REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Bros, Babes, Brides, Breakups, and Business, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO16

Episode Date: September 22, 2015

While you are ultimately responsible for your success, there is one person who, unlike anyone else, can help make you or break you. Joined by his wife Emily, Andy Frisella shares his thoughts on your relationship with your significant other and the effects that he/she can have on every aspect of your life--on your business and beyond.  

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Hey, guys. What's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm your host, Andy Frisella, and I am the motherfucking CEO. I'm here with my co-host, Vaughn Kohler. What's up, man? What's up? Not a lot. I always say that. Whenever you say, what's up, man, I don't know what to say. Well, what's going on? What's the news in Vaughn the Impaler world?

I am a bachelor today and tomorrow, i'm driving to kansas city oh shit that's a lot pounds of weed being smoked and bitches getting bows crazy i'm gonna got a whole pass i'm gonna go across the river and it's gonna be great so uh we also just kidding for those of you who don't know what sarcasm is and there's a lot of them. Yeah. So guys, we have a special guest today. Her name is Emily. She is the owner of Fithomeandhealth.com. She's a blogger, an entrepreneur, an author, and she also happens to be my wife. That's true.

Yeah. Are you like, does anybody ever refer to you as the first lady of first form? No, I did receive a tank top from a company that said Mrs. MFCEO on it that I wear proudly. Did you really? Yeah, I wore it like three times a week. You're MFMRS. Exactly. Yeah, I like that.

That's what I was going to say. That's going to be my license plate. So question of the day is what the fuck are we going to talk about, dude? Because usually every time I come in here, I have this list of things that we're going to go through, and today I have no list. Yeah, so I'm going to make an urgent plea to everyone listening at this very moment for you to give very high marks to this because I want Andy and his lovely wife and Tyler,

who is not wearing coral pants right now. Tyler, where are your special pants? Where are they, dude? It's laundry day. It was laundry day yesterday. Okay. Anyway, I'm making this urgent plea. I want everyone to respond very positively to this because I really had to sell

Andy on this. We're going to talk about a lot of things related to business and your significant other and relationships, but this isn't going to be like eHarmony. It's going to be MFCEO Harmony. MFCE Harmony?

MFCE Harmony. No, it's not even going to be like that, but it's going to be a good conversation. So you're down with it, right, Emily? Absolutely. Okay. Well, I thought that the first thing we could do is, you know, for those who are really deep into these kinds of things, tell us your, your love

story. Well, you want, you want me to the truth or do you want her story? Why don't we, why don't we hear it? Here we are. Ruthie's beer, Ruthie's beer and here we are. Not Ruthie. No. Who the hell's Ruthie? I don't know. Yeah, pretty much. Um, she stalked me for a long time and then uh we went out and uh now we're married that's pretty much how it happened that's not what i heard in what world okay emily do you want to tell your your i i've heard that you uh he's the cliff notes worked in yeah well he's always the cliff notes version but i've heard that i've heard that uh you worked as an ad manager or something like that. Yeah.

And he showed up in a tuxedo with flowers. I was an operations and accounting manager for a design firm. And he walked in and was so struck and put back by me that he said, I just got to have that, so I'm going to stalk her for two years. No, that's not what happened. What happened was, and this is funny because a lot of people look at her and they look at me and they're like, dude, she's fucking with him because he's got some money. Which we honestly, I get that a lot. People comment that shit on our fucking pages.

It's terrible. Actually, you know what I get all the time about you two? What? Dude, she just loves him for his beard. Well, that's true. You know what? I mentioned the beard in our wedding vows. Truth.

The point is, is that we do get a lot of that shit. And what people don't realize and what makes them look so fucking stupid when they say that is that the whole reason we even met is because I couldn't pay my fucking bills at the company that she worked at. So she used to have to call me and harass me to pay my bills when I didn't have any money. And then I would try to turn it into a joke and just tell her, you know, she's calling a flirt with me. Like that's the only thing I could do because I didn't have any money. Right.

You know? And so I think it's ironic that people say that shit. And it's like, dude, no, man, my game is just that strong. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. We, you know, what happened really was we were friends, you know, and it just kind of evolved from that.

You know, we knew each other for years before we even went out on a date. Yeah. You know, and she knew that I was broke. And so how long did you guys actually date before you got married and when did you get married? We got married October 20th, 2012. And we got together middle of 09 and we met in 06. Cool. So we knew each other three years and then, 2012. And we got together middle of 09. And we met in 06. So we knew each other three years.

Cool. Well, so the reason that I think this is so valuable to talk about this is because we have had quite a few emails from people who, you know, they're trying to kill it in business. They're trying to kill it in life. And they either have a significant other or they want a significant other. And one of the things that everybody in this room knows very well, none of us would position ourselves as marriage experts or even dating experts or love experts. But we've all learned a little bit about relationships here and there. And one of the things that I know you guys believe is that this, the significant person in your life, uh, whether it's spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, or whatever, they can make or break you professionally. And so this is relevant to, to success in business. Um, just like hanging out with successful people is relevant. And just like we've talked about the

importance of building loyal friendships is relevant. So this person who's sort of the center of your life in many ways, their influence is going to ripple on everything you do. So what I want to know, I think one of the things that I want to just start with you, Emily, is just to say, what's a quality, one quality that you think that you've always looked for in a man that you found in Andy and you say, thank God that's the case. Otherwise our marriage and by extension, my business attempts would absolutely suck. What's that quality? His work ethic, like his drive. You know, like I love that. I, that's the way my dad was just bust ass hard worker. And I like that, you know what I mean? Nobody wants freaking lazy ass,

you know, playing video games, watching ESPN and sit on the couch all day. So his drive and work ethic is, you know, something, a quality that like, I, you know, is important to me. And what did your dad do or what does he do right now?ing firms and also is a farmer oh like both he does both yeah he's done both uh 61 he's he's a hard-ass worker he could outwork any 20 year old actually now that i think about it i think andy has mentioned that guy before yeah that's the only guy andy's you know afraid of yeah yeah he's a big guy yeah now are you guys traditional enough that did andy like talk to your dad before? Yeah, it's kind of a funny story because my sister and her boyfriend have been together for a long time.

And Andy was going to ask my dad permission to marry me on Easter. Yeah, Easter 2011, I guess. And Andy had to leave to go do something else. And my sister's boyfriend asked my dad at Easter to marry my sister. And then I told Andy, I said, oh, my gosh, you know, Adam is going to marry Sarah. And Andy's like, what? And he didn't sound too excited. I didn't know what was going on. I found out months later he was going to ask the same day, but he didn't want to like steal their thunder.

So he had to wait months later to ask me. So that's funny. That's good. So, yeah, he was. Yeah, he he's very traditional in asking what about you andy in terms of what people look for what you found in emily that you are very glad that exists in her as a character quality otherwise life would suck for you her boobies that's two qualities all right i can already tell you're taking this topic really seriously

let's be real here it's all her boobs nothing else that's where the brains are at no but that's the thing I loved did you post I think you posted something on Instagram I showed it to my wife it was hilarious no it was

Teresa posted oh yeah did you see that yeah you want to say it because I'm not going to say it it said uh brains are the new tits yeah yeah but the thing is obviously I'm joking but you know I see all these people I get emails all the time about the same thing we're talking about um you know oh I'm trying to start a business and my loved ones don't support me or my girlfriend doesn't support me or my so and so doesn't support me. And, you know, the truth of the matter is, is people are far too loyal to people that don't support them in relationships. You know, I've got these 19 year old kids who are dating some girl for three months and they're taking heat about whatever they're trying to get going and they're like well what should i do well you know what you should fucking cut her off that's what you should do and the reason that the main thing about emily that made us work is that

she understood what my goals were and supported them a hundred percent it wasn't a situation where i had to fight because dude being an entrepreneur is hard enough. Moving forward is hard enough. Trying to find success is hard enough. You know, without somebody who's supposed to be on your team and supposed to be rowing your boat in the same direction, you know, basically throwing an anchor in the water and keeping you from going where you want, which was the situation, you know, many, many years for me before her and I got together. So, you know, the main thing for me, um, you know, I'm not going to sit here and be like, Oh, it's her compassion or blah, blah, blah. And all this shit. No, man, it's a compatible relationship. Yeah. You know, it's matter of fact, like, dude, she understands that there's a team, there's things that she's got to do. And there's things that she's got to do and there's things that I've got to do, you know.

And like most people are like trying to equal out all this shit in a relationship when in reality, if you're on the same team, you shouldn't be playing tit for tat anyway. Yeah. You know, so I got a lot of these younger guys and even older people, you know, they're in there even if they're married they don't have many obligations you know they've got these situations that and the reason i said boobs obviously i'm joking but like they're with somebody because they like the way their ass looks or they like the way their their boobs look and they're not with somebody because it's a fucking compatible relationship you know and dude my advice real simply is like dude think with your fucking your your head, not your fucking little head. Think with your big fucking head. You know what I'm saying?

And like, dude, you don't owe loyalty to someone you've been with for fucking three months. I'm sorry. Right. You don't owe loyalty to someone you've been with for a year that you have no commitment to. You're not. Is your life worth giving it up for something like that? You know, and if you think it is, you're, there's something wrong with your brain. Right. Period. Right.

You know? So like, you know, I say the boob thing joking, but you know, the reason I said that, I mean, it is because I want people to realize like, you know, there's like probably 70% of people that like really would answer that way. Right. If they were being honest. Right. You know what I mean?

So. Right. I don't know. You know what I mean? So, right. I don't know, man. I just get, you know, it's a, it's a frustrating thing to answer because if you answer,

like I just answered, people say, whoa, oh, you're all about success and not about family. No, but how much, it's just a fucking ignorant statement to make,

you know, success and family go hand in hand. How much better can you take, take care of your family if you're successful? Right. You know what I mean? Which, which actually is, is a great segue into this, this topic that, you know, this work, work family balance or work life balance, which we've all talked about before in the podcast is, is a really terrible way to even refer to it because you're never going to have this perfect balance. That's an ideal that can't be, can't be achieved. But I think what I would be very interested to know,

either one of you want to chime in first is, um, what were the, what are the key indicators for you that, you know, you can say, okay, yeah, we're doing this. We're killing it. We're, we've got a good rhythm going here. We've got, we're, we're doing this. We're killing it. We've got a good rhythm going here. We're doing okay in our relationship. We're doing okay in our business. And then to follow up that question, what things do you do or the attitudes you adopt that have enabled you to hit that sweet spot?

The way that I asked that was a little confusing. I guess simplify the question is, what things do you do where you, you are able to achieve a little bit of success in, in work and home. And the balance, I think it's just understanding each other and you know, how things work. I know that his days are jam-packed. He's always, you know, got someone trying to reach him. He's always setting new goals and everything like that. So I feel that it's me understanding that, you know, it's learning each other's language. They say like love language, that sounds retarded, you know, but it's really like a language of

learn his day. I know when he answers the phone, he says, yo, it's what's going on. I'm busy. You know, what's, you know, what let's, you know, no small talk or hello. It's more of he's available and things like that. And I feel like when he comes home, I can sense how he is and he can sense how I am. And we just I mean, it works. It's just we have a good sense, I think, of self with each other that we we can. We don't have to have focus on a balance. I don't know. It's no, dude.

A lot of these girls, especially out there, are they're fucking whiny whiny you know what i'm saying you're at work all fucking day you're but like dude any guy out there listening right now and females are gonna write in and be all pissed off about this but i'm gonna fuck because it's truth okay you got your dude out there trying to fucking do something okay or even vice versa you got your your girl out there trying to do something we have female entrepreneurs on the show okay they're out there spending all their fucking energy to try to better their lives that you're a part of. And they get home, the last thing that you need to be doing is whining in their ear about, you know,

why you didn't fucking hold my hand enough today or why you didn't, you know, put your cup away whenever you drank all the water out of it or whatever, dude. It's just, you know uh put your cup away whenever you drank out of the water out of it or whatever dude it's just you know people get beat up over emotionally beat up over the most ridiculous shit and nagged you know what i mean it's nagging and you know it zaps the energy man you only have so much energy and if you can if you're getting your energy zapped at home by your significant other over insignificant bullshit, you know what I mean? Oh, you know, what's wrong?

What? I don't understand. Why are you in a bad mood? I'm in a bad mood. It's in a fire. Eight motherfuckers today. How about that? Something you know nothing about.

You know what I mean? So the thing is, is like people don't fucking think about that. They're selfish in their thinking. They think about like, you know, they instead of thinking like, oh, this it could have been a terrible day or could have been this. They take everything personal. You know what I mean? And they make it into this like relationship and you come home and it's fucking therapy. You know, it's all of a sudden you got to lay on the couch and put your feet up and have this fucking therapy session about why, whatever, you know, the reality is, is anybody who's in business, anybody who's an entrepreneur, and I don't care who they are or what they say, they're going to have a little bit of a fucked up relationship. It's just not traditional. It's not what you see in real life where people hold hands and fucking walk down the street and have a picket fence and all this shit. It's just not. Did you guys happen to listen to Gary V's podcast about this whole work-life balance thing where he basically said he knew that there were times that he was neglecting his family. He didn't want to.

I don't want to misrepresent him. I think it's been a while since I've listened to it. But he's basically saying that there is no perfect scenario. You have to do your best to try to try to meet your family's needs. What you're saying is the problem. You have all these fucking idealistic people out there that think that it should be this perfect little thing. Okay. So you have to understand number one, it's not going to be fucking perfect. It's just like being an entrepreneur. You know, these people wait and wait and wait and wait and wait and they wait for this perfect fucking opportunity this perfect plan with no bumps in the road no no obstacles no anything and that's why they never find what they're looking for because it's not there you

know and so you have the same thing now you have these people who think relationships are supposed to be this like thing that they think about or they see on TV or whatever they fucking read about somewhere or see on TMZ or whatever. I don't I don't know where the fuck they get this idea, but they have an unrealistic idea of what's reality. Like you said, it's. Oh, go ahead, Tyler. If I may, Andy, because I know Emily on a personal level and she's probably the most selfless person I know. How much easier does she make your career a million times because she understands that right but see that's the thing and like that's that's where like I hear

these guys especially because I get a lot of guys saying this to me my and I don't know if it's because I have more male followers or whatever it is but I had a lot of guys were like man I've been with this girl for this amount of months and you know she doesn't she doesn't support my goals or my dreams and she thinks I should blah blah blah and what should I do what the fuck do you think you should do the thing is they always say that who you marry or date anything like that that's your most important business decision you're not going to make a deliberate bad decision in business so why would you make that in your relationship you're also not going to make an emotional decision in business.

Exactly. Based off of some fucking shiny thing. You know what I mean? Right. And that's what most people do. They make this a totally emotional decision about their partner. And then they try to make these logical decisions. They try to mesh those things together and it doesn't work.

So you didn't listen to Taylor Swift and then go ask Emily to marry you? Oh, Lord. No. Honestly, before I met her, Swift and then go ask Emily to marry you? Oh, Lord. No. Honestly, before I met her, I was never going to get married. Yeah? Never. Never fucking. Never, ever, ever.

So playing devil's advocate, I'm just going to throw this out there. What if somebody says, great, well, you know, Tyler calls her selfless. Basically what you're telling me, Andy, is you married a doormat. She just does whatever you want her to do, you know? I'm playing devil's advocate. I know you are. Don't punch me. But, I mean, she just does whatever you want to to do. I'm playing devil's advocate. Don't punch me, but I mean, she just does whatever you want to do. I mean, what's your response to that? I think that anybody who thinks that's got a mental fucking issue.

So what's the difference between someone who is selfless and someone who's a doormat? Because what's a doormat? Explain to me what a doormat is. Well, whatever you want, honey, it's all about you. I don't have anything that I'm ever going to ask you to do for me or to sacrifice for me. I guess that's what I would say. I'm pretending to be the person who's going to level that accusation. What are you guys going to say? Right, and I think what Tyler meant in that way, it's more of understanding what it is. I have owned a business

before a brick and mortar business and I was in a relationship with someone that nagged the hell out of me and it is annoying it's terrible you can't be productive it's fucking ridiculous and I know how much like that annoyed me and how much I hate it and like you resent those people for those kind of things you know and so I can understand from, you know, that standpoint of him. So I think that it's not a doormat. It's more of just understanding what he goes through every day, trying to make his life easier. It's the roles of the, of the, of the relationship.

Everybody's got a part to play. You know what I'm saying? If you're in a fucking baseball diamond, okay, you're not, everybody plays every position. You know what I mean? So we just happen to have more of a traditional relationship. She works from home. She's an entrepreneur from home. I actually don't work from home.

I come here. I have a lot of things going on. And I go take care of my business. She takes care of her business. Time we get to spend together, it's great. You know what I mean? So I don't know man i i still think the idea of like a doormat or whatever these the traditional relationship of like the 50s or whatever is unrealistic you

know what i mean i and i feel like i don't know i'm trying to think back because it's hard for me to remember what it was like to be in a relationship but i mean i can remember being in other relationships where i would get like text messages during the day non-fucking-stop about like something like something stupid like uh you know i don't know maybe we had a little bit of an argument the day before and then the argument just drags on all day long through text you know what i mean yeah absolutely here's the problem so what happens what ends up happening and what you guys and girls need to understand is that what ends up happening is you,

you're getting yelled at for being too ambitious, too goal driven, too wanting success. All right. So then you back off, right? And then you come and you give your attention to all this person. And then guess what?

Then the problem becomes not that you're ambitious and goal driven and blah, blah, blah. The problem becomes that you're lazy and you're fucking broke. So like nothing's good enough. That's right. So you have to realize that. So when people fucking nag you, cut them out of your life. I don't care who they are.

Agree. Yeah. So you you mentioned two things. One, you said that Emily had some stuff going on at home entrepreneurially. And then you also said that, you know, contrary to this, this person who was constantly texting you, you weren't doing that, which tells me not only, uh, you know, to piggyback off of Tyler, but it's not just selflessness, but you you're confident you've built that you've, you've, you have a healthy independence. So on that note, why don't you tell us what you're doing? What's your business venture? Business venture.

It's Fithomeandhealth.com. It is a website right now. I have some cookbooks coming out. Hopefully the first one will be out like early winter. And it's basically healthy living lifestyle. I was inspired about six years ago to start this because I was shopping for some healthy cookbooks and they all required ridiculous, you know, spices that I couldn't find or they were ridiculously expensive. They're paying the ass to make. Right. And I said, fuck this.

I'm doing my own thing. So, um, I just started doing that. And then this February, um, Andy and I talked about just me taking that on full time and, uh, cause our lives are getting increasingly busy with him. And we made the joint decision that I would leave my career and do this full time and pursue that. So you're currently doing something else, too. Oh, no, no. Sorry. I misheard you.

So you already did that. You already left your career. Yes, I left my career. No, you're fine. Just this past February that I was at for eight years. Actually, the job that I met Andy career yes I left my career like just no you're fine just this uh past February that I was at for eight years actually the job that I met Andy at I left there and uh started doing this um full-time and you know working from home and it's I you know I really enjoy it it's uh Andy's you know been super super supportive of this and you know when I

mentioned he's like fuck yeah go do your thing you know do your own thing so it's a pretty easy uh decision that's awesome yeah um so i'm going to take it just a second to do that boring information that we always like to share uh those of you who want to catch this episode go to the mfceo forward slash p16 and you can check out episode notes uh links galore book recommendations all that good stuff and while i'm at it i'm going to go ahead and mention the winners of the um shout out competition that or contest that we had uh last week did you already do that well we did that on a uh on an episode that we ended up scrapping oh okay i to say, I felt like we did that already. Yeah. So I'm just going to make this real quick. Shout outs go to at get skull that's spelled S K U L L E at get skull. He's a Missouri entrepreneur who sells hygiene products and the like at gorilla zero one gorilla

as in gorilla warfare, not, uh, the ape. And I believe, uh believe Aaron is an athlete and personal trainer and has just a lot of things going on, dadhood and husband, and people spoke very highly of him. So shout out to at Gorilla01. And then finally, at Isaiah Robertson, and that's spelled with an L, which is a little confusing, but it's at Isaiah Robertson, and he runs an organization called Stat Basketball, which it looks like it helps youth who face different challenges.

And I'm sure he's got a lot going on. But check out those three. Oh, and then I have to throw in at Natalie Works, who is the mom of at Get Em Scott, who has a skin care business, and she works real hard. So that's our shout-out winners. We'll do that at some point in the future. So just going back to you, Emily, a little bit on what you're doing, because I know we have, we do have, you know, it's not the majority, but we do have a good contingent of our listeners who are women. So talk to me a little bit about, are there unique challenges to having a business that's targeting and marketing to women?

Because I mean, I take it that that's fit home and and marketing to women because i mean i i take it that that's fit home and health is yeah a lot i mean i do have some you know a male audience as well but for the women you know it's still a little bit more traditional where a lot of the women you know do the cooking i do have the portion of men that they a lot of the men that um that follow their chefs actually too so it's kind of you know it's it's neat that they get into it as well and you know i haven't uh i haven't had any challenges so far as far as being a woman i think it's just you know you have to put yourself out there as the way you want to be perceived and you know respected and who you are right so i haven't uh had any type of challenges as far as that goes but it is it's just putting out content that people can relate to it's not overly girly it's

not fluffed up it's here's how you make this provide a good dinner and yeah yeah so let's suppose that you guys are friends with another couple and one of them has a real strong desire to build something big in business but you're noticing something about the other person in that relationship and those what you're noticing are red flags things that you're noticing something about the other person in that relationship. And what you're noticing are red flags, things that you're thinking, oh, this is going to be trouble down the line. What are some of the things you're noticing? People that are needy, lack confidence. They want a lot of attention.

They're not good with being alone. You have to be able to. People who make remarks, you know what I mean? Like, you'll hear this. I hear this a lot, actually. They make little remarks. They'll tell you, like, the little clues. Like, oh, you know, the one, you know, he just works so much.

Or he just, he's always working. And it's, like, set in a complaint tone. It's like, look, bitch, he's working so he it's like in set in a complaint tone. It's like, look, bitch, he's working so he could pay your fucking bills. You know what I mean? Right.

I've heard people say stuff like that. And I'll say, Oh, we were supposed to do this, but you know, he's got to work. The funny thing is, the funny thing is,

is when people bit like other girls, bitch to you about people that work for us here. And they're like, they act like I fucking never work. It's like, it's like telling you, they only had a fucking clue. here. And they're like, they act like I fucking never work. It's like, it's like telling you, they only had a fucking clue. Yeah.

Right. I mean, it's like, dude, you know, it's unreal. There do my work like 50 hours a week. Oh,

he's always working. Blah, blah, blah. She's like rolling her eyes. Yeah. It's, and it happens.

Like people don't think about what they're saying. Right. You know what I mean? Right. And it does. It is comical because it's like, they don't understand like, Oh yeah. Andy's at the office. Then he comes home and he's working. So can I go to they're saying. Right. You know what I mean? Right. And it does. It is comical because it's like they don't understand like, oh, yeah, Andy's at the office and he comes home and he's working.

So, fuck it, I go to bed. Exactly. No. And then he can't fucking sleep because he has ideas or he gets up and he's texting, you know, like doing emails or, you know, reminding himself stuff. But I mean, the red flags are obvious if you look for them. I mean. They're not red.

They're flaming. Right. Yeah. People make remarks about how much you work or this or that, and let's say in the beginning of a relationship, you know, less than a year probably, you know, dude, that's an automatic issue. That's, what do you think that's going to fester into? You know what I mean?

Look for the people that, that I think are, uh, they feed into the drama. If they watch reality TV, that's a red flag. That's not going to work out. Another red flag would be the person that is working in the relationship all of a sudden loses driver passion. Dude, I see that all the time. I can't tell you how many employees I've had

that have met some new girl. All of a sudden, they're all about this girl. And all of a sudden, their work situation goes to total shit. You know what I mean? Guys, that's the mentality of society and i'm gonna get hate mail on this i don't really give a fuck but the reality is the mentality of

society is this emotional minded fucking fluffy bullshit you know care bear shit it's what i call it you know let's all hug and sing kubaya and let's operate our whole lives on emotion yeah it's not the fucking reality of the world. If you want to, if you want to do it, if you want to drive a nice car, you want to live in a nice house, you want to have a nice bank account.

You want to be able to do shit. You're going to have to think logically, not all emotionally. That's it. You know what I'm saying? And dude, the reality, what's the reality of a relationship anyway?

People can fucking fake a relationship for six months. They could pretend to be what you want them to be for at least six months. Then it'll be perfect. Then the little red flags will start coming out, okay? Then three years from now, you're breaking up with them because you fucking hate them. And you would have hated them in the first place

had they fucking not lied about who they were. You know what I'm saying? Right, right. So it's all fucking, you know, I just have a different take, man. You know, like, her and I got along as friends. You know what I mean?

She understood what it means to fucking work because her dad, I think, has probably set that example for her and she saw that in her own family and I recognize that. You know what I mean? Mm-hmm.

And we get along. we fucking laugh at each other's jokes you know i think she's pretty good looking yeah it's that fucking simple you know what i'm saying like dude it's not that hard and you didn't need to get on match.com or anything like that no believe it or not you know it's it's just it's one of those things uh it's just people overcomplicate it it's just, people overcomplicate it. It's just like fucking being an entrepreneur. Do people overcomplicate the whole fucking thing? You know, instead of like what I say all the time, take one customer, turn it into two, don't overcomplicate it. People do that with relationships. You know, they look for this

thing that doesn't exist. They look for perfection. They look for no road bumps. And instead of being coming good with somebody who's like minded you know they they do fucked up shit because people are fucked up they think they think things like this oh well that guy's kind of boring i'm gonna go for this person who's a challenge well then they then they bitch about it because it's like a bad dude or bad bitch shit and i'm glad you made time like i did and try and change a person. That's what I'm saying. Like, that's what they do.

They'd rather, instead of finding somebody you're compatible with, dude, let's be real, man. Let's be fucking real. This show's about reality. People fucking go out with people for sexual reasons. All right? Once you've had sex with somebody for a fucking year, guess what? You get used to it. No matter who the fuck you're with.

Law of diminishing return. That's what I'm saying. It's reality, dude. And I'm not saying like, you know, sex life, this or that. But I'm just saying like people make these decisions that ruin their whole fucking lives based on something that's fucking ridiculous. You know what I mean? Right. Like, oh, dude, I got this perfect partner.

Oh, I like this other girl's titties. I'm going to go fucking banger. And they ruin their life. You see what I mean right like oh dude i i'm i got this perfect partner oh i like this other girl's titties i'm gonna go fucking banger and they ruin their life you see what i mean absolutely like dude they don't get it and like dude these young guys young guys especially because i know you're all walking around with fucking boners half the time you know they're the ones making these stupid ass decisions about who they should be dating dude and they go out with these chicks that fucking hang around dudes with bottles at the club and shit. Instead of picking up somebody who's got a fucking brain and who could be a

good partner in life. I mean, you know what I'm saying? I look at him and I'm like, dude. And I see dudes with them and they're, they're like, oh yeah, we're getting married. And I'm like my face. I got like, you know, I got, I can't even hide it anymore. I don't know the point now. Yeah. He can't hide his emotion. When people tell me that I'm like, I can't even hide it anymore. I don't know the point now.

Yeah, he can't hide his emotions. When people tell me that, I'm like, dude, I mean, you for real? Honestly, I thought you were fucking paying her for the night. You know what I mean? Yeah, he'll ask too. Yeah. I mean, dude, but that's what guys do. And then they email me and they say, Andy, my girlfriend says I work too much.

My girlfriend says I'm too much. Right. My girlfriend says I'm too ambitious. How can you be too ambitious? You know what I'm saying? Yeah. That same girl, you're going to fucking quit your job. And that's what's funny about these dudes that get all wrapped up in these relationships. They end up quitting a job or changing jobs to spend more time with their girl.

And what happens? The girl fucking kicks them out. Right. Or cheats on them. Right. With somebody who's got more money or somebody who's got more success or somebody who has more ambition. So I, so I'm really glad you're getting fired up about this.

I am because it's dude, I could fucking seriously unload right now, but like it would involve like words like whore and slut and fucking skank. And cause those are the words that I actually use. Yeah. And it goes both ways. And it would include words like moron, fucking idiot. Yeah. Okay.

Dumbass. But I'm just not going to insult everybody. I mean, like, but use your fucking brain. You know, it's a partnership. It's the most important partnership of your life. You should fucking look past somebody's physical attributes and connect with somebody on a mental level and on a friendship level. Because what I'm saying about the sexual things and this and that and whatever is like

dude what are you going to have when you get used to that it's whatever else you have it's what's left you know what i'm saying right and dude you know people always like i hear people complain like oh dude we just don't have the fucking the magic we used to have you mean like when you first met and it was brand fucking new and it was exciting and you don't have that anymore for two years welcome to fucking club that's everybody that's fucking everybody that's everybody everybody in the fucking earth and if you say different you're a fucking liar right so but the mistake they make is then saying that's love yeah they think that's love they think that's they think the love is the fucking infatuation phase that

when you first start dating they think oh that's love and i'm out of love because i'm not like as excited you know what i'm saying as i was well dude that's not it it's just like anything it's it's anything that you become familiar with is less exciting naturally. You know what I mean? So people do this all the time. They go in a relationship and I would say that relationship can last,

you know, that period can last like two, probably two years. You know what I'm saying? Where you're just crazy, excited and all that shit. Right. And then what they do is they say, oh, I fell out of love. And they break up and they start over and then they go do this.

Like, dude, I have fucking friends have married twice already. They're 35 years old, you know, three times more than that. You know what I mean? It's like,

dude, stop and think about what the fuck you're doing. You know what I mean? I know a lot of friends that have to be in a relationship and it holds them back career wise. Dude, because they jump from one girl to another relationship and it holds them back career wise. Dude. Because they jump from one girl to another girl and it just. Look, I'm not going to lie.

When I was making my business, like whenever we were broke and we were coming up, we didn't have shit. My 100% priority was business. And I lost girlfriends over it. And dude, I lost friends over it. I lost girlfriends over it. And you know what? I couldn't be fucking happier about it. That's the reality.

You know, because now I look back and I think, man, I could have fucking ended up with that person. I could have ended up here. I could end up there. And it's hard for people when they're younger, especially to see the reason things aren't working out until they're older. And then they can look back and they can say, wow, that's why that didn't work. Right. You know what I mean? Right.

Absolutely. So I love the fact that you made a distinction between people who are really screwed up, they're negative and people who are just imperfect because we're all imperfect, but there's a difference between just falling short of that, that objective standard of perfection and then just being a really screwed up person. But here's something that I, I'd like to ask you, cause I know you're really big on the law of attraction, you know, like attracts like. Dude, here, I want to add something to what you you just said like there's a lot of people out there and

you have to fucking look out for them they're puppet masters okay and what they do is they have no power in life they have not accomplished anything they don't have any power over anything and and a lot of times this is girls because girls a lot of girls fucking go through life trying to think i'm going to find a rich guy and fucking marry him. Like that's their strategy in life. Like, dude,

if that's your strategy and you're listening to this, you are fucked up period. Okay. And so what they do is they try to use their vagina to manipulate you into doing things and their puppet masters. And they're like, well, if you do this,

I'll give you this. Or if you do that, I'll give you're like well if you do this i'll give you this or if you do that i'll give you that or if you do this i'll give you this and like dude i hear these guys saying shit like oh yeah man you know fucking i'm gonna go home i'm gonna go home early this week so maybe i can get lucky it's like bro you're the most pathetic fucking thing i've ever heard like that's the most pathetic thing i've heard you know what i mean dog scratching at a door yeah exactly like you're gonna be a fucking dog begging for fucking hoping somebody to get laid the fuck out of here you know be a man stand up and have your fucking priorities straight and if somebody has a tree you respect man woman or otherwise get

him out of your fucking life period well said you know yeah definitely I it's like pathetic dude I see it all the time. And it's like, I want to reach out and fucking strangle people because I'm like, dude, you are so far away from having the fucking success mindset. Like I can't even fucking talk to you. You know what I mean? I can't. What I say to you is not going to make sense.

You know, and it's very frustrating because I want these people to realize what they're doing is self-destructive. But you can't talk it into somebody that's in that fucking mindset. Do you think the core of it is insecurity? Yeah, dude. Because guys have this idea like, dude, here's what it comes down to. Let's be real. Girls hit puberty.

Dudes try to bang them every day all day long from the time they're fucking 15. They're in control. Let's be real. right guys hit puberty they can't even see a boobie all right they go through life trying to see girls naked that's their mentality i'm gonna do everything i can to see girls naked and when they find one they try to fucking stick with them it's like being in the desert and somebody throwing you a fucking cracker and you thinking that cracker tastes like thanksgiving dinner you know when you're when you don't have much selection you know a fucking cracker is pretty damn good you

know what i mean but you've got to have the perspective to look and say yeah it's a fucking cracker it's still any thanksgiving and fucking go find thanksgiving you know what i'm saying yeah i love that yeah it's a good and so dude it's a mentality of men versus women yeah and a lot of women hear this and they get upset, but it's the truth. You know, men don't have that fucking constant barrage of potential sexual activity happening to them over and over and over and over and over and over again. So, dude, they take what they can get for the most part. It's like we've talked to the bar going out. You know, you see girls are waiting and like guys buy them drinks.

Everything else is easy for them. We're guys. It's like all they got. They're getting shot down drinks everything else it's easy for them where guys it's like takes all they got they're getting shot down everything else right and so like dude and that's that's why you get people who hang on to something that's not that great for them because they don't they're afraid to like go out and go out into the desert and starve for a while right i mean that's what it's like but dude you know what sometimes you gotta starve if you're a dude right you know i mean i think people don't realize that it is it is far better to be alone than to be with someone who's bad for you absolutely

far better absolutely then and but part of that is is coming to the realization that you actually don't mind it you kind of you like yourself enough that you're okay there's all part of growing up right yeah yeah you know yeah and you know when you're younger and you don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend you think well what's wrong with me right i can't why does nobody like me you know instead of thinking like why does nobody like you why don't you think about why you don't like anybody else right you know what i mean why he's back in the you know following society and it's society's expectation right if you don't have a girlfriend or you're not married at this age or whatever. There's something fucking wrong with you.

Right, exactly. What's wrong with you? But having worked with kids, you know, like high school and college students for a long time in my life, I've met some kids who had that genuine thought like, you know, why doesn't anybody like me? And what I said to them, you know, is there something wrong with me? And what I always said to them was, why do you assume something's wrong with you? Maybe something's right with you and you're just surrounded by a bunch of losers I mean that's that's a possibility too I you know I think that's there's a lot of truth to that actually

I think when you're younger especially when you're 17 18 19 if you're a good dude and you got your shit together that's not exciting to fucking 17 18 19 year old girls you know they want fucking exciting you know they don't they're not in the they're not looking for fucking mr you know perfect and so then what happens is these good dudes go try to be fucking the dudes that these girls want to be and then before they know it they've thrown their whole life away and they're sitting in a bar fucking 30 years old wondering what the fuck happened right you know you young dudes you guys got to realize like look man stay on your fucking goals right you know what i mean stay focused on your goals take care of yourself first and the right person will come along and compliment that and not just be there but also push you forward right you know right

i didn't even have a girlfriend until i left high school well that was there's no there's obvious reasons for that in my dad i'm biting my tongue my dad was smart enough because i wanted to play d1 college baseball and dude i put all my focus into that so it was one of those things where i made a decision a conscious decision like i'm just gonna fucking put girls on the back burner not fucking party and i'm gonna you know dude until you're married and have fucking family like legit issue like you're seriously talking about getting a family you dude you should be worried about yourself first in my opinion and people are going to argue with that and say oh you're such a dick but dude i'm going to tell you your life is more valuable than a relationship that's probably not going to work out right right i would also say to anybody who's listening because

i know sometimes we do have people this young who listen, like in high school. If you're a good dude or you're a good girl... Keep being good. Yeah, and the reality is, you need to know this. High school is not reality. Oh, Jesus. Not even close to reality.

So if you get down on yourself, just really press on. Now, I tried to ask this earlier, because I'm dying to know what you have to say about this. I know you're a big one on the law of attraction, like attracts like. We meet people all the time who say, I can't find anybody nice. I can't find anybody nice. And the reality is birds of a feather flock together. And in some cases, the reason they can't find anybody nice is that they're not the kind of person who attracts those kinds of good people. So my question to both of you guys,

and Tyler, you can chime in too, is what are some things you would say to people? Okay, you want to develop the character that you're actually attracting people that are good quality people? Give me like three to five things you would suggest. You want to build character? You want to develop as a person?

Dude, become who it is that you want to attract. Period. If you want to attract a certain kind of person, become the kind of person that person is going to want to be with. That's it. You know what I mean?

And that's what I just said about guys that are good guys trying to become like these other people to pick up these chicks. That's what they're doing, but they're not thinking it through because the person that they're trying to actually attract is a shitty person for the most part.

You know what I mean? Right. At that time in their life. Maybe they'll grow up, but I don't know. But I'm just saying, like, you know, you can't expect to fucking attract a fucking 10 when you're a fucking two. And I'm not talking about looks. I'm talking about everything else but looks. I'm talking about your brain. I'm talking about your your sense of humor i'm talking about your ability to communicate i'm talking about all that shit you know it's not even about looks it's

about because dude you you get used to the way somebody looks like i said you know it's about the all the other things that set that foundation and And, you know, you can lay out all these qualities or whatever you're asking for, but the reality is, is, dude, if you work on yourself enough and you become the right person, you're going to attract the right people into your life. And that's going to be friends.

It's going to be significant others. It's going to be all of that. And if you don't, you'll be just fine. You'll be happy with who you are. You'll have stuff going on and until such time as that person comes into your life you'll be okay just because you don't have anybody in your life doesn't mean you're gonna do people come consumed with with the idea of finding somebody they do but that's our whole culture i mean i mean i love you know i love

taylor swift she's great but that's that's part of the reason she's so she's so mega popular is her whole songs are like emotional porn. I mean, they're that's what they are. They're like people desperately wanting this romance in their life or, you know, they're I mean, obviously, well, I don't know. I was just attract desperate people. Yeah, they just attract desperate people. You're right. Yeah. But I think it's just I mean, golden rule is just treat others the way you want to be treated, because whether that be in a relationship or friendship or anything like that, because if you're single and you're, you know, you treat your friends the way you want to be treated, they are going to, you know, do that with their friends. And I think that's the way you end up meeting people, you know, and with treating each other the way you want to be treated, I think, in life, period. No, that's a good point.

You end up meeting groups of people that are the right people. And then you find people in that group and then you click with those people. Exactly. It all boils down to having standards. It does, and a lot of people don't. A lot of dudes will stick it in anywhere that fucking has a pulse. That's not a good place to be, guys. I mean, let's be real.

Don't get something you can't wash off. Not only that. Let's be real, man. Tyler, when you and I were young. We started slow, but man, we have caught fire. When we were all young, man, we had to like steal porno magazines. Now you just go online. Steal, man. I paid people for that shit.

Yeah, dude. That's what I'm saying, man. You hide that shit like your secret hiding spot. Like nowadays, man, you just fucking click over the computer, man. Or Instagram. All right, all right. So I'm just going to let me get on my high horse just for a second here all right you know you pastor of disaster i have talked to guys and and they're serious okay i they're serious about this

i have said to them dude you need to like meet a real girl you need to have like a real relationship and actually like be in love and get married and you know learn all the things that you're supposed to learn in life touch or it's real no you know what he says he's like and i've had guys tell me this dude i don't need that i said why not i can look at porn every night are you what you're serious yeah no i it's like a smorgasbord man i can have i can have any woman i want in my mind why do i need to and they're serious listen listen so pathetic it is pathetic but you know what i thought he was like unusual i googled this there are a lot of young guys that think this

they're they've there's all sorts of surveys and studies that basically say i can just look at porn look you you realize i realize, well, hold on, hold on a second. Cause I got to say this to me, you're a coward. You, you, you want it because porn is all about you, you, you, it's all about making you feel like you're the center of, of, of the woman's attack attention. And I say to those guys, man, you're a coward because love, you got to put your heart out there. You got it. You got to sacrifice. And you have no idea that you... I can't believe I'm going to actually use this phrase, but you're jacking off when you could be having a life-changing relationship.

Dude, but see, okay, clearly I was joking when I said that. Sure. It was a joke. But here's the thing. People... I didn't get any amens. I was kind of hoping I'd get an amen, but... I want to have like a pastor crackdown.

Hang on. Like some sort of phrase that you say when he's about to lay down his law. Well, dude, the thing is that you've got to understand that life is hard. Okay? And if you're going to be successful, there's a reason you don't see successful entrepreneurs without somebody in that supporting role one way or the other. You know what I mean? And it doesn't have to be gender roles.

Like the man brings home the bacon and the woman does all the fucking housework i mean it doesn't have to be that way i love bacon though yeah me too yeah but who doesn't yeah but the thing is is that you know you rarely see successful entrepreneurs rarely rarely rarely rarely without somebody as a partner who's pushing them forward. Right. You just don't because there's why all this is relevant. Right. Exactly. You just don't. It's not even just like, oh, well, I'm going to be successful on my own. It's like, no, you need somebody to support you and pick you up and push you forward when you need that. And that's where people get lost. They think of it as, oh, well, if I don't find the right person or I don't blah, blah, blah, or I just date these hoes, you know, or these

douchebags for the ladies, you know, everything will be fine. But that's not the case because there's a whole lot more to life than just your work. And you need somebody who can help you with that and support you and push you through when you need that. You know what I mean? So people, I mean, you look at guys, you know, look at Bill Gates, look at Warren Buffett, look at, I mean, fucking Zuckerberg. All these guys have women in their lives

or significant others. And the women too. I just read a story about the co-founder of Oracle yesterday, I think it was, who's a female or Cisco, Cisco. And dude, all these people have significant others in their lives to push them forward you know what i mean so it's not just a matter of like do i want to have somebody that i have that that is great and do i know you fucking need it it's a central part

of success you know what i mean because what happens is is you know if you're constantly fighting with somebody you're arguing with somebody your energy gets zapped by that then you can't focus on where you need to focus it. So when you bring somebody in to help make your life easier and by easier, I mean, help support you, helps encourage you, helps you with taking care of the issues, the other issues of life. And you're doing that together. Then this other area becomes far less painful to deal with because you have the support in other areas of your life. You know what I mean? But like, dude dude you're not going to get that chasing tits and ass i'm gonna tell you that right now and a lot of people will look at emily and they'll say oh well she's hot

well yeah she is hot but but i'm but that isn't that isn't how we fucking no it's an illusion like almost because like people misunderstand our relationship. Right. You know what I mean? Right. Because of that. Right. No, absolutely.

Good stuff. So I want to switch to truth or dare. Can I do that? Okay. All right. You ready? Yeah. Emily, this is your question.

All right. I'm going to channel my inner Howard Stern. No, I'm just kidding. All I think of Howard Stern is private parts. We need a woman president. Truth? No. I mean, that's not really a truth or dare. That's like a true or false.

That's the way I look at it. Is it not? Yes, but I don't know. How do you play truth or dare? It was your bad idea. You tell me. I think people are realizing it's very apparent that this is Andy's wife. No, we don't.

We need somebody that can do the right shit, get everything ironed out, and get this country back where it needs to go. And it could be a woman or it could be a guy. That's right. Who gives a shit what it is? Just fix it. Quit voting for skin color. Quit voting for gender.

Quit voting for dumb shit. Right. Vote for the person who can fix the fucking problems. Exactly. I like it. Okay, here, dare. I dare you, Emily, to tell me what you really think about women who gain social media followings only by posting half-naked pictures of themselves.

Oh, that could be a whole podcast. Yeah. Dude. I mean, I don't, I think it's a shows me the lack of self-respect, lack of confidence. You know,

are you trying to inspire or are you just trying to put a picture of your ass up? I don't need to see your ass pro progress three times a day. Like it's just oversaturated. And then those, then those are the same bitches that complain. They don't get respect or they want to be taken seriously. Like,

or they take a picture of their tits like this yeah like you know and then they're like somebody makes a comment about it and then they're like oh you're a fucking you're a chauvinist asshole it's like look lady i saw a lady in a g-string on my explorer page the other day she had her back she's sitting on bed she had a g-string on no you know she's totally naked you see her back and the picture was about meditating you mean mean you got to fucking meditate in your G-Strips? You know, you couldn't have put a picture up in like your tank top or something? Dude, look, man. Social, the social, yeah, the likes and all this shit has become people's self-worth.

Exactly. You know, and people have gotten so addicted to, I mean, Facebook and Instagram and Twitter, all these, it's all genius shit. Because what you've done is you've got people addicted to, know parts of their social currency yeah right and it's it's it's what they're worth now so like now dude if you don't get a thousand likes you know if i didn't get a thousand likes on me and my workout gear well i'm sure get a thousand if i show my ass you know and you know dude it's become a situation where people aren't even fucking living their real life anymore.

They're just selling their bodies to people that don't even matter. Yeah. You know, and like, dude, think of how that prevents you from meeting someone who's like of quality. Right. And once you put it up there, it's there. And that's what they get sad to see people change. People want to prove their likes or follow so i've seen girls that you know you have respected and they start posting you know slutty pictures right respect dude i would respect them a lot more if they would just say

here's a here's a picture of myself check out my ass as opposed to own it as opposed to like putting a picture up and being like, oh, progress pic or. The sun's out today. Yeah. Or. Do you like my socks? I'm so, you know, we all go through hardships in life. Right.

You know, and some motivational shit. Don't post some motivational bullshit under a naked picture. Right. Like, dude, just. That's like a Snickers and Diet Coke diet on Instagram. Say hey. Or you think it equals out. Dude, just be real. Just say hey.

I think I look pretty fucking good in this picture. Yeah. Yeah. I can respect that. Yeah. At least. No, I think I look pretty fucking good in this picture. I can respect that. Yeah. At least. No, I totally agree. I'm going to get blowback for this comment.

But the one that I just kind of shake my head is when you have this literally, I won't even say half naked woman. We'll say like three quarters naked woman. And the caption is something like, Jesus loves you. I know. Are you serious? I know. Really? Some Bible verse or something like, yeah, you may have been born naked. You don't have to stay naked on the Internet. I don't know, dude. That's our culture, right? Our culture is all about attention. Yeah, it is. So it is. But I think with that, though, it brings more attention to the people that don't do that. You know, I think people are getting. Yeah, it's just oversaturated where, you know, if we see that on our Instagrams, we just keep scrolling. Like you don't even stop

anymore. You know, what I think it is too, is, is I think it's very, I think it's very cheap way to, to create value for yourself online. And I think, you know, when people say, I work hard to look like this, well, you know what, that's fine. But dude, what else do you got? Yeah. But there's also a difference between posting a generally fitness-themed picture and some of the over-the-top things that people post. It's a fine line now. It is a fine line. It is a fine line.

Okay, Emily. So it's not truth or dare. It's true or false. Andy Frisella is way hotter than George Clooney, Bradley Cooper, or Channing Tatum. Definite truth. Definite truth. Definite truth. Okay, who's the closest second in that one?

What were my options again? I didn't even have to listen because I already knew he was the hottest. I went old, medium, and young. He's rolling his eyes. George Clooney, Bradley Cooper, and Channing Tatum. Dude, I say Clooney, man. No, don't pick for me. I was going to say Clooney.

He is just much more uh cultured he's classic yeah he's just yeah oh yeah yeah I just like that look he's just he does he doesn't try to get attention he's not you know yeah I like him although I do like Channing Tandon too that guy's fucking hilarious yeah he is funny okay funny. Okay, so just indulge me here a second. And this is going to be on an honesty policy. So Andy's got to come up with a name in his mind, and you're going to tell the truth whether she guesses it right. If Andy can meet any celebrity woman who's going to maybe cause him

to get a little bit like, whoa, who is that woman? Oh, shoot, what's her name? Hang on just a second. Hillary woman? Oh, shoot. What's her name? Hang on. Hillary Clinton. Did you say vomit? Celebrity woman. Well, recently it's been, you know, with Ronda Rousey, all that kind of stuff. That's who I was thinking of.

Were you really? Yeah, I swear. I swear. That's who I was thinking of. I literally only figured out who she was. No, that was right, dude. I swear. That was right. i was thinking i literally only figured out who she was no that was right dude i swear that was right i was thinking ronda rousey dude it's because she's badass yeah oh that's hilarious you know well guys this is episode 16 so if you want to check out the show notes for it it's the mfceo.com forward slash p16 uh we really appreciate all

the support um speaking of which i'm just going to go ahead real quick and run through the names of the winners of our review contest which i announced on periscope last week but uh here they are again rebecca chung of melbourne australia soon nielsen of denmark who by the way was up at three o'clock in the morning watching that periscope to hear the results Amy Carlson of Bushkill Pennsylvania Andrew Petty of Woodstock Georgia and dr. Drew Casper of Manhattan Kansas so congrats guys I give me a little bit of time I'm putting together a little package to send you guys but thanks for your reviews and as always everybody continue to send reviews our way we

love them it helps us it helps our rankings and we'll have another contest down the line before we wrap up with final words emily why don't you share your social media contacts for and for you and for your uh your business on uh instagram it is emilyisella. Same as that's for Facebook. And on Periscope, it's Fit Home and Health. Great. Andy. These guys know my stuff. I know they do. But you know you never know.

All right. At Andy Frisella for pretty much everything. At Vaughn Kohler for pretty much everything. And then Tyler is at my underscore Tyler with a my spelled M-A-I, I believe. Final word, Emily. Final word? Yeah. I've never heard a final word on this.

Well, you just got to do it every podcast. We do it every podcast. You obviously, you're not supporting your man. Absolutely. Final word? Yeah. Final word. Be yourself, have a good relationship, and stay on track. Yeah, that's great. Yeah. Final word. Be yourself. Have a good relationship and stay on track.

Yeah, that's great. Yeah, great. Cut that out. No, I'm not going to cut it out. Andy always does. I've never heard somebody, a guest say it. Well, look, here's the thing. We've got all these people out there looking.

Just stop looking at it as this. Dude, if you're going to go on a date and you want to have fun and do all this shit, it's fine to be emotional and do all that. But when it comes to picking somebody that you're going to spend time with for the rest of your life, you know, you should be thinking more than, oh, that person's got a nice six pack or that person has a nice ass or whatever. Or this person drives a fucking BMW. You know what I mean? And the society has gotten so shallow and it's so easy to get sucked into

the idea of a relationship versus what the relationship really is that, you know, I just, the guys and girls listening, you guys need to be fucking careful. And if you get with somebody who happens not to support who you are, you know, if you don't have family and you don't have these like physical like legal ties to this person dude get them gone and if you do have legal ties to the person because there's people who are like married and they're thinking fuck i'm already with somebody and i have two kids with them and we don't have a good relationship dude you need to like sit that person down and have a real conversation about priorities in life you know and if they don't have a good relationship, dude, you need to like sit that person down and have a real conversation about priorities in life, you know? And if they don't understand, then there's some hard decisions that are going to have to be made. You know what I mean? So I think that I, I think

I would just encourage everybody to stop. You know, we joked around a lot on this podcast, but dude, this is like one of the most serious decisions you ever make. And if you don't, if you don't take it serious and you just like meet somebody in a fucking, you know, concert and you happen, you know, and it just kind of, Oh, we got married cause it's two years down the line and this and that, and you didn't think it through, man, you're going to have a hard time. You know what I mean? And I get lots of questions. We all get lots of questions and i would say 30 of the questions that i get are all the same questions what should i do if my partner doesn't support me

and dude if you're not married to him get him get him gone and like dude if you're like 23 or four or five or six or seven and you're like even thinking about getting out of that relationship you should get out of it like today you know know what I mean? If it's even a fucking thought. Yeah. You know, and dude, don't let it drag on and become your life. You know, I don't know. I don't know what to say, man. I'm not a relationship expert. I've had a lot of bad ones, but, but you've learned, but I know that this, I know that having somebody in your life to help pick up the pieces when shit doesn't go your way or push you forward or be a part of all the rest of your life in a positive way is an important part to the success aspect of your life it's just if you don't have it like i said it's

not it's it's i don't even know dude i don't even know one successful entrepreneur not one i don't know one personally that doesn't have somebody in their life like that i'm talking about self-made entrepreneur that's built something from nothing. I do not know one, not even fucking one, that has somebody in their life or that doesn't have somebody in their life that supports them in that way. That's a great way to wrap things up, unless you were Emily. No, I was just going to, what Andy said, any type of relationship together and individually, it should be something that appreciates in the value and not depreciates you know you from yourself you know if you're

if Andy's saying you know break up with them you should it should not take away from your goals from what your life is long term like he said you're young you don't realize it yet but you'll thank yourself later so yeah it's something that should help make you better exactly it's an appreciation not a relation I guess that's that's guess that's something that I've said before that I forgot I haven't said. But that's how you need to look at a relationship. If it's not making you better, then you don't need it. It's that simple. If your relationship, you can look at your relationship and say, it's making my life

harder, then you shouldn't be in that relationship. That's it. Emily? No, that's it. MF. That's the takeaway. MF, MRS. Thank you for joining us. I can't even say that. It's a tongue twister. It is a tongue twister. I'll just go by Emily. Yeah. Yeah. So that's it. That's it for me. Thanks for having me. You're welcome. I'll have dinner on the table. All right, guys, we'll catch up with you next time.