REAL AF with Andy Frisella - THURSDAY THUNDER: To Hell With Your Excuses, with Andy Frisella, MFCEOTT3

Episode Date: September 24, 2015

So, you have excuses for why you fail to accomplish anything in business or life? Andy Frisella says, "To hell with your excuses."  There is nothing--not one thing--that can keep you from success.  Vaughn Kohler joins him in the studio.

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you remember that dude yeah yeah with the afro i bet you could have i bet you could have an afro like that though dude my hair is super curly when i believe it i believe it okay so since you got into the habit of shooting things down i thought we would spend a little time with you shooting things down tonight okay okay or i get i don't with you shooting things down tonight. Okay. Okay? Or I don't know why I said tonight. Because you're vibing up the fucking feel. It's Larry King live

over there, buddy. Yeah, exactly. Vaughn King. All right. What names we got for Vaughn? Vaughn the Impaler. Vaughn King. The Pastor of Disaster.

Vaughn Diesel. Vaughn Diesel. Jean-Claude Van Damme. That's bad. All right. All right. So do you believe in people making excuses for themselves? Oh, yeah, totally.

Yeah, I figured you do. That's the vibe of this entire podcast. So what I thought we'd do, and I really hope you go for this because I don't have any other ideas right now, is I'm going to fire out five common excuses, and I want you to tell me what you think of each one of these excuses. Perfect. Okay. Number one. Sounds exactly like what I want to do right now.

Okay, great. All right, so I'm meeting one-on-one with Andy. I mean, do we have any more fucking excuses in society? I don't think we do. Let's have some more. Or could. Yeah. I don't think we could.

That's what I meant to say. Fuck, man. Okay, so these are going to be tough tough i know you're going to have a hard time tearing these down okay okay so excuse number one for why someone is not successful i'm not very smart i don't get straight a's at school are you being serious yeah that's excuse number one that's i'm just not very smart well first of all you must not be very smart because that's the worst fucking excuse i've ever fucking heard let's be real here you know i went through school being a c student maximum if i got a fucking c dude i was just happy as hell to get a c yeah you know yeah um you know david letterman gives out scholarships for c students look man c is average yeah it doesn't mean you're dumb yeah that's how

i look that's true so you don't think book smarts translate into hell no people think this is one of those excuses that people will cultivate and make themselves believe because society's standard of what is smart is based upon some numerical grading system you know there is a lot of things dude like i said i got d's and c's and i'm far more successful than most of the people that i know that I went to school with, you know, are there people better than me? Yeah, there are. I'm not saying that to brag. I'm just saying that it's not, it's not a true reference point of, you know, success, you know, people. And it's sad because, you know, you'll grow up and your teachers will tell you that. And I've

had people tell me this. I've even posted this on Instagram before and i've had people tell me this i even post this on instagram before i've had people tell me like hey andy you're you're a fucking c student you know people like you don't go very far in life and i had i had a guidance counselor tell me that right to my face you know what i mean and dude i had enough i had enough confidence at the time you know to not like go bury my head in the sand and think that i was meant to like you know work on a fucking factory line somewhere or do some mindless job. But the reality is, is that, you know, society is geared towards creating worker bees. They make people think that if they don't get fucking A's, they're not going to be successful. And the reality is what is an A? An A is, is an indication of somebody's ability to

follow directions. What is school? School is, is, school? School is a cultivation for somebody to follow directions inside of a system that's predetermined for them. An entrepreneur designs their own fucking system. So when we talk about A's and B's and C's and D's and F's and all this shit, all it is is an indication of how will you follow directions, you know? So I would argue, my personal belief is that I would argue that if you get A's, you know, you're likely to go follow life's quote unquote path that you're supposed to be on

and do everything you're supposed to. And then when you're, you know, in your mid forties, you're going to say, what the fuck? I did everything I was supposed to, and here I am, and this is all I got. So, you know, there's going to be people who listen to the say, okay, so Andy, if I hear you correctly, you're telling me just to blow off my studies. Look, man, it depends on what you're going to school for. I mean, if you're going to school to be a fucking neurosurgeon, it's probably pretty important that you get A's. You know, if you're going to school to be an architect, it's probably pretty important that you learn what you need to do. If you're going to school to be a nurse, it's probably pretty important that you learn what you need to do if you're going to school to be a nurse it's probably pretty important that you do that you do well you know

don't take my words out of context you know anybody listening this has average intelligence or more knows what i'm saying right all right so i'm not saying uh blow off your studies it depends on what you're going to school for but if you're going to school to be an entrepreneur to listen to somebody about entrepreneurship that's never owned a business who's the dummy you're going to learn far more by going out and opening a business you know no matter if it's a popsicle stand lemonade stand door-to-door sales multi-level marketing it doesn't fucking matter you're going to learn more you know so okay i mean the bottom line is is that you know thinking that you can't do something because you think you're not very smart because society tells you you're not very smart.

You know, that's something you're going to have to overcome. Period. Number two. I was born into poverty and don't have the resources that you rich people do. Who rich people? You rich people. You were obviously born with a silver spoon in your mouth right yeah just like every other fucking person that started a business from nothing and grew into something you know this is a funny excuse that i get at the gas station when i pull up in my lamborghini or my rolls royce and they

say must be nice must be nice i'm like yeah it was fucking nice sleeping in the back of my store for two fucking years, not getting paid for 10 fucking years. Really nice. When was the last time you did something like that for 10 fucking years? When was the last time you dedicated 16 years of your life to something besides eating, breathing or sleeping at all? Most people can never answer that. And that's exactly what I fucking say to those people. So I would say you have two choices. You can either choose to look at your situation as an obstacle and you could say, man, I don't have these advantages. I don't have this. I don't have that. So I can't fucking do it. And then you go live your life, be a fucking average dude, you know, sit on the bar stool at 430 on a Tuesday and

talk about how you didn't have the advantages so you couldn't do anything. Or you could look at yourself and say, wow, I've got the potential to create a fucking awesome story that inspires millions of people about my success. And maybe I could, maybe I could create, uh, even if it's moderate success for myself, create something that my children and my friends and my family is proud of. And that I'm proud of that leaves a legacy of what my time here on earth meant. You have two options and those are your two options. So you can fucking be nothing, do nothing, stand for nothing,

or you can go out and do fucking something. And the reality is, is there's never been more opportunity than there is today to be successful. There's never been more opportunity than there is today to start a business from nothing. There's never been more opportunity than there is today to be successful. And if you can't see that, I don't know what the fuck to tell you. Well, Andy, you're right. So I do have a little bit of money, but I have a little bit of money but i have a disability so i can't succeed in life what does what's your disability uh i have one leg you have one leg so you can't succeed in business you can't google you can't fucking use a keyboard you can't use an email you can't use it social media

i'm just different i i don't experience life the same way. Here's the bottom line is people are going to find fucking excuses in every little thing that they have. Okay. Whether dude, I've heard people tell me that, you know, I don't, I didn't grow up with rich parents. I didn't grow up with people. People don't invest in me. Look, dude, we grew up with fucking regular middle-class family type shit. Me and my business partner, every fucking successful person I know who has grown up and started a business from scratch, grew up in a fucking working class family.

You know why they were able to succeed? Because they fucking grew up in a situation where people had to work. You know, the problem nowadays is that everybody wants to be special. Everybody wants to have their fucking, you know, their, their, their special little thing that makes them not able to do it. And they'd rather

have the attention to, they'd rather have the attention of not being able to do it because they fucking missing a leg or they're missing this, or they, they didn't have this opportunity. They didn't have that opportunity. And they'd rather have that fucking attention than they would have the attention of being successful because they're too pussy to do the fucking work. And that's the bottom line. Okay. So you could tell me and, you know, you're missing an arm, you're missing a leg, you're doing this, you're doing that. You didn't have the financial resources.

You didn't have people that believe in you. You didn't have backing. You didn't have whatever. I don't fucking care what it was. But your story is going to be developed by overcoming whatever that obstacle is. And while other people, you know, may not have the same obstacle that you have, there's plenty of people that have more difficult obstacles that have accomplished far more than you probably ever fucking will by just accepting the fact that they have that,

using it to their advantage in some way or somehow and moving forward. And like the reality is, is the things that you're trying. I know what you're trying to do. You're trying to get me prodded up to talk about this shit. But the reality is, is that everybody in society nowadays, you know, look at the statuses on fucking Facebook. OK, nine out of 10 fucking Facebook statuses is somebody bitching about something or crying about something or spreading some negativity. It makes me fucking sick. You know, kids nowadays grow up with their parents telling them they did a good job when they fucking lost. No, you didn't

do a good job when you fucking lost. Here's what you need to do to win. And that's that. But we don't have that anymore in our society. we have a bunch of fucking pussies running things telling everybody that they're special telling everybody that they're delicate flowers telling everybody that you know oh well success is for the other guy it's for the kardashians that you see on fucking tv okay or it's for the people you see on cribs it's not for you dude we're filled with the society of bullshit in every fucking way. And that's the whole purpose of the MFCEO project. It's not to fucking, you know, get on here and talk about, you know, holding hands and singing Kumbaya. It's about get on here and understand that no matter

what your fucking excuse, no matter what your situation, no matter where you came from, no matter what you do. And there's a motherfucker right now listening and saying, but you don't understand. You're right. I don't understand. What I do understand though, is that you're too big of a pussy to fucking do anything about it. Period. You know, people are fucking pussies, man.

You know, most people couldn't survive. Most people can't even fucking fathom that other people have bigger challenges than them. You know, what about the dude? I was driving through North St. Louis, man, which is a predominantly black community. Or I'm driving through St. Louis and I see these fucking 10 year old kids on the fucking corner. And it got me thinking, man, you know, you're on the MSCO project and you're talking about all these people and all this opportunity that's out there. And you're talking about, you know, not making excuses and this and that. And I thought about, when I looked at those kids, I thought, man, you know, is the information I'm giving out really true? Do these people really have an opportunity or, or am I just talking about certain people? Okay. And I thought about it and

I thought about it for a couple hours because I was at, I was visiting my friend who was downtown St. Louis. And you know, the truth is, is that it would be harder for somebody like that because they have less positive around to look at and less positive measuring sticks to measure themselves up against. Okay. But the reality of it is, is that it's still possible. They could still invest their time in improving. They could still find the role models in their community and stick to them. They could still learn from people who are doing things right. They could still, you know, do the best that they can in school. They could still work to be something more than what they are. And while they may have started at a different place,

the amount of progress that they can make in their life, it's still the same, you know? So we have people all the time who make these fucking excuses, dude, are you going to be Bill Gates? Are you going to be fucking, uh, Donald Trump? Are you going to be, uh, what's the Oracle Omaha? What's his name? Warren Buffett. Warren Buffett. No, you might not be. But dude, there's no question that in this country, at this point in time, every single fucking person can greatly improve where they are from where they want to be.

You can make that fucking journey and just sit there and cry and make excuses about your childhood or your fucking, you know, your accident you got into or this or that, unless you're like severely handicapped where you require care 24 seven, you mentally can't think you don't have a fucking excuse. It's invalid period. And most people are so blessed with so much good and opportunity to do good that they take it for granted. They're fucking healthy. They have average fucking intelligence.

They were raised in a decent home. You know what I'm saying? They have all these things and they take them for granted. And they say, oh, well, I can't do it because fucking I'm not, you know, Dale Earnhardt Jr. Or I can't do it because I'm not fucking Kim Kardashian. Do you can't do it because you're a pussy and you won't do the fucking work? And that's the end of the day, because because even if you work at fucking McDonald's right now. You can make your fucking french fries better.

You can make the burgers better. You could take pride in what you do at that fucking job and increase your position in that job and eventually end up owning a McDonald's fucking franchise, which could earn you upwards of a million dollars per year, period. And that's a fact, you know, and we have people all day long. All they say is, you know, Oh, I can't do it because of this. Oh, I can't. No, you know, and we have people all day long. All they say is, you know, Oh, I can't do it because of this. Oh, I can't. No, you choose not to do it. You choose to fucking play call of duty as opposed to fucking reading a book. You choose to fucking not do the little things that are required. You choose to say things like, Oh, they don't pay me enough to do that. Fuck these guys. You choose that shit. And guess what? The people who fucking don't pay me enough to do that Fuck these guys you choose that shit

And guess what the people who fucking don't choose that shit are the ones that end up succeeding That's it. There's nothing to it, you know, so any excuse that you want to give Or say or do or whatever It's bullshit. I don't care what it is. I just don't I've seen it far too many and And I'm not talking about just myself. Go fucking read about people, people who have been successful. Everybody has a story. And your story is either, you know, I have all this hardship so I couldn't make it.

Or it's going to be, dude, I had all this hardship. And guess what? I still fucking made it. And so can you. And that's what we get into talking about legacy. And we talk about what your life is going to mean. We talk about the impact you're going to have for the rest of your fucking life you know when you're dead is your life going to actually fucking matter well i could tell you this if you use your excuses that you fucking had a bad childhood because the reason why you

couldn't do anything you sure as fuck aren't going to matter you're not going to make a dent in this world and that's that's the end of the story you know we could talk about excuses all day but dude i don't feel bad for one motherfucking person on this earth that makes excuses and if you're listening right now and you're thinking but you don't understand no motherfucker you don't understand Outro Music