REAL AF with Andy Frisella - What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do, Part 2, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO76

Episode Date: July 12, 2016

This is part 2 of a 2-part series. The MFCEO hears this all the time: “Andy, I’m passionate and hard-working. But I just don’t know what to do with my life.” While he’s addressed this issue in Snapchat and Periscope in short segments, he’s never unpacked his thoughts in a systematic, comprehensive way. 

What's up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys if this is your first time listening welcome this is part two of a two-part podcast based upon what to do when you don't know what to do. So we're going to skip the small talk. We're going to get right into it. If you haven't listened to the first part of this two-part podcast, you need to go back and listen to that. Otherwise, this is going to make no sense. I'm here with my co-host, Vaughn Kohler. What's up, dude? What's up? I'm ready to get at it. Yeah, me too. This is going to be an extremely important message for you guys who are in this situation.

We get a ton of questions a week, and a lot of them are the same. And I would say the most popular one is, man, hey, I want to be successful, but I don't know where I should start or what I should do. I mean, do you agree? Absolutely. That's probably the most popular one. We get that question all the time. Yeah, I mean, guys, when you're wanting success, you have to realize that it's,

a lot of people, let me put it this way, a lot of people are in love with the idea of success. The house, the car, the bank account, the freedom, the power, the popularity, blah, account, the freedom, the power, the popularity, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Those are byproducts of the work. Okay. So when you're falling in love with the prize or with the, um, the, the prizes, the rewards, whatever you want to call them of the work, the, the, the side effects, the outcomes of yourself, you have to realize that that's something that comes with solving problems. It comes with finding solutions. It comes with innovating. It comes with offering value. It's not success that you need to be focusing on.

It's the process of solving problems and the other things that I just mentioned. So many of you guys get excited when you see a nice car and get excited when you see a big house. And I understand that because I do too. But you have to understand and separate and realize that those rewards are the product of you being good at the process. All right. So many people missed that point. So I wanted to hit that before we get right back into where we were last time we left off. Um, we start changing the way you think. And we talked a little bit about the law of attraction. Uh, we got into some books. You're going to have to go back and listen cause I'm not going to hit it back. The next point that we want to talk about

is figuring out your core values. Okay. Um, this is a huge one because our values as humans are going to always drive what we end up wanting to do in our lives, okay? It's also huge because knowing our core values will help us make decisions about which direction to go in life at any given certain point. And if you know your core values really well, you may be presented with a

great opportunity, but know that it's not a great opportunity for you. For example, a lot of you guys, you know, you chase money. You see things that are financially rewarding and you say, oh yeah, I'm going to do that. Even though you might hate the process. Okay. The process might be like the worst possible thing for you, but you're like i'm gonna do it because it pays well Eventually guys that's gonna wear you out. It's gonna beat you up It's gonna punch you in the face a million times and you're not gonna be able to do it with that mindset I'm, sorry. I don't know one once I know a lot of millionaires and I know a few billionaires Not one of them does something that they don't like

Not one of them does something that is not aligned with the core values of who they are as a person. You know, I think a lot of us don't have a vision for our lives because we don't have our values figured out. Guys, my first 10 years in business, I had no idea what the fuck core values even were. I really didn't. Um, I, and I'll bet more than half of you right now don't know what they are. Okay. And defining them as extremely crucial point of, of progressing because putting in the work to decide what you are, what you're about, what you're willing to do and what you believe in is ultimately going to define and, and, and direct your actions towards success. Right. So this is one of those moments where straddling in that line between being a success podcast

and being a business podcast might create some confusion. So when you tell people to determine your core values, are you saying for you as a person, what guides you? What, you know, what's your, what are the points on your moral compass? Or are you talking more about your business? Well, I think they're the same. I think that those two things are the same. Because if your core values don't align with the core values you set more about your business? Well, I think they're the same. I think that those two things are the same. Because if your core values don't align

with the core values you set up for your business or the career path that you're going to choose, you're never going to be able to do it with a full heart, with all your heart, all your momentum, all your power, all your energy, which is what it takes to be successful. Basically, if you don't fucking believe in it with everything you have,

you're not going to get to that point where those rewards that you are you know dreaming about right now are going to materialize you understand what i'm saying that makes total sense so so what another way of saying this like you can't have core values of like say hey i'm an honest guy hey i i i'm a man of integrity uh you know i go the extra mile and then go out and sell uh a bullshit get rich quick scheme to people who are uh you know hungry for that message right my core values are those things and a lot of other things which is why i don't go out there and do you know how easy it'd be for me to fucking take pictures of my cars dude i got 11 exotic cars right now i could fucking do a video fucking go through my garage and be like yeah guys all it takes is for you to buy my program.

And you know what? You'll be successful too. You'll be on the road, blah, blah, blah. And then I could go pay somebody to tell a bullshit story of, you know, yeah, I follow Andy's principles and now I'm a millionaire. Dude, I'd probably make fucking 500 grand a month selling the program. Easily. Easily. Easily. But I don't do that because it's not aligned with my core values of doing the right things. Right? Yeah. And you also have a lot of clarity in the decisions you make on a day-to-day basis. So, so question that I have, would another way of saying this would be, you can't know what to do if you do not know who you are and what you stand for. Is that another way of putting it? I think that's a great place to start. For me personally, I went through nine years of business before I ever even understood what core values were. During that time, I made no money. The

most money I made during that first nine years was $695 a month. Once I identified my core values and understood that I was there to serve people, I was there to do the right thing, I was there for the long haul. And since I'm here for the people. I was there to do the right thing. I was there for the long haul. And since I'm here for the long haul, I understand that doing the right thing now is what ultimately pays later. The rest is history, right? Yeah.

I mean, nine years in, I made $695 a month. Right. That's kind of crazy. Nobody would have gotten to that. Very few people would have gotten to that point. Yeah. I was trying to make money. I wasn't trying to serve people once i switched in my mind the the mentality of trying to produce money or make money or be a fucking baller you know into i'm trying to help people

solve a problem i'm trying to solve their problem i'm trying to make them have such a great experience that they tell everybody dude that's when shit started happening. Right, right. Okay. So in practical terms, share with me or share with everybody a couple of the key core values that drive you and your company, and then just walk through, I mean, how did you even arrive at those? Well, it's basic things, okay? Like be disciplined, right? You know what you have to do on a day-to-day basis, and you have to be disciplined to do those things with a hundred percent enthusiasm, which is another core value, be enthusiastic, even when you don't feel like doing it. Okay. It's real easy to come to work when you feel good and kick ass. It's totally

different thing to come to work and kick ass when you feel like shit, or you don't, you're tired of talking to people or you're, you're irritated with people or your girlfriend's mad at you or your wife's mad at you or, you know, something bad has happened in your family, those are the days that make the difference. Because anybody can do good when they feel like doing good. So be disciplined, be enthusiastic about it, even when you don't feel like it. Take initiative. Don't wait around for somebody to give you permission to do things. If you see something that needs to be done, there's value in that. If you're an employee of a company and nobody told you to go sweep the warehouse floor and make it

spot perfect, but you do it on your own without being told, you have to realize that there's value in that and that value will eventually be recognized. And that can go for any task that needs to happen. You know, cleaning the back, little things make a big difference in my, like, dude, I'm the CEO of our company All right Little things make the biggest difference and I'm giving you my perspective when I see somebody who takes care of the little little details that everybody Else passes on dude that impresses me It's not like the guy who necessarily goes out and this is valuable to goes out and finds a way to make the company money

It doesn't have to be these big things What impresses me is the person who takes the initiative to do the little things, because I know if they do the fucking little things perfect, guess what? They're going to do the big things perfect. So taking initiative, going the extra mile would be something that goes along with that. You know, making sure that every single time you have an opportunity or talk to a customer, you're not only just serving them with what they expect. You're doing something every single time to go above and beyond that and figuring out. You know, these are all, I mean, dude, we have 12 core values that we live by,

and that's a whole different podcast, but I'm just throwing out some examples, right? Stay humble, all right? You know why you have to be humble? Because the minute you're not humble, the minute you think you're good, the minute you think you're better than somebody else, you lose the ability to learn, which is another core value. Always be learning. All these things tie together. You get what I'm saying?

Yeah, absolutely. Okay, so we could do a whole podcast on this. And we will. Yeah, we definitely will. They all tie together and they all form a spider web, so to speak, or interlocking, you know, solid wall or platform to launch your values of your business and of your personal character. Right. And, you know, if you want your company to be effective and if you want to be effective, you've got to live by those. You've got to not only just like, a lot of people have core values up on their wall. Like, you know, like in a high school locker room, everybody had a motivational board, right? That nobody ever fucking paid attention to.

That's not core values. Core values are defining them, talking about them, communicating in those terms. For example, if I correct an employee who just did the minimum with a customer and I said, hey, bro, you didn't go the extra mile on that at all. You didn't make an effort to. You know what I mean? That's how you correct your employees. That's how you correct yourself. You have to speak in those terms. And so this is a whole different lesson. But the point is, if you don't know what the fuck you stand for, you stand for nothing. And that's it. So be Captain Obvious for a little bit here and flesh it out.

I mean, just spell it out for people who are having a difficulty. So some guy comes to you and says, okay, Andy, I can say with a clear conscience, I have an incredible work ethic, all right? I literally don't know what to do with my life. So tell me how having these core values is gonna give me the next step.

Because you're gonna be able to identify things that will potentially be the wrong path, okay? Do you follow what I'm saying? Yes. So you're going to be able to, a lot of guys go down a million paths cause they don't know which way to go. Well, what if you have a filter that's going to help you delineate and decide and filter out which ones are going to be the wrong ones? Gotcha. This is what that serves. Process of elimination. Exactly. So let's say you have a hundred paths and 70 of them are wrong and you define who you are, what you are, what you stand for. And you, you make a decision based around those values. You're going to be able to identify the seven. So now you only got 30 to look at. You know what I mean? Absolutely. That, I mean, even that was even a little bit unclear in

my mind, but I'm so I'm glad I asked that. So that makes a lot of sense. So you're ready to go to the next one. Yeah. What is it? All right. Do something to better yourself every day, both practically. And I know the word morally is kind of a got some baggage as a word, but I'm talking about developing your skills and developing your character every day. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, greatness is success. It doesn't, it doesn't start with what you do. It starts with who you are, you know, simple things, man, like helping somebody every day. You know, you, you helping someone could be the catalyst for figuring out what it is you're supposed to do.

You know, holding the door open for a lady that's got her hands full, uh, putting the shopping carts away at the grocery store, even though you're not the one that left them out. You know what I mean? Everybody today is in this, um, it's not my fucking fault left them out you know what i mean everybody today is in this um it's not my fucking fault well you know what once you recognize the problem is there and this is good this goes back to living by your core values right once you recognize the problem was there and you didn't do anything about it whose fucking fault is it it's yours it's yours yeah so and that's

accepting responsibility which is another core value but the the point is, is that, you know, doing things that, that feel good with no reward or no expectation of reward are good for you. They're good for your character. They're good for your karma, which I'm a huge believer in. Um, and they're good for the development of, I mean, if you want to, if you want to break it down to a pure business sense, it makes you fucking look good to other people. Other people recognize it, right? So there's all these things that, there's nothing bad that could come of that, pretty much. So, you know, you could talk about the good reasons for your heart.

You could also talk about the reasons that would be considered more selfish. Like I just said, everybody sees you do it, so they think you're good. What fucking difference does it make? You're doing it, it's good shit, right? right right yeah right i wish i had the specifics of this story because i know that this has happened before and i know that i've talked to wealthy people very successful people who for whom this has happened but i know i've had people tell me like i'm in

the back of my mind wish i could remember his name but there was a businessman who told me that he was coming out of a grocery store one time and he saw exactly what you're talking about he saw some kid go out of his way to return the groceries the the grocery cart which clearly wasn't even his cart and he was like i'm gonna go talk to that kid yeah he was impressed that the kid you never know he ended up hiring him yes and i and i know that i know you you've had similar situations where you and that's another reason you know like you said it's a law of reciprocities somebody experiences yes somebody experiences you doing something positive and there's an equal and opposite reaction right and it may not become and and people argue this because they're stuck in that tit for tat mentality right i did this so i deserve this dude just eliminate

the word deserve from your fucking vocabulary you don't deserve a fucking goddamn thing all right you know what you deserve nothing right just give it get the word deserve stops so many good things from happening because people are they won't do things because they don't think there's a result they don't think there's a return they don't think there's a blah whatever and people um you know people they become jaded and bitter to doing shit that they really believe in in their heart because it's like well what the fuck am i gonna get out of it well that's your whole problem the whole problem is is that everything is about you everything is about what are you gonna get and the minute you could fucking flush that thought process down the toilet and realize that it's not about you it's's about the other person. That's when your life changes. Right. I think what people don't get, and you've said this

again and again, which is why this is why the word deserve is not even relevant is that there's a law in place. It's a law of the universe. It's like jumping off of a, it's like jumping off of a, of a diving board and saying, well, I deserve to fall into the pool. No, if you jump, you're going to fall. Exactly. So, so do the right thing. It's going to come back. Yeah. And I've, I, I can tell you every successful person I know personally believes in that and they practice it. That's not a fucking accident, man. Right. But you know what the problem is, is average Joe Blow, who doesn't know any fucking millionaires or any billionaires, they don't see that.

They see a bunch of other average Joe Blows at home sitting in their driveway cracking a fucking bush talking about how the world fucked them. So that's what they believe. You know what I mean? Dude, I've seen both. I didn't grow up in a fucking wealthy family. I grew up in a fucking regular blue collar entrepreneurial family. We weren't wealthy. We weren't poor.

My dad worked his fucking balls off to get where he was. And weren't wealthy. We weren't poor. My dad worked his fucking balls off to get where he was. And I saw it and they were all blue. It was electrical contracting. It's all fucking blue collar guys. I've heard what they think. You know what they think? Dude, the fuck the man, man fucked me, fucking world fucked me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But it has nothing to do with your thought process, right? Right. It's just, it's, it's just, dude, you have to expose yourself. We process, right? Right. It's just, it's, it's just, dude, you have to expose yourself. We talked about this when a Nehemiah was on Nehemiah Davis, you have to practically and purposely expose yourself to different kinds of people. And dude,

I'm telling you successful people on any level do not think in a negative way like that. They think in that everything good they do comes back to them and they put other people first. They just do. Now, are there exceptions to that? Sure. Let's go to Wall Street and see the Wall Street guy who makes fucking $4 million a day, you know, short in stock when everybody else is losing their ass and loves it. Yes, there is those people, but that's the picture that media tries to paint on all successful people. And all successful people aren't like that. Most successful people, and I say successful, financially more successful than I would say 98% of the rest of the population,

not the 1% of the 1% billionaire people people i'm talking about people like me you know what i mean uh people like the dude who owns you know five or six franchises of mcdonald's or something or whatever you know those people didn't get there by being negative or by doing bad things dude you just can't do it right you got to think about it like you have to have a team behind you how the fuck are you going to have a team behind you if you're negative and fuck people and treat people like shit all the time you can't build a team right you know so i we've talked about where that comes from but the point of the matter is is that can i can i share an example of something and so so i think of the guy who early on in his life you know fell in love with some girl and he got totally screwed over by her and And so as a result, from that point on, he had this really negative view toward women

and he had this negative way of responding to them. And so what happened was it was a self-fulfilled prophecy and he ended up having all of these really bad experiences and his conclusion are, well, women suck. No, what happened was you got screwed over once, it changed you, it changed the way that you related to people, and so it literally just replicated itself again and again. 100%. And so for the people that say, oh, well, what about the people that screw you over? Well, right.

There are going to be those people that screw you over. But if you allow that to change you, then that's going to become the self-fulfilling prophecy that you're going to continue to perpetuate that again and again and again. Does that make sense? Yes, 100%. Yeah. So that's kind of the way I see it. That's what most people do. For the astral.

Right, exactly. So for the right exactly so for the fire by some they got yelled at by some boss and fired somewhere along the line like fucking bosses suck right work sucks right well and you wonder why you go to work every day hating your life hating your job not making any fucking money right you know it's not it couldn't be you right you know oh no there's no way possibility it could be you you know it's you just sit on your ass every night from four o'clock until fucking 11 drinking beer couldn't be you. There's no way, possibility, it could be you. You just sit on your ass every night from 4 o'clock until fucking 11 drinking beer. Couldn't be your fault. Could also be your fault that you're fat as fuck and you're out of shape either, right? Right. Let's talk about the second part of that.

Learn something new every day. That same guy could be reading a book. Dude, I read 10 pages of a book no matter what every single day. And I have for 16 years all right um that when was the last time you know and i've ripped this stat off before on the podcast you know most people graduate high school and never read another book again right ever their whole lives right couldn't that couldn't be the reason why you never made any fucking money right you know what i mean right and that you dude most people just they they don't do shit and then they fucking blame every other thing possible on earth as to why they're not fucking you know driving a fucking ferrari or whatever whatever it is they

wanted to do when they were young before they got punched in the face the the truth of it is most people are fucking pussies that's it okay most people are too pussy to stand up and fucking do the work and instead it's just easier to fucking blame everybody else and you know which is why you know i really can't stand talking to people about anything because all i hear is complaining 99 of the time right you know what i mean right i love that you use the word something learn something new every day because again i think people get you know paralysis by analysis they're like well what should i what should i learn just learn something exercise the capability of getting better at something and learning adding to your intellectual knowledge

learning doesn't have to be reading either i mean i i purpose dude like i said there's passive learning there's active learning passive learning is what you would observe from other people like you might be in a situation where you get great service at a restaurant and then you're like, fuck, dude, that's a good idea. I might be able to pull that and do that in my profession. So you didn't mean to learn something, but you learned something. See what I'm saying? Right, absolutely.

And then there's active learning, which means like I'm dedicating this time to fucking learning, which means I'm going to read 10 pages of this book every single day this month or whatever your goal is. You know what I mean? Right. You can't read 10 fucking pages in a day. Right. Get the fuck out of here. Right.

And you start evaluating your time. When you set those kinds of goals, you start evaluating your time and realize, you know what? I can blow through five or 10 minutes in my life doing completely worthless things so easily that I might as well set these goals and use this time profitably. Okay, next point. Recast the main role players of your life. You can explain to people what you mean by that. Well, you know, you've got to think of your life as a movie, you know, who's playing the main roles, who's your supporting cast. Are they toxic? Do you need to get rid of them? Are they nagging you? Are they bringing you down or are they quality? Do you need to get closer to them? Because here's the you're either going to have you have a hundred and this is an analogy you have a hundred units of energy a day okay and you can either use that energy like

you have to think about like gasoline in your car you've only got 10 gallons okay you don't have 11 you don't have 12 you have 10 every day do you want to spend that 10 gallons on dealing with people who are negative who are going to drain that energy out of your body for no reason who are going to complain nag uh you know make your life harder or do you want to spend your energy with people who are going to uh contribute to the energy by being positive by being encouraging by believing in you by helping you by pushing you harder and by the way, pushing you doesn't mean being nice. It means telling you the fucking truth, which is what we're about here. Right.

Okay? So you have to understand that your network, it has everything to do with your success. Not everybody says, oh, your network is your net worth. Get the fuck out of here with this stupid shit. Okay? Here's the truth. If you don't spend your time around people that make you better, you're spending your time around people who are making you worse. There is no in between. Okay. And if there is a middle of the road person, you don't have time for that. You have to put yourself

in a position and everything that you do, everything that you touch, everything that you consume, everything that you read, everything you learn, everybody you spend your time with to be successful. Cause being successful is not fucking easy. It takes a lot, a lot more than what you guys understand. And if you don't put every single person in your life in a role on purpose, you're, you're shortchanging yourself. You don't have an obligation to your cousins. You don't have an obligation to your fucking aunts. You don't have an obligation to your best friend from kindergarten. No.

If those people suck your energy, fuck them. Get them out of your life. Because here's the truth. Those people are going to be the same people who are going to nag, nag, nag, nag, nag. And when you make it, they're going to say, oh, I'm so proud of you. Okay? They're fucking flip-floppers. They're not even really, they're really nothing.

And so many people get consumed with like, well, that's my this or that's my that, or that's my brother or that's my mom. What am I supposed to do? It's my mom. Cut her the fuck out. Period. You know, is that a hard reality to fucking say? Yeah, it is. But what do you want? Do you want to be fucking broke and miserable, struggle your whole life? Or do you want to fucking build your shit? Because dude, at the end of you know what your family is your family is you your significant other and the future kids that you're going to have not the people who had you and i and that and people are going to get mad as i say that i have a great relationship with my parents you know why because they don't suck my fucking energy but i can tell you right now if they were negative as fuck i would cut them out right and that's the truth right and people who really understand that understand that you get to

a point where you don't have a choice you just don't so here's my question there are all sorts of websites devoted to helping people find the one match.com, eHarmony, that sort of thing and people don't think anything about devoting some time finding a romantic interest

what would be your practical solution or your practical tips for people looking for somebody who's going to build them up? Find people that are already doing what you want to do and fucking surround yourself with those people. And a lot of times, guess what? You're not going to be able to get in close with those people because they're already like five steps above you. You know, I had guys back in 2004 or 2005 that I looked up to who were mentors of mine from a distance. You know, I looked up to them. I watched them from a distance you know i looked up to them i watched

them i i try i try i met with them okay um and the truth of the of the matter is now i'm their mentor i've passed those guys okay and those guys wouldn't even take a fucking meeting with me in 2004 but i studied them i work with them and now we're friends like we're peers you know what i'm saying but they're calling me asking me shit. All right. But the thing that the point I'm trying to make here is that, you know, you, you've got to spend your time concerned with people who are where you want to be or where are on the path of where you want to go. Right. And that's it. I wanted to add something to that because a lot of people look for, you know, looking for love in the wrong places here. But really, if you're trying to be with someone who levels you up or does all this stuff, you have to be the person that you want to be and, you know, fulfill all of your goals and that kind of thing in order to attract the people that also want to go above and beyond.

Yeah, that's good. That's a good point. There's no question. And you're not going to find it at a bar because if they're at a bar, they're not reaching their dreams. There's no question. That's a whole nother fucking thing. Like, dude, oh, I want this person.

I want that person. I want this person. I want that person. Dude, you see this with girls, especially hot girls. You know, all these fucking hot skanks on the internet showing their ass everywhere. First of all, listen,

they're all trying to attract some rich dude. Let me tell you something, ladies. Rich dudes are a lot smarter than fucking you okay and you're they didn't get rich and successful by fucking accident and you posted ass pics and titty pics and all this shit you might get them to spend one night with you but you're not gonna fucking hook some kind of shark like you think you are you want to attract some fucking dude who's got his shit together get your own shit together there That's a great, great point. That goes for guys and girls. Right.

It's one of my biggest pet peeves. Dude, it's what people fucking, you know, girl. This is going to sound like I hate women, but this is the truth. Most girls have had dudes trying to have sex with them since they hit puberty. They're so used to it, and they think they're the only girl in the world that has a fucking vagina you know what i mean and they try to use that to get ahead in life that doesn't fucking work right you know what i'm saying it doesn't fucking work it's only going to attract the wrong kind of not only that you're going to end up being the cat lady 40 years old because you didn't work on yourself you know so

whatever can we say 50 since i'm 52 whatever whatever they're gonna be they're gonna be old with a bunch of cobwebs in their vagina and a bunch of cats that's what they're gonna be yep that's the truth no i agree i agree i'm a girl i can vouch for that well i'm just saying like dude it's they don't get it and like right so many people and if you're a successful guy or you're trying to you dude you go to any club on a fucking saturday night you'll see the shit all right you're gonna see what i'm talking about you're gonna see these good looking girls who are all slutted up with like no clothes on okay and then you're gonna see dudes dressed and fucking their whole paycheck all right buying fucking bottles on their credit card,

financing them through fucking American Express or whatever. And they're playing this game with each other. The dudes are trying to look rich. The girls are trying to get the dudes who aren't even fucking have their shit together. It's like this ridiculous game that they play. It makes me fucking laugh. It's like, who's dumber?

It's like dumb and dumber. It's like this ridiculous game that they play. It makes me fucking laugh. It's like, who's dumber? It's like dumb and dumber. Right. You know? It's like watching National Geographic whenever the birds are mating. You're like, this is stupid. And everybody thinks they're all smart in each other. It's like, dude, what the fuck are you doing? Bro, you just fucking bought a $1,000 bottle on your fucking credit card.

For a $2 bitch. You don't even make a fucking $1,000 in a fucking week. Right. You know what i'm saying this chick's walking around her red bottoms that you know she had to fucking like you know go out and do who knows god what to get right you know it's like what the fuck is going on here and and the key is no amount of money will satisfy that because i i was thinking the other day i heard i heard the story what was like five do you remember hearing the story five or ten years ago

where the guy from west virgin, he won the lottery, and literally he spent the whole thing on strippers at a strip club. He burned through that money. I don't know how you do that. Because you're stupid. Yeah. I don't know. Anyway.

I mean, dude, look. It's just an entertainment. Once you like Dude take like The nightclub life And take away the lights Take away the music And take away And turn the lights on

And look at what's going on It's a fucking joke You know what I mean Which is why you don't find Any fucking nightclubs Right Or any successful dude Right

You know Are you gonna find Dan Bilzerian in a nightclub Sure But the motherfucker The dude's Inherited all his money. He's a playboy.

You know what I mean? You're not going to find any real successful dude that built his shit in a fucking nightclub. I'm sorry. You're just not going to find it. Right. Number 10, move forward. Do something and believe that you will figure it out. This comes down to people analyzing every little thing that they're going

to do without doing anything. You know, it's like study, study, study, study, study, study, study, never do anything. And that's not what entrepreneurship or being the motherfucking CEO of your life or taking responsibility for yourself or your career, whether you own a business or work within a business, that's not what's going to get you there. It doesn't, you don't have to know that much. You just have to be willing to go do things because 99.99% of what you learn is going to be on the job by you messing some shit up, you know? And so many people try to become these students and you see them on the internet all the time. Like, I'll post something, and then some fucking dude who's like 17, 18 years old will be like,

Andy, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, look, motherfucker, go back to your fucking cracker grams. I don't give a fuck what you say. You haven't done a goddamn thing your whole fucking life. You know what I mean? So don't pick my shit apart because you went and read everybody's fucking programs. Come at me when you built your own shit. You know what I mean?

Right. So a lot of talkers out there are not that many fucking doers. You know what I mean? And you have to understand that doing anything is better than thinking about doing the best thing. And you have to believe that those acts and those steps forward and those progressions are going to be rewarded. And they will be rewarded because guess what's going to happen? You're going to figure out how to get down the road. You know, you don't just go down the path and there's no obstacles. You get good and you get somewhere by approaching the obstacles, you know, overcoming them and moving forward.

And it has nothing to do with your plan you know that's that's the biggest thing that we see i think in entrepreneurship is that um or like we talk about being the entrepreneur of your life is that people get way too wrapped up in the plan they think their plan is going to be you know let's sit down and strategize let's have a meeting let's uh let's brainstorm let's think no you need to go out and fucking do something send an email make a phone call create a product ship a product you solve a problem you know what i'm saying do something other than talk about doing something you know this this whole era of entrepreneurship right now is geared around like these fucking bullshit ideas that are never going to come to fruition. You know, you see this every day,

people raising 80, 90, a hundred million dollars, and then the company never get off the ground. I'm sorry, but if you can't get a company off the ground and you raise a hundred million dollars, you're a fucking retard, period. That's it. I'm sorry if that's insensitive or whatever, but it is what it fucking is. Okay. You're retarded. All right. And that's the bottom line. This is not about thinking. It's not about strategy. It's about fucking producing products, making mistakes, learning from those mistakes, and then figuring it the fuck out. That's what it's about. But that's too raw for people to get. It's too much what if for them to accept. Well, I can tell you right now,

if you accept what I'm telling you right now, you're gonna be a lot better off than Johnny fucking entrepreneur expert over there who studies Inc. Magazine and Entrepreneur Magazine and plays the fucking part. You get what I'm saying? Right, absolutely. I mean, it goes back to people wanting a guarantee.

They wanna step out, they wanna do something, but they overanalyze or they second guess or they question. But really, ultimately, they want a guarantee. Dude, the only guarantee that you have is that if you do nothing, you're guaranteed to get nothing. That's it. Okay? And so many people think that, you know, oh, I've got to have this guarantee of X amount of dollars or this much for my time or this or that. That goes back to what I was saying a minute ago about you not being focused on the right shit. You're focused on what's in it for me.

Okay. Well, I can tell you what's in it for you. If you don't go out, produce a product, solve a problem, create a solution, ship a product, pack a product, help people, whatever. Okay. If you don't do that, you're going to be broke as fuck your whole life. That's the guarantee. Now, if you decide that you want to go out and do that and try things and become great at what you do,

you might flounder for 10 years, but eventually guess what's going to happen? You're going to figure it out and ultimately your value, you may not be a billionaire, you may not become Bill Gates, you may not be a millionaire, but you're going to be more fucking valuable

than you were before you did that, which is going to create more income, which is going to create a better lifestyle, which is going to create a better life for you and help fulfill your obligation to humanity to being the best that you could fucking be. You say this all the time, and it's really true, and here's another aspect where it applies.

We have so much in this modern digital age that many people in the past don't have and and this applies this whole concept of moving forward because if you move forward as a company if you you know you have your basic plan you start your website and everything if you realize you need to tweak it's as easy as get on your website change your colors change your logo do whatever but just move forward you know what i'm saying yeah i mean there's it's very but most people won't even take the first step of creating a website or creating a product or they want to talk about this this plan you know and they get they get caught up in the question that this whole podcast is two-part podcast about what should i do

and instead of like okay today i'm going to start a business what should i do to get money instead of like, okay, today I'm going to start a business. What should I do to get money? Instead of, instead of going out and deciding, Hey, I'm going to cut grass and start this pre-business to fund my business. And then at night I'm going to study my books and I'm going to read, I'm going to come up with what's going to be my future. Okay. And you may not, you might go out and be so good at cutting grass that you become the

fucking greatest landscaper in your area or in your dude. I got a buddy who makes millions of fucking dollars a year and I'm talking millions of Tyler, you know him too. He's from fucking Louisiana. And dude, this motherfucker, listen,

this is a great story. I'm not going to say his name because I don't know if he wants it out there or not. Good friend of mine, good friend of my brothers, good friend of Tyler's a lot lot a lot of our buddies here first former friends of them this motherfucker started when hurricane katrina came in he started cutting the grass and he went did not fucking do anything okay it had nothing to do with nothing went out started cutting the grass at the fema trailers for the government okay so he fucking said i'll i'll do this i went out and did it he dude the guy didn't even own a fucking lawnmower

you get what i'm saying i'm gonna cut grass went out did such a great job with the fema trailers they hired him to do the other some other properties did such a great job with those properties now he has every single government fucking grass in the state of louisiana and makes millions upon millions of dollars a year doing it wow and that was 10 years ago and this is a dude i know personally and he's probably the coolest fucking guy you could ever meet and he paid attention to details it's like what you say he did a really amazing job he went out he dude he didn't plan on becoming what he is it's actually a perfect analogy for what i'm doing he went out and said i can make this money right now help support my family feed my family he he did it perfectly it grew into this

it grew into that and now it's a fucking gigantic company i mean dude he's got literally hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of employees you know what i mean and that's what i'm trying to say most people won't do that they'll try to come up with this plan. And instead of saying, all right, I'm going to go cut my neighbor's grass or my, my, my neighborhood's grass there, they won't, they're too proud to start at the bottom or, or do the work that is required. The ugly gritty work that really nobody wants to see you doing to get the money to go start the next thing you see what i'm saying hey absolutely see what you're saying dude everybody wants to jump right in at like middle management or like fucking they think business is about wearing some fucking tie and a suit

you know and they want to play the role like that's what i'm talking about they want to go to starbucks with their fucking computer and they're in their starbucks and type some shit on a keyboard and be mr fucking business that's not what it takes what it takes is for you be willing to do fucking anything to get it started and that might not be your your end goal but you have to go out and create some fucking income so that you can invest in this other goal and dude the other thing we see is a lot of people do this they're like oh i'm living this lifestyle and for me to go out and start my own thing i'd have to take some steps back and i'm'm like, yeah. Right.

Yeah. You should probably fucking get rid of your three series BMW, bro. And your fucking house. And you should probably go eat ramen. That's what it fucking takes. You know, people are so unwilling to take steps back. Dude, I'm going to tell you right now. And I said this on the last version of this.

I will go back to sleeping on a piss stained mattress fucking tomorrow. I wouldn't even think twice about it. I seriously wouldn't. If that's what it took for me to get to where I want to be, I would do it tomorrow. No questions asked. Not even hesitate. And that's the truth. All this other shit don't mean a thing to me.

I want to fucking win. And dude, you should want to win too. And if winning means you pulling back and not keeping up with the joneses for a few years to blow them the fuck away in 10 years that's what it fucking takes and so many people are unwilling to even consider that thought well if i sell my fucking lease three series bmw the people at church are gonna think that i'm broke let them fucking think you're broke who gives a fuck fuck? Right. You know? People just like to impress people that they don't even like.

It just doesn't make sense. Look, man. All the shit I have, I like because I fucking like. I don't give a fuck what somebody thinks. Right. You know?

Right. But there are so many people that buy all the shit they can't afford just to show somebody something. And how many lessons did you learn while sleeping

on a piss-stained mattress that got you to where you are today? I learned not to keep my face. I learned that I drool at night and to not drool on the fucking stain because I somehow imagined that the stain would like infuse its way in the drool and like get into my mouth. So I tried not to drool on the piss stain.

That was lesson number one. Let me tie what you're saying into my experience actually. You just slept on a piss stain mattress, too? No, not exactly. But with my experience- But does that make sense? Yeah, absolutely. You don't want it to infuse up through your mouth? You've got to be very careful how you position your mouth so as not to take in the drool.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So my experience with the MFCEO Project and with you. Okay, people say, I get a lot of people that say to me, man, that's a great, exciting thing to be a part of. And they're right. This is like the most exciting thing that's happened in recent memory for me. Damn right it is.

Yes, it is. It really is. And I mean, all kidding aside, it is. But four years ago. It's more exciting than 200 milligrams Viagra, isn't it, Vaughn? Yeah. You got, well, I. I don't need that.

He agreed. I don't need that. He agreed. I don't need that. I don't need that. I don't need that. I don't need that. Well, you know.

No, but listen. I don't need that. I don't need that. Well, you know, there's... Listen, four years ago, or three or four years ago, I literally, for various reasons, I literally had to press the replay button on my life. I stopped being a pastor. I moved from a place that I loved. It was a supportive community to a brand new St. Louis. My wife, I'm newly married, don't have kids. Well, expecting the first one.

And the very first thing that I have to do is I basically have to start over. Like I have a whole resume that's literally designed for a completely different career. So literally I went through, you know, creating my first LLC, which is a crazy idea called Verisole that I won't even get into that crashed and burned. And then I ended up being, you know, an editor for a startup and didn't make any money off of that. Then I ended up creating an LLC for writing and you and i met and just just bamboo the next thing over the next four years we'll get to this point place and what i always tell people is you've got to not only do you have to move but you have to embrace the messiness of the evolution of your own life because you're just not it's not going to happen cleanly and perfectly.

You have to be okay with the fact that there's going to be chaos, but it's kind of an ordered chaos. Here's the thing though. Does that make sense? Yes. And I'm going to add to that because here's what happens and what people, people are so afraid to like make a mistake cause they don't want to be embarrassed, right? They don't want to be embarrassed. Well, what's worse being embarrassed

or being broke your whole entire life and living the same life that everybody else in your whole entire existence lives what's worse you know what i mean yeah absolutely i would rather be embarrassed 24 hours a day and i've been embarrassed a trillion fucking times okay dude you know how many people came to me whenever when i when i was about 25 years old you know i had friends that had graduated college went off to get real jobs you know their real jobs quote i'm holding quotes up real jobs right and they would come to me and they would say things literally literally say things to me like dude when are you and chris gonna like fucking grow up and get real jobs you know or they would come and be like, they, you know, they, they would come and they'd be driving their new fucking Denali,

right. They're making 70 grand a year. And they're coming to me saying, Oh, blah, blah, blah. You know, got new Denali. We're getting on these trips, blah, blah, blah, dude. I'm, I'm fucking making $695 a month. Right. You know, I, I'm looking at it like man you know maybe i should go fucking do that maybe i should go get a real job you know and the funny thing is those same motherfuckers are now still making the same amount of money they're driving the same fucking car they financed 10 fucking years ago you know what i mean right and they're asking me for a fucking job okay so i know what it's like to feel embarrassed because that was a regular thing for about seven or eight years of my life when are you going to grow up when are you going to get a real job when do you still have that little vitamin shop blah blah blah blah dude i still get people that that that aren't on social media that don't

know shit about what we're doing that still say things like hey man you're still selling fucking vitamins i'm like yeah bro we're selling some fucking vitamins. You know what I mean? A lot of fucking vitamins. Yeah, right. And the thing is, is like, you know,

it's, I'm not gonna lie, it feels good to shove it right down their fucking throat. And anybody who says it, they say, oh Andy, well you should just be the bigger man. No motherfucker,

they deserve it. Right. That's it. I'm gonna rub it in a little bit. And it feels fucking good. I'm not gonna lie yeah so for those of you who are listening to this and you have people you know you're trying to build your dream or you're trying to do something as long as you're doing something

like legitimately doing something all right if you don't have a plan go out and do something you know how to do sell lemonade sell snow cones sell fucking uh you know cut grass the things i'm talking about that really anybody can do and figure out how to do until you figure it out. Cause at least you're doing something. Right. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. Sitting in your fucking basement, reading books of business. That's good. But if you're not doing anything conjunction with that, that's bad. Right. Okay. Let's say you have a job. You know, there's a lot of guys in my company that are entry-level employees. Dude, I tell them, all right, look, you're say you have a job. You know, there's a lot of guys in my company that are entry-level employees. Dude, I tell them, all right, look,

you're trying to build a career here. All right, you want to work, you want to do something besides, okay, make sure you're reading at night. Make sure you're learning from every experience that you have and make sure you're doing the best job that you can be doing. So if you have a job somewhere else and let's say it's cooking French fries or whatever,

make sure that the French fries you're cooking are the best fucking French fries on earth. Because what you're doing is you're cultivating habits and habits to attention to detail that develop valuable skills for you wherever the fuck you go from here. Okay. Most people discount every little detail of their life until they think this opportunity is going to happen. And they think they're going to switch on all these qualities that you need to be cultivating at now, at this point in your life. You know what I mean? If you are going to go out and do the grass cutting,

like I talk about, make sure you're doing a great job. Put fucking good lines in the grass, learn how to make the yard look so good that people come out and they say, Whoa, dude, that's amazing. You know what I mean? That's when, and let's say you're not going to cut grass for your whole life. You're still developing the skill of going the extra mile and creating wow factor. And if you develop that as a habit, you're going to be very successful because most people never, ever develop those things. And that's where the value comes from. It comes from you developing habits out of every situation. Absolutely. Make sense? Yeah, absolutely. The other thing I would say is that as you're in the process of figuring out what you're going to do, there are going to be the haters who, who just say, well, wait, six months ago, weren't you doing

this? And now you're doing this and you say, yeah, I'm trying to figure out what works for me. And hopefully, hopefully people aren't bouncing around because they just don't want to do anything that's hard and they don't have any follow through, but there will be a point in your life where literally every three or four months you might be doing something different. But as long as you're moving forward and you're, and you're figuring it out, just don't, don't let the people who are saying, Oh man, you're doing all these different things. You have to remember, you know what I'm saying? Yes. A hundred percent. You have to remember people are not our system and the United States does not cultivate the principles that we're talking about.

They are not encouraging of the idea of being responsible for yourself or being the motherfucking CEO of you and going at life with swagger and with fucking confidence and an attitude. They don't want that. You know why? Because the government and most businesses, the reason that people go to college isn't to learn. It's to certify that you can follow fucking directions. OK, your little fucking degree that says, oh, unless you're a fucking brain surgeon or some kind of specialized, you know, you know, your fucking liberal arts degree doesn't mean a goddamn thing. I'm sorry. Your fucking business degree in marketing doesn't mean a goddamn thing. I'm sorry. Your fucking business degree in marketing doesn't mean a fucking thing. You know what it means? It means you went to class, you passed the courses, you passed the tests, and you could follow directions. And that's why companies use this

piece of paper as the entry point of certification to come work for you. All right, this guy got his four-year degree, so he can obviously follow directions. We could put him in this role. Our society is in the business of creating cogs. Our society is in the business of creating worker bees. It's not in the business of waking people the fuck up and showing people what's possible with a little bit of ingenuity, a little bit of hard work, and a little bit of sweat and blood.

You know what I mean? So they sell people on the idea of hey do a good job man and one day you'll make 65 000 that's pretty good fucking living right ask anybody who makes 65 000 a year if they feel like it's a good living you see what i'm saying right right i don't it's just it just doesn't feel like it i've made that much money i know what it feels like you know and people are cultivated to think this their whole life. So whenever you run up against the average person and you're trying to do your own thing and you're taking steps back in your life to take 10 giant steps forward later, guess what?

They're going to think you're fucking crazy because they've already bought into this whole other mentality 100%. They've made every decision that their life is about based upon what i just said and they've they've lived their you know go to school go to college get married have fit five kids and then get chained into some fucking debt and have to go to work every single day and be a slave of society that's what fucking society is okay and you listening right now the last three minutes or two minutes of what I'm talking about is the most valuable thing you'll ever get out of this fucking podcast. Now, I'm not saying you have to go fucking work and own your own company, but I'm saying you at least need to have the awareness to work for a company where you have upward mobility,

the ability to produce and be a part of something and make a career for yourself. Okay. And you do that by the things that we talked about this whole two part podcast. People are going to always think you're fucking crazy. All right. And if they've lived that life, if they're the person who lives by the list, what I just said, they've already made those decisions. So you have to understand for them to think you're not crazy would mean for them to go

back and have to admit that their decisions were wrong, which nobody fucking is good at. It takes a big man to admit they made some wrong decisions in life. I've made lots of them. But you get what I'm saying? Nobody's going to go back and say, oh, well, I wish I wouldn't have got married at 24. And I wish I wouldn't have had those two kids. And I wish nobody's going to admit that shit. But yet all you hear them do is complain about their wife, complain about how fucking hard it is to be a parent and how much money they don't have but they made all the right decisions right right which one is it you see what i'm saying right there has to be humility in order to so dude yeah you know admitting that you would have done things different is a good starting spot to making things different down the road you know and a lot of

people are going to hear this especially it has family in there but you don't know what it's like to have a family you motherfucker that's because i thought ahead because i didn't want a fucking family right right and you know the friend of the reason i plan my shit right you know no i i mean i just attack on to what you're saying and i completely agree i mean i'm someone who i went to a very private uh excuse me a very expensive private liberal arts college i had a great experience i have two master's degree i believe in liberal arts no well, I went to a liberal arts degree. Oh, so when I said that about the degree. No, no, no. But my point is, is that I don't, I don't know my degrees in speech communications. And then my master's, I have one in writing and one in, and one in theology because of course I was a pastor.

Well, that's a good, here's an example though, Juan. You're using the skills of your degree, but I'm not requiring them from you. Right, right. You You forge your own path to use those skills. And what I want to say in support of what you're saying is that those degrees, they helped me gain knowledge, but at the end of the day, really, the truth is, I probably could have self-directed because I'm the kind of person that I can self-teach. And if you're looking at college degrees

or formal education as a validation that it's going to just automatically translate into success, you are completely screwed in the head. Not only that, statistics show otherwise. Right. Scientific statistics will show you that that's not the truth. Right. And being a college student,

how many times do you just memorize what's on the test and then forget it two weeks later? Yeah, because it's not about learning. It about following directions and cramming information it's just you don't take it in it's not about learning it's about how can you follow directions and if you could follow directions i could teach you how to work within this this uh this fucking system that's all it's about right unless you're a doctor or you know a surgeon or you're talking about guys who are specialized you know lawyers things like that but like you're talking about like people who just go to get a four-year degree so they say they have a degree right it's

worthless well i would say the vast majority of people what you're saying the vast majority of people who go to college do so because they think that's what you're supposed to do regardless of the debt that they're going to come out right and we're getting ahead of ourselves on something but the point is is that you know whether you have already gone down this road or not and you want to change it don't fucking overanalyze it go out take some steps back humble yourselves and fucking start from there right do. And do something. Right. Absolutely. Okay.

So final point, which is just when you're doing all this, have the right expectations about life. Dude, this is a great point to hammer home at the end. All right? Life is fucking hard. Okay? Life is going to punch you in the face. Life is going to kick you in the nuts.

It's going to sodomize you. It's going to rape you. It's going to kick you in the face life is going to kick you in the nuts. It's going to sodomize you It's going to rape you it's going to kick you in the face till you fucking can't breathe It's going to beat the living shit out of you. That's what life's going to do to you. Okay being successful And and by the way that kind of struggle doesn't mean you're on the wrong fucking path You know not loving every minute of your life doesn't mean you're on the wrong path Everybody, you know, we call, we're all called to struggle and overcome and achieve things in our lives. And just because you're struggling doesn't mean you're on the wrong path.

It probably means that you're on the right fucking path because if you're, there's two different kinds of struggle, right? There's, there's the passive struggle. The passive struggle is I, you know, took what life gave me. Life's not giving me enough and I'm struggling with it. That's the wrong kind of struggle, right? I took the easy route. I took the easy route. I took the easy right now. Now I'm struggling. Wrong kind of struggle. The right kind of struggle is I'm hustling. I'm doing the best I can. I'm trying very hard to improve myself, improve my skills. I'm making

active dedication to that lifestyle and I'm struggling. That's the right kind of struggle. And everybody who's been successful goes through that. It's brutal. It's mean. It's tough. It's unpleasant. It sucks. I don't know how else to say it. It's just not a fucking fun thing, but how many things are worthwhile in your life are worth anything that didn't require some sort of price to be paid. It's just a law of the universe. Okay. You can't be successful. You can't be, uh, a champion, whether it's sports, business, whatever it is, without going through that process of struggling. And so many people want to skip that process. So they try to make these shortcuts. They try to make these workarounds to the struggle. And those are the people that never get anywhere because they're not willing just to go into fucking battle, take your lumps,

get your ass kicked, build character, build intelligence, have experience and move forward. You guys have to understand that's where the fucking skills come from. The skills come from that time. You know, my first 10, 12 years in business, it was brutal, dude. Brutal, like brutal, like, like so brutal. I don't even know, like, I don't even think I could do it again. I really don't.

It was fucking brutal. And you know, people just aren't willing to go through that, man. They think that because things are hard, that they're doing something wrong. You know, success isn't about instant gratification. It's not about easy. It's a, and that's what I try to tell. You know, a lot of people give me shit because everything I'm trying to say is always worked, worked around the struggle or the hard work. You know why? Because the success industry tells everybody and sells everybody on the idea that you could skip that and you just fucking can't. It's just not possible. All right. All these guys who claim, Oh, I got rich in one year by my program, uh, do this and it's easy ways to success, blah, blah, blah, dude,

they're selling you on the idea that you're trying to, to, to skip like 99.99% of the other people in this world trying to skip the fucking work. You can't skip the work. It's just not, there's just no way. It just, it just doesn't work like that. You don't get, you don't get the cake without mixing the ingredients. You don't get the cake without fucking putting in the oven, you know? And it's, it's sad. It's dude, it frustrates me. You and I have talked about this a million times, how frustrating it is to be even in this industry of success, motivation, business, entrepreneurship, when 98% of the other people doing it are just selling people on this fucking dream that doesn't exist. Right. And what you're saying is not just your opinion. There is actually

quite a few social psychological studies that show that there is a there's a relationship between the ease of acquisition of like a particular talent or something and the longevity and development of that talent in other words if you pick up let's say you pick up pitching a pitching a softball and it's super easy to you right right from the get-go there's there's evidence that you're not going to develop and persevere over the long term as much as the guy who picks it up and struggles a little bit, has to put in the time, and then develops the character quick. Let's use a real world example that we're all familiar with. How about the cool guy in high school or the cool girl in high school? Yeah.

All right? The people who peak in high school and think they got the whole world by the balls. Every person that was cool in high school that I know is a fucking loser now. Every girl that was hot in high school is fucking disgusting now. You know why? Because that girl didn't have to develop the habits of eating right, working out, taking care of herself because she was young enough to just be cute and be pretty when she was 18 with no fucking work. But where are the girls that were average then that had to work to be hot? They're still fucking hot.

They're the hottest ones. Yeah. You know what I mean? And they're going to continue to be the hottest ones because they're working. You know what I mean? Yeah, that's a perfect example. And it's the same thing with guys. The guys who had to struggle to like fit in and be this and that, you know what they learned?

They learned how to fucking sell themselves. Okay. And when you learn how to sell yourselves and you become great at selling yourself, guess what? You fucking sell anything, which is a very valuable skill, you know? So there's so many real world examples of what you just said, but you know, at the end of the day, man, life is fucking hard. It's going to punch you in the fucking face. It's going to beat the shit out of you, you know, in every way possible. And it's going to feel like everything's stacked against you. It's going to feel like God hates you. It's going to beat the shit out of you, you know, in every way possible. And it's going to feel like everything's stacked against you. It's going to feel like God hates you. It's going to feel like the universe hates you, but that still doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. You know,

if you're actively trying to improve, you're actively doing things to improve. If you're taking real action towards a better life, that's just part of the process. Now, if you feel that way and you're going home and sitting on a fucking bar stool at four o'clock every day, drinking beer and bitching, well, guess what? That's the wrong kind of struggle and you're going to continue to struggle. But there's two kinds of struggle. You follow what I'm saying? There's the right kind and the wrong kind. And the right kind is going to mold you. It's going to create you. It's going to give you the lessons. It's going to give you the skills. It's going to give you the ability to persevere, you know, iron sharpens iron type of thing. And the, the wrong kind of struggle is going to ruin you. It's going to take you down the hole

to a hundred pounds, overweight, alcoholic, average life broke. And, you, and thinking that the world fucked you over. So you have to be able to be aware enough to identify those two kinds of struggle. Everybody's struggling. Everybody's struggling. You're struggling. I'm struggling. Tyler's struggling. Everybody's fucking struggling. We're just all struggling in different ways. So which way do you want to struggle? My struggle has never, ever been the wrong kind of struggle. It's never has been. I'm, I'm struggling with the right kind of shit every day. And that's a fucking good thing. You know what I mean? So understanding the difference between the two is a big part of getting ahead because everybody's struggling. And like, just because you may be

looking at me and seeing my life and think, oh, I'm not struggling. Motherfucker, you don't know my goals. You don't know what I'm trying to do. You don't know what my end game is, and you don't know what I'm trying to build. You look at me and say, oh, he's driving a fucking Lamborghini. He's driving a Rolls. He's living in this kind of house, blah, blah, blah, traveling all over. He doesn't seem like he's struggling. Well, maybe where I'm at is your end goal, but it's not fucking mine. You see what I'm saying? So you don't ever know what somebody's struggle is. And you have to make sure that your struggle is going to be the right kind. Does that make sense?

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Listen to this guy. Hey, listen, I didn't get where I am on accident. Secondly, check out our episode website page. I can't talk right now, but it's themfceo.com forward slash p76 will be this episode. We'll have some show notes up soon. Also, usually if Andy mentions a book like he did last time, we put a link to whatever book he mentioned and any other resources that we think could help you out. Then finally, just, you know, a lot of you guys have reached out, connect on social media. If you're new to the podcast. Andy's social media contacts are at Andy Frisella, A-N-D-Y-F-R-I-S-E-L-L-A. Tyler is at mytylermia underscore T-Y-L-E-R.

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