REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Support Expectation, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO146

Episode Date: May 18, 2017

Too many people complain that their friends and family aren't supporting their business. Here's the reality: you're going to need way more than the support of your friends and family to be successful. Plus, your friends and family aren't obligated to support you. When it comes to the real world of business, they owe you nothing. It's your job to provide a quality product or service that everyone would want to support. And it's your job to sell them on that quality product or service. But above all, you have to think of support in terms of a bank account. Don't constantly ask other people to make withdraws on your behalf. You want to be the guy who make more deposits in other people's accounts.

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys today is Thursday Thunder which means I'm going to reach down your throat and rip your fucking tongue out and then I'm gonna eat it with some fucking sweet and sour sauce from McDonald's you You know, I haven't had McDonald's in like seven, eight years, believe it or not. I don't know why that just came to my mind, but I hate fucking McDonald's and I don't eat it, but they're sweet and sour sauce on some chicken nuggets. And we're talking about something. I'm going to do something with that. Anyway, if I was going to eat a tongue, it would be with sweet

and sour. That's my fucking point. Here's what I want to talk to you guys about today. All right. So many of you guys are wanting to be successful. You're wanting to start a company. You're wanting to do this. And they say, you write in and you tell me, Andy, my friends don't support me. My family doesn't support me. My girlfriend doesn't support me. My fucking friends from school, they don't support me. Well, look, let's talk about this for a second. All right? You cannot just expect people to support you because you started something. All right. There could be a million reasons why they aren't supporting you. You cannot put that obligation on other people and expect that to be the revenue driver for whatever it is you're trying to start.

Too many of you guys start a company and you think you're going to rely on your friends and your family and people, you know, to shop there there and buy from you and that's going to get you started. That's wrong. Okay. First of all, they don't owe you shit. All right. Unless you've been the kind of person that supports them and goes out of your way for them and has helped them, they're not obligated to support you. And even then they still might not support you. Number two, that's not enough people. I don't care how social you are to actually build a business from. All right. You cannot build a business counting on your friends and family to shop with you and think that's going to be enough. It's just not enough people. All right. But my main point and what I want to talk about with you guys is the support expectation. All

right. And before I get into that, the point number three is, is if your product or service is not enticing enough for people to want to fucking buy it, it's probably not a good idea to start that business. You know, most people understand that from common sense, but I'm just telling you right now, if you can't go have a five minute conversation with a stranger and show your product how it solves a certain problem or helps them in a certain way, you probably don't belong in business and you're probably going to get beat pretty hard. All right. So getting into this, this, this expectation of obligated support. Guys, you have to think of support as like a bank account, all right? You can make deposits and you can make withdrawals, all right? And you might not be in business today. You might not have something going on that you expect people to buy from you,

but one day you might. And the reason I bring this up is that guys, it's always a great idea. Always, always, always, always a great idea to be the guy who supports his friends, his family, and his acquaintances in whatever it is that they do. As long as it's not immoral. You know what I mean? Show up at their barbecues, buy their product, give them a post, be the guy who's going to go out of your way to support your friends. All right. Not only is it the right thing to do, but one day you might need their support back. One day you might need the reciprocation of that deposits that you're making into that bank. And you might need to take a fucking withdrawal. All right. And so many of you guys wait till you need to make a withdrawal

when you haven't made any deposits. And then you wonder why nobody's fucking supporting you. All right. And this is what I want to talk to you guys about. Mainly be the guy who supports people, be the guy who cheers for people, Be the guy who helps people become successful. Be the guy who connects people. And you know what's going to happen? Good shit. Not only for the people you're helping, but it's going to come back to you. It's going to come back to you when you need it most. It's going to be the thing that lifts you up when you're struggling or when you start something new or when you're out trying to create something that is a little bit off the wall or a little bit scary or risky. All right.

You've got to be the person who supports his friends, who supports his family, who supports his acquaintances before you could ever make a withdrawal or expect them to support you back. Okay. And too many of you guys get so fucking upset when people don't support you when who the fuck have you supported? What have you done for these people? Just because you start a business, just because you start something doesn't mean these people owe you anything. And let me branch off onto another subject. The idea that people owe you their support is very fucking arrogant and egotistical. Nobody owes you shit. And that expectation that people owe you something is going to always hold you back.

Because you're going to write into people like me crying and whining about why the fuck nobody supports you. I'm going to give you a reason why nobody supports you. It's probably because you don't fucking support anybody else. So if you want to look at like why you're not getting the fanfare, why you're not getting the love, why you're not getting the excitement, why you're not getting the shares, why you're not getting the likes, it's probably because you're not giving any of that shit first. Okay. Social media has people thinking there's some kind of fucking celebrity where it's like not cool to follow a lot of people, or it's not cool to like their posts, or it's not cool to support people because you're big time and they're just

little folks. Dude, that's a recipe for fucking disaster. You are no better than anybody else. You are no higher than anybody else. You aren't on a fucking pedestal. You're a human being. Treat other human beings with respect. Give support. Give encouragement. Give feedback.

Help people. And you will be fucking amazed at what good shit comes back to you. But you cannot, cannot expect people to support you because you share the same last name. Or you went to school together. Or you went to high school. That is an unrealistic expectation. People will support you when you help them. People will support you when you help them. People will support you when you support them. People will support you when you do good for them first. And if you can understand that concept,

you're not going to have a problem rallying support for your own projects when those projects come around. So stop looking around and wondering why you don't have support. The only reason you don't have support is this. Your product sucks. You're doing something immoral. You're not doing something that solves a real problem.

And you probably don't support other people. And if you do one of those four things, your business is never going to fucking work anymore.