REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 93. aRe wE dOiNg tHiS aGaiN?

Episode Date: January 1, 2021

Are we doing this again? Are we really talking about what we will try and accomplish in 2021? On today's episode, Andy talks about the difference between people who talk about what they're going to do and the people who have their priorities together to ensure they win.

I don't even want to do this show. I don't even want to do this show. Like, do I have to do a show? Yes, you do. Why? So we can be number one on itunes dude every fucking year i do this show this fucking new year show right and and people people gonna fucking you know andy we can't wait to hear what you had to say for fucking New Year's You know What the fuck you think I'm going to say I'm New year new me Yeah dude New year new you

Alright here we go Hey guys This is Andy Frisella from The Real AF Show And I wanted to talk to you About this wonderful opportunity That you have To turn a page in your life. New Year's comes around once a year. And if you're an ambitious, goal-driven individual, you have the opportunity to turn the page and

leave the old you behind. Motherfuckers, how many times do we got to say the same shit? Like, let's be real, dude, real talk. Most of y'all aren't going to do a fucking thing. And you're going to be mad at me for saying that. You'll be mad at me for fucking saying that. Most of y'all aren't going to do shit. And you're going to be mad at me because I fucking said it. When in reality, you should be mad at yourself because two years ago you said shit. Last year you said shit. This year you're saying shit. And next year you're going to be saying the same shit. And you're going to be mad at me. How about this for 2021? How about this? How about we take a fucking inventory of ourselves.

We look at ourselves in the mirror and we tell ourselves the truth. We look at our lives and we tell ourselves the truth. The truth is this. It's very simple. You're either doing it or you're not doing it. You've either been executing or you haven't been executing. You either are truly ready to make a fucking change or you're not, but it doesn't matter how many people who are motivational people, uh, personal development people, they're all going to be putting out some fucking message for y'all, right? It doesn't matter how many of these we listened to. It doesn't matter how many fucking videos you watch. It doesn't matter how many of these we listen to. It doesn't matter how many fucking videos you watch. It doesn't matter how many courses you buy. It doesn't fucking matter. What matters is,

is what you're going to do. And the truth of the matter is this. Most people are going to get dressed up tonight. This is New Year's Eve, right? They're going to put on their best shit They're going to fucking take some instagram photos with a bottle of fucking champagne They're going to spend their whole motherfucking paycheck and they're going to be hungover as fuck tomorrow And they're they're not going to do shit. They're going to say well, you know what? Uh Today what's tomorrow friday? I don't even fucking know You know why I don't know what day tomorrow? Because I fucking wake up every day and I fucking win the day.

And that's all I fucking worry about. That's why my life looks the way it fucking looks. Okay? But they're going to wake up tomorrow. And they're going to fucking say, oh, fuck, dude. It's Friday. I'm hungover. You know what, dude?

2021, I'm going to bring it in the whole weekend. I'm going to go. And you know how I know this? Because I used to be this. I used to do this. They're going to go out tomorrow night too, because it's Friday night. Then they're going to go out on Saturday night and get fucked up too. And then they're going to day drink on Sunday. And don't forget, I'm not pointing a fucking finger. I live this life. I know what the fuck this is. That's what the fuck, that's the truth. Monday, people are going to finally fucking decide they want to start. And dude, out of a hundred people, three of them are going to make it to Wednesday. And one of them is going to make it fucking,

you know, for the year. That's the truth. That's the truth. That is the truth of what we're dealing with. We're dealing with a fucking culture that rewards mediocrity and fucking villainizes ambition and winning and wanting to be better. That's all we see on the internet these days. Very rarely do we celebrate other people winning. Very rarely do we celebrate other people's accomplishments. Very rarely do we celebrate people changing their lives for the better. We live in a victim fucking society that's full of fucking weak ass motherfuckers. That's the truth. Who can look at a before and after picture and instead of fucking saying, God, dude, fuck yeah, man, that motherfucker did it. That dude lost a hundred pounds. That woman got her life back. That person built a multi-million

dollar business because we're so weak as a society that we can't celebrate other people's success. We make up this fake victim bullshit about diet culture or fucking success culture or all this shit to make other people feel better because they feel bad because they won't do the shit. Look, man, this is the truth This show's called Real AF And it ain't for everybody I ain't for everybody I ain't trying to be for everybody

Some of you are going to do it And some of you won't That's the truth Now if you want to do it If you're committed to doing it If you're ready to make a fucking change There's lots of people out there With lots of good information that can help you But at the end of the day not one of those motherfuckers gonna do the work for you

Not one of those motherfuckers can do the work for you And you guys are out there consuming this shit Taking in all this shit Talking about how you want it thinking about how you want it, thinking about how you want it, and then looking at other people and fucking hating on them for doing what the fuck it is that you wanted to do. What am I supposed to say to that? Y'all wanted to fucking podcast on New Year's. There's your motherfucking podcast. You either are or you aren't. You're either with it or you ain't with it. You're either doing it or you're not doing it and your fucking life tells the story

There ain't no fucking unfair bullshit happening here. There's no fucking you're not a fucking victim. You're a victim of yourself You're a victim of your own fucking bitch-ass voice that tells you Not to do the shit that you know, you're supposed to do That's the truth That tells you not to do the shit that you know you're supposed to do. That's the truth. And you can fucking villainize me. You can victimize me. You fucking tell me I'm a fucking this, that, the other.

Guess what I'm going to do? I'm going to wake up the next day. I'm going to fucking get up. I'm going to put my fucking tennis shoes on. I'm going to put my workout shit on. I'm going to get my fucking ass in the gym. And then after that, I'm going to fucking do my fucking emails. And I'm going to put my workout shit on. I'm going to get my fucking ass in the gym. And then after that, I'm going to fucking do my fucking emails and I'm going to do all my work. I'm going to walk through this building. I'm going to make sure everybody has everything they need to kick ass. And I'm going to work out again. I'm going to eat all

the food I'm supposed to eat. And then I'm going to take a picture. I'm going to be all buff and shit. Right. And you're going to see me drive my car and I'm fucking driving rich dude's cars and shit, right? You're going to fucking hate it because it ain't you. When you didn't do none of the fucking work, you didn't commit more than a fucking week to it. I've been doing it for 23 motherfucking years. Okay, so that's the secret to fucking New Year's. I've been doing it for 23 motherfucking years. Okay.

So that's the secret to fucking new years. Secret is this. What's the episode that we have? When the day 14, 107 on real on MSU project 107 on the MFCO project. Is it 14 or 16? Whenever it's, you can look, you can scroll up and down. It's one of the two. on the MFCEO project. Is it 14 or 16? Whatever. You can look.

You can scroll up and down. It's one of the two. It's fucking 14 or 16. I don't even know. But I know it's 107 on MFCEO. What is it? It's 16. 16.

All right, 16. There we go. So we didn't have any misinformation there for you. All right? Like, dude, that's all I got. Like, you guys want this fucking cinematic fucking motivational fucking You know

bro I'm tired If you want to win it's very simple you got to make a decision that you are not going to be like everybody else You are not going to fucking do what they do. You are not going to be like everybody else. You are not going to fucking do what they do. You are not going to live how they live. You are not going to eat how they eat. You're not going to drink how they drink. You're not going to do the kind of work they fucking do.

And then you've got to go do that. And you've got to do it one day at a time. Okay. I don't even know why you fuckers listen to this shit anymore. Like, I don't even know why you even listen to what I'm giving you everything. It's one day at a fucking time. Okay. You wake up, you do everything you can to make that day a win. That's it. That is the fucking secret to this dude. And then when you've won or lost that day, which by the way, you're going to lose some days. You're going, dude, I ate 10,000 calories of fucking

Chinese food for fucking dinner last night. No bullshit. It was fucking good too. Guess what? I lost the fucking day. Holy shit, dude. Guess what I did today? That's what I did. I got the fuck up and I went and I'm winning the day so far. You know what I'm saying? And if you win today, you guys laughing at this shit. You guys laughing I'm saying? And if you win today, you guys laughing at this shit. You guys laughing at this shit, listening like, no shit, Andy. Fuck, dude. When are you going to get it? Right? One day. Win today. Then you wake up tomorrow and you do the same thing. And then you wake up on Wednesday and you do the same thing. Then you wake up on Thursday and you do the same thing. And guess what happens then? You create a winning streak. All right. And when

you do this long enough, when you create these little streaks, maybe you get five wins. Maybe you get seven wins. Maybe you get 12 wins. Maybe you get 75 wins, which is the point of 75 hard. If you haven't figured the fuck out yet Okay When you start to tag these wins together and create these streaks you're forming new habits Okay, and after a while Winning the day is not hard. It's easy It becomes automatic and when you get to the point where you're winning every day and it's automatic guess what happens?

winning becomes Not something that you get to the point where you're winning every day and it's automatic, guess what happens? Winning becomes not something that you aspire to do. You don't have to aspire to be a winner when you're winning every day automatically. Winning becomes who the fuck you are. And when winning becomes who the fuck you are, guess what you become? You become a winner. And so you don't have to fucking sit down and talk about what you're going to do in fucking 2021, in 2022, 2020. Dude, I already know what the fuck I'm going to do in 2021. I already know. You could know too. But dude, you follow in the fucking herd, man. How many memes have I seen today about this shit you're going to do in 2021? A lot of you guys are thinking, well, Andy, what's wrong with having goals? Nothing's wrong with having goals. What's

wrong is you don't intend to fucking follow through on any of them for real. So either be about it or shut the fuck up, dude. For real. Cause all you're doing is you're creating a scenario that will create your unhappiness. When you sit there and talk about all this shit that you know, you're never going to fucking do. What does that do to you? That makes you unhappy. Okay. So my fucking goal for you is real simple. Be what it is you claim to be about. Be what it is you truly want to be. Okay. If you truly want to be successful, if you truly want to change your life, if you truly want to lose 50, 100, 200, 500 fucking pounds, be about it today. Be about it today. And then when today's over, be about it tomorrow.

That's the secret to fucking New Year's. That's the secret to every year. And that's the secret to every year. And that's the secret to fucking life.