REAL AF with Andy Frisella - ARE YOU BLIND TO NEW LEVELS?: Why Choosing The Hardest Possible Path Is a Good Idea, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO310

Episode Date: July 23, 2019

Everybody wants to be happy. Everybody wants to be successful. So why isn't everyone happy & successful? The truth is, it's not because people aren't willing to work hard. A ton of people in the world work hard & are still not happy & successful. The problem is in how they approach the work. In this episode, I talk about why choosing the hardest path possible is a good idea & the incredible thing that happens when you push yourself beyond your limits.    

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host. And I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome. The goal of this podcast is to help you become the motherfucking CEO of you. You have to understand that you are in control. Not your spouse, not your friends, not your circumstances, not your job, not what your mom and dad told you you have to be, you.

And everything in your life right now is a reflection of the decisions that you have made in the past. What you are right now is not what you are. It's who you were. Okay. And we've all heard this before, but if you really think about it and you really put time to focus on it, you'll understand that our point of this podcast is to help you get to a point where you can make better, more educated decisions that are going to help you produce the life that you want. Now, this podcast is an entrepreneurial based podcast, but what you guys have to understand is that entrepreneurial thinking is the key to success in almost every area of life. And it can definitely be hugely beneficial in every area of life if you decide to apply it. So it doesn't matter if you actually own a business. It doesn't matter if you actually are a millionaire or multimillionaire or billionaire. It doesn't matter if you're,

you know, struggling right now. Most people are. That's reality. The goal is to help you sift through the struggle with the accurate, realistic, not idealistic information so that you can make decisions that will produce a better result. The purpose of this podcast is to retrain your ability to make decisions that will help you put out what it is you want. Now, guys, I do this for free. We have been the number one business podcast on earth for a long time. Now, that's not just because the content is good. It's also because I ask something of you. Now, that something is not money. But what I do ask is that if you do get something out of the content here, if you do find a piece of information that

will help you move along or help you get better or help you improve or help you become that version of yourself that you're so desperately working to become, what I ask is this, tell a friend. I'm not saying you have to make a post, but if you make a post, great. But next time the conversation comes up of what you're doing, what you enjoy, the content you're consuming, give me a little plug. That's all I ask. I don't run a million ads. I'm not trying to, you know, waste 37 minutes of your time talking about shit that I don't even use so I can get paid. I got a real company. I've asked seven of them actually. I don't need to run ads. Even though I could make seven figures a year running ads, I do this because I want to declutter the

mystery, which is your fucking life. All right. So guys, today I have a little story for you that I want to share. And before I start to get into that, I do have a contest that I want to announce. The contest is this. We are going to run a contest for the next 30 days. Okay? And for the next 30 days, if you leave a review of the podcast, I'm going to draw three people to come visit St. Louis, hang out, do some fun stuff, go to dinner, hang out, meet you, go through whatever it is you're working on, maybe shoot some content, maybe hang out with some cars, maybe go for a swim in my pool. I don't even know, but I'm picking three of you motherfuckers to come out here and it's going to be picked off of people who go to iTunes and leave a review. So, uh, for the next 30 days, starting today, go leave a review, enter your chance to win and we'll pick one in 30 days and, uh, we'll bring you guys out here real soon. Where should we have them email it? Okay. Vaughn just reminded me. Screenshot your review and then email it to Vaughn at,

what's the address? Vaughn at andyfrosella.com. All right. Screenshot your review. Now the review has to be new. If you made one a long time ago, it doesn't count. All right, so new review. That's how we're going to do it. And email it to Vaughn at Vaughn at AndyFurcella.com. Now, guys, it is no secret that everybody wants to be happy. It is also not a secret that everybody wants to be successful. You are not going to meet a single motherfucker on this planet,

whether it's at the doctor's office or the gym or the church who will tell you, no, I don't really want to be happy. I don't really care. I'm fine being bored with my life and being depressed. And you know, I'm happy with my life being at its worst. You will not meet any sane person who can honestly look you in the eye and say, at the end of my life, I really, I guess I'm pretty okay with being has been or, you know, wondering about what it might've been. Now, don't get me wrong. There are people who will tell you, I don't need money. I don't need cars. I don't need fame to be happy. They will tell you, I don't care about everybody in my industry thinking I'm the best at what I do. I don't care about winning trophies or salesman of the year or anything like that,

but they will tell you that. Sure, they're going to tell you those things, but I guarantee you they still want to be happy however they define happiness, okay? They want to be successful however they define success, and those are just the facts. You're going to have people who will boohoo shit, but at the end of the day, when you dig deep, everybody wants to be happy. Everybody wants to be successful. So why isn't everybody happy? Why isn't everybody successful? Why isn't 100% of the population successful and kicking ass and living the life that they want? Okay, the truth is, it's not because these people aren't willing to do the hard work There are a lot of unhappy and unsuccessful people

Who put in hard work From 9 to 5 They work hard at their job They work hard to try to be better husbands or wives Or dads or moms They work hard to try to get in decent shape And be healthy Yes, most people do actually work hard. A lot of people on this earth,

the majority work hard. The problem is they don't work hard enough. They don't put real stress on themselves. They don't push themselves beyond their comfort zone. They don't push themselves past the point of failure. They don't put their heart and their mind and every single thing that they have to the test on a daily basis. Yes, they want to be happy and successful, but they just aren't willing to do work that is hard enough to achieve the actual happiness and success they desire.

They think they can work hard in a way that is quote unquote still manageable for them to get the results they are looking for. This is something I see time and time and time again. People are afraid of going all in on tasks that have such a high level of difficulty that they are worried that they will be left depleted and defeated and depressed

and basically run depressed and basically run down and done. Okay. And trust me, I get that. You think it's any different for me? You think I don't want to be happy? You think I don't want to achieve the highest level of success? I do. And what surprises people, and I don't know how many times I've actually had to tell people this, but I am not naturally a hard worker. I don't naturally want to roll up my sleeves and dive into the task and push myself harder and harder until I fucking smash it. Okay. I'm lazy. My natural tendency is to want to sit on the couch, watch Pacific Rim 117 times while I eat pizza and drink some fucking Stella, man. That's the truth.

But let me tell you something I've learned about pushing yourself to do extremely difficult things. Let me tell you a little story to illustrate the huge benefit that you get when you push yourself beyond your actual limits, okay? I just moved into a new house, as a lot of you guys know. And I've said a couple of times on my stories and snaps, the land used to belong to the 18th president of the United States, Ulysses S. Grant, who was in office just after the civil war. And as I was walking around our house the other day, I was wearing a weighted vest, which I commonly do. And there's a lot of hills.

And I got to thinking about something. I got to think about how the last three houses I've lived in, I've had all these really amazing hills to walk on that surround my house. And that's what I do for my cardio. The first house, which was the smallest of the three houses, had the easiest hills. And at the time, and this is important, I thought they were very hard. The second house, being a much, much larger, much nicer house, had a lot bigger hills. One of the hills, if you guys have followed me for a few years, I call Death Mountain. The hill was so

steep and so long. You literally thought you're going to fucking die by the time you got to the top of it. Okay. And then we have this new house. And I remember before I moved into the new house, I thought, man, I wonder if any of the hills over there are any good. Like if they're as good as death mountain. Well, the truth is not only are they as good, the hills at the new house, which is the nicest house of the three, are way steeper, way longer, and much more difficult than they were at even the second house. And I was thinking how funny that parallel is because it's really a true metaphor for what it takes to level up. Okay. If you would have asked me back when I was living at the house, I just moved from, if the Hills could have been any

harder at my new house, I would have laughed and be like, dude, you're insane. It doesn't get any harder than this. Okay. But I was wrong. And I think this is a great metaphor for the huge benefit that you experience when you do push yourself and level up to a higher standard. You know when you think shit is really hard, you're going to find out one day that it's really not that hard. We all know that and you've all experienced that at some level. And as you level up and acclimate, it's going to become easy and you're going to, you know, eventually look back on where you are from where you are now into where you were and be like, man, I can't believe I thought the hills of that first house were hard. I can't even believe I thought the hills of that second house were hard. And I thought it was such a great parallel for the journey. Okay. Because pursuing big goals is going to be freaking hard, man.

You're going to have to work. You're going to have to struggle. And pursuing happiness and success at the highest levels is going to demand a lot from you, a lot more than you think you can give. It's always going to feel hard at first until you've gone through it. And then when you decide you want to level up again, you're going to look back and be like, dude, that was actually pretty easy.

Like I can't even really think without having a little laugh in my brain that I thought the hills at my first house were hard. They were easy, okay? And so were the hills at my first house were hard. They were easy. Okay. And so were the hills of my second house. And I thought those were so super hard. And I've made videos about how hard those hills were. And now I got this new house, which is the best house of all of them. And the hills are by far the hardest. If that's not a metaphor for success, I don't know what is. Okay, so you have to think about that in terms of what your life looks like.

Okay, you're going to start a new challenge and you're going to feel like, man, this is really difficult. But after you do it for two or three or four days, you're going to look back at what you thought was difficult before and you're going to say, man, that wasn't shit. That was easy. Okay? And this is where most people get stuck. Most people get stuck because they consistently get caught in that zone of comfort, right? No matter how hard the quote unquote hills are around your house, you're going to get

used to them. And you're going to say in your head, man, those hills are the hardest hills ever. Nobody's done hills harder than that. I do that every day. And you're going to build yourself up because that's what we naturally do. What we naturally do is we gas ourselves up on how great we are. Okay. And then we get stuck in the comfort zone because we're telling ourselves, man, we're fucking tough, man. We're kicking ass, man. Ours is the hardest. We're the best. We're the toughest. We're this because we overcame something that was hard for us in the beginning. But what that does is that blinds us from understanding that there are more levels to this moving forward. And when you don't open your eyes and you don't realize that there are more levels to this moving forward. And when you don't open your eyes

and you don't realize that there actually are more levels of more difficult challenges to move forward from where you are, you're going to stop progressing. And when you stop progressing, you stop growing, you become stale, you get depressed, and you look around and you're like, why am I so mad? Why am I so angry? Why am I so angry? Why am I so

frustrated? Well, the reason you're frustrated is because you're built to fucking dominate and you're choosing because you're holding on to a label that you gave yourself many years ago or many months ago from going on the new journey up the quote unquote new hills to get the quote unquote new house that will be the prize. Okay. The house is a metaphor for the quality of whatever your success is, whether that be your body, whether that be your relationships, whether that be your business, it doesn't matter. Because once we start telling ourselves that we've accomplished something, we've done something, these hills are hard, not many people could do these hills.

When we start telling ourselves that, guys, we start believing that we're the best. And when we start believing we're the best, we aren't willing to look at other challenges. We aren't willing to go up the next hill. We aren't willing to move forward on the next big project because we already feel like we've done it. And the truth is, We aren't willing to move forward on the next big project because we already feel like we've done it. And the truth is you haven't. Guys, being successful in life,

building the life that you want is going to take constant evolution. It is going to take constant progression. It is going to take a constant discipline towards looking for the next hardest path. Listen to what I just said. It's going to take the discipline to look for the next hardest path. See, most people get a little bit of success, man. They are able to pay their bills. They're able to buy a car, maybe a nice car. They're able to live in a decent house. They're able to quote unquote compete with their high school buddies or their circle of friends, and they're doing okay in that circle of friends. that's where they stay and they stay there until they die and I want you to think about that that's how people get in ruts right and the only thing difference between a rut and a fucking grave is the depth of the hole you guys got to really

really think about what it is you're doing I'm fortunate enough to have these realizations come to me somewhat randomly because I'm a deep thinker. But some of you guys, man, this stuff can happen to you without you really understanding how you got where you are. I know there's a lot of people listening right now and you're looking around and you're saying, man, I didn't ask for this. This is not what I wanted. This is not what I was told I was going to get. This is not how I wanted to live my life. I didn't want this kind of job. I didn't want this kind of body. I didn't want this kind of relationship. I didn't want this kind of car. I didn't want these kinds of friends. I didn't want this shit. Well, the reason you got it guys is because you started measuring yourself against people who were in your peer group at the time.

And once you started to get comfortable within that peer group and you felt like you weren't getting dominated by that peer group and you weren't dominating that peer group, you just kind of fell in line and that's where you stayed. And if I could see hands raised right now, I guarantee you most of you'd be raising your hand. The truth is, guys, we learned this as a young kid and it never changes. The degree of which you're rewarded is directly proportional to the degree of hard work that you put in. And I know that gets put out. I know that gets said a lot. I know that gets beaten to the dirt by all these motivational Muppets out there. But guys, the know that gets beaten to the dirt by all these motivational Muppets out

there. But guys, the reason it gets beaten to the dirt is because it's one of the things that's being said that is 100 million percent true. And it is a law of reality that will stand the test of time. Your life is a monument to the difficulty and the pain and the frustration and the shit that you have to deal with on a daily basis and how good you are at dealing with it. And not only how good you are at dealing with it, how good you are at asking for fucking more. you