REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Autocorrect Your Negativity, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO31

Episode Date: December 10, 2015

To be successful, you have to win the battle of the mind.  You have to take your thoughts and bend them to your will.  Andy Frisella tells you how to "autocorrect" your negative thoughts.

All I do is work, work, work. Never run to sidelines, I only hustle. I don't ever take a day off, I only work, work, work. I don't mess around, kid, I only care. Money never seems to get you. All I do is work. All I do is work. Hey guys, what's up?

You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I am Andy and I am the motherfucking CEO. Here we are on Thursday. We're going to do a little Thursday Thunder for you. I'm here with my co-host, Vaughn Kohler. What's up, Vaughn? Not much, man. It is way too hot for December.

Dude, I'm with you, man. I'm not liking it. I'm ready for some cold. I like the season change. We've got some sales reps that are from Florida, California, and they're like, oh, they come here, and they're like, oh, I hate this. Dude, I like a season change. You know what I don't like, though, is getting dark at 4.30 in the afternoon. I totally agree.

I totally agree. I want to spend six months out of the year next year in a place where it doesn't do that. So if any of you people know of a place like that, send me an email, because I might be coming to live with you. I'm not kidding, either. You know, something dawned on me that I've never— know you're a sports guy right yeah and i mean you grew up like in uh what like oh man i primarily football every sport yeah yeah but you know how you told told a story about um your dad said you gotta go you gotta get the puck yeah yeah yeah now which one of you guys played hockey we both did you did and you you played ice hockey or you played like uh hockey? Okay. So are you like a big Blues fan?

Yeah, for sure, dude. You can't live in St. Louis and not be a Blues fan. Come on. Yeah, I know. I'm learning about hockey a little bit. You know, I grew up in Kansas. Oh, yeah, I forgot. You're not from here. Come on, dude.

You're going to ask that question around here. But the funniest thing happened. I don't know if you caught it the other day. Tyler, are you a Blues fan? Right. You are, really? Dude. I don't know. I just associate hockey. The Blues are as big as the cardinals okay blues a big deal yeah they're not bigger than the cardinals though no yeah yeah i

think well this is supposed to be like the best team ever this is the this is the best chance they have to win the standing cup right i mean that's from what i understand but anyway do you see that thing about roar bacon yeah yeah i'm I'm going to set the stage for those who have no idea what we're talking about. Right. Okay. A couple weeks ago here in St. Louis, there was a tweet that went out about the St. Louis hockey game. All right. And the guy who tweeted it, I think he intended to tweet,

Blues ride Backus five goals to win the game. And just in case you're wondering, David Backus is the captain of the Blues. Okay. He's an awesome player. Well, his phone auto-corrected it to the Blues roar bacon. And I guess I should say it didn't technically auto-correct it. I guess it screwed it up, but you know how your phone does that sometimes. Well, anyway, funny thing is the fans totally picked up on the statement, and now it's become this viral rally cry, Roar Bacon in St. Louis. So I thought that was pretty cool. Dude, first of all, I don't know what it is about Roar Bacon,

but it sounds like it would be pretty good. I'm just saying, man. If anybody's got some Roar Bacon out there for me, send me some. But, you know, it's funny. I thought that was hilarious, too, because first of all, you've all we've all seen like the autocorrect funny emails on Facebook to go around and read them. Those are some of the funniest fucking things I've ever read. But it got me thinking about like, you know, how our thoughts are shaped and what we do with those thoughts. You know, we have so many negative thoughts.

And a lot of times those thoughts can just be expressed by single words or phrases. And how we use words is hugely important to our success because it comes from the perspective of how we view, how we feel emotionally, and how we ultimately act when it comes to to turn success. So I thought something that would be cool that we could do here would be like, you know, let's talk about some words that, you know, are one thing, and then let's autocorrect them to another thing in our brain. You're talking about training your brain to autocorrect. Yes, because I think every successful person goes through that process.

They autocorrect or they see things automatically as something else when those words are brought up. So, um, what we've got is we've got a couple of words here that we're going to go through and we're going to talk about them and that you guys, you know, you can see the perspective difference between what you think they might mean and what I personally think they might mean or what somebody who's very successful might see those words. So I'll throw out the word and you're going to autoorrect it, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, okay. Word number one, obstacle. I see opportunity.

Okay, that's the word I see. Obstacles and challenges are opportunity to get better. They're opportunity to get improved. They're opportunity for you to move forward, to progress, and ultimately put you know, put a couple extra George Washington's in your pocket. Okay. You know, so when you're, so when your mind says obstacle, you say, train yourself to autocorrect. I think that's, I think every successful person does. And in an entrepreneurial mindset, you know, an obstacle, you could

substitute that word for problem. And then you want to develop a product that solves the problem or an idea that solves a problem or an idea that solves a problem or an idea that makes it more convenient i mean you look at something like uber you know uber fucking doesn't even own a cab and they're make a billion they're worth billions and billions of billions of dollars you know just because they made something a tad bit more convenient for you you know that's a good point it's it's it's it's not a huge obstacle it's a small obstacle i mean most there's cabs in most places right right? Right. They just saw it as an opportunity. Okay.

You know, to get a little bit better. All right. Here's a word that's typed a lot on the soul and mind and heart of people every day. Failure. Easily lesson, okay? There is no failures. The failure happens when you stop, all right? A failure is only a failure. If you

didn't learn anything, I've, I've quote unquote failed and bankrupted eight businesses, but I don't ever look at those things as failures. I look at them as things that I've learned that have allowed me to be successful over the course of time. And when we've talked about this so many times um and i just think that that i think that word right there is the biggest one that people misunderstand that they allow that word failure to creep into their mind stop them taking action stop them from thinking productive thoughts and you know ultimately keep them in a cage that is defined by society of average i remember at the speaking uh event that you did at Bush Stadium recently, somebody said, Andy, what's your greatest failure?

And I remember it because it really stuck with me. I've never heard you phrase it this way, but this is what you're talking about, is that your response was, I don't really think about it in that way. I don't think about biggest failure. I think of greatest lesson learned. Yeah, and that's the truth. That's pretty amazing. I mean, if people could autocorrect their brains to where every time they thought of failure,

they thought of lesson. Dude, if I hadn't failed all those companies, those little ideas I had, there's no way I would know what the fuck to do now. You know what I mean? So how can I look at those things as a failure if they all contributed to where I am? The trick is, is that when you're going through the process to be able to recognize that. I mean, it's easy for someone who's 10 years down the road and they're doing OK now to see that as a lesson. But the trick is to see it as a lesson while it's happening right now. And you say, you know what, fuck, I won't do this again. And to be able to take all the negative and oppressive emotion that makes you feel like you're the size of an ant and just throw it out the window and say, you know what,

I'm not going to do this anymore. I'm thankful for the lesson and move forward positively. Yeah. Okay, so this last one is my favorite one because I know a lot of people like, a lot of people's brains like to autocorrect into this word. And I know it's one of your favorites, lucky. I think loser when I hear that word, honestly. But, you know, let's say lucky. I would say productive.

I would say productive is a word that people could substitute with luck. It's not luck. It's not magic. It's hard work. It's efficiency. It's effectiveness. It's execution.

And it's perseverance through, word number two, the failures of your course and time that are going to ultimately get you where you want to go. It's easy to say that guy's lucky. That guy's got better circumstances. That guy has more advantages than I do. It's just easy for people to say that. And it's hard to do the work. So, you know, when you're in a group of people, three or four or five people, and you say that guy got

lucky, everybody agrees. Like, yeah, that guy get fucking lucky when in reality you don't see, like, for example, in my situation, the 10 years I didn't get a fucking paycheck. You know what I mean? Or when I did, it was just so irrelevant. It was almost like getting nothing. You know, they don't see that. They see the end result. They see the Lamborghini or they see, you know, the travel, the exotic destinations, or they see the, the, the being the bossness of a CEO, you know, they don't fucking see what, what, the being the bossness of a CEO, you know, they don't fucking see what, what the perseverance it took or, or the hard work it took or the execution habits that they took. They see luck. And it's just far easier for people to say he, she, they got lucky than it is to admit the work that needs to be done and do the fucking work. It's just easier. So my challenge to you guys would be every time a negative thought

enters your mind, willfully auto-correct it on a conscious level. Stop and think of the flip side. To be successful, you've got to win the battle that goes on in your mind. That's the biggest battle you're ever going to face. The biggest enemy you're ever going to face is the voice inside your head that says you're a failure. The voice inside your head that says those people got lucky. The voice inside your head that says this is too big of an obstacle for me to overcome and you've got to take your thoughts you've got to bend them to your will negative words all they are is thoughts that are mental typos take your negative thoughts look at the flip side on a conscious level every single day and see what happens i guarantee you in 30 60 90 days you're going to have a totally different outcome than

what you have now.