REAL AF with Andy Frisella - GOOD TO BE ALIVE: What Winners Believe About Life, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO276

Episode Date: November 22, 2018

On Thanksgiving everybody gets in the mood to be grateful. That's good. But the problem is that exercising gratitude is something you should do everyday, because it's essential to success. In this episode, I talk about how I cultivate gratitude. I also explain that while winners recognize that life is hard & that there's bad sh!t in the world, they still believe that being alive is a good thing. They are thankful for life. They believe that there's good in the world worth fighting for...& they fight for it!

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Today is Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving, guys. Definitely my favorite holiday being a super, at my core, fat kid. I love food, man. I just love it, and I'm sure a lot of you guys, too. Today, guys, I do have a very special message for you, but before I get into that, you know, a lot of people don't understand what and where the MFCEO concept came from. Why has it got to be motherfucking CEO,

Andy? Why can't you use different language? Why can't you use less F-bombs? You know what? Because it's my fucking show and I want to do it. Little fun story for you guys. One of my good friends and former employees, Terry Boyle, got me a shirt maybe six, seven years ago that said MFCEO on it as a play because I like the video with Kenny Powers and K-Swiss so much. I used to play it all the time and everybody would laugh and I just thought it was the funniest video. If you want to know where the name came from, that's where it came from. It's a tribute to Kenny Powers and K-Swiss YouTube video, which I think is one of the funniest videos ever. If you haven't checked that out, go check it out. But the concept, the true concept, I think has been redefined.

What is a motherfucking CEO? Well, that is somebody who understands that they are in control of everything in their life, that they can control their outcomes, they can take control of their progression, of their success, and they're willing to do it with some confidence, with some swagger, because let's be real guys. It's fun to learn how to develop your own swag and your own confidence. And guess what? It's also a very attractive trait. Okay. Um, not just like in the mating sense, but in the people sense, if you want to attract good people, people are attracted to people with confidence and people with swagger and people who know what the fuck they're doing.

Okay. And sometimes, guess what? We don't know what we're doing. We got to fake it a little bit. That's okay too. Here's the reality, guys. This show is called the MFCEO Project because I want you to understand what it takes to develop your own MFCEO life.

All right. to develop your own MFCEO life, all right? It's a project because this is something that we've been trying to do to correct 15, 20, 30 years of bad society strategy, okay? What you're gonna find here, and I'm sure if you're listening on Thanksgiving, you're not listening for the first time, but you might be, but what you're gonna find here is the reality.

I'm not a idealist at all. I'm a realist. And this is a realist podcast. It's not a motivation podcast. It's about how to use real skills in forming your own success in life. All right. So while it might be motivating, uh, this is not a motivation podcast. Uh, you're going to want to probably take some notes today

for sure. Um, big announcement guys. I think this is really cool. Uh, as you guys may or may not know, Pandora is the largest streaming music provider in the United States. And in December, they're going to start offering a very select few number of podcasts. And guess who was approved and asked to be among the introductory podcasts that Pandora offers? That's right. Your Uncle Andy, he was asked. And Vaughn the Impaler, he was asked. And Sam & Short's Tyler, he was asked too. That means the MSCEO Project is going to be one of the very first podcasts that's available on Pandora,

which I think is such a huge honor. And honestly, guys, I want to say thank you for that because without you guys, without you guys sharing the message and bringing new friends and being fans of the show, it wouldn't have happened. So I just want to say thank you guys for allowing us to have that honor. If you want to get early access to the MSCEO project on Pandora, you could sign up using this link that Pandora provided us. And we're going to send it out through our email. You're going to see it in the email. But if you want to sign up right now, just go to andyfersella.com forward slash email and you'll get the email to where this link will be. It'll allow you to subscribe and all that.

So, all right. Today is Thanksgiving. And naturally on Thanksgiving, everybody gets in the mood to be thankful. You know, we see it on Instagram and we see it on Facebook. You know, people make the post, you know, I'm so thankful for this and I'm so thankful for that. And I'm so thankful for this. And, you know, they want the world to know how thankful they are this one day a year. But the problem with it, guys, is that being thankful and expressing gratitude is something that you should be doing every day. A lot of you guys who have listened to this podcast for a long time, you know that I have specific gratitude exercises. And I want to explain not only what I do, but why I do it the

way I do it before I really get into the message. So guys, every day when I wake up, the first thing I do is go brush my teeth. And while I'm brushing my teeth for the two minutes or three minutes it takes to brush your teeth, I hope that's how long it takes to brush your teeth. I might be doing it wrong. I don't know. But let's just say it's three minutes or whatever. I'm literally thinking of all the things that I'm grateful for. Okay. And, you know, obviously the first thing is that I'm alive. A lot of it is, you know, things that, you know, are going on with me at the time. It could be, you know, I'm thankful for my dogs or, you know, we talk, I think about the company or I think about how blessed I've been in the personal relationships that I've

have and the friends I have and the family I have and all these things. And I think about those things, you know, one at a time. And guys, the reason that we do this and the reason that you hear successful people, and it's kind of a buzzword right now, you know, you have a lot of guys saying, oh, be grateful, but they don't explain like the practical aspect of why that's important. And that's what I want to try to talk about for a minute before I get into the meat of the message. Guys, when you're in a true state of being grateful, it is literally impossible to have negativity in you. Okay. And this is very important. It's not important because, oh, I want to feel good and I don't want to have these negative emotions.

This is why I believe it to be important. All right. I believe that whenever you are in a state of gratitude, you are preparing yourself to receive certain energies and certain blessings so to speak if you want to use that word you know I'm a big believer in the law of attraction and I talk about that on many of the podcasts but here's the thing law of attraction and focusing and visualizing and dreaming about what you want and bring those kind of things, attracting those kind of things into your life can only happen in the absence of negativity. So you have to get yourself prepared. Okay. Energy wise to bring these things in. And I know a lot of you guys are rolling your eyes and saying, Oh, this fucking corny shit. Look, I'm telling you guys, this, this is real shit. Okay. This is real absolute. You could

not convince me that this isn't the way that it works because I've seen it too many times. Um, and in fact, I believe that your mind is a muscle or your mind behaves just like a muscle where the more you work it, the more effective it gets. And to this day, um, you know, now where I'm at in my life, I have to be careful what I focus on because those things literally materialize very quickly in my life. So if I focus on negativity or problems or issues, I get more of those. If I focus on things that are good, I get more of that. And so putting yourself in a position energy wise to be able to attract the right things, positive things, is very important to success. And I know, dude, listen, I know a lot of you guys are like, dude, this is corny shit.

But I promise you, if you open your mind to it, it really works. All right. I study the law of attraction. I'm not talking about the secret. I'm talking about way more in-depth books, uh, quantum physics, metaphysics. Uh, if you want to get a taste of what that's like, there's a book out there called down the rabbit hole that you can read. Um, there's a documentary on it. Those that's like really beginner type stuff, but it gives you an idea that there's

science behind it. All right. And, and that's what sold me on it. Like I'm a very big, like I got to see proof type person. Um, and seeing the science experiments that have been done, uh, you know, and if you want to go back and review that, you go back and listen to our podcast with a Charlie rocket on it. That was, we talked about this and that, but the point is, and what we're talking about here is gratitude sets the stage for that. Okay. Gratitude sets the stage for you to attract in the good things in your life. More money, better relationships, more success, better friends, everything, you know, better fitness. I find that like, this is no bullshit.

As you guys know, I've lost over 100 pounds. I find that my body truly loses fat faster when I visualize myself in better shape after I've practiced my gratitude exercises. I know that sounds weird, but I promise you there's something to it because it's a big difference. So when we talk about being grateful, guys, and this is what I want to clarify for you guys, when we talk about being grateful guys, and this is you know what I want to clarify for you guys when we talk about being grateful We're not saying it as a buzzword or just as something that's good to say like you might pick up You know, there's a lot of memes that talk about being grateful and there's a lot of uh, you know personalities that talk about it But they never really explain why it's important And so I wanted to give you guys just a little bit of information as to why I believe it's important. Um, it's not just, it goes far beyond, you know,

just being in a good mood or being positive. It actually sets the stage energy wise for you to bring in good shit into your life. So, um, I thought this would be appropriate to talk about, uh, on Thanksgiving, you know, and with all the fucking posts that are going to be made and the shit that people are going to say this one time a year, you know, and I think that being grateful, it relates to success in life in so many different ways. You know, I had this conversation. I was talking to Ed Milet the other day and we were talking about winners and losers. All right. And here's the thing, and this is really the bottom line to this whole personal development space. And you don't ever hear people say this

because if they said this all the time, nobody would come watch them speak. So this is really the truth, okay? And this is the truth of me dealing with literally thousands of different employees, being around success, being one of the highest profile speakers in the success space, I've seen success, man. And here's the thing. You got winners and you got losers, all right? And here's the thing. You can give somebody who is a loser you could give them investments you could invest in them you could give them knowledge you can give a mentorship you can give them every single thing that would possibly help them to succeed and they're still

gonna fuck it up they're still gonna fucking waste the money they're still gonna fail okay you on the other hand you could take a person who is a winner at heart. All right. And you can give them every fucking obstacle, every hardship, every single thing that would keep them from being where they want to be. And they are still going to win. All right. And a lot of people look at this and they say, well, I wonder which one I am, which

is the wrong question to be asking yourself. The right question to be asking yourself is which one do I want to be? OK, because that's what it is. It's a decision. I had a guy DM me last couple weeks ago and asked me, what do you hold in higher regard? Who do you think is better? The entrepreneur who had a mentor and parents and they might've started with no money,

but they went up to be successful or the guy who had no mentor, no parents that helped them, no help business-wise and he also went on to be successful. Who's better? You know what the answer is? It doesn't fucking matter because what matters is that you're winning.

What matters is is that you're doing the things to succeed. And if you're worried about little shit like that, who's better and where do I rank and this and that and this, you focused on the wrong shit, okay? Winners focus on getting the job done. Losers focus on why they can't do it. And that's the, that's the bottom line here. Winners are going to fucking win. Losers are going to fucking lose no matter what. All right. And here's a real difference in the mentality between winners and losers. Okay. Winners, you know, people who become ultra successful, people who make the most out of

their lives, they do not confuse the idea of quote unquote hard with bad. Okay. They recognize that life is hard, but they don't think that life is bad. All right. But here's what losers think. And this is the difference. People who never win, people who are always complaining, always making excuses, and always failing, think about life as hard and bad. They don't understand that there's a

difference. If it's hard, it's bad, okay? Winners know it's hard, but they know it's not bad, okay? Losers say shit like, look at all the bullshit in the world and the shitty people and this world sucks and all these people I got to deal with and this person's screwing me and this person did that and this. And they basically come to the conclusion that it sucks to exist, all right? They act like they wish the whole universe hadn't popped up into existence and they would have never been born. And you know what? I actually sort of get that mentality. I get frustrated too. Like we

talked about on the Sunday sermon a few weeks ago, there's some crazy shit going on in the world. And there are things that happen, really bad things that I don't understand, but I just can't take the attitude that losers take. I can't stoop to the level of somebody who just complains because I'm a fucking winner. I have always won and I will always win. And that is something that you need to commit to as well. I want to be happy and successful. And you know what? And you know what happy and successful people think? They think, yes, there's a lot of hard shit in life. There's a lot of hard things on planet earth. There are natural disasters like we just had in California. Okay. There's little kids starving to death. There's good hardworking people who through no

fault of their own get laid off and lose their job. There's wars, there's good, hardworking people who, through no fault of their own, get laid off and lose their job. There's wars. There's murders. There's people being taken advantage of by the crooked internet scam artists every hour of the day. Yes, there are hard things happening in this world that none of us can really understand. In fact, there are bad things done by bad people over and over and over again, and it seems like that's all we ever get to see. But that doesn't mean that life is bad. Successful people, people who are going to win,

no matter what, always see the good parts of life. Winners are always able to find victory in the midst of defeat. They're always able to find victory overcoming hardships. No matter how hard life gets, successful people can always identify the blessings. They can always name the things they're thankful for and they do so on a daily basis, not just one time a year. Okay. And the bottom line is this guy, successful people, people who are going to win no matter what, truly believe in their heart of hearts that in spite of how hard life can be at times, no matter how much shit we have to deal with, it's a good thing to

be alive. And here's the reality. They don't just believe that it's a good thing to be alive. They believe that if you are alive, then what is good in life is worth fighting for. Successful people become part of the solution. They don't just complain about things. They commit themselves to becoming successful and helping people solve the problems that exist. They're out there. They're the ones that are trying to clean up the bullshit that we all see. Winners don't say, oh, all that bad stuff makes the world hopeless. Winners say, hey, guys, you know what? Let's fix shit so the

next generation can have some fucking hope. That's how winners think. Winners aren't in it just for themselves. They recognize the problem and they understand that by winning, they can be part of the solution. So guys, here's the thing, especially today. Don't just be thankful for the good things in your life. Be thankful for life because here's what you got to understand. The bad things in life teach us. The bad things in life mold us. The bad things in life forge us into what we want to become ultimately. So embrace those and be thankful for those challenges just as much as you are thankful for the good shit. That's what

successful people do. Successful people don't just focus on the money, the wealth, the fame, the cars, the houses, the boats, this, that, the other. They focus on also the challenges they get to overcome, not that they have to overcome. Guys, listen, I appreciate you guys. You're one of the main things that I'm thankful for in my life on a daily basis. I wish you all an amazing Thanksgiving and make sure you spread the love. Love you guys. And I'll talk to you next time.