REAL AF with Andy Frisella - On the Brink, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO155

Episode Date: June 20, 2017

Think about all the things that people have said to you that bother you. Go back to when you were a little kid. What did they say? Maybe it was that you were: fat. Stupid. A loser. A weirdo. Even though you were little when it happened, the hard truth is that you grow up and remember that sh*t. Here's the deal: People have a tendency to think their struggles or issues are worse than everybody else's. But the reality is that everybody deals with something. What it comes down to is this: When you get pushed to the brink by the negative memories and thoughts, what do you do? You can cave in and give up. Or you can dig deep and press on.

What's up guys you listen to the MF CEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys today we're gonna do something a little different usually on Tuesdays we've got the full crew we've got Vaughn got Tyler we talk about a lot of different shit. Today, it's going to be a Tuesday thunder, all right? We're going to get the week started off with some heat. I want you to think about something. I want you to think about all the things that people have said to you that have bothered you, okay? And I want you to go back to when you were a little bitty kid and you know, it could have been, you were fat. It could have been, you were stupid. It could have been, you know, whatever. We all have these things that, that people picked on us. You know, for me, when I was growing up, I was always fat. All right. I struggled with my weight my whole life.

I've always had people call me a fat. So fat you know this that the other dude even as an adult I struggled my weight and you know I've gotten comments about people saying you know you know how fucking fat I was and this and that and dude I got picked on basically from when I was I mean as long as I can remember you know it started, it started with the people I cared about most. It started with my cousins, you know, we would hang out when we were little and kids would say mean shit to me. And, and, you know, um, they would pick on me because I was fucking chubby, right? I was a chubby little fucker and you know what? Fuck it. I like to eat. That's the, that's, that's the truth. Um,

and when you're little and when you, when you are somebody who is, uh, you know, struggling with something, you know, people say, Oh, that's just what kids say and this and that. But you remember that shit, you know, you remember that shit. And something that I was thinking about this past weekend, which is why I wanted to kind of just take this a different direction today was, you know, people have the ability and the assumption to think that their path or their struggle or their hardships are worse than other people's. We all have this tendency to look at what our biggest issues are and say, well, that person doesn't understand or this person doesn't understand or that person doesn't get it. When in reality, guys, we all have our struggles. We all have our things that get to us, our things that,

you know, bother us, our things that make us feel pain inside and frustrate us and make us angry. And, you know, the world can't always see those things. Sometimes, you know, people have physical handicaps. They're missing an arm. They're missing a leg. They have some sort of disability. And the world gets to see what this person struggles with. And in most cases, the world cannot see what people struggle with. They only see what is on the outside. And so guys, I want you to think about all the things that people have said to you, that people have hurtfully, you know, purposely tried to hurt you to attack you. And it's likely that you have one thing or another thing, maybe one or two things that people have attacked you on your whole entire life.

And I want you to think about, you know, all the things I'm going to share with you, the things that people said to me, you know, I just covered, you know, the fat thing. All right. The other thing is, is, you know, I always wanted to be successful. I always wanted to be an entrepreneur. I always wanted to be wealthy. I always wanted to have success. I don't know where that came from. I guess it just, it's in my blood. It's something I've always wanted. I've talked about this many times, dude, from the time that I was fucking in school, six, seventh, eighth grade, I had people making fun of me for those aspirations. I had people telling me, you'll never be this. You'll never

be that. You'll never do this. You're crazy. And that's real shit. All the way up until I was probably 30 years old when I first became what other people would see as successful from the outside. I had people telling me I was crazy. I had people telling me that I was wasting my time. I had people telling me I needed to get a real fucking job. And, you know, guys, we all get beat up. We all have frustration. We all have things that hurt us internally. Okay? We all have things that beat us down and make us want to quit.

All of us. It's not just you. It's not, you know, exclusive to you. Your shit isn't any worse than anybody else's shit because we all have shit. But what it comes down to, guys, is this. People get pushed to the brink. They get pushed to the edge. And it's what you do when you get to that edge that determines what you're going to be.

And people get pushed and pushed and pushed and they get to the edge and they do one of two things. They either a shut down completely. All right. And they go all the way in the direction of the negative. That means whatever it is that people are telling you, like in my instance, it's a Andy, you're fucking fat motherfucker or Andy, you're never going to be successful. And if I had listened to them, I would continue to become more out of shape, continue to struggle with that even more, use that as the excuse for why I haven't been able to become successful,

or B, when you get to the edge and you get to the brink and you get to the time where you've had enough, you start to take productive action in the direction that you know you need to go. And unfortunately, the massive percentage of people, the larger percentage of people, take option A. They get pushed to the brink. They get pushed to the edge. They get pushed all the way over, and then they just fucking go that way 100%. And that's where people end up, you know, regretting their entire existence, their entire lives, because they listen to what people said.

They lost all belief in themselves. They lost all hope in themselves. So they just say, hey, you know what? Fuck it. I am fat. And you know what? Fuck it. I am not going to be successful. So you know what I'll do? I'll just go be this. And they accept this as their new reality because it's been imposed upon them by people who don't know what the fuck they're talking about. And that's sad. And I've been there. And I know how that feels.

Don't think just because I've made some money and I've built some companies and I've done some shit and I've got this loud fucking, you know, authoritative voice that I don't deal with the same motherfucking shit that you do. Everybody deals with this shit. But we all have a choice. motherfuckers who regret their whole entire life or we're going to be champions and people who set standards and become role models and people who tell people who other people tell fucking stories about comes down to what we do when we're on the brink and when you're on the fucking brink. And when you're on the fucking brink, it's one of two things. It's A, go be a bitch, or B, do the fucking work. And those are your fucking choices. And every single time in my life, and I don't know why, and I can't explain why, when I've gotten to the fucking brink, I've made the right decision. I've pushed myself to do theink, I've made the right decision.

I've pushed myself to do the work. I've done the things that were the hardest things to do, which is why I am where the fuck I am. And if you want to know what it takes to be successful, and if you want to know what it takes to make huge changes, you need to understand that when you get to the same point that I'm talking about, where you've had enough, you're sick and tired of your life, you look at yourself in the mirror and you're fucking disgusted. It's what you do at that point, the fucking matters. So many of you guys give up on all this shit just because you hang out with motherfuckers that can't comprehend what the fuck you're trying to do.

And that's weak. Way more of you guys need to understand that when you get to that point of frustration, of anger, of being pissed off, that is tremendous fucking fuel for you to go out and do the shit that you want to do. Your goal should be to become so fucking successful in whatever it is that you're trying to do and all those insecurities that you have, that all the people who said that shit to you will look the other way when you walk into a fucking room. All your old quote unquote friends, all your old girlfriends who told you you fucking needed to get in shape or you needed to fucking, you know, you were lazy or you'll

never be anything. When you walk into a fucking room, those motherfuckers should look at the fucking floor. That should be your fucking goal. And so many of you guys claim to be these hard motherfuckers who, you know, oh, I'm going to show everybody and this and that. And then you got your friends saying, oh, well, that's not a cool way to be. That's not the best way to be. Fuck that. It's a great way to be. It's the right way to be. You need to take everything that everybody said and shove it down their fucking throats. You know why? Because it feels fucking good. And a lot of people don't talk about that because they think there's something wrong with it.

Oh, you need to do it for this reason or you need to do it for that. What the fuck difference does it make? Is your life better? Yes. Is everybody's around you's life better? Yes. So what difference does it make

what your fucking motivation is? Positivity is extremely overrated when it comes to motivation. I'm a big believer and thankful for all the negativity I've dealt with in my life. All the people who made it hard. All the people who fucking made shit much harder than it had to be. I love those people. I should write them a fucking thank you card. Because if it wasn't for those motherfuckers, I wouldn't be who the fuck I am. And you guys need to stop being pussies and start fucking using all the negative shit

as opposed to whining and crying and thinking that you're the only fucking person on earth that has to deal with this stuff. And you need to take it and you need to use it and go out and do the shit you need to do. Quit asking me about your fucking haters. Quit asking me about your family not believing in you. Quit asking me about this and that

and all this other bullshit that people fucking say to you and take it, ball it up that people fucking say to you. And take it, ball it up, and go fucking use it. Everybody has problems. Everybody has negativity. Everybody has struggles. Everybody has frustration. You're not the only one and your shit is no fucking harder than anybody else's. And any story that you have that tells yourself that is a fucking internal mechanism excuse.

Your shit ain't any harder. You're just choosing not to fucking do it.