REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Dr. Seuss Was Right, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO99

Episode Date: October 7, 2016

When you look at people's social media posts as well as their interactions in the real world, you'll notice something: They always try to emulate someone else. This happens all the time. The average person ends up becoming watered-down, carbon copies of other people. Successful people are different. They embrace their authentic self and are comfortable being who they are.  

I want to be a motherfucking hustler. You better ask somebody. What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, today is Friday fire. Sometimes it's Thursday thunder, sometimes it's Friday fire. Really just depends on what we got going on. This isn't my day job, so to speak. But I do have something I want to talk to you about. If this is your first time listening, welcome. This is a podcast that is based around entrepreneurship.

It is based around the mentality of succeeding. It is based around what the hippie population would call self-help. It kind of encompasses all of those things. Some people call it motivation. I don't know. I think it's more practical knowledge, mindset, information that you need to use in order to get yourself in a place mentally to be successful at whatever it is you do. The reason I say it's an entrepreneurial podcast is because you are the entrepreneur of you. You are the CEO of you and you should be the motherfucking CEO of you, which means you should go through life with confidence. You should go through life with swagger and you should go through life feeling fucking good about who you are and what you stand for. And guys, that's what I want to

talk to you about. It leads right into what I want to talk to you guys about today, which is being authentic. All right. I get tagged in a lot of posts and I do look at these tags and I go to people's pages and I see the things they are talking about and I see the posts they are making. And I see a lot of people trying to emulate other personalities when trying to develop their own online personality. Guys, you're making a huge mistake. Being authentic, being real, being who you are is your competitive advantage. You are unique. You are different.

You have a different thought process. You have a different voice. You have a different thought process. You have a different voice. You have a different way of communicating. And if you're true to that way, other people who are just like you will resonate with you. If you go through life trying to be someone else or trying to pretend to be like someone else, what you're doing is basically becoming a watered down version, quote unquote, the next best thing, which guys, that's not a recipe for success. You can't be the next best anything and succeed.

All right. So I want to talk to you a little bit about why this happens and where this comes from. You know, when we're little, we all we've all had the children's books, right? The Dr. Seuss books when I was little I can remember reading dr. Seuss books and the theme always was be yourself but what happened when you went to school the next day wearing what you wanted to wear instead of what everyone else was wearing or what was cool you get laughed at you get made fun of you get your ass stuffed in a locker. And guess what, guys?

That doesn't feel very good. And so began the journey of conformity for us to avoid being criticized. We worked to fit in. We worked to go unnoticed. We worked to blend in and become camouflage to society. And guys, that is the first thing that we start doing wrong. We buffer down who we really are. We tone down our personality.

We deny our true desires. We deny our true dreams. And we develop this alternate persona that isn't really us at all. We lie to ourselves, our friends, our families about who we really are and what we really want in order to avoid the negative commentary that comes with standing out. But think about the price paid to be safe and protected from all the little snickers and comments. All the dreams you had will never be. All the lessons that you could have learned, you'll never learn. All the greatness that you could have achieved will never be achieved.

An average, mundane, dull existence filled with regret and the ever-present thought of what could have been is the price that you pay for conforming all for the fear of a little giggle or a laugh or a negative remark that might not even ever happen and if it does it comes from a person who won't fucking matter five years from now. Makes a lot of sense, doesn't it, guys? Being your authentic self isn't just some sort of good idea or bonus that allows you to be happier and more fulfilled.

It is an absolute requirement of success. Contrary to what you've been told or taught your entire life, if you want to succeed, you have to quit trying to be like everyone else. You have to start being who you really are. Authenticity is not only healthy and good for you and good for your mentality and confidence and self-esteem. It's a key part of being trusted. Guys, worker bees in business, worker bees in this world, they are a dime a dozen. Yes men are a dime a dozen. People who will do anything, say anything, jump for a dollar. They're everywhere. They're not leaders. They're the cogs. You don't want to be a fucking cog.

Okay. You're only valuable when you have the balls to be authentic. You have to be who you are. You have to tell the truth. You have to speak up and be who the fuck you are in your heart because authenticity guys equals trust and trust over time equals loyalty. And it means loyalty from your customers, loyalty from your employees, loyalty from your employers. And loyalty, guys, is the most valuable asset that you could ever obtain. It can only be obtained by not being full of shit. now guys I know this goes against what most people do and I want you to think about and self-examine how you're living your life are you wearing the things you really want to wear are you driving the car you really want to drive are you admitting the things you really want to drive? Are you admitting the things you really want in life? Or are you suppressing all those things? Okay. Because here's what happens. There's a metaphysical aspect to

what we're talking about here. A lot of people have an issue and I'm just using this as an example. A lot of people have an issue with admitting that they want to make a lot of fucking money. Okay. Because money is a polarizing topic. You have on one hand, most people want a lot more fucking money. If you stood in a room full of 500 people and I pulled out $500 and I said, who fucking wants an extra $500? Most of these motherfuckers in the room are going to raise their hand and say, I'll take an extra $500, most of these motherfuckers in the room are going to raise their hand and say, I'll take an extra 500 bucks. Who the fuck won't? But when you get them talking about their lives and you get them talking about money, they say things like this. Oh, you know what? I don't want money. I don't need money. I have enough money. I enjoy the simple things. I enjoy these things. And then

here's what happens. Here's you listening to this shit and you're agreeing with it. Oh, I agree. I agree. I agree. You know what? I don't need any money. You know, I'm happy. I'm just a simple guy. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But in your heart, you want money. You want to make money. You want to drive different shit. You want to go different places. You want to live an above average financial life. You want to contribute more. You want to give more. You want to be the motherfucker sending the universe conflicting signals. You're telling the universe, I don't want money. I don't want success. I don't really want to be the fucking man. And guess what? If those are the signals you send, that's what you're going to fucking get. So guys, you have to be congruent with your feelings. You have to be in line with what you

really want and you have to stand up for those things in person when those topics come up. Okay. Now speaking on which I, just because I use that example, clearly there's nothing wrong with making fucking money. I just want to say that right now. You know, today's the popular, it's the popular thing now to like condemn people who want to be money, want to make money. They call them materialistic. They call them selfish. They call them greedy. They, you know, they say, oh, you don't have your priorities in check, blah, blah, blah,

blah, blah, blah, blah. Same motherfuckers that can't pay their fucking rent, can't put the right food on the table for their kids, can't take their kids on vacation, can't do all the shit that they really want to do. Those are the guys I was just talking about. Those are the people who know that they want money in their heart, but they like to vocalize how it's immoral or how it's wrong or how it's this or that. And that's why they don't have any. So guys, staying on the track of being authentic, you have to be okay with who you are. You have to learn to be okay with who you are. You have to be honest with who you are because not only does it create value, not only does it create trust, not only does it create

a situation where you will earn more money in whatever you are because people know you're not full of shit, you're also sending congruent signals to the universe that's going to help bring you more of what it is you truly want. I'm a firm believer that most people never get what they really want because they're not okay being authentic about it. I could give you a million stories about the universe and the law of attraction and all these other things that I believe play a role in success. But I noticed that most people are afraid to be who they really are in their heart. And guys, it's not an option. It's

not something I'm suggesting. It's something you have to be. Okay. Like I said, your biggest asset is who the fuck you are. Your biggest competitive advantage is who you are. Your biggest quality, biggest amount of value that you can bring to any situation is being exactly who you are. Your best brand that you can create is who you are. Okay. And the reason most people can never really become a leader or never really become a good CEO or operator of an organization or somebody that other people follow is because they have been, they have been conditioned to try and be like everyone else. And guess what guys, nobody fucking follows people who are just like everybody else. There's nothing special

about the person who's just like everyone else. But the beauty of it is, is that your true self, your authentic self is different enough to stand out if you learn how to let that personality come through. If you learn how to be transparent with who you are, if you learn to be honest with yourself and honest with those around you. But most people can never make that jump. Most people are always scared of the negative comment or the disapproval or the laughter. And so what do they do? They live a life they didn't want, they didn't ever wish for. They become someone they're not proud of.

They become someone they're embarrassed of. They don't learn how to lead their kids. They don't learn how to lead their family. It's just bad shit, guys. Learn to be authentic. Let who you are develop into something great. Be okay with allowing that process to happen. It's not easy. It's not something that just happens in one day. Oh, now I am who I am. But notice as you go, when you find yourself agreeing with shit publicly or verbally that you don't necessarily agree with, stop fucking doing it. When you find yourself doing things you don't really want to do, don't fucking do them. When you find yourself, and I'm not talking about going to work too,

because I know a lot of you motherfuckers are like, well, I don't feel like going to work. No, motherfucker, go to work. That's not what I'm talking about. Learn to be authentic. Learn to be who you are. It's your greatest fucking asset.