REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The One Word That Can Destroy Your Life, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO77

Episode Date: July 14, 2016

What's the one word that gets mentioned again and again in our popular culture? What's the one word that people use again and again, to the detriment of their own lives? According to The MFCEO, that word is "fair." The entitlement mentality that says "I deserve better " is destructive. Ungrateful people who compare their situation to others and complain are destined to accomplish nothing. No matter who you are and what your background is, you can choose to make the best of the life you have been given.

Hey guys, what's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, we do Tuesdays and Thursdays. Today is Thursday, and on Thursday, we hit you with the Thursday Thunder. All right. Thursday Thunder is short. It's sweet. It's to the point. And it's something that I want to get you. I want to hit you. And I want to get you back out in the world and ready to kick some ass. Okay. This is an entrepreneurial based podcast, but it's also a podcast that is going to teach you the core values and the skills you need to be the motherfucking CEO of your life. Okay? You need to be going through your life with some confidence. You need to be going through your life with some swagger.

You need to be having a good time. And you need to be cultivating success. It's your responsibility. We teach you all those things on this podcast. It's not responsibility. We teach you all those things on this podcast. It's not for everybody There's a lot of people out there to become pussified little flowers these days that can't handle what we had to say And if you're one of those people there's plenty of other rainbows out there for you to live under this ain't one of them guys, I want to talk about something that is

getting massive traction in our Internet world in our world mass social media, everywhere we go, we're seeing this word, okay? And this word, it's a four-letter word. And I think it's the word that holds more people back in their lives than any other word in the English language, okay? You know what that word is? It's fair, all right? Everybody wants to talk about what is fair, all right? They want to talk about what they deserve. They want to talk about what they're entitled to.

Well, actually, they don't want to talk about what they're entitled to because entitlement has become a word that nobody wants to own up to, but they still feel that way down in their heart. Okay, so it doesn't matter if you verbalize these things or if you feel this way in your heart, the result is the same for your life. Fair, complaining about fair, complaining about what you deserve, okay, being entitled, those things keep you from moving forward. Let me give you an example of what this is like. Living with the idea of fair is the same thing as, I'm sorry, living at the idea of what's not fair. Looking at someone saying that's not fair. That like that that's this this because it's like this uh that's you know i i deserve this okay these things you tell yourself that's the equivalent of going to an old train station that has been shut down 50 years ago and has vines

growing all over it walking out on the train platform, stomping your feet, kicking your feet, throwing a fucking fit because the train isn't there when you want it to be there. Okay. And then you stand there for the whole entire day, stomping and kicking and pouting and crying and bitching for this train that is never going to fucking come. It's never coming. Okay. That is what living under the fair entitled. I deserve labels is going to get you. It's going to get you nothing. It's going to cause you a ton of frustration. It's going to make you mad. It's going to make you angry. You could spout off on social media. You can say whatever the fuck you want, but at the end of the day, it's not going to change anything for you. Okay. So when you find yourself living in this mentality of what's fair, all right,

or, uh, what you deserve, you have to stop yourself and check yourself and realize, you know, what life isn't fucking fair. There isn't a contract that floats down from the heavenly father onto your fucking lap when you're a little baby and says, you know what? This life is going to be fair for you. No, it isn't that it's not fair for anybody. You know, I'd like to be an F1 racer. I'd like to be fucking Michael Schumacher. I'd like to be racing Formula One all over the world. It's not fucking fair. It's not fair I don't get to. It sounds ridiculous, right? Well, that's what you sound like when you use it in any other way. All right?

Life ain't going to be fair. Things aren't going to go your way. That's the way life is. And the reason life isn't going to be fair, and the reason things aren't going to go your way, is because when things don't go your way, that's when your character is built. That's when all the things that make you great, all the strength that you're going to have

your entire life, all the power you're going to develop, all the accomplishments that you're going to achieve and be able to pass down from generation to generation to generation are going to come from the things that aren't fair. They're going to come from the things that are difficult. They're going to come from you working to earn the things that you deserve. Okay. Don't spend your life standing on the train platform, kicking and screaming and whining and crying about this fucking train and never going to come. It isn't going to come no matter what you do. Your life isn't going to change. You're not going to get where you want to go.

So why are you wasting the time and energy on something that ultimately is pointless? And I know there's people out there right now. Well, it's important to fight for fairness. It's important to fight for this. Hey, look, dude, I get it. But at the end of the day, you got to worry about yourself. And there's lots of people out there with the same fucking difficulties that you've had that come from the same backgrounds you've had, that come from the same socioeconomic, the same racial backgrounds, the same handicaps.

All these people have done the things that you want to do and you're not doing them because you're holding yourself up with words like fair or I deserve or I'm entitled to this. And like I said in the beginning, it's not about you verbalizing. You may not verbalize it, but what do you feel in your heart? What do you see? What do you think in your heart whenever you see other people succeed? What do you think in your heart when you see other people doing big things that you want to do? Do you see people do great things and you think, fuck yeah, that's great. I could do that too. Or do you see people do great things and you think, fuck, fuck that guy. That's not fair. You know what? The reason that guy got there is because of the

color of his skin. Or the reason that guy got there is because he grew up this way in this socioeconomic situation. Or he was fortunate enough to have this other education. You know what? That might be fucking true. But at the end of the day, those fucking things aren't going to change your life. You're not going to be able to move forward because you point them out. You're only holding yourself back by living under the fair rainbow and the I deserve rainbow. And you can move a lot quicker and a lot faster and accomplish a hell of a lot more by letting go of the idea that things are supposed to be fair and working on yourself, progressing on yourself, moving forward

on yourself and putting the work in to get you where you want to go. Okay. For example, when we talk about the train station, you kicking and screaming, what's going to get you further kicking and screaming on the train platform, like a little fucking bitch or putting your fucking heel to your toe over and over and over again again down the train tracks. It might be slow. It might not be as fast as you want to go because I know it's not fucking fair that the train didn't come to get you even though it's been shut down for 50 fucking years. What is still going to get you further? You know what's going to get you further? One fucking step in front of the other. It's always going to be that way. It's always been that way and you can either accept the reality of

that or you could spend your life kicking and screaming and pouting and crying like a little fucking bitch. Okay, shut up. Uh-huh. Okay, what's up? Okay, shut up. Uh-huh. Okay, what's up?

Okay, shut up. Uh-huh. Okay, what's up? Shut up. Uh-huh. Okay, what's up? Right on my brand new 99.