REAL AF with Andy Frisella - No Such Thing As Magic, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO105

Episode Date: November 3, 2016

Like naïve little kids at Christmas, the average person thinks success is magical.  They think that achieving your goals, fulfilling your dreams, and living a life of health, wealth, and happiness happens when somewhere, in Never Never Land, the stars align, the Success Fairy waves her Magical One Hundred Percent Guaranteed Success Wand, and everything in your life miraculously turns to glitter and gold. But people who are destined to succeed know better. They know they are destined to succeed because they know that success is not magic. It comes from busting one’s ass.  It is the inevitable result of hard work. 

I want to be a motherfucking hustler. You better ask somebody. What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome. I know we have a tremendous network of family members when it comes to the MFCEO project. And the first thing you need to understand is this is a project. We're not going to sell you anything. We're not going to ask you to give money. We don't do anything like that.

This is all about helping move society in the right direction, helping bring back the American values of hard work, taking responsibility, doing the right thing, and how that all ties into our personal success. Because if we want to make a change in society, if we want to make a change in the world, we all have to start with ourselves. And the first thing you have to realize, guys, is you are the entrepreneur of you. So this podcast, you know, we're going to cover topics on business, but all those same topics and all those same things that we talk about, all the lessons we talk about are

going to apply to your personal development as well. So you may not be the owner of a business, you may not be the CEO, okay? But you are the CEO of you, and you have to understand, if you're gonna be the CEO, you wanna be the motherfucking CEO and go through life kicking ass with swagger, feeling good about yourself, feeling confident, and just going through life cracking skulls and dropping bows, all right?

That's what we're gonna talk about. That's what we're gonna teach you how to do. That's what this is about. Now, like I said, we don't ask for any fees We don't ask for any money But what I do always ask and i'll probably remind you about this at the end too Is that if you? Found value in this podcast and you think you have a friend or you have a family member or you have someone who's struggling

And you feel like this could help them get on the right track Please recommend this to them. Please tell them about it. I'm not asking you to make a post, even though that would be awesome. I'm not asking you to invite all your friends, which would also be awesome. But the truth is, we aren't for everybody. This is for a select, special, like-minded group of people, people who are minded on achievement, people who are minded on achievement, people who are minded on success, people who are minded on doing the right thing and being good motherfuckers when it comes down to it. All right. Not everybody's like that. Not everybody wants to be that. And that's okay.

That's why you guys are special. And that's why this is a fucking movement and it isn't for everybody. All right. Now today I'm going to talk to you guys something that about something that gets this, by the way, this is Thursday thunder. I know all of you guys listening that are regulars are like, you know, I usually go through the spiel of Tuesday's practical. We do practical podcasts. And by the way, this coming Tuesday, we have an awesome podcast and it's two hours long, which I know is breaks all the fucking rules of podcasting. You know, you're going to lose people's attention, but dude, I'm going to tell you right now, make time to listen to that podcast. It is fucking awesome. It's with my good friend, Dan Fleischman, who is the youngest CEO slash founder of a publicly

traded company ever. He's the author of a book, How to Set Up Your Business for Under $1,000. You can order that book at buythisbook.com. The guy's done everything, okay? He's a professional poker player. He used to run the third largest poker website in the world. I mean, he's an angel investor in 25 different businesses. The guy is just a monster entrepreneur. And we get down to the basics of how to get started, which is something I'm not good at covering all the time. You know, you guys know that I'm more of the like, get out and fucking do it type of guy, because that's how I did it. But you know what? Dan is really level headed. He's really, really smart. And he breaks down,

and we break down together how to actually start from ground zero. And so if you guys are interested in that, this next Tuesday is a must-listen podcast, all right? So for you guys that are new, Thursday Thunder, I'm going to rip your fucking face off. And today I'm going to tell you a story, all right? It's, this is about the way people think about success. All right. People think about success as if it's some sort of magical thing. And sometimes it is magical, but I want to explain to you from my perspective, how I view success. And I want to do that through a little story. You know, when I was a little kid at Christmas, I remember the night before Christmas, the area under the Christmas tree was completely bare.

And we always had the most beautiful tree. OK, I'm one of the guys that likes all the old school lights, like the big ones with all different colors. I'm not a white light guy. I'm not like stay the same color light guy. I like the big old balls with all the different colors. And our tree was always decorated that way. All right. I loved Christmas as a little kid. I still love Christmas, but there was never any presents under the tree. I know some families there's presents under the tree, like as Christmas is coming. Ours was not like that. Santa brought all the presents,

if you know what I'm saying. So every Christmas Eve, I would look at the tree and I would be worried. And I would say, man, you know, I really want that Atari, you know, because everybody knows you got to have fucking Atari when you're a little kid growing up in the eighties, right? Donkey Kong motherfuckers, you know, and I wanted Optimus Prime and I wanted a couple of GI Joe guys. And it was so hard for me to force myself to sleep because I was so excited, but I also was so afraid that it wasn't going to happen. You know, and I would wake up throughout the night, like 11 PM, 1 AM again at four, you know, I just couldn't wait to see what was under the tree. And I'm sure a lot of you guys are relating to what I'm saying, right? Around six o'clock in the morning, I'd wake up and I

would look at the time and I would be terrified because I knew I wasn't supposed to go out to the tree, but I was so worried that if I run out in the living room and there's nothing there, what was it going to be like? What if I look under the tree and there's not a single present from Santa? And fortunately, because I grew up with great parents, that never happened. Okay. Every Christmas morning, every year of my childhood, I woke up and the tree was loaded with presents. And I'm super, super thankful for that. Cause I know it's not like that for everybody. And I know for you guys, there's a lot of you that never had that either, but I am super, super appreciative. But that one year that sticks out in my mind, the Donkey Kong year, there was a weird exchange that I can remember sticking in my head. I don't know. I don't know how old I was. I mean, I was probably like maybe five, six years old,

but I remember this exchange with great detail. My aunt was there and she said to me, she goes, look how many presents are there, Andrew? Is it Christmas magical? And my dad just stopped her right in her tracks. He goes, look, this ain't magic, son. You should be thankful. Santa busted his ass all night last night. And I remember thinking, I'm like, man, you know, like Santa really did bust his ass. You know, he's got, he's got to go all over the world. I was like mystified by like all he had to do, you know, like Santa really did bust his ass. You know, he's got, he's got to go all over the world. I was like mystified by like all he had to do, you know, um, he had to go make the toys and he had to like distribute the toys and he had to like do all these things. And I started thinking, I'm like, man, you know, Santa, he's got his shit together. You know, he's a hell of a businessman. He runs a multinational company. He's got diverse product offerings. How does he get all this shit done? I used to be like

mystified by that. And then, you know, as I started to grow older, I started understanding, you know, hey, like, it's not Santa. It's our parents, right? I know some of you guys are still believing in Santa. But as I got older, I started to connect the dots. You know, I started to look at, you know, the gifts that I got and understand that the reason I got those gifts wasn't magical. It was because my dad was out busting his ass every single day for 18 fucking hours running a business, you know, and my mom was trying to do everything she could to support him and do everything and and keep the house good and do all these things so that we could operate as a functional unit now as we grow up you know when we're little we think that that it's magical but

as we start to realize when we get older no it's not magical it's someone busting their ass to make something happen and that is the real story of Christmas, right? Every single one of you that ever got something from Santa, you didn't get it from fucking Santa and it wasn't magical. You got it because your parents loved you and your parents were willing to trade their time to be able to forge you that experience. But here's the thing, guys. I've discovered that the way people think about success is exactly the same. They think about it like little, naive kids. The average person looks at somebody

who has their shit together and thinks it's fucking magical. They think achieving your goals, fulfilling your dreams, and living a life of health, wealth, and happiness means somewhere you got lucky. The stars aligned, the success fairy met, waved their magical wand, and 100% guarantee of success was destiny for you. That's what people think. They think that Santa fucking made you successful. And because they believe it's magical, they worry and they say things like this to themselves. What if I put in all this effort

and it never pays off? What if I'm wasting my time? What if I struggle and that all that struggle means nothing? What if I'm getting my hopes up just to be disappointed? What if I don't get lucky? What if that magic moment for me never happens or that big break never happens? What if I don't get lucky? What if that magic moment for me never happens or that big break never happens? What if I fail and fail and fail again and I spend my life being a failure and never succeed? But here's the thing you have to realize, guys. People who are destined to succeed know better. They know they are destined to succeed because they know that success is not magic. It comes from busting one's ass for a certain amount of time to produce an inevitable result of the work that they put in. Now instead of wishing upon a star, they start.

They don't talk about starting. They don't think about starting. They don't make a plan that they never fucking execute on. They realize that they are in control and they take action. They get to work and to be more specific, they get to work now. They get to work right away. They don't wait for the perfect time. They work to win the day today. If they come across this realization at nine o'clock at night, guess what? They do something at nine o'clock at night. If they come across this realization at 6 a.m. in the morning, guess what? They don't wait till next fucking Monday to start something. They work right away. There are seven days in a week, and we've all heard this saying, there are seven days in a week, and someday isn't one of them. Procrastination is a prescription for disappointment,

frustration, and worst of all, regret. If you're not happy with any aspect of your life, whether it's your job, your relationship, your fitness, where you live or anything else that impacts your happiness, then you have to have the courage to admit the truth to yourself and have the strength to make a plan and take action on that plan today. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year,

this fucking minute. Because the truth of it is, guys, there is never a perfect time. There's never a perfect time to start. There's never a perfect time to get to work. There's never a perfect time to make the change. It's always going to be hard. There's never a perfect time to get to work. There's never a perfect time to make the change. It's always going to be hard. There won't ever be perfect conditions with perfectly calm weather and perfectly, you know, set up for you to win and execute on your plan for success. If you think that you're going to make every excuse possible, The weather is lousy. My tooth hurts. I'll be ready for a Monday. You know, after New Year's, I'm going to do this. That's what people do. They hide in every excuse possible because they think there's going to be a better time and there

fucking isn't. Some of us are experts at coming up with reasons why important things we need to get done have to wait. And I think most of us actually are good at that. We wait, we wait, we wait, we tell ourselves this, we tell ourselves that. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, months turn into years, and then before you know it, the challenge seems so fucking big that you can't even comprehend how you're going to get from here to there. And that just snowballs and snowballs and snowballs, and it keeps you in a place of disappointment, frustration, and fear and regret.

Procrastination, guys, it's a slippery slope. It could turn into a vicious cycle of disappointment and frustration that leads to loss of self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth. It's one of the things that separates the average from the elite, the successful from the unsuccessful. Those who have regrets with their lives and those who take pride in the life that they lived. Life is too short, guys, to tolerate any aspect of your life that you aren't happy with. You don't have to worry about what you did yesterday

or what you did last week or what you did for the last 15 years. Today is what fucking matters. And you have to make the decision to get to work right fucking now. Look at your shoes. Seriously, I want you to look at your shoes for a minute. Every day you put on one shoe and then the other. I bet if you think about it real hard, you can know exactly which shoe you put on first. For me, it's my left shoe. I always put my left shoe on first. Okay. You put your shoes on every single day, mindlessly, mindlessly. You probably don't even remember putting your shoes on this morning. You don't remember if you had to explain to somebody

how to tie a fucking shoelace, could you explain it? Or would you have to show them how to do it? Right? Most of us would have to show them because it's a mindless thing. We do it without thinking. But then after your shoes are on, we take one step and then another. We do this day in and day out consistently. It's how we move through life. And the truth of it is, guys, we take a shit ton of steps every day, even just walking from your bedroom to your kitchen, your kitchen to your bathroom, your kitchen outside, but you aren't overwhelmed, right? Because you're doing this mindlessly. It's not difficult. You do it so much that you can't even remember doing it. How many times have you been walking somewhere or walking around and then

you stop and look around and you're like, wait, how did I get in here? Or where was I last? You can't even remember where you came from because it's so mindless. To be successful, guys, that's how you have to work. You have to work hard, yes, but not in some massively overwhelming way. You've got to make a habit of winning every day. No more, no less. And let tomorrow worry about tomorrow. You win today, and if you could figure out how to make a habit to win today, every single day, you are going to fucking win because little steps add up to big success. And consistency is the magic of success. It's figuring out how to do things on your own way, on your own level, and making a habit of those things over the course of time to the point where it's almost mindless. Ever notice, guys, how some people just have it? They just have it together. They make progress effortlessly. They go through life kicking ass.

They don't seem like they're putting in any more effort than you. It just seems like they're very good at getting things done. Why do these people do that? Are these people superhuman? Are these people have something that you don't? Do they have a special talent or a special set of skills or a special, you know, success wand that hit them on the head? No, they don't. But what they do is they understand the power of momentum and they understand how to make that work. Momentum is the most powerful force you can have working for you or against you. It takes a lot to get something moving, guys. A lot. In the beginning, things are going to be fucking hard. You're going to have a hard time winning today. You're going to have a hard time getting through the day doing everything you need to do. You're going to have a hard time getting through the day doing everything you need to do. You're going to have a hard time getting through the day not eating those snacks. You're going to

have a hard time getting through the day doing those workouts or sending all those emails or sending the letters that you need to send or making the calls you need to make. That is going to seem extremely difficult on day one. But here's the thing, guys. Once you get through day one and you get through day two and you get through day three, it starts to become habit because you start believing in yourself. You can look back and say, look, I got seven straight days of winning the day. And you know what? I know I can win tomorrow. So you start to believe. And guess what, guys? When you start to believe, that's when the fucking win tomorrow. So you start to believe. And guess what guys, when you start to believe that's when the fucking magic happens. If you want to talk about magic, once you start

working and working consistently, momentum begins to carry you. It begins to pick you up. And if you string enough good days, productive days, hardworking days, pursuing success, you can ride that momentum anywhere you want to go. Success isn't magic, guys. It really is an equation. We say this over and over and over again. It's simple math. It adds up to the same result every time for every single person. And if you do the fucking work, the result will be there. If it's a formula, if you want to talk about a formula, you can write it like a to-do list. Okay? One, you got to form a solid plan.

Two, you got to execute that plan. Three, you learn how to improve the plan every single day. Four, focus on your goals day in and day out and make them your obsession. Five, realize that it's going to take time. Okay. It's probably going to take a long time, but you have to exercise aggressive patience. And what's aggressive patience? Aggressive patience is this. You understand it's going to take a year or five years or 10 years, but even though you understand that time is a factor and it's going to take you time to get a result, you are literally doing every single thing you can during that time.

Okay? You're patient, but you're aggressive in that patience. And the most important thing, guys, is you have to have skills. You've gotta do the work that you do better than anyone else, okay? Just doing it isn't enough. Just showing up isn't enough. Just accomplishing the task, guess what?

It isn't enough. You gotta be better. You've gotta have better skills. You've gotta be more intense about building your skills. You've gotta be committed to be better. You've got to have better skills. You've got to be more intense about building your skills. You've got to be committed to personal development. You've got to do the fucking work better than anyone, guys. And this is not magic. People see this as hocus pocus, you know, success wizard, you know, oh, that guy sure is lucky. That guy sure is this. That guy sure. No, motherfucker. They're not. They're following what I just said. The six plans I gave you. They're forming a plan. They're executing

the plan. They're learning how to improve the plan. They're focusing on their goals every single day and becoming obsessed. And they realize that they've got to exercise aggressive patience and things are going to take time. And most importantly, they do work better than anyone else. Action equals results. That's it. That's it. So your thoughts of, you know, what if I do this and it doesn't work? Or what if I put in all this work and it doesn't pay off? Or what if I just fail and fail and fail and fail? Isn't going to happen. It's impossible for that to happen. The result of work is success if you learn how to work properly. So guys, when you do the work, guess what's going to happen? Guess what's going to happen when you string together days and months

and years of pursuing your goals. You're going to get to your goals. It's guaranteed. The reason people don't get to their goals is one of the very simple things. Okay. They fail to be patient. They fail to do the work better. They fail to have an actual plan and they just work mindlessly. Okay. let's talk about this for a second. They just show up to work mindlessly. Let's talk about like a construction worker. All right. My family's a big construction family, so I can talk about this, uh, with pretty good experience. A lot of my family does concrete concrete work. Some of the hardest fucking work on the face of the earth. All right. They show up every day and they work their fucking asses off. All right. So the same guy that's doing it when he's 18 years old, typically ends up being the

same guy doing it when he's 50 years old and his body's beat his, his mind's beat the world screwed him. And he's bitter about the life that he, that he built. He's proud because he was able to provide for his family, but he's looking back saying, man, I could have done more. And then you'd think, let's take another guy. Let's take the guy who owns the billion dollar construction company who also started pouring concrete when he was 18 years old. But every day he showed up working hard and he worked harder than the other guy. All right. But that's not all he did at night. He went home and he started planning how he was going to have his own construction company. And he started planning how he was going to be the guy who poured the best concrete. So eventually

five years down the road, when he's 23 years old, he comes around with the money that he saved and buys his own forms. Okay. And then he goes around to all the other contractors and says, Hey, you know, I can do this for you. I could do this for you. I could do this for you. I could do it better. All right. So not only is he doing the work, he's doing it better.

He's doing it faster. He's doing it a higher, higher quality. And all this time he starts doing that. He's thinking about how can I, how can I start my own construction company? All right. So he's meeting all the framers. can I start my own construction company all right so he's meeting all the framers he's meeting all the electricians he's meeting all the excavators he's meeting all the plumbers okay he's building this this network of contacts and then five years down the road he decides with the money that he saved because he's been living frugal when he's

28 now he's going to start a construction company. And he's 28 years old and he's got a foundation crew. He's got a flat work crew. He's got a flooring crew. He's got a framing crew. He's got a roofing crew. He's got a plumbing crew. He's got an operator's crew.

And you know what? He's in business. And during this time that he's been putting together business, he's also been networking with the real estate developers, the people who are looking at new projects, all the other people around town that develop and create the construction for the new homes and new commercial projects. So now here he is at 28 years old, having all these things go for him because he had a fucking plan. He executed that plan. He improved on that plan every day. He focused on his goals day in and day out. All right. And this is only eight years time. He realized it was going to take eight years, but during the eight years, he didn't just float through. He aggressively pursued his goals.

And most importantly, he did the work and he did it better than the next guy. Guys, this is it. This is all there is. We have a saying around here. Talk equals regrets. Action equals results. results, period. No exceptions. Realize guys that people, situations, circumstances, they don't control you. They might affect you temporarily, but it's up to you to allow them to control you. You control you. And too many people look for a scapegoat to pass the blame for their lack of progress in any area when they should be looking in the mirror and asking themselves, have I done the work? This isn't up to anybody else, guys. This is up to you. You have to take the magic out of your mindset. And if you do the work, the results will be there. That is a guarantee. But nobody's going to offer you this guarantee. And this is

where we've talked before about faith. And we've talked before about understanding that there's forces that are in play here that you have to trust in order to be successful. But most people aren't willing to put their eggs in that basket. Most people aren't willing to say, you know what, I'll do this for 10 years because it's going to produce this 10 years from now. No, they get caught up in the Friday nights and the Saturday nights and the Sunday day drinks, Sunday fun day. They get caught up in the vacations.

They surround themselves with people who think small. They surround themselves with people that don't believe. They surround themselves with people who have given up on their own futures. And then they wonder why they give up on their own futures. And here's the thing. If you give up on your own future, it might feel comfortable now. You might be having a good time now, but I'm going to tell you right now, man, the chickens are going to come home to roost and you're going to have a problem when you're 45, 50, 60 years old. And you're trying to figure out what the fuck you're going to come home to roost and you're going to have a problem when you're 45, 50, 60 years old and you're trying to figure out what the fuck you're going to do because you haven't done it now. Success is not magic. It is an equation. It is A plus B

equals C. It is no different than one plus two equals three. You guys make it different to talk yourselves out of having to get up and make that sacrifice, get up and work that job you don't want to work, get up and not go on the vacation or not go on the girls night or not go out for the guys night and spend money you don't have on credit cards that are already over maxed. You guys aren't willing to pass up the instant for the delayed. And I'm talking about gratification. And if you truly want success, which I'm guessing that's why you listen to this podcast, you're going to have to understand that delayed gratification always wins. Delayed gratification always, always, always wins. And there's proof of this everywhere. There's proof of this everywhere. Look at anybody who's in great

physical shape. You don't see them out drinking beers every fucking night. You don't see them at happy hours. No, they're at the fucking gym. You don't see them at fucking old country buffet. No, they're at the fucking gym. You don't see them at the local new bar, the new hotspot. Guess what? They're at the fucking gym. And guess what they're doing at the gym? They're working the fucking plan. Same reason all these girls who think they're going to meet some rich dude in the bar. You're being no rich, rich dude at the bar. You're being a bunch of broke motherfuckers at the bar because the rich motherfuckers don't go to the fucking bar. Your system is flawed. All right? Look, losers believe in magic. They never succeed.

They point at invisible forces. They don't take responsibility. They always blame. Winners believe in cause and effect. Winners believe in if I do this, this will happen. Winners understand that they're in control and winners do what they've got to do whether they feel like it or not. At the end of the day, that's all there is. Doing what you need to do whether you feel like it or not. Guys, you have to understand you only have a limited amount of time here. Okay. And that is what people hide behind to pass up on the delayed

gratification things. They tell themselves shit like this. YOLO, you only live once. And then they go fucking party. They party Thursday. They party Friday. They party Saturday. They party fucking Sunday day. They take Monday off. They take Tuesday off. And then they go to happy hour on Wednesday and they're back at it on Thursday.

So you're going to tell me that you're going to work Monday hungover. You're going to work Tuesday thinking about Wednesday's happy hour, but you expect to build something great with your life. No fucking way. That's not how it works. Okay. It's all about the delayed. It's never about the instant. And people are like, well, you know, how do you get to be successful then if you're always putting off success for tomorrow or enjoy the fruits of tomorrow at some point in your life you're going to put delayed gratification it's such a priority and do the things you need to do that all that delayed gratification is going to produce enough fruit now for you to keep living the lifestyle or to live the lifestyle that you

want to lead now but it doesn't happen overnight it doesn't lead now. But it doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't happen in a week. It doesn't happen in a fucking month. It doesn't happen in 12 months like all the Instagram millionaires will tell you. It takes time. You guys have to understand this. It's not magic. It's not hocus pocus.

It's not wishing. It's not praying. It's not any of these other things it's what you do from the time you wake up till the time you go to bed and that's all there is this is for the hustler

this is for the hustler it's not back to the she