REAL AF with Andy Frisella - If You're Not Doing What You Can, You'll Never Do What You Want, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO252

Episode Date: August 9, 2018

Everybody has dreams for their future. But not everybody understands that what you hope to do on a much higher level later, you can begin to do right now. The guy who wants to someday speak to millions can give a talk to his 7 employees today. The girl who wants to perform on stage in Nashville someday can sing at a local country bar this weekend.  Bottom line: when it comes to your dreams, if you're not doing what you can do now, you'll never do what you want to do later. 

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, today is Thursday Thunder. If this is your first time listening, Thursday Thunder is more of a mindset, motivational, and how to think sort of podcast, okay? We started this podcast and this movement with the idea of helping people understand what it truly takes to succeed. Right now, more than ever in history, you have so much access to so many opinions and so much advice that it can be mind-boggling what's right and what's wrong, all right? We're realists here. All right. We're not going to fill your mind with a bunch of fucking bullshit that is designed to make you

feel great. We are going to give you the real path, the real thought process, the real tools and real entrepreneurs so that you know what you really have to do to succeed. What is a motherfucking CEO? A motherfucking CEO is somebody who is in control of them. You have to realize that you are the CEO of you. And most people don't look at it that way. Most people look at it as they're looking to the outside world for validation and direction of who they are. People who are motherfucking CEOs of them understand that they are in control and that their life is a direct mirror of the choices they make. All right.

You are in control of the choices you make and your life will become what it is you choose, whether it be short term and long term. And so what we do here is we try to get people to understand that there's a lot of idealistic opinions out there that are really total nonsense. Okay. Really listen to what people say. Are they really saying anything? Go out and listen to some of the entrepreneurs out there and listen to the shit that they say. They say the same thing

over and over and over and over again. They say the same thing. You know, you should be doing this or living this way or this or that or this, but what does that shit really mean? What does it really mean? Because dude, we're filled with entrepreneurial success, how to live personal development buzzwords nowadays. We're filled with these popular terms that everybody fucking says that nobody knows what the fuck they mean. All right. And that's not what we're about. Okay. I'm going to teach you exactly how I've become successful and how many of the other entrepreneurs that we have on the show and my friends personally who have done real shit besides just selling you programs on how

to be successful, they've actually operated and built real companies, okay, and done real things. And that's who you want to learn from, all right? So really take a listen to what some of these people are saying and dive in to what they mean by what they say. Are they just saying the popular terms or are they offering real information? Because I can count on one fucking hand the number of people I know that are teaching real shit, all right? Now, before I get into what we want to talk about today, we do have a big announcement. All right. And the announcement is this. We're going to do a MFCEO project iTunes review contest. All right. And what we're going to do is you're going to be asked between now and the next 30 days to leave a review on iTunes. And it's real easy. You open up the app on your phone or you go to iTunes and you scroll down to where it says write a review. You click the number of stars you want to give, hopefully five, hint, hint, hint.

And then leave a review of what you think of the show. Okay, tell us how it's helped you. What have you learned? And we're going to pick three people and we're going to fly them out here after the 30-day review contest is over. And we're going to do a day of meetings. We're going to do a, we're going to do a day of consulting coaching, and then we're going to go out to dinner, uh, and have a good time and hang

out. So, uh, it's going to be an all expenses paid five star trip that puts you up at the four seasons here in St. Louis, which is going to be, uh, one of the nicest hotels in the world to be completely honest. Um, and, uh, we're going to take you out to a nice dinner and you're going to learn some shit, uh, face to face with me. So that's the contest. And that starts on this podcast. So, uh, for the next 30 days, we're going to do the review contest and I'm going to remind you of it over and over again. Uh, but make sure you're listening. Also guys, uh, I ask that if you get something out of the podcast that you tell a friend. That's our fee, all right? We don't charge.

We don't run ads. I'm not going to sell you a bunch of shit. I'm not going to fill the first 40 minutes of my podcast with advertisements. This is about real benefit to you guys. And if you get real benefit, I ask that you share this podcast with a friend. All right. Now, getting into what I want to talk about today. Guys, when it comes to your dreams, okay, if you're not doing what you can do right now, you'll never do what you really want to do later. And here's what I mean by that. Okay. You know how many entrepreneurs come to me and they tell me,

Andy, I dream of becoming a public speaker for business people, just like you. I want to be on stage. I want to, I want to get paid to speak. You know, how do I do that? And this is how the conversation usually goes. Here's me. So you have a business, them, yes. So, you have employees too, them, yes. Me, do you ever get them together and give them like an important talk and practice your speaking skills, them, well, not really, me. Okay, well, then you're not that serious about wanting to become a public speaker for business people because here's the thing, guys. You have to understand that these things are skills that you have to learn. All right. And you know, if you were really serious,

if this person who asked me that, I get asked this all the time, by the way, and anybody can become a speaker, by the way. All right. It's not a special skill you're born with. And I'll explain more about that in a second. But that's not really important to what we're talking about. If you were really serious about becoming a speaker, those people who are serious would jump at every single opportunity that they have to practice that skill right now. All right. When I started speaking, you have to understand when I started speaking, I started public speaking. And by the way, I took public speaking in college. I got a fucking D. All right. And now I'm one of

the highest paid public speakers at the moment right now. All right. You have to understand that when I started public speaking, I started in 2006 and I started speaking to the 10 employees that we had at the time, fucking 10 people. And you know what I did? I wrote down the meeting agenda and I'd stand in front of the fucking people, the 10 people who I knew, by the way, it wasn't like the 10,000 or the 15,000 people that I speak in front of now that I don't know any of them. All right. I knew these people. I was comfortable with these people and I'd make a sheet and I would do the meeting and dude, I would stand up there and my fucking hand would be holding the paper and I'd be shaking and I'd be nervous and I would have anxiety about it for like three days before. And I would prep my speech

and I would envision how it was supposed to go. And I would think all these things and guess what? It never fucking went the way I wanted it to go. I was fucking terrible. Okay. But I was willing to be terrible. I was willing to stand in front of 10 people I knew and be embarrassed at how bad I was. I was fucking awful, awful, terrible. When I say I got a D in public speaking, I'm pretty sure I got a D because the teacher felt sorry for me and I was friendly to him. That's the truth. I was fucking terrible. And most of you guys, and I've said this a million times, you're so unwilling to be bad at something that it keeps you from ever being anything. Okay. And every single one of you motherfuckers that owns a business right now and says you want to be a public speaker, you could do that right now.

You're not going to speak to thousands of people. You're not going to jump from T-ball to the fucking major leagues. That's not how it goes. You're going to speak to fucking a dozen people. You're going to suck. You're going to be bad. And you know what? That's okay. Because that's how all of us start. That's how every single motherfucking speaker I

know started. They started in front of five or six motherfuckers and they sucked. And you know what? You're going to go out sometimes, even when you're at the top fucking level, even when you're at the major leagues, you're going to go out and guess what's going to happen? You're going to shit the bed. You're going to do a bad talk. All right? That's what happens. But you have to be willing to jump at the opportunities that you have right now in order to be good to develop the skills that you want later. Otherwise, you're never going to get there.

You know, most of you guys are like the bratty little kid who wants the whole bag of candy. And his parents say, no, you can have just one piece. And instead of enjoying the one piece, you throw a bitch fit about how you can't have the whole fucking bag right now. All right. That's the reality. So, guys, if your dream is to become a country music artist and perform in Nashville in front of thousands of people, you know, you're that, that very well could happen one day. All right. And it can happen one day. But the thing is, is right now you better be willing to go to the local country bar

and sing karaoke in front of seven motherfuckers. And you better do it every single fucking weekend. That's the reality of being successful, guys. You have to hear what I'm saying. You have to be able and willing to do what you can now and be bad at it, or you'll never be able to do what you want to do later and be great at it. This is a reality of success. This is something most people can never grasp. Most people's egos are so fucking fragile that they are not willing to put in the fucking work at T-ball level so that they can later be a major leaguer and get fucking paid the big bucks. Okay. And that's sad. That's sad. I would say, honestly, dude, I think that most success comes down to willing to be fucking bad,

willing to get punched in the face, willing to fucking fall flat in front of people and have people laugh at you. I think, dude, I really honestly believe that's fucking 75% of the game. I think it's 75% of the game. I think most people just will not go out and be bad in front of people that they fucking know. And if you think about it, if that's 75% of the fucking game and 25% is just doing it, okay, over and over and over again, success becomes a really simple formula. But I could tell you right now, there's not one motherfucker listening to this podcast, not you, not your fucking friends, nobody that has just a special gift with anything that they didn't inadvertently or purposely practice over their life. A lot of people are great at sales

and they have tremendous charisma and you look at them and you say, God, that person's got a gift with people. But the truth of the matter is they went door to door, you know, selling fucking boy scout shit or girl scout shit when they were kids every fucking year. You know, there's things they did behind the scenes that you're not privy to seeing that created this perceived gift that they have. Okay. And a lot of times that does happen on accident because you're just going through life doing what you're supposed to do. And you happen to develop a certain skill. All right. And for me, that's speaking. I never intended to become a great fucking speaker. And honestly, I don't feel like I'm great now, but the market says I am because I get paid a lot

of fucking money and I'm highly in demand. Okay. I didn't set out to be a fucking speaker. I didn't set out to be fucking, to make an impact doing that. But I happened to have to have meetings in my company and I had to teach people and I had to motivate people and I had to inspire people. Otherwise we wouldn't have been able to build a great business. Okay. And as a result of me doing that over and over and over and over again, I got fucking decent. And guys, just so you know, from 2006 until today, I give a meeting every single week to our sales meeting, to our managers. Okay. And I give a monthly every single week to our sales meeting to our managers. Okay. And I give a monthly meeting every month to our whole company. All right. So let's just do the math. That's 2006 to this is 2018. Uh, I'm just doing the math right here. That's 12 years. Okay. That's 12 years, uh, times 52 weeks. That's 624 fucking meetings, um, on the manager side. And then that's 12 times 12. That's 144 months. Um, which, so one 44 plus six 24,

that's 768 fucking meetings I've done in my company in the last 12 years. And that's like formal meetings. That's not the little fucking side conversations that I have with groups of my team every single day. All right. So when you think about what it's going to take to develop your skill, it's going to take 700 fucking times for you to get good at it. If you're a salesman, you're going to have to go knock on 700 fucking doors and suck. If you're a marketman, you're going to have to go knock on 700 fucking doors and suck. If you're a marketer, you're going to have to make 700 ads that suck. You're going to have to fall on your face. And guess what? By the 200th time, you won't fall on your face as hard as you did the 100th time or the fucking first time. All right. That's just the reality of the

game. And so many of you guys want to skip that part. You want to skip the falling on the face and the embarrassment and the frustration. And guys, I'm telling you, that's the most valuable part because that's the part where you learn the real skills that nobody else is willing to learn. Because just like you don't want to fall on your fucking face, nobody else does either. So the guy that's willing to is going to 100% absolutely learn skills that the other people aren't, which is going to make them more money. It's going to bring them more fulfillment. It's going to make them have a bigger impact. And you're going to do that because 100% you're willing to do the things other people won't. And more so you're willing to take what you can do now to practice and take advantage

of those opportunities in order to be where you want to be later. And guys, I'm telling you right now, that's the fucking key. It is the fucking key. If you can get over the laughter, if you can get over the embarrassment, if you can get over the frustration, you can make it into fucking anything that you want to be.