REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Two Things You Can Do Right Now To Be Happy, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO250

Episode Date: August 3, 2018

Most people talk about happiness as if it's this mystical, mysterious force that you have no control over. That is 1000 percent false. Like so many other things in this world, happiness is something you have to earn. It is the result of actions you take. In this episode, I drop two practical things you need to DO...two practical things everybody CAN do...to earn the right to be happy.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, today is Friday fire, and I've got a good Friday message for you about how to be truly happy, not how all the gurus and fluff balls and fucking weirdos out there tell you to be happy. I'm going to tell you how to be really happy. All right. But before I get to that, if this is your first time listening, welcome. All right. This is an entrepreneurship podcast. Yes, it is also a personal development podcast. Yes, it is also sometimes we just fuck around podcast.

But our goal here, our overlying goal is to make you the motherfucking CEO of you. All right. This isn't you have to own a business podcast. You have to be obsessed with money podcasts. Now, yeah, we talk about a lot of that shit because it is entrepreneurship based. But the truth is, is entrepreneurship is more of a mentality and a culture than it is about actually being something. And developing that mentality is what's going to cause you to excel in all areas of your life, whether that be your business, your career.

Doesn't mean you have to own the business. You could be working inside of a company and be an entrepreneur. Your personal relationships, your fitness, all the things that make up excellence in your life are going to benefit from what we talk about on the show. Now, we don't run a million ads on the show. You're going to notice that. Most of these other motherfuckers run 20 minutes of ads, and the reason they do that is because they get paid a lot of fucking money to do so. Most of the podcasts that are of this caliber,

the guys are making $2, $3, $4 million a year just off the ads. I don't do that for a reason because I don't want to waste your time, all right? But what I do ask is I ask that if you get value out of this podcast, out of this episode that you share it. All right. And that could be through a conversation. It could be through telling someone it could be through making a post on social medias. It could be doing a lot of different things. But what I ask is that you take a few minutes and tell some of your like-minded buddies that, hey, you guys need to be on to this podcast. All right. That's how we grow.

And we've grown tremendously over the years because we have very loyal following. A lot of people think that when I ask for referral, I'm talking about one referral over the course of 280 episodes or whatever we've had so far. No, I'm asking for one referral per episode when you listen. So I know for sure it's a very small fee to ask because every single episode you're going to learn something that will greatly improve one aspect of your life. And today we're going to talk about being happy. Now, if you look on the internet, you're going to hear all this shit about self-love and accepting yourself and letting yourself off the hook and forgiving yourself and all this other shit. And does that shit have some validity? Sometimes it does. But here's the truth about

being happy. You got to fucking earn it. All right. And if you ask people who are unhappy, why they're unhappy, most of the time they can't tell you. Most of the time they're going to tell you that it's an external force. It's their boss being a jerk. It's their spouse giving them a hard time. It's their friends being mean to them. It's life's not fair and they're going to throw it on something. But the truth is, is like anything good in life, anything, you have to fucking earn it. All right. Now you've heard me say this before when we talk about self-esteem, confidence and all this shit, because you got the fucking self-lovers out there right now that try to tell you, oh, you should just be happy and you should just have self-esteem and you should just have confidence.

No, that's not the way it works. And that's why no matter how much positive affirmation bullshit you shove down your ears, you never feel any fucking better, all right? Having self-esteem, having self-worth, having confidence, they come from doing things that you're supposed to do. They come from upholding the things you're supposed to do. So what I want to talk about today, we talk about this on other podcasts, so I'm not going to get into that part of it

because I've talked about it a lot. I'm going to talk about two things that can greatly affect your happiness in a positive way. All right. There's two things that you need to do if you want to be happy. All right. If you're sitting there and you're not happy and you're frustrated and you're angry and you're looking around trying to figure out what's wrong, I'm going to give you a couple of clues for you to figure it out. Number one, you're not challenging yourself enough. You're not demanding enough of yourself. You're probably bored, all right? That could be in every area of your life. You could be in your fitness and you're not doing your workouts. You're not working out hard. You're doing lazy people shit, all right? You're going in, you're working out with no purpose, no intensity. You're not following your nutrition. You're not following the things that you know you should do.

All right. It could be in your business. You're not fucking working hard. All right. When you, I'm sure when people ask, if you work hard, you tell them, yeah, but the truth is your heart knows and your brain knows if you're spending six hours on fucking Instagram a day, instead of doing the shit that you're supposed to be doing. So the first thing that's going to make you unhappy is when you're not demanding enough of yourself. And the reason that's going to make you unhappy is because you know, in your heart and your soul and your brain that you are capable of much more. And when you're not challenging yourself the way that you should be, you're going to feel dead inside. You're going to feel empty inside. You're going to feel frustrated. You're going to feel angry. You're going to hate yourself. You're going to feel

depressed. And the reason that you feel that way is because you're not pushing yourself as hard as you should be, which is counterproductive to what all the feel gooders out there are telling you. They're telling you, Oh, feel good about yourself. Oh, you know what? You're human. Oh, you know what? You should feel good. Oh, take a break. Fuck that. The reason that you feel like shit is because you've taken a break your whole fucking life. That's the truth. All right. So that's the first thing. If you want to get happy, start demanding enough of yourself, start forcing yourself, start pushing yourself, start challenging yourself to do the things you know you're

capable of doing. Stop trying to slide by on the least possible effort. Stop trying to slide by on the least possible work. Those are the reasons that you're not happy right now. Okay. And the second reason that you're not happy and that you could need to fix is that when you live a life that's not congruent with what your core beliefs are of right or wrong, you're going to feel unhappy. All right. What do I mean by that? Well, what I mean by that is this, you in your heart, and we all have different sets of core beliefs, but you in your heart and your soul have a set of core values or beliefs that you believe about the world and yourself. All right. You know what's right or wrong. You know what you're capable of. You know what you should be doing. And when you

don't do those things, you're going to feel shitty inside. You're going to feel angry. You're going to feel frustrated. You're going to feel depressed. You're going to feel unfulfilled. That's just the reality. Okay. If you want to be happy, you've got to learn to live in congruency with what your true core beliefs are inside. All right. You can't expect to think that, you know, that you should be working as hard as you can. And you you know that's the right thing you do but you sit on the couch and watch tv or you'd half-ass your work or you do half-ass projects or you put it off onto other people you can't expect to live both those lives and feel happy all right and i would believe i believe this is the reason most people aren't happy. You can't believe that it's not okay to cheat on your spouse

and then go out and cheat on your spouse and then expect to feel fucking good in your heart. All right? You have to live congruent with what your values are. You have to live congruent with what you believe is right and wrong. And when you're not doing that, you're going to feel like shit. Okay. So how do we fix these things? Well, the first one's easy, right? Start fucking challenging yourself. Start pushing yourself. Start challenging yourself to do things that you know you're supposed to do. Start challenging yourself to do things you know

are going to be hard and doing them. okay? That's going to make you feel proud. That's going to make you feel good. The second one, you're going to have to spend some time examining what your core values are, what your core beliefs are, what you feel is truly right and wrong. And then the hard part is going to be you adjusting your lifestyle to align with that, okay? But once you do, you're going to feel better. You're going to feel happier. You're going to feel more confident. You're going to have more self-esteem when you do these two different things, all right?

So guys, if you want to be happy, all right, challenge yourself. Demand more of yourself. If you want to be happy, live a life that's congruent with what you believe is right and wrong. Don't violate those core values. When you violate them, you're going to feel bad. So guys, that's my podcast for today. If you got value out of it, give it a share.

Let me know what you think and make sure you leave a review. It really helps us out. All right, guys. I got something new coming for you too, man. I'm gonna start doing something on Sundays. I think a little Sunday sermon, me and Vaughn are talking about something. So maybe keep an eye out for that. All right, guys, thank you for all the support. Love you guys. I'll talk to you soon. you