REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Key To Ultimate Happiness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO313

Episode Date: August 28, 2019

What is the key to ultimate happiness? Ask most people in the culture today & they'll say "the freedom to do whatever you want" & to indulge yourself any way you want...to live a life of leisure, comfort, ease, whatever. The reality is, that is absolutely, 100 percent dead wrong. In fact, the answer is pretty much the exact opposite of that. In this episode, I talk about the key to ultimate happiness & why it's ---not coincidentally--the key principle of my program, 75Hard.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome. This is a personal development, success, kick-ass in all areas of life podcast. We don't charge anything for this, okay? We've been the number one podcast in the business category consistently for a long, long time. Thanks to our awesome listeners. By the way, that's you.

And we do this out of service. This is an obligation project. This is something that a long time ago, my man, the pastor of disaster, who's sitting right in front of me, and I decided that it was something that we needed to do. For a long, long time, I didn't realize how much misinformation was out there until I actually got in the personal development space and saw the amount of bullshit that was being spewed by people who quite honestly don't know anything about what they are talking about. So what we cover here, guys, is basically everything that has to do with you being better. And today is no different. But like I said, we don't ask for money. I don't sell ads.

I can make seven figures a year selling ads on this motherfucker, but I don't because that's not why I started. I didn't start it to make money. I started it to provide value. And with that being said, I ask, and this is our little thing that we have. If you get value out of the podcast, which I'm pretty sure you will, that you share it. That's all. Friday night, you go out with your friends. Saturday, hanging out. The topic of wanting to do better, wanting to be better comes up, whatever. Dude, just shoot him a little reference for the MFCEO project. Now, with that being said, I just mentioned my man, the pastor of disaster. He is here

sitting right in front of me in the fucking flesh. What's up, dude? A lot of stuff is up. We just got back from the Arte Syndicate Summit, and there's a lot going on. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, and I know that, you know, we didn't talk about this before when we were chatting about this episode, but there's been a lot going on in your life too, man.

I don't know that everybody knows just the horrific stuff you've been through in the last couple weeks. No, but I noticed yesterday in my snaps that my beard has gotten twice as fucking gray in the last two weeks. I hadn't noticed that, but I'm in no position of judgment.

In two weeks, dude, it went gray. Yeah, yeah. Man. You should yeah. Man. You should tell the story. You know, it's not the right time, man. You know what I'm saying? Still a little raw. We had

an incident in my family. It looks like everything's going to turn out okay uh but it was just really really really bad yeah um so and i'll talk about it when the time's right but it's definitely been something that uh it's been hard yeah you know what i'm saying um we back in church we had those things that had those things that when you needed prayer but you didn't necessarily want to share the details, you just said, I have an unspoken prayer request. Yeah, that's pretty much it.

That's it. And, you know, the truth is, brother, you know me as good as anybody. And you know that I'm a spiritual dude. You know, a lot of people don't realize that. I think they think I'm just some loud mouth dude who fucking loves money and shit. And I am those things. But the one thing I'm very in tune with is spirituality. And I'm a huge believer in God.

There's no way I could be where I'm at without him. And I know some people hear that and they think, oh, well, I don't believe in that. Blah, blah, blah. It really doesn't matter if you believe in it or not. It's like gravity. You know what I'm saying? Like you could fucking say, I don't believe in gravity, but you jump off the fucking building. You're going to feel it. You know?

So, um, so I don't try to push it on people. I guess that's kind of where I come from. You know, I have my own beliefs. I respect other people's beliefs. And I think it's important for people to discover those beliefs without it being shoved down their throat. You know what I'm saying? Absolutely. Like, I feel like a lot of religion just shoves it down your throat.

And that's what causes people to really question it later because they're like, hey, why didn't I? Where are my beliefs? I wasn't, you know, like, they, where are my beliefs? They didn't come to the conclusion on their own. And I guess that's something I've had the good fortune to be able to do because I've just had so many things that cannot be explained. You know what I think is the absolute best principle for sharing your faith with anybody? Make a friend, make a sale.

Yeah. Right. Like, let them know you first. Like, yeah. Like, I really, I literally think that that's the best way is that become friends with somebody, respect them, provide value for them. And then when the conversation comes up, you say, hey, would you mind if I shared some of my thoughts?

Yeah. Sure. And that's how I like, you know, that's how I mind if I shared some of my thoughts? Yeah. Sure. And that's how I like, you know, that's how I think most people respond to that. You know what I mean? Because most people I feel like believe in something. They're just not sure what they believe in. But getting back to the unspoken friends that I know are very close with God and with their beliefs. And, dude, I asked them to pray.

And for the first time in my life, I led prayers in front of people. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. In front of 700 people. You know, I heard about that. Yeah. Dude, you know i heard about that yeah and then dude you know what the day after the second time i did it um the person i was praying for woke up from their coma that's awesome you know what i'm

saying so it's and that's like six days ahead of when they were supposed to that's awesome so it's just there's just it's been a lot to digest yeah i've been doing a lot of thinking man you know what i'm saying and uh um if people are watching me right now and they're like, why the fuck did Andy's beard turn gray? I'm hoping it goes back. No, man. Sean Connery.

Yeah, I'm just not ready for that. Yeah. No, I'm not ready for that old man life. Yeah. That silver fox life, you know? Although I will say of all the age, what is that, the age app yeah the literally the only person that i thought looked good was you yeah dude yeah it was weird i thought

you looked really good like i was like man he looks really awesome he looks like a shot hope you don't say you look like uh most interesting man in the world i mean kind of that kind of guy for that first 30 years like a dumbass so i felt know, I got some hope for being a being a silver fox. But, you know, like, you know, there's always more to what's going on than people realize. And people don't realize that in social. And, you know, when you say when you say. I mean, if I fucking explain what's gone on in the last two weeks, not just with that situation, but with the other ones that have happened with it, people think I'm lying. You know, like they would think I was making it up.

It's been a it's been a test. Yeah, there's no question. Yeah. So sure. But everything seems to be going the right direction again. And we're getting the momentum on the good side again. And, you know, I told Ed, I was talking to Ed. I'm like, look, man, you know, I haven't had a bad streak in fucking years.

Yeah. You know what I mean? So the reality is, and this has nothing to do with business, by the way. Like people are probably thinking, oh, he's talking about his company. No, it has absolutely nothing to do with business. Business is fucking crushing. Right. Way more personal and family stuff.

It does seem like there's been just a handful of crazy stuff. Bro. Yeah. You don't even know it all. No, I don't know it all. My ex-fucking lifting partner, who I lifted with for five years, was murdered on Wednesday.

Gosh. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's just another thing on top of all this shit. Yeah. He was shot backing out of a driveway. Like, and nobody even knows why. Around St. Louis?

Yeah, in Cahokia. And like, dude, I'm just, it's just like, what the fuck is going on? Right. Crazy stuff. But I told Ed, and this dude was a good dude too, man. You know what I'm saying? Like, he was a good friend of mine. And just, it's just been one of those, one of those periods.

And, uh, you know, sometimes all you can do is throw your hands up and say, what the fuck? You know, like, and that's kind of where I've been and I've been careful not to get too down on any of this shit because the truth is is i have i haven't had a bad streak in a long time and uh you know sometimes you're just due yeah and sometimes bad shit just happens and sometimes literally there's no there's no success formula correct there's no like literally you just have to endure yeah and that's you just have to endure and and and that's that's what this is and i'm aware of that which i mean mean, this sounds like a really cheesy transition, but how much do you think 75 Hard helped you with that?

A trillion percent. Yeah. Dude, a trillion percent. I don't know if that's actual percent. No, it is. But, I mean, you know, sometimes we make the mistake of, we have such a tight core of loyal listeners that are here every time.

I think sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that everybody knows what we're talking about. Yeah. So like in cliff notes, what would you say 75 Hard is? Dude, 75 Hard is the ultimate mental toughness program I think that's ever been developed, especially to my knowledge. I couldn't even begin to tell you the benefits that it's done for me. I mean, it did everything. So, dude, people don't understand. They think I just made this shit up out of one.

You know, oh, I just made it up. Like, that's not really how it went. Right. You know, 75 hard is a culmination of 20 plus years of trying to figure this out. What, what makes people tougher than other people? What makes people more resilient? What makes people have more grit? How do they have more mental toughness? How do you actually develop it? Um, how do you develop confidence? How do you develop self-esteem? Because if you listen to the real world, man,

you know, all these knuckleheads out there are just telling people they should have those things. That's like saying, hey, you should just be a fucking billionaire. You know what I'm saying? Right, right, right. Like it doesn't, yeah, okay, that's cool, but now what, you know? The course on being happy.

Point number one, choose to be happy. Oh, well, thanks. Yeah, right. Like, thanks. Yes. Really appreciate that. So that's and really dude i'm glad you brought that up because really what 75 hard is is a program that teaches

you what makes you happy okay and how to be happy and so it's kind of like a disguise program right like a lot of people think it's like a body transformation a lot of people think it's like a body transformation. A lot of people think it's just mental toughness, which it is. It is designed to be mental toughness. But really what it is, is it's a happiness program. It's a program that teaches you how to be happy with yourself, how to be comfortable with yourself. You can't be happy with yourself unless you're living to the standard that you know you can live to, meaning that discipline is in direct

proportion to your happiness. And what that means is, is when your discipline is exercised at the highest amount, you're also going to be happy. Now that's counterproductive because most people think of happy as easy. It's a synonymous thing, right? When you say, Hey, I want to be happy. Most people think of like that time where they were sitting on the beach with a fucking Corona, right. Or whatever, like, you know, relaxing with a lemonade on the front porch. I'm happy. Well, yes, that's a moment that you're happy. But what we're talking about is how to be happy the majority of the time, you know? And I think people misjudge their, their happiness because they still have down times.

So meaning like you have a bad day and so you go home and you're like, oh my God, this isn't making me happy. No, motherfucker, you had a bad day. Like happiness is rated on an individual event scale. Meaning when I go home and see my Charlie bear and she's shaking and she tinkles a little bit because she's so happy to see me, my happiness is a level 10. Right. You can't get any happier. Right. Right. So the goal shouldn't be to look at your, the scope of your life over a hundred years or 50 years or 30 years and say, I'm not happy. It

should be understanding what happiness really is, which is what happiness really is, is the culmination of a lot of high moments, right? So you should be trying to maximize those moments as many times as you can throughout a day, knowing that you're not always going to have a level 10, like it's impossible. And if you did always have a level 10, how would you appreciate happiness at all? Because it would just become the norm. You see what I'm saying? So a lot of people have misjudged their idea of what truly makes them happy because they're

listening to these fucking dumb fucks out there on the internet or on Good Morning America or wherever these people are. And by the way, might not be Good Morning America. It's generalization. I don't watch that show. Right. I'm just talking shit but my point is is everywhere we turn we have these um we have these people saying like pretending that they live these fucking spiritual high level happy lives and blah blah blah blah

and it's just fucking bullshit man it's just. Really what makes you happy is you being present in the present moment and understanding that this, like when I go home and see my dog, that's a level 10, right? When I do this other thing, when I train weight with weights, I'm happy. Okay. So the goal is to produce as many of those events throughout the course of the day, knowing that you're still going to have to deal with shit that is uncomfortable. Absolutely. Right? And so what it really equates to, if you really break it down,

is that the level of exercise, the level of discipline that you exercise is in direct proportion to your happiness. Okay? So if you have, if your discipline goes down, your happiness is going to go down. So if your discipline goes up, your happiness is going to go down. So if your discipline goes up, your happiness is going to go up. A lot of people never recognize this because they literally have never, ever exercised any discipline at all. Right.

Right. And so their idea of discipline is more like, oh, this is going to hurt. This is going to suck. I don't want to do this. I'd rather lay on the TV couch and watch tv which makes you unhappy you just don't realize it so easiness is unhappiness difficulty will equal happiness but you got to be willing to go through it first yeah you know and that's something i think that's something i never put together until i went through the program you know what I mean yeah and

like dude people will pay fucking millions of dollars for the secret to happiness but but they don't want to know the answer because the answer is you're gonna have to do shit you don't like right you're gonna have to do shit that whenever you get done with you're gonna be able to look in the mirror and be like dude I'm proud of you motherfucker yep you know I'm saying yeah and that's the key so what came to my mind was, you know, we touched on spirituality earlier. People choose a particular faith because ultimately they think it will make them what? You just said it. Right, happier.

Happy, right? Right, yeah. So what most people I don't think realize is that the three metaphors or the three word pictures that are used most frequently in the new testament um to to kind of communicate what the life of faith is all about are three things athlete soldier and farmer what do all three of those things have in common you've got to fucking do hard work to be you gotta do. You've got to do hard work to succeed. You've got to have discipline. That's right.

You've got to have determination. You've got to never give up. And, you know, when it comes to an athlete, I mean, you're going to have to put yourself through grueling practice in order to win. Yeah. As a farmer, you're going to have to go day in and day out. Hardest life there is.

Hardest life there is. In there is you're gonna in order to reap the harvest yeah there's no way you can do it without that and then like obviously with the soldier something we've said on this podcast all the time life is not a playground it's a battle ground right and and and to be happy you have to fight for happiness that's right and in order to do that you got it like you said you got to be mentally tough you got to be disciplined bro and the whole fucking world thinks that there's like if you say that like if we just fucking got on good morning america and said what we just said 80 of the motherfuckers watching will argue with it yeah and but you know what 80 100 of those 80 are

miserable as fuck yeah and they're trying to deny the truth right they're trying to say well that's not what makes me happy well that's not what blah blah look motherfucker we're all wired pretty much the same yeah 99 the same yeah you can think you're this way or that way however you want to think the truth is is we respond pretty much the same way to most things and i'm going to tell you if you go out and accomplish some shit that you didn't think you could do or that you maybe thought you could do but weren't sure and you accomplish it your happiness is going to go up right and the more you can do that the more happiness you're going to have absolutely that's the truth absolutely you know and that's why people who are in middle class right now because because we have a situation

right now where there's really not a lot of hope, right? This is why entrepreneurship is becoming such a real thing because there's very few companies out there that are looking to actually build brands anymore to provide lucrative careers for people. So what you have is a bunch of individual people selling a bunch of shit and people are coming out of college with this promise of, you know, oh, we're going to go out and do this or that, or I'm going to have this job and it's going to, dude, people are getting out of college with $150,000 of fucking student loan debt, getting a $50,000 a year job. They can't even pay the motherfucking note on.

Right. Dude, how can you get excited about that? You can't. Yeah. It's hopeless. It's hopeless. That's why you have politicians taking advantage of it saying, hey, let's just pay off everybody's student loan. And dude, and you can't do it.

It's mathematically impossible. So the point is, is that, you know, when you don't have hope and you don't have belief and you don't have anything to go for, you'd be fucking miserable. And I truly believe that the mental health crisis that's going on in America right now is a result of the lack of hope and the lack of careers and the lack of problems to be solved for those middle-class people. You know what I mean? Absolutely. So, I mean, I believe that the real gold in this podcast very often is making subtle distinctions. And since you, I mean, we're just kind of rolling with this topic, so I'm going to take it a step further. So you posted, I don't know if it was yesterday. My brain has just been fried lately. But you posted like a before and after. And you basically said, on the left-hand side, it was a guy that was kind of out of shape. But you said that it was you.

And you said, you know, this guy had, you know, fake confidence, doubt, et cetera, et cetera. And then you had the after, which was you in shape. But it wasn't just you in shape. It was you post-75 hard. Right. And what I thought was really interesting, because, you know, we've talked about these things for the last three years. I mean, you've had plenty of reasons over the last, you know, 15 years to be confident and to not doubt yourself. Um, you've had, you've racked up accomplishments, but the way that I interpreted that, that post was, you were saying that there's

a, there's a reality and there's a substance to your confidence now that in some ways you haven't had before. So kind of old Andy versus new Andy. So talk to me about that because I think that distinction, I mean, let's put it this way, without going into detail, we've met a lot of people over the last three years who from the world's perspective are incredibly successful people and yet there is a very very very common theme which is deep down they're insecure yeah they feel like a fraud or they or they're or they're they lack confidence so tell me about why that is because they've never truly proven to themselves what they're capable of yeah that's the truth so yeah so tell me so talk about that old you versus new you you know fuck man i mean dude really what it comes down to is is are you judging yourself based upon

society's social construct or are you judging yourself based upon what you know to be true about yourself? Okay. So in 2016, I was 300 plus pounds. Everybody, most people know that. I was actually, at my high, I was like 350. When I started on, when I started getting serious about fitness again, I was 330. I think I lost like 20 pounds. Dude, by all society construct,

I was a fucking successful dude, right? I had all the shit. I was making tons of money. I got these companies. I got this podcast. I'm doing all this crazy shit, right? Going around the world, speaking to everybody. Even as a fat motherfucker, I was that so by all means i mean what what are you gonna say right you know i'm saying like who

cares if you have a little extra pounds exactly yeah yeah i got everything else right but the truth was is that i wasn't happy i wasn't fulfilled i wasn't disciplined i wasn't operating at my highest level i was getting by i was bullshitting i was bullshitting myself you know what i mean and um i mean it's laughable now tyler and i watched a video from when i spoke like in 2015 when i was like seriously fucking overweight and i'm sitting there talking about getting shit done and blah blah and it's like dude you're fucking like, you're ridiculous. You know what I mean?

And it made me sick to even see that shit. Oh yeah. Tyler said I projected a lot of my anger. Yeah. I mean, I guess so. Yeah, of course, dude. I mean, dude, it's not fun to be fat. I don't give a fuck what anybody says.

They could talk about the fucking body positivity shit all they want. It bullshit it just is because i know what it's like and no matter how much you tell yourself you're beautiful no matter how much you tell yourself you love yourself no matter how much you tell yourself this that the other it's a lie it's a fucking lie and i'm not some skinny dude who's never struggled with his weights and they're telling you this you know when you got to wear the same outfit for a year straight because none of your other clothes fit you don't feel good when you don't when you when you go to fucking nordstrom's or macy's wherever you buy clothes at and nothing fits you don't feel good when you got to go to a swimming pool and you fucking don't want to get in the pool or you don't even go because there is a pool you don't feel good that's reality nobody fucking feels good when

they're like that. It's reality. And not only that, you're not healthy. You're not setting the right example. You're not doing what you need to be doing. You're not being an example for your family, your friends. And dude, you're living way below your potential. And you know what? If that's for you, good.

But this probably isn't the fucking show for you to listen to. You know what I'm saying? Like, if you could be happy that way, good. you're full of shit but go do it i'll stay out of your business you stay out of mine but the truth is for me i wasn't willing to accept that you know we're here for a short time i got a lot of shit i want to do and i knew i had to change and, when I came up with the 75 heart concept, you know, where really I went from being, you know, I, I, you know, I went from losing most of the weight to going from just like a guy who lost a bunch of weight into back, back into a real athlete. Um, those are all the principles that I learned that have built the things that I've had in the past. You know what I mean? And,

uh, I just really got back to combining them all together because those are all little habits that I did along the way that I had never really combined into a program. And so we came up with the 75 hard concept and dude, it's been crazy. Like I have guys who have done iron mans and fucking all kinds of shit and they're like dude there ain't nothing like this and you know that's that's cool so tell me again like what you mean by old me and new me because like i said from the outside perspective notwithstanding the weight people said andy's successful so other than just dropping weight, how are you different now? Well, I think I got there.

I got to where I was at that point on just pure one to win. You know what I'm saying? And I would say skill and talent, but it's not that. It's just I just grinded it out because that's what I wanted. And I left everything else where it was. I didn't care about anything else it was one-dimensional uh so I think the biggest thing the difference is is you know I've learned how to master master myself now by cultivating the mental toughness that that I that I currently have you know right now I'm in a different zone than I was three, four, ten years ago.

And a lot of it has to do with what I did over the last, you know, four or five months. You know, the biggest thing that I think that, like I talked about the social construct, I think the biggest thing that for me was learning that my success has nothing to do with anybody else. When you can realize that and stop comparing yourself and start comparing you to you, not just like in a meme way, like where people say, oh, it's you versus you. Most people don't know what the fuck that means.

You know what I mean? I mean in a real way. Like you're saying, all right, a year ago I was this person. Now I'm this person. And a year from now I'm going to be this person. Success is going to take care of itself, right? So if you master, if you master yourself, you're gonna be able to master anything. Think about the decisions that we make. The only reason that we don't, the only reason that anybody here that's listening right now isn't where they want to be is because they talked themselves out

of it at some point along the way. It got hard. It got difficult. It got too stressful. It got to a point where they weren't happy doing this at this time. And what did they do? They quit. All right. And that's why, you know, we talk ourselves out of it. So you have to realize it's not about doing better than other people. It's about the pursuit of the fulfillment of your own true potential is what I've been talking about for the whole time we've been doing this podcast, you know, it's learning how to master yourself so you could become better today than you were yesterday, than you were six months ago, than you were five years ago. Right.

And when you, when you commit to that pursuit, now you're in a position where you create the most happiness because you understand that fulfillment of potential is a sliding scale. So there's always more to achieve. There's always more to gain. There's always more hard shit to do and problems to be solved. And if you look at your happiness and tie it to those things, you have unlimited happiness, right? Yeah. So yeah, go ahead. I mean, that's, that's what, you know, I think a lot of people have discovered through this program is that, dude, that's, what's going to create the confidence. That's what's going to create the grit. That's what's going to create

the belief in themselves and, uh, eliminate the doubts that they might have about themselves. I think people are very much getting into tune with this uh i know people that have completed this program i mean you've seen what people say i mean everybody's saying the same shit does exactly what i tell people it's gonna do right um and the interesting thing is is that the minute they stop they start to regress right you know what i what I mean? Right. Let's talk about that because, dude, I've noticed that not only have you gone on a higher level, but I've also noticed that when you do have off days, your rebounding is a lot quicker.

And you just don't go into funks like you have in the past. Right. Where I disappear for a week. Yeah, right. Exactly. And I'm just going to. Yeah, right. Right. Exactly. And I mean, I'm just going to keep it real here. Yeah.

After, you know, after doing pretty well, my last three, three or four weeks, I've just sucked. Yeah. Absolutely sucked. Right. And I think the hardest thing for me, and I think other people have liked that or like this, you have that, you have that success and then you're like, well, why did I stop hitting it, hitting the weights? Why did I start eating like crap?

Why did I start eating a bunch of Skittles? And here's where it's insidious, and you've got to speak to this because I know I'm not the only one. After having success and returning to that crap, you're like, oh, I must not be legit. I must be a fraud. Here's the dark secret of 75 hard that I don't talk about. Um, if you don't fucking follow through to make you worse. Yeah.

That's the problem. Yeah. Okay. So if you're going to commit, you got to fucking do it. Yeah. If you fucking quit, you're going to be worse.

You'd be worse than you were the day you started. Because you'll say I was up on that level. Why did I return to where I am? Yep. Yeah. And that's, that's, that's the dark secret of 75 hard. So if you started. Because you'll say, I was up on that level. Why did I return to where I am? Yep. Yeah. And that's the dark secret of 75 hard. So if you're going to fucking do it, do it. If you're not going to do it,

let it go in one ear and out the other. So what would you say to people who have, who obviously don't want to spend the rest of their lives wallowing in... They better fucking finish the program. Finish the program. Yeah, like, dude, it's what it is. So what's happened here psychologically is their lives wallowing and they better fucking finish the program. Finish the program. Yeah. Like, dude, it's what it is.

So what's happened here psychologically is you tested yourself, you failed the test, you're beating yourself up. Yeah. And now you think you're not good enough. Yeah. And that's just not true. Right. So you just got to find some way.

You got to grind it out. Grind it out. And dude, at the end of that 75 days, you're going to raise your hands like you were fucking Rocky on the top of the steps, dude. And you're going to say, damn, dude. Yeah yeah that was the best thing i ever did yeah so yeah it makes sense it's it's a big risk to take and do that challenge because a lot a lot of people you know i don't even like calling it a challenge it's a program right the reason i'll get to this in a minute. People are not paying it the respect that it's due because they're looking at it

like it's some sort of internet fucking challenge. Right. Like the 10 year challenge or some bullshit. This shit will fuck you up if you don't finish it. Right. That's the reality. And if you don't make it a lifestyle. Yeah.

It's going to be that. Yeah. So open this box with caution. Yeah yeah because once you're in it you're aware it's like taking that fucking pill in the matrix you know all of a sudden now you know now all of a sudden you're in tune now all of a sudden you don't finish and you're like fuck right i'm not as good as i thought i'm not like them. I fucking, you know, and dude, it could cause some issues. Yeah.

Well, and it's interesting, just to provide a little teaser here without going into too much detail, there's some resources that you're going to be sharing in the next year related to 75 Hard. Here? Well, you know what I mean. Is that your timeline, motherfucker? No, no, no. related to 75 hard year and well you know what i mean i'm trying no no what uh but but the if i'm not mistaken one of the very first lessons is get ready for the magnitude of what you're about to do to hit you yeah but i think in in part of that part of your lesson on that um and guys you're

definitely want to get this um part of your lesson is that you want to choose really huge goals. Because even though the fall can be lethal, when you set your heart on something that really demands every part of you, every part of you will level up. And that's the whole point of 75 Hard. I think you're right. I mean, we're focusing on the negative, which is that if you don't follow through, you're going to fall hard. But the whole point is it really is a huge thing to try to accomplish. And it's going to have radical transformation. Absolutely. Yeah.

But only if you give it the respect it's due. Right. You know, guys, I have these people who have done bodybuilding shows before and they're like, dude, I've dieted for 16 weeks before. I've dieted for 20 weeks. I've dieted for six months. It ain't the there's no rest days there's no fucking cheat meals there's no high calorie days there's no fucking like it's a fucking grind okay it's not the same thing i've dieted for fucking bodybuilding too it's not the it's not comparable yeah you know it's interesting

too man because as you guys know, I started over today and that's the reason I started over today is because I told Daryl who's in our taste syndicate, we were, we were having a talk. He said, dude, I need to get my shit together. And I said, all right. I said, are you serious? And he's like, yeah. And I'm like, all right, well, I'll fucking do it with you. And he's like, what do you mean? And I'm like, it means I will do it with you. I'll start over again and do every fucking 75 days with you. Because when you're grinding, I'll grind. When you're tired, I'll be tired.

When you don't want to eat that shit, guess what? I don't eat that shit. And I care about Daryl. I think he reminds me a lot of where I was back whenever I started this journey. And dude, he's a very successful dude. You look at his life and you could say why does it matter dude he's got everything that you could ever imagine but he knows that he's leaving shit on the table and that's something him and i have talked about in fact he talked about it right in front of the

whole group at arte um which was super cool but yeah you know the point is is like this shit will change you. You know what I mean? And not just in a little way. And a lot of people right now are probably like, oh, dude, I get it. No, you don't get it. You don't get it unless you fucking did it. Right.

That's the truth. So, Tyler's in. You're in? All right. I'm in. How much better are you? I'm in. All right, dude. Yeah. How much better are you? I'm in. All right, dude.

Yeah. No fucking up. No, I'm not. I'm going to do it. Yeah. I'm going to do it. Dude, it's completely life-changing. And, you know, people don't understand it, but it's really actually pretty simple how it works.

You know, it forces you to do shit that is uncomfortable on a daily basis that's not convenient on a daily basis that could be pushed off till tomorrow on a daily basis that's where the value is because it teaches you to stop do what the fuck you're supposed to do and then do everything else okay so what happens when you're taking care of the equipment that handles everything else everything else gets better. You know what I'm saying? And our equipment is our mind and our body and our soul and all of the things that even though they're very simple and 75 hard, those are the things that it, that it, that it fixes. Yeah. You know, it's not going to fix it forever. You're not going to be changed forever, but what's going to happen is, huh? No, no, no. You could easily go right back where you were. You adopt the same changed forever but what's gonna happen is huh no no no you could easily

go right back where you were you adopt the same habits but here's where i was getting at 75 days a long fucking time everybody likes to talk about oh in 21 days it's a fucking habit no it isn't it is not i dude it's not 21 days ain't shit they tell you that shit because there's some bullshit research done from fucking 1947 on it. The truth is, is it takes longer. Right. It's just reality. Well, and just the nature of life.

It is. Like, you know the last day that you have to stop working on yourself? When you die. When you die. Dude. Like, it's like that in faith. It's like that in success. It's like that in everything.

So here's the thing. There's never an arrival point. Listen to this though so fucking during those 75 days you're gonna have birthdays nights out life shit traveling dude i went to vegas three times my first fucking 75 days you know what i mean you're gonna have these situations that make it even harder that's the fucking point a lot of people right now are probably thinking oh i'll start after labor day that's your fucking problem right that's the fucking point a lot of people right now are probably thinking oh i'll start after labor day that's your fucking problem right that's the problem that's why you need this because it should be no issue for you to say dude i'm fucking doing this and it doesn't matter what's going to happen you know like that's what people don't understand if you wait for the right time

it's never going to be the right time right right yeah so um and that comes down to you know the i think the aspect that is the most important about the program which is it forces you to have a zero tolerance and zero compromise or deviation policy like these are my fucking things i'm doing and everything else i do is second to that that's reality and people right now are thinking, well, that's easy for you to say. You don't have fucking kids. No, you're right. I got about 200 motherfucking kids. Right. So come live a day in my fucking shoes and we'll talk about who's busier. Right. You know, it's not a competition about how hard it is for so-and-so.

This is hard for anybody. Doesn't matter if you're single with no kids and no nothing or you got fucking seven kids and by the way i've got people who have done this program with seven eight nine kids you know what i'm saying huh oh yeah fucking dude miguel's doing he's got like 47 kids you know he does so it's true uh but my point is is that like i don't know what my fucking well no i'll tell you just something that popped into my head is that um this is in my opinion the ultimate countercultural program because everything in our country in our culture right now. It's geared towards getting easy. Well, that and it's geared toward how I feel. Yeah. If you make me feel bad, I'm offended.

If you say something that makes me feel bad about myself, I'm offended. Everything is feelings, feelings, feelings, feelings. We want to live a life of rainbows and unicorns. We just want satisfaction. We want the world to be you know a playground and literally 75 hard is saying you know feelings aren't bad you want good feelings toward life but you can't be ruled by them you can't you can't let your whole life situation be dependent on how you feel and you can't decide that you want to do something or not do do

something based on how you feel and what 75 hard Hard does is basically say you're going to plow through. Who do you know that doesn't live their life that way? Honestly. Well, I mean, outside of present company. Well, that's what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The vast majority of humans live with that. They live with that mentality. What's going to be easy what's

going to make me feel good what's their instant gratification society dude right but the truth is happiness comes from delayed gratification that's the truth it's the truth yeah you could fight it you could argue you could bitch about it you could cry about it but just like i said about gravity you jump off the building you're gonna going to splat on the ground. Right. You know? So it doesn't really matter if you don't like it. It's just the way things are set up.

Right. So, sorry. No, I would actually argue, too, that there are other aspects of your life that delayed gratification is a reason for success. Like when you talk about creating loyalty in customers, and here I'm going more into business than self-improvement. It's all the same. But loyalty, right. It's either you view a customer as a transaction

and you have to upsell them right now, get satisfaction, get your money, or you say, you know what? I'm going to value this person. I'm going to invest in a lifelong relationship. And if I don't get my money now, it's fine. And you know what? I'm going to trust the process.

Vaughn, that's hard to do when you don't have any money. It is. I understand that. I understand that. But if you want to have money long term, that's the situation you've got to adopt. Yeah. You know?

Yeah. So it's all related. It's all intertwined. You know, a lot of people are sitting here, right? They're saying, oh, dude, but why are we talking about making money? No, we are talking about making fucking money. You don't get it right you know what i mean yeah if so if the person is transformed the profit comes that's right yeah you take care of the

machine the machine produces more shit yeah you're the machine your muscles your brain your body your soul your thought process that's the machine when you have a well-oiled machine that's taken care of and maintained properly, guess what? You're going to produce bigger, more, better shit for you and for your family and for everybody around you. And guess what happens when everybody around you starts performing at a higher level? You make more money. Everything grows. They grow. You grow.

The business grows, et cetera, et cetera. So people are not really relating this. You know, every time I wanted to quit 75 hard, you know what the fuck I said to myself? I said, dude, you want to be broke? You want to be fucking broke? Or you want to be a billionaire? I want to be a fucking billionaire. So guess what I'm going to do? I'm going to do my fucking workout. I'm not going to eat that peanut butter. I'm not going to order that pizza. You know what I mean? Yeah. No, I know what you mean. I would also add, do you want to be dead? Yeah.

Right? Yeah. Because, I mean, you and I both at times struggle with depression and different things. I mean, if you weren't disciplined and you just let yourself go, is it possible that you would go into such despair that you would take your own life? Totally. I've struggled with it my whole life. Yeah.

You know? And honestly, I really want to see Daryl through this. But the truth is, the real truth is, is that, yes, I want to see Daryl win this. But I need it right now, too, dude. I've been going through some shit. You know what I'm saying? And I need it. Yeah. And it is what it is. Yeah. So I've invented this program as a tool to go back to, to get yourself back on the right track. You know what I mean? And sometimes circumstances are going to be hard. Sometimes bad shit's going to happen. That's out of your control. Sometimes five or six bad things are going to happen in a fucking two week pro and a two week span. And you're not going to know what the fuck is going on. And guess what you can return to? You can return to this program and it can help you reset your momentum. And that's the point of it. You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely. Good stuff, man. So, fuck, I don't know. What are we even supposed to talk about?

Didn't we have a whole other concept to talk about? I think we were going to talk about you are enough. Oh, yeah. Okay. Have we ever said that on this show? I don't really think we have. I get it. Dude, look.

I get it why people say it. I get it. I do, too. Yeah, I do. I don't really think we have. I get it. I get it. I get it why people say it. I get it. I do too. Yeah, I do. I do too. But it's just- I almost feel like the people that need to hear that are actually the- That's correct.

Yes. I agree. The people that are actually working hard, they need to be told, listen, you're doing okay. But what happens is, and this is the same reason I don't talk about luck. Is there luck? Fuck yeah, there's luck. Is it a good strategy to bank on luck? No. what happens is and this is the same reason i don't talk about luck is there luck fuck yeah there's luck is it a good strategy to bank on luck no that's what most people do you are enough

proper statement everybody's enough yeah but the that means you're capable you're good enough you're you're if you apply yourself you can do do well. That's what you are. Enough means it doesn't mean sit on your ass and eat fucking Cheetos and talk about the high school football game in 1984 and be like, dude, I did it. I'm enough. And think you're qualified to be on the front cover of a magazine. Yeah. Get the fuck out of here, man. You're just a fucking loser with some Cheetos. You know, you ain't enough.

You're living way below. How can you say you're enough if you're if you're leaving 10 fucking million percent on the table right because most people are most people are living at that one percent that out of a hundred and i don't mean that in a good way you talk about success a lot of people talk about the one percent i'm talking about the one percent that most people are in, which is the bottom 1%. And they have another 99% available to them that they choose not to use because it's going to require some sweat. It's going to require some work. It's going to require some uncomfortable shit. It's going to require some uncomfortable conversations, but they leave it there.

You know what I'm saying? And they choose to live that way and then they bitch about it. I can't respect that. Now, if you choose to live eating fucking Cheetos and that's really what makes you happy and you're okay being a fat motherfucker on the couch watching fucking TV, which you're not, but let's just say you were good. Be happy, bro. But again, this ain't the place for you. You know what I mean? So I'm not trying to push my fucking system of happiness onto people. I just know that this shit works. Right. Right.

So this is probably, I'm guessing, the last episode that we will tell people about the review contest, right? Yeah. Because I think we're wrapping up. So guys, we are having an MFCO review contest. If you listen to us and you want to tell people about us and have a chance to come out and hang with Andy in St. Louis, and all you have to do is basically, I'm drawing a blank, what do they have to do? They have to go on iTunes. They have to go on iTunes. They have to leave a review. Leave a review, screenshot it, and email it to me. Vaughn at andyfercella.com.

Yep, yep. So that's cool. We got that going on. Yeah. So we'll probably announce that, what, next week or so? Do we actually cover anything of value in this podcast? I think so. Because I feel like we just talked about shit.

Well, I think that's kind of what we've been doing for the last three years. Yeah. But it actually always turns out really pretty pretty good i don't know i hope you guys got value here yeah like you know the truth is guys the real challenge is coming up with titles so but like i would just like to leave people with a thought you know and recognize that you're probably out there searching for happiness and you're probably wondering why the fuck it's so hard to find. And you're probably thinking after I get this, I'll be happy. After I make this X amount of dollars, I'll be happy. After I get this

car or this or this money or this raise or I have this kid or I do this, you're saying I'll be happy, but you won't. You just won't. There's nothing out there that can make you happy except you and your relationship with you. And that's going to come down to you forcing your weaker self, your bitch voice to do the shit that you know you're supposed to do. And when you can reprogram your mind to do the things and be disciplined on a consistent basis, your happiness is going to go up and it's going to stay up as long as you practice that discipline. The minute you stop to go up and it's going to stay up as long as you practice that discipline. The minute you stop to practicing it, it's going to come down. And you just have to understand that reality and that correlation. When you're not happy,

it's because you're not practicing what you could be practicing. And I think if you sat there and think about it, you'll realize that to be the truth. The moments when you're happiness are the moments whenever you're putting out as much discipline that you need to put out to accomplish the things that you told yourself you will accomplish. That's why, like when you miss your kid's football game after you told him that you were going to be there, you feel like such a piece of shit. All right.

This is all related. It's about honoring your word. It's about honoring your promises to yourself. If you can't honor your promises to yourself, who's going to have self-esteem? Who's going to feel good about who they are? Who's going to have confidence? Why would you have confidence in someone who lies to you? You see what I'm saying? And that's where the mastery comes from. Think how powerful someone can be. And by the way, I don't fucking charge for this like it's a sales pitch this is something that we do you know we just have going on and i just happen to start it so we

again so we're talking about it but um i think if people could just grasp the idea of when they exercise discipline their happiness goes up And if they could admit that to themselves, they'd be a lot happier just becoming aware of that concept. Because dude, when we're, when we're in that like low zone where we're not happy, it feels really good to be lazy as fuck. You know, the right thing to do feels like you should stay in bed or like you should miss that workout because you're exhausted or you're mentally burnt out or But that's the sign that you need to do this That's the sign that you need to move and go do what it is. That's your body in your mind telling you hey motherfucker

You need to go you ever slept in longer than what you were supposed to and then woke up feeling super anxious about it Oh, yeah, you know I'm saying like even if you had nothing I don't slip sleep in too much yeah but just say even if you had nothing to do and you woke up let's say you feel like you wasted it what time you get up lately 4 45 so what's late for you seven late is seven all right yeah so you wake up at seven o'clock yeah and you're like holy shit you feel like you just missed three hours of your life, right? True. And you have anxiety. But that anxiety isn't coming from what you missed. It's coming from you know you should have got before. Right.

And you're not honoring that promise, right? Yeah, absolutely. So when we lower, when we keep our promises to ourselves, our anxiety goes down, our worry goes down, our happiness goes up, our depression goes down, all right? People have to understand this otherwise they're going to keep listening to all these dumb fucks online about you know give yourself affirmations dude look i'm hard on affirmations too the reason i'm hard on affirmations isn't

because they definitely don't work it's because people don't use them properly like when you wake up in the morning on time and you're ready to go and you say yeah dude i'm a bad motherfucker i'm gonna get out there and kick the world's ass today that's one thing all right but it's another thing to sleep in till fucking one o'clock and get up and say dude i'm a bad motherfucker i'm gonna go out there kick the world's ass today like no one gives a fuck you're full of shit right you're just a liar and you're lying to yourself you're not a bad motherfucker you're fucking lazy as fuck and you're trying to fix it by throwing this fucking lipstick on the pig which ain't never gonna fix anything so you know and that's why i'm so passionate about this program is because it really changes people

and it gives people a real solution to what seems to be the big problem in society right now which is i'm not happy and i don't know why you know well i know why because you're lying to yourself yeah that's the truth and and as you pointed out that's not a derogative that's like literally and I don't know why. No? Well, I know why. Because you're lying to yourself 24 hours a day. Yeah, that's the truth. And as you pointed out, that's not a derogative. That's like literally you're losing.

You're a loser. Bro, when I say loser, I don't even, I'm not, dude, I'm not talking about how much money you have. I'm not talking about what kind of house you live in,

what kind of car you drive, what kind of this, that, the other. You know what I'm talking about? Is I'm talking about someone who can keep a fucking promise to themselves. And if you can't, you are a fucking loser. And you need to fix it.

That's the truth. And people don't like hearing that, but you know what? They probably don't like a lot of the shit that I say. Probably not. It is what it is. Good stuff, man. So you're in for real? I'm in.

I'm going to do it. And you're in too? Yeah. You serious? I need to. Yeah, bro, you you do i'll die if i don't like seriously you'll feel dude look like all right i'm glad you're doing it no i'm gonna do it i'm gonna start tomorrow all right i'm not gonna start i might so here's what happens i might eat like five packages of skittles tonight that's all right all right here's what happens

here's what happens bro first of all let's let's give a little credit where it's due you've been doing fucking awesome dude you look like a different human i'm not sure if i still do i'm really down on myself like three three three weeks it's amazing what you can lose in three weeks no but it comes right back that's the thing you gotta understand yeah you go you go back to the gym for four or five days you'll be right where you were but here's the thing about here's the thing about this and this is what happened to you and this is what happens to a lot of people on the program they get a false sense of confidence okay because they get into tent like you quit on like 11 days i think

nine or 11 days you get in it and you're like okay i get it and they think they got it okay this is the problem how many people do you know read a book halfway through and they're like i get it and quit reading a lot of people right not me but i almost have like an obsession i gotta finish me too yeah okay but i used to be the other guy yeah 2016 andy i was the guy who read half the book right and said oh i got it yeah right but what you realize is that you really don't get it because if you go back and read some of those books that you fucking quit on you're gonna figure out that you really don't get it because if you go back and read some of those books that you fucking quit on you're going to figure out that you were completely wrong about what you

assume that book to be about right you know what i mean and that's your life that's what you have to understand yeah so you can do the program for 10 days or 20 days or fucking 40 days and i've had guys tell me like dude i've had guys who DM me literally every day. I'm 40 days in. I get it, man. Like, I don't really, like, no, you don't. You will not get it until you're done. Because there's so many different little mental things that happen literally on a day-by-day basis that you have to go through the process.

And anybody who tells you that they felt the same on day 75 as they felt on day 50, in fact, you won't even have someone to tell you that. Yeah, I don't think I've heard anybody. And we've interviewed quite a few people about that. Yeah, we've interviewed dozens of people. By the way, if you want to be interviewed and you've completed 75 hard, yeah, email Tyler at AndyFurcella.com. That's Tyler at AndyFurcella.com because we're putting together project. Um, and we'd like you guys to be involved in it. So that's,

that's it. I don't even know what the fuck I just said, bro. I don't either. I really don't, but it feels good that I said it. Yeah. Yeah.

So, um, do you want to know more about the program guys? The, the original podcast is a 75 hard, uh, winning the war with yourself, uh, a tactical guide to winning the war with yourself i think it's march 6th was the episode i think it's around that yeah um you go back and listen to that uh since then you know i've completed it i've done phase one um

and i'm starting over with 75 hard right now and that's really what's going on yeah fuck man i like don't i don't know what else to say there's nothing else to say today maybe tomorrow all right all right take it easy guys all right see you guys Outro Music