to do

anything significant. If you can't deal with a little bit of pushback. You got to know what to care about and know what not to care about. All right. Now, outside of that question, the other question I get all the time is, how do I become a leader? More specifically, how do I become a better leader? Well, before you become a better leader, you have to become a leader. And it reminded me of something I posted in 2016 that I actually archived on my Instagram. I just went back and looked at it and read it. And I wanted to just put this out here for you guys, because I think understanding this realization will help you understand how to actually become a leader. And from that point, learn to become a great leader. All right. Because here's the thing, there's only two skills to fucking pay. All right. If you want to make more money and you want to be,

you know, successful and you want to achieve all your dreams and all the things that I know you guys want, you have to understand there's two fucking skills. One is leadership and the other is sales. If you don't have leadership skills and you don't have sales skills, your, your upward mobility is going to always be limited. Even if you could say, oh, well, what about a programmer? No, that's true. Programmers can do very well and that's a great thing, but eventually you're going to have to sell yourself or you're going to have to lead other programmers to build anything great. Okay. So trust me when I tell you that people who lead and people who sell are the people who do the best in life.

That's reality. Now, wherever you are in life and whatever you do, there's an opportunity for you to lead. And a lot of you guys struggle with leadership because we remember back in the day, you know, that one time in high school or that one time in seventh grade or when we were in grade school where we tried to step up and say, hey guys, come on. And everybody said, hey, fuck you, sit down. Okay. And we've all had that happen, but that doesn't stop people from leading. Okay. Because that doesn't happen in the real world. You guys are afraid of getting pushed back from the people that you are trying to lead.

And you think that they're not going to give you their consent to be their leader. And they probably won't. And that's the thing I want to talk give you their consent to be their leader. And they probably won't. And that's the thing I want to talk to you about today, all right? Look, nobody's going to come along and say, hey, Tony, you know what? You're ready to be a leader and we're going to follow you. So please go ahead and lead. That's not what's going to happen, all right? The thing I posted in 2016 said, isn't it weird that in order to fall asleep, you have to pretend to be asleep before you're actually asleep?

And that is so parallel with how leadership goes. Leadership is the only job in the world that nobody's going to come and anoint you the leader, and you're going to have to pretend to be the leader before you're actually seen as the leader. Okay. So this is the tip that I want you guys to understand. This is the thing that I want you to work on this week and next week and forever is realizing this. You lead by pretending to have the job of leader before you actually have it. Okay. That means standing up and holding high standards for the people around you. by pretending to have the job of leader before you actually have it.

That means standing up and holding high standards for the people around you. That means staying true to what you think is right. That means being willing to be the first person to take initiative to correct a problem or to say, hey guys, we got to be better here. Or we got to do this, or we've got to go there. Or just be the first person. Okay, and people will follow you if you do it consistently enough. You have to pretend to be the leader before you're actually the leader. And we see this all the time.

If you look at social media right now, there's tons of new leaders emerging. Okay, why is that? Because they have the courage to speak on what they believe and what they think is true, regardless if people are going to follow them or not. And by default, people will fall in line behind those kinds of messages. Doesn't matter if you're in the workplace. Doesn't matter if you're in politics. Doesn't matter at all.

Okay. When you start doing what other people inherently know and believe is the right thing to do, the good thing to do, you will start to become a leader. All right. The first time you go, it might just be you. The first 1000 times you go, it might just be you, but eventually someone else is going to join you and then another and then another. So understand this. And this is for all of you young entrepreneurs and people out there who are feeling all these feelings inside right now, who are scared to say them, who are scared to speak up, who are sort of thinking like, man, I wonder if I'm like qualified to do this.

Okay. Look around at some of the people that are leaders right now. You can't tell me you're not more qualified than them. Okay. We have the weakest leadership that we've ever had in this country and in society ever. The world is starving for leaders. Businesses are starving for leaders. Okay? If you can become a leader, families are starving for leaders. Okay? If you can become a leader, if you can stand for what you believe in and you are comfortable doing it alone, eventually you won't be doing it alone.

That's how leaders become leaders. So for all of you guys out there who are waiting around and waiting around for someone to come and tap you on the head with their, you know, fairy leadership pixie dust, remember, it's never going to happen. Okay? There's two skills you got to develop. One is leadership and two is the ability to sell. Some of you guys are great salespeople, but you lead for shit. Okay? Start pretending that you're a great leader before you're a great leader. Start behaving how great leaders behave.

Study great leaders. Okay? Everything you read should be about great leaders, okay? You should be absorbing everything, but understand that you can absorb all the information in the world about being a great leader. It's not going to make you one. What's going to make you one is behaving like these great leaders before you're actually a leader. And this is the biggest concept that you need to take in your life in terms of how to actually develop what it is you're trying to develop. All right, guys, that point was in my head this morning in our team meeting, but I just feel like it's so valuable. We needed to put it out here for you guys to hear. I hope you listen to this. I hope you take the time to really comprehend it. And I

hope that you have the courage to execute against it because if you do, your life will change. Your family's life will change. Your network's life will change. And at the end of your life, you'll look back and you'll say, I am damn proud of the way I lived and the changes I helped implement. Okay. So have a great fucking week guys. Let's kick some ass, but let's remember nobody's coming to save us. Nobody's coming to give us the leadership. We got to take it. And that's it.