REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Go Hard In The Mother F*cking Paint, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO305

Episode Date: June 11, 2019

The longer I live, the more I believe that people's success is determined by the questions they ask themselves. There's a bunch of people out there who really aren't succeeding & really aren't getting the results they say they want, because they don't have the right answer to the question, "will I put in the work when no one's looking?" And there are other people who are paralyzed with fear & regret because they constantly ask "what if?" Listen, regardless of the question, the answer is always GO HARD.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host. And I haven't done a podcast in so long, I forgot my fucking intro. I'm sorry, guys. It has been a crazy few weeks. This is the busiest time of year for me. I've got some major things happening with First Form, Summer Smash, new headquarters, new house, enrollment for next year's ROT class. We just got all kinds of cool shit going on. And unfortunately, sometimes because I'm not a social media dedicated

person, I actually have real businesses and have a real life. And I'm not just on here pretending to be something like most everybody else. And yes, that's a fucking shot at everybody that doesn't have a real business. So let's be fucking real. I've been slacking on my podcast game, guys. Now, don't worry. I'm still 75 hard. I'm still in phase one. Today is actually day 100 for me. Today is 100 days of no cheat meals, no alcohol, no missed weight workouts. I did take two days off between phase one and 75 hard or between 75 hard and phase one, uh, because I have blisters on my feet that were so bad, I could barely move. So I wanted to see if I could give them a chance to heal, but guess what?

They didn't. Uh, so here I am day 20, I believe phase one, a hundred days in. That's a huge deal for me personally. I know everybody has their challenges, but the food thing and the no alcohol thing for me are massive deals for 100 days straight. I feel really proud about that. I was actually texting my buddy earlier. I'm actually more proud of that than I am anything else I've done ever, which is fucked up because I've done some pretty cool shit and I've had some great experiences. But the truth is, man, until you guys look at what it is you're weak at and attack that and conquer that, you're always going to feel like you're not in control. You're always going to feel like, you know, you're waiting

for the circumstances to come crashing down on you. You're waiting for the feel like, you know, you're waiting for the circumstances to come crashing down on you. You're waiting for the world to kick you in the ass, you know, and that's how so many people live their life, guys. And the cool thing about 75 hard program and the live hard program is, is it teaches you how not to become one of these people that is in a constant reactionary state. And it's addicting, man. I was talking to my other buddy, Mike Taylor, who's doing the program with me. He's right along with

me. I think he's a few days ahead of me on phase one, but he's been doing it. And I can tell he's doing it because he's physically changing. He's mentally changing. And, you know, and I trust him a hundred percent. I know if he tells me he's doing, he's doing it, which I can't say for all of you, because the truth is some of you guys are not making changes and you're running through the program as if you think it's this easy thing and treating it like some fucking half-ass internet challenge. And guys, I could tell by looking at you that you're not following the program. Some of you over a hundred days in and you look fucking the same. You look the same. If you're following a diet and you've gone at it for a hundred days with

no cheats, you are going to look drastically fucking different. Not a little bit different, drastically different. Okay. So this is how integrity directly affects your success. This is why integrity is paramount to your success. A lot of you guys look at people who are successful and you think that their integrity is fucked up. I would argue and have argued that their integrity is usually in most cases, especially nowadays with today's technology, very solid and very good. And what I mean by this is this, those people who are posting and hashtagging and saying this shit every day, but not making any fucking changes and acting like this shit is a piece of cake. I'm going to tell you, it's not a piece of cake.

It's hard as fuck. And I see these people smiling and laughing and not making any fucking changes. And this dude, you're not doing a program. That's it. You're not doing it. I could tell. I know some of the hardest, baddest, toughest people in this world who are doing the program. Then many of you don't even know we're doing it because they're not posting about it. And they will tell you straight up, these are dudes who have done Ironmans and marathons and fucking hard shit. They're going to tell you this is the hardest thing they ever did. And some of you people, the reason you're not successful in life is the same reason you're not seeing physical changes on this program, because you don't have the integrity to follow through on shit when

nobody's watching what you do. That is why integrity is paramount to success. You guys go through your whole day sometimes going through the motions. You do this, you do that, you do what you think people want to see you do, but that extra two or three or 5% that makes the difference in your results isn't happening because no one's there to watch you do it. Integrity and success go hand in hand, especially lasting success. A lot of people out there find financial success and lose it. Usually the reason they lose it has to do with their integrity It has to do with a lapse in their judgment on what they are doing when everybody's watching And what they are doing when no one's watching

Okay, and you can relate this to your life right now You might be going to your work. You might be putting in the hours. You might be showing up on time. You might be staying an extra 10 minutes, but it's what you do during that time that is going to transform your life for the better or for the worse. The people who build amazing careers, who make lots of money, who impact millions of lives, who ultimately find their way to success, whatever success is for them, practice integrity behind closed doors. Okay?

They aren't just going through the motions for everybody to see. They aren't just hashtagging 75 hard or hashtagging live hard and smiling in the fucking camera and saying, Oh, this is great. I love it. It's the best thing. Cause that's what everybody else is doing. They don't go to McDonald's where they work and make half ass French fries. When nobody's looking, they make the fucking best motherfucking French fries, whether it's a one minute before close or whether it's, you They make the fucking best motherfucking french fries, whether it's a one minute before close or whether it's, you know, the busiest time of the day. All right. This has to do with your personal standards. And the point of this entire program is to raise and elevate and become aware of your standards and then get you in a position where you use momentum and you use the

skills that you're going to learn and the awareness that you come to know to improve upon your ability to identify and correct behaviors that are keeping you where it is you don't want to be. All right. And I can see it. I purposely asked people to tag me in their, in their stories for 75 hard because I want to see who's actually doing it. Okay. And if you're actually doing it and you've been doing it for a hundred days and you've lost four pounds and you look the fucking same and you've really been doing it, you should be able to look in the mirror and say, man, maybe I need to adjust my fucking diet. Maybe it's not hard enough. Maybe I'm eating too

many calories. Okay. This is the point I'm trying to make to you guys. You guys aren't doing the program. Some of you, and because you're not doing the program and because you're not doing it and you know you're not really doing it, you're not getting results. All right. Now, most people, and it's like we have this opposites, this polar opposite thing happening with the 75 hard, especially now that we're over a hundred days into it. You have people getting fucking amazing results, talking about how it's the greatest thing they ever did, showing their before and afters, talking about the books they read, showing about the progress they made. They're even making more money. They're having more opportunity. They're doing more shit.

And then you have the opposite of people. You have people who can't really show what books they read. They can't really show how much progress they made physically. And they're pretending like they're doing it because it's the cool thing to do. You people are going to fucking lose your entire life until you wake the fuck up and you start to realize it's not what everybody else thinks. It's not what everybody else sees. It's what you see and it's what you think. And it's what you do when nobody else is there to hold your hand. When nobody else is there to point at you and say, ah, don't do that. What are you doing? Because that's what's going to help you and what's going to dictate whether or not you become successful. All right. If you guys are going through this program and you think that

this is going to be something easy and you, and it's too, and it's easy for you and you're not sore and it's just this fun thing you're doing, dude, you're not doing it. You're not doing it. I guarantee it. You are not doing it. You are not. I don't care what you fucking say. I don't care what you say. I just don't care. I can tell you're not doing it. And if you're honest with yourself, you know, you're not either. You're having an extra handful of fucking this, or you're having an extra serving of almonds, or you're having an extra protein shake, or you're having an extra meal. You might be eating clean, but you're overeating your calories. That's still cheating on your fucking diet, motherfuckers. Okay. You guys,

if you want to win, you've got to start practicing integrity. All right. A lot of you guys don't even understand what is on the other side of this program because you're treating it as if it's some other bullshit challenge. And because you're quote unquote going through it and you think you're going through it and you think that it's not working well because you're not putting your heart into it, you're going to think it doesn't work when this is the ultimate fucking tool to fix your whole entire life. And there's literally tens of thousands of people that'll tell you that already. All right. So that's my little rant on that. Have integrity. It's practical. Okay. It will make you successful. All right. And that brings me to another point. You know, the longer I'm around, the longer I live, the more I notice that there are so many people that could be extremely successful. I look around and I see potential everywhere. I see people who could be very happy. They could be accomplishing really impressive things on a daily

basis. They could be growing and developing and impacting people at a blinding speed. They are doing 99% of what they're supposed to do, but there's something stopping them. And what's stopping them is something that we hear all too often. It's fear. Not fear of something that they've actually experienced, not logical fear like some relative who criticizes them or some struggle in their life, like not being able to pay their bills on time or not

being able to lose weight. We've all had those kinds of struggles, but these people are most fearful about the things they haven't experienced. They are fearful about the things they might experience in the future. And I'm saying that they are possessed by fear of the unknown. What if this happens? What if this doesn't happen? What if that happens? What if that doesn't happen?

And on and on and on and on it goes. They consistently worry themselves in circles. And guys, that's a tragedy. Okay. It's really, really, really fucking tragic. And you know why? Because that's the kind of fear. If it's not attacked, if it's not dealt with, it leads to three things. One, paralysis. People get so frightened about moving towards the future with confidence and swagger that they just do nothing. They stop. They stand still like a deer in the headlights. All right. This is what happens to most people. Now, the second thing that happens is as a result of them standing still is they start to become unproductive. If you are paralyzed with fear, you're obviously not feeling hopeful. If you're not feeling hopeful, you're not going to

be able to motivate yourself to work. And if you're not going to be able to motivate yourself to work, guess what? The work doesn't get done and neither do the results. Okay. And the third phase of this is regret. All right. And do I need to really connect these dots for you? Because if I do, I should probably send you a helmet to wear every day. All right. If you do nothing, you accomplish nothing. That's common sense. But time, this is the part people don't understand. Time still marches on. And every day that passes you by, you're going to say, fuck, I could have done this. I should be here. I didn't achieve my goals. I'm not even one hour closer to my dream life. And that regret is going to start to set in. It's going to creep in a little bit at a time. And the longer that it stays, the more and more it's going to weigh you down until you come to the day you die and say,

holy shit, I wasted my entire life. Guys, if you struggle with the fear of the unknown, you cannot beat yourself up. It's a very common thing. I get it. We all get it. All right. I remember early on in business when I was so worried about what might happen when customers came into the store because I literally knew nothing about our business. What if I can't answer their question? What if we don't have specifically what they need? What if they think the price is too high? What if they're in a bad mood and are complete assholes to me? And then I remember worrying about bigger picture stuff too. What if I market our business all wrong?

What if I piss everybody off? What if I make a huge accounting mistake and it costs us millions of dollars? What if I trust my employees and they fuck me over? Guys, here's the thing. I wasted so much time worrying about all that shit that I literally could have been where I'm at now, probably a decade earlier. And guess what? Here's the fucking funny thing about it.

Every single one of those things I just mentioned happened to me every single one. But am I still here talking to you on the number one business rank podcast on earth? Yes. Did I still end up making millions of dollars every year? Yes. Did I still end up becoming a successful author and speaker? Yes. How did I do all these things with all of this crazy shit happen? Well, guys, write this down because here is what you need to understand. And I guarantee you it will make all the difference in the world to you. It will guarantee your success in business and life. If you can just remind yourself of this, the number one strategy to overcoming fear of the unknown is to go hard in the motherfucking paint on what you do know. And I always knew three things and I didn't

doubt those three things for even one millisecond. First thing is I knew I wanted to help people. I wanted to provide values of their lives. I didn't want to be just some dude who collected money and sat up in my cool house and looked at all the peasants. That's not what I'm about, all right? I want my life to matter. I want my work to matter. And I want to make a lot of fucking money doing it, okay? The second thing was this. I was willing to work.

And I was willing to work hard as fuck. And I'm willing to work smart. And I'm willing to learn. And I'm willing to do those things for a long, long, long time. And I'm willing to bet I will for a long, long, long time. And I'm willing to bet I'm, I will do it longer than anybody else. That's how confident I am in number two. And number three is this. I will never, ever, ever quit. I don't have a plan B. Okay. I took a piss of my plan B and threw it in the fucking dumpster fire years ago. I have a zero options

mentality. If this doesn't work, I'm going to be digging ditches. That's the reality. That's what I knew. So it didn't matter to me what I didn't know. What mattered to me is that I went hard on what I do know. And I learned not to fear the unknown because it was irrelevant guys I learned that what might happen in the future has literally no bearing on what I was going to do now and that was the key to me getting where I'm at and that's going to be the key to getting where I'm going that's where the fearlessness comes from it comes from going hard on what you do know and ignoring the shit you don't and letting it organically manifest itself into your life through experience. I never let what I didn't know determine my future.

Okay. I don't give a fuck about the unknown. What I want to know is how can I utilize the skills I have to move me forward today? I don't spend time worrying about what might happen. I don't try to focus on what could happen. I focus on what is, and I focus on doing things that help people working as hard as I can and making sure no matter how frustrated I get, I replace those feelings with productive actions. And if you learn to go hard in the motherfucking paint on what you do know, you will never ever have to say what if again, and more importantly,

you'll never have to say what might have been.