REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 941. Q&AF: Boundaries With Parents, Asking For Help & Exploring Purpose Late In Life

Episode Date: September 22, 2025

On today’s episode, Andy answers live call-in questions on how to set healthy boundaries with parents, how to ask for help without losing the drive of doing it yourself, and how to discover purpose in life even when you feel it’s too late.

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Does a no headshot case closed What is up guys It's Andy for selling This is the show for the realists Say goodbye to the lies The fakeness and delusioned The Modern Society and welcome To motherfucking reality guys

Today we have Q&AF That's where you submit the question and we give you the answers. Now, you can submit your questions to be answered on the show a few different ways. DJ's going to tell you all about it. Yeah, guys, first ways you can email your questions in to Ask Andy at Andy Fetella.com.

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there it's not free but it does go through the entire live hard program and a whole whole bunch of other chapters on mental toughness why it's important how to develop it how to use it to become the ultimate version of you and you can get that at andyfercella.com and then we have a fee fee is very simple help us grow the show by sharing it all right so don't be a ho share the show all right what's going on man nothing dude yeah so with you oh you know just another beautiful day getting getting lots of great deep sleep are you?

You look like you're still asleep I'm fucked right now Why? Were you up all night with the kid? Bro. Was she screaming the shit? Bro, there's just something

that happens between like 3 a.m. and 7 a.m. What's that? She didn't fucking sleep. I don't know what it is. She's just fucking

We're all on like that? Addison was a little bit and it's given Addison vibes for sure. Like Addison didn't sleep. She was hard, wasn't she? Bro. Addison did not sleep. through the night until she was like nine months old. Yeah, I remember that. Oh, that was hard. Yeah, I'm just getting getting those vibes very early right now. Yeah. Yeah, but no man, it's good. It's good. You know, we're here. Yeah. I'll make it work. Yeah. Let's start off with a call. Let's get Rubio on the phone. Get Rubio.

Hello? Rubio, what's up, man? What's going on? Is this DJ? This is DJ. No, this is your conscience. Oh, okay. What's going on, man?

Nothing much, nothing much. Is the big man there, too? No, it was just me calling you. Yeah, DJ is calling to see if you want to get something to eat, bro. Oh, okay. Yeah. What's up, brother? How are you?

I'm good. Are you gentlemen doing? We're doing good, man. Just sitting in here. talking about how we're going to actually help people that's right so what's going on with you where you at right on I'm calling in from a California unfortunately okay we're at in California uh Philmore it's a small town in Turer County area I don't know where that is yeah where is that north or like northern Cali that's uh so Cal area oh okay yeah little ways from

Los Angeles there you go that's good good weather but what can we help you with brother what you got going on so i've got a little bit of a dilemma so just to give background to the to the story as of right now i'm calling you i'm 19 years of age going on a 20 here and i decided from a young age that i didn't want my life to be ordinary started listening to the show probably like 17 super super motivated all my buddies on it some of them kind of listening to it some of them didn't got my father into it and what ended up happening was I decided up and join the military and I sit now stand now as a United States Marine and I decided I liked my job at the time I was working as a shop hand I always like dirty work

I always like getting my hands dirty just I've always wanted to build myself to be a better man and be an example for when I do eventually have a son and I was sent there at work one day and I knew that I just I had to go find out if I could make it through boot camp but I knew that financially I wanted something bigger for myself so I didn't sign active duty I wouldn't reserve so I could come back and ultimately make more money here and that's what I did and I noticed as the years went on when I started making more money that my parents started treating me a little bit differently so just to give reference um beforehand obviously I wasn't paying rent I wasn't really doing much because of the young age and up when i hit 18 that's when they kind of started charging me rent me and my sister both were paying right around 200 dollars nothing crazy hit 19 and that's right when my rent went up and my sister being that she got herself in debt at a young age um they cut her completely off stopped her from paying rent and they charged me more which i thought was a little little strange, but I kind of said whatever to it. And my father has always had a good, been good

with finances, been good to making money. Up until recently, he started focusing more on spending money than keeping it. And he makes good money. The only issue is that he spends more than he makes and he's got himself into some debt and he's talked about me taking over his payments. He got a Motorcycler really likes. I like motorcycles, but I personally don't buy anything that I can't afford. So I have no debt. And I plan on keeping it that way. The only issue is when he gets injured, he usually looks at me for money. And recently, he borrowed a decent amount of money for me around $3,000, which he ended up paying me back eventually slowly. But my biggest issue is right now, as I said, he's pretty motivated. I think he's, kind of just on the addiction of motivation rather than action because he's right around 320 pounds-ish five foot seven 39 years old and i think he's still get out of his situation the only issue is that he has a hard time listening to people and i want to sit down and have a conversation with him appropriately without him getting upset with me or emotional because

he seems to get that way or without even bring bringing up kicking me out because i like i said for his age and that weight i don't imagine he'll make it much longer and he's been super motivated by you andy with your story being your weight the only issue is like i said he doesn't really listen to people he has a hard time understanding things not so much because he doesn't understand that it's an issue but because he's always been uh it's not that easy kind of person which i mean i've tried to convince him otherwise but by the looks of it in the long run he gets injured. I want to be taking on a lot of his debt, which I don't want to, and it's going to fall on me. Ultimately, the house. I've recently found out, same thing, my mother has a decent amount

of debt, and she's kind of turned to me for money, which, of course, I don't want to say no to her, but I found out she was slowly taking money for me through my bank account, which I had to have a conversation with her about, and she tried kind of hiding it for me. And I just, I want to know how I can approach him with the situation an appropriate matter because I do care about him and I want him to be here in the long run for when I build my future. But I also don't want his decisions now to not allow me to start my future because he's going to take that from me ultimately with his dead. And like I said, I just want to make sure he's around. And for the, for the rate he's going and now the doctors are telling him he's not going to, he's not going to live much longer.

Well, I mean, he's 5.7. What'd you say? 320? Yes, sir. And he's 37? He's 39. 39? You're absolutely correct. He's not going to be around very much longer if he doesn't take care of that. That's the truth. You don't see old obese people like that. You don't see that. Typically, you know, these people die before they get old. And, yeah, that's just part of the equation. Let me ask you this. what's your outcome what's your ideal outcome of that conversation my ideal outcome is that he starts putting on the work with me again I mean when he was 270 not too long ago he was going to the gym with me I would go help him out at work because I mean ultimately I wanted to start working with him so I got all my certifications I got my class A license my CDO and I wanted to work with him. The only issue is nobody wants to hire me because I'm young, but that's not

important with the conversation. And we were going to the gym. Everything was going good. And he was motivated. He's like, you're going to come work with me, all this stuff. And then he up and got injured and saw that as a as a permanent roadblock. And like I said, ended up putting on another 50 pounds. Okay. And let me ask you this. A couple things here. What, what kind of work are you guys doing? So he's a crane operator. okay you kind of just uh sits in the crane does this thing but when i go help him we're we're actually walking around running around we're greasing the cranes i like going to help him grease them so i get up under there and yeah it's a whole whole job and we're doing this to

about eight different cranes just yeah just because i want to get into the field of work and then when we're working out i mean i take him to the gym with me and i run him through my programs i try running through the 75 hard which i mean he made it like halfway and then saw a cupcake and that was it and what do you want to do for yourself long term for myself long term i ultimately want to build something i don't really care so much about the financial portion i only care about money because everything that will cost money and i understand that you need it to an extent but i want to be able to build something that i can look at and be proud of and something that overall helps people i'm not exactly sure what that is yet being that i am i am still young yeah you

don't have to have an answer right now yeah I was just curious I was just curious yeah brother all right look man here's a there's a lot here um let me start with the conversation that has to happen with your let me start with this okay your parents shouldn't be taking money from you they shouldn't be taking money from your account they shouldn't be making you feel guilty for not wanting to give them money that that's not okay, all right? And you have to draw a boundary there. Um, and it has to be real. And sometimes parents don't really understand that. I don't know what that is. I don't know why that is, but sometimes, and I've talked to a lot of people, parents have like this weird entitlement to

their children's success. Uh, I was actually talking to a very well known, everybody knows entrepreneur that I'm friends with about this exact issue yesterday about how this person's parents felt entitled to the same thing and no matter what they did it was never enough

and the answer was always well you know that's nothing for you that's not the fucking point okay like The point is I work my ass off for that And just because, you know, you think that I've got all this shit coming out of my ears or whatever It doesn't matter

It's not yours. You didn't fucking earn it And it's a hard combo to have, yeah Well, you got to have it Yeah, I had to have it. Yeah, I mean, listen, dude, it's Unfortunately, some people only get it When you're a fucking mean as fuck to them about it And then they'll finally stop But yeah, dude, it's

It's reality, man. And I don't know why parents feel that way. I don't know. I really don't. I don't know. But that's neither here nor there. It's just reality. And it seems like you've got a couple parents that think that way.

And that has to be a real conversation of adults. Hey, I'm an adult. You're charging me rent. I am happily paying it. That's the transaction. You're not entitled to anything else. You're not entitled to more of that. You can't just take my money.

Yes, we're family. And I will gladly help you, but I'm not an endless stream of financial resources. And that boundary needs to be set now, brother, because the older you get, then the more money you make, the worse that will get. So that's a conversation in itself that needs to be. And I understand, dude, like you love your parents, but that boundary has to be set. and it has to be firm. Now let's get on to the conversation with your dad.

That conversation should probably start just like any other meeting that you would have. I would sit down, I would ask him to sit down and meet with you, not just try to catch him in the middle of his day, not just try to talk to him at dinner, but I would ask him, I would say, hey dad um can you meet me here at starbucks at noon or whatever i got something i really want to talk to you about something that sets the expectation that this is not a normal conversation all right the reason that's important is because you want them thinking ahead of time fuck i wonder what this is about this must be serious and what will probably happen is they will say well just tell me now just tell me now and you should say no

I want to sit down and have a talk about it. It's very important to me and do not give in when they try to get you to say what it is right now because you want him to think about it until that time comes he's probably going to listen to the show and know this

but at the end of the day dude you sit down with them and you say hey dad look my outcome for this meeting and then you state your outcome My outcome is I'm young. I'm 19 years old. I'm going to grow up one day. I'm going to be successful.

I'm going to have a family. And I would like you to be around for that. And right now, this is the real truth. You're not going to be. And you know you're not going to be. I know you're not going to be. And the data says you're not going to be. And I love you, man.

Like, you're my whole fucking life. And I can't imagine you not being around when I get married or have kids because food and drink had some sort of control over you and it's it's frustrating for me that you won't take it serious enough to handle your business that that makes me wonder how much you actually care about what I've got going on or even me and I think that's a real conversation because dude I don't think he's thinking about that I don't think he's thinking like because we all by human nature think oh I don't never happen to us it'll never happen to us it'll never happen to us until it does and I know from

being very overweight um and struggling with that my whole life that's the story I would tell myself I would tell myself it's not as bad as I think it is other people are like this it's normal um you know it's not that bad and I would tell myself all this shit and until I found a bigger purpose that was outside of myself, it was very hard for me to take serious. And I would sit down, I would have that conversation with them, very frankly, however it is that you would like to deliver that message. And at the end of the thing, I would say, Dad, I would really appreciate if you did this for me.

And if you can't do it for you, I would like you to do it for me and my future kids, because I want you around. And I would have that conversation, make that known. And then I would also, and this is an important thing, dude, I would also be prepared for him to continue down the path that he's going to go down. Because here's the thing. We can't force people to lose weight. We can't force people to take their shit serious. We can't force people to want to be financially successful.

We can't force people to want to be more than they are. But what we can do is point out the reality of what they are because most people do not see themselves accurately for what they really are. They look in the mirror. They don't like what they see. They look at their bank account. They don't like what they see. They look at their family. They don't like what they see.

And then they tell themselves a shit ton of stories about why it is that way that let them off the hook for having to deal with the actual. problem. So there's a good chance no matter what you say or what you do that he will remain the same. If I, I would like to think that if I had a son and he said that to me that that would that would disturb me enough to fucking take action. Um, but we just don't know. And that's how I would handle it, dude. And the last thing I would say to you is this. Um, You got to run your own fucking race, bro. And we love our parents. You know, I get this question a lot.

A lot of parents, and I'm not saying this about yours, I'm just saying this for everybody else that's listening. A lot of parents don't support their children. A lot of parents get jealous when their children start to become more successful. A lot of parents have to be cut the fuck out of your life when you come from, you know, very me, means and your ambition is so big it's it's it's it's weight that is hard to carry it's and it's it's not something that you can actually do because to get to that point of where you want to go requires all of your effort all of your energy all

of your focus and you can't spend it dealing with people who are creating doubt who are pulling you back who are asking you for things that aren't theirs who or like you just can't make time for wasted energy and the truth of the matter is people are either contributing or pulling away and to get where you're wanting to go you know to be successful sometimes it takes pulling away from every single thing that distracts you and doesn't contribute and people hate that answer they're like oh well that's not healthy well fuck bro you told me what you wanted I'm telling you what it takes to get it's just reality. And if you want to have relationships with negative people just because you're related

to them, then your success will suffer. That's reality. So that's what I got for you, man. I know it's a difficult situation, but you're a grown man. I think you need to present yourself as a grown man to him. It sounds like you do most of the time anyway. And have them off site and have a meeting and say hey this is this matters to me man and uh you know if if you don't do that that's that's your choice but i'm just letting you know like i'm going to go do these things you know what i mean and um yeah i mean fuck it's a hard situation what do you think dude that i mean 100% i think the most important piece on that is just being prepared if he doesn't choose to do anything about it you know like i look back on my life i had my first apartment at 17 i had no choice

Because I went through the whole thing, like, oh, I'm going to stay home with mom. Well, you got to pay rent. Well, I'm not here trying to build a life. Like, and I got to get, you know what I'm saying? Well, I might as well just get my own shit then. You know what I'm saying? I had to prepare myself for that. And it is a tough thing, man.

But like you said, Andy, bro, like, Ruby, you got, you have a life. You got to start running. And ultimately, nobody else is responsible for that but you. Yeah. You know, so as tough as those decisions might be or conversations might be to have, like somebody's got to have them. You know, I think a lot of people have frustrated. that other people like it's it's a very weird dynamic when you're trying to like develop

your own path in life you know if you're ambitious and you want to create something and you want to build something and become something that's rare most people don't most people I would say 97% of humanity just wants to breathe there and exist and have the least amount of discomfort possible. They don't care if they get anything else. And the 3% that do, and I'm making these numbers up, but that's just my estimation, those people, you know, they're never going to fit in, man. They're never going to fit in with people who don't have that drive. Those people are never going to understand you. They're never going to relate to you. They're never going to support you the way that you want because they don't fucking get it. And we have all these young people who,

try to curtail their existence to get the approval of these other people that aren't on the same path, not realizing that if you are that close to them where they understand you, then you are that much further from where you actually want to be. So they shouldn't understand you. They shouldn't get you. They shouldn't be able to fucking comprehend what it is you're trying to do. And if they can, then that either means they came with you or you've put enough distance between yourself and their ability to comprehend that you were on the right path, you know, and it's a different language. It's a different life. It's a different fucking species. And when we try to mold ourselves into people that will be understood by people who have no ambition, no drive, no future, we're just taking away from our own success and our own dreams and our own reality. And we do that a lot because we think like, well, fuck, I'm related to them or they're my mom or they're my dad or they're my cousin or they're my this or that or this. But dude, at the end of the day, it's not like they couldn't go with you if they wanted to. You can't fucking force them.

They have to want it. And a lot of people will get judged. They'll say, oh, you forgot where you came from or, you know, you, you, you're not humble anymore. Or, you know, you need to, you need to remember, you know, who you are and all. this shit and they'll say all this shit and like you can look at them and be like well fuck dude uh i didn't remember not inviting you to come with me you chose to stay there you know so that's the reality man and um the good news is is if you do have to make those set those those uh severances in your life they will be replaced later on by people who support what you're trying to do

and i can tell you this the the more successful you get the better your circle gets people think that's rude it's it's reality dude successful people aren't doing fucked up shit usually okay they're not out getting fucked up till four in the morning driving their car seven thousand miles an hour they're they're not going to the bars all the time they're not doing destructive things and reality is is most of the bad things that happen in people's lives come from hanging out with people who do those things so you know you you start surrounding yourself with people who have goals, ambitions, dreams, desires, the hunger to build. These people contribute, man.

They help you. Every phone call you take is encouraging. Every conversation you have is about building. And when you get to that point, man, it's like hard not to win because everybody expects you to win. And then they're also pushing you to win. And they're also competing with you to win. So you don't want to lose to them.

You know, it's just a different dynamic, dude. you forget about all the other bullshit no bro listen dude Andrew Tate said this thing and I know people have mixed opinions of but I saw this clip of him and he fucking said and it was fucking dead dead on true he said every single time I've ever fucking got in trouble it was because I was hanging around poor people and it was fucking true it's fucking true the shit that they fuck with is not the same shit that ambitious driven hungry people fuck with it's truth completely different risks yeah yeah that's real though so that's real anyway um what do you think dude i appreciate the words i appreciate the advice i'll definitely take it and try to sit down

and have that conversation with him but i've been i've tried to accept like you said the things that you told me that are might happen might not happen i've tried to always keep myself in that mindset trying to just uh not expecting a whole lot and just uh trying to put in more work than that I'm getting out, but I'm just, I mean, I'm a strong believer. And, you know, you, you, you get what you put in. That's right. I mean, at the end of the day, I've kind of understood that. I mean, he didn't, he didn't just wake up and become 320 pounds.

Right. Well, I mean, there's lots of reasons why he could be like that. I mean, look, dude, we can all find reasons as to why our life is the way it is. But at the end of the day, here's the reason. He didn't move enough. He ate the wrong shit. He drank the wrong shit. And that, you know, that's it.

That's pretty much it. It's very simple. So, you know, that's his decision, man. And a lot of people, you know, like you say he's inspired by me. Well, fuck, I might not, I must not be doing a very good job. But no, I'm being serious. You know what I'm saying? Like, you shouldn't be able to justify 5-7, 320 pounds.

Like, you shouldn't be, that's not acceptable. So I empathize with Rubio here, but, you know, you got to be prepared. it's real man that's real rubio we appreciate the time bro i appreciate yours as well all right man all right take care bro thank you guys yeah that that's a tough that's a tough spot to be here bro there there's a lot there's a lot there's a lot but i think the the other good part is though just as as as as easy as i guess it was to get in that position you can also get out of it by moving putting the right shit in you know what i'm saying like You know, look, man, the family thing is hard, okay, because it's all you ever know.

And then you decide what it is you want. It's so weird. Because you get encouraged when you're a kid, hey, you know, you could be anything you want. By those same people. By the same people, dude. And then you go through school. And as you get older, the conversation switches from, you could be anything to, you know, okay now we got to get realistic about what you want to be and it's like it's like it's like bro

were you bullshit me back then are you bullshit me now you know what is it and then the conversation changes if you to continue on that path that you always believe that you wanted to be more the conversation from the same exact people that were telling you you could be anything is that you can't be that you're right you know it's like it's this hard thing to deal with when it comes from people always looked at to be your source of guidance and unfortunately you know people have a really hard time with their own egos when their children's goals are bigger than theirs and the truth of the matter is that's the point like if if you're a parent out there and you're like somewhat jealous of what your kids doing versus what you did um you need to check your

fucking self bro because that's the point the point is they're supposed to do better The point is, you're supposed to put them in a position to do better. And just because they start doing better doesn't mean that they owe you fucking money. That's what you're supposed to do as a parent. It's no different than someone who comes into my office says, I show up on time. Yeah, no shit. I work hard. Yeah.

No shit. So, you know, it's a frustrating thing. And a lot of people struggle with them mentally, bro, because the emotional bonds that have been created over that time, right? Well, I think what it is, bro, is the parents realizing that they didn't, like... Yeah, they fucked up. Is them coming to their reality,

like, I did not prepare them to be that fucking president or a future doctor. I didn't... I felt short. So now I've got to try to reel them back in and fuck up their confidence before I send them out into this real world that I didn't prepare them for.

You think that's what it is? I think a lot of parents don't care. I think a lot of parents are jealous. Hmm. I think a lot of parents are fucking jealous. They think the... They think... They think that success is what they've done.

You know what I'm saying? And they can't fathom a success for their own child that is outside the realm of that. They have a very hard time with it. That's some fucked up shit, man. It's the truth. Yeah. It's the truth.

Think of it. You live your whole life. You become a mechanic, which is a great thing, by the way. Okay? Let's just say you become a mechanic. But then your kid grows up and not only do they become a mechanic they end up creating their own car and starting their own car company and making a trillion dollars doing it now all of a sudden that person who was just a mechanic starts feeling like well this isn't good enough for you my life's not good enough for you it's like an ego thing you know and so when kids start to outperform their parents not good parents but shitty parents start to try to fucking hold them back and that's why i tell all these youngers these youngsters i'm like bro Sometimes you've got to cut these motherfuckers out.

You got to ask yourself, what do you run? Do you want a relationship with a toxic parent or a toxic family? Or do you want to fucking win? Yeah. Yeah. It's a very simple choice to have, man. I love it, man. I think the mistake, bro, that a lot of people make is underestimating what it takes to win.

They don't understand. They don't understand that it fucking, at least for an amount of time, it takes everything. you know what I'm saying like everything you cannot afford to have negativity you cannot afford to have people in your life no matter who they are no matter what their last name is telling you that you can't or you shouldn't or you won't they got is people got to be behind you or you got to be alone and that's it it's too hard bro it's too hard winning is not normal it's not this normal thing it's extraordinary it's out of the ordinary it is it's exceptional and there's been this like watering down of what it actually takes to win by culture and society and

you know with this balanced shit and all this you could do you can't fucking do it all man you can't do it all if you're going to have this overly balanced day to day life you're the amount of money you earn is probably going to be a lot less and that's okay but you need to understand that you got to be okay with that's right yeah yeah it's just it's just a balance bro and you know people will judge you for it you know they'll if you don't make enough money they'll say you're a broke loser if you make too much money they'll say all you care about is money you know what I'm saying like they're gonna fucking your bad parents yeah yeah sir or bro they'll say to you know because I don't have kids well he doesn't have any kids so he's totally unhappy like you don't

fucking know what I like right you don't know that I you know what I'm saying like everybody's poking a hole into everything that everybody else has or does and you've got to have earmuffs in and and just not care they're gonna poke holes regardless They're gonna poke holes regardless Yeah Fuck dude no matter what No matter You know

I love it You could be You could walk on fucking water bro And you could cure cancer You could do all this shit There's still gonna be motherfuckers that don't like you

They're gonna say Oh yeah Well he walked on water But he didn't fly Yeah right Right Yeah he cured cancer But fuck it took long enough

You know It's just like It's just loser shit bro Most people Here's the truth Most people are losers I don't know what to tell you Yeah, I love it, man.

I love it. Let's get another question rolling, man. We got, uh, let's get Chadrick. Let's give him a call, shall we? Chadrick. Hello? Hello, is this Chadrick?

Yes, sir. What's going on, man? What up, Andy? No, oh. My fault. Wrong black guy. Yeah, no, this is DJ. My fault, guys.

What's up, brother? How are you? Hey, Andy. I'm doing good, man. How about you? Good. Where are you calling from? I am calling from Chevyville, Tennessee.

Chevyville. Chevyville. All right. Where's that? I've never heard. That's how many places I haven't heard of. Yeah, where's Chevyville? Hey, I'm not going to lie to you.

We have, like, a population of, like, I don't even know, but we're like a small town where, Down south of Nashville, we're like an hour and maybe 30 minutes away from him. All right, all right. Yeah, it's called Bedford County. Bedford County, okay. We actually have one of the largest bars in the whole world, Uncle Nearest. What's it called? Uncle Nearest.

Oh, like the whiskey? Yeah, we have, it's in my town. Oh. It's on the outskirts of it. Yeah, it's like really closer to, it's like in between Murfersboro in Chevyville, but it's, Like one of the biggest bars in the whole world. Uncle what? Uncle nearest.

Yeah. It's a whiskey. Yeah. Huh. That's, that's sick. It's pretty cool. All right.

Well, guys, I'm really excited. I'm really excited. I'm really nervous at the same time. So, ah, brother. Hey,

we're just some normal fucking dudes, bro. You don't have to be nervous. We're here to help. I know. I know that. Yeah. So what's up?

What you got going on? All right, man. I'll give you a little history of my life. So, um, Whenever, I'll take it way back so you can understand my perspective and what I'm trying to do. So whenever I was 12 to 13, my dad passed away.

I thought football, I thought sports. I thought all of that was going to get me somewhere. It didn't because my coach took all the film whenever he moved from one high school to the other. And he was just worried about, you know, doing whatever he was doing. So, set off into the world and, you know, did everything I needed to do. right now in this situation and it's current you know my current life right now I am 29 years old about two years ago I lost my mom to cancer my brother to overach now in my whole life all I have is my sister that's it just my sister

so I was I was thinking to myself you know I don't have too many people now because you know my life has been like it has and and I was you know i'm i'm making a brand and a product for myself as well right now and uh you know it's a it's like a hydration pouch so i am trying to not at like i don't want to ask for somebody's help because i've always been the person to do it myself and to pursue something myself because I don't know asking for help kind of makes me feel like I'm kind of like you know making myself weaker and the grind is not as hard as you know what I'm trying to search for if that makes sense so I mean it's just it's just it's kind of hard especially whenever you don't

you know I'm doing it myself so I just I'm trying to get somebody else's perspective of they've already been there and I don't have people like that in my town that will tell me what I need to hear and how it needs to be okay go ahead that's why I'm reaching out because like I said I've contacted multiple people multiple and I don't hear nothing back and I'm just like okay so should I I don't know where else to go so I did submit my question and I just wanted to do you want to I'll give you the question if you want me to yeah that's what I'm here for brother all right all right it says I've always had I've always provided myself on figuring things out on my own but I know there's value in learning from people who've already done what I'm working towards the challenge for me

is this how do you ask for help without feeling like you're giving of the edge that comes from grinding it out yourself part of me feels like asking makes me weaker but another part of me knows it could make me sharper i'd really appreciate your perspective on that okay first of all man um i'm sorry to hear about your family that is that's very tough um very very tough yeah here here's what here's what I want you to hear, all right. You do not need anybody else's validation or permission to start this business and go do what it is that you see in your mind. Okay. If you have a vision for what you're trying to accomplish, it is very important that you dedicate yourself to that

vision. Now, when we are just starting out, and it doesn't matter if you are 18, or 30 or 50, we have this thing as humans because we don't know what we don't know. And when we've never been successful at anything, we imagine that there's boundaries that exist that do not exist. For me, when I was young, I used to think like this. My internal dialogue would be, man, I hope. one day I'm one of these people that gets chosen to be successful. I hope one day I'm one of these people that gets lucky enough to be successful. I hope one day and I would see it as like this thing that I called the success fairy.

And when I visualized it in my head, it was like there's imagine a group of people and then like this fucking fairy flies down and taps certain people on the head and those people somehow get the path to success and end up making it. And it's not true. It's complete bullshit. And we believe that because we have never been successful and we've never been in the proximity of people who are very successful. The best gift that any of you who are listening to this show can give yourself is to be in the proximity of someone who has built something massive. So you can see how normal and how much in common.

you actually have with those people because we at the beginning sort of idolize these people or build them up or imagine that they have these superpowers and dude they don't okay and i know it feels that way when you're just starting so you need to clear out this belief system that you have that there's some sort of gatekeeping or you know there's some sort of rule or or club or code or committee that is going to invite you to be successful. They're not going to. No one's coming to Chevyville, Tennessee to find you and say, guess what? You get to be successful.

You have to fucking understand this, dude, because this idea that's based in our identity that we grew up around has to be broken. in before we can actually be successful. We have to break out of that thinking. When you've grown up a certain way in a certain style and a certain household with a certain income, with a certain mentality, that means that's going to be your identity, bro. And as you grow, that identity is going to have to give way to a new identity that is in line with who you're trying to become before you actually become it.

So I challenge you, brother, to start thinking of yourself already as a successful man, as a strong man, as someone who can create anything and make anything happen because you can. I'm just telling you, bro, you can. There's nothing out here above you that's ever going to stop you from doing that outside of the actions that you take. even if you start to build this hydration pouch and you get up against Andy Ficella who owns first form and they've got unlimited access to marketing funds and this and that and this and I say

fuck it I'm gonna fucking hammer this guy with like dude there's still a way to fucking get around that and beat those people so yeah bro there's no limits dude and I just my thing hearing you talk is what I could tell is that you're still stuck in that identity of how you where you came from and you need to break into this new identity brother and that new identity is going to be you being the best version of yourself the fit the the most fit that you can uh the smartest that you can be the most effective that you can be the kindest

that you can be the most savage that you can be all right and you have to become the product before the product can help you build the life. And you have it, dude. You have it. You've just got to, you know, you've got to understand. It makes sense for you not to understand what it's like because you've never lived it. It makes sense for you to not understand that you can do these things because how many fucking people have you met in real life that are just like you that have done these

things? It's not very common. And that's the gift of the Internet. We were talked in the beginning of the show about. how the internet can be damaging to people because it makes them feel demoralized. You know, we see these 25-year-old kids scamming people and driving Lamborghinis and shit.

All the time. But also, bro, if you pick the right people to look at, you can learn tremendous amounts of information. You keep your head down, you build shit, and eventually all the things you want will come your way. And the internet provides a tremendous value to young men like you. because you could find those people dude yes you're going to have to filter through the

fucking idiots yes you're going to have to recognize that there's a lot of bullshit out there but there are people who have built real products real businesses who do real things that can help keep you on track and obviously you listen to the show and I'm one of them um yes so you're like my top one well brother I appreciate that but I just try to keep it real with you guys because you know for me man you know this is more than just about me this is about our next generation of entrepreneurs understanding that they have to not only be successful but they at you when you are successful have to take on my role with your team you have to become their coach you have to become their brother you have to become their dad you have to become their advisor you have

to help them personally develop and to your point about yeah bro you have to You have to do it for your fucking company. And to your point about the pridefulness that you have about asking for help, let me make you understand something. I had a lot of motherfucking people that help me, bro. Okay. When you hear my story and you hear all these fucking people's story and they say, oh, I grounded it out by myself and nobody ever fucking bullshit. Okay. One of the reasons that I give back so much is because I was fortunate enough to have people in my life that took an interest and my development and helped me.

They told me the things that I needed to hear. They told me the truth. In fact, if you listen to the last CTI, my uncle John, who just passed away, was one of my biggest mentors in that realm of existence. If I did something stupid, he said I was fucking stupid. If I was giving up on myself, he said, dude, what are you doing? You could do this and this and this. And I want you to understand, dude, there is, the weakness is you refusing to ask for help. That's the weakness.

That's your ego. That's your hubris. That's your pride. These are things that will kill you in success. Success is a team effort, bro. You cannot do it on your own. Nobody that you've seen build anything that you, look. I've got my brother who's fucking genius.

I've got Jason fucking genius. I've got Chris fucking genius. I've got a team out here that is all made up of young, smart, hungry people that give a fuck. Bro, I'm surrounded by greatness. Okay? It's not just me. All right. And you have to understand.

Like, if I had gone through life thinking, fuck, dude, I don't need their help. I don't need this. I can't ask for this. Or I'm a pussy. Bro, I wouldn't have that. I wouldn't have any of that. And, you know, my friends that I hang around, bro, these are successful people. The people I spend my time with on the phone, they're successful entrepreneurs.

We collaborate. We work together. We don't gate keep. We realize, because this is what true champions realize, true champions want their competitors to be better because they understand that if that competitor gets better, that they will rise to the occasion and become better themselves. And surrounding yourself with the best fucking people possible, whether they work for you, whether they're an acquaintance or a friend or even in the beginning, sometimes you got to, you know, pay for access to people like that with the right people, not the fucking wrong ones. And once you start to develop that, dude, you start to realize and the picture becomes very clear that you're not the only one, bro.

You know, I'm sure you feel that way because you're in a small town in the middle of 10. and people are kind of going about their way of life which is great dude there's lots of times where I'm like fuck I wish I just lived in a small town and fucking sat on my porch and smoked fucking cones all day like that's right that'd be great but you know I would be bored with that in about fucking five seconds so um listen brother I do have something to say though yeah can I can yes sir so I have been grinding I wouldn't say being but productive yeah like productive over busy any day mm-hmm so I have actually continued with this product and now I'm at the reason why I'm asking

that all why I asked that question is because now I'm at the final stages of it mm-hmm I'm at the final stages of putting it out there get like like having it in my hand my logo my can everything I've already got my samples I paid for that I've already I've already did everything everything I need to do Mm-hmm with this with this hydration pouch and I don't mean no pouches that you put in your water I'm talking like a dip pouch yeah like a like a like a fucking uh yeah I get it Yeah yeah like what are they call one of those pouches that you you do I usually call them tampines oh I don't do those you fuck of course the dip pouches yeah the dip pouches what are they called yeah like ziz yeah

yeah zin is it yeah i made up my own formula i made up my own logo i made up my own name and you know i based it off you man you're your perspective of everything i come from you um you motivated me now it's just stuck because i'm in a place to where well they need this much but i have all these stores that want it all right what they want for is what's got me stuck what's that makes sense well they they they want it cheap not no not cheap but to get the product with my logo and my everything on it the way i want it with everything to be in my perspective

they want so much for it and that will give me so many cans for it so. Oh, you're lacking seed capital is what you're saying. Exactly, because I don't have, like I said, I don't really have people to ask because, I mean, I've been

everything my own. I've already, like I said, I already have samples, I already tried flavors. I paid for that myself. I mean, I work a full-time job at O'Reilly's, which is not good because I know I can be better than that. Brother. I'll do that. Brother.

And I work at a liquor store, too. And I've been there for five years. Just so you know. Just so you know, I worked fucking multiple jobs the first eight years that I. Is that you? Yes. You inspired me to do that. Yes.

Like, and, uh, I just didn't know. Well, I don't know. It was just, I just knew you did that. because I hear it, you know, every day. Well, here's your options. Let me give you the options. One, you go out and find an investor and you sell them part of the, you get him to become a partner, he has to put cash in, you run the business, okay?

Two, you can actually go to, take one of these stores, get a small amount of product made, and start one at a time, bro, keeping your books completely clean. That's what we did. And yes, it took us a little bit longer, but now we own everything. You know, so we've got a debt-free company that, you know, makes it extremely, extremely valuable. You could find that same investor and get them to give you a loan. But at the end of the day, bro, let's say you don't get any fucking help at all. You know, you're going to have to generate, let's just say hardest possible route.

hardest possible route is going to be you working your jobs saving your money to the point where you can order the product in enough quantity to sell it at one store okay and then you're just going to have to roll that out and roll that out and roll that out and be very disciplined that's how we built our business that's how everything that you see that I've done that we've done that we did it that way it just takes longer but with social media with everything that's going on it can go a lot faster for you than it could for us um the next the next best way and by the way the hardest way is usually the best way the reason that that's the best way is because once you go out and make this start to happen you're going to own the entire company now with

that being said, the next best way would be for you to get someone to loan you the money that you pay back. But I would caution against that for where you're at right now because your concept, as much as you believe in it, has yet to be proven. And here's the problem with taking money too fast. If you take money too fast, you end up losing it. You end up in a debt that you have no way to get out of. And that becomes a major problem. We see, see this a lot with small businesses because a lot of these knuckleheads on the internet tell people to go get fucking debt right away, go get a loan right away, get an investor right away, when they don't understand the fundamentals of actually running the business. And

what these people typically do almost every single time is they think they can hit a home run. And we see this mentality even as high as Super Bowl commercials. Every year we see Super Bowl commercials for companies that spend $8 million for a 30 second fucking spot and then we never hear from them again. And the reason that happens is because people think that they can capture customers in these gigantic groups without brand recognition, which you cannot do because all that ad spend that you spend on that Super Bowl, that's only one impression to people. So if they're unfamiliar with your brand, it's not enough for them to make a purchase.

So I need you to remember, you are a small business with limited resources, which means you are going to have to obey the rule of one customer at a time. And one customer at a time is the only way that I know how to grow a business. It's the truth. what happens when these small guys get money is they will say okay let's say they got let's just say for simplicity you get a hundred thousand dollar loan they'll take 80,000 dollars of the loan and they'll put it towards marketing but yet they don't know how to service the customer they don't have the systems in place for fulfillment they don't have the systems in place for reordering and they here's what happens customers order the product

They don't get the right service. It takes a long time. There's things that happen along the experience that make the person say to everybody else, hey, I tried that product and the fucking company sucks. Everybody makes this fucking mistake. I would say 97% of small entrepreneurs make this mistake. Yes, sir. You have to be ready to do the proper ad spend, which means, and I want you to think about it like this, okay?

think about a bucket visualize yourself having a bucket and in the bucket the bottom of the bucket there's a whole bunch of holes okay and the bucket represents your company you go out and you spend money to acquire a bunch of customers those customers come they look at your brand they go in your bucket they buy the product but then they fall out the bottom okay and the reason they fall out the bottom was because of what I just said they got bad service service, bad fulfillment. They didn't get an answer back. It took too long. A million other things, okay? And the experience wasn't good. And it takes time for an entrepreneur to make that experience where it needs to be so that the holes in the bucket get stopped. And that way,

when you have the customers going in, then you have repeat customers over and over and over again and now you have customers advocating for you telling people how awesome your brand is and that's where the scaling can start to happen so until you're to that point where you can accumulate customers without them falling out of the bucket if you go spend money all you're doing is paying for people to notice how shitty your business is and then going and telling everybody about it so it's the exact opposite of what you're trying to create and fucking everybody does it bro because they want to hit that home run they want to hit that grand slam they want to be the 25 year old with the Lamborghini like it just doesn't work that way bro

um so my advice to you would be to start small to be smart to work and use your own capital to get a small amount of product that you then test your your ads and your marketing and by the way you need to be on the fucking street in front you know in front of a table saying hey nice to meet you this is what this does like you're going to have to become the best salesman that you can and the best salesman is really comes down to you having the right intent i want to help you with this problem let me solve this problem for you here's how we solve this problem and then you educate them on it they go out and verify that what you told them was the truth they have an experience that aligns with the message that you gave them they validate that you're

telling them the truth and then they start to trust you and as you build that trust with customers over the course of time they actually become loyal and that's where you start to scale out your company organically and when you get to that point when you throw paid behind it now you have something that's really going to go does that make sense yes sir okay so you know listen man I know, like, I spent a lot of time being very upset about not having a lot of capital when I started, but where I'm at now, if I had a lot of capital when I started, I wouldn't be who I am now.

That's, that's the facts. So, and remember, dude, at 29 years old, I had to move in, I had to move back in with my dad at 27. So, like, I was broke as fuck. I didn't, first form didn't even fucking exist. So you're not in a bad spot, brother, at all. Yes, sir. Love it.

See, at the end, um, my word, the liquor store or whatever, he told me I can set up a venue type deal with a table and if I have samples, I can go in there and I can sample it out to the customers that come in as well. So yeah, he's giving me an opportunity to advertise. it in any way, shape, or form. And he even wants to sell it in the store as well. And I've actually went out, like I said, while I was working at O'Reilly's, which I still am, but I delivery drive, I would go, if I went to a store, I would talk to them

about it, and they would be like, hey, I want to help you as much as possible. Like, I want to, you know, whenever you get it, you come to me, and I will do everything I need to do so I've I've used to I'm pretty I can say I'm pretty well with talking to people good because I have been in the customer service all my life good tremendous skill to have brother especially when you're going to be an entrepreneur yes I just like you say I try to talk to five random people every day every day random and just to talk to them just to see what they got to say and what's it do for your skill set brother man yeah it makes Makes me have more of a clear version of who I am as a person.

Because that person could be going through something. That's right. And then you know what to say. That's right. And then you help them in their life as well as, oh, well, I didn't see in that perspective. It was that time and there was that moment. I just helped somebody else out with their life. That's right, dude.

And honestly, that's the most important fucking thing. We've talked about the entire time. so you got to do you know uh you know uh you've heard of bass pro shops right yes sir do you know where they started I do not

yeah they start in the back of a liquor store really one of the greatest companies that exists in the United States America was started in the back of a liquor store selling fucking fly fishing lures that he made by hand Johnny Morris. It's one of the greatest fucking entrepreneur stories

that's ever existed in this country. And I would encourage you, I would encourage you to go learn everything you can about that man and every other man that's done something like that. Sam Walton, all of these people, bro, they started with nothing. Okay.

And those are much more valuable people to learn from than the fucking idiot on the internet who's driving around a fucking hurricane talking about buying their fucking chat GPT prompts now you notice how these fuckers are now selling their prompts yeah here's my prompt to do this it's like they're not even selling knowledge anymore that's stupid fucking same dudes that sold nfti and yeah right fucking crypto rug pulls and now it's my chat gpt comment chat and i'll send you my chat gpt how about you just fucking ask the chat gp t that's stupid hey chat what would the proper prompt be for this

it'll fucking give it to anyway yeah he's getting pissed off now but it's neither here nor there all right um go study johnny morris bro it'll inspire you yes sir hey i'm not going to lie i know this myself hey i would love to keep in touch with you yeah for like a mentorship what do you look like you know are you cute I mean brother I don't I don't do direct mentorship I I honestly can't afford to do it I do the Artae syndicate which is a few hundred bucks a month but the truth of the matter is bro all the basics that you need I've covered already so if you haven't gone back and listen to the original MFCEO project I would go listen to that because that will help you get the basics down and really the non-basics

as well about how to build a company so if you haven't gone back and started episode one i mean they're rough dude because like i was you know like anybody when just like i said when you start your business you're not going to be great at it i wasn't i wasn't great at it but the points the points are made well so yes sir i would start there uh you know i could easily tell you know hey but give me fucking 300 bucks a month you could joy now dude you don't need to do that yet you don't need to do it yet so um i'm happy to mentor you from afar i will keep you in my mind when i talk about things and make content you're the exact person that i care about succeeding and uh you know that's that's where i'm at right now brother yes sir so i'll keep i i appreciate all y'all yeah

DJ'll give me your Instagram, bro. I'll give you a follow and we'll, uh, I'll keep an eye on you. Big bad, uh, just let me know, DJ and I'll, uh, send you my Instagram over. I already got it. Oh, well, no. No, I got you, dog. I got you. All right, brother.

Well, listen, go do it, man. Don't sit there and think about it. Go fucking do it. Yes, sir. I want, I want, I want you to be a problem for me one day. yeah you know you know supplement so be ready that's what I'm saying I'm good with that I'm good with that I'm good with that just makes me better hey let's hey whenever I get there hey let's talk you hey I don't mind getting the first form line out all right all right let's go deal bro

all right Jeff bro we appreciate you man yes sir thank you all appreciate you all you all you all have a good rest of the day thank you too brother That's cool Yeah, that's cool Yeah, I love that Cool dude bro Bro, I love people That

I just love people To think bigger man And they're like Fuck I'm gonna do this They want bigger Yeah Like here's this guy From the middle of Tennessee

Who's like dude I want to do this Because you inspired me You know And he's gonna go out And fucking build something I guarantee he does it I can't wait to see it

You just You know It's cool man It is man All right guys We got one final one for you Let's, uh, this is a write-in, uh, hello, Andy. Hello.

Hello. Andy, I respect your opinion. So I'm going to ask this question in the hopes that you answer it in some way that makes sense to me. It's a lot of pressure. No, I was wondering if you were going to ask me a question. I would ask it. I told myself I was going to change it for inquire now on.

Okay. I'm probably not your typical person. I'm a 56-year-old fitness guy that sold a business, but not looking to get back into business, but do something different to help the younger generation. I can't think this is the end. I need more legacy. My goal was to work up,

was to work for the up-and-coming clubs to help their younger people better, crunch, fitness-ish. however when I apply they basically say you're not the right fit yeah I've been successful pretty much my entire career I feel like I've missed something recently please tell me what my gut is already telling me you're you need purpose that's what you need okay we we have to have as men especially and women by the way but men especially being the traditional provider which I believe they should be we have to understand understand that we have to have three elements in our life to have what we would consider a good

life, a happy life, a life that allows us to some semblance of internal peace. We require three things. The first thing is discipline. If you're not in control of what it is that you can control, you can't do shit, you're not going to be shit, you're going to feel like shit, you're going to have anxiety you're going to be frustrated you're going to be angry you're going to go through life feeling powerless you're going to have low confidence you're going to have low self-esteem and to be completely honest it's going to ruin your fucking life okay so if you don't have discipline and you haven't cultivated it in your life expect a long or maybe shorter life of fucking misery that's the truth cultivating discipline inside yourself and becoming somebody

who understands how to create momentum, how to make the decisions that you need to make, not the ones you want to make. And being able to control the things that we are control of is the foundation of everything. Here's what we can control. We can control what we eat. We can control what we drink.

We can control how we move. We can control the information we put in our head. We can control the things that we deem worthy to go after. We can control our network, our community, our circle of people that we surround ourselves with. Outside of that, there's not a whole lot that we can control. But the good news is, is that that's most of the shit

that will actually dictate the outcome of our lives. So we gotta have that discipline. The next thing we gotta have is purpose. We have to have a purpose that's bigger than ourselves. It can't just be, I want to be jacked, ripped and rich, and, you know, I want to fucking, you know, spend money. That's not a purpose, bro. That's not a purpose that will never, ever, ever and never has fulfilled anybody. Okay?

So the purpose has to be bigger. What is it that you love to do? And I already know because I come from the same industry. You love to see people change their motherfucking lives. You love to see someone who's 100 pounds overweight, lose all the weight, become a completely different person, take control of their lives, and go on to live an entirely different life because of the things that you either taught them or help them realize. Okay.

Your purpose right now, and by the way, a lot of entrepreneurs deal with this, your purpose right now has been suspended because you sold your business and you got out of business and that for the last probably, you know, however many years was your purpose. And your ultimate purpose in business was to make people better. So, and the third thing you need is gratitude. You have to be able to look at where you are, even if you're on day one, even if you're fucking miserable. you have to be able to back it out and say actually I'm very grateful for who I am where I'm at I'm healthy enough I'm intelligent enough I have the ability to work enough God has put me in a tremendous place to build an incredible story and you have to be grateful

for where you at even when I was totally broke and didn't have anything going for me and everybody was laughing at me i still felt grateful dude i was still at the end of the day when i prayed i was like man thank you i wouldn't trade places with anybody and that was part of my that was part it's still part of my prayer dude like i legit and i know this sounds crazy and probably egotistical i don't know but i wouldn't trade with anybody i wouldn't trade my life for anybody else's life it doesn't matter who they are and i felt that way when i was fucking broke. I felt that way when I was fat. I felt that way when I didn't quote unquote have shit going for me. It was just something that I was able to do. And back then I was

grateful for the opportunity, even if I wasn't capitalizing on it. I was grateful for the people around me. I was grateful for my friends, my family, my dogs, whatever I could fucking find to be grateful for because it puts you in the right vibrational energy state. So it's sounds like you have the discipline and I'm sure you have the gratitude but what you're lacking right now is purpose and you've got to figure out what that is and I think you already know what that is you love helping people get better so how are you going to do that now versus how you did it before and that doesn't necessarily look like something that you have to go get hired at a gym for you know there's lots of ways to do this man you can volunteer you could start your own boot camp

for free. Like there's all kinds of shit you could do, brother, that helps people. I mean, you could help people one-on-one, man. You know, there's lots of different ways. And you're going to have to figure out that way that fulfills you. And if it's not that, then you're going to have to fill your life with a different purpose. You know, one of my really good friends sold his business. And after he sold his business, his purpose became he wanted to take care of wildlife so he opened up a wildlife reserve and that's what he does and that's his purpose and while it's not the same thing as he did before it's something that fulfills him so he still practices discipline he's still very grateful he's not in business but he's fulfilled by this other purpose and i would

caution any entrepreneur that is exiting their business to never exit your business without an understanding of what you're going to do next because I have seen so many people work their whole lives, sell their business for so much fucking money, and then be completely miserable. In fact, I've known a couple that have killed themselves because they've been so depressed. And they don't realize that it's not about the money, bro. It's about seeing the project through. It's about being grateful for where you are. And it's about fulfilling your purpose on a daily basis and yes when you don't have any money it's about money but if it always stays about money you're always going to be fucking broke emotionally so and fulfillment wise so so i would say man

like look you got to do some some deep digging here about what's going to fulfill you for the next part of your life you know 57 years old is not that old anymore there's all kinds of technology there's all kinds of things coming out you know one of my buddies uh he said to me recently he's he's battling uh cancer he's doing really good and i think he's going to make it i fucking thought he was going to die for sure but he pulled through and uh he said to me he goes bro i'm like man you're doing good he's like yeah he's like i fucking watch what elin's doing he's like i know i got only make it like five more years i get to live forever is right right so we'll see the first person who lives to 150 on lifetime but i mean maybe the second

or third considering some of these ghouls that are running the world but you know at the end of the day man we have to understand that purpose is what drives fulfillment and without it no matter how much no matter how much money you make you're not going to feel good and I would argue on top of that that people that make the most money have the strongest purpose that just aligns with something that can make money you know like people when you ask people and you say hey what's the purpose of starting a business every fucking single one of them will say to make money. The purpose of a business is not to make money.

The purpose of a business is to solve a fucking problem at scale, which then people trade money for. It's a fucking different perspective. And when you look at it, like you're trying to solve the problem the best that you can, people recognize that and trade you their money for it. And the richest motherfuckers in the world understand that. They make the best products they can.

And they understand that people will give them their money for it. And that's what they do. So the product has to benefit people. It has to be real. It can't be a fucking pie in the sky, you know, bullshit. You know what I mean? It's the people who are the best, make the most money. And the reason is is because the whole entire reason the business exists

is to solve problems for the customers. So when you adjust your mindset around that, the money comes. But neither here nor there, you've got to have a purpose no matter what. You're going to be fucking miserable. So, you know, when I think of my life, You know my purpose is as big as it could fucking possibly be bro. I want to save the motherfucking world. I want to change culture in a way to where these criminal tyrants can't ever fuck with people ever again because everybody's fit independently wealthy, strong, mentally

stable, not easily manipulated. You know, when we have personal excellence at scale, it creates a population that cannot be controlled. And that's what I want to do at scale. That's a big fucking mission it's going to take my whole life and I'll probably still lose okay but the bigger the mission the bigger the purpose the bigger the actions the bigger the results the bigger the payoff the bigger the fulfillment like it's got to be big bro at least for me yeah so yeah man um I think everybody should have a purpose in their life that cannot that is not passive meaning people will say you know I'm just going to say this people are going to get upset about it but it's the truth we have this new revival of Christianity okay which I love I'm happy for I think it's great

but then we also have these people who are you know quitting their jobs quitting their and they're saying I live for the for the church or I live for the Bible or the scripture and it's like bro that's you're missing a point you're giving gifts you were given talent the Bible talks about it and when you don't use them it's a slap in the face to your Savior so sitting and hiding behind God or Christianity or prayer or scripture and doing nothing with your life is cowardly and not respected by God and it talks about that in the Bible so you know we have to have a big vision we have to take big action we have to be big purpose and the purpose needs to be active something that we create something that

we do something that we contribute to other people And I don't know what that is for you, brother But you got to figure it out And if you don't figure it out, you're going to be miserable I love it, dude Yeah, I love it man Guys, that makes sense Absolutely, bro

Absolutely I was gonna, I mean, you kind of covered I was gonna ask though But like, you know, what's the dangers What's the risk of not having that purpose there? Like you could be as disciplined as you want And practice your gratitude Yeah

But if you don't have a purpose bigger than yourself What's the fucking, what's the point? Yeah Yeah What's the point? What's the point? Bro, I've been ripped I've been rich

you know what I'm saying you think I fucking really give a shit I've lived that way for so long I don't fucking care you know what I care about my purpose you know what I care about helping people get better

you know what I care about making people personally excellent so these fucking tyrants can't keep fucking with everybody that's what I care about and that's an impossible mission to achieve but the ideas

and the business that will result from this which you guys haven't even fucking heard about yet there's a reason I wasn't fucking doing anything on the internet for five years by the way what I've created will solve that fucking problem and I believe it'll be the biggest product in the fucking history of mankind that's the truth yeah but it comes out of passion and service you see what I'm saying

absolutely man I love it I love it man well guys Andy that was three yeah all all right guys well let's get after it this week and we'll see you tomorrow on CTI don't be a hoe Share the show. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jury box froze. Fuck a bull. Fuck a stole.

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