REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Conflict Creates You, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO187

Episode Date: November 2, 2017

How you view conflict in your life has so much to do with what energy you're putting out, what progress you're making, and how far along you're going to get. What makes movies and books so exciting is the conflict! Yet people have such a terrible view of it. But if you want to be successful, you have to change your perspective about it. In fact, you have to come to believe that conflict is actually what creates the greatness in you.

what is up guys you listen to the mfceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the motherfucking ceo guys today is thursday thunder you know what that's that's all about you know what we're bringing we're going to bring a thunder that's why we call it Thursday Thunder. Before I get into that, thank you for everybody who's participating in the 100 to 0 Instagram contest. It lets me know who's in it and who's not, who's with it, and who is kicking ass on a daily basis. Not everybody can be about that. And if you wonder what I'm talking about, go back and listen to episode 185. All right? We're giving some cool giveaways away, Skypes, gear, books, and all kinds of other exclusive things that we only give away through that contest. So thank you guys who are participating.

I think it's going well right now. It's going really cool. And it lets me know you guys are paying attention, which I really love. All right, guys. here's the deal. So many of you out there try to eliminate all conflict in your life. And I want to point something out to you. I don't think this is going to take very long to explain. How you view conflict in your life has so much to do with what energy you're putting out, what progress you're making, and how far along you're going to be able to get.

You have never, ever watched a movie in your life that didn't have conflict. You've never read a good story that didn't have conflict. You've never been a part of anything that gave you extreme pleasure and extreme joy that didn't have to do with overcoming some sort of conflict. But yet, most people look at conflict as a negative thing. Most people spend so much time trying to avoid the conflict in their life or looking at it through a negative set of lenses that they get in a terrible mood, they get totally thrown off course, they get totally disrupted whenever any sort of conflict presents itself. And I would argue that's because their perspective, your perspective, is wrong. Average people look at conflict as a negative thing. They dwell on it. They get angry about it. They get frustrated

about it. They do everything they can to avoid it. In fact, they spend so much energy trying to avoid conflict that they don't have energy left to do the things that are positive. Successful people, people who are great, people who they make movies about, people who they write books about, look at conflict differently. They see conflict as an opportunity. They see conflict as the way that they are going to produce the lessons which are then going to produce the skills that you need to succeed. They don't see conflict as a negative thing. They don't see conflict as something to be scared of. They don't see conflict as something that's going to drag them down or annoy them or frustrate them. They understand that conflict is going to create

them. They understand that everything they are and everything they will become is going to come from conflict. You're going to struggle. You're going to be frustrated. You're going to have things that you need to overcome. That's life. And if you are naive enough to think that you can avoid all the conflict, all the frustration and everything that comes with it, you're also going to be the person who learns nothing, who accomplishes nothing, and who becomes nothing because they spend their entire lives avoiding the one thing that creates greatness, which is conflict. You don't want to be that person. You don't want to be the person who whines and cries and complains about how hard things are. You don't want to be the person who thinks that they can get through the day or get

through the hour without having at least a small little conflict, something that annoys you, something that frustrates you, something that you see that you could take something from. Instead of looking at conflict as a negative thing, and instead of being frustrated, and instead of being anxious, and instead of being angry about it, choose to have the perspective that conflict is what creates you. Conflict is what is going to mold you. Conflict is what is going to teach you. And all the feelings that you experience through any

sort of conflict, whether it be mental or physical or spiritual, are going to teach you a skill or give you a benefit that is going to allow you to become the best you. Quit avoiding conflict. Quit hiding from conflict. Quit getting frustrated that you have conflict and understand that conflict is what makes your story great. Conflict is what is going to inspire others. And conflict is what is going to create the legacy of you for your family's generations to come. Embrace the conflict. Let it create you.