REAL AF with Andy Frisella - It Matters What People Think, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO147

Episode Date: May 25, 2017

It's popular today to go around saying, "I'm gonna be me. And I give zero f*cks what anyone thinks about it." While we should not be enslaved to other people's opinions, Andy Frisella says that what other people think about you matters. People are going to judge what kind of person you are by how you treat people and what you put out on social media. If you don't take that seriously, you're in trouble. Opportunity comes from other people--and how other people perceive you is huge. If you struggle with how to connect with people and build relationships that lead to opportunity, The MFCEO shares a tool in this episode that will help you!

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys the reason this is called the MFCEO project is because I am here to help you realize what it takes to become the CEO of you. All right. And why the MF? Why the motherfucking CEO? Because what fun is life going through being a timid, meek wallflower? Okay. If this is what you want to be, this podcast isn't for you. This is the, how to become a bad motherfucker. Live your life with control, live become a bad motherfucker, live your life with control, live your life with power, live your life with confidence, and have a great fucking time doing it. All right? On Tuesday, we have a longer, more practical podcast with my co-host,

Vaughn the Impaler, the pastor of disaster, as most of you know. And on Thursdays, we have Thursday Thunder. Sometimes it's Friday Fire, depending on the schedule that we have for the week. Today is Thursday Thunder. And I want to talk about something that I see more and more and more of that you guys need to really think about. All right. We live in this society now where everybody wants to be real. Everybody's trying to be real. Everybody wants to give zero fucks. All right. You see it everywhere. You see fucking people say it. You see people wearing it. You see people talking about it. I give zero fucks. I don't give a fuck what anybody thinks about me. Well, motherfucker, let me break it to you. Unless you're at the top

of the fucking food chain, you better fucking worry about it because you unless you're at the top of the fucking food chain you better fucking worry about it because you're not going to get any very far by going through life with an attitude of like take it or leave it i am who i am i know that's the pop culture thing i know that's the the uh the young people thing i'm going to be me and if you don't like it uh you know you're judging me well yeah that's what the world does the world judges you and the world judges you. And the result of the world judging you is the amount of money you make, uh, the opportunities you have, uh, the connections you make and a whole bunch of other shit that can make your life very fucking fun or very fucking miserable. So you better be thinking about your attitude and what you put out and how you feel about other people. Especially if you're coming up, you're at the beginning of the stage. You're not going to

get very far. If you come in to a new job or a new company or a new opportunity saying, take it or leave it. I'm fucking me. And that's that, that might work if you're a fucking celebrity or if you're a rock star or if you're a fucking star or if you're fucking, you know, somebody that has a massive influence already, you might be able to be a character. But at the end of the day, man, it matters what people think. And you better give a fuck if you plan on doing anything with your life. So with that being said, let's stop with the, I'll give zero fucks bullshit. All right. The people who say I give zero fucks are the people who give the most fucks. That's the truth. Everybody fucking knows it. If you've got to go out of your way to talk about how much you don't give a fuck about what other people

think, that means you're the most insecure motherfucker on the face of the earth because the people who really don't care, don't even care to say that. So think about that the next time you say that on top of all the other implications. Now, with that being said, I want to give you guys a very useful, very impactful, very important tool to use to help you guys become successful. If you're struggling in your career, if you're struggling in a relationship, if you're struggling in life, it's going to come down to this, what I'm about to talk about 99% of the time. All right. Because opportunity doesn't just come out of anywhere. Opportunities come from other people. They come from other people's perception of you. They come from other people's perception of your character. They come from other people. They come from other people's perception of you. They come from other people's perception of your character. They come from other people's perception of how much they like you. Okay. And that's where opportunities come from. They don't

just fall out of the fucking sky on your lap. They come through connecting with other people. And if you don't become amazing at connecting with other people, you're not going to get very far. All right. So I want to teach you guys and tell you guys something that I learned a long time ago that has really, really been impactful, not only on myself, but on my employees that work in our companies, our outside sales reps, our inside staff. It's something that just really makes a gigantic difference in how you go through life. And I want to teach you this, okay? Imagine if every single person, and this is the tool, by the way, imagine if every single person that you came in contact with, every person you had a conversation with, every person you met, every person you saw,

every person that you saw and made eye contact with, but didn't even get a chance to talk to, every single person you called on in business, every single person, period, that you came in contact with wrote a review on the internet for the whole world to see about their perception of that interaction. What would you change about how you treat people? A lot of you guys are saying, well, I wouldn't change very much. Bullshit. And that's why you'll be fucking broke. Let's be real. 99% of you listening right now will try to turn it on and turn it off when it's, when it's necessary, when it suits you, you'll, you'll turn on the charm and the politeness and the manners and the treating people right. When you think it's going to get something for you,

when you're on a sales call or you're trying to make a business contact, you'll, you'll do everything. You'll treat people perfectly. But when But when you don't think it's going to serve you and when you don't think it matters, you'll treat people totally different. You won't be on. And the key is, guys, is to be on all the time and let the on become part of your character, part of your personality. And guys, I'm not going to sit here and say I'm perfect because there is times when I'm mad or I'm in a bad mood or stress is hitting me, or I'm having things not go my way. And you know what? It's hard to fucking be nice to everybody. And it's hard to like go over the top for people and make an amazing impression. So they'll give you that five star review, but that's what you got to shoot for. You've got to shoot for it

because if you shoot for it on a daily basis, if you're always working, you're always on, you're always trying to make people around you feel good, have great opinions of you and help them and create value for them and do everything you can so that you'll get an over the top five star raving review, you are going to fucking win. You're going to have amazing opportunities presented to you. You're going to make more money. You're going to meet better people. You're going to be invited to new opportunities. You're going to be invited to new circles that can create opportunities.

So many things come from this, guys. And the reason this doesn't work for you all the time is because you're trying to turn it on when you think matters. It's not when you think it matters because it all fucking matters. You don't know who that guy is across the room that you gave a dirty look to. You don't know who that woman that you didn't hold the door for or that man you didn't hold the door for going to the grocery store. You don't know what that person does or what they could possibly do for you.

That could be the person that changes your fucking life. But because you were a dick and fucking closed the door and were rude, you didn't even get a chance to meet them. You have no idea the implications of what I'm talking about could be. And I would say the reason that one of the biggest reasons that I've found somewhat a level of financial success, and I have a long way to go, but I mean, I'm doing all right. And one of the reasons I've done as well as I have at this age is because I live this every day.

I don't try to turn it on. I don't try to turn it off. It has become who I am. I try to make everybody feel important. I try to make everybody feel good. And I try to do everything I can to create value, whether it be the fucking janitor or whether it be the CEO, it doesn't matter because it's part of my character. And guys, when you, when you say, oh, well, when you start pre-qualifying your interactions with people, well, oh, I got to do this one better than this one over here. Dude, you're going to

fuck up. You've got to be 100%, 100% of the time. And if you are struggling in life, if you're struggling with money, if you're not having the opportunities that you think you should have, I guarantee you, it's because you're not living this on a day to day basis. Okay. So many people miss the mark with this. They, they, they try to overthink it. They try to manipulate it. They try to like turn on the charm, dude, anybody with the fucking brain can see when someone's turning it on or turning it off or when it's genuine and authentic or whether it's fake. The key is to be fucking authentic with it 100% of the time so that every single possible opportunity that you have in life is going to at least show itself in some way.

It isn't rocket science, guys. It's being a good person. It's doing the right thing. It's doing the right thing. It's treating people with respect. It's going above and beyond to give far more than you receive. And if you could grasp that concept, and it's hard to grasp that concept when you're fucking broke and you're eating ramen and you can't pay your fucking bills, and you don't see anything positive happening, it's natural to want to take. But that is when it's most important to be the person who gives,

to be the person who contributes, to be the person who makes other people benefit from your fucking presence. It's not what's in it for you. It's what you can fucking do for others.