REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 965 Qaf Over Planning Vs Action Saying No Without Guilt And Leading Employees With Bad Attitudes

Episode Date: January 11, 2026

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to stop over-preparing and start taking action, how to honor your word while still protecting your time, and how to manage high-skill employees with poor attitudes.

on the flow now my jury box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in a what is up guys it's it's a and this is the show for the realist's sake goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have q and a f that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers the questions can be about anything by the way uh we prefer to keep them about business life personal development but you can ask whatever you want and you can ask those questions a number of different ways DJ tell them how guys you can email your questions into us at ask Andy at Andy for Seller.com you can also check the link in the description below and

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do us a favor and don't be a ho share the show all right what's up what'd you wearing tonight for the live oh I don't know I mean I feel like we should dress up or something for our first live for our first live

I don't know man we'll have to figure it out yeah I hadn't thought about it well yeah call me so we can figure it's out all right we'll figure it out might wear a revolution outfit hey man you do something it's got to start somewhere

that's what I'm saying dude it's gonna be fucking sick it's inevitable at this point I'm excited. I'm excited. I think the live format's going to be cool. It's going to be great. We got great people.

Even the people that are not so great, they're going to be in there. Yeah. We're going to have a great time. That's right. You guys are stupid. Yeah. Yes, we never claim not to be. Yeah.

All right. No, it's going to be great, though, man. But before we get to our live show tonight, we have Q&A. So we are here to make some people better. Yep. Got some ride-ins because we got a lot happening. So we got to get through these. But we got some good.

I got three good ones for you. Do you? I got three good ones. All right, let's do it. Let's knock these out. Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, you know George St. Pierre? Yes.

The martial artist. I don't know him, but I know he is. Yeah, one of the greatest, right? Yeah. Okay, so that's what question number one's about. It's a question about a quote that he has. George St. Pierre has a quote saying that preparation is the antidote to fear. But when does preparation become a roadblock to getting

started. There's such thing as like too much fucking preparation. Oh, yeah. I mean, look, both things can be true at once, right? Most people have anxiety, fear from performing and going because they're not prepared. But you could definitely get in a position where you prepare, prepare, prepare, prepare, prepare, prepare, prepare, and never go as well. I call those people success zombies.

These are the people that consume all of the information. They listen to all the podcasts. They go to the seminars. They have the ideas. They have the plans. But they think that they have to have some sort of approval to actually start. They believe, like I believed when I was younger, that someone was going to come around and believe in them or signal to them or welcome them into the club before they go. And that just never happens, right?

It's a false expectation that we all have, right? We grow up needing approval. We grow up, you know, going to school, raising our hand to go to the bathroom, asking permission for everything. And so it's ingrained in us to get approval before we do things. But what you have to understand when it comes to breaking out of the normal life experience that most humans experience, which is wake up, go to work, get a meager paycheck. go home, try to figure out how to make that work, and then repeat that for 60 years, you know, there's nobody that comes around and says, hey, come here, it's better over here. You know, that's, I'm going to be the closest to that you're going to ever have.

And because we grow up and we all know that we don't know what we're doing, we all think we're unqualified. But the secret is, guys, everybody's unqualified. All these people that you look at, all these people that you look up to, they don't have anything that you don't have. They just do things differently than you do. And what they do and what unsuccessful do, and this comes from my observation in many, many years, it really comes down to one thing.

You know, people who win make up their minds and then they say, I'm going to do this, no matter what it takes, no matter how long it takes, no matter how hard it is, no matter what I have to go through to make this happen. And they start climbing before people and they keep climbing after other people quit. And that's the secret to doing this. It has, there's no special skill. There's no secret knowledge. There's no magic.

In fact, the magic that everybody thinks there is is just simply persevering through the hard things that come our way and never stopping. And that sounds overly simple. And because it sounds simple, a lot of people believe that it's bullshit. But it's not. It really is that simple. That's why training yourself to become somebody who can adhere. to a plan, meaning discipline, is the most important skill that you can develop in yourself. Most people believe that people are either born with discipline or they're not.

They either have it or they don't. And while it can appear to be that way, it's just not the truth. All right. Discipline is a skill that has to be nurtured, invested in, maintained, watched forever. It's something that you have to invest in. invest in and be aware of forever is diminishing skill set is no different than playing a musical instrument if you play a musical instrument for 10 years and you quit for 10 years it's almost like starting over all right this is on a shorter scale okay like if you eat good for two weeks and then you

eat bad for two weeks you got to start over so when we think about discipline we have to stop thinking about it as a trait that we are gifted with and start thinking of it as a skill that we develop And when you develop that skill of adherence through building your discipline by leaning into the things that are uncomfortable intentionally and making sure that your boss voice, the voice that tells you what you should do versus your bitch voice, the voice that tells you why you shouldn't do it and why it's going to be okay. You've got to make sure that voice wins all the time. And that's what Live Hard is all about. That's what 75 Heart is all about. It's not a fitness program. It's a mental training program for you to learn how to adhere no matter what's going on in your life.

And if you can develop that skill, there is no other skill that you actually need in order to succeed because you're going to go and you're going to make the mistakes. And when you make the mistakes, you're going to learn the lessons and you're going to put that skill into your little tool belt. And then you're going to apply that skill the next time. So that same lesson that you learn, it's something that you learn forever if you're at least somewhat intelligent. Okay. So if you could develop the ability to not quit and the ability to learn from your mistakes and you're willing to go, there's really nothing that can stop you from getting there if you go on a long enough timeline. And that's the secret, man. So yeah, that's a really good quote.

And yes, you're going to have way less anxiety when you don't prepare. or I'm sorry, you're going to have way more anxiety when you don't prepare. But there is a time where it's like, all right, I need to go do this. This is what I need to do. And we see this too in all different areas. It's not just business. Like we see this with workouts, right? Like people buy a treadmill for their house.

I'm going to do this. And then it becomes a clothes rack, right? Or they buy all the new fitness gear. They buy the new shoes, the new shorts, the new shirt, the newest watch, all the shit. And they get it all. And they're like, when I get it all, I'll go. and then they still don't go. And this is,

this is just comes from people believing that they don't have what it takes. But dude, that is a complete lie. And you have been conditioned over the course of your life to believe that you are incapable of things because they want you to be small, weak, dependent on their systems. And the last thing they want is a population of independent achievers that are

willing to go out and build, create, and become anything that they want to do because it makes them hard to control. So when you think about where that doubt comes from, you have to remember that it comes from a system that it's designed to keep you weak, to keep you small, to keep you fat, to keep you uneducated, and to keep you in this place of just getting by for the purpose of control. And for me, personally, that pisses me off. Okay. And I get so pissed that I say, I'm not, this is not going to fucking be how it goes for me. And regardless of what's going on in the world, regardless of the economy, regardless of the president, regardless of the socioeconomic climate, there is always going to be room for people that develop this skill and go. These are

going to be the movers and the shakers, the people who lead, the people who build, the people who do things. And guess what? Those people are tired too. Those people are unsure too. Those people have doubts too. But they have committed themselves to a process of perseverance no matter what, no matter what and that's the difference man that is the total difference you said something that too you're like you know it's like a rational but irrational

fear of being unqualified and it made me like well okay you're unqualified yeah you are right you never done this before cool but like who's supposed to come and qualify you then you who qualifies you know what I'm saying right and it's an irrational fear in that way it is but

you can also understand why people have it yeah you know I mean like it doesn't mean there's something wrong with somebody because they have doubts bro like i'm telling you right now the biggest entrepreneurs in the world the ones that you see their name on tv every single day these people still have big doubts about what they're doing they're still questioning they're still sitting around with their family and their confidants and saying fuck dude what do you think you think we can actually do this and then in spite of that uncertainty they're willing to go anyway and that's the biggest difference dude um so you can't blame people

people for feeling that way, but that's just another thing that we have to overcome, right? And overcoming that is really easy, dude. It's really easy because once you start, you're like, that was it. Like that was all it was. Like every time I faced a big challenge in my life in business, and then I went and did it, I was like, dude, I should have done that years ago. I should have done that years ago. You know, I think the first time I learned that lesson,

was, you know, we opened our first retail store in 1999, and it took us five years to open our second store. We could have opened that second store probably the second year or the third year, even though business was low. We probably could have done it, but we were afraid. And we thought that it wouldn't work. And we thought that people would steal from us. And we thought that it would be, you know, all these things. And the moral of the story is, is that all these things that you think about are probably going to happen. So what? It's normal, bro. And I always come back to that quote that I picked up from that movie The Edge with Anthony Hopkins. He says what one man can do, another can do. And I just firmly believe that in my soul. You know, I think there's outliers.

There's definitely people that are born with maybe a propensity towards a certain skill set. but for the most part most of the people that you look at and you admire these are people that are just like you these are people with no special gifts that are just made up their minds that fucking i'm doing it no matter what and and they do it and you know what there's a big cost of that but there's also a big benefit i love it dude i love it man guys uh any question number two Andy how do you stay true to your word i often say yes too quickly without weighing other commitments. I want to be reliable and maintain integrity, but how do you balance being helpful and knowing when to say no? Oh, man. It's a tough one. Yeah, I think it's a tough one when you care

about people. When you're a truly good-hearted person and you have good intentions, it's really easy to get in that trap where you make promises that you can't fulfill because you want to say yes to everybody. And what ends up happening is, is everybody ends up upset with you because you can't keep your commitments when in reality, all you meant to do is to do the right thing. I've fallen into that trap many times, dude. I still fall into that trap, to be honest. And it's something that I struggle with, you know.

But here I am 27 years into business and I'm just finally learning how to just say, no, I can't do that right now. You know what I'm saying? I got too much going on. I can't do it. And what I've come to find out is that people respect that a lot more than they do when you just like kind of, you know, give them wishy-washy answers or, you know, say obviously yes to things that, you know, you intend to do but can't get done.

And just like anything else, dude, this is this is something that you have to practice. It's something that you have to do over and over and over again to feel comfortable doing it. And a lot of people have no problem saying no. Like my brother has never suffered, has never had that problem. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like he's never, and I don't think it's, I don't think it's anything other than he realizes because he's got such a busy life that he can't, he really can't afford to do it

because he doesn't have the time. You know, he's got the three kids and he's got businesses and all these things. And, uh, and I've learned a lot watching him kind of set that boundary for myself. That's really what it comes down to. It's a boundary line. Yeah, for sure. And, you know, you have to just understand that in order to be the person that you need to be, that's going to benefit the people around you the best.

It's going to require that you don't do the things that take away from that and that you concentrate very heavily on the things that do. And unfortunately, that's going to upset some people. Unfortunately, that's going to feel uncomfortable. But the reality is the long-term benefit outweighs the momentary decision. comfort of saying no. So it's something that we have to practice. It's something that you have to get comfortable with. And once you do, it'll save you a lot of time, a lot of frustration. And what you'll find is that people actually respect you more. And you're not disappointing people all the time because they have a clear answer. And things work out better when you learn to say

when you learn to say no effectively. I feel like it also too helps when you do end up saying yes because it makes that even more. Fuck you. All right. Cool. Yeah. For sure. For sure. It makes your I'm more valuable, bro. People respect your, when you have boundaries, dude, people respect the time that you do give them a lot more. And, yeah, I mean, dude, look, this is just something I think most people struggle with. I think most people struggle with this way more than I do. I think people have a really, really hard time because they perceive it as confrontation,

when in reality, it's not confrontation, dude. It doesn't have to be. It's just real. Yeah. You know what I mean? And there's ways to say it without. you know having to just be like nope you know what i mean like hell no yeah right uh and sometimes that's appropriate yeah but uh but yeah man you know it's practice it's understanding where

the juice is worth to squeeze in terms of what you're trying to accomplish what your obligations are to the people around you and uh if you consistently say yes to everybody you got to understand that everybody else that you're responsible for is going to suffer for that or when you have to say know, then it's like, well, fuck you. Yeah. Because they're so used to you saying. Yeah. Yeah.

I want to talk about this. I know we have a lot of young listeners who, um, they're either, you know, just getting started and, you know, maybe entrepreneurship or, but, you know, they might be coming into some money, right? And I know this is a struggle. We've talked about this before. But saying no in financial situations, dude. Yeah.

Yeah. Is that tougher than a time commitment? Um, no. It depends on what it is. Uh, I have a couple rules. that you know because like dude what happens is when you start making money everybody ask you for some yeah um well you got the money tree of the backyard right of course yeah you just go back and pick it you know right it's it doesn't mean nothing to you yeah right you know

because you got a lot of it you know they don't take into consideration the fucking decades that you've paid to to be where you are right now you got it and I don't have it so give me some of it yeah right and that's what happens and people come out of the woodwork and um you know some people you know, you say no too and they never forgive you, man. I mean, I've lost family members over 500 bucks. You know what I mean? Not an immediate family, but you know what I'm saying. But I mean, dude, I have a rule and the rule is very simple.

If there's a need and if I'm going to accommodate that need financially, it's always a gift. It's never a loan. And the reason that I do that is because the loans never get paid back and I don't want it to ruin the relationship. So that's one of the things that I do. And then, you know, obviously, you know, it's got to be a real need. It can't be just bullshit. And we also have to understand this.

When you do have financial resources and you're constantly and you have people that you care about and you start to bail them out, then you're handicapping them on their ability to actually overcome challenges in their own life. And we see this a lot, dude, right? saving them. Like, yeah, dude. Like you see this with people. people who get on drugs, right?

Like people who have a family member that gets on drugs. And they try to do all these things for them. And then that person becomes dependent on all those things. And then they're ruined. So unfortunately, you know, you do have to say no in most of those situations. And when you do say yes, I do it the way I said because I don't want to have, I don't want to, first of all, I can't keep track of loans and shit. But I don't want to ruin, ruin the relationship.

Yeah, brother. There's just saying it's like, bro, you ever got like somebody that you just like, they annoy you? Don't want to see him. Just loan them 20 bucks. Yeah, that's right. That's right. That's right. Never seen him again. That's a fact, dude. That's real, man. I love it, man. I love it. Yeah, it's a difficult thing for people. It's a hard thing. And like, dude, when you start making a lot of money, it's really no different because you'll take care of people in big ways and the same thing kind of happens. You know what I mean? So you've got to understand. You got to understand. You got to understand. You got to understand. You know, you know, understand, I guess what I'm saying is, is you have to understand what you're doing without the expectation of, of, of, of, that are unrealistic, right? Um, I think it's good karma to help people when they really need it. That's my personal opinion. Yeah. Um, when people start to know that you believe that, people will start manufacturing situations to squeeze you for it. And you've got to be smart enough to identify that. And when those people start doing that, you know, you've got to cut them off because now they've they flip that switch in your mind to say okay this is this is my friend andy who's doing me a huge solid to this is this is a solution to my problems right and and nobody wants to be seen as a solution to problems by people who pretend

to be their friends yeah it's like it makes me think too it's like are you really helping them you're not if you're solving their fucking problem you're not like they're not solving nothing that's right you're not helping them you're not helping them yeah yeah that's so real bro that's real you're you're not helping them you're band a day in the situation and further handicapped him down the road. Yeah. That's the truth. Yeah.

You know. Bro, that's some real shit, man. Yeah. That's real. Let's get a third and final question, man. We're moving. Moving and grooving, dude. Third and final question, guys, Andy, question number three.

Hey, Andy. Hey. I love your content. Been listening for seven years. Do you think attitude or knowledge of the job is more important? I'm in a division of construction. service and I have an employee who is really good at his job, but his attitude is crap. I'm nervous about him growing with the company because he would be leading a crew potentially

someday. I'm afraid that his attitude would completely ruin the culture, uh, the culture of the company. Any thoughts on it? It will. A hundred percent it will, especially if he's good. Oh, man. Yeah. Because here's what happens.

The guy that's real good, the other guys on a team look up to that guy. That guy's got leadership capital because he's good. And he has more leadership capital than the guys that are bad. This is just the natural progression of things, right? Like if you're going to locker room and you've got a guy that rushes for 300 fucking yards a game and is kicking ass, he's probably going to be somebody that everybody else looks at to hear what he has to say. With or without that captain. Correct.

Yeah. Correct. And when that person doesn't have the right attitude, it's completely destructive to your culture. So, yes, your instincts are correct. When it comes to hiring, you want to always hire for attitude and culture and then teach skill, not the other way around. You're never going to hire for skill and then get someone to accept a new culture because usually when they are high skill, they are also high ego. And when you have a high ego, it's hard to get someone to humble themselves enough to realize there might be a better way or a way that helps other people, right? you can't teach that no let me go back not usually is high skill high ego but a lot of times okay a lot of times

people are high skilled because they are humble you got to be able to tell the difference yeah you know what I mean yeah but yeah dude having somebody on your team who's high skilled bad culture if you already know that like if you already see this I would already be making a plan to get rid of this person and replace him with someone with a good attitude, no matter how good he is. Because eventually, no matter what happens, if he's got a bad attitude, he's got an abrasive relationship with the leadership,

he's going to spread that amongst the team. And you can't have that in an organization. You know, that's why you see major league teams or NFL teams. You know, sometimes they'll be trading a guy who you're like, why the fuck did you trade that guy? Like, that's our best guy. Well, usually there's some shit going on in the locker room that you don't know about,

that they don't want to make public. And so bad culture fits have to go. And even if you replace them with someone who's maybe a little bit less skilled, but great with culture and attitude, that makes up the difference. And you can get somebody to learn better skills. So, you know, it's, it's, it's an easy, it's easy to talk about. It's hard to do when your best salesperson or your best builder or your best performer

and you think, fuck, I'm going to have to get rid of this guy. This guy's the whole reason that we're doing this. But that's not true. Okay, you gave that person the opportunity. You're running shit. It's your fucking game, not their game. And you have to remember that. And there's no one person that's going to make or break your company.

You know how many times I've been told in my life when someone's, you know, gotten fired or I've had a, oh, it's all downhill from here. You fucked up. Yeah, we're going to crumble. You're going to crumble without me. You know how many times we crumbled? fucking zero. Okay. So let's be real about this.

Your job is to build an amazing company that benefits you and the people that you're building with and their families and your family. And you can't do that with someone standing in the way because they got a bad attitude because they're telling people, oh, you know, we got to squeeze an extra half an hour out of lunch or we could do this and the boss won't say anything. That's bullshit. The right person will have high skill and say, all right, boys, let's get back to work. Let's make sure this happens.

And if that's not happening, you got the wrong people. You know what I mean? Yeah. Can't build with the wrong people. You just can't do it. You brought up humility in this sense, talking about skill versus attitude. I want to dive into that a little bit because I think it's important. It's like the psychology of you.

You have a guy that thinks he's great and is great. He's kind of tapped out on. That's correct. So like, let's talk about it a little bit. Well, yeah. I mean, that's the paradox of humility, right? Everybody talks about how success, like, okay, for example, let's just use. an extreme example. Let's use Connor

McGregor. Okay. Conner McGregor is to most people, probably the least humble person that you could think of. Yeah. Okay. I like that. You look up cocky in the dictionary. I like, I love that. I like people like that. Okay. But what you have to understand

is that he is not cocky when he's learning his craft. When he's in the gym and he's learning how to play better, learning how to fight better, learning how to jitzy better, learning how to strike better. He's not cocky. Okay. But when he goes out to perform and do his job, he's telling himself, I'm the baddest motherfucker on the planet.

Okay. So there's a dichotomy here. And it is humble in preparation and confident or cocky in execution. Okay. And that's where we have to fucking find that line where we ride. Yeah. So if you, when it's in the paradoxes, is that when we look at successful people,

a lot of people will say, oh, that guy is just a cocky fuck. But in reality, humility is required to even get to the level that they're at. So you're misjudging what that actually is. Okay? That's not cockiness, bro. That's the result of years and years and years of humble preparation.

You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. So, you know, there's this idea. I mean, dude, it's funny. Because like the average, you know, person's idea and viewpoint of a successful person is almost like backwards in the way that they think about it. You know, they think, oh, well, that person is where they are because they were born into this family or they got this or they got that. Bro, I don't know very many successful people that came from soft circumstances. Almost every single person that I know that self-made came from shit that they had to fucking claw their way out of, which is what equipped them.

with the grit, with the fortitude, with the perseverance, and the skill set to actually go and be successful in their life. And, you know, people don't think of that. They think, oh, dude, that guy was born on third base and he thinks he hit a triple. And they tell themselves all these stories, but that's just not the fucking truth. The truth of the matter is, is that becoming a successful human being is so fucking hard that if you dump that on someone who was born with privilege, bro, they're going to fucking crumble. Okay? So when we think about this, that's the wrong perception that people have.

Another one is about this humility thing. Everybody wants to talk about humble, humble, humble, humble, humble. He's not humble. Bro, humble is what fucking losers say to take people out that have done shit more than them. That's the truth. Okay. They say this shit without realizing that the person who they're calling not humble humbly put in 10, 20, 25 years of work learning their craft to become great at it.

So they have a right to feel good about who they are and the skills they have. And in fact, when they go out to perform, whether it be business or in sports or on a stage for music or whatever, you have to believe that you're going to fucking win or you're going to get your ass beat. So that's another misconception. And there's all kinds of misconceptions that the average, person has of the successful person that are just completely fucking false. And honestly, they're just justifications for why that, you know, the person saying them is where they are and that successful person is where they are. So, you know, humility is a requirement for success.

And to say to someone, you know, like when they start to win, oh, you know, don't forget to be humble well I wouldn't be winning if I wasn't humble bitch like I gotta learn right like we're all boring with a blank slate can't learn if you're not that's right I'm I don't know what I don't know so how did I learn this shit well I had to be humble enough to accept that I didn't know and I had to learn and the more I learn and the more I practice the better I get and eventually you get to a point where you you know you're pretty skilled but the downfall comes when people think they have no more to learn. Like they get to Conner's level and they say, all right, well, I'm the greatest of all time

or what I do and I can't get any better. That's when they start to go down. Tapped out. Right. And the true champions, the people who win from, you know, the time they start winning through their whole life, they might appear to have an extraordinary level of confidence. But behind closed doors, they're always examining their own skill set. They're always auditing where they really are. They're telling themselves the truth. And if we're being honest, most of the people, rate themselves in terms of how good they are versus overrating themselves. Because behind closed doors, you almost have to do that. You're like, all right, well, I'm not as good as I think I am, so I got to get better.

Right. Right. So while the world might see these people as great, they don't see themselves as great. They see themselves as still that beginning person who doesn't know shit who's trying to figure it out and go. Dude, that's how I look at myself behind closed doors. You know, people see me yelling into a mic or on stage or doing this or that. or riding around and doing cool things in my life and they think oh look that guy thinks he's

the shit actually it's the opposite actually I'm still trying to get better and I'm enjoying some of the process along the way you see what I'm saying 100% so let's talk on this last question let's talk about attitude adjustment though right because I'm thinking about this and I got so many thoughts on this but it's like you're saying prepare to prepare to get this guy out right is there is there a chance Is there any last-ditch effort that this guy can do to try to save, quote-unquote, save this guy, right? Sure. It might not even be a last-ditch effort. Like, how much time is this person put into cultivating this guy's culture?

Yeah. Like, have you tried to cultivate an intentional culture? Have you worked with your team? Have you? Yeah. You're saying he got a bad attitude. Have you even tried to have? That's it.

Yeah. Like, you just be, and dude, maybe he's unaware that he has a bad attitude. Maybe he's unaware of his own leadership capital. You know, sometimes, because no one ever comes along in your life, at least in very few circumstances, you're the leader, you're the leader, you're the leader, right? And even if you're someone that a lot of people look up to, sometimes you still, you're like, why the fuck are these people looking up to me? Because you're you, and you've lived you your whole life. So you don't really see that there's anything special there, right? Just doing your shit.

And because of that, you don't value your own leadership ability. So you're loose with your leadership. And what I mean by that is you might say things or do things or things that aren't representative of good leadership because you're thinking like, oh, we're just one. I'm just one of the guys. Like, you know, it doesn't matter what I say. And they're not aware that they're operating is really setting the tone for everybody else. And sometimes it's just as simple as pulling someone aside and say, hey, look, dude, I'm going to tell you something. And you need to listen to me.

All these fucking dudes that you're around listen to you. They look at you. They think you're the leader. And when you do this and that and this, that fucks up everything we're doing. And it fucks them too. Okay. And the second part of that is where you can really get people to start paying attention. Because when it comes to yourself, people are willing to look at.

look at things differently, but when they know that their bad behavior or their bad attitude or their bad performance is affecting the person to the left or to the right of them, that changes the game. And so sometimes it's just about making these people aware like, hey, Joe, I don't know if you know this dude, but like, yes, you're the best skill guy here, but you're also a leader. And when you do this and this and this, that prevents us from being able to do this, which ultimately hurts you because I can't grow the company to pay you more. Right.

Okay. And on top of that, your buddies, Mike, Tom, and Josh over here, they're not going to make as much money. And you know for a fucking fact, they're struggling. So when you do this, this is hurting them. And just pointing that out to people usually straightens it out. Yeah. Yeah. But that's so, maybe things are like, like, have you ever had these conversations with your employees that maybe started just smelling themselves a little too much, right?

And he's like, sometimes you've got to have, hey, you know, yeah. you might be fucking great Joe but like you didn't build the fucking arc to try on well well yeah what I'm saying like you have to knock them down just a little bit sometimes it depends but if that's the case if it's the case where you go and have that conversation and then there's like pushback on it like yeah but I'm the best that's a bad sign yeah that's a bad sign okay like being the best with your skill is not being the best teammate self yeah it's just not yeah you know being the best incorporates great performance and great leadership together that makes everybody else around you better and that's typically what companies will pay a lot for you know what the most valuable skill that

companies will pay for is the ability to replicate good performance and other people so if you're a good performer and you could figure out how to make the three guys next to you just as good You're fucking invaluable. You cannot be fucking fired. You cannot be fired. You cannot be, you have to be paid more. You understand? Absolutely.

Because you become a linchpin in their company, dude, a part of the company that cannot be operated without you. That's a fucking huge skill. So if you take it a step further and let's say Joe's listening right now and he says, you're right, you know, I'm kind of a, I'm, I'm, I'm, you know what? You're right. I do have to help these dues develop. And then he starts doing it.

Now he took his, his value as a team member or employee through the fucking roof. Okay. So that's the game. The game as an employee is to be great at what you do, undeniably great. Okay. Not a little bit better than everybody else. Yeah. Fucking dominating everybody else.

And I know they're your friends and I know, you know, you know this and that. But dude, at the end of the day, the motherfucker that puts the fucking ball in the net the most makes the most motherfucking money. Okay. If he can make the team around him better. And that's what the, that's the game. The most valuable skill you can have is high performance with the ability to replicate it in other people. If you can do that, bro, there's nothing that can fucking stop you.

I love it, dude. Guys, that can't fucking make you better this week. I don't know what here. Yeah. That was, that was fucking great. First form energy can. That was. Yeah.

Get yourself a little can of freedom right here. You know what I'm saying? I love it, dude. I'm on the slim today. Yeah, that's what it is. I'm on a slim can. I'm with it, dude. I'm on an energy diet.

Yeah. Well, guys, Andy, dude, that was three. Yep. All right, guys. We will see you tonight. What time? 7 p.m. Central Standards. 7 p.m. Central Standard time.

We are going to do a two hour live, 7 and 9 roughly. Okay. Tune in. Come see us on YouTube and we will see you there. All right. Don't be a ho. Shut up. Show the show.

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