REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Stop Counting Other People's Money, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO229

Episode Date: April 10, 2018

Too many people are overly invested in the lives of others. They wonder how much money other people make. They compare their lives and success to what they see posted on Facebook and Instagram. Not only is this unfair to you, it will also destroy your ability to make something valuable out of your own life.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Today is Tuesday. That is the day after Monday. If this is your first time listening, welcome. Our fee that we charge, and we are extremely, extremely, extremely adamant about this charge that we charge is this. We ask for no money. All we ask for is that you tell a like-minded friend about this podcast if you felt it brought you value. If you didn't feel it brought you value, then tell me to fucking eat shit. I'm cool with that. I'm all about delivering content that helps you. But if you did

find value, and I know you're going to because I'm good at what I fucking do. I asked that you tell one of your friends and I don't mean just tag them in my post. I mean, talk to them about the podcast because this is a movement. This is something I do for free. It's something I do because I'm passionate about sharing with you the lessons that I've learned over the last 19 years in business where we started out with literally nothing. And now this year, we're going to do over $200 million. Okay. And the next year we're going to do more than that. And the next year we're going to do more than that. But the point is this, for the last 20 fucking years, your parents, your teachers,

and everybody that's been bringing you up and telling you the wrong shit. They've been telling you things like everybody wins and everybody's special and everybody deserves. And no matter what comes after deserve, it's wrong because we don't deserve fucking anything my goal here is to tell people and teach people and show people what it actually takes to win all right that's also why i have a line of children's books if you haven't gotten the children's books you can find them on amazon or you can find them on my website, andyfersella.com. These books are not just regular children's books. They are books that are designed to give parents a tool to help them teach their kids how to win early. It's to teach kids the lessons that they're going to need to know from a core value standpoint in order to succeed in life.

This doesn't mean just make a lot of money. It means become whatever it is they want to become. Because we all know what parents and teachers tell us when we're little, right? They tell us we can be anything we want. You can be anything you want as long as you put your heart into it or some other shit like that, which is great. They tell us that, but what they don't tell us is the actual things that we need to know to do that. And then what's even worse is once we get to a certain age, they stop telling us that we could be anything we want. And they start telling us that you need to be realistic and you need to get your head on straight and you're too much of a dreamer. And you know what? That's probably not a good idea because not many people are successful at that.

And they guide us into being mediocre. Unintentionally, by the way, that doesn't mean they're bad people. They're great people. They have good intentions. They're just repeating what they've been told. So my mission with this podcast and my books is to help reverse the failed parenting strategies, the failed cultural strategies, and the failed success strategies that have been basically taught to every single one of you your

whole fucking lives. Today, I'm going to talk about one of those two, and that is this. You need to stop worrying about what everybody else does. So many of you motherfuckers make zero progress because you're too fucking busy counting other people's money. You look at your neighbor's car, you look at your neighbor's house, your friends from high school, you've tried to find out how much money they make and you try to find out what kind of job they've got going on and this and that and the other. And you're always concerned with what everybody else is doing. You're what I like to call counting other people's money. And guess what happens to people that fucking count other people's money? They fucking lose. All right.

There's tons and tons and tons of situations out there that I can point to from life experience about this. And you have to understand that when you're counting, and I'm going to give you four real reasons why you shouldn't count other people's money. First of all, you have to realize that you only see what other people want you to see. You don't see their debt. You don't see the shit that they pay for their car or their house.

You don't see what their credit card statement looks like. All you see is the brand new fucking house and the brand new fucking car. And you believe that the salary that they tell you they make when they're bragging to you at dinner on Friday night about how fucking awesome they are is the truth. When in reality, they're probably lying. Okay, they're probably exaggerating how much they make. They probably have leveraged themselves to the hill

to drive that new Mercedes and to live in that new house. Okay. And they're probably fucking barely treading water, but you look at them and you see how is John and Susie so much more successful than we are. They're not motherfucker, but you're counting their money. You're counting their money and it's making you feel bad about yourself. It's making you feel like you're not as good and you're not as successful. All right. It's just a bad thing to do. And let's move on to the second point. The second point of this is that let's say they're not lying. Let's say they are telling the truth. Let's say John and Susie do have a nice fucking house and they can afford it and do have a nice fucking car and they can afford it. Let's say they have five

fucking cars. Here's the thing you don't understand. You don't see what they give up. You don't see what they're doing while you're watching fucking Walking Dead and playing fucking PlayStation. You don't see what they're doing at night and weekend when you're enjoying your off time. You don't know what they've given up and you don't know what they've had to do to get where they're going. All you take is the surface level evaluation of their inventory and compare it to yourself. And because you think that you work harder than everybody else, you're going to look at them negatively. So not only does it make you feel bad about yourself, it makes you resent them when in reality they're out there doing more

than you. Quit counting other people's money. Another thing, and both point one and two of how this affects you negatively is this. Comparing yourself to other people, guess what? It makes you unhappy because A, you're seeing only what they want you to see and most people want to show off. And B, you don't see the hard shit that they put in. So you're assuming that they don't have to work very fucking hard and all of a sudden they're doing better than you. What's that make you feel about yourself?

Makes you feel like you're a fucking loser. You're looking at their life as in social media makes this way worse. By the way, you're looking at their life. Like it's a fucking highlight reel because that's what they want to show. And that's what they want to tell you. And that's what they want you to think. Everybody wants you to think they're fucking winning. Nobody goes out to dinner and says, man, you know what? I've really overextended myself. I fucking have this nice house and this nice car, but I've only got a hundred bucks left at the end of fucking pay period to live for the next two weeks. Nobody says that shit. What do they do? They pretend like they got their shit going on. They pretend like they fucking making all this money because their egos are fucking

fragile. They're insecure and they have to make other people feel like they're doing better than they actually are. Now, by the way, there's a huge difference between this person and the person who can actually afford it. And when you compare yourself to the person you can actually afford it, guess what? You still feel like shit because you're not fucking getting it done. So stop comparing yourselves to others because it's going to make you unhappy. And the fourth and final point of why you should never, ever, ever count somebody else's money is this. The more focused you are on what somebody else is doing, the less you can fucking do. You look at somebody who's driving a nice car, who lives in a nice house, who's doing this, who's going on the trips that you want to

go on. And what do you think? You sit there and stew about how the fuck they can afford it, about how the fuck they can live this life that you want and you can't. And what happens? They continue to live the life that you want and you sit there and what happens? They continue to live the life that you want and you sit there and get mad about it and what doesn't happen? You're not taking the steps that need to happen for you to live the life that you want because you're so enamored by somebody else's life that you can't even take fucking action. That's what happens when you count other people's money. It's a terrible habit. It infects society. And by the way, you don't have to just count their other money. You can do this by counting how good their relationship is. Okay. Counting how good their family life is.

You could take inventory of other people's lives and it could still fuck you up. It doesn't just have to be money. Money just happens to be the most common way people do this. They look at people's fake lives. They look at people's fake images. They look at people's real lives, people's real images, and they feel poorly about themselves. And they get so fucking wound up about what everybody else is doing or perceived to be doing that they do nothing. They don't do the things that are necessary for them to build their life. They don't take the career seriously. They don't put in the personal development. They don't do the extra work. They don't educate themselves. They don't do the things that will progress them into the existence that

they're so angry about that someone else has. And what do they do? They get angrier and angrier and angrier and end up bitter as fuck, broke as fuck, mad as fuck with nothing to show for their entire fucking lives. That's what counting other people's money is going to get you. So fucking stop. you