REAL AF with Andy Frisella - How To Be Who You Really Claim To Be, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO299

Episode Date: April 26, 2019

What if you could retrain your thought process to actually go the extra mile to the point where even if you were sleeping, your dreams would be driven by a sub-conscious commitment to excellence? I’ve actually experienced that & you can too. While everybody else is conditioning their minds to do the least that is still acceptable...YOU can condition your mind to do the most to WIN. You can actually become the person you want everybody to believe you really are.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host. And this is the motherfucking CEO Project. I almost forgot what the fuck I was doing there. That's how fucking busy I am right now. Here's the deal guys. I want to share with you guys a little bit about something I experienced the other day, which I thought was extremely powerful. I don't sleep very well as a lot of you guys know. And you don't need to send me a bunch of stuff and say, Oh, try this and try that. I fucking tried it. I've had three surgeries. I've done

all the shit. I got basically uncurable insomnia. It is what it is. Uh, it probably killed me one day, but that's why I try to do as much as I can now. So here's the thing. I actually did sleep well the other night. And sometimes when I sleep well, um, I actually have dreams and you guys are probably like, Oh dude, you actually have dreams. Yeah. I never, you don't have dreams when you don't sleep well. You probably don't realize that, you know, for someone who suffers from like severe insomnia, um, they literally never sleep. And when they do sleep, it's not good sleep. Um, so I I had this dream and as you guys know I'm on my 75 hard program today is like day 52 and I started this program to help people understand what they needed to do to gain

the things that they are lacking which are causing them to not be able to build the things that they are lacking, which are causing them to not be able to build the lives that they want. And the things I'm talking about are the skills, and I use that term on purpose, the skills of intestinal fortitude, grit, endurance, confidence, self-esteem, self-belief, the ability to persevere, the ability to push through. Okay, that's what 75 hard is about. It's about retraining your mind so that you can build a foundation upon which all the other amazing successes that you want in your life can be built. This could mean your family successes.

This could mean your financial success. This could mean your fitness success. It could mean your spiritual success. The point is that the foundation has to be in place. And it's popular these days for everybody to feel entitled to those skills, right? I deserve it. I watched a video on Instagram last night by a very famous woman who is telling people they deserve to feel good. You do not deserve to feel fucking good. If you're not doing the things that you are supposed to do that earn the feeling of feeling

good. Okay. You don't deserve it. And that's what this program is about. It's about understanding one, you don't deserve it. And two, what do you need to do to actually get it instead of all this other nonsense that all these fuckers are preaching? Okay. So here's the thing. I've been 52 days into this. All right. Uh, I, you know, I show my physical progress. I got a lot of amazing, uh, just genuine heartfelt compliments and I appreciate those. But the thing is guys is that the inside transformation is 1 million times more powerful than that. And so, and this is what I want to talk about. I was having this dream. All right. And in the dream, I was hanging out with some of my buddies, MC Salmon, you were there. All right. You were in the dream and I

will give you credit. You weren't drinking cause you were on your 75 hard. So me and you were in this dream and there was a couple other people and I can't remember who it was, but I knew you were there. And, uh, we, somebody gave me a shot. Okay. And I took the shot. And, and by the time I realized that I took the shot, I had swallowed half of it. And then I spit the rest out and I started freaking out because I realized that I had just fucked up my 50 days of progress. And I had to start over from the beginning on the 75 hard program. And I woke up, dude, I was sweating. I was panicking. I like looked around and I realized it was just a dream. And the sense of release that I had from knowing that it was just a dream

was like, cause you guys have all felt that before. You know, you guys have all had those crazy bad dreams. You wake up, you think they're real. Uh, sometimes you have crazy good dreams and you wake up and think they're real. This was like terrifying dream. And I woke up, I realized that it was just a dream. And I was like, Holy shit. And it dawned on me how much of a transformation I was actually having mentally because I have now gone from somebody who constantly craved a good time constantly craved bad food constantly wanted you know was waiting until the next cheat meal or the next fix of whatever it is that, that,

that, you know, gets me excited, which for me, it's drinking and eating. Um, and I'm not saying I'll never drink or eat again. I will, but it will be on my terms that I'm making the decision to do those things versus those things, making the decision for me to do those things. And it got me thinking about something that is just so powerful that I wanted to, uh, I wanted to talk to you guys about because this is what it's really about guys. This, and I was blown away. I was like, holy shit, man, this program is working way better than I thought it would. And this is not a plug for 75 hard. If you're not doing it, I don't really care, but I am telling you that if you do the program, you will cultivate all

the aforementioned skills that will help you build the foundation. I want to illustrate to you in a very simple concept about how powerful this is to changing your life. Every single other human that you know, all of them, every single one, okay, they work to take the most efficient route. They work to get the job done with the least amount of effort. They are trying to do the least amount of whatever it is they do, whether it be in their fitness, whether it be in their business, whether it be in their relationship, to not have shit get fucked up. Okay. And I want to make you realize something. That's everybody else. That's literally the rest of the world. What if you, instead of being like everybody else, decided that you were going to invest in building the skills and building the character that would actually force you to take the hardest route. Because when you

take the hardest route on purpose, you are literally widening the gap between you and everybody else. While everybody else is conditioning their minds to do the least that is still acceptable. You are conditioning your mind to do the most to win. Now, I want you to think about that in terms of your job, your career, in terms of how good of a husband you are, how good of a father you are, how good of an athlete you are, what you do in your daily life. What if you could retrain your thought process to actually go the extra mile to the point where you are having fucking dreams about fucking up by taking a sip of alcohol versus the people who are having dreams about having the alcohol. I want you to think about how powerful that is in every area of your life. You are

conditioning yourself to be mentally tough, to be mentally resilient, to be mentally strong. And guys, that's the name of the game because all the other successes that you're trying to build are built upon this foundation. Now, I wanted to share this perspective with you because I don't think a lot of people actually realize what 75 hard is supposed to do. They think it's another weight loss challenge. They think it's a way to get in shape. There's plenty of ways to get in shape, but the reason you never get in fucking shape is because you have this mentality

of trying to go the least amount of time possible without another fucking cheat or without a drink or without something that is going to, quote unquote, be a reward. Well, I think that you shouldn't fucking be rewarded until you finish the fucking job. How about that? And a lot of people are out there saying, well, you need cheat days to do this and you need this. Dude, I thought the same thing. I was the biggest proponent of

that, but I'm going to tell you my physical results have been three times faster now than they were before when I was doing cheats and all this other shit and half-assing my way through the program. And I'm getting sharper every day and I'm getting stronger every day. And my workouts are getting better every day. And my ideas are getting better every day. And my confidence and my self-esteem and my self-worth and my fortitude and my grit and my perseverance, my creativity, my dominance is getting better every day while everybody else's is getting weaker. Now it's your life. You could choose what it is you want to do. And this isn't for everybody, but everybody can do it. Everybody can accomplish this. Everybody can dedicate 75 days of their life to gain a skill that will literally allow them to do anything that they want from this point forward.

That is a very, very minuscule price to pay. I can tell you that right now, especially coming from someone who is completely undisciplined. No, wait, let me correct that. Who used to be completely undisciplined when it came to their food and their alcohol and their training. I've always been good at business. I've at least always put in the time to get good at business. I've always read. I've always worked as hard as I could. But the truth is I was leaving a lot on the table. And now what I figured out is that I was actually operating at 30% of my capacity. So if I was operating at 30% of my capacity and I was able to accomplish what it is that I've been able to accomplish,limited and a lot of you guys are seeing this program through a different light you are still applying the same principles that you applied to all the

other quote-unquote programs or challenges that you are applying to this that's why some of you have had to start over nine fucking times if you had to start over nine fucking times. If you have to start over nine fucking times, you're not taking it serious. You're not ready. You need to start and you need to finish. You need to give it your all. You need to put 110% into it, as cliche as that sounds, because that's what you're going to get out of it. This is not about losing weight. This is not about reading a book. This is not about lifting some weights. This is about learning how to do everything you do the right way, the hard way, so it produces the most possible result. And it's about creating that character trait and those skills to a point where they're automatic. Right now, it is not hard for me to go through a day

without eating fucking french fries. Two months ago, it was hard as fuck. Right now, it is not hard for me to say no to people. Two months ago, it was a little bit harder. Right now, it is not hard for me to look in the mirror and say, dude, I'm fucking proud of you. Two months ago, I was not proud of me because as successful as I had become by your guys' standards, I was not who I claim to be. And being who you claim to be, when you look in the fucking mirror and you see your own eyeballs looking back at you, is the most important quality that you can possess. Because when you are who you say you are, who you think you are, you have ultimate confidence. You have ultimate belief. You have ultimate ability to do whatever

it is that you want to do. And my point in sharing this, guys, is this. This program works. This program doesn't only work, it works so successfully that I was blown away by that experience I had. Okay? If you are struggling with confidence, if you are struggling with self-esteem, if you are struggling with the imposter syndrome, feeling like you're a fraud all the time, feeling like you don't deserve the credit that you have and you don't deserve the life that you have, if you are struggling with belief, if you are struggling thinking that you're not worthy, the reason you feel you're not worthy is because you've never done anything worthy. This is your opportunity. This is your opportunity to not only fix that, but every other fucking hole that you have in the bottom of your boat that's keeping you from getting where it is you want to go.

I'm living this shit. I'm proof of this shit. And I am no different than you. I am the same dude you are. I struggle. I get depressed. I get frustrated. I get mad. I get unsure.

I get loss of confidence. I get embarrassed. I get scared. I'm like everybody else, guys, and I'm telling you, if you want to change it, commit, and it will change. This program is going to change the fucking world, but before it can change the world, it's got to change you, and by you changing you, you're not only changing you, you're changing the history of every single person that you will ever come in contact with. You're changing the history of your kids, the history of your family, the history of your friends and loved ones.

You're changing your financial history, your physical history, your emotional history, your spiritual history. And all it costs you is 75 fucking days. Not only is it nothing, it's your obligation to follow through on this. All right. You guys are out there trying to spend programs on fucking masterminds and money programs and fitness programs and supplements and all this other shit before you're actually fixing the core issue. And the core issue is you have not developed these skills that I've mentioned in this podcast to the point where you can actually produce results in the other area of your life. If those skills were present, all the other shit would be working. This, you all heard the saying, it's like putting the cart before the horse. Your confidence,

your self-esteem, your fortitude, your grit, all the shit, your belief, all those things, they're the horse. You guys are missing that point. You could put all you want in that fucking cart. You could put all the knowledge of success. You could put all the knowledge of fitness. You could put all the knowledge of healthy relationships. You could put all the shit, all the shit, all the shit, everything you want in that cart. But guess what? It ain't moving without a horse to pull it. And those skills that I'm talking about, that this program will cultivate, will cultivate. And by the way, it costs you nothing, will cultivate are your horse.

Most of you guys are out there putting fucking spinner rims on your motherfucking cart and stereos in your cart instead of watering your horse and feeding your horse or even getting a motherfucking horse for some people. Guys, I want you to know I've been there, man. I've been there. I've had a few wins. I've done a few cool things, but guys, I have been there and I ain't going back. And if you don't want to fucking be there anymore, commit to this program. You have everything to gain everything. And I think that's worth 75 days.