REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Audio Exclusive 01: How Patience Really Works In Life & Business

Episode Date: February 10, 2024

In today's audio exclusive episode, Andy talks about how you cannot sit around and expect your goals to magically materialize with time and the importance of staying urgent with your daily actions, understanding that it'll take time to produce the results you want to win.

What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realest, saying goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and del delusions of modern society welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have an audio exclusive this is a brand new thing we're gonna do audio exclusive short quick hit little message dj's gonna throw me something i'm gonna throw some shit back and it's not gonna take up much of your time but we're gonna make your day better we're gonna teach you something we're gonna make you learn maybe kicking your ass a little bit this is our first one real ae real real ae yeah i don't know about that yeah i don't know about that yeah that sounds that's not good hey look so we're gonna miss yeah that's right it's real af audio exclusive all right we know we've been putting a lot of

emphasis on uh growing the video platform but our core is here on audio uh so we want to hit you guys with some special sauce yeah a little extra sauce yeah hit you with it splatter you yeah with some extra sauce guys let's get into i want to ask you this man because you know you've talked about this idea of letting the cake bake right and let's say i got all the perfect ingredients i got the best fucking recipe great oven i set the timer put it on the right fucking temperature what am i doing while that cake is baking right like i mean what do most people do and then what should you be doing all right so what dj is talking about is the idea of aggressive patience and i use the idea of aggressive patience. And I use the analogy of baking the cake because most people lack patience. You could give them all the ingredients to how to succeed, but then what

they'll do is they'll try to work 24 hours a day and think that they can cut the time aspect that is required from the success recipe down, which is impossible because it takes actual time for the consumer to become familiar with your product. And there's no way to outspend that. It's reality. So you have to understand that time is an essential ingredient to the success recipe that we cannot work our way around. The other thing we can't do is that when you have someone who gives you all the steps, you can't think that you know better when reality is you don't know what the fuck you're doing. And I use this analogy that we talk about baking the cake, all right, because I think it's very appropriate, easy for people to understand. You go to, let's

say, Martha Stewart, and Martha Stewart gives you her award winning ultimate world championship universe championship cake recipe and she gives you the exact ingredients and she says mix all of these ingredients in the bowl and then pour it into a cake pan and let it bake at 400 degrees for 45 minutes all right and? And you think, well, fuck, dude, I got all the ingredients. Okay, I'll mix them up. And by the way, you know, I think it'd be a little better with this and with that. So you throw in a little bit of your own stuff thinking you're going to make this thing better, right?

It's already won the world's best cake in the universe, but you, because you've made zero cakes, you know how to make it better, right? And then what you're going to do is you pour it in the pan and you say, well, fuck, I don't want to wait 45 minutes. So you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to turn the temperature up to 800 degrees and I'm going to let the thing cook for 20 minutes and, and you know, I'll be good and it'll work. And then what happens? You pull the cake out and not only is it burnt to a crisp, but it tastes like shit. Okay. Because your ego is

getting in the way of following actual directions from someone who's already been down the path. So you have to remove your ego and stop adjusting the recipe. Now, when you do get to the point where you got the right ingredients and you put them in the bowl and then you pour them in the pan and you do exactly what she said, you put the pan in the oven for 45 minutes. It cooks for 400 degrees. You pull it out and it's perfect. This is the idea of aggressive patience, all right? You are following directions and you are understanding.

There is no way for me to shorten the time here. There's no way for me to turn the temperature up and get the cake out faster. And I shouldn't adjust it because, you know what? I don't know what the fuck I'm doing, all right? So you're in a good spot, but here's the problem. Most people can't do this. And the reason they can't follow the directions is because they lack the patience to understand that time is always going to be part of the recipe. All right. You can't get around it. So when we talk about aggressive patience, what we're talking about is this idea that we have to be patient and we have to understand

that time is always going to be a factor in the outcome of what we're trying to produce. And we also have to understand that during that time, when we are being patient with the outcome, we have to understand that those days along the way, we have to be executing at our highest capacity every single day. Because when people talk about patience, they hear people say, oh, just be patient, be patient, be patient. And they think that if they sit around with their feet on their desk and just chill, eventually things materialize. You know, a lot of people believe that when they hit the age of 30, they're just going to become successful.

Or we hit the age of 35, they'll have millions of dollars just because they're 35. This isn't how it works. Okay. It might take you till 35 to get to that point. Yes, absolutely. But the only way that point is actually going to ever become reality in your life is that if you take every day from now until you're 35 and you win every single one of those days along the way with urgency. All right. So aggressive patience. That aggressive patience, that's the idea. We are going to understand that things are going to take time,

but we're also going to understand that during the time that it takes, we are going to aggressively execute every single possible day along the way. And this goes into the concept where we talk about win the day, all right? And if you wanna know what win the day. All right. And if you want to know what win the day is, you can go listen to episode 16 on the audio feed. It will explain the

entire concept that I have lined out with the powerless system that allows you to win every single day along the way while you're waiting for the result to materialize. All right. So this is how it works. If you guys think you can hack your way around this process, if you think you can, you know, get there twice as fast as the person before you by doing twice the amount of work and half the time, it doesn't work because time is a requirement of consumer adoption. They have to see what you're doing. They have to learn to trust it. They have to be educated around it. And this takes time. You can't rush that. You can't outspend that. So understanding you're 20 years old and you want to be a millionaire or a fucking decamillionaire by 30. All right. Because if you want to be a millionaire, your goal should really be to be a decamillionaire. That's the, that's the reality. So you're 20 now and you say, okay, I'm doing this and this is going to take until I'm 30 to do.

If you just sit around and put your feet on the chair or on the desk, that's never going to happen. The only way that's going to happen is you're going to have to execute aggressively along the way. So people just have the wrong idea when it comes to patience and they don't understand that when we talk about patience, it means you're going to have to be patient while working your fucking ass off every single possible opportunity that you have. And that's what we talk about when we talk about aggressive patience. I love that. I want to ask you this.

How many people have you seen just quit because they can't handle the patient time they're waiting while that cake is baking like how many people have you seen quit because they're not 99 percent of people quit this is what we can't see the progress listen dude this is how this works on day one you have a thousand people that show up to do whatever it is you're trying to do let's say you're trying to become uh the best jump roper in the world. All right. Let's just say on day one, there's a thousand people that are starting on that same day all over the planet. All right. And if you stick it out for the first six months, half of those people have already quit. They've already quit because they're like, this is too hard. I'm never going

to do this. They're doing it for two or three days, and they're out. All right? So now you're down to 500 people. Now if you stick it out for another year, all right, those people who stuck it out for six months, they're going to come to a realization of, fuck, this isn't an overnight thing. This is going to take time. I don't have time for this. This over here is shiny and new, and it looks faster, and they're going to quit. So half of those people quit.

Now you're down to 250. Okay. Now you go for another year and it whittles and whittles and whittles itself down until you find yourself to where you're one of only two or three people doing what it is you set out to do. And you're five to 10 years ahead of everybody else who's starting today, just trying to get out and get going. So the name of the game is persistence and fortitude and grit. And this is why we talk about Live Hard and 75 Hard being such an important tool for entrepreneurs because it gives you the ability to execute day by day

by day, especially when you don't feel like it. Because out of all this time that you're going to be on this journey, half of the time, if not more, you're not going to feel like doing it and you're going to have to do it anyway. And if you're one of these people who can execute whether they feel like it or whether they don't feel like it, you are an unstoppable human being. If you can execute when you feel great or you can execute when you feel like shit, if you can execute when you're highly motivated or you can execute when you would rather do anything else than do that. How can anyone else stop you from progressing? They can't. So you have to build this quality internally and then understand the game is longevity and persistence and fortitude and grit because everybody else falls off.

And by the time everybody else falls off, you have a ridiculous amount of time experience above everybody else that's just starting. And this is how you become great at whatever it is that you do. So you have to understand, it's aggressive patience, and the game is sticking it out because the longer you stick it out, the less competition you are going to have and the more expertise you have,

which allows you to defeat the beginner competition. Does this make sense? Absolutely. Keeps me at bay. Okay. So if you guys want to win, start understanding aggressive patience and start understanding the game of numbers that you're playing. You are not playing this game of luck. You are not playing this game of magic. You are not playing this game of, I'm going to hit a hot streak and we're going to go to the moon. That's not the game you're playing. You're playing a slow day by day bunts and singles and stolen bases version of entrepreneurship that eventually you're going to keep playing and playing and playing until there's nobody else playing that's been playing

as long as you and you're going to be great and everybody else will just be starting. So those are some principles that you guys need to keep in mind if you're going to be successful over the course of your life.