REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 932. Real Talk: The Illusion of Permission (Nobody Owes You The Starting Line)

Episode Date: September 2, 2025

On today’s Real Talk, Andy breaks down the illusion of permission when it comes to chasing your goals, why talent means nothing without execution, and why everyone who achieves big starts ugly. If you want it you have to start now because nobody’s coming to give you permission.

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Can't fold Just a no head shot case closed What is up guys It's Andy for selling This is the show for the realists Say goodbye to the lies The fictness and delusions of modern society

And welcome to motherfucking reality Guys Today we have a real talk Now, I know yesterday I said that we were going to have CTI today, but DJ and Alex decided that they were going to have their baby. So it just totally fucked up our whole schedule. And he's probably going to get fired, you know, but it's all good because I'm going to carry the water like I always do. And I'm going to give you a real talk today. You know, as I'm recording this, it is seven.

September 1st, okay? And I've seen a lot of people online talking about how, oh my God, it's September 1st or, oh, I can't believe it's September 1st. And they've wasted their whole year. Okay. And that is something that really I'm confused by because the reality is is that people come along every single year. They say they're going to make these changes. They say they're going to do these things. They say they're going to become all these things that they really want to become. And they never, ever do it.

Okay? And I want to talk to the young people about this real quick. Because a lot of you guys who are older, you're going to do this your whole life. You're going to do this from now until you're in the hole. All right. And I can't fix some of you guys, but what I can do is I can tell the young people out here the truth of what it's going to take to succeed. And today, I have just five little points I want to make to you guys for you young guys that will help you be productive so you don't become one of these people who waste year after year after year saying tomorrow. and, you know, ends up wasting their entire life, which happens all the time, okay?

I used to think just like you that someone was going to come down from the heavens and give me permission. I used to think that someone who was more successful than me was going to come to me and say, Andy, I really believe you have what it takes. Let me take you under my wing and show you how to do this. I believed that success was some sort of club that you got invited into. But it's not. Okay. Nobody is going to give you the opportunity.

Nobody is going to open the door. You are going to have to break it the fuck down. That is what you have to understand. Okay. This idea of waiting. This idea of just hoping that the world works with everything that we want and eventually time will produce this life that we actually want is bullshit. You have to make it happen on your own.

And I'm speaking to the young people out here. I am speaking to those people who think they have unlimited time, who think they have a long life. Look, dude, I remember being 22 like it was yesterday, like it was yesterday. And I know that sounds like some old man shit. But the truth of the matter is it goes fast and you don't have as much time as you think. You just don't. Okay. So the first point is this.

Life doesn't give a fuck how young you are. It doesn't care how experienced you are. It doesn't care where you're at. it doesn't care where you came from none of the shit matters okay and you have to understand no matter what you've been told no matter what you've been taught the world does not reward mediocre performance okay it does not hand out participation trophies no matter how special your teacher said you were no matter how special your parents say you might be the world doesn't give a shit, all right? It doesn't care if you don't know anything. It doesn't care if you're

trying to figure it out. It doesn't take it easy on you because you're inexperienced. Okay, the clock is ticking no matter what. And you have to understand that when you are young, you have this ridiculous opportunity to get ahead because typically you don't have the same amount of commitments. You don't have the same amount of responsibilities. And unfortunately, we have these people online telling these young people, hey man, you can use your 20s to fucking do whatever you want. Sure, you can, except then your 30s are going to be a fucking hustle show that you're going to hate because you're going to have to put 20 years of work into 10 to get where you are. And then most people quit and never become what it is they want to become.

So you have to understand that just because you're 20 years old, just because you're 25 does not give you the excuse to coast. You should be using this time to be productive and to learn and to try and figure out legitimately what it is you're trying to do. That doesn't mean I'm going to go to a visa four times a year and fuck off. What it means is you're going to think about things. You're going to analyze things. You're going to take actions. You're going to fail. You're going to learn. You're going to get better. And you're going to build a fucking skill set when you're still young. There is no bigger advantage to you than that. Okay. I am very, very fortunate that during my 20s, I took my shit relatively serious. I could have went way harder. I could have tried

a lot harder. I could have been dedicated. But at the end of the day, I was doing something and that's something got me here. And according to a lot of you, you want to be a version of that. And I'm going to tell you right now you cannot do that by saying oh i got time oh i got time oh you know what i'm only 20 i got time no you don't not if you got big dreams not if you got legendary aspirations okay and you don't want to be one of these douchebags that leases a hurricane for 144 months and think you made it i'm talking about real success i'm talking about 360 success i'm talking about building the fucking life that you are so motherfucking proud of that you can't be shaken from who the fuck you are, okay?

Life doesn't care if you're young. That's the first point. Okay, the second point I want you to understand is this. Talent is not enough. Okay, you could be smart, you could be intelligent, you could be creative, you can have all the ideas in the world, you could be full of potential and nobody gives a fuck until you actually build something real okay action always beats potential every single motherfucking time hard workers will beat talented people that don't work we've all heard the

saying we've all heard it right hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work well most of the fucking talent out there doesn't work okay and by the way you probably don't have that much talent and the good news is you don't need it you need to do is show up every motherfucking day, refuse to quit, and then be smart enough to learn from your mistakes and

hopefully learn from the mistakes of the people you compete with. And if you can do those things and apply those lessons moving forward and never fucking allow yourself to quit because you built yourself into a fucking machine of

discipline and grit and fortitude and endurance. You can't be stopped. You cannot be stopped. Okay. So don't get upset that you don't have all the talent. Don't get upset that you got to struggle. Every motherfucker out there that ever became what it is that you might admire came from struggle, came from hardship.

They did not have it easy like you think they did. Like society says they did. Most of the most successful people in the world had to fight every motherfucking step. which is why they are who they are. So quit thinking because it's hard for you. You got screwed over. You didn't. You got blessed with an opportunity to become great.

Okay. Point number three. Everyone starts ugly. Fucking all of them. Okay. Nobody knows what they're doing in the beginning. We all look stupid. We're all afraid of getting laughed at.

And guess what? We do. But what's worse? getting laughed at or being a fucking loser your entire life. I'll tell you this, I got laughed at the entire time I've been doing this. I get laughed at now. You see the motherfucking comments. You see what people say.

I do not give a fuck if someone laughs at me, bro, because you know what? When I walk the fuck out of my house, I get in a fucking Bugatti or another Bugatti or whatever the fuck else I want and I go to my place of business which I love and build amazing shit with people I love and create the ultimate life that I've always dreamed about creating not just for me but for everyone around me so I don't give two shits who laughs at it I don't care and you shouldn't either losers laugh winners build that's the reality so when we think about how it's going to be along the way you cannot expect yourself to be great at something when you haven't put in the fucking time or the reps or the energy it's not going to happen and i want

you to think about this how arrogant are you to think that you're going to be great at something from the start when all the people you admire had to struggle for years and years and years to get to that point. Do you not understand how arrogant that sounds? You're telling me you're better than all those people. You have more talent than all those people. You get to skip the fucking struggle because of why? Please explain it to me. Because it's bullshit. We all start ugly. We all get our asses kicked. We all get laughed at. We all get made fun up. It's part of the process. And You can't avoid it. Point number four.

You have to stop asking advice from people who haven't done what it is you want to do. If your mom or your dad or your uncle or your aunt or your teachers or fucking anyone hasn't done what it is you want to do, you shouldn't listen to them about how to do it because they don't know. and it is no different for all these knuckleheads on the internet selling you how to do this and how to do that just because they might be in a better spot or appear to be in a better spot than you right now does not mean that they are actually successful when you start out in the game it is easy to look at anybody who appears to have more things going on than you and

attribute that to them knowing what they're doing that is not true okay we live in this world of fucking smoking mirrors and people have figured out how to appear to be successful without actually being successful so it's very simple you have to vet where you're taking your lessons from if you don't do that you will end up listening to someone who could potentially cost you everything and that happens over and over again for some people because they simply can't vet their source they can't figure out that just because someone loves them doesn't mean they know how to win they can't figure out that just because someone has a fucking hurricane on the internet that these people know how to build a fucking business okay you have to look beneath the surface what have they

done. What have they built? What is their business? Can I shop there? Do they employ people? What's the product like? What's the customer experience like? We could go on and on and on. Is this actually real or is this smoke in mirrors? Have they built any real shit or do they just sell courses on how to build real shit? These are things that matter. These are things that will cost you time and energy and effort over and over again and if you listen to too many of them it will fucking crush you so you have to understand if they haven't done it you shouldn't listen to them that doesn't mean you have to be rude it doesn't mean you have to be mean it doesn't mean you got to tell your parents to eat shit what it means very simply is put some fucking

earplugs in when they start telling you how to do shit and understand if they knew how to it they would have fucking done it themselves okay and point number five nobody is fucking coming motivation fades guidance is rare and it's often wrong nobody's going to come wake you up and shake you out of bed and say here's your critical tasks that you need to do today to become the version of yourself 10 years from now that you ultimately want to become nobody's going to check up on you nobody's going to hold your hand nobody's going to pull you through the motherfucking fire nobody

most of these people haven't even been through it themselves you're going to have to walk alone a lot of times you're going to have to make sacrifices you're going to have to understand for this big goal that you're trying to create it's going to have a

price that price is going to look different for everybody for some people they're going to move on from their friends or their girlfriends and boyfriends or maybe even a wife and husband who knows but winning is fucking hard

and these things cost in real life but you have to understand it doesn't matter how you feel it doesn't matter what people say to you

it doesn't matter if they laugh at you it doesn't matter if you're tired if you're sore if you're beat up, you're going to be all those things and all those things are going to happen. You are going to have to build yourself into someone who can execute regardless. And when you become that version of you who can do what needs to be done, regardless of what's going on in their life, regardless if they're tired, regardless if they're sore, regardless if their husband yells at him or their wife yells at him, regardless if they have all the stress in the world bearing down onto their fucking head,

they still get up and execute. They still move forward, no matter what. And if you can build yourself into someone who can behave that way, there is not a motherfucking thing on this planet that can stop you. so you have to understand you have a choice you can be like everybody else you can live the life they live you can listen to them you can bullshit with them you can drink your life away and fuck your life away or you can get real motherfucking serious right now and you can listen to someone who's actually done a lot of the things that you want to do and you can start today right now

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