REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Make Decisions & Keep Moving Forward, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO220

Episode Date: March 8, 2018

Being decisive doesn’t mean you always make the right decisions. It means you know how to make a decision quickly & intelligently & keep moving forward, learning to adapt to whatever happens as a result of your decision. In this episode, I talk about how this decide/adapt/keep moving forward skill is not only found in the most successful, most highly paid CEOs, but in people who are absolutely crushing every aspect of their life.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Today is Thursday Thunder, and guess what? I'm going to fucking bring it. Before I bring it. Make sure you're subscribed to the podcast. Make sure you leave a review and make sure you bring me a friend. Okay. This information is not throw away information. There's nobody out there putting out the practical information that we are. There's nobody out there helping more people than we are. And I appreciate you guys. And I try to give you my best. So do me a solid and give me your best too. All right. It helps. It helps us. That's my little

pitch. Now, dude, I was sitting at home last night and, and as I like to do, um, sometimes I was laying on my couch, uh, and every day when I get home, Charlie, you guys have probably seen on my Instagram, my little bulldog, Charlie bear. She's my little baby. She immediately runs up and jumps on me and she lays on me and she, you know, she just, sometimes she falls asleep. And when she falls asleep, I usually try to like let her sleep there because dude, for a dog, you know, we're big dog people. They don't have much, man. know we're big dog people they don't have much man they don't have jobs they don't have you know places to go all they have is us and and so I try to like just let her let her do her little thing well sometimes when I'm you know chilling like

that sometimes I mess around on my phone and work uh but Charlie doesn't like that because she sticks her head up and like literally not tries to knock the phone out of my hand. It's the weirdest thing. But she lets me watch TV. So last night, dude, one of my favorite movies of all time was on. And some of you older guys are going to know it. And some of you younger guys are going to be like, what the fuck is that? Because it was actually like early 80s movie, I believe. It might even been late 70s, but I think it was early 80s.

Because I remember as a kid watching this movie. It's called Raiders of the Lost Ark. And it's the first Indiana Jones movie. And if you haven't watched all the Indiana Jones movies, they're fucking awesome. Every single one except the last one, which was stupid. The one with Shia LaBeouf or LaDouche, whatever the fuck that guy's name is. That guy ruined the whole fucking movie. Well, regardless, the rest are really good. So there's a scene in the movie and it's like an iconic scene. And if you've seen the movie, you're going to know what I'm talking about. And if you, if you haven't, you've probably still seen the scene somewhere. All right. He like is weighing out the sandbag and like trying to get the weight right. And he's

looking at this gold idol, like, which is a statue of a head. And he's like trying to guess the weight because if he pulls the gold off and the weight is wrong, um, you know, you could tell this, some bad shit's going to happen. So he quickly like snatches the gold idol and puts it away and puts the fucking sandbag, and he's like, for a second, like he's looking at it and he thinks he's good, except he isn't because all of a sudden the weight starts sinking, and he knows that he is in a world of shit, all right? So what does he do? He starts running, right? And all of a sudden, like all these booby traps start coming out and arrows come out and this big giant ball starts

rolling towards him and he's got to run as fast as he can. And then he's got to jump over shit and dodge shit and, and do stuff. And, um, you know, eventually he makes it out and, you know, he, he's the hero, right? But it got me thinking, man, you know, this is where most people totally screw up. This is where most people completely fail at life and business. Okay. And it's this point to be a leader, to be a motherfucking CEO, to be someone who's successful in literally anything in life, you've got to make the decision to move. Okay. And this is the difference between how successful people do and how most people do. The reason most people can't get anywhere is because they spend so much time trying to think of the perfect decision to make that they end up not making a decision and their environment swallows them up.

Just like Indiana Jones, dude. As long as he keeps going, he can adapt. He can move. He can jump. He can roll on the ground. He can get away from all the shit, you know. But in life, it's the same way, okay? You make a decision and you move.

And then when like shit jumps out, then you adapt, you know, you make another little decision or adjustment or this or that. You just keep moving. Now, if Indiana Jones were like, holy fuck, dude, here comes this boulder. What do I do? And then, and then stops like he doesn't move. Guess what happens? He fucking dies. Okay. And that's the same shit that happens to you. That's why you're not seeing the success that you could because you're spending all your time trying to think of the perfect scenario, make the perfect decision and do the perfect thing. And the reality is guys is nobody fucking is that good. I'm not that good. You know, other people aren't that good. Steve jobs. He's not that good. All these motherfuckers, um, youers, Bill Gates, all these guys, Warren Buffett, they're not that good.

The difference between guys that do shit and guys that don't is this. They just keep moving. They make a decision to fucking move. I'm going to go do this. This is what I'm going to do. And they don't get in a situation where they stop. They're decisive. And you know what?

They don't always make the best decision or the right decision, but they have the ability to maintain fluidity and allows them to adapt and overcome. And you know what? They welcome that because every time they adapt and every time they overcome, they learn some new shit. So guys, stop trying to make the right decision and be so certain that it's the right decision and just start making some decisions. Just start moving because the people who get swallowed up by life, the people who get swallowed up by mediocrity, the people who never really achieve anything in

their entire life, the reason they don't is because they never decide to. They're too busy thinking, what if, what if I do this? And that happens. What if I do that? And this happens. What if I do this and that? And then this whole shit happens. And guess what? That's what people do to themselves, man. They, what if they, what if they, what if they, what if they, what if, and the shit that they're afraid of ends up happening by default because the world is constantly moving. Everybody else is moving. We're progressing. We're changing. We're adapting. And if you don't decide to do the same, guess what? You get left behind by default. All right. That's why I try to teach people that success is not something that is like, you know, I hate saying this because people say this success is not a destination.

It's a fucking journey. But there's a lot of truth to that. OK, you have to understand that. As long as you're moving, as long as you make a decision and it may not be the right one today, as you progress, as you move forward, as you put more years under your belt as an entrepreneur, you are going to get to a situation where you've learned, because you've made the wrong decisions, how to make better decisions. So while you might not make the right decisions in the beginning, as you continue to make the wrong decisions, you'll learn, you'll make better decisions. And dude, when you're 15, 20 years down the road, you're going to make good decisions, you know, most of the time and the bad decisions will be out of your system. And that's going to, it's going to be important

because now your decisions are going to be million dollar decisions versus a hundred dollar decisions like they are now. So guys, you know, if you haven't watched indiana jones you could you could look at literally a million scenarios that reflect how this works and you know look at american ninja warrior you know you got all these fucking props going around and shit going around and dude you got to fucking move and if you stand still you fucking lose okay you get knocked off the the tower or you get run over by some big foam bunny rabbit or whatever, dude, like some shit pops out, you know, the, the fucking, it's just, it's weird shit. I don't get it, but like, that's what happens, man. You know? So you have to understand that moving is better than standing

still. And so being able to make a decision quickly is one of the defining qualities of a great CEO. All right. And you might not be the CEO. Maybe it's your CEO of your life. Okay. But it's the same thing, dude. You've got to move. You've got to adapt. You've got to observe what's happening and you've got to be able to do that quickly so that you don't get paralyzed and get run over by whatever's happening around you, all right? So you have to stay moving. Nobody makes the right decisions in business. Nobody does. Nobody has the perfect plan. You can make a plan, but you shouldn't spend so much time planning that it keeps you from moving. And that's what most of you guys do. You say, I'm going to do this one day, and I got to learn this, and I got to buy this dude's say, I'm going to do this one day. And, but, and I'm going

to, I'm going to, I got to learn this and I got to buy this dude's program and I got to read this book first and I got to do this and that. And guess what happens? You never end up doing shit because you've already put too many roadblocks in front of you to even get to the point of doing anything. Part of that's because you're afraid of doing it. I got a message yesterday from some guys. And if you're listening to the podcast, uh, I can't remember the exact guy's name, but I wouldn't say it anyway. Cause what I'm about to say might embarrass them. But here's the truth, man. These guys are like, yeah, dude, we're, we're wanting to start this business and we're wanting to start a construction business. And you know, the, the, uh, the insurance and the legalities and the accounting and all that stuff,

the taxes that intimidates us, it's scary. And so, and I'm like, I'm accounting, and all that stuff, the taxes, that intimidates us. It's scary. And so, and I'm like, dude, this is the fucking easiest shit to learn about that there is. You're being fucking pussy. And that's what I told him. Dude, nobody knows about any of that boring bullshit when they start a business. You've got to go out and you've got to talk to people that are doing it. Ask some questions. Go find a competent CPA or an attorney that can help you answer those questions. And you know, if you don't have the money to pay them, trade them something, do a lot of, there's a lot of people out there that will help you overcome and keep moving. But if you keep placing these roadblocks that you think are enormous and that, you know, like the question to me, uh, that those guys ask was like, it was ridiculous. Like,

what if I never started the business? Cause I didn't know, like, I didn't know how to fucking pay the right taxes or have the right insurance or, or set up a bank account or do any of that shit when I was starting. And let's be real, dude, if you're going to let something like that stop you, you probably don't have what it takes to start a business in the first place because there's going to be much bigger obstacles. So really what it does, guys, is it just takes a mentality flip, right? Instead of trying to learn shit before, because like, dude, this is bred into us. This is bred into us by the school system. Learn this, get this certification, then you're qualified to go do. Well, guess what?

There's no fucking certification for life. There's no certification for becoming an entrepreneur. There just isn't. Not one that's credible, by the way. So guess what you're going to do? You're going to have to go do first and then learn. All right? So it's completely opposite what you're taught

your entire life. And that's why it feels so unnatural. But two, let me tell you, the biggest achievers in this earth, the most influential people on this earth, the best artists on this earth, the biggest creators on this earth all understand one concept that you're not grasping yet. And yet it's this do first, then learn, not learn first, then do. Okay. Like you're taught in school the whole time. So guys get comfortable with that. You know, do first, then learn. That's the way it works. All right, go try it. You're going to learn some shit. Go try it again. You're going to learn some more stuff. Go try it a third time. You're going to learn more. And you know what? By the 10,000th time, guess what? You're going to be a fucking expert. That's how this works. All right. That's the secret that you guys are missing.

You can't buy that shit from some fucking guru. You can't read a book that fucking talks about that. Maybe you can. I don't know what there is. I don't know it. I'm just telling you this learning and becoming good and becoming an expert and making a lot of fucking money and this and that we can talk about hard work. We can talk about initiative. We can talk about accepting responsibility for your life. We can talk about all the things, you know, that go into being successful. But the biggest thing that holds you back is this. You think you're not qualified because the world tells you you aren't your mom, your dad, your aunt, your tells you you aren't your mom, your dad,

your aunt, your uncle, your brothers, your sisters, your friends, the people's closest to you. They're like, how are you going to do that? You're not certifying that. Like, dude, when I was making, when I was first designing supplements, people are like, how are you going to fucking design supplements? You never fucking, you never, uh, you don't, you're not qualified at all. You're not a, what are you a scientist? No, I'm not a fucking scientist. But you know what I am? I'm smart enough to go fucking hire them. Okay?

And that's the point. You've got to understand that you don't have to know everything. And you don't have to be qualified. But you've got to have the ability to understand that you're going to learn as you go. You're going to have to ask questions. You're going to have to move forward. And you're going to have to do that before the world thinks you're qualified. And you know what? By the time you are qualified, the world thinks you're qualified. It's already too late. You're an expert. All right. So put in your mind that instead of

thinking I've got to learn, then do put in your mind, I'm going to do, and then I'm going to learn. All right? Because that's how this process works. Stop creating roadblocks for yourself. Oh, I don't know about taxes. Oh, I don't know about insurance. Oh, I don't know about packaging. Well, guess what? You're going to find all that shit out real fucking quick when you want to go open a business. So you're going to learn it. So stop making yourself paralyzed by overthinking this shit. Some of the most successful people I know are literally dumb as fuck. And that's the truth. They are dumb. They're so fucking dumb that they don't know any better than to just go do it. And I'm being dead serious. I'm talking about guys that can't spell. They don't know the difference between our, O-U-R,

and R-A-R-E. They use them interchangeably. Guys like that. And I've got legitimate people that can't read or write that are fucking multi, multi, multi millionaires because they understand this one concept of doing, then learning, and not repeating the same shit over and over again.

So quit fucking having to go to 50 fucking seminars a year and get sold 17,000 fucking programs that you don't need about this and that and this, this, this, because you feel like you need to be qualified. Go out and do some shit, learn some shit, ask some questions from people who have been through the shit and use that formula to win instead of trying to fucking certify yourself. Cause really, let's be real. You're not trying to learn. You're trying to stop.

You're trying to put off the, uh, the deadline as far as you can. Right? Like you're trying, you're like, fuck, this is going to be hard. It's going to be scary. I'm going to have to quit my current job. I'm going to have to do this. I'm not going to have as much money. And you're building up in your head all these fucking negatives.

And instead of going out and doing it, you're making up these reasons that are complete and total bullshit. So do first, then learn. Remember the Indiana Jones deal, dude. As long as you keep moving, as long as you're decisive, as long as you make decisions and then adapt as you go, you're on the right track. It's when you stand still that you're going to get fucking killed.