REAL AF with Andy Frisella - One Year From Today: Where Will You Be?, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO203

Episode Date: January 4, 2018

I can’t tell you how often I hear people say, “I really mean it this time! This year is going to be different.” But then there's always a reason why it isn't. Listen: Are you in love with the idea of success? Or do you love actual success? The reality is, success takes sacrifice, time, and the willingness to make tough decisions. But it can be done. It’s hard, but not impossible. In this episode I challenge you to have a drastically different year in a very specific way.

What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project, I'm Andy, I am your host, and guess what? I'm the motherfucking CEO. If you're new to this podcast, if this is your first time listening, welcome. This podcast is a success, entrepreneurship, personal development podcast. We are going to talk about money. We are going to talk about building businesses. We are going to talk about the mindset that it takes to be successful at anything you decide to do. This is a success resource, so to speak. And you know what? If you don't like

talking about money, if you don't like talking about success, if you don't like talking about scorching the fucking earth, this probably isn't for you. Here's the deal, guys. Every time I post something online, and if you follow me on Instagram, I posted a little story about this yesterday, and this is not the main point of the podcast, but I do want to address it because you guys deal with this same thing. You all have ambitions. You all have goals. You all want to make a lot of fucking money. You all want to look great. You all want to live an amazing life and make an impact and do awesome shit. And when you try to do those things, you're going to have people, especially people that you know, say things to you like this. Oh, you know what?

You're, you're very materialistic. Oh, you know what? You're very selfish. You know what? You're not the same person you used to be. You know what? You have your priorities out of line. You know what? You're somebody that I used to feel like I know. Okay. And these people are going to say shit to you. They're going to say shit to you about your mission, about your goals, about your ambition, about your path, because they're insecure with the choices that they've made. They're going to tell you things like this. Well, you know what? I, I, and they're going to have their little pinky up like a little fucking douchebag. I happen to enjoy the finer things in life. And those finer things aren't things that cost money. They're the simple things. I enjoy being a good person. I enjoy all

the little things. Well, you know what motherfuckers, you don't have to be poor to enjoy the simple things. You don't have to be poor to enjoy the things that matter in life. You don't have to be poor to be a great person, but people will throw this shit in your face and they'll try to make you feel bad for being on the path that you're on. It will never stop. The more success you have, there will be more people that say this to you. And the reason I'm bringing this to you is because you need to learn how to brush it off. You need to learn how to let it go. And you need to learn how to,

like your teachers told you in school, be a bigger person and understand that those people have their priorities in their life. And if they were truly happy with their life, if they were truly in the position they wanted to be, they wouldn't judge you for being on your path because they would be content. So understand that when people say these things to you, like they do to me, understand that it's their insecurities, their regrets, their dissatisfaction speaking to you. There's nothing wrong with what

you're doing. In fact, you could look at when people criticize you that way as a compliment, because you have to understand that your path is something that they wish they were doing or would have done or could do, and which they can. That's the ironic part about it, but they wish all those things for themselves, and when they see you doing it, it triggers an uncomfortable nature within them. It makes them feel bad about the choices they've made, and what do they do? They lash out at you. So understand that when they do this, guys, it is a 100% positive indication that you are on the right path. Now, are there assholes out there that only care about money? Sure. Are there assholes out there who are just 100% materialistic? Sure. But you know what? I know that's not you because this

podcast represents way more than that. It represents earning money the right way by making an impact, solving a problem, providing tremendous value and impacting people. And if you were the kind of person who was super materialistic or, you know, money is the only thing I care about, you wouldn't listen to me. You go listen to one of these other motherfuckers that sell you a $999 fucking success program and you buy that shit. Okay. So I know that's not you. So when people say that to you, understand, and I bring this up at this time of year for a reason, because this is new year's time. And this is the time that you all are being public and open and aggressive about your goals. And that's great. I am very fucking proud of you for being that way.

You should be that way. But this is also the time you're going to have the most resistance. This is also the time when your aunt from, you know, your great aunt is going to say, you know, Hey Joey, all you care about is money. You need to care about the simple things. And then you're going to go home and you're going to fucking question yourself. And I know because I've done the same thing. And then, you know, you're going to decide, you know what, I'm not going to put myself out there as much. You know what? I'm not going to work. Maybe, maybe she's right. Maybe, maybe I am just setting the bar too high for myself and I'm being greedy. Maybe she's got a point. And the more and more

people that do this, we question ourselves more and more. And then we start to think that our priorities are out of whack. And then we start to think that our priorities are out of whack. And then we start to think that, you know, maybe what we're doing isn't the right thing. And what happens? We don't fucking do it. And then we do that year after year, after year, after year, after year, because other people keep putting us in a position to question ourselves. And you should question yourself, but it should be you questioning yourself, not because of what other people say. And they put us in this position to where it causes an inactivity and it causes us to stop and it causes us to fall off the wagon.

And that's not right. You know, surrounding yourself with the right people, surrounding yourself with the right friends, surrounding yourself with people who are aligned with your mission and your goals is 1000% the right thing to do. Okay. And if you're somebody who enjoys making $25,000 a year and smoking fucking weed every day and drinking a fucking brewski and chilling, eating McDonald's, if that's you, then you should surround yourself with other people that like that shit too. Because here's what's going to happen. You're going to surround yourself with somebody like me or somebody that has goals

and they're going to constantly make you feel like shit for the way you live. So no matter what, and I doubt any of you are the person I just described, but if you are, good. If you're happy with that, good. If that's how you want to live and you're living that way, good. You're fucking doing great. But if you are somebody that has goals, if you are somebody that has ambitions, if you are somebody who wants to do big things, you have to surround yourself with people that are like-minded because if you surround yourself with your old friends and the old people and the people you grew up with and the people who still think the way you don't wanna be, they're gonna constantly attack you and they're gonna constantly make you question yourself.

And I can tell you for a fact, nobody is strong enough to resist the negativity that comes from friends and family. You have to eliminate it. You have to surround yourself with like-minded people. It's a huge deal. Okay? Now, here we are four days in.

And some of you guys who make big goals, I want to lose 50 pounds. I want to, you know, double my income. I want to get that promotion. I want to do all these big things. We're four days in, and you've already dropped the fucking ball. You've already cheated on your diet multiple times. You've already missed workouts multiple times. You've already failed on following up, making those calls, sending those emails.

And you're telling yourself the same old story. You know what? This week is the New Year's week. Okay? Like January 1st was on Monday. So this whole week is like New Year's. Nobody's really doing it. So I'm just going to pick it up on Monday. And that'll be my real day that I start. And you know what? I fucking mean it this time. I see people saying that. I fucking mean it this time. I fucking mean it this time I seen pictures of people's fucking food and people's diet and people's workouts I fucking mean it this time and you know what the kiss of death is when I The kiss of death of anybody's progress is to me

When they say this I mean it this time, you know why I know that? Because I fucking did it too. I did it for a long time. A long time. I was the guy who would tell my wife, hey, let's go eat and have some beers. I'll start tomorrow. You know what?

And I got to get serious. I mean it this time. I got to be serious. I was that guy. I was the guy that did that. That's how I got to be 350 fucking pounds. That's how I got to did that. That's how I got to be 350 fucking pounds. That's how I got to be unhappy. That's how I got to be depressed. That's how I got to be someone who was extremely frustrated with every aspect of my life because I constantly kicked the can

down the road. I constantly talked about, I was going to do it tomorrow. I constantly talked about I was going to do it tomorrow. I constantly talked about this was going to be the time. And I'm serious. Look at me. I mean it this time. You have to help me with this. I'm serious. I would fucking do that nonstop. If I fucked up my diet on a Tuesday, I'd wait until the next fucking Monday to start back up. I'd say, oh, you know what? My whole week is totally fucked now. So I might as well just start back on Monday. And then what I would do is I would fucking pile in the food. All right. I would pile in the food because I knew I had to start next Monday because in my mind I was serious about it. And what did I do? I put on another pound and I did that week after week after week after week. And you put on another pound, another pound, another pound, pretty soon you're a hundred fucking pounds up and two years down the road. And I know some of you guys that are listening with this are nodding your heads right now. You're like, that's me.

I'm the person that does that. I'm the person that always waits till tomorrow, always kicks the can down the road, always tells myself, I mean it this time. Guys, there is always going to be a reason for not doing the things that you need to do. There's always going to be an inconvenience. There's always going to be something that comes up or something that makes the situation not perfect. And I'm not just talking about dieting or fitness. I'm talking about in your family life and your family commitments. I'm talking about your business life and your business commitments. Anything that you try to do is never going to be this perfect path. And you've heard me talk about this over and over and over again when it comes to entrepreneurship, that people who try to devise the perfect plan before they start.

And because of that, they get started. And the minute the thing pops up, whatever it is, we had a bad day of sales, fucking store caught on fire, whatever, whatever. The website went down. Whatever happens, they quit because their perfect plan that they expected to go perfect didn't fucking work. And guys, if you're going to be the person who tosses out your goal every time you fuck up and waits another week to start it, you're never going

to get anywhere. You're never going to lose that weight. You're never going to build that business. You're never going to double that income. You're never going to build that better relationship with your family. You're never going to do that better relationship with your family. You're never going to do the things that you truly want to do. And guys, a lot of times we do this because people talk us out of it. We have people in our lives who will say things like, oh, you know, hey man, it's just a glass of wine. It's no big deal. Hey, look, you got to live, right? You got to live. You got to have that piece of pizza. You got to live. Hey, you know, it's no big deal. You can get started tomorrow. When you surround yourself with people who do that shit to you, you can never

ever make it. And dude, I know it's hard. I know there's people you love that do exactly what I'm just telling you. I know there's people, but I can tell you, you are not strong enough to go and make your goals happen anyway with people in your ear like that. It is a fucking impossible because guess what? Building a business is fucking hard. Losing weight is fucking hard. Building great relationships, guess what? That's fucking hard too. And having people who are constantly in our ears pulling us away from the path that we want to be on is ultimately self-destructive

because we are choosing to stay in that situation. You have to understand, guys, with every great thing in life, there is going to be sacrifice. With every great thing in life, there is going to be work. And with every great thing in life, there is going to be time. You have to understand, you're going to have to make difficult decisions. You're going to have to put in the work and you're going to have to be patient. But if you could combine those three things, that's what makes the fucking success cake. That's what makes great things happen. That's what builds epic lives and builds ultimate realizations of potential.

But you're never going to be able to do it if you keep kicking the shit down the road or if you keep making decisions based on other people's opinion or if you keep letting people discourage you or make you feel bad for having the goals that you fucking have. Make this year the year that you commit to yourself that you're going to make progress. You might not become a millionaire this year. You might not even make a hundred thousand dollars this year, but you know what? You can make tremendous progress towards those goals. You can make tremendous growth happen for you and you could set the table for that to happen down the road. Being successful is no fucking magic. We talk about that all the time. All it takes is some discipline and some hard-nosed dedication, some hard-nosed commitment.

You got to be able to put your fucking earplugs on or you got to be able to cut people out from your life. You've got to be able to stay committed and remember what your goals are. And we talk about this in the PowerList podcast, the one I just did the other day for you guys. We talk about how important it is to break things down and break it into critical tasks. And so I guess what I want to do here is I want to challenge you guys. I want to challenge you guys to follow through on your Power list and, and literally win every fucking day this year, literally win every day. If you can commit to winning every fucking day this year, and you know what? I've never even won a whole fucking year in a row, but I promise you,

if you commit to committing to, to following through to win every fucking day this year, your life will be drastically different this time next year. And I want you to remember that I said this, and I want you to email me and let me know the fucking difference. It's up to you guys. No motivation that anybody provides, no fucking program anybody provides, no fucking, you know, program anybody provides, no fucking success

seminar that you're going to go to is going to get it done for you guys. You're going to have to put in the time, you're going to have to put in the work, and you're going to have to understand that other people can't fucking dictate your decisions. This is a brand new fucking year. And usually I'm pretty, I'm pretty anti new year's resolutions, but I like the fact that everybody goes out and sets goals. I love the fact that everybody thinks big. I love the fact that everybody sets these things that they want to get done. But you know what I don't like? I don't like that they only do it once a year. Be the guy who thinks about your goals every day. Be the guy who executes on your goals every day. Don't be like every motherfucker that you know who's going to tell you a bunch of bullshit this year and be the

same motherfucker 12 months from now that they are today. That's not what you want. That's not what you want that's not what you really want well maybe it is because I always tell you guys loving success and the idea of success is two different fucking things and you've got to decide which one you like it's real easy to look at someone who is for lack of better terms has their shit together who's in good shape who's making for lack of better terms, has their shit together, who's in good shape, who's making a lot of money, who has a great family relationship, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, who has all the things that you want. It's easy to look at them and say, you know what? I really want that. Yeah. Everybody fucking wants it. That's, that should be fucking obvious to you. Everybody wants it. Those people like the idea of success. Then there's the people who like success. Those people look at the same people,

the same people I just described who have their shit together. They got great career, make a lot of fucking money, great family. They're in good shape. And they look and they say, damn, dude, I fucking want that. I want that. And you know what they do? They don't just stare at it like it's some kind of fucking anomaly. They say, yeah, dude, I can fucking do that. I can fucking clean up my diet. I could get in the gym. I can start working on my business. I could up my game so I could pick up the kind of partner I want to pick up. I can do all those things. You know what?

That guy's no fucking different than me. And you know what they do? They make a fucking plan. And then they go do it. And you know what happens when they go on the plan? Because the first group I described, when we talk about the work and the plan, they don't like the fucking work and the plan.

They want it to be easy. They want to be able to snap their fucking fingers and be in that guy's shoes. Not understanding that guy probably worked his whole it to be easy. They want to be able to snap their fucking fingers and be in that guy's shoes. Not understanding that guy probably worked his whole life to be there. But the second group, they understand the work it's going to take. And you know what? They might not like the work that they have to do. They might not like the path they have to get on. They might not think about, uh, you know, how, how awesome it's going to be to fucking jump in the fucking mud and do all the fucking heavy lifting that this motherfucker had to do. But you know what they do? They fucking do it because they know the end result is going to be worth it. They understand that the work they put in is going to build the result they want. And they don't care what the fuck they have to go through. They don't care how hard it's going to be or how long it takes. They commit to doing it.

So if you fit into the first group, if you're the person who likes to look at what everybody else has and want that, but not want to do what it takes to get that, you know, stop saying you want it and be happy with where you are because you don't really want it. Cause if you really fucking wanted it, you would want to do the work that it took to get there. And you would actually fall in love with the work that it takes to produce that result because you would fall in love because you know what result it's producing. If you know something that you're doing is going to, like if you know something that you did was going to produce a million dollars

fucking in a week from now and it was shoveling fucking cow shit, get it all over your face and everything, I bet you fucking fall in love with it because you know that that million dollars has come at the end of the fucking week. You see, successful people, they love the battle. They love getting dirty. They

love doing the work because they know what the result's going to be. And that's the difference. That's the difference between the 99.9% and the rest of everybody else. The 0.01%. 0.1%. I don't know. I'm fucking bad at math unless it's money, but either way, you know what the fuck I meant. Then here, let's say it like this, the 99% and the 1%. That sounded fucking epic, right? All right. So guys do me a favor. Take my fucking challenge. Update me on Instagram. Tag me in your photo. Show me how many days you fucking won in a row. I want to see you guys win. I want to see you guys succeed.

But go back and listen to this podcast. Go back and listen to what we talk about when we talk about what it's going to take and the difficult decisions. Because that's not for everybody. It's not everybody's thing to go out and fucking have to cut some people out that they love and care about because they're driven and they want to succeed. That might not be for you. And if it's not for you, that's okay. Because if you're happy where you are, be happy with where you are and stop saying you want this other shit because

you think it's what you want. That's what makes you upset. That's what makes you miserable because you set your goals, which aren't really your goals because you're not doing the fucking work. And then that drives you crazy and makes you feel bad about yourself. Don't feel bad about where you are. If you're happy where you are, just be where you are. But for the rest of you guys, you have to understand that it's going to take some tough decisions. It's going to take some hard conversations. It's going to take a lot of fucking work. It's going to take some tough decisions. It's going to take some hard conversations. It's going to take a lot of fucking work. It's going to take a lot of fucking time. And it's going to take a lot of work and a lot of time when you don't feel like doing

the fucking work or putting in the time. But guys, I'm going to tell you right now, I wouldn't have it any other way. And I bet if you ask any other very successful person on earth, they wouldn't have it any other way either. It's either for you or it's not. And it's okay either way, but I'm for you guys. And I'm a resource for you guys. And I'm going to talk about money. I'm going to talk about success. I'm going to talk about kicking ass for all you motherfuckers that want to win and want to win big. If you don't want to win big and you don't want to win, you can listen along, but realize

that when you come at me with your poor mouth shit about all you care about this is that and this and this and this, I'm probably going to fucking embarrass you on the internet. I'm trying to win. I'm trying to help you win. So let's go out and fucking win together. Raffa-Dole!