REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Material Goals: Inspirational or Selfish?, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO183

Episode Date: October 24, 2017

When I first bought and drove luxury sports cars like my Lambo, I didn't tell anyone about it. I felt guilty and embarrassed because so many people think being motivated by material things is immoral. I have come to believe they are wrong. While life is more than material things, it is legit to use them as motivation. In fact, they are a great motivation. In this episode, I tell you why.

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO today is Tuesday and I'm actually recording this on a Tuesday the day that this will be published which is unusual for us Usually we record a few days in advance. We actually had, I was traveling. We had a lot of meetings going on today, yesterday, and tomorrow regarding a bunch of things that have to do with my quote unquote real businesses. And we were going to say to just pass up on doing a podcast today and just pick right back up on Thursday. But you know what? I woke up this morning thinking about something. And instead of going right to the gym, like I do when I wake up, I came here to record this podcast because I feel like the message is very important.

Yesterday, I made some posts on my Insta story. And if you're not following me at Andy for sell on Instagram, you should be because, uh, it's fucking cool, but it got me thinking. I made some posts about, uh, some of the things I've been hearing about material things. And I just want to hit on this. It's not going to be a long message. It's going to be something real short, real sweet. Uh, and hopefully it'll unlock some freedom of thought for you. When I was, I don't know, I guess in 2011, I bought my first Lamborghini and I think maybe it was 2011, 12. I can't remember exactly the year. I bought my first Lambo and I used to drive. And before that I had an Aston Martin and an R8 and some other cool shit. But nobody in my company

ever knew that I owned it. And nobody, none of my friends ever knew that I owned that shit. Like I would literally park those cars in my garage, drive them. Like, you know, when I went and did my own personal stuff, I would never drive them to work. I would never tell them anybody I had them. I would never show it to anybody. And the reason that I never did that was because of society's pressure on material things. You know, I didn't want people to think that I was a materialistic or be, uh, you know, some people think like when you drive a nice car, other people think you're making too much money, so they won't support you, which is bullshit. Um, I've learned that from experience. I just was embarrassed and I was

ashamed in a weird way. And I know it doesn't really make sense that I had nice shit. And I want to cover that topic this morning with you guys and how I see it now versus how I saw it then. You know, society's going to tell you guys that there's something morally wrong with having material goals. I did a poll on my Insta story yesterday. I said, Hey, does material objects motivate you? Do those things make you motivated? And I said, don't lie because there's nothing wrong with having cool shit. And you know, like I think it was like 80% to 20%, 80% said yes, 20% said no. But then I had a bunch of people DM me and comment on my page that said, well, I voted no because I really want to make a difference. And I voted no because

I don't really want a Lamborghini, but I want a truck. And I voted no because I want to make an impact and I don't really care about material things. And I voted no because I want to have experiences over material things. All right, well, let me cover those fucking points for you guys and make it real fucking clear. There is nothing wrong with having material goals and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you using those material goals to be motivated. And there's nothing wrong about sharing that with people. Okay. Are there going to be people who think that that's wrong? Yes. Are there going to be people who think they're too noble, quote unquote, to admit that

they are driven by having material success? Yes. But I'm going to tell you right now, being successful is fucking hard and becoming financially to a point where you can afford those luxuries that whatever they are for you is going to take every ounce of your energy that you possibly have. So why would you not use all the fuel that you have in your heart? Why would you not admit to yourself what you really want? Because there's a problem with this guys. When you really want something materialistic, but you deny it publicly, you don't say it, it makes it that much harder to get. It puts the energy out in the universe that says, I don't say it, it makes it that much harder to get. It puts the energy out in the universe that says, I don't really like material things. Okay. You're sending conflicting messages.

And when you send that, it makes it that much more of a grind to get. So you have to understand that there are a number of things about this that, uh, you, that you need to understand. Okay. Lots of people are going to tell you it's not okay. Lots of people are going to tell you it's not okay. Lots of people are going to tell you you're greedy. Lots of people are going to tell you you're materialistic. Lots of people are going to tell you you have your priorities out of whack. But I'm going to tell you that they are all full of shit.

Notice that that never comes from somebody who's actually successful. You don't ever see a guy living in the house that you want to live in or driving the car you want to drive or wearing the watch you want to wear saying, oh man, you like, oh, well, I could have those things, but you know, I choose not to have bullshit. You couldn't fucking cut it. And now you're telling other people that they shouldn't do it either. That's the truth. Okay. So, and I, I get it. Some people aren't motivated by material things, but let me explain something to you.

People that say this, oh, well, I'm more motivated by making an impact. I'm more motivated by having experiences. Well, motherfucker, have you ever driven a different exotic car to work every fucking day and had the experience and the thrill and the happiness of actually appreciating that car and seeing people drive by you with thumbs up, or every time you pull up to the gas station, 20 little fucking kids come up and want to take pictures with your car, and sit in the car, and then they ask you how you afforded the car, and you tell them your story about working hard, and then they walk away saying, you know what, I'm going to fucking work hard. I'm going to do that. I'm going to become successful. I'm going to work. That's exactly what happened to me. When I was fucking eight years that. I'm going to become successful. I'm going to work. That's exactly

what happened to me. When I was fucking eight years old, I saw a white Lamborghini Countach at a gas station and it fucking changed my life. That's when I decided I was going to be successful when I was fucking eight. Cause I saw somebody who had the fucking balls to buck what society says and drive a fucking Lamborghini. It's inspiring. It impacts people. It changes people. Okay. Your success is a message to the world that says, Hey, you can do this too. Look what I did. It shows people it's possible. And you know what doesn't, you know, it shows people nothing is possible somebody who walks around saying oh you shouldn't have material things material things are bad they don't have

good experiences I would tell you right now that having material success a it's very motivating b it's okay c it impacts people in a way that you cannot possibly impact any other way so when you're trying to morally justify your success, remember this, there's going to be a lot of people who see what you want to, you know, what you're accomplishing and what you do, and they don't care what the fuck you say. Like you could preach success all fucking day long, but people are going to look at what you do. And this brings me to another point. There's big name entrepreneurs out there right now that a lot of you guys fucking follow that say shit like, well, I don't like stuff and I don't need stuff and I don't want stuff. But if you pay attention to those motherfuckers snap stories, they're flying

on private jets. They live in a nice fucking house. They live, they have extravagant offices. They spend money on all these other things that are material things. You don't need to fly on private jets. You don't need to fly on private jets. You don't need to fucking live in a fucking $4 million fucking house. You don't need to have extravagant offices. That's material shit too. And all these people who are telling you, oh, well, it's not about the stuff. Well, I agree. It's not about the stuff, but the stuff could be a very powerful motivator and a very powerful way to impact people if you utilize it correctly. Now I'm not talking about all you fake motherfuckers out there who are 19 years old thinking you're a life coach, renting shit, trying to take pictures. I'm talking

about you people who are legit entrepreneurs, who are going to grow businesses, who are going to find success and who are going to live the life they designed. All right. Maybe you don't want to drive a Lambo and that's fine. Maybe you don't want to drive a Ferrari. That's fine. Maybe you don't want to travel private. That's fine too. But what I'm saying is this, whatever your goals are, no matter what they are, they're okay. Okay. It's okay for you to have those goals. You have to figure out what motivates you. You have to figure out what, what is going to give you that extra drive when you don't feel like doing it. And I read something, um, I read something funny the other day that

said, if you're doing it for the stuff, you don't have a fucking chance. Or if you like the stuff, you don't have a fucking chance. Bullshit. I like the fucking stuff and you know what? I'm doing all right. So there you go, motherfucker. Keep telling people that fucking it ain't okay to like stuff. No, it's fucking perfectly okay. I love my stuff. I love walking into my garage every day and having the first world problem of deciding which fucking car I'm going to drive. You know what? You're going to have problems either way. You're going to have fucking problems where you could pay your bills. You're going to have problems where, you know, what are you going to eat? Or can I order this off the menu? Or you could have problems like this. I don't know which fucking Lambo to

drive today. I don't know if I want to drive the fucking Aventador or if I want to drive the Rolls. Which problems would you rather fucking have? Because I could tell you all day because I've had both problems, which ones I'd rather fucking have and they're the ones I have now. So don't let people who are holier than thou or more noble or they try to be this extra good person in public eye say that they don't like stuff and you don't need stuff and you shouldn't want stuff because that's bullshit.

A, those people like stuff. B, it's okay for you to like stuff too. And if that's what motivates you, if cars motivate you, if watches motivate you, if houses motivate you, if vacations motivate you, that's fine. But realize that you do not have to choose between material goals and experience goals

like society's trying to paint it. Oh, I'm all about impact. I'm all about experience. Motherfucker, there's lots of impact experience that comes with fucking material shit. You don't have to pick between the two. You can have both. All right. And let me tell you something.

The only way to make the money that you can make to have the material things that you want is to make an impact, is to create an awesome experience, is to solve people's problems, is to help people. That's the only way you can make the money. So if you get to a point where you're able to afford this cool shit that you secretly want, that you're too afraid to tell anybody that you want because society fucking shits on it. I'm going to tell you that you're already making an impact, making a great experience, solving problems and helping people because that's the only way to fucking make real money these days. One comes from the other. Okay. And you don't see one motherfucker out there that has all the material shit that is constantly fucking people over and screwing people nowadays. It doesn't happen.

If somebody can afford to drive a fucking Lambo, if somebody can afford to fucking have 20 fucking exotic cars and live in a nice fucking house and fly private everywhere they want to go and go on good vacations and do things for their friends, like bail them out of debt and fucking help them get their life started. And I do all those things. Guess what? The reason I'm able to do all those things is because I make an impact on the other side. I provide positive experience. I give tremendous value and I solve fucking problems better than fucking anyone else in my, in my area. That's why I'm able to do that shit. So quit thinking it's one or the other. Quit thinking that you're a bad person for wanting material shit. Quit thinking that

there's something wrong with your motivation. There's nothing wrong with your motivation. You know what's wrong? There's something wrong with the people who are telling you there's something wrong with that motivation. Anybody who's truly built something from zero to fucking whatever, not walking into a business at X million dollars, not inheriting their mom's business. I'm talking about somebody who's built something from scratch. You will never hear that motherfucker say to you, well, that you shouldn't have that goal. You shouldn't have that. You shouldn't have, you shouldn't want material things. That's not, that's not the right thing. You should be doing it because of this You'll never hear those persons say that you know why because those motherfuckers know how hard it is

And they know that you should use every fucking ounce of motivation that you possibly can To get where you want to go and they don't know that you even should use that They know that you're going to have to use that they know that you are going to have to pull from every possible area of motivation that you could possibly have, whether that be people telling you you can't, whether it be the positive impact you're going to make, whether it be material shit, whether it be the vacations you want to go on, the life you want to live or the dreams you want to have. All of those things are going to have to contribute to your motivation at some point or another. You're going to have to pull from all of that. And anybody who's built something from zero to success, wherever that success is that they can afford to live the life they want, they will tell

you, you are going to need all of those motivations. So don't hide your motivations because you think other people that you may look up to on online shit on them or think or don't think it's cool you're going to need those and there's nothing wrong with those and remember the only way you're ever going to be able to afford those is if you make the impact with people if you solve fucking problems if you help people if you provide real value. It all goes together. So if you're doing all those things, what's wrong with having material shit for yourself?

Nothing.