REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Truth About Loyalty, Entitlement, and Other Sh*t That Is Ruining Your Life, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO304

Episode Date: May 30, 2019

It's amazing to me how most people have an excuse for why they aren't winning. They have every tool...resource...opportunity. But there's a factor in the way they think & how they operate that is going to ruin them. Our culture is cursed & the mindset of the majority is hellbent on mediocrity. As sick & tired as I am about all this, I can't stop caring, & I won't stop working to make sure that the people who really, truly want to succeed know the hard truth about what it's going to take to do that.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host. And this is the motherfucking CEO Project. Fuck, that ain't right. I am the motherfucking CEO. That's right. Alright, just leave that in there. I don't give a right. I am the motherfucking CEO. That's right. All right. Just leave that in there. I don't give a fuck. Here's the bottom line. Um, a lot of times I envy you guys and I'm going to tell you why. Okay. And a lot of you guys aren't going to like this

podcast. And a lot of you guys are going to list this podcast and think I'm talking about someone else and I'm actually talking to you. Okay. And if you stop listening because of this, that's fine too. But I'm going to tell you right now, I envy you talking to you. Okay. And if you stop listening because of this, that's fine too. But I'm going to tell you right now, I envy you guys a lot. Not for the reasons that you think either. You know why I envy you a lot? Because the truth of the matter is a lot of you motherfuckers just don't fucking care. You just don't fucking care.

You're presented with all the opportunities, all the tools, all the resources, everything that you could possibly need to be successful and you still aren't. You're still whining. You're still crying. You're still bitching. You're still moaning. You know why? Because you're not doing what the fuck you could do. You're not holding yourself to any kind of real standard in life. You want to be successful. That's what you like to talk about. You like to talk about how you're going to do this or going to do that or how it would be cool to do this or that, but you really have no intention of actually doing it. And if that's you, please stop listening to my podcast and please unfollow me because

I'm going to be completely fucking honest. I'm sick and tired of dealing with people like you. Now, I understand you're probably confused. Why envy? Why do you envy that? Because I envy the ignorance sometimes. I envy the ignorance of not truly understanding what it takes to be successful and floating through life, not giving a fuck, happy-go-lucky,

pretending to be like they're ambitious, pretending to be your someone without actually having to do the work, without actually having to deal with the stress, without actually having to deal with the frustration, without actually having to deal with the anxiety, without actually having to do any of it. And that's what entrepreneurship has become. It's become a bunch of fucking people who claim to want one thing and do another. And then when it doesn't work out and they're inside of a company

and they're trying to work their way up, they like to cry about loyalty. Well, let me fucking explain something about loyalty, motherfuckers. You all think loyalty has to do with time, has nothing to do with fucking time. All right. My fucking job is to give you the tools to show show you the way, to present the opportunities, to build the opportunities within, which for my people, I do that very fucking good, better than anybody in the fucking world, to be completely honest. Okay. And my job is to provide all of those things, the tools, the resources, the fucking how to, the opportunity, the jobs, this, that, the other. Okay. That's the obligation of the fucking employer. That's the obligation of my social media brand. I do that very fucking

well. Very well. I literally give you guys all the fucking tools you need. I literally teach you all the shit you need to know. There's nothing I haven't fucking taught you. Nothing. There's nothing that you cannot find in the last 300 and however many episodes that we have that will not help you be successful. It's there. You're just choosing to want more and more and more and more because the truth is you're a little fucking scared bitch. And you want to fucking consume, and consume, and consume, and consume instead of act. That's the truth. The truth is you probably don't have it. The truth is most of you listening ain't going to fucking make it. That's the fucking truth. That's a statistical fucking fact. And I'll be honest, I'm tired of fucking answering your stupid fucking questions. I'm tired of fucking getting DMs from people who ask me the same fucking thing 17 fucking

times in a different way, hoping I'm going to say the answer in a different fucking way because it ain't going to happen. Okay. I'm tired of seeing people bitch about loyalty. Sure, an employer has to be fucking loyal to his employees, but that's not the amount of time they keep them around. That's the resources they provide. That's the fucking lessons they provide. That's the coaching they provide.

That's the tools they provide. That's the opportunity for upward advancement they provide. That's the opportunity for upward advancement they provide. If your employer is legitimately providing those things, he's being very fucking loyal to you or she. Now, all you motherfuckers right now, and by the way, I'm not talking about my company. I'm talking about all you motherfuckers because that's what I hear. That's what I see. Oh, I work for this company and they're fucking not loyal. No, you're an entitled little fucking bitch. That's the problem. You have, I asked these questions, what do they show you? What tools do they give you? This, that, the other. I always find out every single time that the company actually is pretty fucking loyal to their employee.

They are providing the tools. They are providing the resources. They are providing the tools they are providing the resources they are providing the opportunity they are providing the room for advancement they are providing the coaching they are providing it's not the company that's not being loyal it's fucking you motherfuckers because there's a flip side to that loyalty and to think that a company should be loyal to you when you're not loyal back is absurd. You need to redefine what the fuck loyalty is in a business relationship. Loyalty is one party does everything to set up the other party for success. That goes both ways. Now, employees seem to have an issue with this.

They don't understand that if you're operating in a company and you're provided the tools, the lessons, the resources, the opportunity, the growth, the upward mobility is all there. And you're not executing with 100% of your effort when you're there. If you're not doing everything you can to maximize the result with those tools given, guess who's not loyal, motherfuckers? It ain't the company. It's you. And really what this comes down to, and I'll give a fuck if you like it or not, is we live in a culture of complete and utter lack of responsibility in any way.

Most of the people listening here think that you're eventually just going to make it. Most of the people listening here think that the world owes them something. Most of the people in here think that because they put five years in a company, they should be CEO. Motherfucker, you guys are all fucking fucked when it comes to your lives. All of you. Because that ain't the way it works. And I've talked about trying to be a realist here over an idealist,

but y'all just don't get it. You just don't. And because you can't grasp it and because you'd rather wish things were a certain way than dealing with things that are the way they are, you are going to waste your entire fucking lives, your entire lives doing shit that you're not good at, doing shit you could be great at, and then you're saying, well, I don't like this. Well, nobody fucking likes losing, motherfucker. Well, why are you losing? You're losing because you refuse to take responsibility for yourself and you're waiting for somebody to come drag you through the doors, the many, many, many doors of opportunity that are open for you. You're refusing to take the fucking steps necessary. And for that,

I don't envy you at all. In fact, I think most of the people listening here are weak, entitled, underachieving people who are going to complain and bitch and moan about their entire fucking existence no matter where they end up. I'm going to fucking win. The people who embrace the mentality of this whole entire fucking podcast are going to win. But you motherfuckers who sit there and cry about being loyal and who don't even understand what the fuck loyalty even is in a relationship or a business sense, you motherfuckers are going to lose. You're going to fucking lose. I've been in this game for 20 plus years. You know how many people I've seen fucking do this shit, talk about how people fucked them over, dick them over, didn't provide them shit. And it always finds out that they were provided all of those things. They just chose not to utilize them the

way they could. Those people always lose. They always fucking lose. And they're always the people who talk the most about where they're going to be. And one day you're going to see, and this and that motherfuckers, one day all I'm going to see is that I was fucking right. That's it. That's what one day I'm going to see. One day I'm going to see you when I'm driving by sitting on your motherfucking cooler in your driveway having beers with your fucking neighbors. You know why? Because you're weak. You're fucking weak. You're mentally fucking weak.

You can't say no to a fucking french fry. You can't say no to a fucking beer. You justify all your bullshit actions. Because that's what everybody else does. You're fucking weak. You're not fucking badass. You're not a tough guy. You ain't none of that shit.

You can't even avoid a motherfucking cheeseburger. You don't even make 100 grand a year. And you're talking about how you're going to be a billionaire? You're talking about how you're going to do this and how you're going to do that? You can't even do your fucking job. You can't even do what fucking job. You can't even do what the fucking job is now. Do you not understand that your job right now is a training ground for you to win? How you do what you do right now is grooming your culture. It's grooming

your habits. It's grooming your character traits for you to become what it is you want to become. It doesn't matter what you're doing right now. It doesn't matter if you're sweeping the floors in a warehouse or cooking fucking french fries or working at a fucking hair salon. It doesn't matter what you're doing now. What matters is the pride and the attention to detail that you learn to cultivate within yourself. The discipline that you force yourself to cultivate

over the course of what you're doing right fucking now is going to determine where you end up 20 years from now. This is the biggest missing factor from people who win and people who don't. People who win understand that every little detail matters. And it doesn't just matter, it matters a lot. People who don't win are the kind of people that say shit like, oh, it's no big deal, it's just the warehouse floor. Oh, it's no big deal, it's just one customer. Oh, it's no big deal, it's just one order of french fries. Oh, it's no big deal. It's just one order of French fries. Oh,

it's no big deal. And they owe no big deal themselves into a fucking life that they hate an existence. They hate a fucking relationship. They hate a house. They hate a car. They hate a bank account. They hate. And what do they do at the end? They throw their arms up and say, I got fucked. And you know what? The only person that fucked them was themselves. That's where most of you will end up. That's the truth. I hate to say it like that. I hate to sound negative. I hate to sound like an asshole, but it's the truth. And I could tell by your fucking comments, by your fucking mentality, by your fucking DMs. And dude, from now on, you're going to DM me some weak ass shit. Fuck you. Get the fuck off my page. I'm not even responding. You're going to ask me questions I've answered 17 fucking

times in podcasts because you want your little fucking hand held and you want attention and shit like that. Fuck you. I'm not answering your shit. Okay? That's the way it's going to go. So if I don't answer, you answer DM. You see that I read it. I didn't answer. It's one of two reasons.

One, your question was fucking stupid. Or two, I'm busy and I'll get back to it later. Or three, your question was fucking stupid. Or four, guess what? Your question was fucking stupid. Or four, guess what? Your question was fucking stupid. So before you hit send, why don't you ask yourself, hey, you know what? What am I showing Andy by asking this question?

Am I showing him that I'm an intelligent human being who pays attention, who has common sense, or am I showing him that I don't value his time? I don't value the millions and millions and millions and millions of dollars of free content he puts out. I don't value his fucking, the fact that he runs six other fucking companies at the same time while he's doing all this shit. I don't value him. And so if you don't value me, I can fucking value you either. That's the reality. I'm done with this shit. I am fucking done. You want to win? I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. You can get on my train. We're going to fucking win. You want to be average? You want

to be like everybody else? Go follow all these other motherfuckers that talk out of their ass about how fucking nice the world is and butterflies and rainbows and fucking cartoon fucking choo-choo trains and other bullshit. That ain't me, motherfuckers. Winners fucking win. Losers fucking talk about winning. That's it. I don't talk about winning. I do it. And I suggest you guys figure out how to do the same. And before you fucking sit there and bitch about someone being loyal and someone being, and a lot of you guys are probably thinking, oh, well, he probably had someone in his company. No, actually I don't. I read your fucking DMs and they're pathetic. They're pathetic. Oh,

I've got this boss and he fucking blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And blah, blah, blah. You know what? I don't like his hair. The fuck are you talking about, motherfucker? This is about making money. This is about building a career. This is not about like or dislike. This is not about fucking what are I think someone's a nice person or not. You guys got all this shit confused. You got it confused. You're totally fucking confused. No one gives a fuck about you. No one, no one gives a fuck about you. You think your fucking wife or your husband gives a fuck about you? Quit your fucking job. Start doing what you really want. See if they fucking stick around. Lose your job. You think you're fucking, I mean, dude dude you don't fucking get it You don't fucking get it

You gotta care about you You gotta fucking be Your number one fan You gotta be the one who fucking pushes you forward I'm not pulling you forward Fucking Let's not pulling you forward We're not gonna show up at your motherfucking house And say come on on, man, let's fucking go. If you need that, you ain't fucking got it.

You ain't got it. So what are you doing? Putting yourself in this situation of saying you want X, Y, and Z when you really don't fucking want it and then making yourself miserable because you don't fucking have it. Why don't you just say, I don't want that. I don't want this. I want to be a regular motherfucker. I want to sit on my porch and sip lemonade and play fucking Nintendo and fucking eat Doritos. I can respect that.

I have friends like that. I have people I hang out with that, you know what, they say, Andy, you know what, dude? I admire what you're doing, but it ain't for me. And you know what? I respect that. But what I don't respect is a bunch of motherfuckers talking shit. And all they do is talk. All they do is fucking talk. You know, that's why we, Ed and I created the ROT syndicate because we wanted to bring people together who actually wanted to win, who actually were out there doing things to win. We didn't want people to pay and just listen to, yeah, we could do that all day, dude. And we'd make a lot more fucking money. We could stand up on stage,

throw a motherfucking conference and charge you guys fucking five grand to come. And I guarantee it'd be the best conference in the world but that is not what we're about it's not what I'm about it's not what Ed's about it's not what fucking that's not why we fucking do this shit you guys need to rethink what the fuck you're doing man

because I just read about 15 fucking DMs and every single one of them was fucking bullshit. Like, oh, I'm doing the live hard program. I just did 75 hard. Now, should I hop in the shower when it's all the way cold? Or should I fucking hop in the shower and work the cold down? What the fuck? Take a cold fucking shower. Jesus fuck. The fuck is wrong with you? I don't give a fuck how you do it. Quit being fucking stupid. That just shows you that you're weak as fuck, dude. Somebody says, Hey Vaughn, take a cold fucking shower. What does that mean to you Vaughn? Getting a fucking shower when it's cold. Correct. What does that mean to you, Vaughn? Get in a fucking shower when it's cold, correct?

What does it mean to you, Tyler? Does it mean take a fucking medium shower? Does it mean take a fucking warm shower? What does it mean? It means spend five minutes in the motherfucking cold water. How hard is it? If you cannot figure that out, what the fuck can you figure out? I'm being serious. If you can't do whatever your job is right now, let's say it's cooking fucking French fries. Let's say it's working at a

supplement store. Let's say it's working at a hardware store. Let's say whatever the fuck it is. I don't fucking care. Shoe store, a fucking whatever. If you can't execute that job, even though it's not your end all be all, and you can't win amongst all the other people who are also doing that job, what the fuck makes you think that you're going to win on a large scale somewhere else? You are not developing the habits. You are not developing the fucking character traits. You are not developing the grit, the perseverance, the mental toughness, the discipline that you are going to need to win anywhere. Because you think that what you're doing right now is pointless

because you don't like it. Guess what? You think I fucking like all this shit I fucking do? Fuck no, I don't like it. A lot of people are like, oh, I'm sure you really love it. No, I don't. I don't love it. God, for some reason, gave me this fucking thing where I can't fucking stop.

And I care. And it pisses me off when other people don't care. And I don't know why he gave it to me. I don't know why. But I got it. And you know what? I wish I didn't have it a lot of times. Because then I could live like you motherfuckers.

I could pretend and I could talk some shit. And I could smile and celebrate and be fucking happy. Running some mediocre bullshit with some bullshit half-ass plan. I could go into Starbucks with my cool fucking MacBook, pretend like I'm doing some shit and like, dude, I could fucking feel good. But because God put some fucking idea in my head, I feel called to fucking do this shit. So don't ever mistake and think, oh, Andy really loves this shit. No, I fucking don't. I fucking don't love it.

I feel obligated to do it. You know why? Because when I was broke as fuck and I had no money and I was over $100,000 in fucking debt, $70,000 in credit card debt, I used to pray at night every fucking night. I said, God, you help me be successful. I promise I'll do something good with it. I promise i'll help other people I promise i'll do this and you know what i'm doing. I'm fucking fulfilling what the fuck I said I would do So don't think i'm over here fucking with sunshine flowing out my ass And fucking all happy and shit

No, dude doing what I do takes a lot of fucking persistence because it would be a lot fucking easier to say, fuck all you motherfuckers. I ain't doing shit no more and move the fuck on. That's the truth, but I can't do it. I can't, I don't have it in me. I cannot fucking quit. I don't know why. I have no fucking clue. But you guys have an opportunity that no generation has ever had. You have people like me. You have people all over the world you can learn from. You don't have to learn from me.

There's plenty of other successful people that are much more successful than me that you can learn from. The information is there. The books are there. You can talk to these motherfuckers on the internet if you're creative enough. You can join their groups. You can do all this shit that I wasn't able to do. We didn't have the internet. We didn't have social media.

We didn't have all this free content. And what do you do? Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. You're by Louis Vuitton fucking red bottom shoes and act like you're a fucking baller on the internet. You're like a fucking clown. Period. I don't even know what else I want to say. I don't really fucking care. I'll be honest, dude. There's some of you guys I'm really proud of. But when I said the 75 hard, there's going to be two people to finish. There's maybe more than two that finish. I'm proud of you guys. You guys are fucking putting it up.

But, you know, this fucking bullshit of like, oh, after I get back from vacation, I'm going to, motherfucker, you're supposed to do it on vacation. That's what it's supposed to be. It's supposed to be hard. I traveled fucking 10 times when I did my shit. You guys didn't know it because I didn't fucking post it. What else should I say, Vaughn? Did I? I covered it all?

Like, everybody should just stop being a fucking whiny bitch and actually... I know they won't. They fucking won't. That's why I'm asking them to quit following me. I'm asking them to stop following me. They're making me fucking miserable. They're stupid questions. They're fucking...

When I put out fucking, how much money have I spent on this podcast? A million, two million bucks in the last fucking, I made none. I made none. I fucking have over fucking a million to two million dollars sunk in this podcast for the last fucking four years that I could have monetized heavily.

I passed up two seven figure deals for sponsorship because I don't drink what I was offered the fucking deal for. And I don't wear what I was offered the other deal for. I don't run ads. I don't know what the fuck else I could do to fucking help these motherfuckers. At some point, dude, they got to start getting it. They got to start fucking taking the steps. They got to start fucking acting. And dude, they got to start getting it. They got to start fucking taking the steps. They got to start fucking acting. And dude, when you're asking me, how do I take my shower? When, when, like, what the fuck is wrong with you, man? How do I do visualization when I've done seven fucking podcasts on visualization and a million fucking videos on it. What the fuck, guys?

I'm not your little fucking bitch just here to fucking dance and sing whenever you need a fucking answer. Like, I don't understand the fucking, I don't understand the fucking, the dots not connecting for you all. I don't know. They're going to hit rock bottom. I know they're going to. It's just fucking, it's fucking ridiculous, dude. And I'm tired of it. It sucks. It sucks the life out of me because I do care, you know, and I know I'm going to get a bunch

of messages. Oh, Andy, we really don't fucking message me that shit I don't care if you fucking love me or not I don't fucking care you think if I would have quit I would have already quit if I was going to stop I would have already stopped a bunch of whiny motherfuckers crying about this or that ain't going to make me stop if you hadn't figured that out by now

don't get too fucking big for your britches not only will I not stop you couldn't figured that out by now, don't get too fucking big for your britches. Not only will I not stop, you couldn't fucking stop me. And that's the fucking difference. That's the fucking difference. I'm trying to show you motherfuckers how to create a situation where you become a true unstoppable fucking force. And instead, you're crying to me about the cold shower being tough.

Or I don't know how to do the visualization or my boss is a dick he's not loyal and then to come to find out he provides all the fucking tools that you need so where's the fucking problem here the problem is not me it's not your boss it's not the information available it's not the tools available. It's not the opportunity available. It's fucking you. It's fucking you. And yes, you, yes, you who is listening right now, it's you. You're thinking, oh, that's funny. He's talking to all these motherfuckers. No, I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you directly. All the guys right now are thinking, I'm not, he's not talking to me. He's talking to them. No, I'm talking to you. That's your problem. Your problem is you think I'm talking to everyone else. When I'm talking to you, you're thinking, oh yeah, I got my shit together, but you're leaving fucking 90% of your shit on the table. You know how I know that? Cause I've done that.

I've done that. I know what it feels like. And now that I fucking went through this last phase of my life, which was a 75 hard program, I could clear anybody who's gone through it will understand this. I can clearly delineate and identify when you're fucking making bullshit excuses more than you can, which is pretty much all the time. Anytime a job doesn't get done, no matter what the reason, you're making an excuse. You're making an excuse. You're playing some sort of victim mentality in your fucking brain. Oh yeah, I could have done this, but blah, blah, blah. And then you think, well, most people wouldn't have done it like that either. So it's okay. And you justify it. That's why you're fucking losing.

That's why you're fucking losing. I don't know what else to say to you motherfuckers, man, but I'm going to tell you this. When you have every fucking tool, you have every resource, you have all this shit available. You have all these opportunities available, all this new awesome technology, and you're still not getting it done, man, you're in for a rough fucking life, dude. That's just the way it is. It's just the way it is. And maybe that's okay with you, but I'm going to tell you right now, you guys who are dead set on winning, who are dead set on dominating. It'll happen, man. There is no magic to it. There's no fucking magic to it.

All these other motherfuckers I'm talking to right now that are like pretenders, they think there's magic. There is no magic. This is about time. This is why I don't fucking speak. This is why I don't go to fucking speeches. I'm speaking to Thrive this weekend, but that's probably going to be the last event I fucking speak at for fucking a long time outside of Arte. And I'm going to tell you why. Because I can't stand hearing the bullshit. We get Q&A. I'm standing there. I fucking sit on stage. Every fucking event I go to, sit on stage, it's Q&A time. So people come and they stand and they wait in line for Q&A.

Now, I built a nine-figure company from fucking nothing. From nothing. The last question I would be interested in asking me is the first question everybody asks because they're weak. Andy, can you tell me how you deal with haters? Yeah, motherfucker. I drive the baddest fucking car I can, post it online and piss them off. That's how I deal with

fucking haters. Why would you ask that? Dude, you have the opportunity to ask anything. How did you do this? How did you do that? How did you do this? But yet the quality of the question is, how did you deal with haters? Dude, if you can't deal with fucking haters, you sure as fuck don't got it. That's the bottom line. And this podcast really don't have a fucking point other than I'm just venting. Like you guys need to wake the fuck up. Like, wake the fuck up. Nobody's coming to fucking get you. Nobody's coming to present you with the get rich quick. Nobody's going to put you on top of the mountain.

You have to fucking walk. It's one foot in front of the other. And guess what? It's going to take five fucking years. That's it. Now, you can go buy someone else's course or buy someone else's this or that. The promise is more. But I'll gladly accept a letter of apology saying, man, I should have listened to you

fucking five years ago whenever you told me that. Because I've been doing this for about five years and saying the same shit over and over again. That's the truth. You know why I say the same shit over and over again? Because there's only so much shit to say. At the end of the day, you got to do your fucking part. And most of you just ain't willing to do it. And if you want to win, you better redefine your fucking expectations. You better redefine your fucking entitlement. You better lose your fucking entitlement and you better learn that this shit is going to take time. It's going to take dedicated effort and it's going to be hard as fuck and you're going to be lonely as fuck and you can only depend on yourself.

That's it. And you motherfuckers who are in a company right now who maybe don't run a company, but you just listen to this shit. If you're not maximizing and kicking everybody's ass in your own company at the position you're at, you're nothing. You're fucking nothing. And in the terms of world truth, you're irrelevant. So how is an irrelevant fucking cog in a wheel that really just exists going to ever become something more than that? It's not gonna happen.

You have to become vital. You have to become crucial. You have to become, as Seth Godin calls it, a linchpin. Some person that the company cannot run without them. Guess what'll happen then? Then you get fucking paid. And a lot of you guys are so arrogant and so entitled that right now you're thinking,

I am one of those people. But the truth is you're not one of those people. You know how I know you're not one of those people? Because I'm barely one of those people. And I run my shit. I've set my companies up the right way. If I fucking die or if I got to move on or if I fuck something happens to me, guess what? My shit moves. It keeps going. So if I'm not that, how the fuck are you that? You guys better figure it the fuck out. Or you're going to be broke as fuck. That's all I got to say to you today. you