REAL AF with Andy Frisella - How to Keep Your Mind Right When Everything Is Going Wrong, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO291

Episode Date: March 14, 2019

We all have bad days.We all have days where nothing seems to be going right, at work & in our personal lives. On those days, average people get their cages rattled, lose their focus, get derailed, & end the day with nothing accomplished. But the reality is, it doesn’t matter how much crap & chaos your day holds. You can keep your mind right, your attitude on point, & your day productive. In this episode, I tell you how I do it & how you can, too.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, today—fuck, I don't even know what day it is. I'm just going to roll. I think it's Wednesday and I think you're going to hear this on Thursday. So this would be a Thursday thunder. That's how busy I am right now. This is your first time listening. This is called the MF CEO project that stands for motherfucking CEO project. Couple elements going on there. One, the MF, obviously, uh, there's a difference between a CEO and a motherfucking CEO and a motherfucking CEO is someone who understands the power, uh,

the control, how to dictate their journey, how to do it with some swagger, how to take ownership of their life and have a good time doing it, inspiring others, bringing others up. Okay. It's not some boring little dude in his office in a $5,000 suit with cool jewelry on. And I like, I like watches, just going to say I like watches a lot. But the typical idea of what a CEO is, is not what the modern CEO is going to look like. The modern CEO is going to be someone who honestly looks a lot like you. Okay. And the reason that this is called a project is because our goal here is to tell people and teach people and show people what it truly takes to succeed. It's not about buying programs. It's not about attending seminars.

It's not about subscribing to my academy or any of this other bullshit. All right. It's about understanding that we have been told a shitload of lies and us as a group, us as a community working to eradicate that mentality from society. We see it everywhere we go. I don't need to cover it. I don't think, but no, I'm not going to because it's going to get me mad. And I am already mad today. I am fucking mad. My day started with literally the most ridiculous conversation from a company that I've had in a long time. I'm not going to name the company because I'm going to give them a second chance, but I'll just give you a little bit of rundown. I've been a customer of this company for 10 years. Okay. I ordered some of their products for my diet, special products that I love that I've used and their food products,

by the way, that I can't get in the store. I can't ever seem to get in stock. So I order these products. I get an email. I ordered them on Sunday. As everybody knows, I'm doing 75 hard. Being prepared is something that you have to take very seriously on a program like this. So I ordered these products on Sunday. Then I get an email today. Today is Wednesday saying they canceled the order. The order was supposed to be here on Tuesday. The reason they canceled the order was because I asked them in the comment box to waive the signature. Now, the reason I asked them to waive the signature was because I'm in between houses

right now. Sometimes I'm at the new house. Sometimes I'm at the new house. Sometimes I'm at the old house. I don't know where I am right now. So I don't know who will be there to accept the package. And when a package isn't accepted, we all know what a pain in the ass that is because then we have to chase the motherfucker down

at FedEx or UPS or wherever we got to go. So I asked them to waive the signature. They didn't, it turns out they sent me an email, but it went to my junk. But regardless, I look at these things as the company's responsibility. So they sent me this email today and says, hey, we canceled your order. And I said, okay, why? And they said, because we have a policy. All right. And the policy is that if someone's not willing to sign and the order is over a hundred dollars, which this one was, they won't ship the product unless they say exclusively in an email or in the comment box of the order, hey, I'm willing to waive the signature and will not hold you liable for any lost product, which I would have been gladly willing to do. All right. This is an easy thing for them to solve.

They could have a little checkbox that says it right on their website, but they didn't. And instead of calling me, which they have my number or texting me, which they had my number, they sent me an email. It went into my junk. I never saw it. They canceled the order. So I said, okay, I understand your policy. What should I do? The email reply back is, well, we just told you we canceled the order. And I'm like, what the fuck? And I said, just so you know, I've been a customer of yours for over 10 years. I'm trying to resolve the issue. You're not being helpful.

And if you don't give a fuck, and that's exactly what I said, I'm happy to go somewhere else and find another product. And they wrote me back a reply again. Well, you don't need to use profanity. At this point, I'm about to crawl through the fucking internet and choke some motherfucking eyeballs out of some heads. All right? Because this, guys, is the reason people don't succeed. This is the reason. All right. We talk about this all the time. You have to aggressively service your customers. All right. So basically this goes back and forth like 10 more times. All I'm trying to do is to find out, do I need to replace the order and write

the comment in the comment box that says, please wave the signature or are they just going to ship me the product? Cause I'm talking to them right now. That's all I wanted to know. And I was very clear about that. It took literally seven fucking emails to get this motherfucker to answer that question. And long story short, it set me off on the path of total fucking destruction for the whole day, which got me thinking about what I want to talk to you about, which is this, what to do when you're having one of those days. Okay. We all have those days. We all have days where no matter what we seem to do, it goes wrong. Just like today when I went to the gym and I was getting ready to do my flies on the, on the peck deck machine. And I went to look at

the weight stack and the pin was missing. You know, you don't know what I'm talking about. Like everything's going wrong, like literally fucking everything, every single thing. What do you do on those days? And guys, I want to talk to you about that because what you do on those days can drastically impact you in ways that you probably don't understand. Because here's the thing. We all have those days, right? We all have those days when literally every single thing that we have going on over the course of the day is going the opposite way of what we need to go. And guess what? Those days usually happen on the days we need them to go

right the most. And we have two options when those things happen. We have option A, which is we get fucking pissed. We get angry. We get mad. We get frustrated. We get irritated. and it puts us in a mood and sends out an energy that literally every single person we come in contact with can feel and absorb. You know that feeling. You ever have one of your friends or your family members or a boss or a coworker walk in and you literally felt the energy radiating off of them like you have to walk on eggshells around them. We all know what that feels like. It feels like shit. Okay. And it all comes from the way that we respond when things go wrong. All right. And most people, when things go wrong, we'll look at everything else. They will look at the circumstance. They

will look at the other person. They will look at God. They will look at karma. They will look at literally every single thing that they can look at except themselves. None of us are perfect. None of us do shit right all the time. None of us are on our game all the time. And you know what? Sometimes even when we are, we're going to have shitty days and guys, I'm no different. Trust me. Sometimes I have days, like today where I was one fucking fourth of my way through the day and I'm like fuck it dude I'm going home and going back to bed I know you guys have had that day all right so what do you do on those days well I could give you two options there's two options there's two kinds of people here all right the first kind of person will let that day push their

emotional state into such a negative place that they start not only making everybody around them uncomfortable, but actually saying things that are damaging to other people, damage trust, damage relationships, damage their ability to have respect on the good days because they're having a bad day. Okay. You guys don't realize the full consequences of your actions. It's very easy to be in a bad mood and say something or come off a certain way and, you know, offend people or hurt people or damage people. And what you don't realize is that those have consequences on the longterm because the truth is this guys, it doesn't matter if you apologize, whenever you do things like that, people still remember. All right. And that is what people do. And that is why people have a hard time succeeding long-term because if you have, let's say one or two of these

days a week, you're automatically branded as the black sheep. You're automatically branded as the person nobody wants to be around or listen to. And you're definitely not in the conversation of who do I want to do business with? Who do I want to work with me? Who do I want to spend my time around? You all have a ripple effect. You all have consequences to your energy and you all have to deal with those consequences regardless if you actually meant to say those things or do those things or not. Okay. So that's the first person. The first person lets it push them way down that dark place and affects literally every relationship they have in their life. And they do this so consistently that it feels like the world's against them. And guess what? The world is against

them because for the last 15 fucking years, they've been assholes. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. All right. So you have to be aware of where you take your negativity. Now I'm a proponent of negativity, but I'm only a proponent of negativity For the second kind of person That I'm about to describe The second kind of person I'm about to describe Is the kind of person That I've become

Personally And by the way I used to be that first guy Now I've converted Into this second guy And this second guy What he does is he laughs. He, he thinks it's funny. He gets mad and then he laughs and then he takes the anger because the laughter doesn't

erase it and he puts it into being productive. Okay. He puts it into ensuring that these situations happen as little as literally possible over the rest of their lives. How do you do that? How do you control what some other company does to piss you off to keep you from going down this dark place? Well, here's one way to think about it, and this is how I think about it. I'm going to become so fucking successful that I have somebody make those fucking orders for me, and I don't even have to deal with that shit. How about that? That's big picture thinking.

That's the way you should be thinking. You should be looking at every inconvenience. You should be looking at every struggle. You should be looking at every single thing as something to use as energy so that you can then move beyond that. Not just today, not just tomorrow, but forever. All right. Your ripple effect matters guys. And if you can't straighten out your thought process and use it to control your emotions, you're going to have a very hard time succeeding because every single person is going to feel every single thing that you feel. And because we are human and all of our emotions are all over the fucking radar, depending on what's going on at the time, you have to be consciously aware of what you're putting out. All right. And by the way, if you're doing 75 hard,

you're already starting to realize this if you're eight or nine days in. Okay. You're starting to become aware of your willingness and ability to actually cut corners. And best part is you're starting to catch yourself and not cut them. And not just in your program that is defined by 75 hard, but also in all your other daily activities that align with them. And not just in your program that is defined by 75R, but also in all your other daily activities that align with them. I think if you're eight or nine days in right now, you're starting to see a little bit of the point of what this program is all about, which is building the building blocks that will create the life that you want. But the point is here, guys, summarizing this, you have two choices. One, you can let the outside circumstances dictate your mood,

which dictates your actions, which dictate your consequences and results for the rest of your life. And you can be someone who kind of floats along like a buoy in the ocean and kind of just floats along and lets the current take it where it may, depending on other people's energy, you can be in a reactive state, or you can be in control, and you could be in an active state. And when days happen where all this shit is out of your control, instead of taking it out on other people, you can take it out on tasks and activities that are going to push you forward so that you ultimately don't have to deal with any of this ridiculous bullshit that we get from other people. Those are your options. That's what you have. Now, what makes one better than the other, I think is pretty clear, but most people fuck this

up. What I'm about to say too, by the way, it's not about where you're going. It's not about what you want to be. It's not about what your dreams are. It's about who you are now and what changes need to happen to get to that place. See, everybody talks about where they want to be and what their goals are and what their ideal existence is what kind of shape they want to be in what kind of money they want to be in what kind of house they want to live in what kind of car they want to drive what kind of relationship they want to have everybody dreams about that shit but people miss the second part. And the second part is taking inventory of who you are right now in an honest way and then figuring out the changes that need to happen because that takes guts.

It's hard to look in the mirror and say, you know what, dude, you're lazy as fuck. You know what, dude, you're kind of a dick. You know what, man, you're not as good as you think you are. You know what? You know what? You know what? And that's a hard conversation to have because you can't hide from it. And everybody, including you, including me, we're taught to brush all the other shit aside

that needs to be addressed and to never address it. All right. So becoming someone who gets what it is you ultimately want has a lot more to do with addressing who you are now and saying what I need to become than it is about visualizing all the shit that you want. That's the difference between hoping you get somewhere and knowing you're going to get somewhere. That's the difference between dreamers and fucking doers. It's the, it's the difference between I could have been or I am. And you guys have to realize that. And it all starts with taking control of the days that you seem to be out of control. And by the way,

if you're looking for an actual program to give you the discipline that you need in a very short amount of time so that you can be 100% in control of the times you're out of control, you need to go back and listen to the 75 hard podcast, which is actually the one right before this one. And you need to do the program. This is not a physical fitness journey. It is a journey of character. It is a journey of values. It is a journey of creating the building blocks that you need. Everybody out there is trying to sell you a program on how to make more money, how to pick up chicks,

how to get in shape, how to, how to, how to, how to. How about this? How about how to develop the fucking shit that you're going to need to do all of that? That's what 75 hard is. All right? So if you're really looking to change,

because everybody out there right now, yeah, I want to change. You're raising your fucking hand. Bullshit. If you really want to change, go back and listen to that podcast. Do the fucking program and you will be a changed motherfucker.

I guarantee you that. you