REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 988. Q&AF: Getting Your Spark Back, Efficiency In Business & Dealing With Immature Coworkers

Episode Date: January 12, 2026

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to get your spark back in life without being irresponsible or selfish, how to run a business without living in survival mode all the time, and how to deal with immature coworkers at your job.

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We give a lot of valuable information for free. Do us a solid, man. Help us grow the show. Okay. Don't be a ho. Share the show. What's up, man? What's going on, dude?

You had to take a deep breath. I mean, what's up? You good? That was a deep sigh. Huh? I mean, that's a lot. That's a mouthful. That was a mouthful.

Yeah. Yeah, man, what's going on, though, man? Nothing. It's cold. Yeah. It's cold, but sunny. It is cold. I'll take that, though.

Yeah, it's not bad. I just went out and did my cardio. Yeah. And, you know, I was a little cold, but if the sun, man. Yeah. The sun is so good. It's everything. It is.

It's everything. I do not mind it being cold at all if the sun is out. I don't even care. how cold it is. Yeah, but then I'm like, but like, why is it cold though? Yeah, it's like a weird thing. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, but like other places like, like, dude, you know, mountain regions like Colorado, right? It didn't feel cold. Well, yeah, they have 300 days of sunshine, bro. So they're used to it being cold and sunny all the time. And they don't, you know, necessarily understand like here in the, uh, armpit, you know, the middle, um, the back of the need.

The winter, the wintertime sucks. And, uh, you know, we got a beautiful spring. a beautiful fall and a great summer, but winter here is just terrible. The back of the knee. And it's terrible because of the sun. The sun just doesn't shine on Missouri in the middle of the winter. Lack there.

I don't know what that is. Yeah, dude, it's gay. It's impressive. That's right. It's right. No, man, dude, doing good, man. We had the one-pee banquet. Yeah.

I got my five-year boots. Yeah, you did. Thank you. Yeah. I'll be honest, like, I was really surprised when Aaron fucking texted me that. Yeah.

I was not expecting it. Like I was not expecting it. And I'm like, dude, this is fucking sick, man. A lot of the guys here got him. A lot of the whole team got him. Zishon got him. Keith got him. And Madat's already had some.

Madat has his. Joe Gilman's got his coming soon. How long have you been here? Three? No. Four? Like two, bro. Yeah.

We've lost track. Yeah. It's been like a year. He's still the FNG. No. He's been here, I think, at three or four years. It made me think, though. Like, I mean, you know what, though?

I was nervous. when we were on the stage, bro, because that stage was dipping. Like, it was, like, bowed. And I was like, dude, this is going to be on YouTube. Like, this is going to go viral. Well, here's a good thing. It couldn't blame it on us because we were on the side. Listen, I am not lying. I stood on the side for that reason.

For that reason. Yes. Because I was like, dude, if this goes, I could at least, like, jump off. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. No, he made me think, I mean, like, dude, the five-year boot, like, that concept, that's a really dope concept? Like how,

like, how did that come to, like, fruition? Uh, I think there was a sale idea. Yeah. You know,

we, uh, we, we used to have this guy come to the office and custom make boots. Yeah. And we ordered like three or four pair each over the years.

Mm-hmm. And then, uh, one year, you know, Sal was like, hey, let's,

let's do for all the people who have been here five years. And that's kind of how it started. I think it started back like 2017 or 18. Then it's sick. Yeah, it's cool, man. And so we have these guys who come in and they, you know, they take a molder, you know the process. They take a mold of your foot.

They, like true custom. Yeah, it's true custom. I put those boots on last night in my door. I bet they were perfect. Felt perfect. Yeah. Like, I mean, like, fuck. Yeah.

Yeah, there's nothing better than a custom made pair of boots. Yeah. They are perfect. Yep. You know, and everybody's like, why do you always wear boots? Like, bro, legitimately, it's the most comfortable thing I have. For sure. I don't feel like there's going to be a break-in period.

There's not. Like they do get, they do break in over years. Like some of my boots, like those snake skin boots that I wear all the time, I've had them for 10 years. Shit. You know, they're, I wear them because they're fucking comfortable. And then those and then that, the brown came in bellies I have. Mm-hmm. Those, and I bought those, those were, I bought my dad a pair and Sal, my dad, and I all had the exact same pair of those.

and it's got our initials in it was pretty cool that's sick that's the ones i was wearing last night yeah yeah yeah but um yeah man they get once they get really broken in dude it's it's hard to wear anything else i used to wear like a lot of chucks i haven't worn chucks in probably five years i can't do chucks dude yeah feet too wide well they have them with the insoles oh and they're a little better but i just dude i can't do it and now i'm to the point where i don't even wear dress shoes anymore I wear boots with my dress, with my tucks or with my suits or whatever. Yeah. You know, I think it's a cool look.

Oh, for sure. Yeah. It's all right. No, I mean, dude, it's just cool, right? Because we're most places, you know, they celebrate their five years. They give them a fucking keychain. There's a pizza party. You know what I'm saying?

Yeah. Getting a badass pair of boots, dude. It's really, really. Oh, yeah. Those are not cheap, dude. No, I bet. I mean, those, every single pair of those boots is two, three grand. It's at a minimum.

That's crazy. Dude, that's crazy, man. Yeah. Fucking awesome, though, man. Yeah, so I'm on a high, guys. I'm, you know, new boot goofing. Did you wear it? Did you wear around the house?

Yeah, my underwear. Yeah, I bet you did. I don't know. I'm so serious. That's Alex. I want to see that picture, Alex. Yeah, that's right. No, dude, it's great, you know, sipping on a little orange fury.

Yeah. You know, yeah. And I got some good ones for you. Yeah, some dude, an operator standard today was like, is the, is the Paradise Punch really as good as Andy says or is he in sales mode? I'm like, yeah, dude, I lie to you guys all the time. Yeah, right. This was a favorite.

Yeah. Like, what the fuck? The shit's amazing. No, dude, it actually is. I've been drinking the Paradise Punch nonstop. Yeah, did I? You too? I'm trying to get a case.

I'm not, I see a few cases around. I'm going to steal somebody. Well, I had a whole case over here, but somebody drank them all. Yeah. And I think his name was DJ. No.

No. I've had two out of those. That was a 12-pack. I had two. That is bullshit. Oh, it's accurate. That is black man. That is black man.

Yeah. How many beers have you had two? Yeah. no that's hillbilly math there bro no same same yeah hillbilly math is redneck bath is

you had anything to drink tonight no well uh I had two you know what and then you're going to fucking jail like dude it is what it is

how many bikes are still yeah you're sitting there and you're like Fuck. Does he know? Can you tell? Fuck. He could tell shit. Yeah. I wonder where that came from. Like, where was like, okay, like I can't say one because I'm clearly lying. Yeah. But like three is like too many, right? So like, okay, two. Yeah. Or then they pull the one, uh, you know, a couple hours ago. Yeah, that's right. That's right. That's right. That's right. Ten minutes ago.

Yeah. So it's a great day. Beautiful. We got sun shining. A beautiful Monday for you guys listening. And I got some moments for you. All right. Let's knock these out. Let's do it. Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, what's up, dude? I'm 35. I'm married, two kids. And my life is basically a calendar. Work, practices, bills, repeat.

Nothing's on fire. But I can't remember the last time I felt excited about anything. I don't want to blow my life up, but I also don't want to wake up at 50 and realize I just survived instead of lived. How do you get a spark? back without being selfish or irresponsible. Oh man, that's interesting. What do you say he was married and shit?

Yeah, 35 married two kids. Everything's good. Nothing's on fire. Yeah. So there's a lot there. Okay. I think it's natural for men and women at a certain point, you know, once they've kind of become the version of society that they're supposed to become,

they start questioning. is this what I was supposed to do? And I don't think that's a bad thing. I think it's just a natural thing. And they call it a, they call it, you know, midlife crisis or whatever. And I think, you know, anybody with ambitions or dreams or outcomes in their mind

that haven't been met tend to have this reflection period. Sometimes it comes later. Sometimes it comes earlier. You know, for me, it happened when I was like 41, 42, 43. and it was hard because you start to like feel like, man, did I waste my life or did I, what did I miss out on? And the problem with that is that when you don't come to terms with what you've done and the path that you've chosen,

you end up in this situation where you're looking at all these other possibilities again as to how you live your life. And if you don't check yourself and recommit to the path that you've chosen, and say, hey, I chose this path. This is a path that I'm on. Yes, I can make some changes if I want to, but this is who I chose to be. What ends up happening is you end up like,

especially with the internet, you end up fantasizing about these other outcomes that could be, which keeps you from appreciating what you have. The shirt could have what is. Yeah, and a lot of people get stuck in that with the internet. But because, you know, not just compare, everybody likes to say, oh, you're comparing yourself. Well, no, it's not just that. It's like, man, you know, like for me, dude, like I look at, I do this, okay?

I look at other things I could be doing all the time. I'm like, man, you know, I could go move to Italy. Yeah. You know, I could go get a ranch in Montana. I could buy a big farm in Tennessee. And I start to think about all these things. And when I get too wrapped up in thinking about those things, I really lose a lot of gratitude for what I've got going on. Right.

And so it's very important to, I guess, go through this process that you're going through in a way that you have gratitude for what you have and what you've done because you've done a great job. You're 35. You're married. You've got kids. you're going to raise the next generation, which by the way, is a very fucking important job. Okay? It's very, very important. You know, I was thinking about this as I was doing my cardio today. You know, I don't have any kids, but like part of me is like, man, maybe I should like go like donate my sperm to everybody and, you know, like put a bunch out there. You know what I'm saying?

Like because like you start to think like, man, we're really getting our ass kicked in culture. You know what I mean? And the best people are choosing to not have kids because they don't want the kids to grow up, which is forcing the culture into a worse spot. It's counterintuitive. Yeah. So the most important job that can be had right now is really just great parents that are going to have kids and raise them properly to be good, upstanding, productive members of the community.

But with that being said, dude, you know you asked how to how to re-center is that what he said how to kind of get a spark I guess yeah you know most people don't most people I guess in this prize they go buy the sports car some shit like that you know but dude you know what uh there's there's value in that okay a lot of people shit on that yeah but there's value in picking up a new hobby or picking up a new uh you know a new thing sometimes it's cars you know people say oh you're going through midlife crisis not maybe they're just trying to pick up something new that gets them excited yeah um for me Like one of my commitments that I've made to myself this year that I haven't voiced to anybody except a couple guys

Here at HQ is I want to get back into riding dirt bikes Okay, because I don't do anything other than work All right, like I go home and I work on work at home I come to work and I work and you know, I'm starting to realize hey man, you know Andy you need to do some shit you need to have some fun man Yeah, and one thing I do like being around is like anything motorized I like being around animals. I like being around tractors and cars and motorcycles and I want to do more of those things. And that doesn't have to take away from what I'm doing in terms of my professional life.

But making time for those things is important to feeling like you don't just work and you don't just do the thing. And I don't talk about this a lot because a lot of people hear what I just said and what they hear is, man, you know what, I should just go have fun and fuck everything else. And that's not what I'm saying. You know, and it's why I don't talk about luck. Does luck exist?

Sure, there's luck. There's luck. But if I'm out here talking about luck and there's things that people just hear that and they say, oh, well, there's no chance for me because I don't get lucky. You know what I mean? So it's, it is, there's an effective,

and I hate this word, there is an effective balance to feel, like you're not just working your life away and part of having a successful life is also having fun okay we aren't designed to work our lives away but we're also not designed to try quote unquote have fun every single day right right because then we run into a situation where we don't have a purpose funny enough dude I was talking to Dan Bolzerian about this he called me out of the blue

last week. I told you about this, I think, did I? Yeah. I haven't talked to him. You know, I've known Dan for probably 10 years. And I don't talk to him often, but I, but when we talk, they're amazing conversations. And he's way more intelligent than people think he is.

And we were talking about like, you know, he's gotten away from the hedonistic lifestyle and the materialism lifestyle. And he made some really good points. You know, once you experience too much of something, it loses its fun. It loses its value. And, you know, when people do that, we see a lot of wealthy people go down that path, right? They go into a life of excess. And then, you know, eventually we hear about him, right?

Oh, what happened to that guy? Oh, well, he got depressed and he killed himself. Well, yeah, because he gave up his purpose. Okay. And humans need things to work for and work towards. And we need a bigger purpose that is outside of ourselves. And we need to do things like that make us happy. And if we're being real about what makes us happy, what makes most people happy is very simple things. It's spending time with their friends. It's doing good things for other people. You know, and if you're financially successful, you can do a lot more of those things, right? But you don't want to do so much of those things that it becomes your entire life. because then you don't have the purpose that gets you up in the morning, right? So I went through this as well. For me, it was really like, I tell a story, you know, I got pneumonia. It was like 2014.

I went through this phase where at that time, you know, I was making the most money I'd ever made. And I was super sick. I couldn't go to work. And it was, I missed like 17 days of work, which I had never done before. And I was checking my phone. and you know everything's still running and I'm still making money and I'm doing good and I'm this and that and it dawned on me like because I was miserable dude I'm sitting at home I'm watching

TV I'm like fucking rotting on the couch and I started realizing like man this must be why these rich people fucking kill themselves and it kind of like all came together for me in terms of having a bigger purpose and I think I think a lot of times when people get frustrated with their lives where they are, it's because they don't have a clear definition of what their purpose is, you know, and we are purpose-driven people, humans. So, you know, I would ask, if you were sitting in front of me right now, I say, okay, well, what is your, what are you doing? Like, what's your big picture goal? What is your purpose? And that has to be continuing, continued to be expanded over the course of your life, to the point where, you know, for me, when I started, right, my purpose was,

I needed to make money because I was broke. That was my purpose. Okay. Then it expanded to, I need to build the company to the point where the people who work here can provide for their families. Then it expanded to, I need to fix these problems,

you know, in the culture. Then it expanded to what we're talking about now where we have a big human problem that needs to be fixed that probably I'll never actually be able to fix. But I know that we can make big dens in it. And that purpose matters a lot. So we have to define what our purpose is over and over and over and redefine it if we want to continue to keep that spark. Does that make sense?

Absolutely. So when you were 20 years old, this guy here, you know, one of your goals was probably, I want to get married, I want to have kids, I want to get a good job, I want to make a little money. And you've probably done those things. And you haven't redefined your purpose. And a lot of people get to the point where they're 35 years old and they're in a position of this guy. and they're like, oh, well, my life is pretty much over. And then, you know, they spend the next 50 years being fucking miserable. So it's very important as human beings to continue to evolve and expand and think about

what it is we're trying to do that is outside of ourselves. And that can help a lot getting the spark going, especially when it's really big, because you know, you can never, if you can never really. really accomplish it, that means you've got a big fucking goal ahead of it. And if you really care about it, you know, accomplishing it isn't necessarily the reward. It's making as much progress toward that as you can. 100%. And so I, you know, and then like I said, you know, introducing new hobbies, things that you enjoy, maybe getting back to some things that you did before that you enjoyed. Um, because when you're highly ambitious and you're driven, it can be very easy to let the

things that we actually like fall by the wayside so long that we actually forget what we what we like um so you know i think what you're going through here is a natural thing i think it's a normal thing and the only thing that's going to come of it uh in a bad way is if you don't you know realize like damn i'm only 35 you know not oh i'm 35 and my life is bro 35 like i'd kill to be 35 again You know what I'm saying? Like you are so young and you have so much shit ahead of you. And you have to realize that. And when you surround yourself with like the people that you grew up with, you know, most of those people have given up. Most of those people say, oh, well, this is what it is. And they're going to spend the rest of their life sitting on a cooler in their driveway with their neighbors, you know, drinking beers or whatever it is they do and really not do much else. And if you're around those people and that's who you surround yourself with, you're all going to be miserable together. You know, so I want to circle back to something you said earlier, you know, about, you know, a decision you kind of made personally about doing more things, having more quote unquote fun, right? And it made me thinking, please correct me if I'm wrong, right? But like, I know we've talked and, you know, you're big on gaining new skills, sharpening your tool belt, right? And with those skills, efficiency comes, right? You can do things quicker, make moves better, right? And smarter. because I feel like the nuance here, right?

People are going to listen to them like, okay, cool, Andy said, go have fucking fun, right? You're in a position where over the last years of your life, you've been able to take that extra time that you had and reinvest that back into more skills. Right. You now can do where, you know, because you've become more efficient,

you can take that time and go do that. You have the privilege to go do that. Right. I think it's very important to like kind of make sure people are, there's a difference here. Yeah. Right. If you haven't got the time,

you've been investing skills, bro. This is also why, like, Like the powerless system is so important because people don't understand that if you are effective on a daily basis, you actually end up with much more free time. Yeah. Okay. The reason that people feel anxious and depressed and frustrated is typically because they're not organized and effective on a daily basis.

So they have these open loops that are happening that are the things that they know need to be addressed and they're you know tomorrow the next day the next week the next month and they're always thinking about these things and it ends up paralyzing them today which ends up making the problems bigger and and harder to address and if you just redefine what a win actually is meaning if you win today you get your five critical tasks done you've got time to have fun right Now you can enjoy those things along with being productive. And you can avoid this idea of like all this other shit that needs to get done because you understand that winning is a 24 hour game and these things that, you know,

when you start to get confident that I am winning my days, you start to understand that all these things are going to naturally take care of themselves because of the process that I'm following now. So there's actually a really, the truth of the matter is the more effective. you are, the more free time you have and the more fun that you get to enjoy along the way. It's the people who, you know, we have a problem in society, right? A big fucking problem. There's so many people out here that want to pretend to be successful. They want to talk about what they're going to do. They want to, they want to, you know, get the dopamine and the collapse and the credit before they ever do

anything. And this creates a scenario where nothing ever gets done. They never have any fun because they always feel like they're behind, but yet they're always talking about all these things that they're doing. But the world can see, right? You're not changing. You're just talking about change. And it's really easy to get caught up in the idea of, I'm a very productive human when you're not. Yeah. I'm doing it. Right. And dude, if you were doing it, your life would look different. That's the truth. And to me, personally, there's nothing more annoying than that human. The most annoying fucking human on the planet to me is the one who continues to talk about and try to pretend that they're about all this shit, but never changes.

Nothing changes. Never, never, never, never. Like, dude, you know, we get people sometimes that are like talking about how hard they're working on 75 hard. Bro, if you're working hard on 75 hard, your face wouldn't look like you just fucking went to the bar last night. You know what I'm saying? Like, you wouldn't be fucking fat.

You wouldn't be overweight. You wouldn't be, you're, you would be doing it and it would be visible. and those types of people who continuously talk about and then pretend that they're doing, but the results never show are the most miserable. Because they know. Yeah, they know. And they know that within that process, they're not actually executing, but they want to be around the people who are executing.

And nothing ever changes for them, which ends up making them miserable. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. do. Well, the thing, because that works for a minute, right? Like, it works for a minute. Like, all right, cool. I hear you. But bro, it's been a year. Yeah. What's changed. Yeah. Well, you know, like I said, some people want to talk about winning. Other people want to actually win. And there's a big difference between the two. A big difference between the two. You're not a fucking killer because you went out in the fucking snow one time and did your cardio. Like,

that's just what the fuck you had to do. Right. And there's a big difference between the base shit that has to be done and conquering the world. You know what I mean? And I understand, like in the beginning, those are going to feel like massive wins. And they should. But you got to let go of the idea of who the fuck you were. Okay. You're not going to go through 75 days to try and change your whole life to move as far away

from this version of yourself that you hate. And you're going to do all this work. And then on day 76, you're going to go back to drinking and fucking eating like, shit. You didn't do it. If you had done it, you'd be so terrified of going back to that version of yourself that you would just continue down the path. You see what I'm saying? So you have to let go of who the fuck you used to be. Okay. There is no going back to living in the bar on Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. There is no going back to sitting in the in the bar all day on Sunday watching NFL football. These are things I used to do. So I'm using them as examples.

There's no going back, you know, and you have to kill that fucking previous version of who the fuck you are if you want to continue to not just win, but also feel great about winning and feel good about yourself. Why the fuck would you want to go back to the version of you that made you so fucking miserable that you felt like you needed to take this big, this big change. If you actually were that miserable, you wouldn't go back to it. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely do. So there's people got to be real with that. themselves dude like are you really doing the work are you actually executing are you actually doing your critical tasks as critical tasks or are you filling in to do

bullshit so you can check off the win and feel good about it these are important things that make a big difference you know they're and and the funny thing is is the difference between someone who actually wins and someone who doesn't is like almost zero effort it's almost zero extra effort. It's it's it's like the criminal mentality like criminals will do every fucking thing they can to win outside the boundaries of the law. Right right but if they just take that that a little bit of extra effort most of those people become very successful within the boundaries of the law you see what I'm saying? Absolutely do so it's a it's it's it's very frustrating because it's just like dude especially where I sit where I've been dealing in

personal development for 15 years at the highest level like I see you I see what you're doing you're not fooling me I see it I see you're not fucking actually doing it you know what I mean and they think that because they're going through the motions that they're part of the club you know you're a part of the club bro until you fucking are like undeniable you know oh I almost had a win today but I what fucking lost. There's no fucking, there is no, there's no moral victories in life. There just

isn't. There's no, oh, almost, well, fuck, that was, that was good enough. That's what losers do. That's what people who fucking miserable do. That's what broke people do. That's what fat people do. That's what people who can't get control their lives do. And if we're honest with ourselves, the

ability to control the outcome is 100% in our hands. We can control all of the things. Okay, it's really easy to at society right now and say oh society doesn't let me wing because it's so fucking hard really you could fucking drink the right things water you can eat the right food you could fucking move your body you could associate with the right people you can put the right things in your brain those are things in your control these are things that you control that control most of the

outcome of your entire life and you're choosing to not do them whose fault is that that's your fault. So, you know, I would encourage people, especially right now, you know, we got this, right now we got, you know, everybody's quitting their New Year's resolutions already. You had National Quitters Day on Friday, right? Um, is that a real thing? Yeah. Uh, January 9th, it was National Quitters Day, meaning like, this is the day where most people give up on their whole year of what they said they were going to be. And this is a cycle that repeats over and over and over again. And the fucked up part is, is that all of you that already quit, you're just going to repeat the same year that you've already repeated over and over and over. And except you're going to make yourself worse than you were before.

And eventually you're going to wake up and you're going to look at this massive mountain that has to be climbed because of your inability to be serious about your life. And it's going to be demoralizing. And now it's going to be that much harder to conquer. So, you know, what's that worth? Is that worth? Is that worth nights out with the with your friends? Is that worth, you know, ordering pizza and eating like shit? Is that worth? Is it worth your whole life?

You know what I mean? Like, bro, I don't know if you looked around, but the world fucking sucks. And the reason it fucking sucks is because you fucking suck. That's the truth. And until individuals understand that, nothing will change. We will not change as a country. Things will not get better until the individual understands that the responsibility to make the country better falls on their shoulders. And it starts with their actions.

And it starts with the results they produce. And there is no abandoning that responsibility anymore because we had this attitude in this country for so long that, oh, it's a free country. I can do whatever I want. Yeah, that fucking freedom costs something. A great culture in America costs something. A great, a great polite, high functioning. society costs something that isn't just guaranteed and if you don't believe me look at all the other shitholes in the world all right so we've been gifted this amazing place from people who have

understood what I'm talking about who have a sense of moral standard who have a sense of value have a sense of integrity who's sacrificed for our society to be this way and what we're just gonna fuck it off because we're lazy bro that's some weak-ass shit you know and it comes down to the individual. It just does. So when you think like, oh, man, I really hate what's going on in the world, you should fucking look in the mirror, bro, because you're the fucking reason it's happening. That's real, bro.

I love it. I love it, man. We got question two. Yeah. Guys, Andy, question number two. Andy, I own a small business. And from the outside, it looks like it's doing well. But the truth is, I'm stressed

about money almost every day. payroll taxes, unexpected expenses. I feel like I'm carrying a constant low-level panic. How do you run a business without living in survival mode all the time? Is this normal? I mean, does it change? Does it stop? Does it get better?

I, okay. So, I mean, 30 years in, bro. So I had a friend who, this is probably 15 years ago. And at that time, I would be... 12 years in. Okay. What was that? Yeah, 12 years in.

Yep. All right. And we met for lunch. Okay. And this guy at this time was doing hundreds of millions of dollars a year in business. He was the most successful guy that I personally know, all right? Or that I knew at the time. And we met up here at Twisted Tree before it was Twisted Tree.

It was Route 66 or whatever. that biker bar okay okay and it was a big deal for me to meet with this dude so like I wore a suit okay okay okay okay I don't you know he shows up he's like what the fuck are you doing I'm like I'm like I don't know dude like I'm not gonna I don't want to waste your time you know to me that's a sign of like true respect you know no you know and um we started talking and we ended up having a couple beers and I looked at him and And I said, I said, dude, let me ask you a question. I said, when, when does it, like, when does it not, like, stress you out?

Like, when do you get to that point where, like, you're not freaked out? Because at that point, I was 12 years in and, like, dude, I was exactly like this person. And he goes, what do you mean? And I go, I mean, like, I'm always nervous and I'm looking at the numbers. And he goes, well, I just have all of my numbers down to, like, so. I just look at it every day. And I said, no, that's not what I mean. I said, what I mean is, like, I'm scared all the time.

Like, I'm always, like, feel like I'm on edge. And he fucking started laughing at me. Like, he goes, oh, bro. He's like, that's the game. He's like, that don't ever go away. He's like, he's like laughing as he tells me. And I'm like, oh, okay. But the fact that he confirmed that that was the way that it was helped me

accept that that was part of the price of the path that I chose. And for anybody who runs a business, whether it be small or big or whatever, you know, a lot of people make the assumption that like, let's look at, you know, let's just say, you, you know, let's use a big company like, uh, Anheuser Bush, okay. If you don't think that the guys that run Anheuser Bush are fucking stressed about the motherfucking numbers, even though they're, they're a hundred billion dollar conglomerate company. dude, it's just extra zeros. The game is the same.

You know what I'm saying? You just have less zeros in it. So these guys are stressed. They're working. You're the same. But here is the unique thing about effective entrepreneurs is eventually they cross into this reality of loving that part of it. They love that part of it.

They love the game. They love solving the problems. They understand. But for you to love the game, you have to first accept that that's the game. Okay? So when you're in this place of like stress and anxiousness and doubt and walking on edge and this and that, it sucks.

But once you accept that that's the game that you chose, I chose to play this game and it's part of the game and everybody deals with it, not just me. Now it truly becomes a game, right? Because you understand that guy over there is doing the same shit and that guy over there is doing the same shit. And that guy I'm chasing. and he's got the same, he's got the same problems. And so then you start to like really like it. And for really successful entrepreneurs, like, dude, you know, I've spent a little time around Dana White now. You know what I mean?

Dana White's one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world. He fucking loves the chaos, bro. Okay? Like when the chaos happens and when the hard times happen, you know what the first thing out of his fucking mouth is? And legitimately, I fucking love this. shit okay and it's exciting and who doesn't want to work for somebody that feels that way who doesn't want to work for someone who says yeah the fuck of cars are stacked against us but guess what we're getting tested and this is going to be awesome and we're going to win like that's exciting so

but it only happens once you accept that you're playing in this in this dynamic that most people don't so and and i would add this on top of it would you rather be you and dealing with that or would you rather be the regular guy who's got a shitty job that he hates who gets no input on what they do who who has the same worries and the same stresses but in their individual personal life with no ability to actually change it you see what I'm saying so you should be grateful for that feeling and understand that it's a privilege and understand that now your job okay I understand what it is just 12 15 years ago and I met with my buddy I walked out of that meeting thinking, all right, I fucking got this shit.

Game on, my fuck. Yeah, I'm going to win a fucking game. You know what I'm saying? But when I didn't realize that everybody was like that, I felt like I was screwing up and it was only me. I'm doing something wrong. Yeah, but it's everybody, dude. Fuck, you think I don't wake up in the morning or in the middle of night sometimes and like shit pops in my head and I get all sweaty and shit. And I'm like, fuck.

You know what I mean? Like, that's part of it. But just like that's part of it. of it overcoming it's part of it as well and that's where the fucking juice is that's where you're like fuck yeah man all right this is or when you get really experienced what happens is you only really feel that doubt and that anxiety when you don't know the answer to the problem so now i'm so confident in my abilities that the minute i know the solution even if it hasn't been executed yet and i know i will execute it. I'm confident in my ability to execute it. So once I know the solution,

I've identified it, all the fucking shit goes away and I know I won, even though the world hasn't seen it yet. Ain't even came out yet. Right. Yeah, bro. So really, dude, the answer to the question is, welcome to fucking entrepreneurship. You know what I'm saying? That's the answer. And you're not doing anything wrong. This is the game that we all choose to play. We take on way more risks than the normal person can handle and your success is going to be to directly proportion to the amount of uncomfortable shit that you could fucking deal with. And that is it. Okay. So that's why it's so important to build yourself into someone who can handle those things. That's why it's so important to take your mental toughness seriously. That's why it's so important to invest in your

discipline regularly because that equips you to handle the extra load that you get to feel as an entrepreneur yeah yeah but I imagine so many people fuck you asked me this the other day yeah you were like oh man oh yeah you're like it never fucking ends I'm like started laughing well I no what the fuck you think they're really what it was like because I do I hear you all the time like dude I got my balls kicked into that oh yeah yeah but but but but but but getting your balls kicked in doesn't mean you're lost yeah that's what it that's what people don't understand like I'll come in here and say oh yeah I got my fucking ass beat today But every single one of those days, I still won.

Still won. You know, it was just hard that day. Yeah. So, you know, that's the game, dude, and we got to accept what it is. And it's not for everybody. And that's why entrepreneurship is such a great thing for people because they don't have to deal with that feeling. You don't get some other stress, but it'll be that. Listen, you're going to have stress no matter what you choose.

It's a normal part of life. Okay, this idea that we're going to avoid stress. I actually think one of the worst things that's happened in the last like 10 years of culture is that things like anxiety and stress have been painted as if you're never supposed to feel them. Okay. So now you have all these people out here, you know, all these fucking predatory therapy people who are saying, oh, you know, you had trauma because you grew up. No, that's called growing up.

Okay, oh, you had trauma because of this or that, bro, you know what real trauma is? Real trauma is getting stabbed in the fucking face. Real trauma is getting your fucking arm blown off. Real trauma is trauma, okay? Growing up is not fucking trauma. Now, you might have had some bad things that happened to you growing up, but it's only bad if you didn't learn from it and you don't let that stop with you and you go and fix it the right way going down the line. Right. All right?

So you have to ask yourself like anything. What did I learn? What did it do for me? Who did it make me? Because then you stop calling it trauma and you start calling it something that you're grateful for. Like the worst things in my life are actually the things I'm most grateful for because they taught me the most. And when you have that perspective, things don't eat you the way that they do when you believe that everybody's supposed to be stress-free and everybody's supposed to have no anxiety. You know, you know when you have the most anxiety is that when you have anxiety about having anxiety because you think you're not supposed to have it. All right. So you have all these people out here saying, oh,

you know, I'm overwhelmed. I'm stressed. I have all this anxiety. Yeah, today you do. And you might have it for a week or you might have it for a month. But all of that shit's telling you something that you're not addressing, which is why it continues. Okay. So this idea that to have a good life and to feel good is to have no stress and no anxiety and no doubt and just float through life. Like what kind of motherfucker actually lives that way? Bro, it's not real, dude. And so when we paint this unrealistic expectation and then you're the one that's still feeling it, it makes it extra worse, okay?

Or, you know, I've got anxiety, but I'm not supposed to have anxiety. And then, you know, you do all these things, you fucking cold plunge. And I got caught up in this shit too, dude. You do all these things. You cold plunge, you sauna. You do this perfect morning routine. Got to start your day off. I'm feeling good.

And then the first thing happens. Okay. And then you're like, fuck. Why can't I get through a day without anxiety? Well, because that's not how it works, bro. You're bought into the false representation of what it's supposed to be. And now you're comparing yourself against something that's not real. Okay.

If you do that, you're going to always feel worse. So you have to accept life, man It's called fucking life Shit is hard You are going to have stress You are going to have anxiety You're going to have days Where you feel like fuck

This isn't worth it That is the price Of having a good Successful fulfilling Life that you are proud of When you die Okay, this is real shit And we have all these people

That charge all these people Like all this money To try and fix their their mentality and like do go talk to people who did 75 hard okay what do you feel better before or after after you did all the work what do oh I feel better no shit you know why because humans are wired to do shit they are wired to build things they are wired to create things they are wired to learn skills they are wired to develop they are wired to contribute and when you sit at home and you think that life is supposed to be about relaxing all the time you're going to be the

miserable human on the face of the planet but that's what society puts on us they put this idea of success on us as if we're supposed to just like sit on a beach somewhere and ride away and some people buy it bro some people will fucking work their asses off sell their shit move to a fucking beach and sit on the beach and be like this sucks i don't know what's wrong with me i I did everything that I'm supposed to do. You're because you're wasting your potential, bro, and your soul knows it. You know it. All right.

So this isn't about getting to a place where you're, quote, unquote, happy. You need to be happy along the process. And you need to be happy along the way. And if you're effective, like I said in the last answer, you will be happy and have time to do the things that you want to do on a daily basis. You just have to redefine what the win is. The win is it for the next 30 days or the next six months or the next year, it's fucking today. And when I get those five things done today, those five critical tasks that move me forward. This is not, I got to pick up the kids from school.

This is I took five critical actions towards my outcome. All right. When you do those things and you get confidence in playing that game, all of a sudden, dude, a lot of that stress and a lot of that anxiety starts to calm down because you believe and you understand that these things will get done as they come. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely, dude. It made me think, too, it's like, dude, imagine, like, how many people out there, instead of accepting the way it is, right?

They feel that friction, and they try to, like, they spend all their time and energy trying to remove the friction the wrong way. Like, imagine if you just... Most people. Dude. Most people. Like, this is why people get caught up in the cycle. Like, dude, we have...

All right. Oh, you just got put two crystals up your butt. Well, that didn't work. Try three. Like, what the, like, just go. Shoot some coffee in there. Yeah, right. Right.

You know what I'm saying? Just go fix the shit. Yeah. Or do the shit that you know you're supposed to do so that you're proud of yourself when you look in the motherfucking mirror. That removes, that's like the biggest anti-anxiety drug in the world. Yeah. anxious, do those things. And you're going to feel like, damn, dude, I'm doing it. Yeah.

Okay. So, you know, we've got to accept reality, dude. And, and unfortunately, we have a lot of predators on the internet that try to paint a false reality of this, like, you know, I don't know. I don't know what you call it. Like, Zen-like existence. And those people, do not let them fool you, bro. Those people are fucking miserable. They are miserable. That's why they stay locked into that lifestyle forever because they're always looking for the fucking solution. Oh, I'm in this, you know, I'm, I'm living the perfect life. Right. And, and, but then they're constantly adding things and they're constantly, oh, I found this new

thing and I found this new thing. You found this new thing for what? Oh, you mean the same problems that you said you already solved by being a fucking nothing. You see what I'm saying? Yeah, bro. So, dude. You got to listen you have to learn to think about how you think you have to start becoming aware of why things are the way that they are. You have to start becoming aware of why you think the things that you actually think.

And if you don't remove yourself from your actual thinking and then analyze your thinking, you're always going to be. be in a place of ignorance when it comes to your decisions, right? So it's like three levels of thinking, right? It's like what you do? And then it's, okay, what did I think about what I did? And then it's, well, why do I think that about what I did? You know what I mean? And most people don't have that ability to like analyze their own decision making and their own thinking clearly, because look at what's going on in society. How many people can detach themselves from, the left-right narrative and actually the the quote-unquote team they've assigned themselves to and make critical decisions based upon what they observe that aren't in line with whatever

you know the team says very few we see it in society so it's it's unawareness is what it is but you know that's a whole we could talk about that for 10 hours still yeah yeah that's real well we got one more question to get in here so uh guys ain't Question number three. Andy, how do you deal with the coworker who is only 21, so like immature, no life experience, lazy, no urgency? Everything is just a big game and it literally pisses me off and everyone thinks I'm the bad guy for being mad all the time.

It's leading me to hate my job. Deal with fucked up coworkers, I guess. I don't know how you. People in the boat. You're in the boat. Punch him in the face. That's what you're. way to do it yeah throw them out of the boat yeah you know um you know why is it bother you so much

why does it bother you so much what everybody else is doing why are you concerned well if it's affecting your outcome because they're you know like you said in the boat and they're not rowing okay well that's something that you you need to address and you should probably address that with that person at a peer to peer level. You can address that with the people around. Like, hey, man, we're all trying to win. And this motherfucker ain't helping us win. And he's riding in the boat for free while we all do the fucking work.

And you could get everybody else to see it too. But in most of these cases, here's what happens, dude. The truth is, the truth is quite different than what is being presented here. In most of these cases, the person who's upset isn't effective either. okay and yeah and so because dude truly effective people people who are actually winning they don't give a fuck about what anybody else is doing they're handling their business they're doing what they need to do and they're taking care of what they need to take care of so that they can move forward in their life and they understand that this person over here or over there or whatever is irrelevant to that

Are there situations, like I said, where those people are dragging you down? Yeah. But there's this thing called peer-to-peer leadership. Okay? And peer-to-peer leadership only works when you're doing great shit. Okay. I bet if you ask that 21-year-old kid what he thinks about you, he thinks about you. He's think you're a lazy piece of shit.

Yeah, right, right. You know what I'm saying? Right, right. So he don't get too much spotlight because he's going to show all those shit you ain't doing it. Correct. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

Yeah. So, you know, the truth of the matter is, is, you need to worry about, your own shit and when you're when you're undeniably good at what you do the disparity that it creates between the people who are fucking off and you makes them wash out on their own you don't think that like if you were truly kicking ass and you were truly undeniably great that it wouldn't expose this 21 year old kid for being a fucking idiot you see what I'm saying right so if you really want to fix the problem it all comes down to what we talk about all the time which is being great on your own being undeniable on your own okay there's no snap fix that you could just go you're not able

to fire that person you're not able to get them get rid of them so what can you control you control what you do and if you do it well enough there will be a big enough disparity between the two of you that everybody's going to look at that guy and be like why is that guy on the team so obvious yeah So it's that's most people just can't grasp that understanding. They want something to come in and fix it so that they don't have to like do their part. It's just loser thinking, bro. I'm sorry. Yeah.

I think this is the nuance too of like the whole comparison thing, right? Like, because you hear it both ways, right? I think like in this situation, this is where you take the other side where it's like, dude, you got to have your blinders on, bro. Right? You can't be focused on all the other shit around. You got to fucking put blinders on and run your fucking race. Dude, you don't think that there's been every successful person on the planet.

You don't think they've had dogs on the team before. They won't run. Everybody knows it. Everybody sees it. Every manager knows it. Every fucking leader knows it. Every founder knows it. Every CEO knows it.

They all know it. So your job is to not get confused as to one of those people. All right? And, you know, the best way you could do it is to be uneniable great yourself. and let that motherfucker rot. You know what I'm saying? Like, let them, let them fucking rot. And if you work for a company that, you know,

just lets these people rot there, it's probably a good idea to look for other companies that don't allow those people to sit and rot. I will say this, those of you listening who are pretending to go through the motions, because there is quite a few of you, let's to be honest, who are showing up and going through the motions and you're doing just good enough to not, you know, get in trouble

you will lose your jobs in this next phase of growth in life because AI is getting so advanced people I mean just look at it in the last two years dude it's getting so good and it's going to continue to accelerate this is a thing they don't people don't understand about AI it's it's not a linear improvement curve it's it's a it's a hockey stick okay right now we're still in the handle part where it's like learning, it's learning, it's learning, it's learning, it's learning, it's getting better and better and better. It's picking up momentum, momentum. And then there's going to come a time where it starts to compound and it starts to go up real sharp. And when it does, the ability for AI to do people's jobs is going to be real. It's going to be real. Okay. And people who coast

and people who don't contribute and people like this 21 year old allegedly that you have, they're not going to have jobs because it won't even matter. It's not going to matter. So, and I'm saying this because those of you who are not truly dedicated, and I want you to remember this, especially those of you've been listening to me for a long time. And I'm not saying this to beat my chest, but how many times have I been wrong about what's going to happen? How many times have I told you guys, this is what's going to happen in culture and it not happen?

Okay, back in 2020, I was telling you guys, don't give into this woke shit because you're going to get labeled as a woke company and you're going to have a fucking problem when the when the culture swings back. Culture has swung back. When I said that, there was tons of backlash. People were like, oh, you're wrong.

It's not going to happen. It's over. It's just that. Really? Have you paid attention to what's going on? Have you seen that the pro-America companies, the companies that stand on their fucking,

you know, on their heels and blue? And they're doing, they're getting traction right now. Okay, did you, but if you went out and you branded yourself one of these woke companies,

you have a really hard time coming to that. You look stupid. Those companies are getting called out. They're still losing business. They're losing market share to much smaller brands that actually stand for the things that these people in this country want to stand for. And I told you that.

I told you that. And a lot of you fucking didn't listen. All right. Because you were scared. You were scared to take a fucking stand. I'm telling you, those of you who are entrepreneurs, you will lose your jobs unless you become undeniably great. at contributing to the mission of whatever company you're a part of.

You will lose your job. And you will be one of these people on universal basic income, and you will get what the fuck you get. And that's going to be that. And we are in a critical time right now. We are in a time where there is, yes, there's still the opportunity to become undeniably great at contributing. But I don't think that's going to last for another fucking three years.

I think it's going to be the next 18 months. And then after that, it's going to separate. And the 21-year-old turd that you're talking about, he's going to be broke forever. And if you don't fucking get on the other side of that line, you're going to be broke forever, too. And that is a real thing that's going to happen 100 fucking percent. So if I were you and you're one of these people who already gave up on their new years and you're repeating the same shit you've done for ever and ever and ever, because let's be real dude being physically fit being mentally fit is a huge foundation for you to become

successful in your life you you you who gave up already you're going to be on the on the bad side of that line you're going to be broke and you're not going to have the opportunity to get around it so you have to take it seriously when I say take it seriously I don't mean take it seriously the way you think I mean I mean take it seriously every single single fucking day for the next 18 months as hard as you fucking can. We are not in a place right now where balance is a real thing. That's a luxury. You're in the time right now where you're either going to be on the side that continues

to grow and make money and can have the things that you want or you're going to be on the side that has to take the gruel that these motherfuckers give you. And I didn't make the rules and I wish I could not make them that way, but you can't put back in the box what's already been let out. So it's happening and it's real. And if you don't fucking figure it out right now and you're not dedicating every single day for the next 18 months. And I mean every day.

I don't mean three days a week. I don't mean, you know, for 75 days, I mean for every motherfucking day, you're going to fucking lose because there's not enough time. Even with the technology, there's not enough time. So the good news is there's a flip side of that. With the technology, there is. is enough time for you to become who the fuck you want to be in the next 18 months, but only if you take every single day seriously.

And there's people listening right now, oh, Andy, you know, those fucking sounds pretty harsh. That's not, well, how many times have I led you wrong? I'm not wrong about this. And I'm telling you right now, if you don't take it seriously, it's going to cost you every motherfucking thing in your whole entire life. And every dream, every outcome, every little vision that you've had that you've been afraid to go achieve is going to cease to be possible if you don't go now. So for those of you that fucking, you know, have already decided that you're going to fuck off

for another year, you might as well accept that you're going to be broke and be either in the same position, likely a much worse position than you are in now. So it's that or it's go hard. And that's it. And those are only two choices right now. Love it, dude. I love it, man. Guys, Andy.

A hell of a way to start a week. That's right. We'll see you guys tonight. 7 p.m. CTI Live on YouTube and X. Don't forget. Don't be a ho. Show the show.

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