REAL AF with Andy Frisella - It's Lonely At The Top, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO129

Episode Date: March 3, 2017

"What if I get successful and lose all my friends?" That's a question that The MFCEO gets all the time. "Listen," says Andy Frisella. "As you move up the ladder of accomplishment, your peer group will change." Why? Because you will change. You will become a better, more badass person; and better, more badass people will be attracted to you and your life. It doesn't mean certain members of your old peer group are bad people. It just means that you've become very different people with different hopes, dream, and goals--and moving apart is natural. You better accept it. The alternative is keeping your friends--and staying average and mediocre.

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO what is a motherfucking CEO I know some of you ask and I know you wonder but I'm gonna tell you what it is it's somebody who takes absolute control and responsibility for their life. It's somebody who doesn't let society tell them what they should be. It's somebody who goes through life doing what they need to do the way they need to do it and lives life with a confidence and a swagger that shows other people that it's okay to be you, okay? Today, we're going to have a Friday fire, and I want to talk to you guys about something that is so often asked of me, and I want to address it.

A lot of times I have these motivational talks. Today, it's more about a practical thought that I want you guys to realize. Okay, I get this in my DMs. I get this in email. I get it a number of times. It's always a version of this. What do I do about my friends that don't believe in me? What do I do about, you know, if I become successful and I lose all my friends?

What do I do if I have these people who I'm around right now and then I become successful and I lose all my friends? What do I do if I have these people who I'm around right now and then I become successful and then they don't become successful? I want to address that with you guys and make you guys understand one thing. You have to worry about you. You have to realize that you came into this life alone and you are going to go out of this life alone. And the way that you're going to enrich and fulfill and feel good about your life is by doing the best that you possibly can for yourself. And that doesn't mean you're selfish. Technically, is that the definition of selfish? Maybe. But the reality of life is this, the higher you go, the more you evolve, the better you become, the more people are going to be

improved around you. And that's a very noble thing. Okay. So you can't worry about what your high school buddies are going to fucking think about you and say about you when you're on this journey because the reality of how it works is this. You're going to start out with an idea. You're going to execute on the idea, and you're going to execute long enough on the idea that these people that you hang out with right now are probably not going to relate to you the same way they relate to you now. Your life's going to change. Your income's going to change. What you do is going to change. And probably if you're fortunate enough, your life is going to become so fucking cool that

when you talk about it, other people who are from the old times of your life are going to perceive it as you bragging when in reality, it's just your life. And let me tell you something. If you can get to a point where when you talk about your real life and other people perceive it as you bragging, that's not a bad thing. Okay. You talking about the way you live, driving the cars you want to drive, going and doing the things you want to do, living where you want to live is not bragging. That's just your life. Okay. And the reason I bring this up to you guys is you have to understand that along the way, people are going to start to perceive you as a different person and you are becoming a different person. And there's nothing wrong with that because life is about evolution. But the main point that I want to drive home with you guys is that people think that when they get to a certain point, they're

going to be alone because this certain group of friends that they have, or there's certain group of family that they have now, is it going to be able to relate? But here's what happens, guys. You're going to lose some people. Some people are going to fall off. Some people are going to start not to like you. They're going to be jealous of you. They're going to talk shit and they're not talking shit because they hate you. They're talking shit because they came from the same motherfucking place that you came from, but you were able to create something that they were not. That means they hate themselves. All right. So you can't take a personal for one. And for two, when you evolve, when you become something else, when you become better, when you become further down the road on your goals and progress further and become this person

that you desperately want to be on the inside and you're working your ass off to be on the inside, you are going to develop new relationships. You're going to develop relationships with people that compliment those goals and become part of pushing you forward, improving. And ultimately those relationships are so much more fulfilling because they are aligned with what you want out of your life. And it's hard for people to understand that because when they're at the beginning and they start to lose some people, they feel like, man, what did I do to lose these people?

But you gotta be patient. We talk about patience a lot. You have to understand that as you go, as you move, as you progress, you're gonna meet these new people and these new people are gonna bring new things into your life that the old people couldn't bring and you're going to evolve.

And everything about life is about evolution. It's about change. It's about moving forward. It's about growing. And let's be real. If you were loyal to the way these people thought about you from back in the day, you'd be just like them, which is not what you want. So you have to realize guys that that saying it's lonely at the top is complete bullshit. That's what broke people say. That's what people who struggle in life say. That's the way they justify their lack of action. That's the way they think about quote unquote rich people to justify them staying exactly where they are. Well, my relationships are more important and I don't want to fucking lose them. Well, motherfucker, you don't lose those relationships. You move and evolve and create new ones

that are ultimately more serving, more beneficial, and more fulfilling for you. So when you write me these emails and say, Andy, I'm going to lose my friends, I understand what you're saying, but that's not the way that it works. So when you think about what you're trying to do and you start to think about the people

that right now don't believe in you, discourage you and, uh, tell you, you shouldn't do that and tell you, you know, that this is a bad thing to do or a bad idea or unrealistic. Now think about all those fucking people that tell you that it could be your mom. It could be your dad. It could be whoever. Now, what if you replaced every single one of those motherfuckers with somebody who said, dude, that's awesome. Let's do that together. Here. I know a guy who could help you do that here. I know this group that could help you with that. Oh, you want to become a billionaire? Do you need to meet this guy? And what if you replaced all your negativity with people who did that? What would your life be like? That's what you need to think about when you, when you think

about what you're going to lose and what you're going to gain. Because I can tell you right now, the relationships you lose are so worth losing when it comes to what you're going to gain on the back end if you decide to go down this path. So don't be loyal to relationships that hold you in the same spot. Be loyal to yourself, trust yourself, trust your own dreams, and move forward on your goals, and ultimately those relationships will start to materialize that support you,

drive you, and pull you along versus anchoring you back. Rappado! you, drive you, and pull you along versus anchoring you back.