REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 944. Q&AF: Rethinking Success, Redefining Life’s Mission & Balancing Business Responsibilities

Episode Date: September 29, 2025

On today’s episode, Andy answers live call-in questions on how to rethink success when your job is going well but feels unfulfilling, how to discover your real purpose in life, and how to work through the difficulties of co-owning a small business.

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Just a no headshot case closed. Close. What is up guys? It's Andy for selling. This is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society. And welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF.

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benton cracked it again did you ever find the snake no really yep now you know so you know what's just happening you're thinking like you know it's almost like a hyperchondriac almost so as soon as I was like driving yesterday I started getting smells you know what I started smelling shit coming through the vents well you think it killed it well I think so but so like the first one I started smelling like a skunk that was just a black dude in front of you smoking weed so I'm okay we're good then I started smelling like some like it was just like weird like nasty burnt plastic

I'm like what's that and then I saw a white dude smoking meth driving in front of me so I got it that's not the snake it's not the snake so you didn't smell the snake no I didn't I was just freaking out thinking I was man yeah I don't know dude it's weird bro it's so weird

yeah it's so weird well I don't like it RIP yeah yeah but yeah and then I had to replace a rim attire you know how that happened St. Louis, pot holes, bro. We got some bad roads here.

Yeah, how come I never have to replace rims? You don't go to the city like that, though. Yeah. You do? Yeah. Where? Like 55 northbound, bro. Where are you going down there?

I still go, I got family down there, bro. That's still be in the shit. So that's where you hurt the rim? Yeah, on the state streets. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. All right. It's hot over there.

Yeah. Yeah, man. So, you know, it's been a good day, though. You know, I'm here. I got some good questions. for you. All right. We're going to make some people better today.

How are you feeling? You know what? Five alive? I think so. Yeah. I think so. Still trying to get past this. Kung flu.

Yeah. Whatever it was. The Kung flu. The Chinese virus. China. That's right. Why do you keep calling it the Chinese virus? Because it's from China.

It's right. That's right. That's right. That's right. Well, yeah, man. Let's do it. Let's get some calls in. I got three of them.

All right. So let's knock these out. All right. Yeah, first question. We've got to write in for you. Andy, I've been teaching martial arts for almost 20 years while simultaneously being a full-time school teacher. I never did it for money. I did it because it gave me a way to help people transform their lives.

But now I'm tired. I'm five years away from retirement. and I'm struggling to keep the school open. Part of me wants to close it, take my time back and start pouring into the people in my immediate circle, the ones who've often taken a back seat while I've served this passion for two decades.

I know I don't need your permission to make this decision. What I am asking is for your perspective. In your view, does success have to be measured by big accomplishments or can it be found in the smaller, quieter things we invest in. I feel guilty for wanting to stop like I'll be letting others down, but I'm stuck at this crossroads and I want to hear how you see it. I would appreciate your thoughts on this. I have a month left to make this decision. Well, what's it matter what I think or what I see? You're the one that's got to live your life, dude. You know, I can't sit here

and tell you what success means for every individual. I, you're, you're the one that's got to live your life, dude. I, you know, I, I can't sit here and tell you what success means for every individual. I exist for those people who want to go out and build an extraordinarily traditional successful life, make money, kick ass, be fit, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, okay? I can't tell you how to determine success for yourself, but here's what I will tell you is that a lot of people, when they have a hard time making financial success, they will start to tell themselves a story about how it's not that important and I didn't really want it and it wasn't something that I wanted anyway and I got tricked into going for it

and then they start blaming everybody for their own failures and then settle into a life that they never actually wanted because what they actually wanted ended up. up being much harder than they anticipated. So my warning to you would be it's okay to determine success as being different things than what, you know, maybe we talk about here on the show. That's fine. But at the end of the day, most people who abandon the traditional wins of a successful life that most people consider to be successful making good money being fit having strong relationships having a good life doing what it is you want to do um you know these people are moving away from that because they couldn't cut it and so I would just warn you to make sure that's

not what's going on you know if you've done this for 20 years and you're truly tired of it and you want to change and you want to do dude by all means man you know we only got one life to live and you got to do the things that make you happy but at the end of the day being broke doesn't make anybody happy no matter what anybody says no matter how they try to play it no matter how they try to spin it that makes you fucking miserable and it makes your life a lot harder and um you know I guess my my answer to this question would just be just really think about why it is you feel the way you feel because if it's a temporary thing and then you give it up, that's going to be a problem because it's going to be hard to get it going back again.

And you might not have the opportunity to go back again. If it's a long-term feeling that you've felt for a long time and maybe you need a switch of direction in your life, that's fine too. But make no mistake, dude, there's going to be no sitting around, relaxing, chilling, talking about the good old days, enjoying the breeze through your hair without some financial fucking freedom. that's the reality okay and you will have all these people tell you all these things about how it's not important and this this and that and this and that but then out the other side of their mouth

they're always complaining about how they don't have any fucking money how life's not fair how fucking hard it is and they bitch and whine and complain about the things they say that they don't even want in the first place which is the ultimate form of hypocrisy and the most annoying form of hypocrisy because it's very apparent to everybody else from the outside what's actually going on. You know, you're not the first person who ever decided to make a change because it was hard out there. And, you know, you got to tell yourself, oh, well, I got different priorities now and then just give up on the dream. Like, bro, people have been doing this forever. And it's interesting to me how many people try to hide behind this how many people try to fool people they try to act

like they're having some sort of moral enlightenment moment when in reality bro you're just fucking unable to do it and you're not willing to put the work in that's required to become the person that you actually want to become and if you're quitting on yourself like that i can promise you the rest of your life you're going to regret so you got to be very careful when you make decisions like this are you making this decision because it's actually The truth. What you're saying is the truth. I want to change of direction. I want to do something different. I want to do different with my life. If that's true, then go do that. If it is, you are saying, man, I've never really been able to make this work. I've never been able to make this go. I've never been able. So I'm just going to kind of retire myself and look another direction and pretend that I just want to be this vagabond hippie mentality type person. You're going to be miserable there too. So I would just be very careful when you make decisions about changing paths on what

you're doing and take all things into account. Yes, quality of life is the ultimate point here, right? We want to get to a point where we're happy, we're productive. We've got the resources to do what we want. That's what everybody wants. But, you know, we somehow. in this country have started to mistake pulling away from what some people will call the rat race

into some little, you know, like simpleton life, which by the way, is fine, okay? But you think you're not going to have any fucking problems, dude. I mean, you're going to have problems. It's going to be hardships. There's going to be things you can't do. There's going to be limitations. And if you're okay with those things, that's fine.

But the reality is, from my experience, most people that ask questions like I'm being asked right now are doing so because it's very fucking hard at the moment. And they're trying to justify moving on to something else. And they're trying to make their quitting sound more palatable. Acceptable to everybody. Correct. And it's just another justification that our bitch voice tells us about how we want to live our life. And then once we get into it, we're right back where we started, where it's like, fuck, dude, I want more than this. This is not what I want it.

And then you're back at zero. So 20 years. Yeah, dude. It's a hard, it's a hard decision to make. And I think a lot of people with the way society is right now, I mean, look, dude, you see people quit their jobs and other people cheer for them. You know what I'm so strong. Yeah, they're like, oh, I'm so proud of you. Yeah, you're so brave.

That's the weakest, loserish shit on the fucking planet. And if you look, all those people that do that all quit their jobs and are miserable and not doing shit and struggling. And they put on this face out in the world like they're so much happier and they're so this and that. But dude, you can't be that happy when you can't afford to fucking take care of your shit. You can't be that happy when you know you're leaving all your talents and skills and potential on the table. You can't be that happy when you're struggling every day to buy a fucking gallon of milk. It's just impossible. So, you know, I see through the bullshit.

And so does everybody else, by the way. You're not fooling anybody. So I would just make sure my perspective is what you asked for. I would just make sure that whatever you decide to do, you have a plan of what you're going to do next. And it, and it mass out so that it can support your lifestyle. You know, I think, I think, because I, you know, I read the email. I read these questions and stuff that come in.

And I feel like there's always this common question, like, at the root of it that people are really asking. And, you know, I guess the question is, like, when you're on the path of success, you've, you, there's plenty of metaphors and analogies that you can, you know, put this to. But when you're on that path of success, you're climbing that ladder or you're in the jungle, right? You're in the weeds. What are the signs that you look for to know that you're where you're supposed to be? how do you know I'm putting all this work in I'm putting all this effort and how do I know that this is going to work well that's the hard part of being successful DJ you don't always know that dude being able to live with the uncertainty of going down the path is part of the skill set that has to be developed for successful individuals there's no guaranteed path for people there was no guaranteed path for Elon Musk there was no guaranteed path for Jeff Bezos there was no guarantee path for me there was no guaranteed path for any of these people that you look up to they took a risk and the reason they took the risk was because instead of asking themselves man what's going to happen

if i go out there and fail they ask themselves the inverse of that which is what's going to happen if i never fucking try what's going to happen and i never go after this what's going to happen if i don't give it everything i got what's my life going to be like if i let this idea or this project or this business pass okay and that is more painful to them than the idea of falling on their face I don't give a single fuck about what anybody thinks about me falling on my fucking face okay I've already accomplished more than 99.9999% of humans that ever motherfuckin walk the face of this planet will ever accomplish so I don't care if I follow my fucking face what I actually care about is if I have something that I feel driven

to do and I don't do it. How am I going to feel when I'm going to die? Okay. And that's what makes successful people, driven people, achievement happen. They don't wonder, what's going to happen if I do this and I embarrass myself? They don't give a fuck, bro. What they wonder is, man, if I don't go do this, how am I going to feel about it knowing that it could have worked or if I see someone else doing it and it works?

And then I just let it sit there and, you know, I didn't do anything with it. And I didn't become who I was supposed to become. I didn't get in shape and I didn't make that money and I didn't build that, you know, project or I didn't do that business or I didn't build that organization. I didn't ask that girl out. I didn't fucking didn't, didn't, didn't, bro, you're going to be dead. You're going to be fucking dead. Okay.

So you're really not risking anything. That's the point. All right. Nobody's going to remember that you started a little business and fell on your fucking face in 30 years. No one gives a shit. The only way they're going to remember is if you fell on your face enough, learn enough and built it into something amazing. where it's recognized universally by everybody.

Otherwise, they're not even going to remember you falling down. You know how many fucking times I fell on my face building what we've got now? A million times. Do you know how many times people bring it up? Zero. They don't give a shit because I've won, okay? Well, I haven't won.

By the standard. By the standard, their standard. I don't feel like I've won. I feel like I'm just getting started. But the point is that you have to start, thinking like a winner and like a successful person thinks and successful people understand that falling on your face in front of a bunch of fucking losers isn't shit it doesn't matter don't fucking care what the fuck do i care what people think you know what i'm saying yeah

that's the attitude they're not paying my fucking bills they're not they're you know like dude it's irrelevant and and dude people on the beginning side of the journey dude and it makes sense okay like it's their person perspective, right? Like when you're, when this is your world, okay, and you're living in this little bubble that you see as your entire world and you're refusing to understand that there is this entire fucking universe outside of that bubble that has no idea who you are. It doesn't care who you are. Doesn't care about you. To think that they're going to care that you fall in your face is egotistical. You're giving yourself more importance as an individual than what you actually have. You're worried about the wrong shit. It's not even that. You're fucking arrogant. You think you're more important than you fucking actually are. You are not that important. You are not important enough for people to really give a fuck about you falling on your face.

You're only important enough to you. You care about that. But the rest of the world doesn't. So if the rest of the world doesn't give a fuck, why do you give a fuck? It's like going ice skating, bro. You go ice skating, right? This is the best example I can fucking think of. Because almost everybody sucks at ice skating.

Okay? When you go to fucking ice skating and you put on the fucking ramp, now, not me, because I've played hockey my whole life. But when you put fucking skates on and you go to the little thing and you rental and you see everybody falling on your ass out there, what do you think? You don't think anything. No, I'm next. Yeah, you're like, fuck, dude. That's going to be me. That's going to be me.

You don't even fucking think about it. And everybody's falling on their ass. They're eating shit. They're fucking falling down in front of their kids and nobody gives a fuck. nobody gives a fuck now that's the same way business works that's the same way achievement works that's the same way setting a goal and going after it works everybody falls all the time but for some reason when it comes to this part of our lives we have a big problem with people seeing us fall we're like oh man i don't want to fucking stumble bro it's the same thing nobody knows what the

fuck they're doing when they get started and only after you know a hundred times of skating do you see the motherfucker come out and do the Mallorina's Whirls and shit and make you look like a fucking idiot in front of your girl you know what I'm saying? You're like that guy's fucking gay Like you know but like dude We fucking we fucking don't think of it

The right way Okay everybody's falling down You just don't see it They don't get on the internet and say I fucking fell down again today Oh guess what I bounce a check today Oh guess what I'm out of money today Oh guess what

Guess, they don't do that. All they do is they say, fuck, bro, I'm here to $70 million in one fucking minute. Buy my course. And that's what we're seeing. And that's not real. The realest shit is to understand that everybody falls the fuck down. And if you can't, if you can't accept that you're going to be one of those, how can you ever become the guy doing the fucking triple whoopty boops? You know what I'm saying?

I'm sure he had a first day too. Dude, listen, bro. How are you going to become an effective ice. skater if you don't get on the fucking ice. You can't do it. You can't do it. You can sit there in the fucking stands. You can watch them.

Unlimited, you can watch. You can say, oh, look at that guy. Look at that guy. Look at this guy. Look at this guy. Look at this guy. You're not going to learn until you get the fuck out there. And then what you're going to realize is all the motherfuckers laughing at you, they

won't even get on the fucking ice. They won't even fucking put the skates on. No. So why do you care what they think? You know what I'm saying? And this number, this, this major mental block is just not understood by people. You know, people will say so, I don't give a fuck what anybody thinks. Well, if that's the case, why aren't you doing shit?

You could say that all you want, but your actions tell the story. So I just think, you know, we all have to realize like nobody's, nobody that you admire started out going out on the ice the first time. fucking looking like Wayne Gretzky, bro. It's just not reality. And if you're not willing to look stupid, you can't do it. I love it, man. I love it. We got to, let's get another question in, man.

Let's, we got a call. Let's get Brandon on the phone. Hello? Hello, is Brandon? Hello? Hello? Hello, is this Brandon. Can you hear me?

Yes, sir. Brandon, what's going on, man? What's going on, Doug? What's up with you, man? Where are you calling from? Charlotte, North Carolina. Okay, all right. I hear the twang in there.

Yeah, what's up, Brandon? A little bit in there. What's going on, Andy? How are you doing? I'm doing good, brother. How are you doing? Can I complain? I'm on my way back from Knoxville.

From Knoxville? Yes, sir Oh man That's beautiful country out there, man It is What are you doing? I drive trucks for a living All right, cool

Nothing wrong with that Nothing wrong with that All right Brandon So what we got man How can we help So My question to you guys is Is that I am

Well, let's give you a little History, I'm 24 years old I have a young family of three We have a three-year-old, the fiancé, and I have another son on the way doing January. I'm a truck driver. I'm in the military as well. I'm in the Air Force Reserves. Basically, our question to you is that I'm stuck in, like, between a rock and a hard place right now to where I feel like I've accomplished building the foundation for my family,

and I'm trying to find a direction on where to build upwards from. And I'm always asking my family members, like, hey, what should I be doing? Should I be doing this? Should I be doing that? Like, well, they're like, well, branding is 24. Just relax, you know, enjoy what you've done. I'm like, no, but it's nothing. It's like I'm itching for something else.

It's like I'm trying to find another purpose to fulfill, to feel fulfilling. Because, yes, I'm grateful for my accomplishments, but I feel like there's something else that I should be doing, and I can't figure it out. All right, so let me ask you this. Yes, sir. What are you, you're talking about your job, correct? Not necessarily my job because I want to say my goal is to end up buying my own rig and owning it. But, you know, that's, you know, I've been saving up for a while, I've been driving for like three years now.

So, you know, that's neither here or there. I'm trying to figure out what other steps can I take towards that. If there's something else that I should be doing, there's something that can't be doing. Like, I'm, I'm trying to figure out which, which direction of both either. Or if I should just be like, well, I've done everything I can do right now. I'm going to just see it. But I'm like, no, but I can't do that. Yeah.

So let me, let me, okay, first of all, for 24 years old, bro, you're doing really good. Okay. and you should feel definitely good that you're moving the right direction. You know, your family's growing. You feel a sense of deep obligation to provide and set a foundation for them. And you have a goal past the point of where you're trying to go. Now, here's where I would, this is what I would tell you, dude. owning a truck is that's a goal right but like bro you're 24 man you could own a thousand trucks

you know what I'm saying so my encouragement towards you is to realize that whatever limits that you have in your brain those are other people limits those are people's limits that you've grown up around those are people's limits that you know you've you've had installed into you whether through school or the military or people that you respect And that's not a bad thing, but you just have to recognize that your life is your life, Brandon. And you already have something that most people your age do not have, which is self-awareness of what's going on. And while a lot of people are going to look at what you're doing and they're going to say, Brandon, you're doing great, bro. Just chill.

Just relax. Let it happen. Let it happen. That's how you end up doing the same thing you're doing now when you're 34. and then you're 44 and now you're fucking miserable with that so you having your mind in the place that it is is a very good place to have it because you're what i'm hearing from brandon is i'm hungry i want to move i want to be fulfilled i want to make sure i'm putting my time into something that's going to be worthy of that investment and that is a powerful

mentality to have when you're young because most people don't get that until it's too late they go they will they will listen to your friends right now brandon and they will say all right cool i'm doing good and then at 34 they'll be in the same spot and their friends will be saying the same thing brandon what are you bitching about dude you're doing good you're doing great this is this is okay and you're not happy okay and then at 44 you know you finally wake up and you say man i've been living to their standards and I want this but now you've wasted all this time so the good news is is that you are not going to have to waste all this time you're already on top of it and to your friends and families

who are telling you you know hey man just relax dude look that's their limits that's their life that's what they want that's not what's going to make you fulfilled or you wouldn't even be asking the question so what do I think you should do I think you should continue to do what you're doing I think you should learn as much as you can about your profession. I think you should figure out a business plan of how you're going to have 10 trucks by the age of 30, not one truck. And I think you need to start taking action against that. Because, dude, I'm telling you, bro, like when I was 24 years old,

I was four or five years into my business. I still only had one retail store. And if someone had came to me and said, bro you're thinking too fucking small that would have benefited me a lot because it took me another six years to really get shit going because i thought that i was winning i thought you know hey man i'm doing good most people don't have this business but the truth of the matter was i wasn't fulfilled it wasn't big enough it didn't require all my attention i didn't have to pour myself into it the way that i you know that i do now and i needed that project to be fulfilled so

you know I would encourage you to think about that brand and I would say how are you going to own 10 trucks by the time you're 30 and how are you going to a thousand by the time you're 40 that's what I would like to see from brandon because it's not going away bro and you know your expertise and in logistics and trucking you know let's say you maybe five years maybe it's all automated trucks but you have such good relationships with the companies and and the logistics and and all these things that you're able to create an amazing logistics company off of that. So, you know, bro, a lot of times when people feel unfulfilled, it's really just because they don't have something that's big enough that requires all of their skill set. I was just telling my friends here, my buddies, in the podcast studio yesterday, this is a, this is a parallel story, but you'll understand what I'm saying. I was not a very good student. I tested very high on standardized tests, the SAT, the ACT, I would test out of the fucking room on those.

But my grade point average was, you know, a 2.0. And I was ranked at one of the top academic high schools in the whole country almost last. I was like in the top, I was in the bottom 10 in my class. And when I went to college, I got, because I tested so high, I got into some nice colleges. and I went to St. Louis University for my first semester. And in my first semester, I ended up finding my way into a level four political science class. And, dude, it was so, so hard. But at the end of the semester, I got the highest grade in the class.

Everybody else got C's and B's. I got an A plus. And the reason I did was because it was so hard. It required all of my attention, all of my interest. And I felt very proud of that. was the first time in school that I ever felt like, yeah, I did something here. This mattered. And it took me until, you know, funny enough, that was almost the end of my college career. But, but the point is, is that, dude, if we don't test ourselves and we don't push

ourselves and we don't hold ourselves into account to be great, we're going to feel like we left it on the table, bro, and that's the last thing you want. You know what I'm saying? correct 100% so see that's why I joined the military to begin with because I joined the military right out of high school then the whole COVID thing happened and then I ended up getting put out

of the military because of the whole mandate stuff three years down the line when my son turned he's turning four this year I ended up going back in because of him I'm like well I owe it to him but also I didn't feel fulfilled in my military service also because

I feel like I left up on a table there as well so that's why I eventually ended up joining the military again yeah well look bro here's the thing anything we do in life if we don't give it our all it's never going to fulfill us no matter like bro even if you like if you're on a fucking sports team and your sports team wins the national championship uh and you and you didn't try as hard as you could have you're going to always feel like that trophy doesn't really belong to you you know and And that's a very important point of our life. Like, and that can go even into, even into CEOs and founders and operators of companies.

Like, there becomes a point where, you know, when you found a company, if you're doing it right, they don't really need you. And when the company's performing really well, but they don't need you, that creates an empty feeling even though you're, you're checking all the boxes. The score is the right score. You're making the right money. Things are going well, but because you're not putting it in, you end up feeling depressed and unfulfilled. And dude, honestly, this is why a lot, we hear these, you know, very successful people end up dealing with very dark, dark issues. Because the way the game has been presented to them is work hard, automate the business, step away, let it print money. And then these people go get on their boat and they're,

fucking miserable, bro, because the game isn't about what you get. It's what you give. It's what you're giving. It's what you contribute. It's what you put in. And when you're not putting it all in, bro, you're never going to feel fulfilled. You're right. I know, brother.

So look, man, my long story short, one sentence answer. You got to expect. You got to Expans your goals bro bigger vision for you. You weren't meant to have just one mother fucking truck bro. I can hear it in your voice Okay, you were meant to do something that is that is much bigger than that and you have a lot of life and a lot of skill and a lot of hunger and a lot of love inside of you bro. I can hear it and you got to put that into with something You know your career your family a hundred percent dude and you're gonna you're that feeling you're feeling all that is is your your your your conscience It's probably a little bit of God, too, telling you, hey, Brandon, this ain't it, bro.

You're meant for bigger shit. Yeah. Because I've gotten, even with the company I've dropped for now, it's like, I've already been here, what? Maybe like a year and a half now. And I'm doing more than the people that's been here longer than me. I started at the bottom doing night shift driving, switch the days, maybe a year, six months being into the company now I have the people the people that have been in the company longer than me and being me oh how he did this first or how did he do this

going to the managers complaining yeah well all I hear is on it you know yeah well I mean it sucks to suck mm-hmm they can fucking hate all they want bro you're doing the work they're not doing it just waits you got your own truck and company they're putting in job application that's right that's right sounds like this brandon here's a fucking winner bro You can fucking hear it. I love it, dude. I love it. Brandon, we appreciate your calling, man.

Hope that helps. I appreciate y'all. Thank y'all so much for what y'all do. Honestly, y'all have overly, overly helped me with this problem. And I appreciate y'all. And I listen to y'all every day, every morning in the truck. So y'all get my day started every morning. We appreciate you, man.

Thank you so much, Brandon. You got to text us. Yes, sir. Next this number of picture that first truck you get, bro. I want to see it. Yeah. I got you. All right, man.

I'll see you, Brandon. See you, dude. All right. I love that, man. And it's so important, bro, because... Bro, this is why the fuck I do this. I love it. That is why the fuck I do this.

That is why I do this. People are like, what do you do... What do you fucking do all this shit? That's why. Brandon. That's why. Young man... Going out, building something that matters,

taking care of his family, He's setting a fucking example, holding the standard higher, getting his, the, his peers are all pissed off. Yeah, they're pissed off because you're doing what they should be doing. Mm-hmm. I fucking love it. Dude, it's like that, that lesson of just thinking bigger is so fucking value. Bro. It's hard, though.

Bro, it's hard for people when they don't, if they don't have any examples of what that looks like or they don't know, you know, you know, what, it's hard. It can be a very difficult thing. That's why you have to go out and intentionally get in proximity of successful people and the life that you want. When I had nothing, I would drive up and down the streets of nice neighborhoods and look at houses. When I couldn't afford a fucking Ford truck brand new, I was going in the fucking Lamborghini dealerships and looking at Lamborghinis with my brother for years, for years. okay you have to intentionally put yourself in situations that allow you to touch experience taste that life if that means going to dinner once every six months to a really nice place that you really shouldn't be going to dinner to you should do that okay if that means you know

paying a hundred bucks or fucking a couple hundred bucks to be in proximity of other motherfuckers that are that are on your level or that what you want to be that's That's what you should do. You have to be intentional about putting yourself in contact with these things. Because, dude, you're right, bro. Most people never know someone who drives a fucking Rolls Royce. Most people don't know someone who's built a real company like that employs, you know, all these people and shit.

Most people don't know, you know, they don't, we, bro, we don't know. like yeah yeah seeing it online in enough i was fortunate enough do yes i was fortunate enough to to actually know a guy who was fairly young who who was successful and i mean he ended up not being very good thing he uh he he he he ended up with some problems but i just leave it at that but the point is is that if you can't see it it's hard to believe it it's hard to believe it's possible so you have to put yourself in the proximity of these things that you want in this life that you're trying to build on a consistent basis. And the most interesting thing that will happen to you when you surround yourself with

people that are very successful is that you will realize they're really not any different than you. They're really not. They're just same. And there's no magic and there's no, they don't have these. They're just a regular person, bro, who fucking went all in and never fucking stopped. you know and you just haven't started yet yeah that's all it is i love it dude i love it we got another call uh let's get another call in man um we got amy on the phone let's give amy a call

is amy hey how's it going this dj hi hi how are you i'm good how are you fabulous thank you so much for your time so what's up amy how are you hey great how are you good so what can we help I want to thank you so much for your time. Oh, yeah, obviously. I mean, this is what we do here. So is amazing. I wanted, I did the 75 hard and did the live hard year. It's just been an awesome change of mentality and everything.

So first and foremost, thank you. That's amazing. I, so real quick, because I want to be the best for your listeners as well as your time as well. So I have a small business that I started. Under 15 employees started four years ago. My question is with two owners, I vaguely remember seeing or hearing something that you had mentioned, but I cannot for the life of me find it. Was it harder on you, or I think you said it was harder on Chris the first year, and it appeared to everybody else that he wasn't doing as much or anything, something similar to that. And my question for that is because it's harder on my spouse to understand, well, why isn't so-and-so doing as much as you?

but I'm the face of it. I do all of the, like, customer service asset, I mean, aspect of things. I'm out and about doing all of the stuff. It's a very labor-intensive job. I do all of the bookkeeping, the QuickBooks, the taxes, the social media, all of it. And that person, the other person, runs the crew portion of it. And so that's what's harder for my spouse to understand is it's going to be heavier on me right now, which I actually love, I don't mind it in the least because I know it's just blood,

sweat and tears, but it's, I wanted kind of another person's perspective of what it took to get to that point. If that makes sense. Yeah, for sure. Um, okay, before I get into this, let's let's understand this. There is no perfect way to balance out responsibilities in business. Or at home in the household, okay? And just like an effective household, an effective business has to be run as a team. And there should not be these arguments about, well, I do more, I do this and this is harder or this is that and this. Look, we just do what the fuck we need to do. And that's what's required to have a good home.

And that's what's required to have a good business. And in the early days of my business, Chris did everything, okay? I worked with the customers, which we didn't have that many. So Chris did all basically all the ordering, all the, all the back end, all the bookkeeping, all of those things. And, you know, I dealt with the customers, but we didn't have any. So it was like I wasn't doing anything. And as the business grew, you know, my lift became a lot heavier. and his lift was not as seen right and yes so people would see you know a different dynamic they would

they would see like well Andy seems like he's doing all this shit but you know they don't see the backside and that is exactly how I feel yeah dude and that's that's just people who don't understand how a business is supposed to operate really understanding because the truth of the matter is is an effective winning company they don't do the tit for tat you know everything's equal they do the hey man we're going to win whatever needs to be done we're going to do it here's the shit that you need to do here's the shit that i need to do they're both important let's go take care of them and that looks different in each person's role you know today we have sal has his role i have my role Chris has his role.

Jason has his role. We all do different things that if we didn't do those things, none of the machine would work. So there has to be a trust and a understanding that we are all doing our jobs and nobody's job is necessarily more important than anybody else's because without one of them, none of them matter. Exactly. That's how I feel is without that person, I wouldn't be successful. but it just appears that it's heavier on me right now and I'm okay with that yeah because I'm the face of it mm-hmm well look that's if you're the face of it it's always going to appear that way and here's the bad news you're gonna get

the credit but you're also gonna get the bad shit too you know like which I'm okay yeah yeah yeah it's but dude that's just part of the deal man and people who yeah people who aren't in every single winning business that that I've ever been in contact with operates the way I just said. Every single. Fabulous. Every single business that I see fail,

they do what, they do what people do. You did this, you did that. You spent $4,000 more on your suits than I did on my televisions. Like, they argue, yeah, bro, it's stupid shit. And the reality of winning is that everybody has to handle their shit and none of it's more important. and it's all required and to me and in my companies I mean the the person who packs the box in the back of the warehouses is equally as important as the decisions that are made at the very top we because because if they don't pack the boxes our decisions don't fucking matter so everybody's doing their role and um and if you do that in a humble way without ego you end up with a functional culture and organization

I don't I don't think that I think it's very hard for people who are not in an organization or on a team that operates that way to really understand that what what is your that's how I feel with my husband like he's super supportive super loves like I mean just all in but he struggles with why why is it all on you why are you doing and I'm like you don't even see the day to day stuff so why are you nitpicking like it's not well it's hard for him to wrap his head around but I'm like you're not in it every day I am yeah different so here's the conversation hey look I know you're trying to I know you're looking out for me and I know that you care and you're making sure I don't get taken advantage of but here's the reality it takes everybody here to make this work and you may see it as I'm doing all the work but I promise you I'm not because this and this and this still has to happen and these things are happening. And, you know, for you, you have to understand that's coming from a place of him trying

to make sure that you're not getting screwed over, which, you know, I think any good husband has that protective instinct inside of them to make sure that their wife isn't being fucked with, you know, so I don't think it's a bad thing that he thinks that way. I think it's just not in the least. And that's right. I don't want to sound like, yeah, yeah. he's fantastic it's just it's been a hard balance because I'm like there has to be other people that have experienced them being the face of it to start I mean from the ground up it wasn't

me given anything it was literally starting it from myself so it's heavier on me and I'm okay with that I love it like yeah freaking love it every day well it doesn't sound like you have a real problem okay yeah it does I needed that validation that it's harder for like it's equal it's not the same for every person no it's and dude here's the other thing you're going to go through phases like there'll be two or three year phases where it's harder on one of us than it is the rest right like sweet that's a normal thing in the beginning it was harder on chris i would say now it's probably harder on me uh and i think chris would fucking admit that you know um but i don't fucking care like i i look at how i look at it is like bro we started this together we're going

fucking finish this together and just because I'm doing more now doesn't mean that your skills aren't going to become more of it like right now we're working on this new business concept and there's a whole bunch of shit that he's doing that no one sees you know what I'm saying so like yes there's there's it's it's it's ebbs and flows man and how I look at it how I look at my life in general is I've never been a tit for tat person um ever even when yeah no and even when I go to dinner dude Like, if I go to dinner and, you know, people are like, oh, I got it this time. Oh, I got it this time. Like, I don't like that shit.

Like, I just figure like, like, hey, man, it's going to all work out in the end. Like, it's all. 100%. Yeah. It's all going to work itself out. And you know, at the, at the phase I'm at now, I mean, even my successful friends, like, they don't, they don't need anything in return for helping me and vice versa. You know, everybody understands that, okay, you're helping me. me with this and down the road, I'm sure there'll be a time where, where I have to help you

with that. And those things all just even the fuck out over the long haul. And I think that mentality is a shared mentality amongst highly successful people. They don't keep a value or keep score on every little thing. They just understand it's all going to even out. It's all going to even out. Awesome. I totally agree with that. And I appreciate that perspective that I'm not like alone thinking this is crazy. I'm like it doesn't matter. No, I think you're,

I think you have the mindset of someone who I mean, every single successful person I know shares that mindset. Every, not without exception. Awesome. Yeah. So I think you're so much. Yeah.

So much. It's so relieving to feel like I'm not crazy thinking that it has to be this equal business crap. No, because the more time you try to spend making it equal is less time you're effective in, in the game. You know, it doesn't fuck.

I don't fuck. it just needs to get done dude i take the fucking trash out here if i see it if i see the fucking trash bin phill i fucking take it out like yes i just did yesterday yeah it's it's whatever needs to be done dude it's whatever needs to be done awesome thank you so much for your time and um would absolutely love you to run for president so thank you so much i've learned so much and it's just inspirational to listen to you every day and cheer you on and spread your spread the joy and the knowledge of being good and helping others. Domestic extremism.

That's right. Exactly. I am an all in type of person, so I like that type of mentality. All right. Well, listen, you're doing good. Just, you're not crazy. You see it the right way. It's reflective of my experience of successful people.

So, you know, if there's another way to do it, I don't know it. Thank you so much. I super appreciate your time. You're welcome. Thanks, Amy. All right, back. Thank you. I love that.

I've actually, I've heard you describe, like, with you and Chris before, it's like yin and yang. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's Yen and Yang. Yeah. Like, I'm doing the shit that he don't want to do. He's doing the shit that I don't want to do.

He gets done. I think that's, I think that's a requirement, man. You know, and it's, it's, I can see why it's hard, bro, because a lot. of people are those scorekeeper type people you know and yeah they are yeah bro and it's not a healthy way to have your home it's not a healthy way to have your friendship it's not a healthy way to run your business you should be around people and surrounded by people that support you and if it's a fucking tit for tat and a scorekeeping thing then how genuine is the relationship really you know what I mean

yeah not at all man not at all bro I love it bro that was some fire man guys that was three yep listen guys let's get out here let's make it a good week remember personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion

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