REAL AF with Andy Frisella - How to Feel Better About Your Life Immediately, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO235

Episode Date: May 15, 2018

How can you keep yourself from feeling like sh*t? There's one thing you can do - or not do - with your mouth that will not only help you preserve your energy and increase your self-respect, but will improve the overall quality & outlook of your life.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Today is going to be Tuesday Thunder, all right? It's going to be short and sweet. Usually, we do a longer, more practical podcast on Tuesday and a shorter podcast on Thursday. This week, we're flip-flopping because I have a lot of stuff going on right now, all of which you're going to find out about very soon. But I have an important message, Dave. This is your first time listening. Basically, we don't charge anything for the content, all right?

We've been ranked the number one entrepreneurial podcast by Entrepreneur, by Inc. Magazine, by a bunch of other iconic names over the last three years. We're consistently ranked in the top 10 iTunes and top 50 of all podcasts. And that's because we do something here that nobody else does. All right. Now I don't charge a fee and I don't run ads. If you listen to other people's podcasts, they're going to talk about 15 fucking ads before they even get into the content we don't do that here I try to keep everything ad free I try to keep it to the point because I do this because I want to help you guys make positive changes so when we say entrepreneurial podcast that's a little bit misleading yes we talk about entrepreneurship yes the principles of

entrepreneurship are the core of what we talk about here, but we are more than just entrepreneurship. We are personal development, we are success-based, we are mindset-based, and all of those things are practical. So you don't have to be a technical entrepreneur to really get things out of this podcast. I think what you'll get most out of this podcast is how to think like an entrepreneur, no matter if you work for yourself or if you work within the organization of someone else's business, you're going to learn how to be successful and you're going to learn how to be successful in different areas of life. It's not just about making money.

I love money. I love making fucking money. And anybody who says they don't love making money doesn't belong in this fucking show. So get the fuck out if you don't love making money. But there's other things that matter in life. And today we're going to talk about one of those things. Today we're going to talk about what keeps people feeling like shit. And I could tell you, and I had a great conversation the other day with a friend about this. We were talking about how successful people think and talk and what they talk about versus how the average person thinks and talks and what they talk about. And we started talking about how stupid

some of the shit is on TV that we see, like the fucking Kardashians. I have a lot of respect for them as entrepreneurs, but dude, come on. I could really give a fuck less what so-and-so said to so-and-so or these shows like The Bachelor and all this that that's all they talk about and the reason they're so wound up in it is because most people operate on the premise of talking about other people. Okay. And what we're talking about here is gossip. All right. When you hear most people speak, they are going to overwhelmingly, the majority of the

time, they're going to talk about other people. They're going to say negative things. They're going to say positive things. But the premise of what they're talking about is always other people. And it's so weird to me that people spend so much time talking about concerning themselves with and getting wrapped into other people's existences. And this guys is why most people can never succeed because they're not focused on what they're doing. And I can tell you, because I've lived in both worlds, I've lived in the world of

just getting by. And I've lived in the world of being surrounded by people who are just fucking crushing. And I could tell you from experience, successful people, while they still might gossip a little bit, they spend like 1% of the time saying, they might say, Hey, do you hear about so-and-so? And you'd be like, yeah, I heard that. And they'd be like, fuck, what a fucking idiot. Or yeah, that's fucking great. And then they go on talking about their big plans or whatever they're doing or whatever projects they're working on. And they start to talk about productive things. Um, when you live in the, in the world of people who are struggling to get by a majority of their conversation is going to be spent gossiping and gossiping in a negative way. All right. And I want to talk to you guys about how you can immediately

make yourself feel better because guys, we spend so much time when we're in the zone of gossiping, letting the gossip and letting the negativity suck our energy right out of us. We only have so much energy and what we choose to apply it to makes the biggest difference in what our result is going to be. So when you, when you spend your time talking about other people in a negative aspect, and when you spend your time, uh, playing into the gossip, you've got to understand that you're applying your energy to something that it's not only not going to be productive, but it's going to put you into a negative mindset and, and eventually really just make you feel like shit. So what I want to cover with you guys is this. I want you to feel better immediately.

And something that, you know, this month is mental health month. Something that can help you make, uh, feel better immediately is this. Number one, stop gossiping. Stop. No one gives a fuck. fuck okay and if you're around people that give a fuck you're around the wrong motherfucking people all right if all you have to talk about is what your neighbor's doing or what your friend's doing or what so-and-so on tv is doing or what sports team did this or that or this this this that the other dude you have no fucking life all right find something else to talk about. All right? Two, when you hear people gossip, when you have people bring gossip to you, when you have people bring you shit that doesn't serve you and is negative,

be the voice of reason and try to give the other person that they're gossiping about the benefit of the doubt. Don't play into it and just agree with them and say, oh, yeah, I saw this piece of shit. Fuck them. Why don't you try this? You know, I see what you're saying, but I could also see it from this person's point of view as well. You know, and maybe they're thinking this, this, and this. All right. And the reason that I want you to start doing that is because it's a way to start training people to not gossip to you. All right. People don't like when people disagree with them. They don't like when people start to be the

friction in their conversation. They want you to play into it and they want you to say, oh yeah, so-and-so they're such a bad person and they want you to judge right along with them. All right. And when you don't do that, what you're doing is training the people around you. Some of which you can't really get rid of, right? Like your parents or your brother or your sister or whatever to not gossip to you because they know that whenever you say that you're going to actually be the voice of a different perspective. All right. And a couple of things are going to happen. Four things specifically are going to happen when you do this. Number one, you're not gonna continue

to absorb the negativity, all right? You're stopping the negativity from entering your mind and your soul and your body and draining you of all the energy that you would otherwise have to do productive things, all right? So you're not gonna be drained by these long, drawn-out negative stories that people are pushing into your ears and into your brain. You're going to have that energy to do productive things, all right?

This is very practical in nature. It's not just, hey, you want to feel better. It's actually going to produce a better result because you're not being drained of energy that could be used to do productive things. All right. And number two, the second point of what's going to happen is you're going to respect yourself a lot more for having the courage to do the right thing. You know, it's wrong to gossip. You know, it's wrong to talk shit. You know, it's wrong to be the person who goes along with this stuff. So what's going to happen when you stand up and you say, no more, I'm not doing this. And you start weeding out the shit from your life.

You're going to feel better about yourself because you're standing up for what you know on the inside is right, which is going to help boost your self-esteem. It's going to help boost your confidence. It's going to help boost the belief that you have in yourself in the strength of the person that you are. All right. So you're going to respect yourself a lot more. Number three, the people who are gossiping to you are going to stop cultivating the negativity out of you. We all have negativity. We all have things that we hate about other people. It's just the truth. Anybody who says, Oh, I love everybody. They're full of fucking shit. All right. We all

get annoyed. We all get angry. We all get pissed off. The key is to be able to use that to produce productive action. We talk about these pivots all the time. Somebody says something negative or does something negative that you don't like. What do you do? Do you pout and cry and whine like every average motherfucker out there? Or do you take the energy that they are giving you and putting it into productive action? All right. So when the people come to you and they gossip to you, they're going to stop just feeding you needless negativity over and over and over again. And it's going to give you an opportunity to use the negativity you already have for productive action. Okay. And the fourth thing that's going to happen guys is this, the people

that are normally gossiping to you while they might get upset with you while they might be like, man, what the fuck? Whenever you stand up for what's right and don't go along with all the shit that they say at first, what they're going to eventually do is they're going to respect you for having a backbone. All right. And what that's going to do is place you in a place of respect and revere and leadership that you weren't in before. All right. It's a place of influence. A big part of becoming influential amongst your peers is doing the right thing and having the courage to stand up. People respect that even if they don't agree with it and they'll listen to what you say. All right. So if your goal is to be successful, if your goal is to be someone who leads, you've got to do what you think is

right because other people respect that All right And by you going along with the everybody else and by you going along with all the gossip and by you going along with everything That everybody's saying you're just another fucking sheep You're not the shepherd Okay, and that's what you want to be so guys The point of this is this May is mental health month,

and you know that mental health is a big deal to me. And I think one of the biggest things that I've done and the biggest things I observe amongst my peers at this point in my life is that they don't spend hardly any time ever gossiping. And if they do, it gets stopped right away. We have more important things to talk about. We have more important things to do, it gets stopped right away. We have more important things to talk about. We have more important things to do, and we can't afford to let our energy, because life is so competitive

and building a career is so competitive, we can't allow our energy to be used on things that don't produce a result. It's not an option. It's not, Hey, that's nice that we have extra energy. It's that we actually need the energy that we have available to us to push us in the right direction. And we can't afford to spend it on shit that doesn't produce a result. Okay. And the best thing about all these things we're talking about is that you're going to feel better too. You're going to feel better about yourself. You're going to feel more confident about yourself. You're going to feel stronger. You're going to have better self-esteem and you're going to have a more pure spirit and soul because you know that you're doing what's right. And guess what? Other

people are going to respect you for it too. So stop gossiping, put a stop to the gossip, be the person who stands up and says, no, I don't agree with that. Or, Hey, maybe you're not looking at the whole picture and start doing what's right. And you're going to find yourself in a better position all the way around. I love you guys. I'll talk to you on Thursday. you