REAL AF with Andy Frisella - It's Time to Draw a Line in the Sand, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO207

Episode Date: January 23, 2018

Can you draw a line in the sand? Can you decide that f*cking enough is enough and that the change you need to make is far more important than the sacrifice it will take to make it? The problem is, too many people can’t do that. Too many people think they can make endless compromises with themselves, and that they have plenty of time to get around to the life they want. F*ck that! They don’t. Successful people know that. And they resolve to cut the bullsh!t and get serious: Immediately.  

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO today I've got a little bit something different for you okay I want to share with you a story that I had a conversation with my brother over the last couple days. The last few days, Thursday, I apologize, I didn't get you a podcast. We had our annual First Form Awards dinner, and we have 400 people here in town, so I've been working. So today, I want to share with you a little bit of a conversation and what it meant to me over this past week. And I was talking to Sal, my brother.

If you listen to the podcast, you've heard him a number of times. And we were talking about somebody that we knew that was off of her game. This is somebody who we've been friends with, who we've watched over the last few years. And we've noticed that she's sliding off of her game. She's not on it like she used to be. She's not dedicated as she used to be. She's not as sharp as she used to be. And we were kind of talking about why. And he said, dude, I think she might be doing drugs. And I said, you know what, man? I wouldn't be surprised. I see drugs suck people people in I've seen it a hundred times I've seen it in my own family and I'm sure you guys have seen it in your families too

and I said you know I don't know I don't know what the deal is but you're right it doesn't make sense and the only thing I can honestly think is that it would be drugs well that got me thinking about something and I said to my brother and I always say this I said you know why I never do drugs you know why I've never done cocaine or smoked crack or done heroin or any of that shit and he's like why and I said because I know I fucking like it there's a reason people do drugs it's not because it makes them feel like shit and I know that if I did that if I started doing cocaine or I started doing some other drug that I would probably do it a lot more. And that got me thinking even more. And I said to him, I said, dude, you know, it's funny how certain people have these issues that can never break out of, you know, whether it be they're eating too much or whether it be they're smoking too much or whether it be they're doing drugs or whether it be their career or whether it be

something in their life that they're not happy with. And I said to him, I said, dude, you know, I don't know if I would be one of those people who got sucked in because at the end of the day, I know when to draw the fucking line in the sand. And, and we both kind of looked at each other and he's like, yeah, you're right. And you know, that got me, that got me thinking about what we're going to talk about today. And that got me thinking about the biggest difference between people who can succeed and people who can get shit done and people who live the lives they want is their ability to draw the line in the sand. Once I say that's it, once I say that's enough, it's enough. And I will do every single thing I can to make sure I move forward from that point on.

A lot of people can't do that. They talk about the line in the sand. They say, this is it. I mean it this time. No more. I'm not going to do that again. And what do you see? Two days later, what are they doing?

They're doing the same thing they were doing two days before. They're becoming the same person. They're not changing. They're lying to themselves. They're telling themselves they're going to do something, making a conviction-based promise to themselves. And when they say it, they mean it. It's not like they know they're lying to themselves. They mean it at the time. But when the time comes that the resolve is going

to be tested, that the changes they said they were going to make are going to be tested, they're weak. They can't stick out what they promise themselves. Every time they break this promise, they lose self-esteem. They lose self-worth. They lose confidence. And most importantly, they lose belief. And I think that being able to draw a line in the sand and say, this is fucking it. And being able to never go back on that line to stick through what you promise yourself that's the difference between winners and losers that's the difference between people

who can take their life back and people who can't that's the difference between people who get hooked on drugs and fucking live their whole life ruined and the people who don't. That's the difference between people who make millions and millions and millions and millions of dollars and people who don't. They draw a fucking line and they don't cross it again. And my biggest thing, my biggest point that I want to get across with this is that are you the kind of person that can draw the line in the sand? Are you the kind of person who could say this is enough? Are you the kind of person who says I am fucking done with that and I'm going to become what it is I know I can become. None of us were born that type of person. It's not a magic skill. It's not something that we're gifted with. It's not

something that God gave us. We just understand that if we don't draw that line in the sand and we don't stick to what we say, that things aren't going to change. And we want that change more than we want that pizza, more than we want that cigarette, more than we want that line of cocaine. We want the fucking change more than the sacrifice we're going to make to get it. Those are the people who build extraordinary lives. Those are the people who you look up to and think, what do they have that I don't? They don't have shit that you don't have. The only thing that they do that's different than you is that when they make a promise to themselves, when they draw a line in the sand, it's for real. It's not some lie. It's not some justification.

It's not some bullshit promise. It's good as writing it down in the history books for 10,000 years from now. Because when they make that decision, they follow through. They make a true resolution and there's a difference there. There's a difference between a decision and a resolution. Everybody can make a decision. Hey, guess what? I decided I want to be rich today. Well, good for you. So does everybody else. But the guy who says, I am resolving to become wealthy beyond any of my friends, beyond any of my family, beyond any of my expectations, and I'm going to surprise myself by becoming so wealthy and I will do whatever the fuck it takes to make sure that happens. Those are the guys that succeed. And this goes for weight loss too. This goes for physical progress

too. We're in the time of year where a lot of you have already made promises to yourself and what are you doing? Now you're back to doing the same shit you were doing on December 31st. You're back to being a lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, cupcake eating motherfucker that isn't going to do the work, that isn't going to cupcake eating motherfucker that isn't going to do the work, that isn't going to follow through, that isn't going to make the best out of their lives. And you're telling yourself already, well, you know what? It's the beginning of the year still. We've got a lot of year left. Blah, blah, blah. Dude, that's what fucking losers say. That's what people who are broke say. That's what people who are extremely overweight and

can't do anything about it say. That's what people whose lives are in shambles say. I got plenty of time left. Fuck your plenty of time left. Draw a line in the sand. Do everything that you can to make sure you don't cross back on it. And you'll see your life change. You'll see the people around you that are negative fall off.

You'll see people come into your lives that are positive and encouraging. You'll see progress in your bank account and in your waistline. Everything in your life changes when you learn how to draw a line in the sand.